Speaker 1: Flex and Rooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
Speaker 1: and Frooms catch up podcast. Happy Friday, guys, we actually
Speaker 1: did it. We got to Friday, second best day of
Speaker 1: the week apart from Thursday. Today we talked about the
Speaker 1: most crazy shit. It's been a really long time since
Speaker 1: Lex and I have like gone down the below the
Speaker 1: belt pipeline. I'm quite literally the pipeline from your esophagus
Speaker 1: right down into your anus. But today we're talking about
Speaker 1: swamp us, how to see it, how to avoid it,
Speaker 1: and also if anyone can tell me why I think
Speaker 1: sell some smells so gross, please DM me. I'm waiting
Speaker 1: for it. Have a lovely weekend. Bye, Flex and Rooms
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Speaker 2: Can you dump someone on their birthday? We've already discussed
Speaker 2: how we feel about going on dates, especially first dates
Speaker 2: on your birthday. To know from us though, I can
Speaker 2: imagine there are a few exceptions to that rule, but
Speaker 2: for the most what we like blanket generalization. In this instance,
Speaker 2: we've got a listener dm if you've all. If you've
Speaker 2: got a dilemma, just dm Uster's Flex and Rooms and
Speaker 2: hopefully producing Mickey sez It passes it on and then
Speaker 2: we discuss it, Dearest Gremlins and Goblins also known as
Speaker 2: flex frooms and Mickey, I have a tricky one. I
Speaker 2: need your gracious minds to run this over. My boyfriend
Speaker 2: and I have been together for almost three years. We
Speaker 2: got together during UNI and everything was honestly perfect. But
Speaker 2: in the last few years we've grown up a lot.
Speaker 2: I work a nine to five in a corporate job
Speaker 2: that i've worked hard again, and he, well, he still
Speaker 2: works a casual job he had while we were at UNI.
Speaker 2: He doesn't really have the same level of ambition as me,
Speaker 2: and it's become clear that we just have very different
Speaker 2: ideas on what we want out of life. In saying
Speaker 2: all of this, it's become pretty clear to meet in
Speaker 2: the last few months that I love him, but I'm
Speaker 2: not in love with him, and at this stage of
Speaker 2: my life, I'm twenty five, I really just want to
Speaker 2: take time for myself. Here comes the kicker. I've been
Speaker 2: working myself up to dump him for maybe four months,
Speaker 2: but it hasn't felt at the right time. He's had
Speaker 2: a lot of family stuff going on, and every time
Speaker 2: I've chickened out. I'm about to go on a big
Speaker 2: trip to Asia with my best friend for six weeks,
Speaker 2: and we plan it so i'd be there. Oh, I'm
Speaker 2: about to go on a big trip to Asia with
Speaker 2: my best friend for six weeks, and we planned it
Speaker 2: so I would be here for his birthday and then
Speaker 2: leave two days later. Knowing me, I just really can't
Speaker 2: see myself going on this trip with this relationship hanging
Speaker 2: over my head. I'm going away in about ten days,
Speaker 2: so I have to ask is it okay to dump
Speaker 2: someone around their birthday? I hope and pray that we've
Speaker 2: gotten back to you before before the Asia trip, because Babe,
Speaker 2: if we haven't, forgive us, please forgive us, because this
Speaker 2: is stressful. Imagine you've been with your partner for about
Speaker 2: three years. When you first started dating, you're in uni
Speaker 2: similar life stages. But now three years later, you work
Speaker 2: good nine to five, he's learning his casual job. You
Speaker 2: love him, you're in love with him, you're twenty five.
Speaker 2: It feels like a pivotal moment to just like dead
Speaker 2: the relationship, take time for yourself and start fresh. The
Speaker 2: issue is you've been mulling over this breakup for a
Speaker 2: bit too long four months, and now you've got a
Speaker 2: bit of a deadline. See you're going away on a
Speaker 2: big trip for six weeks, and you had planned it
Speaker 2: so you'd be here for your partner's birthday and then
Speaker 2: two days later go on this big trip. But now
Speaker 2: that it's coming around in about a fortnight, you can't
Speaker 2: imagine going on this big trip and still being in
Speaker 2: that relationship. So you want to break up? Can you
Speaker 2: break up with someone this close to their birthday? Yes?
Speaker 2: Or no?
Speaker 1: For Remina, I'm afraid yes, you can't be going on
Speaker 1: that holiday with this, as you say, hanging over your head.
Speaker 1: I will give you a piece of advice that you
Speaker 1: may choose to take or not nice when you do
Speaker 1: the breaking up, because I think you must do it
Speaker 1: regardless of the birthday. Do not tell them that you've
Speaker 1: been mulling over it for four months. Yeah, we've all
Speaker 1: made the mistake. Get dumped or you get you dump.
Speaker 1: And an inevitable question comes up, and that is how
Speaker 1: long have you been thinking about this? This comes from
Speaker 1: It's come from so I've been thinking about it four months.
Speaker 1: That will cut this king to the core. But what
Speaker 1: should she say? She's say, Oh, I don't know, Like,
Speaker 1: just definitely don't say four months. Just say I'm not
Speaker 1: sure how I feel like I'd do a little sweet
Speaker 1: while I in no one.
Speaker 2: It INCLUDESI his length of time going back on the
Speaker 2: decision that I just know. Yeah, yeah, the time one
Speaker 2: is tricky. You have to do it. Put the trip first.
Speaker 2: And I'm just saying six weeks with this in over
Speaker 2: your head, think about the friend that you're going with
Speaker 2: as well, so you don't put them through that. But also,
Speaker 2: I feel like we think we're protecting people from harm
Speaker 2: by making these decisions for them, when in reality we're
Speaker 2: kind of cushioning ourselves from having to be the bad guy.
Speaker 2: And in this instance, a lot of thinking has been done.
Speaker 2: You've made some really good points here at being in
Speaker 2: different life stages, and the sooner you can have this conversation,
Speaker 2: because realistically, break up some more than one conversation. You know,
Speaker 2: you can start the first conversation, the quicker you'll be
Speaker 2: out of the relationship. Yeah, I don't know anyone who's
Speaker 2: been who's been in a long term relationship and how
Speaker 2: to break up be the one conversation whereich is I'm
Speaker 2: breaking up with you? It's a consideration, it's I want
Speaker 2: to break up? Well, why, Well, let's just think about it.
Speaker 2: We're going to break we won't talk. We'll do this.
Speaker 2: Let's just think we'll talk in next week la la lah.
Speaker 2: And now you're already cutting into the holiday time. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you're already cutting in. You're on deadline. Good luck. It's
Speaker 2: such a hard thing to do. But hopefully he's on
Speaker 2: the same page.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And he can be feeling this like chasm between
Speaker 2: where you are and where he is, and he might
Speaker 2: just you know, alleviate that pressure.
Speaker 1: I like what you say about thinking people can't handle something,
Speaker 1: so you're actually may be hurting them more. But yeah,
Speaker 1: good luck, queen. And if you're already on your trip,
Speaker 1: have the best time.
Speaker 2: I'll have the best trip. I'm sure you.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you did what you need to do.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was on little tickety talking and I came across
Speaker 1: this TikTok that showed, sorry, rather played what ancient languages
Speaker 1: sounded like. Can I play it for you?
Speaker 2: What region? Like? How ancient are we talking?
Speaker 1: How the English language has evolved over time?
Speaker 2: Great, let's just get right into it.
Speaker 1: So that was five thousand base proto Indo European. That's
Speaker 1: seven hundred to two hundred BC. Man is West Germanic. Okay,
Speaker 1: and now I get into something that I find quite interesting. Okay,
Speaker 1: I wanted to listen to these. This is old English.
Speaker 1: So this is all the way up to like a
Speaker 1: thousand years after Christ in yard failed Thrimia fruna usa
Speaker 1: adlings ellen with is sure to English. March a person
Speaker 1: to the road.
Speaker 2: Start to the road. Okay.
Speaker 1: And now this is where the King Henry came in.
Speaker 2: In the middle of the table, a condo, woven draperies
Speaker 2: upon them all there was a scanopy.
Speaker 1: So it's pretty much giving English. But like pig Latin vibes.
Speaker 2: One thing that English is missing now is the rhythmic
Speaker 2: nature of it or language. Let's just say the English
Speaker 2: language sounded much more rhythmic and musical. And if you
Speaker 2: hang out with people who are learning English as a
Speaker 2: second language, they'll often say that English, that's what it
Speaker 2: sounds like, discernible. We didn't understand that when we could
Speaker 2: hear gaps in sentences, and we could hear when intonation
Speaker 2: was getting higher or lower and there was more intensity.
Speaker 2: But now, oh.
Speaker 1: Horrible, it is so interesting to think, yeah, what it
Speaker 1: must sound like. It's like when you hear it other
Speaker 1: language that you don't know. It just sounds like, how
Speaker 1: do you even know what that person's saying?
Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think what other languages do not. I
Speaker 2: think what Australian English fails to do that other languages
Speaker 2: do better is the intonation, or the varying levels in
Speaker 2: tone expresses what they're saying. For example, when we speak English,
Speaker 2: we finish on the up. Oh where are you going? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Pre you on there? I'm so happy today. It's like
Speaker 2: it's this like sing songy, but it's disjointed. It sounds
Speaker 2: joyful when it's not. It sounds serious when it's not.
Speaker 2: It's strange. And the contradictions in the language itself. Oh,
Speaker 2: this is so exciting. I was thinking the other day,
Speaker 2: did you say, like, what comes after slay? Was I
Speaker 2: having that conversation with you? Yeah? I think so, yeah,
Speaker 2: what comes after slavey? Because people had said it feels
Speaker 2: outdated already? And I was thinking about how Internet language
Speaker 2: evolves at such a rapid pace that so many things
Speaker 2: lack meaning and we don't have the correct substitutes for
Speaker 2: what they mean. And as we become more and more
Speaker 2: isolated and create these new niches and niches and niches
Speaker 2: and niches give it twenty years we were able to
Speaker 2: understand each other, say, same age, same super no speak
Speaker 2: English together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was thinking we were all getting globalization. But
Speaker 1: I guess it's the opposite.
Speaker 2: The opposite. What does its giving mean?
Speaker 1: But I know exactly what it's giving. The next one
Speaker 1: is the C word. Everyone says that. Now. Previously, today
Speaker 1: we brought attention to the phenomenon of swamp pass. Could
Speaker 1: you give us a quick five second illustration.
Speaker 2: What that is? I was told this information by a man.
Speaker 2: Swamp pass is allegedly what happens when the moisture from
Speaker 2: the behind is trapped in the box a brief that's
Speaker 2: probably polyester, which is a big issue, and creates a
Speaker 2: sort of moisture that emanates a smell.
Speaker 1: A swamp past cent. You've smelled it once, you've smelled it.
Speaker 2: For life, but off the badge of honestly remember where
Speaker 2: you were.
Speaker 1: Okay, with that in mind, I think we need to
Speaker 1: say on this theme, it's not often that I get
Speaker 1: Flexi in the state of mind to be talking about
Speaker 1: such activities. But we've got a wiki how how to
Speaker 1: hold in a pool in embarrassing situations. I didn't come
Speaker 1: up with this idea our producer Mickey did, can I
Speaker 1: just say, please, doll.
Speaker 2: It's more often the farting that's harder to hold in
Speaker 2: than the poop because you know, like it's a different
Speaker 2: trapping air in your stomach. That feeling of like that
Speaker 2: gaseous trapped air is way more painful than I need
Speaker 2: to go number two? Do reckon in my experience, Yeah, it's.
Speaker 1: Like, Caitlin, have you ever need to fight so bad
Speaker 1: that you went to the hospital?
Speaker 2: WHOA Have I told you this story? No? Okay, well
Speaker 2: this is contraction of life where you'd hold your fart
Speaker 2: in your bush people. Okay.
Speaker 1: So when I was growing up, I would get sick
Speaker 1: all the time, nothing sad, just like classic batam into
Speaker 1: some like Victorian child would have died. I had a
Speaker 1: cartisan had asthma, so annoyed. Then I they had to
Speaker 1: go on the bloody ventilin like machine things for me.
Speaker 1: Then I had migrains that would make my body numb, like,
Speaker 1: no wonder, your.
Speaker 2: Parents just let you be your insane self because they've
Speaker 2: already been through too much.
Speaker 3: No more.
Speaker 1: Literally Anyway, one time I was trying to get to
Speaker 1: sleep and I just had this pain in my stomach,
Speaker 1: like someone was stabbing me. I was killed her. But
Speaker 1: I started hyperventilating. My parents like, we need to take
Speaker 1: you to the hospital. My mom's a nurse, mind you,
Speaker 1: so she we did it once over. She did that
Speaker 1: one time. But she's like, okay, Like I was being
Speaker 1: really upset, and she's like, I think you should get
Speaker 1: up and try and walk and like see if it
Speaker 1: gets better. It's like, no, Mom, I'm not going to
Speaker 1: do it. Take me to the hospital. So mom and
Speaker 1: dad take girl. I'm crying in the back. When I
Speaker 1: say hyperventilating, it was giving panic. Stations were alerted. I
Speaker 1: remember going down the hill in Mount Waverley and it
Speaker 1: was bright lights. Anyway, Mom's like, all right, it's time
Speaker 1: to get out and get into the hospital.
Speaker 2: Okay, why do I.
Speaker 1: Leave the car? One thirty second bout of walking and
Speaker 1: it goes. I just it, son.
Speaker 2: I'm I can't. I've got to go.
Speaker 1: To the hospital now, and just thirty seconds of walking. Guys,
Speaker 1: sometimes if you have that horrible sensation, you just.
Speaker 2: Need it outside.
Speaker 1: Depression, go outside, side farting, go outside, go outside. I'll
Speaker 1: just now like a genuine call memory. So all gonna
Speaker 1: say is if you ever need to far walk.
Speaker 2: Too many of you are getting it wrong when naming
Speaker 2: your babies. Don't take it personally. It's the first time
Speaker 2: you've done it, maybe the second or third, and so
Speaker 2: you're not an expert. It takes ten thousand hours to
Speaker 2: be an expert in something. Or is that false? It's
Speaker 2: probably true. It's take ten thousand steps is a lie also,
Speaker 2: but you just say something with confidence steps in regardless.
Speaker 2: And so I'm trying to figure out how I can
Speaker 2: be of surface to my community. And so I figured
Speaker 2: out how to ensure that you name your baby and
Speaker 2: set them up for success. The number one thing everybody
Speaker 2: is getting wrong is giving them one name. One first
Speaker 2: name incorrect. I have one first name. I'm lucky, I've
Speaker 2: risen above it. I have to go find another one
Speaker 2: because one is not enough and a last name does
Speaker 2: not count. You need a minimum four names. They don't
Speaker 2: need to be a quadruple barreled. It can be like
Speaker 2: a primary name and then the other three and then
Speaker 2: a surname. But you need four of those four. The
Speaker 2: first has to be traditional. I don't want to say it,
Speaker 2: but Catholic, Catholic.
Speaker 3: Big any okay or Victorian, something Catholic, tra not colonial.
Speaker 3: Everyone's gonna have one, especially giving birth in the next hundred years.
Speaker 2: Do yourself a favor. So the second quirky, a little
Speaker 2: something like a indigo, you know, Lucinda, Ah, Violet, Violet.
Speaker 2: I'm talking more so like Wilma. Okay, okay, do you
Speaker 2: know it's like it's a little bit quirky. There's a
Speaker 2: little something to it, you know. The third one everybody
Speaker 2: needs and a few of you might be opted out
Speaker 2: of this one. You'll find it for yourself. An ethnic name.
Speaker 2: I need to know, one that has origins from where
Speaker 2: you're from. I don't want to hear them like I'm Australian.
Speaker 2: Let's go, let's dig deeper into the ancestry. And then
Speaker 2: the fourth one. And I've heard so many horror stories
Speaker 2: about people who live life without the fourth name a nickname.
Speaker 2: We all know that person who doesn't have a nickname.
Speaker 2: Flex Oh, it's just just Jess anything.
Speaker 1: This is hitting a little too coast to home for
Speaker 1: some Okay.
Speaker 2: So it's just Chris, just okay, cool, It's just Caitlyn.
Speaker 1: That's Kaitlin.
Speaker 2: So, for example, let me give you an example of
Speaker 2: a name that could work. Okay, Victoria Pumpkin, Lupeter cherry,
Speaker 2: surname smith.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2: Do you see what I mean? Yeah? What you do
Speaker 2: is as she's growing up developing identifying, she might say
Speaker 2: Victoria doesn't really fit. I'm more of a Cherry and
Speaker 2: people be like, well, not something a real name? Is it?
Speaker 2: Actually it is? It is differ So when I have
Speaker 2: to say, oh, your real name's not Flex, what's your
Speaker 2: real name Lilian? It throws people off Lilian flex a handkin.
Speaker 2: It's missing two other names to really sell the story.
Speaker 2: So do your children a favor. Understand that all we
Speaker 2: do is people is find different ways to categorize and
Speaker 2: stereotype each other. Right. When I used to go for
Speaker 2: job in two years before I was flex, I would
Speaker 2: say more often than not people would be like, oh,
Speaker 2: I didn't think you never mind. So it was the
Speaker 2: amount of times people were like, I thought you'd be German. Interesting,
Speaker 2: I'm here now, and who said I wasn't. I'm ah,
Speaker 2: you're good, good job. So it goes I'm all I'm
Speaker 2: just saying, and I just read an article in the ABC.
Speaker 2: It's what we know already. People are going so far
Speaker 2: as to changing their names legally in the cost of
Speaker 2: living crisis to be more presentable or permissible of job opportunities.
Speaker 2: Just know the world we live in.
Speaker 1: That's me when I sign anything off LP, just in
Speaker 1: case everybody thinks I was a boy for clout in
Speaker 1: the workplace.
Speaker 2: Nice. You know what it worked? Nice?
Speaker 1: I mean a little customer service for.
Speaker 2: Hiding with the LP.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's on that.
Speaker 2: Don't ask what you can do for patriarchy, Ask what
Speaker 2: patriarchy can do for you. Amen.