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Speaker 1: Hi everyone, Hey guys, Happy Thursday.
Speaker 2: Happy Thursday for some except for my poor husband Matthew Johnson.
Speaker 3: Do you know what he did?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 2: Actually literally this morning. But I just got a call
Speaker 2: about an hour ago.
Speaker 3: What do I want to know?
Speaker 2: So Marley's been in vacation care for some of our
Speaker 2: school holiday time, and we're gonna call from vacation care.
Speaker 3: Mind you, Marley's in kindergarten, She's been going to kindergarten
Speaker 3: for full half a.
Speaker 2: Year now, and vacation care is part of school, right,
Speaker 2: so it's the same company. It's after school care, same
Speaker 2: rules apply.
Speaker 3: During vacation care.
Speaker 2: Gotcha, got a call from the lovely people who take
Speaker 2: care of my child to ask us why we've sent
Speaker 2: her to school with peanut butter sandwiches.
Speaker 3: Matt just assumed.
Speaker 2: He assumed that the rules don't apply during vacation care. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and he sent her to school with peanuts where there
Speaker 2: are children who are anaphyletics. So now I feel like
Speaker 2: I've been accused of trying to kill some kids off.
Speaker 3: Well, to be.
Speaker 1: Fair, you could have very well killed some kids off.
Speaker 2: No, they do check their lunch. Do you know what
Speaker 2: I did realize once? It took me a while to
Speaker 2: get to that point. I think I spoke about on
Speaker 2: the show. I didn't realize that Natella was actually I
Speaker 2: just didn't think about it. I know it's very obviously
Speaker 2: in the name, but I sent Molly to school several
Speaker 2: times with Natella and it wasn't until I got a
Speaker 2: phone call that they were like, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: I do remember that. That's why this makes it worse
Speaker 1: for Matt, because you guys have done it before.
Speaker 2: It is time for something we do every Thursday, and
Speaker 2: that is ask Guncut. It has become as staple of
Speaker 2: our podcast Life Uncut, and it's where you guys call
Speaker 2: in with your deep You're dark and your questions, and
Speaker 2: even though we are completely unqualified, we do our best
Speaker 2: answer them.
Speaker 3: We have it.
Speaker 1: Emily on the phone.
Speaker 3: Hey Emily, Hi Emily, what's the problem?
Speaker 4: Hi guys. Okay, So, basically, there was a guy I dated,
Speaker 4: maybe like three or four years ago. We were quite serious,
Speaker 4: but like we never like were boyfriend and girlfriend, and
Speaker 4: due to like careers and stuff in the sense that,
Speaker 4: like I work a normal job and he would work
Speaker 4: weird hours, it just never eventuated and my work took
Speaker 4: me other places. Anyways, I just have never been able
Speaker 4: to stop thinking about him, Like you think.
Speaker 3: He's kind of the one that got away.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And the worst bit about it is I'm never
Speaker 4: one to like I'm such a girl's girl, right, Like
Speaker 4: I would never do anything. But he has a girlfriend
Speaker 4: now and they've been together for a year, and I
Speaker 4: thought it would just go away, but it's not.
Speaker 1: Have you dated other people and then it just doesn't
Speaker 1: feel right? Are you in a relationship now? Doesn't feel right.
Speaker 4: I have dated other people in the past, I have
Speaker 4: had a relationship in those three to four years, and yeah,
Speaker 4: I was still thinking about him.
Speaker 1: Do you have any contact with him?
Speaker 4: This is so bad? I do swear, I swear such
Speaker 4: a girl's girl, Like I would never move in on him,
Speaker 4: but we still chat yeah here in there about like
Speaker 4: whatever's happening in the world, and like things I know
Speaker 4: he likes.
Speaker 3: Okay, so does he I know he likes.
Speaker 2: Does he ever give you the indication like, does he
Speaker 2: ever overstep the mark? Or is he giving you the
Speaker 2: indication that like, had it been different, he would have
Speaker 2: wanted it to work out.
Speaker 4: So basically, back in October, we had like a drunk
Speaker 4: phone call and he was in a relationship at this time,
Speaker 4: and he said, oh, like we just didn't work out
Speaker 4: because our life paths didn't go that way. And he
Speaker 4: still thinks of me nicely. But he tells his partner everything,
Speaker 4: and he's completely open with her and trusting with her.
Speaker 4: And I would never do anything to her a relationship
Speaker 4: or I wouldn't even like let him do something to
Speaker 4: affect that, because I know what that could mean if
Speaker 4: I were to get in a relationship with him and stuff.
Speaker 2: By that, Emily, I know what I mean, Yes I do,
Speaker 2: But I also just think that sometimes the fantasy is
Speaker 2: better than the real life. Like I think that you
Speaker 2: can build it up in your head and be like,
Speaker 2: he's the one that's got away. If we had another chance,
Speaker 2: maybe he's my person.
Speaker 1: But sometimes they do get away.
Speaker 3: But he's not your person.
Speaker 2: He's got a girlfriend, so if he wanted to be
Speaker 2: your person, he would free up. He's a calendar that
Speaker 2: he hasn't done that, and he's definitely stayed committed in
Speaker 2: a relationship.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I kind of think there isn't much that you can do.
Speaker 2: And I don't know if I would be putting myself
Speaker 2: in the firing line of telling him how I feel
Speaker 2: when he's in a relationship, for it doesn't agree with me,
Speaker 2: for it's looking at me like she's.
Speaker 3: The message just doesn't happen.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not saying that doesn't happen often. I genuinely
Speaker 1: don't know what to tell you, because I am like
Speaker 1: a quite a romantic and I like the idea of
Speaker 1: like I I do believe that there can be right
Speaker 1: people for each other at wrong times, like I know
Speaker 1: people wherever that's happened.
Speaker 3: I believe in that.
Speaker 1: I do believe in going after what she want, but
Speaker 1: obviously within reason. I don't mean that about like being
Speaker 1: a homewreck and breaking up relationships but it's if you
Speaker 1: genuinely believe someone is the one that makes me be Like,
Speaker 1: if he was in a relationship, I'd be like turn
Speaker 1: up to his house, like tell him. If he says
Speaker 1: he's not interested, it's fine, move on. At least you
Speaker 1: know that and you can put it to bed. This
Speaker 1: is what I think he do. It's wrong to try
Speaker 1: and break up a relationship, is wrong to do the
Speaker 1: wrong thing and emotionally cheat and cheat and things like that.
Speaker 1: You are well, I'm just saying she has not stopped
Speaker 1: thinking about him. She loves him, she thinks he's the one.
Speaker 3: This is what I would say, get a dog.
Speaker 1: No, I would say, hey, really, honestly, I don't think
Speaker 1: we can maintain this friendship anymore. I still have feelings
Speaker 1: for you, so I don't think it's right, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to do the right thing by your relationship and me.
Speaker 1: That way, you are being a good person and pulling back.
Speaker 1: As long as you commit to pulling back, You've also
Speaker 1: let him know why, which is like, my feelings are
Speaker 1: still there. Then he can go and do.
Speaker 3: With it what he will.
Speaker 1: He'll either feel nothing for you and say like I
Speaker 1: understand and get on with your life, or he'll be like, wow,
Speaker 1: I've always felt the same way and didn't think she did,
Speaker 1: and then something problem.
Speaker 2: Okay, The problem I have with it is that no
Speaker 2: matter what you do, even if you do throw that
Speaker 2: out there and he goes and turns around and says like, oh,
Speaker 2: now I have confused feelings. The amount of like back
Speaker 2: and forth because no one's going to receive that information
Speaker 2: and then instantly go, you know what, I have those
Speaker 2: feelings for you too. I'm going to break up with
Speaker 2: my girlfriend, move out of the house, and then we
Speaker 2: can start a consensual relationship together.
Speaker 3: I'm not going to cheat. I'm going to be a
Speaker 3: stand up guy.
Speaker 2: There's nowhere in between except for it to either be
Speaker 2: he agrees, and then there's cheating for him to like
Speaker 2: get the validation that he needs in order to leave
Speaker 2: the relationship. He's not going to from a one line
Speaker 2: of you saying he's still got feelings, break up with
Speaker 2: his current girlfriend and move out of the house they
Speaker 2: live in. He's going to need way more validation, which
Speaker 2: just means you're putting yourself in a drama filled unnecessary
Speaker 2: relationship with someone who has got a relationship and I
Speaker 2: just think you don't need this in your life.
Speaker 1: She does need him in his life when he's her penguin.
Speaker 2: No, there's more than one person for everyone. You meet
Speaker 2: someone else, Emily, what are you gonna do?
Speaker 3: Whose advice you're taking? Laurs on?
Speaker 2: Mine?
Speaker 4: Part of me is still like do I just suffer
Speaker 4: in silence?
Speaker 2: Just keep waiting, don't keep waiting, Just don't wait, Emily,
Speaker 2: date other people I have?
Speaker 4: I have none of them.
Speaker 3: Oh, Emily, I do not envy you.
Speaker 2: Good luck with this, and make sure you us a
Speaker 2: call back and tell us how it all goes.
Speaker 4: I will, Thanks, guys, Thanks Emily.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure some of you know if you
Speaker 2: listen to the show, but it might be used to
Speaker 2: anyone who's new. I am currently pregnant with my third baby,
Speaker 2: and let me tell you, third pregnancy is a whole
Speaker 2: different kettle of fish to the first one, and the
Speaker 2: second one just.
Speaker 1: Like doesn't even touch the sides.
Speaker 3: Really for you, does it?
Speaker 1: Well? That?
Speaker 2: Yeah, the baby's just gonna shoot straight out.
Speaker 3: Isn't even gonna have any resistance. No, I no, I
Speaker 3: didn't mean. I don't mean you're loose when you said it. No,
Speaker 3: I meant life doesn't watch the size. I was like,
Speaker 3: I can put your legs in steir it to shoot
Speaker 3: it out.
Speaker 1: I menage him, like it HiT's different, Like again, that
Speaker 1: could be taking the wrong way.
Speaker 3: It is going to touch the sides on the way out.
Speaker 3: I mean it.
Speaker 1: He's different, Like you're less involved in Like you're like,
Speaker 1: it'll come in nine months because you've done it twice
Speaker 1: and you're busy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, look and love that. You were like, no, I
Speaker 3: still will touch people.
Speaker 2: I was like, one can only hope that it does
Speaker 2: still touch the size as it comes out. But anyway, look,
Speaker 2: it is very different. And I say this because I
Speaker 2: feel like this pregnancy has just completely gotten away from me.
Speaker 2: And sometimes I feel pretty good since I've gotten my
Speaker 2: refleux under.
Speaker 3: Control that I often actually just forget that I'm pregnant,
Speaker 3: and I forget you're pregnant.
Speaker 2: Yeah, until I get Britt was talking about just how
Speaker 2: we should do this morning. She was like, Oh, we
Speaker 2: should really do this, like you do a big party
Speaker 2: at the end of the year, like a show party,
Speaker 2: and we'll invite all our listeners and we can do
Speaker 2: it on a boat. And I was like, I'll have
Speaker 2: a six week old baby. But she sounds good. And
Speaker 2: I was like, what completely blanked that I was having
Speaker 2: a kid. But anyway, look, every so often I get
Speaker 2: a reminder like I'll get a massive thump to the
Speaker 2: uterus because I'll get a big, solid kick, and I'm
Speaker 2: I'm well passed halfway now. I think I'm about twenty
Speaker 2: five weeks. And I just the other day discovered that
Speaker 2: I've hit a part of pregnancy or a new stage
Speaker 2: that I never got to in my first or second
Speaker 2: and it was incredibly humbling. So we were all in
Speaker 2: the office having a little dance. We were filming some content,
Speaker 2: and part of that was that we had to, like,
Speaker 2: you know, really kind of get into this dance that
Speaker 2: we were doing.
Speaker 3: And I did.
Speaker 2: I was really channelling my nineteen year old self being
Speaker 2: at the nightclubs. And I dropped it like it's hot,
Speaker 2: and I did a liberated woman.
Speaker 3: Drop, I live my best life drop, and I got
Speaker 3: to the bottom of that drop. I got low and
Speaker 3: I got low. I got low, I got low, and
Speaker 3: then I pissed my pants at the bottom of bottom Jean.
Speaker 2: It was I didn't and no, I'm not just talking
Speaker 2: about tiny bit of bladder leakage. I got to the
Speaker 2: bottom of that drop and I fully wet myself. Well
Speaker 2: maybe it won't, Cutch the scientist. This just got to
Speaker 2: shoot right in and there was something incredibly I don't
Speaker 2: even want to say humbling, because I know I've said that,
Speaker 2: but it was just humiliating having to stop and like,
Speaker 2: sorry everybody, I have to go to the bathroom. And
Speaker 2: now the problem is is like I don't know whether
Speaker 2: I did damage, or whether I've just set things off,
Speaker 2: or this kid is.
Speaker 3: Just on my bladder in a way that it shouldn't.
Speaker 1: I don't think you need damage in your liberated woman
Speaker 1: drop because it's just it's part and parcel right third pregnancy.
Speaker 2: Potentially, but it had never happened prior. And now if
Speaker 2: I cough too hard, if I sneeze too hard, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's just it's become part of my everyday staple.
Speaker 3: You're not alone, Laura.
Speaker 1: There are some pretty high statistics on women that having continence.
Speaker 1: It's I don't want you to be embarrassed. We all
Speaker 1: pretended it didn't happen. We all turned a blind eye,
Speaker 1: and I even spilt my water bottle to try and cover.
Speaker 3: And someone mopped up the puddle.
Speaker 1: So someone said, what is this and I said, sorry,
Speaker 1: clumsy me again, I spilled.
Speaker 3: It's my lime cordial juice. Apologies.
Speaker 1: You know why I think I forget you're pregnant is
Speaker 1: because on the rare occasions I do remember, I try
Speaker 1: and feel it moving, and you're like, oh, it's so movie.
Speaker 1: Every time I go and try and touch it, it
Speaker 1: just freezes, like it doesn't want to move for me,
Speaker 1: I think it knows.
Speaker 3: It's because you're very aggressive anytime you come over. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So like just before this is literally just before we
Speaker 2: started the show, I was like, oh, the baby's kicking.
Speaker 2: Heaps come and feel and Brick came over and she
Speaker 2: didn't stick her hand on my belly.
Speaker 3: She gave me an alf a caut You just you
Speaker 3: don't rest your hand, you like really get in there.
Speaker 1: And then had to sort of poke it to make
Speaker 1: it move.
Speaker 3: Do you not. I'm still trying to like feel it out.
Speaker 2: And then Britt says, oh, don't worry, I have a
Speaker 2: technique to get it to move. She lifts up my
Speaker 2: shirt and gives me a raspberry on my stomach.
Speaker 3: I'm a full grown woman having my third.
Speaker 2: Baby, and I don't think I've had a raspberry.
Speaker 3: In a whole lot.
Speaker 2: Fifteen years, No, fifteen years, twenty five.
Speaker 3: Years, A long time, you're well, long time, you're welcome.
Speaker 3: I enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: It is a trick that you are supposed to do
Speaker 1: like it must be like the vibrations or something like
Speaker 1: when you do a raspberry it makes it tickle or something.
Speaker 3: I don't believe that for a while.
Speaker 2: Second, I don't believe that giving someone a raspberry makes
Speaker 2: a baby move in their belly.
Speaker 3: Here we go. No, actually, I stand correction.
Speaker 1: No, blowing raspberries on a pregnant belly is unlikely to
Speaker 1: do anything. There you go. Well, I just treated you
Speaker 1: to a little little raspberry for your for your Tuesday.
Speaker 3: Well, I stand corrected. I've been raspberry and a lot
Speaker 3: of pregnant women. I hope you enjoyed it as much
Speaker 3: as I did. You're living your learning. I'm mind blown.
Speaker 2: I'm really mind blown.
Speaker 3: Sorry, Laura, because you don't have to apply. Okay, Well,
Speaker 3: after the break, let's just.
Speaker 1: Really get out of here, because I feel really embarrassed
Speaker 1: and all.
Speaker 3: Over the weekend.
Speaker 2: Last weekend it was my oldest daughter, Marley May. It
Speaker 2: was her six year birthday party.
Speaker 3: Six years.
Speaker 4: Just what it is?
Speaker 3: Six six. It's her sixth year. I'm just six on
Speaker 3: the planet. Yeah, she was six.
Speaker 2: We had a birthday party for her and we had
Speaker 2: a pinata. I think the pinadas are just like the
Speaker 2: most staple kid's birthday party. If you need something to
Speaker 2: do that's going to tie them over for ten minutes,
Speaker 2: and you also want to get all all these out
Speaker 2: of your own house. You stuff at Pinada, you hang
Speaker 2: it up and you let the kids whack.
Speaker 3: It for a while. I'm a pinard A super fan.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie. You're a Pinada super fan.
Speaker 1: Every year. I pinada once a year.
Speaker 3: People. People don't know this about me.
Speaker 1: I am a secret pinata just by yourself or Pinada.
Speaker 1: It is my family's Christmas tradition since literally there's not
Speaker 1: a year we don't have a photo since we were like.
Speaker 3: Three years old.
Speaker 1: Like our whole family, all my cousins and Narnie's and everyone,
Speaker 1: Pinarda is every single Christmas.
Speaker 3: So I posted it on Instagram.
Speaker 2: Right there was a couple of photos from the birthday
Speaker 2: party that I put up and I posted one of
Speaker 2: my stories on Instagram. I never realized that pinadas were controversial.
Speaker 2: I didn't know this well, apparently they are. And the
Speaker 2: reason why I say this is because not you, I
Speaker 2: mean sorry, people like just have some fun, let's go home. No,
Speaker 2: there was quite a few people in my DMS who Firstly,
Speaker 2: the question was raised around the violence of pinadas. There
Speaker 2: was also questions about you're.
Speaker 4: Trying to get a lolly.
Speaker 3: You're getting a lolly. I'm sorry, I can't even I'm
Speaker 3: going to go home. I can't even listen. It is okay.
Speaker 3: Let me let me explain to you when it was raised.
Speaker 2: Firstly, I did read one of these comments that was
Speaker 2: sent to me and I was a bit like, oh,
Speaker 2: I see your point, but I think it's a stretch.
Speaker 3: So we always talk to our kids about not being.
Speaker 2: Violent, right about like never hit things, don't hit people,
Speaker 2: don't throw your toys, like behave in a way that's
Speaker 2: showing kindness, I guess, and that's the thing that you
Speaker 2: always try and uphold with your children. And then at
Speaker 2: birthday parties or once a year, apparently if you're Brittany Hockley,
Speaker 2: you get your kid's favorite thing, like what's their most
Speaker 2: favorite thing in the entire world world a unicorn, Let's
Speaker 2: stuff it, let's fist it with lollies and then give
Speaker 2: it a noose and hang it up by the neck
Speaker 2: and get all the kids in the line to smack
Speaker 2: it with a pole. Now, this person was so, I know,
Speaker 2: I know, I know, and I agree with you. I
Speaker 2: was like, guys, I think that we've gone too far.
Speaker 2: The PC police need to calm down. However, someone then
Speaker 2: sent to me that there are a type of pinnata
Speaker 2: called a no hit pinada.
Speaker 3: So it's a pinada that's been.
Speaker 2: Specifically the parents who want to have no violence. It's
Speaker 2: not violent, wait for it, and it comes with all
Speaker 2: these strings in the belly, and so it's kind of
Speaker 2: like a lucky dip. So it's got all these different
Speaker 2: strings that hang down from it. And the little kids
Speaker 2: go and they pull a string, and then that one
Speaker 2: didn't do anything.
Speaker 3: Another pull a string.
Speaker 2: That one didn't do anything, And if you get the
Speaker 2: right string, you go boom, and then the belly of
Speaker 2: the unicorn opens up and all the lollies rain down
Speaker 2: and the kids downing underneath.
Speaker 3: Fun does it? No? No kid wants to pull a string. Guys.
Speaker 1: I'm all for being progressive, but this is ridiculous.
Speaker 3: Like, just okay, hear me out.
Speaker 1: You don't have to have a unicorn. Why don't you
Speaker 1: get a criminal a pinata in the shape of a
Speaker 1: house and call it renovation. Teach your kids young, we're
Speaker 1: knocking the house down, we're gonna rebuild.
Speaker 3: It's an episode of the block.
Speaker 1: It's not violent. You're literally trying to have fun to
Speaker 1: It's like like playing baseball.
Speaker 2: You're swinging about what we're gonna not play baseball?
Speaker 1: Like, what's the problem here? Stop taking away all fun
Speaker 1: from the kids.
Speaker 3: Okay, well you heard it here first. Britney's against it.
Speaker 2: I'm not giving I can see that, and no one,
Speaker 2: no one's ever gonna ask you to. I will never
Speaker 2: ever give you a no hit pinada.
Speaker 3: Don't.
Speaker 2: I can't even believe they exist. Look, and I'm on
Speaker 2: your side with this. I got the messages and I.
Speaker 1: Was like, surely now you'll be shocked at how extreme
Speaker 1: we are with our pinada.
Speaker 3: We no Pritty's got a pinata tattoo. No wait to
Speaker 3: hear this.
Speaker 1: We've always had multiple pinadas. We make them, and we
Speaker 1: make them at different levels. My grandpa used to make
Speaker 1: them so hard that the adults would have like baseball
Speaker 1: bats that couldn't crack them because He thought it was
Speaker 1: hilarious to make it out of like proper cement and stuff.
Speaker 1: So we would have like easy pinadas for the little kids,
Speaker 1: would have different levels to ensure that everyone at our
Speaker 1: Christmas party got a pinada. We built Pulley systems. They're
Speaker 1: on Pulley systems over the poles and stuff like we
Speaker 1: take pinata ing. So seriously, I didn't realize that this
Speaker 1: was Yeah, so I'm propria I don't know.
Speaker 2: That I was going up against someone who was a
Speaker 2: fully invested pinada person.
Speaker 1: Muld be one of my best friends, Laura.
Speaker 3: Anyways,