WEBVTT - G’s hotline ☎️ Toxic friends & Toxic partners 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.600 The Rising Conker Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of the 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:08.320 land which this episode is being recorded, the yugen Bear region. 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:13.320 We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their connections to land, 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:16.840 sea and community. We pay our respect to their elders 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:20.840 past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:34.159 and terrestrid Islander peoples. Today, Hello and welcome back to 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:37.360 the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is the podcast for 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:51.440 ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. Hello and 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:56.440 welcome back to the Riise and Conquer Podcast. Today's episode 0:00:56.640 --> 0:01:00.880 is a Geez Hotline. These are our fun Friday where 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:05.200 you send in your life dilemmas and I and sometimes 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:10.680 it's here provide our unqualified two cents on the situation. 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:15.679 So today we have some juicy questions. We're chatting about 0:01:15.959 --> 0:01:20.679 partners who don't support you on your business ventures or 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:26.120 just whatever you're doing, Big rend Flag and we've got 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:31.440 a couple of friend questions. So let's get into it. Though, 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:36.000 before I do, you know, I give you my recommendation 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:40.240 of the week. This is not our like, read, watch, 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:46.800 listen recommendation. So my girlfriend, my bestie sent me this TikTok, 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:50.960 and actually I'm gonna play the TikTok in the microphone 0:01:51.280 --> 0:01:53.280 so I don't have to explain it to you and 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:54.800 it will make full sense. 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:56.680 I'm want to share with you guys something I've been 0:01:56.680 --> 0:01:59.960 doing to manifest exponentially faster. So one of my best girlfriends, 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:01.880 what we do is we'll send each other a text 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:03.040 of a pineapple emoji. 0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:05.200 When we do this, it means that we're going to. 0:02:05.120 --> 0:02:07.440 Start talking about a manifestation that we're calling in as 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:09.560 if it's already happening. So, for instance, they'll be like, 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:10.760 oh my god, you're not going to believe that I 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:11.240 meant this. 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:13.320 Amazing guy today. He asked me how we're going on 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:14.919 a date on Friday. I'm so excited. 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:17.240 Then what she'll do is play along and start asking 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:19.400 me questions like, oh my gosh, tell me all about him, 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:20.799 what is he like? Where are you guys going to 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:22.680 go when you're going to wear What this does is 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:24.960 it actually helps you to tap into the energy of 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:27.480 it already being done, and when we do that, it 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:30.160 allows the manifestation to come in so much faster. It 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:33.280 also helps you because you're speaking things into existence and 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:35.400 by having a friend play along with you and ask 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:36.119 you questions. 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:38.120 It helps you also to tap into your. 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:42.120 Imagination to be able to actually visualize and create mental imagery. 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:42.960 Around the thing that you're calling in. 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:45.880 And when we co create together, it is even more 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:49.920 intense and energetically powerful. So pick a friend, grab an emoji, 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:51.760 and start talking all about your manifestations. 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:53.160 Is if they're already happening. 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:56.280 Now. I love that. How good is that? So she 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:59.080 sent that to me and was like, what emoji do 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:03.320 you want to use? And so we decided we would 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:07.840 use the unicorn emoji, and every time we sent that 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:10.480 to each other, we would send a voicy of what 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:13.640 we're manifesting. So we did this the other day and 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:16.240 I was like, what are you manifesting? She told me. 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:19.679 And then what she told me, she was like, oh, 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:21.880 you know, but I'm manifesting this, but I can't have 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:25.000 this thing until I have this thing. And then I 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:28.919 was like, that's a block, you know, that's a limiting belief. 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:30.880 And then she was like, oh my god, I didn't 0:03:30.919 --> 0:03:32.519 realize it was limiting belief. And then we had a 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:34.760 great chat about it. And then I did the exact 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:37.400 same thing to her and she said the same. She 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:40.680 was like, Georgie, that is a block because I was like, oh, 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:42.440 I just don't feel like I can do it because 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:45.560 of this, this, this, And then she came at me with, 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:48.480 you know, the reasons that I can achieve this thing 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:51.920 or have this thing, and it was just so good. 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:56.120 And now we have been doing this regularly where we yeah, 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:59.040 send voices, and voices are great because it's not like 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.520 we have to chat on phone. And she recently had 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:04.400 a baby, so she's got two kids. I've got ivy. 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:07.560 You know, all my businesses, no one has bloody time. 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:10.880 So it's really great because she'll send a voice and 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:12.600 then I'll just listen to it when I can. We 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:15.960 go back and forth. But we have been doing it 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:19.000 and it's so good because even though I'm someone who 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:22.560 writes down what I'm trying to manifest and my goals, 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:26.040 to actually have a conversation about it just has been 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.160 really really cool. And I feel like I've been talking 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:33.360 about what I'm trying to manifest, what I will manifest, 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.680 and I just, yeah, I feel like this was such 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:39.599 a cool thing to do. So me and my bestie 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.480 have been doing it, and I reckon you guys, would 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:44.680 love to do it. So choose a bestie. Make sure 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:47.800 they're high vibe, make sure there's someone who can dream 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.360 big and who will be in on this. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:51.680 Send them so. 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:53.440 Honest with you about your blocks. 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:58.240 Yes, yes, yeah, because literally my friends sent like what 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:00.520 she was trying to manifest and she's like, oh, but 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:03.279 you know I need this because it's within her business. 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:06.240 She wanted to rebrand for you know, this reason, and 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:08.680 I was like, but do you even need to rebrand 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:10.920 because I feel like that's a block that you think, 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:13.520 you know, the name represents blah blah blah. And we 0:05:13.560 --> 0:05:15.960 went back and forth and yeah it was. It was 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:17.440 really good. And she's like, oh my god, I hadn't 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:20.200 even thought about that. So yeah, that's something new I'm 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.920 doing and highly recommend. 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.039 That's such a good recommendation. 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:27.920 Thank you, dear. All Right, guys, let's get straight into 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:29.279 the first question. 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:37.400 Al right. It question one? How can I deal with 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:40.479 a partner that isn't supportive of me wanting to build 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:44.680 my own business slash beyond social media. He doesn't like 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:48.440 influences and doesn't like me showing my face on Instagram. 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:51.240 We have constant fights about that because I like to 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:54.400 show the face behind my brand, and I want people 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:57.360 to see who they are potentially working with. I told 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:00.159 him I don't want to become an influencer. I just 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:02.720 want to build my own business. But he isn't supportive 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:05.680 at all. Would love some advice on how to stop 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:08.200 all the drama without giving up on my dream. So 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:11.719 first of all, men are trash. 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:17.240 Just every episode. This is how it's starting. Okay, so 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:21.919 let's unpack this. I just yeah, I think this is 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:25.000 a lot more normal than we would think. 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:25.760 Really. 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:28.680 I think so because I have kind of like a 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:33.599 Unicorn partner, where Tim not Unicorn partner. But Tim has 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:37.679 been supportive of me being on Instagram from the start, 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:41.320 even when I used to just post like half naked photos. 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:47.039 Not half naked photos, but like you know, Instagram glafey 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:50.839 and guys don't judge me. I am now very lay it. 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:58.440 I now have substance to me, I swear. But he's 0:06:58.560 --> 0:07:00.840 just been so supportive in the way he's like, do 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:04.640 what you want, whatever makes you happy. I think you 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:07.080 need to get to like the bottom of why does 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:07.679 he care? 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:09.840 Like is it his insecurities? 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:14.400 Yeah? Why would he care? Is it a privacy thing? 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:15.400 Yeah? 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:19.000 Is it. He's insecure and he doesn't want you having attention. 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:22.200 Thing. But it's weird because it's not like she's going 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:25.400 to be posting any like bikini photos or anything. It's 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:27.440 just like a video saying meet the owner of this 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:28.360 small business. 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:31.080 Which and this is a huge thing, guys. I feel 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.800 like this is very obvious. But brands these days you 0:07:34.960 --> 0:07:38.560 have to show your face. Oh absolutely, Like the brands 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:41.560 that are blowing up and doing well, you know who 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:45.160 owns them. You know their story. Their story is the 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:48.320 reason why you buy that product. Yeah. Absolutely, And I 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:52.920 think like, for instance, like with naked harvests, huge thing 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:57.280 we did was me and Cooper being prominent in the 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:00.800 brand of you know who made these because it's a 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:04.400 trust thing. And even though the brand is very much 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:07.880 established away from us and our names. It's not like 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.320 Stevenson's Supperlance or anything like that. 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:11.920 But that on the list. 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:15.360 No, oh my god, that's actually a huge thing. I 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.600 could get into it. I could do a whole episode 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:20.360 on why you shouldn't use your name in branding. 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:21.200 Maybe we should. 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:24.240 Yeah, I think it's important because people these days, like 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.680 they love to buy products from other people. Like I 0:08:27.720 --> 0:08:30.720 feel like gone in the days where you just buy 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:34.040 a product because it's a big brand, Like, yes, that 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.520 still happens, but I feel like people love to know 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:41.680 the story. I personally love to buy from small businesses 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:45.320 where I either know the backstory or I know the 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:49.200 people's faces. So this, like this girl is so on point, 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:52.880 this is so important, and so it's just really upsets 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:54.920 me that her partner is not supportive, Like that's a 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:55.840 bit of a red flag. 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.439 Yeah, And for me, I'm like, that's just a little 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:02.600 bit controlling, because even if you wanted to post bikini 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:05.920 photos or half naked photos or naked photos, it's your 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:07.920 body and yes, he's your partner. 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:11.200 Oh my god, sorry to interject. One thing. This reminds 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:14.040 me of girls back in the day where their partner 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:17.880 told them they couldn't wear a certain dress like out yes, 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:21.240 And I was like, that's a red flag. Yeah, if 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:23.240 he's telling you what to wear, that's a red. 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:26.320 Flag exactly, and like it's just not his place, no 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:29.840 where the fuck you on, Yeah, exactly, what he's doing 0:09:29.920 --> 0:09:33.480 is very controlling and not okay. And you definitely shouldn't 0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:36.320 stop sharing your face because that will hinder your brain 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:39.920 progress one and you shouldn't ever have to feel like 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:42.680 you need to listen to him on what to put 0:09:42.720 --> 0:09:45.480 on your business or personal Instagram or anywhere. 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:49.760 Ever, just don't listen to it, damned. 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:55.280 In terms of navigating it, I would just say, have 0:09:55.360 --> 0:09:57.520 a chat with him and set clear boundaries on it. 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:00.320 Like if it's just something that's better off not spoken 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:03.440 about because he's great in every other aspect of your relationship, 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:05.800 then maybe that's just what you kind of have to 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:06.839 do for the next little bit. 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:12.880 Lock him. No, I think you need to explain it. Yeah, 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:15.440 like you said, I think you need to be like, hey, 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:19.240 this is actually a marketing strategy. It's not like me 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:22.360 wanting to just like put my face over things. This 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:25.959 is not an attention thing. Yeah, this is a marketing strategy. 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:28.560 And it's like it's not like a like this is 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:31.520 what everyone's doing, you mean, it's not like an unknown 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:34.880 random strategy. So this is a marketing strategy, and this 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:37.600 is something I want to do for my brand, but 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:40.920 also I just want to do and I don't appreciate 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:43.680 you having comments like that. And also if you're not 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:46.240 going to support me, please just say nothing. 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:50.839 Yes, And then potentially if he's up to it addressing 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:54.679 his insecurities around you putting your face on Instagram. 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:59.280 Yeah, like it's weird. I would just ask him, what's 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:03.120 why do you not like it? Like, what's the issue here? 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:07.640 He needs to address that? Yeah, for sure, And I like, 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.520 I do get it. There are people who don't like 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:13.920 social media. They don't like the whole thing and whatnot, 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:16.040 and like that's fine. 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:17.360 They just don't get it. 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.560 Yeah, they don't get it. They're like, oh, it's just 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:23.160 a bunch of influencers blah blah blah. But that's fine. 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:28.560 He's allowed to have his opinions. It's just don't make 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:32.439 you feel a certain way and make you feel unsupported 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:34.240 almost to say to him, can you just keep your 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:36.440 comments to yourself? Because I'm really trying here. 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:43.160 Yeah, perfect, Okay. Question two a bit of a long one. 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:45.520 A few weeks ago, a friend and I had a 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.920 disagreement where I pulled her up on some really unkind 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:52.360 behavior that didn't sit well with me. I should note 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:55.360 that these habits are reoccurring, but this is the first 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:58.040 time that I've had the confidence to speak. I was 0:11:58.080 --> 0:12:02.240 immediately unfriended of all socials. I am now being made 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:05.560 as the villain in the situation being accused of being 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:08.960 petty and not having the guts to apologize when I 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:12.000 was only speaking my mind in a mature way. I'm 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:15.320 going through quite the spiritual slush self development journey, and 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:18.080 I'm beginning to really step into my power and feel 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.920 like my true self. I have said everything that I 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:23.280 have to say, but the other person is wanting me 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:27.000 to apologize. I'm not stubborn, but I really don't want 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.560 to roll over and apologize for speaking my mind and 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:32.800 standing up for what I believe in. To make it harder, 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:36.560 our boyfriend's are best friends. My boyfriend has been amazing 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:38.960 and is supportive of my journey and where my head 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:42.040 is at. But now the others are still trying to 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:45.360 get me to apologize and are not understanding where I'm 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:48.080 coming from when I say I am content with not 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:52.360 having that negative energy in my life anymore. I don't 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:55.600 do conflict at allso this is really hard, especially when 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:57.760 I truly feel like my life is a much more 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:01.120 positive environment without her in it. I truly believe in 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:03.320 the universe, and if I'm going to lose friends over 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:05.640 something like this, then they are the people for me. 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:09.760 Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Yeah, Okay, 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:12.400 this is a hard one because it sounds of it 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:15.080 like a child, like the friend. 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.280 Are the other friends. Yeah, it's kind of hard though, 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:22.040 because to me this sounds like this person has, like 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:24.920 she said, gone through a bit of a spiritual awakening. 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:27.960 I actually spoke to a close friend about this literally 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:33.040 this morning. And what kind of happens is as you 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:37.319 evolve and grow, especially if you're going through a self development, 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:43.680 you know, spiritual journey, you just move like you grow 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:47.400 as a person in a different way than how you 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:51.080 have been. Yeah, and so the relationships you have as 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:56.760 that previous person either grow with you or they don't. 0:13:57.440 --> 0:13:59.960 And I think what has happened here is this person 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:04.280 has grown, she's found her voice, and she's gone, Actually, 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:06.760 you're not gonna treat me like this. Here's what I 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:09.400 have to say about this. This other person is like, 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:11.840 holy shit, this person's like, you know, brought this up 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:14.400 with me, and it's probably like a bit shocked once 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:17.319 an apology or whatever. But it's like, you guys are 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:20.440 just on two different levels. It's very clear you're on 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:24.360 a different wavelength. You're on a different frequency than this person. 0:14:24.840 --> 0:14:27.040 And I don't know, if you don't want to apologize, 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.760 you didn't have to apologize. Yeah, I definitely do you agree? 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:33.320 Yeah? Absolutely, I don't think she should because this person's 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:37.000 first reaction to her speaking her mind for the first time. 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:39.040 It's not like it's been an ongoing fine and she's 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:42.480 the friend's like, I'm done with this now straight away. 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:45.320 Just unfriends her from stuff I find. God, that's a 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:48.480 childish yeah, very immature. Yeah. 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:52.920 And also if she wants to unfriend you and block you, fine, 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:55.480 but then why should you have to apologize? 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.760 Yeah? If she cut the ties. And this is something 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:02.200 that's weird because like normally you just turn around and 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:04.840 be like, don't bother, like just cut him out, leave 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:08.320 him out. But because boyfriends are friends, okay, Yeah, you 0:15:08.360 --> 0:15:11.280 don't want like you obviously don't want toxic energy when 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.440 you all hang out. And you also don't want to 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:15.960 have to say to your boyfriend, I'm not coming if 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:18.240 you're going out with X group of people, because that's 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:21.000 not fair on him, especially since he's been supportive of 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:24.840 her not apologizing. But is it just a thing of 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:29.120 they won't like when the best friend is hang out 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:33.680 with his best friend, she goes and does her own thing. Yeah, 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:35.560 girl friends aren't involved. 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:39.240 Yeah, and like I think that's fine, Like I don't 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:43.280 ever especially now we're a baby, like someone's gonna look 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:46.480 after Ivy. But like whenever Tim hangs out with his friends, 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:50.640 I'm never there unless it's for like a thirtieth or 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:54.520 an engagement party. Yeah, and like in those circumstances, you 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:57.640 just don't have to speak to that person. Yeah. So 0:15:57.760 --> 0:16:02.720 I don't know, doesn't seem like the biggest deal in saying. 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:05.720 That, it sounds like a friendship group though, Yeah, because 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:08.000 she's saying she's been pressured by the others, which I 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.000 can only assume is maybe. 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:11.080 Yeah, the other friends, the other. 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:13.240 Friends, and you don't want to not hang out with 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:14.960 your friends just because you don't get along with one 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:15.920 person's girlfriend. 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:19.560 Yeah, I think you need to weigh up and go 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:23.520 do I kind of you know, be the bigger person 0:16:23.680 --> 0:16:26.720 and just go, oh, sorry you felt that way, Sorry 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:30.480 you felt that way. Let's agree to disagree here, and 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.040 so the other friends can just be like, yeah, whatever 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:36.320 and you can continue or I don't know. 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:40.800 Yeah, it's interesting. I would maybe it's easy for me 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:44.800 to say, don't apologize. But in this situation for the 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.480 sake of peace, if this was a friendship group, not 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:49.800 if it was just my boyfriend and his best friend 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:52.200 and his best friend's girlfriend, but if it was a 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:55.360 group situation and I actually valued the other people in 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:58.640 the group, and you don't feel like you're growing apart 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:01.520 from the other people in the group, I maybe just apologize, 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:04.080 but set a really clear boundary with that person that 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:08.000 I'm not interested in a relationship with you as a person. 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:10.800 I'll be nice, I'll be civil, I'll greet you at 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:14.000 group functions, but don't talk to me outside of that 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:17.440 kind of thing. Yeah, and just have that relationship. 0:17:17.720 --> 0:17:21.800 I went through something similar and it was much like 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:25.080 that a tea where I kind of thought, for the 0:17:25.160 --> 0:17:30.160 sake of everyone else not feeling, you know, too uncomfortable, 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:33.879 let's just agree to disagree. I have no interest in 0:17:33.920 --> 0:17:36.600 you and your life, but I will be civil because 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:41.080 I'd rather be the bigger person and not create drama. Yeah, exactly. 0:17:41.240 --> 0:17:43.600 That sucks. So that really did stuff, especially because this 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:47.080 person doesn't like conflict, which I can kind of like 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:51.160 resonate with. But also proud of your girlfriend for sticking 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:55.640 up for yourself, and you know, setting boundaries and yeah, 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:58.240 you've clearly, you know, like you said, found your power, 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:02.040 which that's a huge step. Yeah, should be like proud 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:04.560 of yourself. And it's kind of sucks that it's, you know, 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:08.320 come to that. But also I think, look at this again, 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:10.359 Like I said, I was just chatting to a friend 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:14.320 about this this morning. I think what's really exciting about 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:20.080 this is when old friendships break away. Don't see it 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:24.080 as a negative because you're just creating space for new 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:25.480 things to come into your life. 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:35.359 Yes, I love it alrighty. Last question, hotline help. I 0:18:35.400 --> 0:18:37.920 have a friend who I'm very close with, but I've 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:41.320 been recently finding out that she is lying and keeping 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:45.080 things from me. They aren't really lies that I can justify, 0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:49.320 not that any lies technically are, but they're just pointless 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:52.959 and will obviously be caught out. I've already tried confronting 0:18:53.000 --> 0:18:55.679 her and trying to tell her it's unnecessary, but it 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:59.000 just seems to be a bit never ending. For context, 0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:02.159 an example of this would be I saw her that 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:04.919 she had her hair done recently, and I asked her 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:07.520 about it, and she said she hasn't had her hair done, 0:19:08.080 --> 0:19:11.120 and then the next day shares opposed to Instagram from 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:14.760 being at the hairdressers before I saw her. It's all 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:17.840 very trivial stuff, and I just don't understand. 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:21.040 I had a bit of a laugh at this one. 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:26.320 It's because I also don't understand is this person like 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:28.600 a compulsive liar? Because that's the thing. 0:19:28.960 --> 0:19:32.480 Yeah, but what is like why people compulsive liars? 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:37.280 I don't know. We need to research it, I think, 0:19:37.480 --> 0:19:40.520 especially like you could go back to this person and 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:43.400 just be like, like, why did you lie about this? 0:19:43.800 --> 0:19:47.159 And just like and then if their response is something 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:50.320 where you're like, just an excuse, just an excuse, and 0:19:50.320 --> 0:19:54.600 they're like, oh shit, I'm a dill. I'm actually really silly. 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:56.440 I didn't mean to lie about this, but I did. 0:19:56.720 --> 0:19:59.679 But if their excuse is kind of like, you know, 0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:03.719 oh I didn't lie, like defensive, it's kind of like, 0:20:03.760 --> 0:20:05.520 I don't know, why would you want to be friends 0:20:05.520 --> 0:20:09.880 with someone who treats you like that? Because even though 0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:13.440 it's trivial stuff, they're still lying to you and that's 0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:16.240 still deceit. And do you want to have a friendship 0:20:16.640 --> 0:20:19.040 where there's deceit? Do you know what I mean? 0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:21.600 Yeah, Like, why is it easy for them to even 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:22.919 lie to you? In the first place. 0:20:23.040 --> 0:20:26.520 Yeah, that's a bit scary. I actually have a similar 0:20:26.520 --> 0:20:29.600 story with a friend literally years ago, and it was 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:32.920 it was like little little bit it makes you feel stupid, 0:20:33.040 --> 0:20:34.600 I know, Oh my god. So you know what she 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:36.920 used to do so with this is a friend i'd 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:39.280 like party with. So back in the day when I 0:20:39.320 --> 0:20:42.439 was like, you know, eighteen and so you know, I 0:20:42.480 --> 0:20:45.200 would all get drunk and I have drinks and Georgia 0:20:45.280 --> 0:20:49.400 lump to party back in the day. She's a mom now, 0:20:49.840 --> 0:20:53.240 and she would often the night after be like, oh yeah, 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:57.119 and then you did this and almost say something like embarrassing, 0:20:57.480 --> 0:21:03.320 But it's like I had total like recollition, recollition, recollection, recollection, 0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:06.919 wow of the night. And I'm like, I didn't do that, 0:21:07.000 --> 0:21:10.119 but she was. And she did it to like me 0:21:10.400 --> 0:21:12.520 and my friend all the time. And then we would 0:21:12.520 --> 0:21:14.720 talk after and be like, so she just gasol it 0:21:14.920 --> 0:21:18.919 us yes, and we would be like why, she's just 0:21:18.960 --> 0:21:21.920 such a liar and it's so bit almost like lying 0:21:21.920 --> 0:21:26.040 but also over exaggerating things. And we just used to 0:21:26.080 --> 0:21:29.480 think of as the weirdest thing. But it started off 0:21:29.600 --> 0:21:32.840 like that, but then she used to lie about bigger 0:21:32.920 --> 0:21:37.200 things that were very drama. There was lots of drama 0:21:37.240 --> 0:21:39.639 in the group and just kind of yeah stuff that 0:21:39.680 --> 0:21:41.880