WEBVTT - My car was stolen... 😩 why perspective is your superpower ⚡️ 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:03.720 I'm sitting here and I'm like, yeah, it's super shitty. 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:09.280 My car got stolen, and I beg, you know, I 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:12.000 could go into victim mentality and I could save these things. 0:00:12.400 --> 0:00:15.960 But also it's exactly and I could, you know, not 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:20.520 work today, not create a podcast, not you know, really 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:23.720 see the lessons in this, and I could just sit 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:28.280 in this pity party. But it's also like, like what 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:42.920 good is that going to do? Welcome back to the 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:47.040 Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, former 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:52.920 lawyer turned entrepreneur, social media personality and personal development junkie. 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:55.800 This podcast is for my girl gang who want to 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:59.800 feed their mind with positive and expansive thoughts to help 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:03.640 them step into their power and live their most authentic life. 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:09.120 We chat a variety of topics including mindset, business, relationships, health, 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:13.560 and so much more. Basically, wherever you are on your journey, 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:16.760 I want to help you feel inspired and empowered to 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:20.120 rise up and conquer your next bold move. I know 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:22.800 that's going to look different for everyone, but just no, 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:25.680 I'm right here by your side and that you have 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:27.480 the rn C community behind you. 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:28.920 Let's do this. 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:40.520 Hello guys, and welcome to another episode of the Rise 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:44.679 and Conquer podcast. It is your host Georgie Stevenson and 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:48.960 oh my goodness, do I have something to chat about 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:52.120 you today? And just a lot happening. So it is 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:55.360 Thursday morning, so you will hear this on Friday morning. 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:59.480 Last night, me and Tim got back from our holiday, 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:04.640 so we went to Northern Territory Ularu and oh my god, 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:09.200 we stayed at this resort it's called Longitude. It was 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:17.120 the most beautiful experience I have definitely like yet been through. 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:20.919 So it's just it was just the most amazing experience. 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:23.400 So before I chat to you guys any more about 0:02:23.400 --> 0:02:27.120 the experience, I definitely want to acknowledge and think that 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:31.360 Ananu I hope I'm pronouncing that right, people who are 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:37.560 the traditional are landowners and first Australians of Ularu. And 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:41.320 it was just the most amazing experience because we visited 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:45.399 Ularu in the morning, we did a base walk, we 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:49.840 visited at sunrise and had like you know, drinks and cannapis. 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:54.440 We went to Cadajudah, which is another like rock formation, 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:56.960 and that was just beautiful. 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:59.040 So it's really cool because in the morning we would 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:00.320 get up. 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:04.760 At like sunrise, so like quite early and then we 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:08.760 would quickly have breakfast go on an adventure. So then 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:12.640 we learned about their chukrapa, which basically just means their 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:16.960 you know, traditions, the culture, the stories they tell, the 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:21.959 lessons and yeah, so we learned about, you know, all 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:25.840 that sort of stuff. We saw some beautiful, beautiful, like 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:28.919 I don't know, just the presence there, like you get there. 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:31.680 And I was actually talking to Mel about it this morning, 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:35.040 but it's like you can feel the energy, you can 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:38.240 just not like it just feels like this like really 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:41.800 spiritual high vibe. I don't know, I don't even know 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:43.720 how to explain it, but it was just the most 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.200 amazing experience. I go to my Instagram, have a look 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:48.240 at my posts. I've got a bit of a highlight 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:50.360 there too, and I've got to add some more content 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:53.600 because it's just a holiday that I didn't think I 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:56.160 would ever do, Like it just almost never occurred to me. 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.920 And then we had some friends recommend it to us 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:02.960 last year it was on my vision board and then 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:05.720 we did that. So yeah, it was just like a 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:09.480 very surreal experience and it was so good. Me and 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:12.120 Tim didn't take too much time off at Christmas because 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:15.920 e commerce business you don't really get to and it 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.200 was just really much needed for us to you know, 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:21.480 have that time together. And it's just been last year. 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:22.760 It was just like, you know a bit of a 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:26.039 hard long year, as you know, everyone feels that way. 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.760 But such an amazing holiday. Oh my god. I could 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:32.000 not recommend it enough. And the hotel we stayed out Longitude, 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:35.400 this is not a plug in any way. We you know, paid, 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:38.800 it was not hashtag gifted or sponsored or anything like that, 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:42.960 but holy crap, I've never it is definitely on the 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:48.880 pricier side. But the experience, the staff, the food. It 0:04:48.920 --> 0:04:52.560 was like every single lunch was four course, every dinner 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:56.720 was five course, but like really amazing food that's like 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:01.200 very enriched with culture and Australian flavor and just oh 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:04.080 my god. And yeah, so they take you on all 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:09.320 the tours as well, so everything was inclusive, all your food, alcohol, tours, walks, 0:05:09.360 --> 0:05:13.000 everything like that. So, oh my god, amazing experience that 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:14.600 has been on the bucket list. 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:17.160 So very cool that we got to do that, very grateful, 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:20.800 had the best time. And then. 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:27.000 So last night at three am, I woke up to 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:30.960 Wolf barking, this is not unusual because he gets scared 0:05:31.200 --> 0:05:34.120 very easily, and he will bark at things like I've 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:36.000 woken up and he's barking at like, you know, a 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:38.320 plastic bag in the room or something like that. 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:39.400 So he was. 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:42.479 Barking, but I instantly got up, turned the light on. 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:46.040 And it was really weird because I just had this. 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:49.440 Intuitive feeling and I got up straight away walked to 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.240 the window. And then from our bedroom window we can 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:55.960 see our cars in the car pork because it's like 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:58.760 an open car port, not a closed one, and that's 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:00.880 like just legally what we had to do for our house. 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:04.359 And I could see my car was in there, but 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:07.960 I noticed the garage door was open, and so instantly 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:09.119 I woke up Tim. 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:10.720 And again I. 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:14.440 Wasn't on full alert because a couple of months ago 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:19.280 we had an incident when I checked outside and you know, 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:22.880 me or Tim had forgotten to shut the garage door, 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:24.960 and so I was like, oh, you know, maybe just 0:06:25.040 --> 0:06:27.279 Tim forgot shut because we did get take out late 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.120 at night. But then I woke up to him and 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:31.800 he's like, no, I definitely shut it. So he went 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:33.680 downstairs with a bat, and. 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:34.640 I was very scared. 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:41.880 He went downstairs, checked everything everything, Everything seemed fine, and 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:44.159 then we kind of just like, I don't know, I 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:47.040 just thought wolf was barking. Went back to sleep, woke 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:50.840 up in the morning again, I had this weird intuitive feeling, 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:54.080 went straight to my window, which again is weird for me, 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:57.239 looked outside and I could see my car was gone, 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:01.080 and so I instantly lack said that to Tim. He 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:05.560 ran downstairs and yeah, my car was stolen. Literally, they 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:08.640 would have had to break into the house and get 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:13.400 the keys because I have a Porsche, so you can't 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:15.800 actually start those cars without the keys. It's not like 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:18.320 you can hot wire it or anything like that. So 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:20.920 they needed the keys, and they've literally broken in the 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:25.320 back door, got the keys off the hook, opened the 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:27.880 garage door, and just driven the car away. So when 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:30.440 Tim went down, they must have been like hiding somewhere, 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:36.720 which is just the most grossest feeling anyway, So obviously 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:39.400 very shaken up. Called the police, put in a report. 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:43.800 There are forensic people coming later on this afternoon, you know, 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:46.200 called my insurance let them know what's happening, and the 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.080 police have just said we will. 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:48.360 Let you know. 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:52.400 And I spoke to my podcast manager and she was like, 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.800 because I actually had a completely different episode planned, and 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:57.720 she was like, you know, do you have an episode 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.600 do you want to skip it this week? And I 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:01.280 messaged and I was just like, look, I want to 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:03.559 skip it. I just feel so shaken up. I feel 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:07.440 so just weird. Yeah, like I just felt a bit 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:10.560 beside myself, and so I just said to her, I 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:13.000 want to skip it. And then I was actually driving 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:17.200 to the Naked Harvest warehouse and I was doing my affirmations. 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:21.120 I was reframing my mindset, and then I voiced my 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:25.440 podcast manager and I was like, no, like, let's let's 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:30.560 actually do this episode. Because in on this podcast, I 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:33.640 talked to you guys about mindset shifts. I talked to 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:37.520 you about perspective. I talked to you about, you know, 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:40.560 what to do when you aren't having a good day, 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:42.520 and all that sort of thing. And I think I 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:45.280 do tend to you know, do these solo PEP talks 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:48.440 and I talk about it after the fact. And I'm 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:51.360 very much a big believer in, you know, everything happens 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:54.040 to me. I'm a big believer like I turn you know, 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:57.840 shit into gold. I make bad situations better. And I 0:08:57.920 --> 0:09:00.920 thought to myself, like right now. Now I'm in the 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:05.720 thick of something, you know, really terrible happening, and so 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:07.560 I thought it would be like a cool episode to 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:10.760 actually just tell you what is going through my mind 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.200 and how I'm kind of reframing this and looking at 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:17.559 this during that, like during while it's happening, rather than 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:19.880 after the fact, when you know everything's okay or it 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.679 turned out a certain way. So a huge thing, like 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:28.360 what I'm doing right now is perspective. And I think 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:32.760 when something bad happens, we instantly, you know, we want 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:35.320 to blame, we want to get angry. And I totally 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:37.320 did that. Like I was upset at Tim and was like, 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:39.480 oh my god, you didn't you know, find those people 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:42.920 and what's going to happen. I felt so upset and 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:45.960 so angry. And I think we're all entitled to those 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:50.840 very human emotions, and that's so fine, like reacting to 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.800 a situation and feeling a certain way. I think it's 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:57.640 really good to feel feelings. But also a huge thing 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:02.200 is what we do move for it. So I really 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:05.760 thought to myself, I was like, you know what I 0:10:05.760 --> 0:10:09.280 can do right now is I can sit here, like 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:11.320 I can sit here and I can throw a Pea 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:13.520 party and I did, you know, go my stories. I 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:15.560 posted a photo ask people to share it, and so 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:17.280 many people are sharing. 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:17.800 It, which is so lovely. 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:19.480 But I was like, you know, I can spend all 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:21.560 day on my DMS being like, yes, I know, I 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:25.240 can't believe my car was stolen and poor me and 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:28.400 all that sort of thing, or I can sit here 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:33.360 and move forward, look at the positives and really use 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:38.040 this as I like, you know, a lesson, a turning point. 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:42.560 And so I actually journaled this morning and I'm like, 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.880 what is the lesson here? And I think sometimes we 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:48.520 don't know the lesson until the end, but I think 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:52.440 there's always lessons with anything. So a big lesson that 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:56.280 I first thought was Georgia, you had. 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:57.320 This intuition feeling. 0:10:57.400 --> 0:11:00.720 So it's so weird that wolf bark. I got up 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:03.320 straight away, which is something not usual, and I went 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:05.640 to the window and looked at my car. It's like, 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:09.360 subconsciously I kind of knew, but I didn't kind of 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:12.480 listen to it, like even when Tim went downstairs, like 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:15.440 I didn't follow it through and think it could be 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:17.839 that I almost pushed that feeling away because I just thought, 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.480 oh my God, like my car's not gonna be stolen. 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:22.520 And even in the morning, the fact that I got 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:25.480 up and checked it, it's like I had this intuition feeling, 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:27.840 and it's kind of like I'm a bit annoyed to 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:30.920 myself that I didn't tap into that. More So, a 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:34.199 lesson I'm taking from this is like just realizing that 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:38.760 intuition is everything, Like my gut knows everything, and I, 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:41.240 you know, have to make sure I'm listening to that. 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:46.840 So the next lesson was, you know, even though my 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:50.920 very expensive car that I worked very hard for and 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:53.599 you know, I have a lot of attachment to this 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:55.560 certain car just because it, you know, was on my 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:59.360 vision board and I worked really hard to you know, 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.640 save for it and just you know, all these things, 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:03.440 and then to have someone just like come and take 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:05.280 it with no, I. 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:06.960 Don't know, I just feel very violating. 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:10.199 But even though that happened, and that really sucks, is 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:13.920 looking at the you know, lesson of me and Tim 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:16.280 and the puppies are okay, but it could have been 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:19.000 a lot worse, Like you know, they could have if 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:21.840 we went downstairs and Tim had found them or you know, 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:22.719 something like that. 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:23.600 You just never know. 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:28.560 So another big lesson is we literally today, I've called 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:32.800 a whole security team and we're getting the house fully 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:37.720 set up with security like on our gates, cameras and 0:12:37.800 --> 0:12:41.560 all angles and just a lot happening because we do 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:44.240 have a camera, but it just really didn't give us 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:48.440 too much more than what the police already know. And 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:51.360 I think also something that we do need is like 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:56.160 a deterrent. 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So 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:50.480 even though this is a shitty situation, I choose to 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:53.760 believe that, you know, I am supported, I am guided. 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.600 Much like you know, other bad things that have happened, 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:58.760 I'm going to look back and be like this was 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:00.840 actually a good thing. Whether that is, you know, to 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:05.040 upper security so something you know worse doesn't happen, or 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:07.560 you know, maybe they find my car and it's a 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:11.920 ride off, but I don't know, I get a new 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:14.720 a better car, or I don't know. It's kind of 0:16:14.800 --> 0:16:18.840 like really just thinking that Yep, it's a bit shitty 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:23.640 right now. But also I have perspective and I have 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:26.880 choice in this situation. And I was actually reading a 0:16:26.920 --> 0:16:29.440 book the other day and it's called I was actually 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:33.000 reading it on my holiday because I'm interviewing these authors 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.600 for the podcast soon, so you will hear from them soon. 0:16:36.000 --> 0:16:39.600 And it's called Raising Girls Who Like Themselves. The author 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:46.480 is Casey Edwards and Christopher scan Scanlon. I'm probably butchering 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:49.800 that last name, but I was actually reading this on 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:54.320 my holiday, and they have a chapter called A Girl 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:57.800 who Likes Herself has a Power Perspective. And in that 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:02.560 chapter they really talk about, you know, raising and sorry, 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:04.600 I will get to a point with this, like raising 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:08.800 children and perspective is everything. And they talk about this 0:17:08.960 --> 0:17:12.959 concept which is, let me just get it, the power 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:16.000 of the power perspective, and they talk about, you know, 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:20.760 these two girls where one can have like this very optimistic, 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:25.919 resilient life happens for me, not to me perspective, and 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:29.320 then another girl can have this very like victim mentality, 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:33.080 poor me, I'm very anxious mentality, and it's very much 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:36.280 like they have. They could have the exact same teachers, 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:42.400 school parents, everything, but your perspective is just so important, 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:44.439 so I just want to read a little something about it. 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:47.159 So again, guys, this is not my own words. This 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:50.000 is from the book I just referenced, and it says 0:17:50.400 --> 0:17:54.359 so a perspective, it's not reality. It's the stories we 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:58.320 tell ourselves about reality. It's how we describe the world 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:01.919 to ourselves. It's what we think is important. It's whose 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:05.760 opinions we think out. It's seeing the glass half fall, 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:09.879 verse half empty, same glass, same contents, but it's a 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:13.280 completely different way of looking at it. Everything we experience 0:18:13.400 --> 0:18:18.560 is filtered through our own internal interpretations and descriptions of 0:18:18.600 --> 0:18:21.680 the world. If our girls don't view the world from 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:25.080 a power perspective, then in some ways, it doesn't matter 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:29.240 what reality throws at them, whether it's good or bad, 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:35.280 they will interpret interpret it from a perspective of powerlessness. Powerlessness. Wow, 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:39.359 I'm so sorry, guys. If every day setbacks crush them, 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:42.560 or if they see their future through a haze of negativity, 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:47.160 then they will approach the future with fear. Similarly, if 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:51.040 they achieve amazing success, but they believe their achievements are 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:54.000 nothing more than dumb luck, or that they fall short 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:57.760 of their perfectionist standards, then they may as well also 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:02.479 believe they themselves are failure. This is why perspective is 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:04.520 so fundamental. 0:19:03.880 --> 0:19:05.760 To raising a girl who likes herself. 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:10.920 And then in the chapter, it just goes on to say, unsurprisingly, 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:14.720 people who have a power perspective are more resilient and 0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:18.040 tend to be more successful than people who feel powerless 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:21.080 in their lives. They work harder because they believe their 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:23.840 hard work will pay off and that they will eventually 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:27.800 achieve their goals, even though they will deal with setbacks 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:31.199 along the way. The benefits of the power perspective go 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:35.840 beyond the psychological Adopting a power perspective can also improve 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:41.080 people's physical wellbeing. And then basically the opposite to a 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:45.600 power perspective is people who believe that their life is 0:19:45.960 --> 0:19:49.320 determined by chance, events, faith, luck, or other people who 0:19:49.359 --> 0:19:54.160 are more important to them. Basically, just to summarize, this 0:19:54.240 --> 0:19:57.879 book just talked about this power perspective and if you 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:02.320 kind of take control and you really choose to see 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:06.439 things in a positive and you reframe things even in 0:20:06.480 --> 0:20:12.080 a sucky situation, that's what makes resilience. So, like I said, 0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:16.720 I'm sitting here and I'm like, yeah, it's super shitty 0:20:17.040 --> 0:20:22.280 my car got stolen, and I beg, you know, I 0:20:22.280 --> 0:20:24.960 could go into victim mentality and I could save these things. 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:28.960 But also it's exactly and I could, you know, not 0:20:29.080 --> 0:20:33.520 work today, not create a podcast, not you know, really 0:20:33.600 --> 0:20:36.720 see the lessons in this, and I could just sit 0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:41.240 in this pity party. But it's also like like what 0:20:41.359 --> 0:20:44.359 good is that going to do? And so I actually 0:20:44.440 --> 0:20:47.920 sat here, and like I said, I journaled, I reframed everything. 0:20:48.040 --> 0:20:51.520 I told a new story where I was like, you know, 0:20:51.600 --> 0:20:54.520 the shitty thing happened, but I choose to believe that 0:20:54.680 --> 0:20:58.040 I am supported. Life is happening for me, and just 0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:01.119 because I can't see it right now, I know that, 0:21:01.359 --> 0:21:05.000 you know, everything is okay. And also if this is 0:21:05.119 --> 0:21:08.560 just like a purely shitty thing, like I know, the 0:21:08.600 --> 0:21:11.600 whole everything happens for a reason, some people like you know, 0:21:11.920 --> 0:21:17.080 what of the shittiest things, also realizing that it's like 0:21:17.200 --> 0:21:19.680 fine to just feel a bit shitty, but also it's 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:23.760 like what am I now going to do moving forward? 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:27.280 And I think it's like, you know, I don't know 0:21:27.320 --> 0:21:30.000 what's going to happen. Who knows if they're going to 0:21:30.040 --> 0:21:32.679 find my car. It could be today, it could be 0:21:33.320 --> 0:21:35.480 you know, in five days, I won't have a car 0:21:35.720 --> 0:21:40.400 that's obviously crappy, or you know, these people can completely 0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:44.359 right off my car and it. You know, I've got insurance, 0:21:44.440 --> 0:21:47.399 but I really don't think it's insured for the amount 0:21:47.440 --> 0:21:49.520 it actually cost. And you know, different things like that. 0:21:50.160 --> 0:21:53.920 So long story short, guys, if you're also going through 0:21:53.960 --> 0:21:57.440 something just like shitty where you're just like why me, 0:21:58.320 --> 0:22:00.399 I really want you to sit there and I should 0:22:00.480 --> 0:22:04.760 think what are the lessons I can learn here, even 0:22:04.880 --> 0:22:09.120 like the smallest little things like mine, where it's like Georgia, 0:22:09.240 --> 0:22:12.320 you have an amazing intuition and you need to trust 0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:15.840 it because it always knows what's to do. And that 0:22:15.960 --> 0:22:18.320 was such a good like a reminder for me to 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:21.240 check in with my intuition, just because I I am 0:22:21.280 --> 0:22:24.359 someone who strongly listens to their intuition, so it was 0:22:24.440 --> 0:22:27.280 just like a great reminder. And then also just the 0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:30.840 lesson of need to up my security, need to you know, 0:22:30.920 --> 0:22:32.920 make sure our keys are locked up and all that 0:22:32.960 --> 0:22:37.040 sort of thing, and also just the huge perspective of 0:22:37.920 --> 0:22:40.680 me and Tim are safe, the puppies are safe. Yes, 0:22:40.840 --> 0:22:44.240 my car is gone, but in the end, it's a 0:22:44.280 --> 0:22:47.119 material thing I can buy a new one. You know, 0:22:47.280 --> 0:22:50.679 I will get insurance. The police have been notified, and 0:22:51.160 --> 0:22:53.800 it is okay. And so, like I said, if you're 0:22:53.800 --> 0:22:59.520 going through something negative, reframe it and see a different perspective. 0:23:00.000 --> 0:23:02.199 Because if we can do this, guys, and if we 0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:07.480 can be resilient even in shitty times, this is like, 0:23:08.040 --> 0:23:11.840 you know, it's so easy to be positive when everything 0:23:11.920 --> 0:23:15.080 is going good and life is great. But these sorts 0:23:15.080 --> 0:23:19.880 of times, this is where we retrain our brain and 0:23:19.920 --> 0:23:24.560 we make new pathways and we really need to tap into, 0:23:24.800 --> 0:23:28.000