Speaker 1: Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch Up podcast. It is Flex and Frooms
Speaker 1: on cater.
Speaker 2: You know, when you are maintaining a habit so well
Speaker 2: and then the weekend comes and you're off your game. Now,
Speaker 2: I was okay, great, so let's continue. I didn't realize
Speaker 2: I haven't done my Dutch in three days because I
Speaker 2: took a weekend off and then the habit disappear. So scary,
Speaker 2: so spooky, but it's coming back everyone, and you know,
Speaker 2: it's also so cool. My TikTok algorithm knows that I'm
Speaker 2: learning Dutch, so it sends me Dutch specific content like
Speaker 2: memes and stuff. And I'm learning a lot about Dutch
Speaker 2: stereotypes through TikTok, Like it's telling me that Dutch people
Speaker 2: are quite steretically speaking, if you are.
Speaker 1: Like quite cold and.
Speaker 2: Not quite like light and humorous and not like passive
Speaker 2: aggressive a lot of the time, so it's really interesting
Speaker 2: for me. Don't respond well to like banter and stuff
Speaker 2: like that, which I think is quite interesting. If you
Speaker 2: attempt to spreak natal LUNs wow to a Dutch person
Speaker 2: and you let it slip that you're actually not a
Speaker 2: native speaker, they'll just switch to English on you.
Speaker 1: I like that. I won't switch back good because they
Speaker 1: want to practice their English on you.
Speaker 3: You want to statute.
Speaker 1: That they said, this is out Field and Jacklie. Anyway,
Speaker 1: here's a potty, this is flex and Rooms on Kaita Flexi.
Speaker 4: I received quite a startling DM a few saturdays ago.
Speaker 1: Okay, and you received.
Speaker 2: A lot of those, Like your ratio of startling dms
Speaker 2: is quite high. I find myself very confused. So when
Speaker 2: people get the gall and the gumption.
Speaker 4: Literally, I do know the male fan base is still
Speaker 4: on board. I did get it. You're pretty hot a
Speaker 4: few a few days ago, good days. And you know
Speaker 4: what came from a man who said you're with no
Speaker 4: E and said, yo, you aren't. For some reason, they
Speaker 4: hit different in a really good way.
Speaker 2: Speaking about guys being into you, we did have a
Speaker 2: comment on our flex and Frooms page about they would
Speaker 2: pay anything for your feet.
Speaker 1: Your feet, babes, babes, and I've been given it. I've
Speaker 1: been taking pictures of rooms his feet and putting them out.
Speaker 2: For free, and they're telling him mark it and takes
Speaker 2: some bts feet picks and start cashing in.
Speaker 1: My king likes a purple foot.
Speaker 4: I do have terrible circulation, so please look for the
Speaker 4: purple foot on feeds.
Speaker 1: Near you today.
Speaker 4: Anyway, I get a DM that first tiggles me pink
Speaker 4: and second makes me question who I am in the
Speaker 4: world and where I stand.
Speaker 1: A man messages me and he says, cut the cameras.
Speaker 1: That's it. Facts.
Speaker 4: He said something very disturbing, and it involved getting back
Speaker 4: at his girlfriend. Not only disturbing, it's out of touch,
Speaker 4: it's abrasive. It requires so much boldness that I wonder
Speaker 4: you already have the confidence you'reniquing.
Speaker 1: You don't need to extract more from fruby.
Speaker 4: But please, He's sent it at ten forty five, so
Speaker 4: I'm assuming maybe he was like four drinks DP.
Speaker 1: Can we just hang out together and take selfies? My
Speaker 1: girl friend to hide? Hello, how are you?
Speaker 4: My girlfriend cheated on me and he's a fan of yours, loulol.
Speaker 4: He obviously had spelted incorrectly.
Speaker 1: Perhaps to take me off.
Speaker 4: You're lou, he said lou, meaning to say ollo, Well,
Speaker 4: I think he was throwing me off the scent, you know, cheeky.
Speaker 1: I said it wrong.
Speaker 4: This isn't pre meditated when in reality this was a
Speaker 4: premeditated defense.
Speaker 2: You did share this with your audience and were quite
Speaker 2: surprised by the overwhelming response.
Speaker 4: Literally, the most liked comment on the post was hang
Speaker 4: out with.
Speaker 1: This person, give them a smooch. Are you serious?
Speaker 2: The bar is subterranean, the bar is an Atlantis, the
Speaker 2: bar is an Earth's core.
Speaker 4: So this was quite This brought up a lot of
Speaker 4: emotions and past trauma for me.
Speaker 1: I will say the T word because you don't really
Speaker 1: mess with a T word like that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a half mess. It's an unresolved feeling. I
Speaker 4: don't know how I feel. I have a track record
Speaker 4: and I don't want to speak this into existence.
Speaker 1: No, you can just tell the truth.
Speaker 4: I feel like there is a track record with men
Speaker 4: pursuing me to get back at people. I have a
Speaker 4: large woman audience. It's actually like, for a while it
Speaker 4: was pretty balanced. It was balanced between like seventy thirty.
Speaker 4: I had a fifty to fifty audience since I was
Speaker 4: like a chick DJ.
Speaker 1: It's a bit of that.
Speaker 4: The women are popping, and I must say they are
Speaker 4: a loyal bunch. The audience is engaged and they have
Speaker 4: been giving me love for quite a few years. Now,
Speaker 4: so thank you those who are there pre COVID, I
Speaker 4: particularly appreciate you. We talk about this often. The real
Speaker 4: ones know anyway, the idea that I would meet up
Speaker 4: with a man to get back at one of my
Speaker 4: loyal followers who is a fan enough that she has
Speaker 4: told her man her partner, which is a big deal,
Speaker 4: you know, getting the men on board as if respectfully,
Speaker 4: And you've actually offended me, and I'm freaking out. Okay,
Speaker 4: this is the first time I believe that a man
Speaker 4: has pursued me in order to get back at the
Speaker 4: X or in order to get clout in their respective
Speaker 4: city clout.
Speaker 2: And whenever I say it, I feel like people think
Speaker 2: that I'm being facetious or my head she's too big.
Speaker 2: Real instances, people aren't quiet about wanting proximity to clout.
Speaker 2: It's not a quiet thing. People will cloud deems with
Speaker 2: their whole chest. I don't want to one up you,
Speaker 2: but I've been on an entire date. I was bamboozled
Speaker 2: take an eye on a date to then hear that
Speaker 2: the reason why we're on this date is so he
Speaker 2: could tell his ex girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine. I can't help but feel that.
Speaker 4: People out themselves around you.
Speaker 2: Oh, they can't help her in a way, which I
Speaker 2: would think is like a quite dangerous thing to do
Speaker 2: because I am really opinionated generally, I don't think I'm
Speaker 2: the safest person to out yourself around because I would say,
Speaker 2: more often than not, I tell people not to be
Speaker 2: themselves around me.
Speaker 1: You want a burp? No, you want a fart.
Speaker 5: That's on you?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: If that's on New Brookie. Brookies is a big dogs.
Speaker 2: You can handle it, you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 2: I'm like, in this instance, I'm not a safe place
Speaker 2: to land. I'm not, but it really scares me because
Speaker 2: I really feel like the older that we get and
Speaker 2: with the more people interact with, we should be developing
Speaker 2: a base level of trust and understanding. I don't like
Speaker 2: this idea that you've created and cultivated a safe space
Speaker 2: for yourself by sharing the information about yourself, by being open,
Speaker 2: by being honest, and people infiltrate that and take advantage
Speaker 2: of it in such a demeaning way. I don't think
Speaker 2: someone could conceptualize how hurtful that is. Yeah, So like
Speaker 2: like hang out with this guy. It's like, do you
Speaker 2: hear what's happening here? You've been reduced to a pawn
Speaker 2: in someone's like magical game.
Speaker 1: Your ex doesn't what you baby, she cheated so.
Speaker 2: Already the phrase you could already your bottom of the
Speaker 2: barrel for me can't bring.
Speaker 1: You up from the hell house you're residing.
Speaker 4: She doesn't care for you, king, So why would I listen?
Speaker 1: Misery loves company.
Speaker 2: That's number one, number one, And I said, pay me
Speaker 2: and I'll keep it hurt people. I actually hate it
Speaker 2: so much. But what I hate more than him reaching out,
Speaker 2: because you know, I kind of applaud confidence in some
Speaker 2: in some instances. But what pains me more is that
Speaker 2: so many people couldn't see the issue with it. That
Speaker 2: is spooky to me.
Speaker 1: And I'd be like, oh my god, yes, go on
Speaker 1: a date with this king, like help him out? Ill,
Speaker 1: Why would I do that? People are sick. I'm not
Speaker 1: looking for a bitter rebound.
Speaker 4: Man's also, so think about me, okay, think about my
Speaker 4: needs as a woman. Obviously they're un met in this scenario.
Speaker 2: And also, don't let someone tell you twice they don't
Speaker 2: want you. That's just like that's just like a little
Speaker 2: bit of a little bit of advice. Generally, this person's
Speaker 2: told you once in the most horrific way possible that
Speaker 2: they don't want you.
Speaker 1: Don't let them tell you twice.
Speaker 4: And pull me into this mess sickos.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Let me turn off your messages. I
Speaker 1: don't know what like when every now and then for
Speaker 1: me will send.
Speaker 2: Me or show me what people have said to her
Speaker 2: in her messages. And it's a certain lack of respect
Speaker 2: that I think that people struggle with because you're a
Speaker 2: funny person, so they assume it's like a no holds
Speaker 2: barred everything's a joke.
Speaker 1: Let's just like rid basic respect.
Speaker 2: Whereas I'm on the extreme end of the spectrumhen people
Speaker 2: fear being called out as you should. So like I
Speaker 2: bullied people into manners, Everyone's like.
Speaker 1: Hello, hell like dive flex, how are you?
Speaker 2: Could you please tell me where the shirt is? Yeah,
Speaker 2: every time the shirts from you know wherever it's from.
Speaker 1: But on you and everyone's like, nah, she can hang,
Speaker 1: she can hang, she can she's a big dogs.
Speaker 2: Just one of us, And now oh I can't hang.
Speaker 2: They're talking about your body to.
Speaker 1: Someone said you lived in.
Speaker 2: Squalor say we live in Scholar because you don't have
Speaker 2: a balcony.
Speaker 1: I'm going to Sydney. Listen.
Speaker 4: It's as we know. I've spoken about the boobs often.
Speaker 4: The boobs are a bi contentious one.
Speaker 1: Men and women. They can't help themselves.
Speaker 2: They really can't help themselves, like no sea of the consequence,
Speaker 2: and that's what spooks me often.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you know me, I don't want to be
Speaker 4: the cops seek to people who go out of the
Speaker 4: way to DM me, but it does test my patience.
Speaker 4: And I will say it sounds overstated. Most of the
Speaker 4: dms I get are amazing. They're memes people are thinking
Speaker 4: of me. I just love the idea that I'm in
Speaker 4: your thoughts but not in your words towards me.
Speaker 1: Okay, unless you want to say I'm a.
Speaker 4: Pretty princess or that I've changed your life through many means,
Speaker 4: keeps yourself love.
Speaker 1: Literally did you respond to him?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: I just put it on my Instagram and I went
Speaker 1: back and needle it. Obviously it's all good to have regrets.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but this is why I stay on the
Speaker 2: screenshot button. Shit, nothing, nothing will be hidden from me.
Speaker 2: The moment said someone says something out to turn it's screenshot,
Speaker 2: Like someone says to me, where's that from? I said,
Speaker 2: so where's your please and thank you from And they're like,
Speaker 2: oh sorry, I hob it over that instant story. Let
Speaker 2: me leave.
Speaker 1: I don't want to fight and I want to fight. Listen.
Speaker 4: Yeah, thanks guys, Keita, Flex and Froomes, Flex and froms. Listen,
Speaker 4: anyone who is a fan of love and people doing
Speaker 4: awkward things, You've come to the right place.
Speaker 1: I have a love line.
Speaker 4: It's been sent in from one of our listeners. Her
Speaker 4: name is sof Hi surf Hi. We're gonna get to
Speaker 4: the bottom of your little tiny love line dilemma that
Speaker 4: you've sent in. No voice note this time, so do
Speaker 4: use my voice acting skills.
Speaker 1: Okay, you can hire me a creative rap. She's not
Speaker 1: joking too, a bit desperate, but that's fine. Hey, Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms.
Speaker 4: I went on a date with a guy last week
Speaker 4: and I I have the biggest ick and I wanted
Speaker 4: to check with you if you think it's justified already.
Speaker 4: I have some thoughts on the ick, but we'll continue.
Speaker 1: We're post ike at flexen Frooms. But you know it
Speaker 1: is what it is.
Speaker 4: We know it's indicative of a different issue. Let me continue.
Speaker 4: He mentioned that he wanted to take me out dancing
Speaker 4: and I love a boogy myself, so I was really excited.
Speaker 4: He sent me an address and I rocked up, expecting
Speaker 4: it to be a club. But it wasn't a club.
Speaker 4: It was an arcade with the dance mat.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 4: We were easily the oldest ones there and he was
Speaker 4: really into it. It didn't even look like he was good.
Speaker 4: In fact, there were children pointing and laughing. When I
Speaker 4: say I had the ike, all of the hairs in
Speaker 4: the back of my neck stood up and me couldn't
Speaker 4: get away from him quick enough. It sucks because we
Speaker 4: really vibe when texting. Can I get past it? Or
Speaker 4: once you get the ick, does it never really go away?
Speaker 4: So question is oldest time myself. Oh so it's saying
Speaker 4: like the ick is kind of like a virus. It mutates,
Speaker 4: it grows. Okay, maybe an ick is way more complex
Speaker 4: than I thought. I think it might be. I, straight
Speaker 4: off the bat, have an opinion on any kind of arcade, situation, beat,
Speaker 4: a bowling alley, laser tag, or any kind of manufunctured
Speaker 4: fun minigal.
Speaker 1: You're a hater. I have a curse okay, okay.
Speaker 4: Where when I'm dating someone and we go and do
Speaker 4: one of these activities.
Speaker 2: The relationships, you seem like someone who gives off the
Speaker 2: vibe of enjoying those things. So I can understand that's
Speaker 2: where the friction lies, because you're like, get me out
Speaker 2: of this hellhole.
Speaker 1: And they're like, it's so you clown, just clown their vibes.
Speaker 4: Yeah, many a relationship has lived and died in an arcade.
Speaker 4: I will say, there's something about seeing someone experience manufactured
Speaker 4: fun while the child waits its turn that hats a
Speaker 4: little bit too differently, And it also reminds me of
Speaker 4: like being twelve, eleven or twelve, Like you just start
Speaker 4: getting crushed on guys and you guys go to the
Speaker 4: arcade together and it's awkward and they smell.
Speaker 2: I also feel like a first date, second date, third date,
Speaker 2: you should be trying to avoid any potential river embarrassment
Speaker 2: as much as possible. You don't have the leisure being
Speaker 2: seen like a full person, And so these.
Speaker 1: Things were like I just want to be myself. Wait
Speaker 1: till you start dating. Okay, wait, wait, lots official. This
Speaker 1: is I.
Speaker 2: Think this is different from the ick. Okay, this is
Speaker 2: a grave misunderstanding of who you are and who they are.
Speaker 2: Because he's aid boogie and you thought club and he
Speaker 2: thought game zone. That's not going to work out long term.
Speaker 2: We're already doing miscommunication off the bat. And I know
Speaker 2: this is like, probably not one of my greatest habits,
Speaker 2: but I definitely learned it from my mum. She's very,
Speaker 2: very aware of how she's perceived in relation to other people.
Speaker 2: Shoutout being a black woman in a racist county, et cetera.
Speaker 2: But so she made me really paranoid about being an
Speaker 2: environment and not being seen as the standard, the norm
Speaker 2: or like better than you know. Works out for this industry,
Speaker 2: but also works out just for life, because I just
Speaker 2: feel like you need to be really careful when you're
Speaker 2: doing secondhand embarrassment. Think about your think about your neighbor,
Speaker 2: think about your community, embarrass yourself in your own time.
Speaker 2: But now you're bringing on guests and spectators. Now we're
Speaker 2: all embarrassed. Look at what you've done. It's dangerous.
Speaker 1: It's very dangerous. Imagine you're you threw me in this
Speaker 1: woman's position. You would never recover.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't, I know, the reputational damage, would be very embarrassed.
Speaker 1: Telling me, no, we can't talk about it on air
Speaker 1: we can't talk about it. That's what happened, but off
Speaker 1: air we will be analyzing. Of course.
Speaker 2: Well, rip, so you're just not compatible. You might have chemistry,
Speaker 2: you're not compatible because if you were compatible, you wouldn't
Speaker 2: think this was embarrassing. You might you said, the text
Speaker 2: game was amazing, great, but we need both chemistry and compatibility.
Speaker 1: It's true. Well let us know how you go so
Speaker 1: flex and frooms.
Speaker 2: When I say will be Goldberg, what comes to mind?
Speaker 2: Sister Act.
Speaker 4: Sister Act, funny woman, quite like androgynists almost in her
Speaker 4: approach to life.
Speaker 1: She's kind of quite wise, wise ageless.
Speaker 2: I think I could trust will be gold work with
Speaker 2: anything I agree, but mostly just sage life advice. And
Speaker 2: so to my surprise, I find would be on my timeline.
Speaker 1: I said, baby, what are.
Speaker 5: You doing here?
Speaker 3: What are you doing here?
Speaker 1: Ariana? And she's doing this interview.
Speaker 2: I can't recall who from It doesn't really matter, but
Speaker 2: this interviewer is kind of like going down memory lane
Speaker 2: and talking about how frequently we'll Gog's been married and
Speaker 2: it's three times, which I found surprising because I just
Speaker 2: you know, how some celebrities really commodify their relationships and
Speaker 2: so it becomes a brand them to be in a couple.
Speaker 1: Giselle bunchten and who's.
Speaker 3: The on top?
Speaker 1: Tom Brady.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like there are a couple, you know, George Clooney,
Speaker 2: a Mile Clooney.
Speaker 4: Couple, Mirandaca or Andro Bloom.
Speaker 1: Yeah, couple that kind of vibe. And so I thought, oh, interesting.
Speaker 2: And so she goes on to recall her experience being
Speaker 2: married and I'm ready for you know, when you find
Speaker 2: your person and it's blissful and it's amazing.
Speaker 1: But her approach really sobered me up and kind of
Speaker 1: put me off.
Speaker 2: Listen to the Siktog video from I think I have
Speaker 2: a rash in.
Speaker 5: Love with all your husbands? No, any of them?
Speaker 3: No, I don't think so.
Speaker 5: Really, that's an amazing thing desire, isn't it.
Speaker 3: But it's the truth.
Speaker 5: It's an amazing Oh well, all right, you bold up
Speaker 5: at me. Do you have church weddings? No?
Speaker 3: Let me see.
Speaker 6: I think there's a Vegas and maybe one was a
Speaker 6: church and one was a house wedding.
Speaker 5: What did you do if you were in love with me?
Speaker 6: Because I wanted to feel normal, and it seemed to
Speaker 6: me that if I was married, i'd have a much normal,
Speaker 6: more normal life. Clearly that's not the case. That's not
Speaker 6: a good reason to get married. You have to actually
Speaker 6: want a life with someone through ups and downs, and
Speaker 6: I just discovered that wasn't for me.
Speaker 5: How many times have you been in love once? Good
Speaker 5: with you? Oh?
Speaker 3: Man? Go on, I've gone as far as I'm going.
Speaker 5: Can I chuck a name?
Speaker 3: You could chuck a name, Teddy?
Speaker 6: You're asking me if I was in love with ted
Speaker 6: Is that the man I'm talking about?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 5: Really? Would we know who the person is? No?
Speaker 3: And that's the beauty. Yes, I know bombshells are was
Speaker 3: not a.
Speaker 6: Real bombshell, but I snuck a couple in on y'all
Speaker 6: and nobody knew.
Speaker 5: Do you wish she'd married that person?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 6: Because what I know now is I don't want to
Speaker 6: live with her.
Speaker 3: I want to live with anyone with the wrong guys.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 6: No, I think I've tried it with probably the right
Speaker 6: guys for other people. But it's it's not It wasn't them,
Speaker 6: It was me because I actually.
Speaker 3: Like living on my own.
Speaker 6: I like being able to go up and down my
Speaker 6: stairs farting like a queen and not having to explain
Speaker 6: I like being able to smoke all over my house
Speaker 6: and have someone go.
Speaker 3: You know, I like my privacy.
Speaker 2: Honestly, I thought that I would be an Oprah type
Speaker 2: of person, But I think I want to be Woe
Speaker 2: go but when I grow up. Because I really appreciated
Speaker 2: that in that instance, she could have.
Speaker 1: Lied what efference between Oprah.
Speaker 2: Like in this scenari Oprah is the quintessential matriarch, all
Speaker 2: the positive qualities, she's nurturing, she gardens. She doesn't have kids,
Speaker 2: but she's always wanted them, and she's been with this
Speaker 2: one man and he's the guy. And it's just like
Speaker 2: she's introspective in a really appealing way, and her ideas
Speaker 2: about the world are very agreeable and accessible and made
Speaker 2: for consumption. And then you have Willpi Goldberg, who carries
Speaker 2: the same amount of wisdom, but it feels like it's
Speaker 2: so unique to her. You know, this interview is trying
Speaker 2: to put words in her mouth to say, well, maybe
Speaker 2: you didn't marry the right person.
Speaker 1: No, like they are good people. I just don't want
Speaker 1: to be married. Oh but surely no.
Speaker 4: No, that it's a very interesting meeting of minds are
Speaker 4: very persistent. I mean that was like journalism one one
Speaker 4: in a really scary way, but did you?
Speaker 1: And could you?
Speaker 2: And she's like, I'm telling you exactly how it was,
Speaker 2: and you're not listening, but that idea of you know,
Speaker 2: she did it three times. She got married three whole
Speaker 2: time for people that to this day she still thinks
Speaker 2: are great people, and still didn't enjoy it. And I
Speaker 2: don't think a lot of us have prepared ourselves for
Speaker 2: the reality that you will get married and not enjoy
Speaker 2: it in the same way you visit that country on
Speaker 2: a vacation you don't like it, or you get that
Speaker 2: job and it's not that great, or you make that
Speaker 2: friend and they're not that cool. But this marriage thing
Speaker 2: is so pedestalized, and I don't think we live a
Speaker 2: lot of room for it to be wrong, and that's
Speaker 2: why it goes wrong. And she did it three wa
Speaker 2: and barely remembered.
Speaker 5: One was a.
Speaker 1: Church wedding, like didn't even make an impression. It was
Speaker 1: like a bad dream.
Speaker 2: I love Whoopee. That felt really good to hear. Good
Speaker 2: on you, whoopee. If you're listening, thank you for the inspiration.
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