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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for.

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Speaker 2: The time poor parent who just wants answers.

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Speaker 3: Now, when we are intentional, we just get better results.

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Speaker 2: We create moments, because moments aren't created on their own.

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Speaker 2: And now here's the stars of our show, My Mum

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Speaker 2: and Dad today.

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Speaker 3: This is doctor Justin Colson, the author of six books

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Speaker 3: about raising happy families. This much I can tell you

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Speaker 3: you can write six books about happy families and still

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Speaker 3: struggle to have a happy family.

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Speaker 1: But I can also assure you that if you read.

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Speaker 3: A book about having a happy family, you will so

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Speaker 3: buy one because It'll make a difference for you, even

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Speaker 3: if I'm struggling every now and again. And I'm here

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Speaker 3: with the laughing wife in the background, My Wife Podcast,

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Speaker 3: Partner Parenting, Partner, Missus, Happy Families, Kylie, Mum to our

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Speaker 3: six daughters.

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Speaker 2: Well, shout out to all the moms and dads who

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Speaker 2: have now got a little bit more breathing space forever.

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Speaker 1: It's back for everyone.

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Speaker 2: We're all on the same page. We made it.

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Speaker 3: We've talked to a lot of parents in the last

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Speaker 3: week from right around the country who especially in the

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Speaker 3: been like, can.

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Speaker 1: I please just hurry up? Please please please?

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Speaker 3: You know it's not fair Queensland Victoria back, why can

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Speaker 3: some parents love it when the children are at home,

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Speaker 3: but overwhelmingly this year it seems like parents are like,

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Speaker 3: So this is the episode. Every week, every Friday, we

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Speaker 3: talk about how We'll do better tomorrow. The name of

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Speaker 3: the episode is I'll do better tomorrow because we're looking

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Speaker 3: for parenting insights, lessons, learnings, things that we can glean

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Speaker 3: to make ourselves more effective as parents. And I kinlie,

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Speaker 3: what what's your insight this week? How can we inspire

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Speaker 3: and learn from our parenting experiences recently?

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Speaker 2: You know, I love celebrations, and I make a really

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Speaker 2: in my house. But I have to convert Australia Day

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Speaker 1: Mate.

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Speaker 3: It's one of those days where we kind of just well,

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Speaker 3: So your word for the year is intentions. So I'm

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Speaker 3: a really great day.

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Speaker 2: We did, We did, but it really, it really took

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Speaker 3: Actually, you know what, I shouldn't say that because that

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Speaker 3: some of these things you made, Pablo, that you made

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Speaker 3: How when we do this, life is better because we're intentionally,

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Speaker 2: And Lamington's came about because Emily made them with me

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Speaker 3: You're learning, that's that's the old do better tomorrow is

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Speaker 2: We create moments because moments aren't created on their own.

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Speaker 3: Can I share a fun moment from our Australia Day?

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Speaker 1: So we got up early, we went to the beach.

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Speaker 3: Put in the effort and you get out of life

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Speaker 3: I've got a different kind of an insight to share

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Speaker 3: But sometimes our biggest mistakes give us the best insights.

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Speaker 2: It's the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the time

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Speaker 3: Insight number two, when you don't look after yourself as

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Speaker 1: I was like, I've got to actually get this right.

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Speaker 2: I think if you let that child know that's much.

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Speaker 3: We will, Oh my goodness, all those seats, so, you know,

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Speaker 1: Do uk where you.

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Speaker 3: talk about those kinds of issues. So that's my I'll

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