WEBVTT - CLOWN FOR HIRE: Froomes Chats About Her Craziest DM Request 🤡 0:00:01.520 --> 0:00:04.440 Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:09.680 and Frooms catch Up podcast. It is Flex and Frooms 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:10.120 on cater. 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:12.760 You know, when you are maintaining a habit so well 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:15.200 and then the weekend comes and you're off your game. Now, 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:20.120 I was okay, great, so let's continue. I didn't realize 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.400 I haven't done my Dutch in three days because I 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:26.360 took a weekend off and then the habit disappear. So scary, 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:29.000 so spooky, but it's coming back everyone, and you know, 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:31.840 it's also so cool. My TikTok algorithm knows that I'm 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:35.000 learning Dutch, so it sends me Dutch specific content like 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:38.600 memes and stuff. And I'm learning a lot about Dutch 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:41.920 stereotypes through TikTok, Like it's telling me that Dutch people 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:47.920 are quite steretically speaking, if you are. 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:51.400 Like quite cold and. 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:57.360 Not quite like light and humorous and not like passive 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:59.320 aggressive a lot of the time, so it's really interesting 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:03.960 for me. Don't respond well to like banter and stuff 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:05.959 like that, which I think is quite interesting. If you 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:10.400 attempt to spreak natal LUNs wow to a Dutch person 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:12.880 and you let it slip that you're actually not a 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:14.600 native speaker, they'll just switch to English on you. 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:17.160 I like that. I won't switch back good because they 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:18.280 want to practice their English on you. 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:19.600 You want to statute. 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:22.680 That they said, this is out Field and Jacklie. Anyway, 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:26.840 here's a potty, this is flex and Rooms on Kaita Flexi. 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:30.000 I received quite a startling DM a few saturdays ago. 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:31.320 Okay, and you received. 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:33.640 A lot of those, Like your ratio of startling dms 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:37.000 is quite high. I find myself very confused. So when 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:38.520 people get the gall and the gumption. 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.119 Literally, I do know the male fan base is still 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.200 on board. I did get it. You're pretty hot a 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:46.520 few a few days ago, good days. And you know 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:48.520 what came from a man who said you're with no 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:51.760 E and said, yo, you aren't. For some reason, they 0:01:51.840 --> 0:01:53.040 hit different in a really good way. 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:56.160 Speaking about guys being into you, we did have a 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:59.360 comment on our flex and Frooms page about they would 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:00.880 pay anything for your feet. 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:04.120 Your feet, babes, babes, and I've been given it. I've 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:06.320 been taking pictures of rooms his feet and putting them out. 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:09.639 For free, and they're telling him mark it and takes 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:13.200 some bts feet picks and start cashing in. 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:14.880 My king likes a purple foot. 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:18.560 I do have terrible circulation, so please look for the 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:20.119 purple foot on feeds. 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:20.680 Near you today. 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:24.600 Anyway, I get a DM that first tiggles me pink 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:26.919 and second makes me question who I am in the 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:28.120 world and where I stand. 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.480 A man messages me and he says, cut the cameras. 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:33.040 That's it. Facts. 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:36.160 He said something very disturbing, and it involved getting back 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:39.080 at his girlfriend. Not only disturbing, it's out of touch, 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:43.480 it's abrasive. It requires so much boldness that I wonder 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:45.680 you already have the confidence you'reniquing. 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:48.079 You don't need to extract more from fruby. 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:50.639 But please, He's sent it at ten forty five, so 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:53.080 I'm assuming maybe he was like four drinks DP. 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:55.640 Can we just hang out together and take selfies? My 0:02:55.720 --> 0:03:00.000 girl friend to hide? Hello, how are you? 0:03:00.240 --> 0:03:04.080 My girlfriend cheated on me and he's a fan of yours, loulol. 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:06.240 He obviously had spelted incorrectly. 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:06.840 Perhaps to take me off. 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:09.680 You're lou, he said lou, meaning to say ollo, Well, 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:11.960 I think he was throwing me off the scent, you know, cheeky. 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:13.200 I said it wrong. 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:16.120 This isn't pre meditated when in reality this was a 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:17.639 premeditated defense. 0:03:17.919 --> 0:03:21.160 You did share this with your audience and were quite 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:23.440 surprised by the overwhelming response. 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:27.080 Literally, the most liked comment on the post was hang 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:27.440 out with. 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:30.160 This person, give them a smooch. Are you serious? 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:33.400 The bar is subterranean, the bar is an Atlantis, the 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:34.640 bar is an Earth's core. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:38.640 So this was quite This brought up a lot of 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:40.560 emotions and past trauma for me. 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:42.880 I will say the T word because you don't really 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:43.960 mess with a T word like that. 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:46.640 Yeah, it's a half mess. It's an unresolved feeling. I 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:49.040 don't know how I feel. I have a track record 0:03:49.040 --> 0:03:50.840 and I don't want to speak this into existence. 0:03:50.880 --> 0:03:51.960 No, you can just tell the truth. 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:54.920 I feel like there is a track record with men 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:58.240 pursuing me to get back at people. I have a 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:01.160 large woman audience. It's actually like, for a while it 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:05.200 was pretty balanced. It was balanced between like seventy thirty. 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:06.800 I had a fifty to fifty audience since I was 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:07.840 like a chick DJ. 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:08.800 It's a bit of that. 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:12.520 The women are popping, and I must say they are 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.600 a loyal bunch. The audience is engaged and they have 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:17.200 been giving me love for quite a few years. Now, 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:19.640 so thank you those who are there pre COVID, I 0:04:19.680 --> 0:04:22.159 particularly appreciate you. We talk about this often. The real 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:25.919 ones know anyway, the idea that I would meet up 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:27.880 with a man to get back at one of my 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:30.840 loyal followers who is a fan enough that she has 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:33.800 told her man her partner, which is a big deal, 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:37.719 you know, getting the men on board as if respectfully, 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.680 And you've actually offended me, and I'm freaking out. Okay, 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:44.360 this is the first time I believe that a man 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:46.400 has pursued me in order to get back at the 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:48.799 X or in order to get clout in their respective 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:49.520 city clout. 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.680 And whenever I say it, I feel like people think 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:55.360 that I'm being facetious or my head she's too big. 0:04:55.800 --> 0:05:00.240 Real instances, people aren't quiet about wanting proximity to clout. 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:03.400 It's not a quiet thing. People will cloud deems with 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:05.440 their whole chest. I don't want to one up you, 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.400 but I've been on an entire date. I was bamboozled 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.839 take an eye on a date to then hear that 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:13.960 the reason why we're on this date is so he 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:15.200 could tell his ex girlfriend. 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:17.760 Could you imagine. I can't help but feel that. 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.920 People out themselves around you. 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:21.800 Oh, they can't help her in a way, which I 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:23.839 would think is like a quite dangerous thing to do 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:27.040 because I am really opinionated generally, I don't think I'm 0:05:27.040 --> 0:05:30.080 the safest person to out yourself around because I would say, 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.359 more often than not, I tell people not to be 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:33.200 themselves around me. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.600 You want a burp? No, you want a fart. 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:36.000 That's on you? 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:36.200 No? 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:38.200 If that's on New Brookie. Brookies is a big dogs. 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:39.680 You can handle it, you know what I'm saying. So 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:41.640 I'm like, in this instance, I'm not a safe place 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:45.799 to land. I'm not, but it really scares me because 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.600 I really feel like the older that we get and 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:50.920 with the more people interact with, we should be developing 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.800 a base level of trust and understanding. I don't like 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:56.960 this idea that you've created and cultivated a safe space 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:01.200 for yourself by sharing the information about yourself, by being open, 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:03.760 by being honest, and people infiltrate that and take advantage 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:07.039 of it in such a demeaning way. I don't think 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:10.480 someone could conceptualize how hurtful that is. Yeah, So like 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:12.120 like hang out with this guy. It's like, do you 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:14.680 hear what's happening here? You've been reduced to a pawn 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:16.240 in someone's like magical game. 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:18.400 Your ex doesn't what you baby, she cheated so. 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:22.400 Already the phrase you could already your bottom of the 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:24.280 barrel for me can't bring. 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.480 You up from the hell house you're residing. 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:30.400 She doesn't care for you, king, So why would I listen? 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:31.520 Misery loves company. 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:35.200 That's number one, number one, And I said, pay me 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:38.039 and I'll keep it hurt people. I actually hate it 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:40.280 so much. But what I hate more than him reaching out, 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:43.040 because you know, I kind of applaud confidence in some 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:46.040 in some instances. But what pains me more is that 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:48.160 so many people couldn't see the issue with it. That 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:49.360 is spooky to me. 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:50.880 And I'd be like, oh my god, yes, go on 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:53.280 a date with this king, like help him out? Ill, 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:55.920 Why would I do that? People are sick. I'm not 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:57.239 looking for a bitter rebound. 0:06:57.320 --> 0:07:00.520 Man's also, so think about me, okay, think about my 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:04.279 needs as a woman. Obviously they're un met in this scenario. 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:07.200 And also, don't let someone tell you twice they don't 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:09.640 want you. That's just like that's just like a little 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:13.800 bit of a little bit of advice. Generally, this person's 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.600 told you once in the most horrific way possible that 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:17.440 they don't want you. 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:19.160 Don't let them tell you twice. 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.680 And pull me into this mess sickos. 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:26.080 I'm so sorry. Let me turn off your messages. I 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:28.640 don't know what like when every now and then for 0:07:28.800 --> 0:07:29.480 me will send. 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:31.480 Me or show me what people have said to her 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:35.080 in her messages. And it's a certain lack of respect 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:37.760 that I think that people struggle with because you're a 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:40.240 funny person, so they assume it's like a no holds 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:41.960 barred everything's a joke. 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:43.760 Let's just like rid basic respect. 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:45.760 Whereas I'm on the extreme end of the spectrumhen people 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:48.760 fear being called out as you should. So like I 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:50.880 bullied people into manners, Everyone's like. 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:54.440 Hello, hell like dive flex, how are you? 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:56.600 Could you please tell me where the shirt is? Yeah, 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:59.280 every time the shirts from you know wherever it's from. 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:01.480 But on you and everyone's like, nah, she can hang, 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:03.239 she can hang, she can she's a big dogs. 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:05.440 Just one of us, And now oh I can't hang. 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:07.280 They're talking about your body to. 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:11.360 Someone said you lived in. 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:15.520 Squalor say we live in Scholar because you don't have 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:17.520 a balcony. 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:19.600 I'm going to Sydney. Listen. 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.040 It's as we know. I've spoken about the boobs often. 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:24.000 The boobs are a bi contentious one. 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:26.320 Men and women. They can't help themselves. 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:30.520 They really can't help themselves, like no sea of the consequence, 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:32.320 and that's what spooks me often. 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:34.440 Yeah, and you know me, I don't want to be 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:36.640 the cops seek to people who go out of the 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:38.800 way to DM me, but it does test my patience. 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:41.160 And I will say it sounds overstated. Most of the 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:44.160 dms I get are amazing. They're memes people are thinking 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:45.680 of me. I just love the idea that I'm in 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:47.960 your thoughts but not in your words towards me. 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:49.640 Okay, unless you want to say I'm a. 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.720 Pretty princess or that I've changed your life through many means, 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:54.480 keeps yourself love. 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:56.839 Literally did you respond to him? 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:57.120 No? 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.440 I just put it on my Instagram and I went 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:03.520 back and needle it. Obviously it's all good to have regrets. 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:05.439 Oh yeah, but this is why I stay on the 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:09.880 screenshot button. Shit, nothing, nothing will be hidden from me. 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.880 The moment said someone says something out to turn it's screenshot, 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:15.840 Like someone says to me, where's that from? I said, 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:18.280 so where's your please and thank you from And they're like, 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:23.080 oh sorry, I hob it over that instant story. Let 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:23.360 me leave. 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:27.560 I don't want to fight and I want to fight. Listen. 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:33.560 Yeah, thanks guys, Keita, Flex and Froomes, Flex and froms. Listen, 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:36.760 anyone who is a fan of love and people doing 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:38.600 awkward things, You've come to the right place. 0:09:38.679 --> 0:09:39.520 I have a love line. 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:41.560 It's been sent in from one of our listeners. Her 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:44.280 name is sof Hi surf Hi. We're gonna get to 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:47.040 the bottom of your little tiny love line dilemma that 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:49.120 you've sent in. No voice note this time, so do 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:50.520 use my voice acting skills. 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:53.720 Okay, you can hire me a creative rap. She's not 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:57.200 joking too, a bit desperate, but that's fine. Hey, Flex 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:57.800 and Frooms. 0:09:58.000 --> 0:09:59.720 I went on a date with a guy last week 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:01.360 and I I have the biggest ick and I wanted 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.199 to check with you if you think it's justified already. 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:06.640 I have some thoughts on the ick, but we'll continue. 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:09.320 We're post ike at flexen Frooms. But you know it 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:09.920 is what it is. 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:12.920 We know it's indicative of a different issue. Let me continue. 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:14.720 He mentioned that he wanted to take me out dancing 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:17.680 and I love a boogy myself, so I was really excited. 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:19.960 He sent me an address and I rocked up, expecting 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.360 it to be a club. But it wasn't a club. 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:24.440 It was an arcade with the dance mat. 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:27.280 Oh my god. 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:29.640 We were easily the oldest ones there and he was 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:32.800 really into it. It didn't even look like he was good. 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:36.240 In fact, there were children pointing and laughing. When I 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:37.839 say I had the ike, all of the hairs in 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:39.320 the back of my neck stood up and me couldn't 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:41.719 get away from him quick enough. It sucks because we 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:45.040 really vibe when texting. Can I get past it? Or 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:47.440 once you get the ick, does it never really go away? 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:49.640 So question is oldest time myself. Oh so it's saying 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:52.520 like the ick is kind of like a virus. It mutates, 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.120 it grows. Okay, maybe an ick is way more complex 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:58.520 than I thought. I think it might be. I, straight 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:02.439 off the bat, have an opinion on any kind of arcade, situation, beat, 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:05.320 a bowling alley, laser tag, or any kind of manufunctured 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:05.959 fun minigal. 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:09.040 You're a hater. I have a curse okay, okay. 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:10.880 Where when I'm dating someone and we go and do 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:11.920 one of these activities. 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:16.000 The relationships, you seem like someone who gives off the 0:11:16.080 --> 0:11:18.880 vibe of enjoying those things. So I can understand that's 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:21.480 where the friction lies, because you're like, get me out 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:22.559 of this hellhole. 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:27.000 And they're like, it's so you clown, just clown their vibes. 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:31.320 Yeah, many a relationship has lived and died in an arcade. 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:36.400 I will say, there's something about seeing someone experience manufactured 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:40.200 fun while the child waits its turn that hats a 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:42.640 little bit too differently, And it also reminds me of 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:45.640 like being twelve, eleven or twelve, Like you just start 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:47.880 getting crushed on guys and you guys go to the 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:51.280 arcade together and it's awkward and they smell. 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:56.160 I also feel like a first date, second date, third date, 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:59.640 you should be trying to avoid any potential river embarrassment 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:02.920 as much as possible. You don't have the leisure being 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:06.120 seen like a full person, And so these. 0:12:05.840 --> 0:12:08.040 Things were like I just want to be myself. Wait 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:12.320 till you start dating. Okay, wait, wait, lots official. This 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:12.720 is I. 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.040 Think this is different from the ick. Okay, this is 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:18.760 a grave misunderstanding of who you are and who they are. 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:22.040 Because he's aid boogie and you thought club and he 0:12:22.160 --> 0:12:25.760 thought game zone. That's not going to work out long term. 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:29.520 We're already doing miscommunication off the bat. And I know 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:31.640 this is like, probably not one of my greatest habits, 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:35.040 but I definitely learned it from my mum. She's very, 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:39.520 very aware of how she's perceived in relation to other people. 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:41.800 Shoutout being a black woman in a racist county, et cetera. 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:45.280 But so she made me really paranoid about being an 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:48.200 environment and not being seen as the standard, the norm 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:51.760 or like better than you know. Works out for this industry, 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:54.280 but also works out just for life, because I just 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:57.160 feel like you need to be really careful when you're 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.880 doing secondhand embarrassment. Think about your think about your neighbor, 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:02.640 think about your community, embarrass yourself in your own time. 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:05.520 But now you're bringing on guests and spectators. Now we're 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:09.080 all embarrassed. Look at what you've done. It's dangerous. 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:11.960 It's very dangerous. Imagine you're you threw me in this 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:13.960 woman's position. You would never recover. 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:17.920 I wouldn't, I know, the reputational damage, would be very embarrassed. 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:19.480 Telling me, no, we can't talk about it on air 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:22.199 we can't talk about it. That's what happened, but off 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.200 air we will be analyzing. Of course. 0:13:24.480 --> 0:13:28.400 Well, rip, so you're just not compatible. You might have chemistry, 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:30.920 you're not compatible because if you were compatible, you wouldn't 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:33.120 think this was embarrassing. You might you said, the text 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:36.200 game was amazing, great, but we need both chemistry and compatibility. 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:37.920 It's true. Well let us know how you go so 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:39.560 flex and frooms. 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:42.319 When I say will be Goldberg, what comes to mind? 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:43.120 Sister Act. 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:49.480 Sister Act, funny woman, quite like androgynists almost in her 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:50.440 approach to life. 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.680 She's kind of quite wise, wise ageless. 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:55.880 I think I could trust will be gold work with 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:59.200 anything I agree, but mostly just sage life advice. And 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:02.520 so to my surprise, I find would be on my timeline. 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:03.439 I said, baby, what are. 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:03.839 You doing here? 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:04.800 What are you doing here? 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:08.520 Ariana? And she's doing this interview. 0:14:08.640 --> 0:14:11.200 I can't recall who from It doesn't really matter, but 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:13.960 this interviewer is kind of like going down memory lane 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.640 and talking about how frequently we'll Gog's been married and 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:20.200 it's three times, which I found surprising because I just 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:23.480 you know, how some celebrities really commodify their relationships and 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:25.440 so it becomes a brand them to be in a couple. 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:27.960 Giselle bunchten and who's. 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:28.280 The on top? 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:28.920 Tom Brady. 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:32.360 Yeah, it's like there are a couple, you know, George Clooney, 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:33.640 a Mile Clooney. 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:35.400 Couple, Mirandaca or Andro Bloom. 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:39.560 Yeah, couple that kind of vibe. And so I thought, oh, interesting. 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:42.600 And so she goes on to recall her experience being 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:44.840 married and I'm ready for you know, when you find 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:47.239 your person and it's blissful and it's amazing. 0:14:47.680 --> 0:14:49.640 But her approach really sobered me up and kind of 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:50.200 put me off. 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:53.600 Listen to the Siktog video from I think I have 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:54.640 a rash in. 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:57.440 Love with all your husbands? No, any of them? 0:14:58.040 --> 0:14:58.960 No, I don't think so. 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:01.800 Really, that's an amazing thing desire, isn't it. 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:02.640 But it's the truth. 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:05.760 It's an amazing Oh well, all right, you bold up 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:08.800 at me. Do you have church weddings? No? 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:10.560 Let me see. 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:14.000 I think there's a Vegas and maybe one was a 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:17.000 church and one was a house wedding. 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:19.400 What did you do if you were in love with me? 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:23.400 Because I wanted to feel normal, and it seemed to 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.960 me that if I was married, i'd have a much normal, 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:29.200 more normal life. Clearly that's not the case. That's not 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:31.920 a good reason to get married. You have to actually 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:38.880 want a life with someone through ups and downs, and 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:41.680 I just discovered that wasn't for me. 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:45.240 How many times have you been in love once? Good 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:46.080 with you? Oh? 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:50.120 Man? Go on, I've gone as far as I'm going. 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:51.600 Can I chuck a name? 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:54.880 You could chuck a name, Teddy? 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:56.960 You're asking me if I was in love with ted 0:15:57.760 --> 0:15:59.080 Is that the man I'm talking about? 0:15:59.160 --> 0:15:59.400 Yes? 0:15:59.480 --> 0:15:59.560 No? 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:04.040 Really? Would we know who the person is? No? 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:07.840 And that's the beauty. Yes, I know bombshells are was 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:08.160 not a. 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:10.760 Real bombshell, but I snuck a couple in on y'all 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:11.680 and nobody knew. 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:13.720 Do you wish she'd married that person? 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:14.640 No? 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:15.720 What? 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:20.160 Because what I know now is I don't want to 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:20.680 live with her. 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:24.720 I want to live with anyone with the wrong guys. 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:25.200 No. 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:27.600 No, I think I've tried it with probably the right 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:30.840 guys for other people. But it's it's not It wasn't them, 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:33.560 It was me because I actually. 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:34.320 Like living on my own. 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:36.520 I like being able to go up and down my 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:39.880 stairs farting like a queen and not having to explain 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:42.840 I like being able to smoke all over my house 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:43.800 and have someone go. 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:46.720 You know, I like my privacy. 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:50.800 Honestly, I thought that I would be an Oprah type 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:52.200 of person, But I think I want to be Woe 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:54.920 go but when I grow up. Because I really appreciated 0:16:54.960 --> 0:16:56.400 that in that instance, she could have. 0:16:56.480 --> 0:16:58.160 Lied what efference between Oprah. 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:03.720 Like in this scenari Oprah is the quintessential matriarch, all 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:08.280 the positive qualities, she's nurturing, she gardens. She doesn't have kids, 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:10.440 but she's always wanted them, and she's been with this 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:14.320 one man and he's the guy. And it's just like 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:18.760 she's introspective in a really appealing way, and her ideas 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:22.879 about the world are very agreeable and accessible and made 0:17:22.880 --> 0:17:25.359