WEBVTT - Could This Be the Craziest Trial Ever? 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:04.640 Flex and frooms on kit Flex and Frooms. That's the 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:11.040 podcast version see yat Macytos. When's I going to get annoying? 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:13.120 I think it already has. Is it annoying for you 0:00:13.320 --> 0:00:16.079 to always put to self assess getting there? Yeah? 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:18.279 Use it in a post a couple of days, agoth 0:00:18.320 --> 0:00:20.080 honton it's on those last legs. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:24.520 Get your money's worth while you can. Oh, coming up, 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:27.479 We're talking about a lot of great things. I personally 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:29.800 am obsessed with the podcast only because you know me, 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:32.000 I love a epee love it. Little chitty chitty, I 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:33.400 want to speak at length about stuff. 0:00:33.400 --> 0:00:36.040 She doesn't stop, really she doesn't, but I do actually do. 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:37.600 In between records, we don't really talk. 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:41.080 I used to talk so much now I think I 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:44.160 took fifty percent less, if not more. 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:47.120 How many podcasts did I used to do? Too many? 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:49.240 How many online little like learning things? 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:49.599 Hey? 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:51.760 Everyone, look at this thing I learned. Let me teach 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:52.640 you or what I learned. 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.720 Now, I want to try and diagnose you. Something's going 0:00:56.760 --> 0:00:59.520 on When I try and explain you to people, I 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:02.640 don't get it. What's happening so much? 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:06.040 What's going on? Babe? You do so much? Yeah, it's feeling. 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:11.679 It's wild doctor irregular sleeping patterns for sure, which is 0:01:11.720 --> 0:01:15.319 a flag of something you have racing mind? 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:17.960 Yes, so many thoughts. 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:20.959 It's not adhd or at least it's not traditional presenting 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:23.240 highly functioning. 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:27.320 Well, maybe I'm not. Maybe I'm just masking it all 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:27.800 very well. 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:28.920 Maybe you're just manic. 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:32.520 I don't think i'm that manic. I'm pretty like, what's 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.560 the last cooked thing I've done? I haven't done a 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:35.400 cooked thing in a while. 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:36.160 The feet stuff. 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:38.240 When I was in Bali last week, Mum goes, oh, 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:42.160 look at that, showed me your feet with the manicure, 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:45.880 which the feet has the eyes manicure. 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:47.080 Oh yeah, I love that. 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.360 She's like, that's discussing now. I don't think anything's wrong 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:54.600 with you. I just think you're like very productive. 0:01:55.120 --> 0:02:00.360 That's really sweet, thank you. I'm just a product of capitalism. Yeah, 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:04.080 later on we'll be talking about my fellow handmaiden of capitalism, 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:08.440 Kim Kardashian. She said that if she had the opportunity 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:10.760 to eat pooh every day, if it would make her 0:02:10.919 --> 0:02:14.200 look and feel younger, that she just might. And instead 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:16.280 of talking about that, we talked about beauty standards. 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:22.240 Literally the best bit about it completely ignored. Sorry, it's 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.320 just as my brain was trying to compute, Yeah, the concept. 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:29.240 I think we had different ideas about the concept always though. 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:30.360 That's the best thing. I don't think we've had a 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:33.800 similar idea in our life. Probably not. That's sweet. And 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:37.440 then we talked about Sorry, I was just putting some 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:38.480 croc sound effects. 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.400 We talked about sweden Gate, which started off as a 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:48.720 raddit post. People found out that in Sweden, traditionally, generally 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:51.280 we don't know. We're not there, but it's not customary 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:56.240 to feed your guests. When they come over. They'll often 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:58.440 wait in the other room while you feast, and then 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:00.600 when you're done, you can bring them back in the room. 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:03.200 They say, it's not meant to be offensive. It's not 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:04.959 because they don't want to feed you, or because they're 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:08.680 too cheap too. It's because they assume that you have 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:11.960 dinner plans and you have your own traditions that you 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:17.000 don't want to be interrupted. We'll see about that stingy. 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:21.400 Stick around. Enjoy the pod flecks. 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:28.880 And I know people get really frustrated when media personalities, writers, 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:32.320 content creators talk about the Kardashians. But I for one, 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:37.200 think they are just a well of content. There's not 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:39.400 a day that goes by where one of them doesn't 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:43.360 do something that warrants a headline. And you think, by now, 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:47.000 with almost a decade, if not more, in the entertainment industry, 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:51.360 what could they be saying that could warrant global fanfare? 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:56.680 Kim Kardashian said, and I quote, if you told me 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.720 that I literally had to eat poop every single day 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:03.160 and I would look younger, I might, I just might. 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:06.120 So many people want to act like they don't care 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:08.680 about how they look. I'm not acting like it comes 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:11.920 easier or it's all natural. You just don't wake up 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:16.000 and use whatever you wake up you use ingredients, the 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:21.160 PRP facials, stem cell facials, lasers. All of that is 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:24.839 work that came off the back of the fact that 0:04:25.200 --> 0:04:28.000 people found out that in preparation for the Metgala, Kim 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:31.960 Kardashian lost I think it was sixteen pounds, did in 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:35.960 a very unhealthy, restrictive way, and she was very open 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:39.159 about doing so just to fit into this very small 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:43.440 archival Marilyn Monroe dress. And she came out and said, well, 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.640 Christian Bales done that for his movies. And nobody said 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:48.960 that it was too far or not enough. In the 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:52.400 same way that he chose to do something restrictive for 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:55.240 his craft, I'm doing the same for mine. Why is 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:58.400 there a double standard? And I think that is a 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:03.200 very cheeky way address what is happening here, because in 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:07.120 this instance, I think that what the Kardashians do very 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:11.480 often is they skirt around the fact that they have 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:16.640 this huge megaphone to influence the way people act, think, 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:20.120 do believe, and then play a little bit dumb about it. 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:22.120 I think it would make sense if Kim was just 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.520 like and so what like, I wanted to look good, 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:27.040 I wanted to look cute, and I did what was necessary. 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:30.760 The double sound I think that would be bad now 0:05:30.880 --> 0:05:33.400 because I think, in this instance, do you really think 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:36.440 Kim said Kim thought as she was getting ready, Well, 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:37.480 men do this all the time. 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.440 Actors do this all the time. This is my craft. 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:47.640 I think it's the retrospective trying to put like almost 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:51.479 like theoretical context behind why it's okay is what makes 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:54.479 a lot of the critique happen more because I feel 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:58.360 like the Kardashians operate in a very superficial landscape it's 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:01.360 about looking pretty, it's about feeling pretty. But in trying 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:04.400 to justify it, it always kind of gets political in 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:07.000 a way that you could you could hold so much 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:08.839 power to just say I want to look cute, this 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:12.159 one about it or good as opposed to now making 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:15.760 it a gendered conversation. And it can be a gendered conversation, 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:19.040 but let's talk about that when it matters, Like when 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:22.080 the Kardashians are stealing aesthetics of black women, it can 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:25.000 be a gender discussion. But then when that's happening, they well, no, 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:29.880 like some European people wear braids or have small waists 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:32.760 and big butt, not only Black women have big butts, right, 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:35.560 And so it's like, I get what you're saying, Kimmi, 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:38.440 but do you get what you're saying? Yep, yep, yep, Yeah, 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:39.640 I wonder sometimes. 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:43.480 To be honest, I hadn't thought about the Christian Bale connection. 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:46.240 I'm surprised that they pulled that out of thing. If 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:47.599 I couldn't have even thought about. 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:51.600 Whoa it was obtuse it was abstract in the context 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:54.920 of beauty standards, We're not measuring women against men. That's 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:59.040 not how beauty standards work. We're measuring women against women 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.760 based on standards that men popularized. 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:07.920 Because the issue is that she's promoting unhealthy behaviors, is 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:10.480 what we're saying. But I think if you use that argument, 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:13.840 then everything that she's ever done is problematic. 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:16.120 Love the chat, Love. 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:17.720 The chat, And I feel like we didn't touch enough 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:18.720 on her eating pooh. 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:22.880 But I guess that's you're not segment. Somehow we miss 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:24.720 that point. Anyway. 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:28.640 Up next, you're gonna be telling something something about Sweden. Yeah, 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:30.240 it seems to be your favorite topic week. 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:34.680 They're having a terrible pr moment right now in media. 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:36.480 It is not looking good. 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:39.640 This is flex and frooms on Kita. 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:43.280 You've traveled a bit, right, like a bit from Bali Ballet. 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:44.520 You've done the eure. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.480 Never Europe doing it in September tips hit him in 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:48.520 the inbox at rooms. 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:49.360 Do you really want them? 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:49.760 Nuh? 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:54.080 Okay, it's good to know when you're lying. So I've 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:55.920 done a bit of traveling in my time. I want 0:07:55.960 --> 0:07:58.280 to do more. I'm trying to go to places I 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:00.760 don't want to call them niche. But let's say if 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:02.760 I said I was going to Europe, and I said 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:05.960 I was going to Prague. That feels a bit more 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:08.440 niche than saying I'm going to London. But I digress. 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:11.080 I am fascinated with the cultural norms that exist in 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:15.040 different places, because when you're born and raised in one environment, 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.560 it sometimes comes as a bit of a shock when 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:22.920 somebody else's cultural norm is so far from what you 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.320 could even imagine to be true or real. 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:26.960 In Ghana, it. 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:31.680 Is not unusual for generations of families to raise one kid, 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:34.319 so you could walk around as a toddler and be like, 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:35.360 maybe that is my mom. 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:36.760 I don't know, maybe that's my mom who knows. 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:39.760 They all raised me and that's very normal, Whereas in 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:42.839 Australia you very clearly know, like that person is your mum, 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:44.760 that person is your dad, et cetera. 0:08:45.280 --> 0:08:46.040 I know, culturally. 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:48.480 When I was younger, my mom hated the idea of 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.240 me sleeping over at friend's houses. She was like, I 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:54.120 do not know those people. I do not trust those people. 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:56.720 I don't know what happens in their houses. She was 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:59.120 very adamant that, you know, cook things happen all the 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:03.400 time with pairsarents and their children behind closed doors. Did 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:05.880 not want to expose me to that which is pretty fair. 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:11.679 But recently online this hashtag sweden Gate went viral, and 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.040 I thought that was very odd because last week we 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:17.160 talked about Sweden was in the news because there's an 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:19.640 eight year rental weight list if you want to rent 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:21.640 a home. If you want to hear more about that, 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:25.080 listen to our podcast Flex and Rooms. But sweden Gate 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:27.920 was a thread on Reddit, which has since been deleted. 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:32.600 Why Conspiracy asking people to share about their experiences and 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:35.559 strange social customs visiting other people's homes. 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:35.840 Right. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:39.280 Someone tweeted about their experience as a child playing at 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:42.240 their friend's house in Sweden and they were told to 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:45.360 wait in their friend's room as the family had dinner. 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:47.520 What Right. 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:51.120 Another shared an experience being left out of breakfast after 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:53.880 sleeping over at a friend's house the night before, and 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:57.560 the post generated so many upfots that people were like, 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:01.880 what is going on in Sweden? Basically, what I'm discovering 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:04.199 and after a bit of research, is that it is 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:12.040 not expected for Swedish people to feed or snack guests 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:14.560 in any capacity. So if you were to go to 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:17.400 a Swedish person's house and you were hanging out with 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:19.800 your friend, you would wait in the other room as 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:22.240 a dinner, and then they would come back and get 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:26.640 you when you were done. Now, some people say, some 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:29.640 Swedish people say that this is like a traditional thing 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:32.280 or like it's they've heard of it, but it doesn't 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.800 happen in their household. But overwhelmingly people like it's pretty 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:39.600 commonent enough that people traveling in have experienced that and 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:42.840 felt really isolated and thought it was almost like a 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.560 separate incident, like you didn't want to feed me, not 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:50.400 culturally not feeding people. So this Swedish guy weighs in 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:54.160 and said, the Swedish thinking goes like this, the other 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:57.880 child or the other family who's visiting the Swedish person's 0:10:57.920 --> 0:11:01.160 home might have other plans for another kind of dinner, 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:04.000 and you wouldn't want to ruin the routine or preparations. 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.520 I don't think it's anything to do with not wanting 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:08.960 to feed the other child or because it costs money 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.959 or anything like that. It's more to do with tradition 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.960 and wanting to eat with your own family. And other 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:18.560 Swedes offer different explanations as to why it's happening from 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:22.440 old traditions which put the onus of hospitality on the rich. 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:25.640 So Sweden was once a poor country, and so it 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:29.680 wasn't expected for them to now extend beyond their means 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:31.800 to feed someone where there wasn't much to go around. 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:34.120 That feels kind of debunked, though, because there are a 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:37.600 lot of you know, generally not rich nation to have 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:41.640 a huge culture in sharing and feeding, et cetera. The 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:44.080 thing is the Swedes are defensive. 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:46.880 Sweden is at. 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:52.840 The best pr of like all countries until two weeks. 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:57.199 Ago something, because I remember they give people like little 0:11:57.200 --> 0:12:00.200 babies cuts and stuff when they're born. Do they like 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:05.439 they gave men parentally before that was I think yes, progressive. 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:08.400 In some ways, not in the ways where it matters feed. 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:11.040 That's crazy, so embarrassing. 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:13.120 Part of me thinks, and I don't want to take 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:14.800 it to conspiracy town, but. 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:16.559 It never is gonna not be bad. 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:18.560 Yeah, I think I do want to take it there, 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:20.959 but I just have to put the disclaimer every time. 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:24.480 But this reminds me of cancel culture, not in the 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:26.680 way that Sweden is getting canceled, but in the way 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:31.000 that as soon as one slightly unsavory story leaks, suddenly 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.720 everyone's got stories. Maybe it says something about the way 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:37.760 people can textualize social norms, like it wasn't appropriate to 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:43.160 speak quote unquote poorly about Sweden or its traditions when 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.480 Sweden was seen in such a positive light, but now 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:47.960 it's slightly more neutral. 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:53.880 Let's pylon. Absolutely, we see this everywhere. It's the pedestal. 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:57.679 So odd that they get not from the pedestal. They oh, 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:02.160 actually didn't because we'd like want to over things. I think, 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:05.040 and I think no one's immune, even countries. And I 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:08.320 also think it's like Sweden was considered better than everyone 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:08.760 for a while. 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:12.000 Yeah, hot people do the Americans kape? 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.600 Yeah, But then it's kind of like, are they really 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.080 getting like. 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:20.880 Ripped now they're not getting ripped. 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:24.520 Where I empathize with Swedish people right now is it's 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.840 really hard to defend culture because we don't know why 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:31.240 culture really exists. We just kind of assimilate and we 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:33.400 keep a pushing. We don't know why we do certain 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.640 things in certain ways. We don't know why it's appropriate 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:39.559 to eat certain foods, kill certain animals, go to certain places, 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:42.040 expect certain things from different genders. 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:43.479 We just do them. 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:46.720 And so I could imagine, as like a Swedish person 0:13:46.840 --> 0:13:50.080 right now to retrospectively be like, oh fuck, like why didn't. 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:51.480 We feed those people? 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:54.360 And if you grew up in a household and your 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:56.360 parents didn't feed your friends and now you're not feeding 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:58.839 your friends, you didn't really think about why. Now I 0:13:58.920 --> 0:14:01.040 got to think about it a light at once. 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:05.560 You know what I reckon. It's kind it's. 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:07.920 Like when you realize. I think it reminds me when 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:10.360 people realize their family is racist. They're kind of like, fuck, 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:14.640 I don't even know. It's like the inside the house. 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:16.400 The call is coming from inside the house. 0:14:16.559 --> 0:14:17.240 What are we gonna do? 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:23.600 I wonder if these days traditions are broken more easily 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:26.160 than in the past, Like I feel like traditions are 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:29.600 a thing that have existed for like thousands of years. 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.000 Like for example, if you and I would have gone 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:34.920 out for dinner, I was brought up like in my 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:39.640 teenage years when I could choose to pay for things split. 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:43.960 Whereas we start going out together, you start pay I 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:47.040 start paying back, and then that creates a culture. I 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:50.800 think you can actually change your culture in these days 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:52.880 and times because you can seek out whoever you want. 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:57.160 Think about selfies that was so that was culturally weird 0:14:57.320 --> 0:14:59.240 as food yourself. 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:02.320 He's been around them to thousand and five. Yeah, but 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.600 I remember back then it wasn't it was awkward. 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:08.800 Can be you're talking about cultural to traditions or habits 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:14.440 because for instance, this thing with Swedish people not feeding guests, right, 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:18.360 if you, as one person decide to feed your guests, 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:23.120 you're hyper individualizing your culture. You're saying, my culture is 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.240 the some of my actions. Therefore, if I change my 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:31.000 individual action, the culture changes. And that's like not necessarily 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:33.760 true to some of everybody changing their actions. 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:35.800 I take a long game approach. I think it does 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:38.040 start with one, and I'm hopeful. 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:39.880 But I think when you say it starts with one, 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:43.280 it distances you from change. It starts with one. Does 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:46.760 start with you? Is that with your community, your friends, 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:50.760 your family, or just like one rogue person in South Ipswich. 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:53.760 You made the change, though in ten years time you're like, 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:55.119 thank you for much. 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:59.800 Greg, thank you for making steamed funds on every from 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:04.600 the thing that we do now be the change you 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:10.600 want to see. You're listening to flex and frooms, Okada. 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:11.280 All right, So I want to do a bit of 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:14.400 an activity with you, through me and with anyone listening 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:17.960 I'm going to play the first five seconds of this video. 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:20.760 I'm going to pause it, and then you were going 0:16:20.800 --> 0:16:25.120 to think, keep your thoughts to yourself. Actually, I show 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:27.440 your thoughts with me. Then we're gonna keep playing the video. 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:29.440 You down for that, I'm ready. Great. 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:32.880 I eat a tablespoon of sand every single day. 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:34.520 Thought, yep, I. 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:37.720 Don't know how you do that. Do what eat a 0:16:37.760 --> 0:16:40.840 tablespoon of sand? Why do you think he does that? 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:42.240 Because it hurts? 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:47.200 Huh machoism You called it machoism? 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:48.720 Yeah, you mean masochism. 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:52.840 Yeah, I can't speak with all this sand in. 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:56.120 My mouth so confidently too. 0:16:57.160 --> 0:16:59.800 See, when I first heard that, I thought, gosh, I'm 0:16:59.840 --> 0:17:02.720 really into fitness TikTok right now because I've been going 0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:05.880 to the gym right so somehow the TikTok algorithm knows 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:08.399 my business. So it showed me like a bunch of 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:13.240 weightlifting videos, macros, macro nutrients or whatever. So I was like, 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:15.640 oh my god, this is just the trend. Sometimes they're 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:17.800 eating sand, and that's really what I thought about it. 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:19.240 Listen to this. 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:23.600 Now in the past five seconds, how many different stories 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:26.560 of why I eat sand were you able to come 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:31.160 up with? This is the perfect example of different biases 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:34.600 and stories that our nervous system will tell us. It 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:38.480 will naturally fill in the blanks with associations and assumptions 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.679 to help us better understand context. So when something doesn't 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:44.840 make sense in your life, you need to take some 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:48.280 mental and emotional inventory to see the stories that you 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:50.920 are building. In fact, I don't need sand every single day. 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:53.439 Great example, though, to see the amount of stories that 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:56.480 your nervous system will produce. Now, the real fun question 0:17:56.640 --> 0:17:59.680 is most of us, probably eighty five percent, have a 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.240 negativity bias. Did the stories that you built around me 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:06.280 eating sand? Were they positive? Were they negative? It's a 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:08.760 really great mental track to see what your system is 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:12.240 actually doing because your system typically doesn't rally in your favor. 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:18.000 Do you love that? I love that? You didn't like that? 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:18.760 Just me? 0:18:19.720 --> 0:18:23.200 I mean you're always very deep. That's not deep at all. 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:25.399 Maybe you're too shallow. 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:29.080 Well, giving another word, and let's do one. Well, it's 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:30.200 with everything right. 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:33.919 Let's say if I said I really want to watch 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:35.080 TV tonight. 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:38.480 I'd say, you've had a big day, you want to relax. 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:41.080 Exactly as opposed to she just loves this new show 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:44.560 she's watching she's really excited about TV. Oh, she's so 0:18:44.560 --> 0:18:47.040 stoked to have a break and eat dinner. So what 0:18:47.200 --> 0:18:51.520 this person is saying is that generally our brains are 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:54.480 constantly looking to categorize all the information that we're given, 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:58.080 and with the more technologically advanced the world gets, we're 0:18:58.119 --> 0:19:01.480 just given too much stuff. We are working as fast 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:04.280 as ever to try and categorize and process and package 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:07.359 up everything we've heard, to the point where we automatically 0:19:07.400 --> 0:19:10.120 put things in these neat little categories without even thinking 0:19:10.480 --> 0:19:14.000 about what's influencing the way we think. Why when this 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:16.959 random guy says he eats sand I immediately say that 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:19.240 makes sense, Like I'm on fit of set up, how 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:22.800 much it's rotting my brain that he would just say something, 0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:26.760 and not only would I perceive him to be truthful 0:19:27.080 --> 0:19:31.040 and trustworthy, of course I just go with it, right, 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:33.399 But the thing that he mentioned at the end is 0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:35.280 this bias, And I think that a lot of people 0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:39.400 aren't really aware of the positivity and negativity bias when 0:19:39.400 --> 0:19:42.080 they're having conversations. So this idea that when I say 0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:44.760 I can't wait to go home and watch TV, it's 0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:47.080 the assumption that I'm having a bad day a big day, 0:19:47.160 --> 0:19:51.800 A long day is very telling because if I don't 0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:56.040 ever address your bias or address your presumption, you might 0:19:56.080 --> 0:19:58.760 think I go home every day after a long day, 0:19:58.840 --> 0:20:02.440 I'm so tired, I'm stress. It can also be said 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:05.240 for really basic things like if I look at you 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:08.040 as you're speaking and I don't say anything, you think 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:11.879 I'm judging you. Every time i'm blank head, I'm like, 0:20:11.880 --> 0:20:14.320 what's coming up next? How much time do we have? 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:17.320 Can we go in this deeper? Can we talk some more? 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:20.160 Are you finishing up your sentence and I'm just listening, 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:22.800 but you're thinking that there's more going on behind my eyes? 0:20:22.880 --> 0:20:27.120 Nothing or rarely anything, because I'm a very chatty person. 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:28.760 If it's something that I'll say it, and. 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:30.639 It really shouldn't matter either way. What you're thinking is 0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:31.680 I should be on my own track. 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:34.480 Yeah, because you will never know exactly. It's a lesson. 0:20:34.600 --> 0:20:37.800 So if you want to do extra research those things 0:20:37.840 --> 0:20:41.200 that he's talking about. This bias is called a schema, 0:20:41.520 --> 0:20:45.280 and we all have different schemas about ourselves, about other people, 0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:49.560