WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - you're not "TOO BIG" buddy 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:09.080 Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.920 pay our respect to their elders past and present and 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.280 extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait island 0:00:15.320 --> 0:00:16.160 of people's today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:20.320 This episode is recorded on Gadiger Land of the or Nation. Well, 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:22.840 it's been an interesting start to the day, hasn't it 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:26.600 just more interesting for some than others? No? No, no, 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:29.520 I feel good. I feel cleansed, I feel clean, I 0:00:29.560 --> 0:00:30.680 feel ready and rearing. 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:33.120 Wait till everyone way you feel cleansed and ready. 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:36.120 Went to the toilet in Brittany's bathroom, and. 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:41.159 I don't think going to the toilet adequately describes what 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:42.720 just happened in my boom. 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:44.120 I unleash the depths of. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:51.400 You, unleash some serious fury. It's get to our office. 0:00:51.560 --> 0:00:53.920 It's like down wait are we recording this? This is 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:56.840 is not interes Just in case. Our office is down 0:00:56.880 --> 0:00:59.959 a corridor and then around a bend from the bathroom, and. 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:03.640 I can still smell what happened in that. Brittany got 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:06.440 incense out and started to like she's got the sage stage, 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:09.479 she's cleansing the house like a demon in here. 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:11.840 I try and I thought something died. I was like, 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:13.360 has a dead possum falling out of the roof, But 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:14.560 it was just Laura burning my brother. 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:32.040 Well I feel better for it anyway. 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:38.479 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:42.720 One Can't. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is our 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:45.800 Thursday episode. This is ask on Can't, where we answer 0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:50.080 all of your spicy, deep, dark and burning questions and 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:52.640 we have we have some good ones. We have some 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.440 real sexy ones today. I know we say that pretty often, 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:59.560 but like, I really enjoyed unpacking these questions. You guys 0:01:59.560 --> 0:02:01.880 are all, well, you're I mean, you know what, May 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:05.320 is masturbation month, so you're all getting spicy spicy. 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:08.520 That is actually a great little way to start the episode. 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:09.680 It is fasturbation month. 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:10.560 What does that mean? 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:13.799 Seriously masturbated? Why is it masturbating? 0:02:13.840 --> 0:02:16.080 Is it because it's their stats that like it's the 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:17.959 month that people masturbate the most? Or is it just 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:20.240 a month where we're like encouraging people to masturbate? 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:23.280 What the purpose? It's more about the alliteration and just 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:26.200 having a month of sexual wellness where we all embrace 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:28.960 and literally embrace our glitterists with our fingers. 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:32.160 Well. I think masturbation months should be every month. I 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.600 think if people should limit masturbating to four weeks of 0:02:35.600 --> 0:02:36.480 a year, I agree. 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:39.040 And if you're here in Brittany Hockley's house, masturbation month 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:42.560 is masturbation night every night. Every Everybody's not welcome. 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:43.400 Wow, that was coming out. 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:44.560 Everyone is bob. 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.440 Yes, everyone should masturbate all you. 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:48.000 You can have your own party for one at your 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:49.800 own home, is what we're saying, or a party for 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:52.079 however many you want to have and do it together, 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:53.639 like you know, more makes it more fun. 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:56.679 Like Lauras said, we do have some spicy little questions coming. 0:02:56.480 --> 0:02:58.760 Up, but before we do, I wanted to tell. 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:01.320 You something really funny that I saw that I think 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:03.840 everybody needs to know about. Like this is a PSA. 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:05.120 This is a very. 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:08.600 Important public service announcement. There's a video that's gone viral 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:10.959 on the TikTok on the INTERWEBSITEE. 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:12.880 If you need us to come up with some good content, 0:03:12.960 --> 0:03:14.800 you know where we're finding it these days. I just 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:15.200 love it. 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:18.320 I'm not actually on TikTok in terms of like I 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:22.520 don't post, but there is so much great content that 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:23.919 comes out of TikTok. 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:26.280 I mean you might not be on it, but you're 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:27.160 lurking in the back. 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:29.120 You always lourk because so much stuff goes down. But 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.160 this is one girl that went viral and I just 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:33.720 lost it. It was so funny and I think it's quite relatable. 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:37.440 Obviously it is because it's been viewed over fourteen million times. 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.800 Like this video has gone bunk, it's probably more by now, 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:43.720 has anyone been experienced when you're hooking up with a guy. 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:45.720 Maybe it's one night stand, maybe it's a bit more 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:47.840 longer term, but I feel like this happens usually when 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:50.520 you're only just in the very early days with someone 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:54.160 where you're getting frisky, you're about to have sex. Maybe 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:56.000 you pull out a condom because you want him to 0:03:56.040 --> 0:03:59.680 wear a condom standard first, and he says, because you 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:02.240 know I's coming, well, I think there are some one 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:04.840 size fits all, but you can get sized condoms. So 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:07.920 you pull out a condom and the guy says, oh, 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:10.240 that's too small, like I'm too big for that. That 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:12.880 will her, you know, knowing that the woman doesn't really 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:14.520 know what that's going to feel like so she can't 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:15.240 argue the point. 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.039 Do they mean the whole thing is tight, like the 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:20.839 whole elastic balloon is too tight, or do they mean 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:22.760 like the rim, like the opening. 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.039 I think they mean it like it's like a you know, 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.520 like a tant trapped in string. You know that you 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:29.280 put turkey in s trapped in string and it gets 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:31.360 too tight and it bulges out. I think when a 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:34.080 guy says it's too tight, it's like the end circular 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:35.960 bit that's tight and it cuts into them. That's what 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:38.480 I think. Oh, just like, yeah, like impresses it like 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:39.320 a sausage skin. 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:42.160 So I have a different impression of this because I've 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:44.400 definitely dated a guy in the past who used to 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:46.479 complain saying that condom was too tight. We all know what. 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:48.840 He just didn't want to wear one, but he was 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:50.680 saying that it was like the part at the base 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:52.680 of the peanuts was too tight, like the elastic that's 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:55.440 almost like the elastic band bit that keeps that it's secured. 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:57.240 He was like, that is too tight for me. 0:04:57.400 --> 0:04:59.480 Yeah, and I'm sure that, like, I'm sure that's a 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:01.640 thing not I think ninety nine percent of the time 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:04.120 I'm sorry, bro, but you're not that big, like the 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:06.160 condom's going to fit you. We know, we know you're 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:08.200 trying to pull the wall over our eyes. We know 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:09.520 what you're trying to do. You don't want to wear 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:10.360 the condom then? 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:12.120 And gen to be honest that he wasn't that big 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:15.120 either was he was very moderately sized. So I was like, well, 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:16.840 if you're having an issue with this, why has nobody 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:18.480 else ever had an issue with this? Well? There is 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:20.200 and I have even't told you this video yet. It's 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:21.560 so see how relatable it is. 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.200 It's so funny on that before we get into the video, 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:26.920 I have gone down a rabbit hole of penis data 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:29.279 and it's actually way more interesting than you would think. 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:32.280 But this World Data Info talks about the average penis 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:33.520 sizes by country. 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:36.880 When you say you went through some data of penis size, now, 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.880 was this through your own subjective research experience? Prettany are 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:42.040 the woman that you are or was this that you 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:43.000 actually did some googling? 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:46.320 Okay, no, this is definitely not research from myself, Laura. 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:48.600 I have not had that much sex. But thank you 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:49.720 for assuming that I have. 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.880 Subject study one. But I can do a subject study 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:52.360 around the world. 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.960 Absolutely not No, But the data says that the average 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:58.000 penis size is about thirteen centimeters when erect. 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:01.960 But the resort of thought, yeah, okay, look, I'm like 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:04.480 mentally trying to map out. Everyone who's listening to this 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:06.560 is now kind of like with their hands trying to 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:08.880 figure out how big they think all the penises are 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:12.560 that they've seen in their lifetime. I would say, yes, 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:16.479 it's about fifteen centimeters. Is probably browling the sweet spot. 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.680 Well, the reason of this information, you're probably like Brittany, 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:21.920 Wayne's this information crucial. This is crucial information. So thirteen 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:26.120 centimeters to seventeen is the range. The reason this is 0:06:26.160 --> 0:06:31.840 critical is because the average condom size starts at seventeen centimeters. 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:35.400 So the average condom size starts at the upper end 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:39.000 of the average penis scale. Meaning there is no excuse 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:41.680 for a guy to say I'm too big and I 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:44.839 can't fit the condom. Now there's this TikTok user that 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:48.359 she experiences, Right, there's these guys guys like I can't 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:50.880 possibly put that on. I'm so well in doubt that 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:51.599 this will hurt. 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:53.960 It hurts. It's like having a tight torn Okay, why 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:55.120 Paul Will's going to fall off. 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:58.120 The video is of her really slowly, and she even 0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:01.280 surprised herself. She starts to put the condom on her 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:03.360 foot right to show that it can stretch her over 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:05.320 the foot, and then she keeps on rolling it up 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.039 and she's like wow, and the music is this the 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:08.880 whole thing is amazing that she keeps rolling it up 0:07:08.920 --> 0:07:11.000 and up and up. Look, Laura, I'm going to show 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:11.440 you the video. 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:16.000 Now. The condom stretches and it looks like she's with it. 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.800 Looks like she's wearing tis. The condom goes up above 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:20.200 her knee like knee high boots. 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:23.600 She literally is wearing a knee high condom. That's how 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:25.960 far it's stretched. I'm interested in knowing. Is this like 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:27.920 an extra extra large condom? Is this is an average 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:30.320 sized condom? She just went pixy average. 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:31.960 One off the shelf. She's like, this, Will, there's no 0:07:31.960 --> 0:07:33.520 thought in this. We just because she's like, I didn't 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:34.800 know what it's gonna actually go so long. I just 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:36.680 thought it would go over my foot. But she's like, 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:38.920 next time someone tells you it's too big, showed them 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.360 this video because it is absolutely not. And it is 0:07:41.720 --> 0:07:44.240 that excuse now does not fly, so Tory Mum told 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:45.400 dadte dog toy friends. 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:48.800 Oh my god. Yeah. But also, are we still living 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:51.080 in a time where like men and I know we are, 0:07:51.280 --> 0:07:53.640 I know we are. It's been a lot, I know 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:55.320 we are, but it's been a long time since I've 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:57.840 been in the dating game. But like the excuses that 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.520 are made in order to get out of wearing condom 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:02.560 like condoms these days, if you you know, if you 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:05.040 choose to wear them, and that's that's ther vibe. They're 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:08.640 so thin, they're so ergonomic. There's been so much not 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:12.160 me well, like it's like you can feel all of 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:16.040 the sensations. Like the excuses are just so irrelevant now. 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:18.840 I think ladies and gentlemen and friends, if you're out 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:20.920 there and you're dating someone who's trying to, like, you know, 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:23.040 swindle you out of using a condom, they're just a 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:23.640 fucking jerk. 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:25.320 And I would also love to know off the back 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:27.160 of this, if you have like a brilliant if you 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:29.080 have heard a brilliant excuse, if you've been looking up 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:30.600 with someone and they have given you an excuse that 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:33.120 he's so fucking far fetched or funny as to why 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:36.040 they can't put a condom on. I would love to 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:37.959 hear that, so please send that in. 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:39.880 I once dated a guy who said he had a 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:43.319 latex allergy, and I was like, be true, yes, could be. 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:45.360 But you'll never never I will never know you. 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:46.520 Like, where's your allergy bracelet? 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:47.120 I want to see that. 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:48.480 I want to see that shit on your wrist. 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:51.760 I want I want some proof. Does it get You're 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:54.280 gonna get hives if you put this on? No? Look, 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:56.920 I remember it was very early days and I was like, hey, 0:08:57.120 --> 0:08:59.760 look through in one to put on. And he was like, oh, sorry, 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:01.960 I can't. I've got a late text allergy. And I 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:05.240 was like, that wasn't said in the way that you 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:07.200 would have said it. If you had a late text allergy. 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:08.880 How what can you do for that? 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:11.319 If it's just hives or something, can't you say can 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:12.800 I test that? Can I put a bit on your 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.960 arm or something? Not necessarily the willy, but if maybe 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:17.360 you could just rub it on the arm to test 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:18.840 to see what happens, because you're not gonna have an 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:20.240 anaphylactic fit, surely. 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:21.920 I think it's just a rat. I think what I 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:23.080 do is I ask him to wear it around as 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:26.720 a kneehighoot for the day. All right, let's get into 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:29.960 the questions for today and for everybody. I mean, we 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:31.520 still get this question quite a lot. 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How the heck do you tell someone 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:06.080 to stop aggressively playing tongue hockey with you? That's it, 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.880 that's the question. Oh, there's an AKA there, obviously a 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:10.560 bad kisser. 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:13.960 There's nothing worse is there than when you you really 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:16.600 like someone. The energy is so high, you're like, the 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:19.240 chemistry is there, You're so ready for that first kiss, 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:20.840 and then you kiss and you're like. 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:25.200 It's so bad because I might be on my own here, 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:28.560 But kissing for me is probably like my favorite part 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:32.280 of four play, Like I agree for me, if it's 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:35.679 good and the chemistry's there, like that can do so 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:38.320 much more. It really just either sets the tone or not. 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:41.280 And if your eyes open in shock while you're kissing, 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:42.440 there's something not going. 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:44.240 I was gonna say, when you say it's your favorite 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:45.920 part of four play, I'm pretty sure it's the only 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:48.439 four play we have. Now just kissed for two minutes, 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:51.480 We're like, all right, get it on, roll over it in. 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:53.720 There's not even any tongue, you just like lips only. 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:58.560 I also think like a bad kiss can dictate how 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:02.240 that connection then goes onto evolving. So for example, if 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:04.360 you kiss someone for the first time and that kiss 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.960 is beautiful and intense and like you feel connected, like 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:10.560 that makes you like the person even more, that kind 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:12.959 of really ignites that fire in you. And if the 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:15.760 kiss is terrible, it can Yeah, it can set you 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:19.160 in the opposite direction. The question being how do you 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:22.000 manage how do you mitigate the situation when somebody is 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:25.800 trying to penetrate you with their tongue. That word should 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.600 not be in that sentence, I do think you can 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.840 say less tongue like, I think you can say that 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:34.960 it's definitely never hard. Yeah, it's never going to be 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:37.200 a comfortable situation. Do you know what I think you 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:37.559 can do? 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:37.920 Though? 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:43.280 I think you can also sometimes actually like massage the 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.600 person into kissing the way that you want to kiss 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.959 by physically doing it. You know, difficult, but it's doable, 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:51.560 use your tongue in the way that you want them 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:54.920 to kiss you back. Because people often mirror other people's behavior, right, Like, 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:58.400 often when you're talking to someone, they'll mirror your body language. 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:01.280 Often when you're caressing someone in a certain way, they'll 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:03.960 do something similar back to you because you're giving them 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:07.160 the indication of what you like by physically doing it. Now, 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:09.720 I'm assuming and giving everyone the benefit of the doubt 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:12.160 that they can read signals, and not everyone can. We 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:14.480 know that, like, not everyone can pick up on the subtleties, 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:17.160 and some people need to be verbally told what you 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:20.600 do and don't like. So before you get like fully 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:23.880 cash the ick and completely jumps walk away from the guy. 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:26.679 If the guy's great or the girl's great, whoever it is, 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:31.840 I do think you could say let's try that again, 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:34.440 but with a little bit less tongue or whoa buddy, 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:37.520 like getting a bit excited there, or something that indicates 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:39.160 that maybe you're not loving it. 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:40.960 Do you know I broke up with someone once because 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:41.720 they're a bad kisser. 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:44.240 I believe it. I think heaps of people have broken 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:45.920 up because they're dat to people who are back. 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:48.200 Yes, I was fourteen, but I still did it like 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:49.920 it was my first experience. I was like, this can't 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:50.319 be normal. 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.560 Well, but I mean, fourteen is different because the poor 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:54.719 kid has had no experience. But you would think when 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.720 you're in your twenties and your thirties, you've probably had 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:00.440 some experience it. Kissing the only like I've definitely data 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:02.400 guys or being on like you know, Tinder dates or 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:05.840 early dates where the kissing was really bad and it 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:08.920 turned me off wanting to continue the relationship because I 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:10.319 was like, I cannot do this for the next things 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:11.240 two years of my life. 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:13.319 I think it should be treated, and I agree with 0:13:13.320 --> 0:13:15.600 everything you said, Laura, but it's a hard conversation. It's 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:18.079 I'm trying to think of how I would say. I 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:21.800 don't wouldn't necessarily say let's try that again without with 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.000 less time, Like I don't think that would be my approach. 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:27.400 Take two and action. I think that. 0:13:27.440 --> 0:13:31.360 I would first of all, and this is very doable 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:34.000 and lots of people do this. You can, like Laura said, 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.480 you can coach them into what you want to do 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:39.520 by doing it to them, so like pull back a bit, 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:41.360 don't open your mouth so much so it's like, don't 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:44.240 even let that in, Like you don't let you, don't 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:47.439 give them an opening, keep those lips taught, no, but 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.520 you do what you want to do, and hopefully, like 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:54.000 any every second person should be able to pick up 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:57.120 your vibes and your energy. If you've tried this, if 0:13:57.120 --> 0:13:59.440 you tried to coach them in and it's just not landing, 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:01.480 then yeah, you need to have the conversation because it 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:03.960 doesn't everything else could be perfect. But you do have 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:05.840 to enjoy kissing them because it's something that you need 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:07.240 to do for the rest of your life. But I 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:09.079 don't think they should be any different to we, and 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:12.640 we're big advocates for this too. Sexual experiences in the bedroom. 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:14.600 If you want something in particular or you don't like 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:16.440 something in particular, we always say. 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:17.000 Have the conversation. 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:19.600 Like everyone likes something different, you can be open about it. 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:23.000 I think the same thing can happen, it's just how 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:25.800 you're gonna actually say it to not hurt somebody's feelings. 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:29.480 Well, I think it's interesting that you find giving somebody 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:33.560 kissing feedback difficult because we've had this conversation just recently 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:36.960 in terms of like actual sexual feedback, like if someone's 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:40.080 doing something in the bedroom that is not to your liking, 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:42.240 you had said, oh, I have no problem with telling 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:44.800 them like that's too rough or that's too hard, or 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:46.880 you know, I don't like what you're doing there. So 0:14:47.160 --> 0:14:50.720 you feel more comfortable in giving someone feedback in terms 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.200 of sex. But you more comfortable doing that than what 0:14:53.240 --> 0:14:55.240 you would giving someone feedback about kissing. 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:57.560 Yes, I do, and I yeah, And I don't know 0:14:57.600 --> 0:15:02.320 why it's so interesting. Yeah, maybe because because maybe because 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.280 I feel like people are more particular about what they 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:06.880 like in the bedroom. But I find it easier one 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:08.920 hundred percent to say that I like something different in 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:11.360 the bedroom as opposed to kissing, because I feel like 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:14.440 people would take more offense to the kissing thing. I 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:16.200 don't know, I feel like it's more of a sensitive 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:19.400 topic because people usually think you know what, I think people, 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:22.760 particularly guys, probably think that they question how good they 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:24.560 are sometimes in the bedroom. I think that there's a 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:26.640 lot of performance anxiety and a lot of pressure on 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.600 men sometimes. But I think every man thinks he's a 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.480 good kisser, Like it's questionable in the bedroom, but I 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.400 think every guy thinks he's a great kisser. So to 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:34.520 hear that he's not, he's fuck. 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:34.960 Fuck. 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:36.760 I've been making out like this for fifteen years. 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:38.880 And I do also think it all comes back to 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:41.720 this idea that, like, not everyone likes the same thing, 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:44.680 and some people think that, you know, to show how 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:47.320 much they like you, like a really passionate, big open 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:50.240 mouth kiss with lots of tongue is what's going to 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:52.880 make you realize that they're super into the relationship or 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:55.000 whatever it is, you know, like they're just like super 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:58.080 eager to impress you or please you. And maybe they've 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:00.800 been in relationships with somebody who really enjoyed that style 0:16:00.840 --> 0:16:03.720 of kissing. Like literally everyone likes things differently and there's 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:07.200 no one shape fits all for anyone. So maybe someone 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:09.200 in the past has really loved that type of kissing 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:12.360 and it's just not what vibes with you. I'm still 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:14.440 going back to like, if there's something that you don't like, 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:17.360 you can say, let's look once again, let's try this 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:20.360 with less tongue, or just like, well, you know, that's 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:22.120 a bit too much tongue for me. I don't think 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:23.600 you have to make a big deal about it, but 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:26.920 hopefully they can get those subtle hints. And if you 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:29.200 have to have some more less subtle hints, i e. 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:33.040 Saying it directly to them. If they haven't gotten that feedback, 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:36.160 then maybe they're kissing style just doesn't match your kissing style. 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:38.440 And that's a very possible thing, and you probably would 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:39.400 just eventually get the egg. 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:41.560 Anyhow, good luck. Let's get into question number two. 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:45.320 All right, question number two. So I've been seeing this 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:48.080 guy for a few months and everything is going pretty perfectly, 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:50.360 although he recently said to me that I wear the 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:53.440 same perfume Chloe by the way, I love Chloe as 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:56.360 his ex girlfriend who he was with for six years. 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.240 He super politely said to me that every time he 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:02.480 smells my PERFC, it reminds him of his ex, and 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:04.959