WEBVTT - MINI! Should your kids be paying board once they turn 18? ❓

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<v Speaker 2>and your burning questions, and we have a very good

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<v Speaker 2>one today. Meghan is called in with quite the predicament. Meghan, Hi, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>tell us what's going down.

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<v Speaker 3>My daughter's twenty one. She's just got her first full

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<v Speaker 3>time job. You know, she's doing well. We're really proud

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<v Speaker 3>of her. But look, as you would know, time's are

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<v Speaker 3>tough at the moment. Seems a really expensive, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>our interest rates, everything's gone up. So we're basically asked

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<v Speaker 3>her to start paying rent and it's only one hundred

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<v Speaker 3>dollars a week. We think that's pretty fair. It's just

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<v Speaker 3>caused major grief in our household at the moment. Her

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<v Speaker 3>argument is, we didn't ask her, you know, her brothers

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<v Speaker 3>and sisters to pay rent when they lived with us,

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<v Speaker 3>and to be fair, we didn't, but that was a

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<v Speaker 3>long time ago. Things have changed, living pressures, costs. It's

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<v Speaker 3>just it's so expensive at the moment, and she's refusing

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<v Speaker 3>to pay the rent. And I guess the question is,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm sure other parents who have kids living at

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<v Speaker 3>home are going through the same thing. I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 3>think you need to move out it you've got to

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<v Speaker 3>pay rent. My hubby's so soft on her. He's sort of,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, avoiding the question. He's actually even had to

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<v Speaker 3>sort of start doing some uber driving on the site.

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<v Speaker 3>How old it's a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>How old were your other kids when they moved out

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<v Speaker 2>of home? You said your daughter's twenty one years old.

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<v Speaker 2>How old were you have two other children and one other.

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<v Speaker 3>Child two one was nineteen and one was twenty.

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<v Speaker 2>So she's stayed longer.

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<v Speaker 3>She has she has and look, that's okay. We love

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<v Speaker 3>having her, We love having her at home. It's wonderful

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<v Speaker 3>and it's really hard for kids these days to get

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<v Speaker 3>a start trying to say for a home. I get

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<v Speaker 3>all that, but it's really causing grace with us. She

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<v Speaker 3>makes pretty good money and she's just refusing.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to be pretty brutal here. If she has

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<v Speaker 4>a problem as an adult working a full time job

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<v Speaker 4>with paying one hundred dollars a week.

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<v Speaker 1>Let her move out.

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<v Speaker 4>I can guarantee you she'll realize pretty quickly that one

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<v Speaker 4>hundred dollars a week is a really good deal. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't think there is anything wrong with you asking your

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<v Speaker 4>adult child who lives at home to contribute one hundred

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<v Speaker 4>dollars a week. I'm one hundred percent on your side.

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<v Speaker 2>When I first heard this, my thought was, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 2>if you didn't do it for the older children, it's

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<v Speaker 2>probably there probably feels like to her there's some favoritism.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how I would interpret it. She's already lived there longer.

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<v Speaker 2>She's already had the grace period that they had, which

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<v Speaker 2>should be your argument back. And I'm I mean, originally

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<v Speaker 2>I was kind of like, oh, I don't know, maybe kids.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm with you as well, Britt, I mean to change.

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<v Speaker 2>What is what's she saying when she says I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>paying it? Does she pay her phone bill? Does she

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<v Speaker 2>pay all for the other the other expenses that she

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<v Speaker 2>has for her own life while she's living in your house?

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<v Speaker 3>She covers her bills for that sort of stuff like

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<v Speaker 3>her personal expenses, and that's fine, but I just think

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<v Speaker 3>I just don't think one hundred dollars a week is

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<v Speaker 3>that much.

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<v Speaker 1>Megan. I am going to have the differing opinion here

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<v Speaker 1>in this situation. I think she should be paying rent

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<v Speaker 1>because the parents are struggling, and Meghan, you need the help,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's living off the land, and she's twenty one,

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<v Speaker 1>she's an adult. However, my opinion over arching is you

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<v Speaker 1>should not have to pay rent if you're living at

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<v Speaker 1>home and it is not a dire situation and money

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<v Speaker 1>isn't needed. Help out because that is what you should

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<v Speaker 1>do as a loving, as a normal, compassionate, empathetic post.

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<v Speaker 4>No, because in addition to this, I have two other things,

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<v Speaker 4>and I get I'm quite angry about this, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't feel that. Yeah, I have two things to.

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<v Speaker 4>Say about this one. The world doesn't work like that.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to make your own way. She's probably lucky

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<v Speaker 4>she can get away with one hundred dollars a week.

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<v Speaker 4>It's also character building. You can't be cushioned your whole life.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to know that it can be a brutal

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<v Speaker 4>world out there too. They had their children. We weren't

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<v Speaker 4>about to go into a recession. We have inflation, we

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<v Speaker 4>have cost of living that's gone up. I'm sure the

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<v Speaker 4>parents aren't asking for money because they just want to oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I want to make life harder for my daughter. No,

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<v Speaker 4>they're asking because they genuinely need a contribution to keep

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<v Speaker 4>the house.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree in this situation, yes, but there are many

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<v Speaker 1>families that I want to teach my kid how life works.

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<v Speaker 1>You pay rent. No, you brought them into this world.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's fair.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that this is a very different situation. And

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<v Speaker 2>if your husband is having to go and work another

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<v Speaker 2>job on top of his job, if he's doing uber

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<v Speaker 2>driving in order to make ends meet, and your daughter

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<v Speaker 2>has this disposable income that she is earning but has

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<v Speaker 2>absolutely no expenses because they're covered by her then as

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<v Speaker 2>a twenty one year old, I think she's being selfish.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and we're all in a green sea.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I think you should hold your ground and

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<v Speaker 2>tell you're happy to stop being yourself Donner.

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<v Speaker 4>I would she took so long, I'd up at one fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>Inflation.

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<v Speaker 2>We feel you met on your.

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<v Speaker 1>Side, Megan. We appreciate it. If you want to get

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<v Speaker 1>in touch for some advice like that pick up on

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