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Speaker 2: Flex and Fromes.
Speaker 3: This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 4: Answer me, this will riddle me this. Why does being
Speaker 4: a better person feel like performance art? It feels phony,
Speaker 4: it feels insincere, it feels disingenuous, and I'm concerned that
Speaker 4: it's actually ineffective. I only say this because I found
Speaker 4: myself in a situation the other day. I try to
Speaker 4: be quite forgiving of people who are flaky or late,
Speaker 4: because I want to be forgiven when I am flaky
Speaker 4: or late.
Speaker 1: Such is life.
Speaker 4: You do unto others what you'd like done unto you.
Speaker 4: And I was in a situation where I was going
Speaker 4: to the movies with a friend and we had a
Speaker 4: small window of time to eat and then go see
Speaker 4: a movie. And with the way that things had gone,
Speaker 4: we were going to be late.
Speaker 3: Dumplings and Oppenheimer, No, okay, carry on.
Speaker 4: But like, I'm not opposed to it at all, And
Speaker 4: so I don't mind when we push back the meeting
Speaker 4: time or whatever. But because they'd push back the meeting time,
Speaker 4: we're now late. Now I'm hungry, We're going to the cinema.
Speaker 4: It just wasn't great, and I could understand, like it
Speaker 4: was a miscommunication of meat up locations. It was all avoidable,
Speaker 4: but all quite understandable. It wasn't like, what's the what
Speaker 4: I'm looking for?
Speaker 3: Malicious?
Speaker 4: It wasn't malicious on their part. This stuff happens like
Speaker 4: you're in traffic that uber is late, but I could
Speaker 4: feel the irritation bubbling under you. Yeah, And usually the
Speaker 4: area's characteristic is like prone to anger or whatever.
Speaker 1: I'm prone to irritation.
Speaker 4: And I get worried when I get irritated because it
Speaker 4: just starts to bubble, and I don't know where it's
Speaker 4: gonna go. Is it going to bubble and suppress or
Speaker 4: bubble and turn into moodiness.
Speaker 2: This is like rutable bowl syndrome of the soul. It
Speaker 2: could bubble, we could do a diarrhea moment, or perhaps
Speaker 2: it could get clogged up and hit you in a
Speaker 2: different kind of way girlies.
Speaker 4: And so I just knew when I got their new ETA,
Speaker 4: I had that much time to get over it, like
Speaker 4: that much time. And so I was going through the
Speaker 4: roller deck of just tools like it had happens. It's okay,
Speaker 4: it wasn't personal. They didn't mean it. It's happened to
Speaker 4: you too. I literally had to do gymnastics, mental gymnastics,
Speaker 4: and by the time they got there, I hadn't gotten
Speaker 4: over it.
Speaker 2: And now you've tried all the methods, you think this
Speaker 2: is insurmountable.
Speaker 4: So I'm like, let's do a hug, and I'm like
Speaker 4: trying to get into the hug, but I'm like seething,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, you're better than.
Speaker 1: This, babe. It's all good.
Speaker 4: And eventually I did get over it because I was like,
Speaker 4: I want to enjoy, I want to have fun, and
Speaker 4: I don't think they could tell how much I was
Speaker 4: trying to suppress. So I did all the right performance
Speaker 4: art things, but by the end of it, I had
Speaker 4: to question if I had to do all of that
Speaker 4: not to be pissed off at a very acceptable slight.
Speaker 1: Is there much to celebrate?
Speaker 3: So you say being a better person isn't worth it?
Speaker 1: Is that what you're saying.
Speaker 2: I'm just curious, this is what I was getting. What
Speaker 2: are we saying as a society. Let's check the barometer
Speaker 2: what's being said. Do you understand what I'm saying? Have
Speaker 2: you felt something similar? Or am I on my own?
Speaker 2: Am I on a ship of anger and irritation on
Speaker 2: my loansome. Give me the log line like ten words again.
Speaker 3: What you're trying to say, if you.
Speaker 4: Have to coach yourself into the acceptable response, do you
Speaker 4: deserve it?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Is that anything to feel good about it?
Speaker 2: Yes? Okay, I'm with you one hundred percent. Let's take
Speaker 2: since we do like to talk about cycles, let's take
Speaker 2: that into account for just just minstrel cycles, right, just
Speaker 2: for my own personal experience. So, got my period recently,
Speaker 2: first time in many many years. Too, I'm getting sore
Speaker 2: breasts for one week earlier. Correct, The breasts are far
Speaker 2: like aching babes. They like they're ripping off my damn
Speaker 2: body and I'm wearing like compression bras and it's not
Speaker 2: helping every step I take, they're not even moving.
Speaker 4: But this like they know, okay, okay, subtle flex they're
Speaker 4: not even moving.
Speaker 2: Because they're strapped in it. Because they're strapped in And
Speaker 2: I also notice why am I feeling sad?
Speaker 3: I have just got it yesterday? I was crying okay.
Speaker 2: Now by a breakdown?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it like a genuine actual breakdown.
Speaker 2: Shout out to pre flop if this was like the
Speaker 2: flop was about to hit hardcore. In fact, I think
Speaker 2: when you're this was actual flop, because I don't flop
Speaker 2: during when the periods coming. I'm chilling, oh, pre periods,
Speaker 2: a PMS moment.
Speaker 1: Oh, and so I'll.
Speaker 2: Say in those moments, Oh god, guys, I feel like
Speaker 2: a load's just taken off my body because I was
Speaker 2: so upset yesterday.
Speaker 1: Yeah, now you know.
Speaker 4: And this is why I advocate if you are currently menstruating,
Speaker 4: you're doing yourself a huge disservice if you don't track
Speaker 4: your own cycle. I'm not saying you learn the terms
Speaker 4: for generalized conversation. Understand where is your flop in your cycle?
Speaker 4: Because you're guaranteed if you've got a regular cycle, that
Speaker 4: half of it is a floppy state. You get between
Speaker 4: three to five days of feeling your best.
Speaker 1: Don't waste it.
Speaker 3: Why am I waking up with a headache?
Speaker 2: I go on the blow out and says you might
Speaker 2: experience a headache today, Yeah, a little twinge in the back.
Speaker 1: You might've tne that pain.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it knows, guys, And it's not because that app knows.
Speaker 3: It's because your body knows.
Speaker 1: Your body knows.
Speaker 4: Don't This is what I was saying a couple of
Speaker 4: weeks ago. Don't be above basic experiences. Knowing about your
Speaker 4: mental cycle feels kind of basic because you've had it
Speaker 4: for ten fifteen years of your life. It's not basic.
Speaker 4: You are literally shooting yourself in the ankle and then
Speaker 4: stepping on where your spine connects to your neck that
Speaker 4: bit every time you don't think about the basics that
Speaker 4: make your body.
Speaker 2: Function, because at the end of the day, we are humans.
Speaker 4: It sounds condescending when someone's like, in a response, you're
Speaker 4: saying you have a headache, Oh, did you drink water?
Speaker 1: But you haven't? You haven't They know?
Speaker 2: Point being is okay, yeah, no, okay. I say that's
Speaker 2: to say yes, I think it's always good to try
Speaker 2: and be better, even if it's not going to be appreciated,
Speaker 2: because every time you do something good, I think, oh,
Speaker 2: you feel.
Speaker 4: Good until you don't exactly, But I commended myself on
Speaker 4: the process. In a different life, I would have just
Speaker 4: been annoyed, and then that person would have had to
Speaker 4: be accountable for a mistake they didn't intend to make,
Speaker 4: and then my irritation on top, which is just not helpful.
Speaker 2: Like my twelve English teacher said, a life unexamined is
Speaker 2: a life not worth living.
Speaker 3: Still not sure what.
Speaker 4: I feel like a philosopher said that first, which I
Speaker 4: feel like it was like Seneca, Socrates, Plato, which is
Speaker 4: the other guy.
Speaker 1: That wasn't a direct quote from the English teacher.
Speaker 2: No, they didn't source that from the throat from the
Speaker 2: guy I said, M.
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