1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 1: Same, So whoam me? So wone me? No need to 2 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:10,040 Speaker 1: feel sad and gloom let Jones and a man to 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: find love for here. 4 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:14,480 Speaker 2: Married at first Sight. We watched that show and all 5 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 2: of us sat cross armed watching the show so I 6 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:18,920 Speaker 2: could do a better job matching people up. 7 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: Well, they're not sincere and that's its show. That's about 8 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 1: something else. But there's a whole lot of people in 9 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 1: Sydney who are looking sincerely for love. And since we 10 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:27,880 Speaker 1: said well, maybe we'll have a go at this, we've 11 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: been in undated with people telling us their stories. If 12 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: you'd like to join in, please go to our Facebook, 13 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: go to our website. There's a questionnaire and people have 14 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: been very honest about themselves about what's gone wrong in 15 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: the past, what they're looking for, about their own doubt, vulnerabilities, 16 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 1: as to what might be red flags for other people 17 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: about them. But people's stories are really interesting as to 18 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,200 Speaker 1: how hard it is to find love, and. 19 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:55,040 Speaker 2: It is hard out there. There's so much choice out 20 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 2: there with all the dating apps and things like that. 21 00:00:56,960 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: But with all the choice, no one's settling down and 22 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: people are all being cheated on. Marty joins us. Hi, 23 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 1: Marty Hi. We were very interested in all your story. 24 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 1: You're fifty three years old, a retired police officer. Keep 25 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:15,319 Speaker 1: yourself fit, you like aerobics. You say you don't attract 26 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 1: the right kind of guys. Who are you attracting? Tell 27 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: us about the men that you've attracted in the past. 28 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,039 Speaker 3: Look, I think I've met some nice guys, but unfortunately 29 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,680 Speaker 3: I end up they break up with me and usually 30 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 3: meet someone else on with them, and then they want 31 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 3: to be best mates with me, while do we somebody else? 32 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 1: So they're going out with you and then they meet 33 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: someone else and cheat on you as what you've sort 34 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,199 Speaker 1: of yeah, and then want to be your friend. 35 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:45,320 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, then they just stort me for years. Basically, yeah, 36 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 3: I want to be mates with me? Want to tell 37 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 3: me all about their new partners? 38 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: Oh? 39 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 2: Come on, I was reading here. It says how many 40 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 2: times have you been in love? And you say over ten? 41 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 2: So it would it be fair to say that you 42 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 2: fall in love easily? 43 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 3: Not necessarily easily. I think I just meet nice people 44 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 3: like I do, meet nice guy but doesn't last. 45 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: Let's see if we can change all of that for you. 46 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: You said your red flags are men living with their 47 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: parents and men who own nothing in their fifties, And 48 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 1: I love this, he said. 49 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 2: If you've got a man in his fifties living with 50 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:20,280 Speaker 2: his parents, then you know. 51 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: That's a red flag flag. And also men who get 52 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: me to pay for everything but promise to spoil me. 53 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, Well, and I like this other one that 54 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 2: you ride here. Men who turn their phones off on 55 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 2: days I don't see them, but when I'm with them, 56 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 2: they have no problem answering to others, including other women. 57 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, has that happened? Yea, it happened. Actually, So what. 58 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: Do you mean you sit that you're with him and 59 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: he's taking texts from other women. 60 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,080 Speaker 3: So for instance, he's always going out with his ex 61 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 3: wife and his kids. And then I was to call 62 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 3: and if I did call, he was with him. That 63 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 3: was terrible. But at my fifties, every photo he's in, 64 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 3: he's on his phone. Every time I try to speak 65 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:01,079 Speaker 3: to him, he was on his phone. Had a big 66 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:03,679 Speaker 3: party out. But yeah, and then the last time I 67 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 3: saw him, he was literally on the phone to some 68 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 3: girl he'd met at his boys weekend about two weeks before, 69 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:10,800 Speaker 3: after I'd just had surgery, when he should have been 70 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:14,240 Speaker 3: helping me. So yeah, so that was it for me. 71 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:16,079 Speaker 1: Do you think part of this is what we've been 72 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: talking about Marty, is there's so much choice now on 73 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 1: those apps that people find it very hard to settle. 74 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. And I also think it's a society where we 75 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 3: have no stance anymore. Like it's just seems everybody would 76 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 3: just walk out of a relationship because it's easy to do, 77 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 3: so people don't really discourage it, so there's no real 78 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 3: moral stance anymore. And then it's funny because of Frid 79 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 3: that a lot of guys that I've been with they 80 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 3: tend to come back to me and then try and 81 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 3: get back with me. But I think it's because of 82 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 3: my moral stance, and then I don't know that's what 83 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 3: I believe, but I could be wrong. But yeah, but 84 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 3: I tend to find guys that they do want a relationship, 85 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 3: and then they're with me for a while, but then 86 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 3: they meet somebody else, but they always come back, and then 87 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 3: I'm like, Noah, he had your chance. 88 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: See that's a classic case of people thinking I really 89 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: like Marty, but I wonder what else is there, and 90 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 1: then they discover actually Marty was great, but by then 91 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: you go, no, suck, Oh it's too late. 92 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 2: Buying a car. Invariably when you get the car that 93 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 2: you buy is the first one you look at. 94 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 1: Not always the first one. You know, there is that thing. 95 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: I really believe that, almost like love, the one you're 96 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 1: with a lot of love and loving is choosing to love, 97 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: you know. I think we're wrong to wait to be 98 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: hit with this thunder. 99 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 2: I've got to love. Forget about Crosby Stil's the National 100 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:33,919 Speaker 2: Loves are doing Well or think Crosby Stiels Nash. They said, 101 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 2: if you can't find the one you love, love the 102 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 2: one you will. 103 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, but loves a doing words. So you know you 104 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 1: don't just wait for all this stuff to hit you 105 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: and for all the endorphins to hit you. You have 106 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:43,479 Speaker 1: to make an effort in here too. 107 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 2: And here's Marty. 108 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 1: She's just a goodl sound lovely, Marty, Well, lovely to 109 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:50,719 Speaker 1: meet you, Marty. We're going to be meeting other people 110 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:53,680 Speaker 1: along the way. If you would like to be well 111 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:58,320 Speaker 1: an entrant, please go to our website. Yeah, let me 112 00:04:58,320 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: see what we can do for you.