WEBVTT - G’s Hotline ☎️ Is that a deal breaker? 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.600 The Rising Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:08.320 land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen Bear region. 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:13.320 We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:16.840 sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:20.880 past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:34.159 and terrestrid Islander peoples today. Hello, and welcome back to 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:35.880 the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:38.520 This is the podcast for ordinary. 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:53.240 People who want to do extraordinary things. Jealousy and being 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:59.120 spiteful towards someone is basically like drinking poison and hoping 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:10.360 they die. Hello, welcome back to the Rise and Conker Podcast. 0:01:10.480 --> 0:01:14.160 It is your host Georgie Stevenson, and today are our 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:17.560 fun Friday EPs where you send in your life dilemmas 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:21.880 and myself and I Tea provide our very unqualified two 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:26.080 cents on the situation. So, guys, today we are chatting 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:30.080 what do you do if your boyfriend does not have 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.920 the same passion and drive when it comes to Korea. 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:36.720 Such a good question, you know, I had some tips 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:41.960 on that. The next question was all about what to 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:47.800 do when someone you know is getting promotions and achieving 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:52.840 things and they don't deserve it. Yeah, that's an interesting one. 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:56.960 And then the last one we just chat about limiting 0:01:57.000 --> 0:01:59.840 beliefs with finding a boyfriend. Now what that looks like. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:03.440 So this is a really fun Friday EP before we 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:04.560 get into it a tear. 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:06.400 What is your weekly recommendation? 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:12.359 Ooh oh Season three of Never Have I Ever on Netflix. Oh, yeah, 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:16.840 it's great. It's funny. It's a lot of secondhand embarrassment, 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:20.440 but I absolutely loved it and it just makes me laugh. 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:23.239 Like it's a good, lighthearted watch when you just want 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:25.400 something funny that you don't have to think too much about. 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:28.000 Yes, love, I loved the first season. I've got to 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:30.120 catch up with that. Yeah, it's a very good show. 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:34.480 Amazing good wreck. My recommendation, I don't have any media 0:02:34.560 --> 0:02:39.520 recommendations just because I've been moving a week. But something 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:42.919 I did it was actually the other week and I've 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:47.480 heard it on tiktoks and various podcasts of writing a 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:52.440 hundred things you want to manifest? Wow, So I like, 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:55.200 I only ever focus on like a couple of things 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:56.960 because it's just I feel like I can't get my 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:58.359 energy around. 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:00.160 That many things out. Yes, yeah, if. 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:04.239 Someone said, write down a hundred things you want to manifest. 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:06.800 They can be big, small, they can be now, they 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:10.760 can be in twenty years. It doesn't matter because it 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:14.480 just like expands you to think about more of what 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:16.880 you want to bring in and what you want to 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:19.320 call in. And I did that for the first time 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:21.520 the other day, and oh my god, it was actually 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:22.480 like quite difficult. 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:24.200 Like I was gonna say, I don't even think I 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:25.520 have a hundred things I want. 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:27.320 Well I didn't think so, but I ended up. 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:31.760 Just like like writing, once you get started though, in 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.880 all aspects of your life and like I just want 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:37.400 on tangents Like I was like, I want a private chef. 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:39.600 I want this, I want a private chef. 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.120 I mean, like you've got to really think big. And 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:43.840 it's like it was really cool. It was such an 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.800 expander for me, and it was something that I'm like, oh, 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:49.360 I'm going to do this yearly just to like I 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:53.520 don't know, open my mind and like get past the ceiling. 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:55.560 If it makes sense, I will be doing that. 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:55.920 Yeah. 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:57.800 It was really fun, like put some good music on, 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:00.720 light a candle and being like I'm gonna, you know, 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:02.480 what is one hundred things I. 0:04:02.400 --> 0:04:04.480 Want to manifest it's really exciting and that. 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:07.320 Yeah, that's my recommendation for the week. All right, guys, 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:14.440 let's get into the episode. 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:20.279 Our first question. Dear g, I've been with my boyfriend 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:22.960 for over two years now, and we are very much 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:27.440 in love. He is the sweetest person and very caring. However, 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:30.400 I'm worried that we just don't have the same passion 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:33.440 and drive when it comes to our careers. I'm very 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:36.360 ambitious and I'm constantly wanting to up level and grow, 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:39.839 which he is not. He pretty much just works casually 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:42.560 at the moment, which doesn't bother me too much as 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:44.960 I work full time, but he doesn't seem to be 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:48.040 striving for anything more, which does concern me. He is 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:50.479 a beautiful human and I definitely thought he was my 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.960 person until this. I'm just not sure what to do 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:58.080 or how to broach this topic. Sos Oh, I know 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:01.000 I love absolutely too well. 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:05.920 I guess like I can resonate with this question with Tim. 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:10.120 Obviously not too not that I like, just to the 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:16.640 point of we are very different in regards to Korea, Yeah, 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:22.080 and passions. I'm obviously very very career orientated. If you 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:27.839 haven't noticed, very passionate about what I do, whereas Tim, 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.840 you know, he was a carpenter. He then came and 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:35.200 joined Naked Harvest when we grew and he was downstairs 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:38.880 managing the warehouse. And then recently we had Ivy and 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:41.640 Tim is a full time stay at home dad, so 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:46.200 he's very different career wise. I don't know, Like I 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:51.479 personally love how different we are, and sometimes, to be 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:55.479 completely honest with you, I don't think there would be 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:59.680 room for him to also have the same passion and 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:03.480 career that I have. Like I'm just gonna be very 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:05.520 honest with you and say that I don't think you're 0:06:05.520 --> 0:06:09.560 supposed to admit that, And I have actually thought about this, 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:11.440 and I just I don't think. 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:13.880 I just don't know if there would be enough room 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:15.480 because of the. 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:19.240 Time requirements and the pressure it puts on our relationship 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:23.840 with just me, so like for us, it works really beautiful. 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:26.600 And also I don't know what I would do if 0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:29.919 he wasn't looking after Ivy because we would have to 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:32.680 have like a full time nanny, which is so fun 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:34.599 and I know a lot of people do it, but 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:39.320 I personally am just obsessed that he looks after his daughter. 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:41.560 Yeah, it's really. 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:43.680 Special and I just I'm obsessed with it and so 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:47.159 I don't know. I love how different he is to me. 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:51.200 And we've even spoken about I think in the future 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:56.000 he will find, you know, whether it's a career or 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:59.280 a hobby or something like, he's going to find a 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:02.559 passion is going to take more of a front seat 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.520 where I will have to take a bit of a 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:07.960 back seat and go, Look, we've done Georgie for the 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:09.520 last ten years or whatever. 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:10.720 It's time to do Tim. 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:14.040 And we've spoken about that, like, we've had that conversation, 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:17.640 and I think that is, you know, a reality, and 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:20.320 I'm excited for him for that. But at the moment, 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:23.800 we're doing you know, this for us, and I couldn't 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:26.480 be you know, more happy with it. 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:28.920 Yeah, I tryally get what you mean. I don't know 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:31.200 if it's a limiting belief of mine, but you've said 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:34.120 it too, in the sense that I feel like, can 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:39.720 you have two crazy career ambition people filled with passion 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:41.880 for their career and wanting to be like top of 0:07:41.920 --> 0:07:44.880 their game, actually have a good relationship together and have 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:47.440 the time to make it work and like have kids too, 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.440 Because I feel like if it was just the two 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:52.040 people and you're both very well off in your careers 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:54.320 and growing and that sort of stuff. But there aren't 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:56.200 kids in the equation. It's a lot easier. 0:07:56.800 --> 0:08:00.480 I think you can, Like, of course you could. 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:03.440 I think it would just be more difficult, yeah, because 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:06.720 it would be. When I worked in family law, I 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:10.720 remember there was a lawyer and she was a boss 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:14.800 ass beach and she was like a partner and she 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:16.640 was I think she wasn't even thirty and she was 0:08:16.640 --> 0:08:19.520 a partner, wow, and she was killing it, like her 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:23.640 billables holy shit, Like she was billing like eight hundred 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:28.040 grand a year, ridiculous for hours. And she had two kids, 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:30.160 one was like one or two, and then she had 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:33.360 a six month old. And then her partner was a 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:36.760 huge high up bank person. I don't know his title, 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:42.800 bank bro, like I don't know investment baker or you know, 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:47.240 someone a bank bro who was also highly regarded in 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:50.200 his field and doing it. And so I saw them 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:52.400 like they would come into work together in the city. 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:54.360 I used to see her like I think there was 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:57.920 a childcare within where we worked in one of the 0:08:57.920 --> 0:09:00.000 other levels, yea, because I always saw her with her baby. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.600 And then I think she dropped him off. Yeah, which 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:04.400 is awesome because it's in the same place. 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:07.520 And then but they made it work. Yeah, they made 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:07.960 it work. 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:10.719 And like I remember speaking to her some of the 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:14.840 time and she did say, it's obviously a lot more difficult, 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:18.160 but yeah, we made it work. Yeah, so I think 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:21.800 you definitely can. I think it depends on the person. Yeah, 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:24.160 with this person who's written in though. 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:26.000 It's obviously very different. They don't have kids. 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:29.800 They don't have kids. But also, if you were working 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:32.520 full time at your law job and Tim just did 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:36.200 casual carp carpentry work, would that not get on your 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:38.160 nerves a little bit? And did nothing else? Like he 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.640 wasn't like trying to start a business or and he 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:44.400 just like did not have the drive or the passion 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:47.040 or like not even passion, but the sense to work 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:47.760 more hours. 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:48.800 Oh yeah. 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:50.960 If Tim was just like sitting at home and not 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:53.480 doing anything and I was having to you know, work 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:55.840 and bring in the money, like, of course there might 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:59.160 be a conversation. But for example, Tim worked full time 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:02.000 for someone else's carpenter, that would never bother. 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:05.400 Me, No, not at all. But she's said that she's 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:09.400 working full time. He's only working casually, but he doesn't. 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:12.520 He's not striving for anything more. He's not going, I 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:14.959 want to be a full time in this casual position. 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:17.400 But maybe he does want to be full time. I 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:21.240 think she's saying more about his passion and drive for 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:26.080 like a career in general. I don't know, I get 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:29.880 what she means. But that's the thing is me personally, 0:10:29.920 --> 0:10:33.200 like that would never you know, tim not being this 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:37.280 big career person or anything like that. That never bothered me. 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:40.520 It's a good balance. It's a really good balance. And 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:42.640 like I said, I think it would just be so. 0:10:42.720 --> 0:10:44.720 Much, it'd be so much. 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:47.920 But also if you're someone who you do want a 0:10:47.960 --> 0:10:51.640 partner who has that drive and passion maybe to like 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:54.040 you know, thrive off them. 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:57.760 Like yeah. And even then, sometimes if someone's doing really 0:10:57.760 --> 0:10:59.440 well in their career, they might just not be at 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:01.800 the point where they can sustain in an entire household 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:04.640 and what they make and they actually need someone who 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:07.080 is also working full time to be able to live. 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:10.600 What what if she's not making enough money to be 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:13.240 able to pay for him to live as well as her? 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:15.000 Yeah, you know, and I know what you mean. 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:17.959 I think I definitely think she needs to have a 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:22.160 conversation with him and just say, look, you know, do 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:24.360 you want to get a full time job? What's happening here? 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:27.960 Because also something might be happening with his mental health. Yeah, 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:29.720 you know, like check in with him and. 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.240 Just and if you've been dating for two years and 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:35.840 you love him and he's a very kind, caring. 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:37.320 I know, he sounds so sweet. 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:40.200 I love him. 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:40.880 Yeah. 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:44.440 I guess in conclusion, I personally would not let that 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:47.560 bother me ether, because I don't think we all. 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:49.359 Have to be career driven. 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:51.520 And like passionate to the point of. 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:53.840 I don't know, do you know. 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:57.720 I mean, like personally I have girlfriends who their goal 0:11:57.800 --> 0:11:59.640 in life is to be a stay at home mum 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:01.840 and I fucking love that absolutely. 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:02.920 Like I would never be like. 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:05.520 Oh, but you're not, you know, passionate about her career 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:08.200 or anythink like that. So I think, I don't know, 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:12.160 maybe she needs to know if this really is going 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.679 to affect her, and I think just have a discussion with. 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:17.480 Him and see where it goes from there. 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:20.120 Yeah, because maybe you're right, maybe there is just something 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:22.080 stopping him in his head, or maybe he has a 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:23.520 goalie hasn't spoken to her about. 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:25.520 Yeah, Yeah, that sort of stuff exactly. 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:28.520 And that's like going back to me and Tim, like 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:32.080 we've had that conversation, and Tim's like, yeah, I definitely 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:35.400 see myself doing something in the future, but I know 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.920 for now, like we're doing your thing, We're doing ivy, 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:40.120 and I'm so okay to take the back seat and 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:41.200 just support you guys. 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:42.079 I love that. 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:46.960 I know, I love him all right. Next question. 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:54.160 Question too, how do you deal with watching someone succeed 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:59.840 who doesn't deserve it. I've been listening to you, Georgie 0:12:59.840 --> 0:13:02.080 for a really long time, and I know you talk 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:05.240 about the limiting belief that you have to work hard 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:10.560 for money. However, this person is so lazy and the 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:14.240 only reason she's getting this job position is due to 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:18.280 her family. I feel that having this experience watching someone 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:22.840 so ungrateful, not aware of their privilege gaining this position 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.080 has really shook me. I recently got a new job 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:29.440 position I am really proud of. It's not amazing pay 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:33.240 or anything fancy, However, I worked really hard to get there, 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:36.800 and I guess watching someone get a position that potentially 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.679 sets them up for life when they've only ever worked 0:13:39.720 --> 0:13:43.040 a few hours a week, it's really just dampened my spirit. 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:45.280 Could you give me your insight on this? 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:49.199 I think this would be more common than we think. 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:53.319 Absolutely. I feel like everyone has had someone around them 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:55.880 that's got something because of nepotism. 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:57.040 What's nepotism? 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:00.520 It's so say your dad's a see you? So you get, 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:01.640 am I get? 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:02.000 I get? 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:06.880 I mean interesting new word. 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:08.440 Yeah. 0:14:08.480 --> 0:14:11.320 So first of all, I've got two I've got two 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.920 insights to this. So I think this is a very 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:21.320 normal human emotion and experience because we are definitely taught that, 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:24.560 you know, in order to be deserving, we need to 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:29.880 work hard. And I personally have a very strong core belief, 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.480 you know, growing up that you work hard for things 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.320 and it's very important and that has a lot of 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:38.240 your like self worth around it, which, to be honest, 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.840 I'm like trying to undo a little bit because it's 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:43.720 a bit full on. So I think this is very 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:47.600 normal and I think it's very okay to feel like this. 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:52.480 But in saying it, I just think what comes to 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:56.920 mind is that whole because it is It's like, as 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:59.560 much is you can say what you want, but I 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:04.240 feel like this is a form of jealousy. Would you yes, Yeah, 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:06.440 as much as it's like, oh no, like I'm not 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:08.520 jealous of the person, like they're just they don't work 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.360 for what they want, you know, have I would say 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:14.680 it's a form of jealousy, which is okay, absolutely, it's 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:18.480 a normal human, you know emotion. And I just think 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:25.480 jealousy and being spiteful towards someone is basically like drinking 0:15:25.560 --> 0:15:27.360 poison and hoping they die. 0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:30.040 I love that, do me? 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:35.680 Like it's having these toxic negative feelings towards this person, 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:39.080 but really these feelings are going to hurt no one 0:15:39.200 --> 0:15:42.800 but you, and they're going to affect no one but you, 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:47.080 and I don't know. Something that I've been really trying 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:50.480 to And it's also it's so easy to judge people. 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.560 I feel like it is just so normal and easy 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:56.200 to judge people and just be like, oh, they didn't 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:59.240 deserve it or you know this and that. And something 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.120 I've been trying to do this yet is like take 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:06.280 judgment out of the photo and out of sorry, the 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:10.400 you know story, because I just feel like it doesn't 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:13.440 do anything for us. It's not you know, it's not 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:17.880 positive in any way. Yeah, and sometimes having these feelings 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:20.600 it is just I don't want to say pointless. But 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:23.760 it's like, oh, look, I get you know, this person 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:27.440 probably doesn't deserve the role and you're working hard. But 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:31.280 it's like, don't even worry, don't even look at that person. Look, 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:35.120 be in your own lane, worry about yourself, and don't 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.720 let anyone bother you, because again, it's just like drinking 0:16:37.760 --> 0:16:40.920 poison and hoping the other person, you know, dies, it's 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:42.359 a bit pointless. 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:46.240 Yeah, I love that on this one. Like I've obviously not, 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:48.440 I've learned to not let stuff like this bother me 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:50.920 from a very young age because I've seen it often, 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:54.920 and I feel like stuff like this, especially when people 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:58.720 get stuff because of things because of their parents or 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:01.760 because of someone in their family rather than them by themselves, 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:06.040 is very frustrating, whether they deserve it or not, because, 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:09.920 like in my opinion, there's probably always someone more deserving 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.199 than the next person to get a role, or to 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:14.720 get a job or a position or an award or 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:17.000 whatever it is you're after, there's always going to be 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:19.840 someone that deserves it more than you do. Whether they 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:22.239 were there or not doesn't matter. But at the end 0:17:22.280 --> 0:17:24.360 of the day, one, I really liked what you said 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:27.320 on you can't really judge the person because what if 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:29.520 they maybe were in the office for a few hours 0:17:29.560 --> 0:17:32.200 every day and then went home and worked till midnight. 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:34.560 You don't know what they did. 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:37.359 Even But also going off that you're saying, you know, 0:17:37.440 --> 0:17:39.840 the go to position that will set them up for life. 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:43.640 But it's like, if they cannot perform in that position, 0:17:44.520 --> 0:17:47.800 they will fail, they will get fired. You can know 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:51.520 all the people, but if you're not performing your role 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:55.679 within there, within the you know the role description, I 0:17:55.760 --> 0:17:58.280 just don't see how this then sets the person up 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:01.920 for life unless they can, you know, unless the role. 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:05.520 Yeah, absolutely so I don't know. I like, I get 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:06.200 what she's. 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:08.240 Saying, but sorry, you go on, I interrupted, No, No, 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:08.879 that's okay. 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:13.200 I And the jealousy thing, I feel like people feel 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:17.320 really guilty when they get jealous, and you shouldn't because 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:21.240 it's normal. It's totally normal. Everybody will look at someone 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:24.399 and be like, I want that. Yeah, why would you 0:18:24.440 --> 0:18:26.080 not want that? It's a nice thing to have. But 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:28.680 I think I can't remember if I've read this or 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:31.439 if it was a video or something, but it was 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:35.640 about this guy that said, oh, if I sat next 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:38.440 to someone they were talking about Apple and Apple's marketing 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:41.840 and they said, if I sat next to someone at 0:18:42.040 --> 0:18:45.320 Microsoft and said, oh, I've been given the newest iPhone 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:47.920 that's about to come out in three months, I would 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:49.840 bet that they would ask me to see it and 0:18:49.920 --> 0:18:52.560 look at it and go through it and see what 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:54.959 the features are and what it looks like. But if 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:57.080 I sat next to someone at Apple and said, oh, 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:00.280 Samsung or Microsoft's just given me, then you the phone 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:02.760 that's coming out in three months, the vibe Apple gives 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:05.160 off is that that person would then say, oh, that's great. 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:06.280 I don't give a fuck. 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:12.000 Yeah, because for so long they've only ever competed with themselves. 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:14.679 And I think that that's what everybody needs to do 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:18.199 a little bit more of, like don't worry about everyone 0:19:18.240 --> 0:19:20.480 around you, because there is enough space for you to 0:19:20.520 --> 0:19:21.160 get there too. 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:24.879 I love that there is enough space for you to 0:19:24.920 --> 0:19:27.920 get there too, yeah, because I think that's what it is. 0:19:27.960 --> 0:19:30.960 The jealousy comes up where it's like, but if this 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:33.480 person gets to that place, what does it mean for me? 0:19:34.320 --> 0:19:36.840 And it's so true to like, if you. 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:40.920 Can have if you can have an abundant mindset where 0:19:40.960 --> 0:19:44.760 you're like, look, that's awesome for them, Maybe you know, 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:48.440 maybe the universe is setting them up because they're going 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:51.240 to go through something really bad, or you know, like 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:54.760 they need a headstart, they need a headstart for whatever reason. 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:56.160 It's not your problem. 0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:59.560 It's actually nothing to do with you. Yeah, And I 0:19:59.560 --> 0:20:02.359 think if you can separate yourself from that and not 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:06.800 let it worry you is just huge. And like you said, 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:10.119 you've been thinking like this from a young age, but 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:12.080 it is something you've got to learn because I think 0:20:12.119 --> 0:20:15.400 it's so normal to feel jealousy, and that's like, let's 0:20:15.440 --> 0:20:18.359 even talk about jealousy because you had a great point 0:20:18.520 --> 0:20:22.159 of you know, it's a normal feeling. But can we 0:20:22.520 --> 0:20:26.520 like normalize jealousy in the way of it being quite positive, 0:20:27.119 --> 0:20:30.560 like oh my god, a tear. I need those fendy slides, 0:20:31.760 --> 0:20:33.720 like I'm jealous in the way of oh my god, 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:38.119 I want them exactly in a positive way and like 0:20:38.119 --> 0:20:43.320 like sitting in a room sending me messages. Yeah, I 0:20:43.359 --> 0:20:47.280 think because also when you see someone and I guess 0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:51.080 this person probably doesn't want that because you can see 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:53.480 she has the ethic where she's like I want to 0:20:53.520 --> 0:20:57.280 work hard for that position, which I resonate with. But 0:20:57.359 --> 0:21:00.840 I think it's like It's fine to feel like that 0:21:00.960 --> 0:21:03.040 and also just be like, oh, look good for her. 0:21:03.200 --> 0:21:06.639 She needed the head start. I don't. Yeah, you know, 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:08.840 and she saying like oh good for her, or good like. 0:21:08.880 --> 0:21:12.240 I'm happy to work for what I want to achieve 0:21:12.240 --> 0:21:13.280 and be really proud of it. 0:21:13.400 --> 0:21:17.120 Absolutely, And I think accept the jealousy and then move 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:20.080 on because once you've accepted like, oh I'm jealous of her, 0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:22.240 Oh good, that means I want that too. 0:21:22.800 --> 0:21:27.440