WEBVTT - Being A Better Person Is ✨ Performance Art ✨

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms.

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<v Speaker 2>Flex and Fromes.

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<v Speaker 3>This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 4>Answer me, this will riddle me this. Why does being

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<v Speaker 4>a better person feel like performance art? It feels phony,

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<v Speaker 4>it feels insincere, it feels disingenuous, and I'm concerned that

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<v Speaker 4>it's actually ineffective. I only say this because I found

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<v Speaker 4>myself in a situation the other day. I try to

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<v Speaker 4>be quite forgiving of people who are flaky or late,

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<v Speaker 4>because I want to be forgiven when I am flaky

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<v Speaker 4>or late.

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<v Speaker 1>Such is life.

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<v Speaker 4>You do unto others what you'd like done unto you.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was in a situation where I was going

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<v Speaker 4>to the movies with a friend and we had a

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<v Speaker 4>small window of time to eat and then go see

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<v Speaker 4>a movie. And with the way that things had gone,

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<v Speaker 4>we were going to be late.

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<v Speaker 3>Dumplings and Oppenheimer, No, okay, carry on.

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<v Speaker 4>But like, I'm not opposed to it at all, And

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<v Speaker 4>so I don't mind when we push back the meeting

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<v Speaker 4>time or whatever. But because they'd push back the meeting time,

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<v Speaker 4>we're now late. Now I'm hungry, We're going to the cinema.

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<v Speaker 4>It just wasn't great, and I could understand, like it

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<v Speaker 4>was a miscommunication of meat up locations. It was all avoidable,

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<v Speaker 4>but all quite understandable. It wasn't like, what's the what

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<v Speaker 4>I'm looking for?

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<v Speaker 3>Malicious?

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<v Speaker 4>It wasn't malicious on their part. This stuff happens like

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<v Speaker 4>you're in traffic that uber is late, but I could

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<v Speaker 4>feel the irritation bubbling under you. Yeah, And usually the

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<v Speaker 4>area's characteristic is like prone to anger or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm prone to irritation.

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<v Speaker 4>And I get worried when I get irritated because it

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<v Speaker 4>just starts to bubble, and I don't know where it's

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<v Speaker 4>gonna go. Is it going to bubble and suppress or

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<v Speaker 4>bubble and turn into moodiness.

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<v Speaker 2>This is like rutable bowl syndrome of the soul. It

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<v Speaker 2>could bubble, we could do a diarrhea moment, or perhaps

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<v Speaker 2>it could get clogged up and hit you in a

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<v Speaker 2>different kind of way girlies.

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<v Speaker 4>And so I just knew when I got their new ETA,

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<v Speaker 4>I had that much time to get over it, like

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<v Speaker 4>that much time. And so I was going through the

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<v Speaker 4>roller deck of just tools like it had happens. It's okay,

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<v Speaker 4>it wasn't personal. They didn't mean it. It's happened to

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<v Speaker 4>you too. I literally had to do gymnastics, mental gymnastics,

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<v Speaker 4>and by the time they got there, I hadn't gotten

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<v Speaker 4>over it.

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<v Speaker 2>And now you've tried all the methods, you think this

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<v Speaker 2>is insurmountable.

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<v Speaker 4>So I'm like, let's do a hug, and I'm like

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<v Speaker 4>trying to get into the hug, but I'm like seething,

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm like, you're better than.

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<v Speaker 1>This, babe. It's all good.

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<v Speaker 4>And eventually I did get over it because I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>I want to enjoy, I want to have fun, and

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think they could tell how much I was

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<v Speaker 4>trying to suppress. So I did all the right performance

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<v Speaker 4>art things, but by the end of it, I had

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<v Speaker 4>to question if I had to do all of that

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<v Speaker 4>not to be pissed off at a very acceptable slight.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there much to celebrate?

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<v Speaker 3>So you say being a better person isn't worth it?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just curious, this is what I was getting. What

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<v Speaker 2>are we saying as a society. Let's check the barometer

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<v Speaker 2>what's being said. Do you understand what I'm saying? Have

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<v Speaker 2>you felt something similar? Or am I on my own?

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<v Speaker 2>Am I on a ship of anger and irritation on

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<v Speaker 2>my loansome. Give me the log line like ten words again.

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<v Speaker 3>What you're trying to say, if you.

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<v Speaker 4>Have to coach yourself into the acceptable response, do you

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<v Speaker 4>deserve it?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that anything to feel good about it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Okay, I'm with you one hundred percent. Let's take

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<v Speaker 2>since we do like to talk about cycles, let's take

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<v Speaker 2>that into account for just just minstrel cycles, right, just

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<v Speaker 2>for my own personal experience. So, got my period recently,

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<v Speaker 2>first time in many many years. Too, I'm getting sore

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<v Speaker 2>breasts for one week earlier. Correct, The breasts are far

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<v Speaker 2>like aching babes. They like they're ripping off my damn

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<v Speaker 2>body and I'm wearing like compression bras and it's not

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<v Speaker 2>helping every step I take, they're not even moving.

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<v Speaker 4>But this like they know, okay, okay, subtle flex they're

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<v Speaker 4>not even moving.

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<v Speaker 2>Because they're strapped in it. Because they're strapped in And

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<v Speaker 2>I also notice why am I feeling sad?

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<v Speaker 3>I have just got it yesterday? I was crying okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Now by a breakdown?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it like a genuine actual breakdown.

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<v Speaker 2>Shout out to pre flop if this was like the

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<v Speaker 2>flop was about to hit hardcore. In fact, I think

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<v Speaker 2>when you're this was actual flop, because I don't flop

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<v Speaker 2>during when the periods coming. I'm chilling, oh, pre periods,

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<v Speaker 2>a PMS moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, and so I'll.

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<v Speaker 2>Say in those moments, Oh god, guys, I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>a load's just taken off my body because I was

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<v Speaker 2>so upset yesterday.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, now you know.

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<v Speaker 4>And this is why I advocate if you are currently menstruating,

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<v Speaker 4>you're doing yourself a huge disservice if you don't track

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<v Speaker 4>your own cycle. I'm not saying you learn the terms

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<v Speaker 4>for generalized conversation. Understand where is your flop in your cycle?

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<v Speaker 4>Because you're guaranteed if you've got a regular cycle, that

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<v Speaker 4>half of it is a floppy state. You get between

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<v Speaker 4>three to five days of feeling your best.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't waste it.

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<v Speaker 3>Why am I waking up with a headache?

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<v Speaker 2>I go on the blow out and says you might

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<v Speaker 2>experience a headache today, Yeah, a little twinge in the back.

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<v Speaker 1>You might've tne that pain.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it knows, guys, And it's not because that app knows.

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<v Speaker 3>It's because your body knows.

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<v Speaker 1>Your body knows.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't This is what I was saying a couple of

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<v Speaker 4>weeks ago. Don't be above basic experiences. Knowing about your

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<v Speaker 4>mental cycle feels kind of basic because you've had it

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<v Speaker 4>for ten fifteen years of your life. It's not basic.

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<v Speaker 4>You are literally shooting yourself in the ankle and then

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<v Speaker 4>stepping on where your spine connects to your neck that

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<v Speaker 4>bit every time you don't think about the basics that

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<v Speaker 4>make your body.

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<v Speaker 2>Function, because at the end of the day, we are humans.

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<v Speaker 4>It sounds condescending when someone's like, in a response, you're

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<v Speaker 4>saying you have a headache, Oh, did you drink water?

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<v Speaker 1>But you haven't? You haven't They know?

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<v Speaker 2>Point being is okay, yeah, no, okay. I say that's

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<v Speaker 2>to say yes, I think it's always good to try

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<v Speaker 2>and be better, even if it's not going to be appreciated,

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<v Speaker 2>because every time you do something good, I think, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you feel.

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<v Speaker 4>Good until you don't exactly, But I commended myself on

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<v Speaker 4>the process. In a different life, I would have just

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<v Speaker 4>been annoyed, and then that person would have had to

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<v Speaker 4>be accountable for a mistake they didn't intend to make,

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<v Speaker 4>and then my irritation on top, which is just not helpful.

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<v Speaker 2>Like my twelve English teacher said, a life unexamined is

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<v Speaker 2>a life not worth living.

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<v Speaker 3>Still not sure what.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like a philosopher said that first, which I

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<v Speaker 4>feel like it was like Seneca, Socrates, Plato, which is

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<v Speaker 4>the other guy.

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<v Speaker 1>That wasn't a direct quote from the English teacher.

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<v Speaker 2>No, they didn't source that from the throat from the

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<v Speaker 2>guy I said, M.

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