WEBVTT - How To Make Someone Like You More 💗 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:02.560 The Flex and Rooms Daily. 0:00:02.279 --> 0:00:06.720 Podcast, brought to you by Cada. 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:11.760 It's Friday again, It's Saturday Sunday. Remember that song was 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:12.040 a thing. 0:00:12.760 --> 0:00:14.320 I think it still is for a lot of people. 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:15.200 Bro that song. 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:16.560 Can I tell you something wild? 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:20.480 I turned to so We're sitting in the show studio 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:23.680 and I turned to look to my left, and I'm 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:26.280 so sure I saw a little goblin gremlin. 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:27.240 I didn't. 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:30.560 It's a tripod. But outside at the reception there is 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:33.559 a little kind of like odd figure, I don't know. 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:36.800 It's like a ceramic figure holding a dish with Halloween lollies. 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:38.720 And it reminded me of this thing. I used to 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:42.680 ask people that if you saw something so nonsensical, you know, 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:47.120 like a bear flying or a three headed man, would 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.559 you sooner believe that you were going crazier that it 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:52.080 actually happened. And I always say that I would sooner 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:54.800 believe that it's actually happening, not that I'm going crazy, 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:57.080 but these days not so sure. The other day I 0:00:57.120 --> 0:00:59.840 was driving looked in my rearview mirror and I saw 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:06.200 where I saw some kind of like metallicky ready slimy 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:08.360 figure coming out that the bottom of a car. 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:11.760 I was like, what that was my pussy? 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:17.680 Anyway, guys politicizing the shudio midway through flex from my Gremlins, 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:21.960 the leaves behind her fall into a disastrous little pattern. 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.959 I think that was me that time. Anyway, I didn't 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:27.920 see the thing. It was like a trick of the 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:30.280 eye or whatever. But what if it wasn't? You know? 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:34.720 So now what I'm trying to do is to express 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.840 when I'm seeing odd things, just in case they happen 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:38.440 more often. 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:39.639 So we've got a pattern. 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:45.920 You're probably looking out for them. No, yeah, anyway, it's Friday. Yeah, 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:50.480 I listen to the podcast Fleck and Frooms Flexi as 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:52.960 per you come to the show with some very interesting 0:01:53.240 --> 0:01:55.520 conversation to be had. What have you got today? 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.800 Always, I've been thinking a lot about musicians going on hiatus, 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:02.320 only because as someone who is an avid music listener, 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:04.400 and not everybody identifies as such. I don't know a 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:07.400 few people are like, oh, I listen incidentally, you know, 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:09.959 if it happens to be on cater, if it happens 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.280 to just you know, pop up on YouTube or something. 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:16.560 But I am constantly in my what do you call that? 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:20.639 Recently new releases? Right, yeah, and I'm always so surprised 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:22.720 when my favorite artist pops out because I'm like, Wow, 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:25.239 you really are in the studio cooking, you really are working. 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:26.560 And then there are a few others where I'm like, 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:30.040 it's been five years, when are you going to release something? 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:34.280 We know that Rihanna recently came back after like a 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:39.320 five plus y hiatus, if not six or seven. Scissa's 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:43.280 another artist who constantly has her singles and things leaked 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:46.880 and then never releases them. Yeah, or like you know, 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:48.799 she'll have a little snippet on a SoundCloud or to 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:51.040 go viral on TikTok. We'll all pressure to release it 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:51.600 and she won't. 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:52.840 What's that about. 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:56.120 I guess she is, you know, sensitive and a perfectionist 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:58.560 about her craft and wants it to be right. And 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:01.440 then you know people like Franko, you know, gone for 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:05.400 so long, And I understand this idea of you know, 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:08.760 creating anticipation and getting people really excited and also for 0:03:08.840 --> 0:03:12.800 your creative experience, wanting to see that process through and 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:14.520 be really proud of what you end up creating. But 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:18.960 what happens is it creates this double edged sword with 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:23.320 your consumer One people get really really irate angry and 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.800 almost turn on you out of love. I know people 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:28.240 who are really who carry a lot of disdain for 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:32.239 Rihanna for making us wait so long for a single 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:34.760 because we love you so much and we want new music, 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:36.120 and it's like, well it's not really, it's not ready. 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:38.800 But then alternatively, what I think it does is it 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:40.880 creates a standard that because you've waited so long, the 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:43.280 music will be really, really good when it gets and 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:46.200 sometimes it's just not the case, as seen with Rihanna. 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:49.440 For example, she released a new song. It's called Lift 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:53.440 Me Up. It's for the Black Panther soundtrack, and the 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:56.520 song is meant to be a tribute to Chadwick Boseman, 0:03:56.600 --> 0:03:58.760 who is Black Panther, who passed away. 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.800 Right, we didn't know that. The fans didn't know that, 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:02.320 you know. 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:05.480 So when reality, she's coming back the Umbrella girl trying 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:08.840 to pop something light. You know, we're expecting basslines, you know, 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:12.160 like one twenty bpm. It's for the club, and so 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:16.200 we press play and it's a funeral song and we're like. 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:19.479 Love this, but what do we do with this? 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:22.720 And it's so bizarre seeing how like, you know, it's 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:27.560 number three on Spotify. Globally, yet the sentiment is, please 0:04:28.200 --> 0:04:30.680 bring something else from the archives. We need something fresh, 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:31.440 something light. 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:33.839 Well, I guess it's a good thing in terms of 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:38.560 first day streaming. Like if you if your goal is 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:40.960 to make a big impact, then coming back after seven 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:43.320 years is good. It's probably not good for your creativity, 0:04:43.400 --> 0:04:46.800 I think, because you're not putting out a considered body 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:48.880 of work, Like obviously, she just brought that out because 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:51.360 it's part of the soundtrack, and. 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:53.039 She's getting a bag for it, probably, which is the 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.480 smartest thing to do if Sis doesn't really want to 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:56.799 make music like that anymore. 0:04:57.279 --> 0:04:59.040 And Black Panther's like, hey, we've got. 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:01.200 A couple MILLI four years, you know what I'm saying, 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:03.520 and the fans are gonna love this. Why would you 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:06.440 say no? I'm just thinking I'm just too sensitive for that. 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:08.480 I could not imagine being gone for so long coming 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:10.880 back and like, yeah, flop eerror, flop era. 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:13.240 It's different. Well, I think a lot of artists and 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:17.839 musicians and actors nowadays do their different things in between, 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:23.120 you know, in the hiatus. For example, Seth Rogan obviously 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:26.000 from super Bad? Is he from ser Bad? Now he's 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:30.320 from Knocked Up? Pretty sure. Seth Rogan. Anyway, everybody knows 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:33.320 he's like this, and he I don't think he's done 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:35.599 a movie for a while. But he's now got this ceramics. 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:39.200 He makes ceramics that are incredible. They're honestly pieces of 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:42.000 art that you'd see in the MGV. So now he's 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:45.160 like bringing his creativity through in a different way. So 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:49.200 there's there's bonuses to be had with hiatuses. It's just 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:53.719 sometimes I think people's hiatuses don't yield more creative work 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:57.800 for the consumer. I'm all about the hiatus personally. Sure 0:05:57.800 --> 0:06:00.479 it might set you back for a little bit, but life, 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:01.400 if you can't enjoy. 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:05.000 It's being in a flip air enjoyable. 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:11.000 See Io Question Flecks and Firms, New Flix. 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:11.200 Yah. 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:14.000 I came across this teaktok and it was very compelling 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:16.720 because little text said how to make someone like you? 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:19.120 And I thought we need more of that in our life. 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:20.320 Here's how it goes. 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:23.640 Do you want to trick someone into making trick like you? 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:25.080 Still a little. 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:28.000 Yeah, that's not what you said, trickery. It was how 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:29.760 to make someone like you? And now we're doing how 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:31.600 to trick someone into liking you? I don't know if 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:32.000 I want that. 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:35.680 Do you want to trick someone into making them like 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.359 you just feel a little bit more like? This psychology 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:41.320 trick is known to make anyone, even your mom, your boss, 0:06:41.400 --> 0:06:45.000 your boyfriend, your crush, anyone like may already least a 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.480 little bit more. Okay, the next time that you are 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:50.080 with this person, I need you to ask them to 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:53.000 do you a favor that is so small a favor 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:55.600 that they will say yes to, something like can you 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:57.240 grab me a cup of water? Or can you pick 0:06:57.279 --> 0:06:59.800 up that pen off the floor for me? Something small, 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.960 And once they've done that fever for you, just simply 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:05.080 thank them and see their name at the end of 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:08.159 that something like thank you, Jake. What this does is 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:11.600 subconsciously they will believe that because they did you a 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:15.600 small fever, that they liked you, because otherwise they wouldn't 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:17.520 be doing that thing for you. If you want a 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:24.920 brot to him. 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:26.840 Hmmm, I must say, anyone who asked me to do anything, 0:07:27.200 --> 0:07:31.239 I don't like. I'm here on this earth for myself, 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:34.360 myself only. I'm trying to think about someone. I'm trying 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:38.679 to think about relationships where it's been manipulative. I'm thinking 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:42.080 For example, an old boss, we had a love hate relationship. 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:43.560 She was very demanding. 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:45.720 Is this mutual She's aware that it was a love 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:47.400 hate relationship. 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:50.640 In the end, Yeah, probably, But in the beginning I 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:54.040 really wanted to get her validation blah blah blah. And 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:57.640 I can imagine her using this technique and me falling 0:07:57.680 --> 0:07:59.800 for it a little bit because you do feel like, oh, 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:02.200 I want to help you. I want to feel I 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:05.520 want to feel like I'm someone you could rely on 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:07.320 to do something for you. So I think it's clever 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:07.800 in that way. 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:10.320 So how to get someone to like you a little 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:13.440 bit more is to trick them into doing a small 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:17.160 favor for you, which gives you, presumably the illusion that 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:19.760 or gives them the illusion that. 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:21.960 You are trustworthy, reliable, et cetera. 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:27.000 I feel like this could work, but in my head, 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:32.320 asking someone to do something for me would create more 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:35.640 of a team work environment than a we like each 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.400 other environment. So, for example, if I'm in a work 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.840 environment and you want to appear like a team player, 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:43.280 the quickest way to do that is to share the load. 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:46.640 To share the load, what's the word I'm looking for? 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:48.800 Intentionally right? To be like I'm not going to take 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:50.800 this from you. I'm going to give you a little 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:53.160 bit older, a little bit we're working together. I don't 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:56.560 know if that makes someone like you though, Like I 0:08:56.600 --> 0:08:58.360 don't unless I haven't been manipulated. 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:01.840 Well, yeah, I see you as the manipulated more than 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:02.640 the manipularity. 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.760 Yeah, someone manipulate me. Let's shed the load a little bit. 0:09:06.080 --> 0:09:09.160 Well, you know what everyone's heard about, the technique of like, 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:11.160 use someone's name heaps and they'll. 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:12.719 Like, you can do you do that? 0:09:13.400 --> 0:09:13.439 No? 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:16.520 I can't remember people's names. Literally. I can think of 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:20.400 multiple instances this weekend of meeting people. It's like my 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:23.199 brain goes into a trance. And I hate this because 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:26.160 it's so said all the time, Oh I don't remember names. 0:09:26.200 --> 0:09:28.920 It's like, this is a serious psychological issue that I'm 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:31.760 suffering with not remembering people's names. As you smile as 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:35.880 you say, is it not serious, I'm no, it's honestly, 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:39.440 it's like the comprehension goes out the window. It's like maths, 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:42.960 it's going over the top of the head. Even today 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:45.360 in the studio we've got Josh and Will watching on. 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:48.960 I always go to call Josh Will, and I always 0:09:48.960 --> 0:09:53.719 forget Will's name, and he's crying now he's put a 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:54.480 little tearing. 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:56.480 But see'stalte from Will about that? 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:59.319 Please, Will, what are your thoughts? O? 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:02.440 He gets it, I'm gonna fight you for that. 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:05.680 One doesn't mean that I don't know Will Well, it's 0:10:05.760 --> 0:10:08.320 just that the brain does. I don't trust myself, Lex. 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:10.520 It's a bit of a self esteem issue, if anything. 0:10:11.080 --> 0:10:12.560 Yeah, are you doing anything to work on it? 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:16.320 Ah, I don't know how to. I don't know how 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:16.920 to work on it. 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:17.920 You tried anything? 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:20.680 Yeah, so I met it? Okay, that's true. I was 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:22.720 walking down the street the other day. Yeah, I'm walking 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:24.640 up this really big hill to go to cut Lunch 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:27.080 Jellow to get a coffee, really good sandwich place owned 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:30.160 by this sit called Libby. She's a legend anyway, became, 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:33.520 you know, became a local living. I'm walking up this 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:35.720 street and I see this lady with these two dogs. 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:37.880 One of them looks like a chiuaha. It's kind of 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.600 like a bit tubbier, more like a ah the chiuahua. 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:44.360 The chuaha got it a bit chonky. It was kind 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:47.560 of more like a Jack Russell. But I go, of course, 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.280 oh my god, your dog's so cute because we were 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:51.160 kind of doing that thing where we were walking next 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:53.320 to each other but didn't know each other. You both 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:56.280 like soldiering up a hill and your way too close. 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:57.080 Yeah, I don't. 0:10:57.240 --> 0:11:00.600 Usually I'll across the road, yeah definitely, but this time 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:03.840 I just, you know, I was on machirit exactly. So 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:05.959 we started talking and she's like, Oh, I just live 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:09.080 in this house up here. I'm gonna have a bash 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.520 on Monday night for Halloween. Do you want to come down. 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:14.000 I just want to meet locals. And she said to me, 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:20.640 her name is I'll do a pseudonym Lily. Great, Oh, 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:24.200 pretty close to your lily. My name is Lily, and 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:26.200 I'm like, we're chatting in Then two minutes later I 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:28.480 was leaving. I'm like, sorry, I forgot your name. What 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:31.200 is it again? She goes, Lily, look, try and remember 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:33.920 it like this, A lily is a beautiful flower that 0:11:34.000 --> 0:11:37.640 grows on the top of the water. And then it 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:39.480 was going to make me remember. Now I'm trying to 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:41.560 think of what hers was because obviously your name wasn't Lily. 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.480 I want to say it was Cassandra, but then also 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:47.000 I don't want to listen to this and think I'm 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:52.600 exploiting her lovely neighborliness for content said Cassandra is something 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:54.240 in Latin, and. 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:56.640 Yet you still don't remember, yeah exactly, So it didn't work. 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:57.480 I can't be helped. 0:11:57.800 --> 0:11:59.679 Yeah, it's tricky. Do you know the name thing? 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:03.280 If you're not okay, how do I explain this? I'm 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:04.959 giving you the benefit of the doubt because imagine you 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:07.680 meet a lot of people and the interactions you're having 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:10.800 with people are very presumptuous. They know you, so your 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:12.400 chat and chat and chatting, and before you know it, 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:13.920 you're like, wait, who are they? 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:14.200 Like? 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:15.160 What is your name? 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.319 If it's not that. I just think a lot of 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:21.600 people aren't that memorable or their name is not the 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:25.960 most memorable thing about them. Some people have amazing personalities, 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:30.839 great outfits, really interesting stories, And I think to myself, yeah, 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.280 your name just doesn't stick because it's not memorable. 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:34.240 But that has nothing to. 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:37.040 Do with your merit as a person, whether or not 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:40.280 I remember you generally, just the name wasn't giving anything. 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:43.480 I like, it's like that, but I don't think it's anything. 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:45.319 It doesn't matter if it's memorable or not memorible. Like 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:48.120 another examples, I went into Berkelow Books the other day 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:50.360 in Paddington, and the chick's like, oh my god, you 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:53.920 do that podcast with Late I recommend that voice. Her Name'salia, 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:56.439 told me. And then I had to literally I walk 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:57.679 out of the shop. I go to text you say, 0:12:57.720 --> 0:13:00.440 oh my god, this chick said she really likes you. 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:03.720 Her name's Alia or something, And even then I didn't 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:06.320 trust myself to know her name is Alia. It's like 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:13.680 short term memorial amnesia. I'd love to get better at it. 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:15.199 Yeah, you got a lot of things going on, though, 0:13:15.280 --> 0:13:17.400 so I feel like it's just it's just. 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:21.679 Across. 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:23.600 You'll get there when you get there. It's just not 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:24.679 that big of a priority. 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:28.520 But I will say, if you're somebody who finds themselves 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:31.040 constantly forgotten or that the name is forgotten, I used 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:33.240 to not believe it was as severe as it is 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:37.280 until I one became friends with a person who was 0:13:37.320 --> 0:13:40.880 constantly forgotten and dated someone who was constantly forgotten. 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:43.079 I was like, WHOA, that sucks. 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:48.200 Ah, like you, it would feel so dehumanizing to be like, 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:50.760 you know, I've definitely had an interaction with this person 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:53.520 many a time, and they're not remembering me. So I 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:56.199 don't want to say channel that trauma into something productive, 0:13:56.520 --> 0:13:59.480 but I want to say if it's a reoccurring thing, 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:01.520 there is room to be like, Okay, how can I 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:02.120 help here? 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:05.440 Yeah, if it matters to you. 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:09.360 This is Flex and Frooms on DA I've seen a. 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:11.319 Lot of really bizarre theories on the internet. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:13.480 Maybe it's just my for you page that this stuff 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:15.640 just comes up because it knows I'm interested. We've talked 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:19.560 about the green line theory, which is when you're analyzing 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:21.680 a photo of a couple or people who are dating, 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:26.280 whoever is leaning into the other person presumably has less 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:30.440 power in the dynamic. Whoever is standing upwards straight, whatever 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:34.120 degree that is zero twelve o'clock. They are the person 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:37.840 who is seen to be as dominant or more secure. 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:40.640 Or holds more power hard degree. I don't even know yet. 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:42.520 I'm still I don't think I've I need to look 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:45.480 at more pictures of couples to know. I feel like, 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:48.000 you know, let's look get into it. We've discussed it before. 0:14:48.040 --> 0:14:49.840 You know where to find it. The podcast Flex and 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:53.560 Rooms anyway, anywhere you get good podcasts. But I was 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:56.600 sent to this red nail theory, and it's this idea 0:14:56.880 --> 0:15:00.400 that if you you know a woman who dates men, 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:03.840 if you wear red now polish, you'll be seen as irresistible. 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:06.800 I'm thinking, Okay, where's the rest of it, Like, what 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:09.360 is the theory? This is just a one line statement. 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.520 So I did some googles, and by googles, I went 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.080 to TikTok and searched that red noil theories and thought 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.440 would come up. And there was this one girl called 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.560 girl Boss Town who had been trying out the red 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:24.960 now theory, presumably to attract some men. And she says 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:28.640 that her theory is that of the men that she's 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:31.160 trying to attract in that age group thirty year olds 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:34.760 or whatever. She feels like it's like a Sigmund Freddy 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:39.200 Oedipus complex. Your mom likely had red nails, so it 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:43.200 reminds you of you know, warmth and empathy and nurturing 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:46.000 and caring and whatever, whatever, whatever, And so that's what 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:48.320 you're drawing you to the nail. And then you apply 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:51.440 those attributes to the person who also has the now color. 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:52.560 What do you think? 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:56.080 Ah? I mean, I will say, if you're thirty now, 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:58.600 your mom probably did wear the red now. 0:15:58.680 --> 0:15:58.920 Sure. 0:15:58.960 --> 0:16:00.640 My mum was a red now polish person. But I'm 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:01.520 not thirty. I wouldn't know. 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:06.200 Yeah, true twenty four. I mean I kind of see it. 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:10.240 I think that red nails would turn straight men off. 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:12.440 Oh please pray tell. 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:14.640 Because it's kind of in that like. I also think 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:16.400 red lipstick turns men off. 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:18.680 We've got two men in the in the room. We've 0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:21.600 got two men in the room. Let's ask them, Josh, 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:25.560 red nails, yes or no? Wow, give us some thinking. 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:28.600 Josh says indifference. That's one man down. We've got another one. 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:30.800 Will he's into red, he's into red nails. 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:32.400 We're getting an aggressive thumbs up. 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:35.200 Does your wife wear red nails? Yep, yep, the wife 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:37.120 wears red nails? What about red lipstick? 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:38.520 Yeah? 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:40.720 Yeah, a little bit more indifferent, but we'll take it. 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:43.320 We've actually managed to find a third man, which is 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:45.840 just it's a lot of representation for us. 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:50.120 How do you feel about red nails? Louis Hi all the. 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:56.240 Way up and red lipstick? Whoa a man wants some 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:56.880 red lips? 0:16:57.560 --> 0:17:02.240 Love data flex and froom census. I see you thought 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:06.119 you knew something for a second. How dare you speak 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:08.479 about about men in the room? Wow, I need more 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:09.480 questions to ask them. 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:10.480 That was so fun. 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:12.400 Yeah, we'll do it. We'll do it again next time. 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:16.720 Thanks for that. This is flex and frooms. 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:19.560 You know me. For me, you're like data and I 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:22.720 like star signs when they come together. It's one of 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:25.280 my main interests. We've also figured out, like, which star 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:29.440 sign is most likely to be a billionaire. Maurice knows Taurus. 0:17:29.800 --> 0:17:32.760 It definitely wasn't a Sagittarius, that's for sure, a lot 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:35.159 of Sagittarius shade. I was doing some more research and 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:37.639 I was like, what's the most rare star sign? Because 0:17:37.800 --> 0:17:40.680 I have an individuality complex and I would like to 0:17:40.760 --> 0:17:42.440 know that if I fit into a cricteria, I could 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:43.320 share the information with you. 0:17:43.840 --> 0:17:48.399 But unfortunately, the most rare star sign is Virgo. No, 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:49.760 why do you guess that? 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:52.000 I don't know. I just never really hear of virgos. 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:53.480 Yeah, I only know like two. 0:17:54.200 --> 0:17:55.119 Yeah, all right? What is it? 0:17:56.520 --> 0:17:57.119 Aquarius? 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:01.119 February born people? It makes sense that Holy Year twenty 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:05.960 eight days situation. And what's really wild is that stereotypically 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:10.480 Aquariuses have individuality complexes and want to be perceived as 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:13.240 unique and rare, so this suits them. 0:18:13.280 --> 0:18:15.800 I'm so happy Aquarius Aquaria. 0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:17.080 I just think of mermaids. 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:20.359 Yeah, I mean they're an air sign, so the aqua 0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:22.840 will throw you off. Yeah, okay, And what are you 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:25.960 your aries in Aris with Aquarius? Well, I was in 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:27.520 pre Aquarius. You know, I was meant to be born 0:18:27.560 --> 0:18:29.680 on my dad's birthday, which is February twenty seven. 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:33.000 It would suit you. I was seven days late, damn. 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:40.159 Because individuality, it's individuality complex. I was born on the 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:42.680 third or the third. You're so different, and I'm a 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:43.520 lucky little binch. 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:44.760 Oh hello, Binch. 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:51.280 Just in the studio now. So if you're a big 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:52.960 listener of the show, you know we have a ghost, 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:56.440