1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,440 Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 4 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 5 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer podcast. This is 7 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 1: the podcast where we ch have mindset, self development and 8 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: becoming your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 9 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 10 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 11 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self developments. No 12 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to 13 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 14 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's 15 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting life past 16 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: you by, then you're in the right place. 17 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 2: Hey everyone, Happy Friday. Today we have a hotline episode 18 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 2: for you. We are answering two of the community questions 19 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 2: touching on some common themes. First, we are chatting about 20 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 2: relationship dynamics when it comes to house deposits. Does it 21 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:31,760 Speaker 2: need to be fifty to fifty or can you do 22 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:36,040 Speaker 2: other things? We also touch on managing other family members' 23 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 2: opinions about this. Next, we talk about how long you 24 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:42,680 Speaker 2: should wait for someone to propose and how to avoid 25 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:54,840 Speaker 2: comparing yourself to others. Let's get straight into the episode. 26 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 3: Hey Cooper, welcome back. 27 00:01:57,120 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 4: Hello everyone, good to be back. 28 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 3: We're excited to have you. I've got some fun hotline 29 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 3: questions today, so I'll get straight into the first one. 30 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 3: My partner and I are planning on buying our first 31 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 3: home together, which is really exciting. We both currently live 32 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 3: at home and have never lived with anyone before. I 33 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 3: currently have more money saved than my partner, as he 34 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 3: would have around forty percent for a deposit and I 35 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 3: have sixty percent. I was totally fine with this not 36 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 3: being fifty to fifty, as I believe what goes around 37 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 3: comes around, and I don't feel everything with money needs 38 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 3: to be equal to be fair. However, my parents think otherwise. 39 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:34,359 Speaker 3: My mum is super against this and feels we need 40 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:37,080 Speaker 3: to be fifty to fifty in case something happens and 41 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 3: we split up, because then he will get half of 42 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 3: everything he didn't put exactly half in. Is this manifesting 43 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 3: bad energy. Also, could this be to do with limiting 44 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 3: beliefs around money that she holds? Would you guys go 45 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 3: fifty to fifty or just put whatever you have saved together? Also, 46 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 3: just to note, he is not lazy or anything. He 47 00:02:57,480 --> 00:02:59,600 Speaker 3: runs his own company and one of the reasons he 48 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 3: has less is because he has invested more than I 49 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 3: have ever saved into this company and hasn't earned it 50 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 3: back yet. I just want to disclose we're not financial advisors. 51 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:11,800 Speaker 3: We're very much talking about this from an energetics perspective. 52 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 3: But what are your thoughts and feelings? I guess almost 53 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 3: in like a manifesting energetics abundance perspective on this situation. 54 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:23,839 Speaker 2: Yes, all right, So let's just start with what your 55 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:27,959 Speaker 2: parents are saying. And you're bringing this up to yourself, 56 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 2: and you're saying to yourself that it's you don't mind, 57 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,040 Speaker 2: like just it's okay to be honest, like it it 58 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:37,119 Speaker 2: is something. Otherwise if it wasn't, you would. 59 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 4: Ask the question. 60 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 2: So true, it's all good, Like it's fine. It's very 61 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 2: natural because in a relationship it should be fifty to fifty, 62 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 2: but like fifty to fifty to me in a relationship 63 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 2: is any number, Like I can come home and I 64 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 2: can be a ten and Ash can be the ninety. 65 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 2: So it's all about compensation and just being there for 66 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 2: one another. And this is very like listen to your intuition, 67 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 2: like if this, if your partner is the one and 68 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 2: you're feeling really good about this, like go with it. 69 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 2: Your parents are just trying to protect you, absolutely. Yeah, 70 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 2: so they're not giving you bad advice. They just they're 71 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:18,359 Speaker 2: thinking of the worst possible thing, and that's if you 72 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:20,600 Speaker 2: split up, you're not going to get your money back. 73 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 2: But yeah, if you think about that sort of thing 74 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 2: and keep thinking about it, it's going to be a 75 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 2: problem because you're going to manifest it. 76 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:30,719 Speaker 3: So it kind of is manifesting bad energy if you 77 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 3: focus on that. 78 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, definitely. 79 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 2: So like you kind of answered your question a bit 80 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 2: and you're on the right path and you're doing really good. 81 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:41,040 Speaker 2: But like with your parents, it might be a conversation 82 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 2: you're going to have them and say, I really appreciate 83 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 2: you giving me this advice. I'm going to take it 84 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 2: into consideration. But I've got it. I've got this. This 85 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 2: is my life and I'm very confident with my partner 86 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 2: like we're not going to split up, We're going to 87 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 2: work things out. It will come around. Plus it's just money, 88 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:06,160 Speaker 2: like I would, yeah, get too focused on money when 89 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 2: the bigger picture is you want to be together and 90 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 2: be good together and feel the emotions and go through everything. 91 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 2: And yeah, and he knows that. He knows he's not 92 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 2: putting a lot in, so it's going to fuel him. 93 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 2: So there's so much good to this. And it's to 94 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 2: put those boundaries up with your parents, because. 95 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 4: I've had the sact same thing. 96 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, not the exact same thing, but they've done it 97 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 2: in so many different ways to parentose. 98 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, but I feel like that's also parents, Like even 99 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 3: my friends have gone through similar things where your parents 100 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 3: do sometimes jump to the worst possible outcome because they 101 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 3: want to make sure that you're okay no matter what. 102 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 3: And that is like as if you're okay in the 103 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:48,840 Speaker 3: worst possible outcome, then you'll find no matter what. And 104 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:52,160 Speaker 3: I think it's just yeah, like you said, acknowledging that 105 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 3: that's where they're coming from and telling them like, hey, 106 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 3: it's all good. 107 00:05:55,960 --> 00:06:00,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like imagine if you did it and his businessiness 108 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,039 Speaker 2: went off, Yeah, and he had a heap of money 109 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 2: or something. 110 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 3: And he does the center of the next house. 111 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 2: Or well he might do one hundred percent. Yeah, you 112 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 2: might be a home like. It's just not a good 113 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 2: practice to be fixated on money, as bigger and better 114 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 2: things to be focused on. 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Now let's get back into 132 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: the episode. 133 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:32,560 Speaker 3: Okay, so our second question, Hey all, wanting to know 134 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 3: how to keep a high vibration when feeling disappointed and impatient. 135 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 3: My partner and I have been together for almost four 136 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 3: years and we are happier and more in love than ever. 137 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 3: We talk about marriage and children all the time and 138 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 3: both note this is what we want with each other. 139 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 3: But I can't help but feel upset at the fact 140 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 3: he hasn't yet proposed. I get frustrated and upset seeing 141 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 3: everyone else get engaged and disappointed that it has not 142 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 3: happened yet for us. I get worried that people look 143 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 3: at me and think I mean an unhappy relationship or 144 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 3: he must not love me because we are not yet engaged, 145 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 3: And to be honest, it's sometimes how I feel. I'm 146 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 3: so proud to be with him and want the whole 147 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 3: world to know, Yet I feel like because he hasn't 148 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 3: proposed to me, it means he isn't proud to show 149 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 3: that I'm his for life to everyone he knows. I 150 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 3: know we are not engaged because of money and because 151 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 3: we want that time in our life to be special 152 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 3: and abundant, not forced and on a budget. But I 153 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 3: just can't help but feel so impatient for having to 154 00:08:24,800 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 3: wait so long for something I want and deserve, especially 155 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 3: when everyone else has it and I don't. I'm twenty 156 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 3: five and I'm ready any advice. This song was also 157 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 3: from our Facebook group guys, so be sure to hop. 158 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:36,839 Speaker 4: In there if you're not good. 159 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 2: Question, I'm kind of feeling that. Yeah, like let's start 160 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 2: where like how he is feeling. So this is just 161 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 2: a good conversation that needs to happen between one another. 162 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,959 Speaker 2: Where like I've said, to give him the safe space, 163 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:59,520 Speaker 2: get on his level and understand why he is maybe 164 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 2: afraid do it. So like when someone is being pushed 165 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:07,680 Speaker 2: into something, can forced you know, it's too much, Like, yeah, 166 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 2: I don't want to be forced into something. It's going 167 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:14,959 Speaker 2: to just feel natural. And so like to start with yourself, 168 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 2: like try not to put so much pressure on yourself 169 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 2: to be in there from other people, Like stay in 170 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 2: your own lane, do what you're what you're doing. And 171 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 2: at the time, right now isn't the right time. And yeah, 172 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 2: trust the universe that maybe if you did it right 173 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 2: now it might not turn out right. So you're on 174 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 2: the right path and you're on the right journey right now. 175 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 2: And to enjoy now not being married, try and look 176 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 2: at it, at it in that era, in that way of. 177 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 3: And like not having kids, like just make the most 178 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 3: of it. 179 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:51,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, like be together and not have that burden of 180 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 2: doing what stereotypically everyone else is doing. Like be in 181 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:00,320 Speaker 2: the moment of what you can both do to together 182 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 2: when you're not married. 183 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 4: I don't know I. 184 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:07,559 Speaker 3: Would even say it sounds like to me, it sounds 185 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 3: like she's had the conversation and they've decided not to 186 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 3: get engaged or married yet because they want that time 187 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 3: to not be stressful about money or like worried about 188 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 3: finances and they know they're not there yet or where 189 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:21,000 Speaker 3: they want to be yet. But I'd ask if that's 190 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 3: actually how you feel now, because if you've decided with 191 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 3: him not to get engaged until you'll feel abundant doing it, 192 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:32,000 Speaker 3: but you're upset about not being engaged, is it that 193 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 3: maybe being engaged means more to you now, whether you're 194 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 3: financially abundant or not. 195 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, Like they're all excuses. 196 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 2: So you need to just have a good conversation together 197 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 2: and ask him why because there's a lot of assumptions 198 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 2: and there's a lot of feelings of pressure on yourself 199 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:55,559 Speaker 2: and let like have a deep conversation and say these 200 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 2: are my feelings towards it, like this is where I'm at. 201 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,840 Speaker 2: Where are you at? Like whatever it is doesn't matter, 202 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:05,200 Speaker 2: Like I'm here for you, like I want to be 203 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 2: with you. There's no pressure, like there's to give him 204 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 2: that safe space and say like it's all good and 205 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:16,720 Speaker 2: there's no pressure. It's like whatever you're feeling, like understand 206 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 2: why he hasn't done it, Like there's a reason communication 207 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 2: is so powerful and we don't use it because we 208 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 2: get so consumed in our head. Oh what about if 209 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 2: he says something I don't want to hear. It's better 210 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:33,959 Speaker 2: to know because the assumption in your head usually is worse. 211 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:37,440 Speaker 2: But if it's his questions worse, like at least you'll know, 212 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 2: like have that conversation with him, and then when you know, 213 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 2: if he says, oh, like I'm just not quite ready yet. 214 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 2: I just want to do a few more things, like 215 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 2: it's probably not anything even to do with her, Like 216 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 2: it's something else. I think there's something going on in 217 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 2: his head and you just need to get there with him. 218 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 2: And it would be a struggle and it might be 219 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 2: hard to get it out of him. But like keep 220 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 2: saying stuff, keep talking to him and give him the 221 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:11,160 Speaker 2: support and keep saying why yeah, Like keep saying like 222 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 2: why do you feel like that? Oh, that's that's really hard. Yeah, 223 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:18,320 Speaker 2: I feel that pressure from everyone else too, and be 224 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 2: with him like he's your partner together. 225 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 3: I think also she needs clarity on what she actually 226 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 3: wants from this question. It sounds like she's very clouded 227 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 3: focusing on where everyone else is at yea and I focusing. 228 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 3: She's focusing so much on like other people's timelines and 229 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:37,880 Speaker 3: other people getting engaged and married and having kids and 230 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 3: all the things, And it's like you need to almost 231 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 3: tune that noise out and go, am I actually happy 232 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:48,120 Speaker 3: not being engaged right now? Am I actually happy not 233 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 3: being married and not having kids yet? Or is this 234 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 3: something that I truly want internally right now? I want kids? 235 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 3: And actually get clear on that, because sometimes you can 236 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:02,959 Speaker 3: just get so overwhelmed with social media, like just noise 237 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 3: from everywhere on where you should be at, that you 238 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:09,040 Speaker 3: can confuse that and think that's what you want when 239 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:11,199 Speaker 3: it's actually not what you want, And as soon as 240 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 3: you sit down and think about what you actually want, 241 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:14,600 Speaker 3: it's not that. 242 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:19,679 Speaker 2: Yes, social media that is not the best thing from it. 243 00:13:19,800 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 4: Like I've had a pretty big detox with social media. 244 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 3: You have, you've done really well. 245 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:28,360 Speaker 2: I've done months and months. I have come back on 246 00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 2: it and I follow twenty people now, so there's like 247 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 2: not much on it and I look at it a 248 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 2: little bit and I just think, oh, it's anyway come 249 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:41,679 Speaker 2: out and it's very specific. So if those things that 250 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 2: are popping up in your face, don't look at them, 251 00:13:44,880 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 2: and then they won't pop up and be in the moment, 252 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:51,680 Speaker 2: Like it's you keep getting popped up, like these things 253 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:55,319 Speaker 2: popping up with other people's relationships and that sort of thing. 254 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 2: If it's not there, you'll be thinking of your relationship 255 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:03,200 Speaker 2: and what you can do together to be more exciting, 256 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 2: or how to get deeper and go to another level. 257 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 2: Like stay in your lane, don't be in everyone else's lane. 258 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 2: That it's none of your business. Yeah, like that's their life. 259 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 4: You do. You starts with you. 260 00:14:18,520 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 3: I love the story. 261 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:26,000 Speaker 2: It's it's always you. Yes, So I hope that helps. 262 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 2: But yeah, like even your age, that there's not a 263 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 2: measure of what to do. I've done stuff so young, 264 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 2: and people have done stuff later in life, but like 265 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 2: they got to travel, they got to do with these 266 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 2: things that I never got to do. Like if you compare, 267 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 2: you'll always regret. But just know you're on the right 268 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 2: path and you're doing the right thing and whatever comes 269 00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 2: your way, like listen to your intuition and you're doing great, 270 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 2: Like you're exactly where you are and you're doing exactly 271 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 2: what you need to do, and you're on the right path. 272 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 4: And when you believe that, everything's a lot easier. Just 273 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 4: I love so. Yeah, don't put yourself in other people's shoes. 274 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 4: Stay in your. 275 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 3: Shoes except when you want to talk to them. 276 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 4: Then put yourself in this if you need it. 277 00:15:21,680 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 3: Amazing. 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