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Speaker 1: Well and Woody podcast many oldest woman in the world

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Speaker 1: dying today, Woods one hundred and eighteen. Great knock, unreal, unbelievable.

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Speaker 2: Well done at Lucille.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well done Lucille. Anyway, she said the key to

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Speaker 1: long life was a glass wine and a piece of chocolate.

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Speaker 1: And I said, Lucille, I respect you, a respect, your

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Speaker 1: respect your elders, of course, but I don't believe you.

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Speaker 1: And so I did a bit of research. What is

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Speaker 1: actually the key to long life? How do you actually

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Speaker 1: live long? And I stumbled across this guy called Robert Waldinger,

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Speaker 1: who's at Harvard University, is the chair of psychology at

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Speaker 1: Harvard University. He runs the longest running study on human

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Speaker 1: happiness and well being on the Planet's been going for

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Speaker 1: since nineteen thirty eight, and ding is still alive. No,

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Speaker 1: he didn't start it. He's just in charge of it. Now. Don'

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Speaker 1: don't worry about asking the subjects, right, just ask the

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Speaker 1: bloke who runs it. It's two hundred and fifty.

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Speaker 2: Dingers has got the secret. He's just not telling any

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Speaker 2: of us.

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Speaker 1: No, So in nineteen thirty eight they started this actually

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Speaker 1: bloody fascinating. It's one of the most famous Ted talks. Ever,

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Speaker 1: so if you go and look it up, you'll be

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Speaker 1: able to find it. Robert Waldinger. They started this study

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Speaker 1: in nineteen thirty eight. So they got a number of

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Speaker 1: families in Boston, which is just near where the university is,

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Speaker 1: and they basically sat them down and they said, look,

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Speaker 1: we just want to study you for as long as

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Speaker 1: we possibly can. You, your partner, your kids, and we're

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Speaker 1: just going to come around and they go around to

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Speaker 1: their houses every two weeks, and they asked them it

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Speaker 1: was meant to be on psychology, how are you feeling,

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Speaker 1: how you're going with your partner, etc. But then over

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Speaker 1: time their data obviously increased and increased and increased and increased,

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Speaker 1: and so they started to draw some patterns and metrics

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Speaker 1: where they could actually measure what made people happier over

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Speaker 1: the course of their life, what made people live longer

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Speaker 1: over the course of their life. Wow, And the thing

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Speaker 1: that they found that made people live the longest, I'm

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Speaker 1: not ready for a drum roll yet. I'm going to

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Speaker 1: tease it a little bit more. I like teasing people.

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Speaker 1: So they the thing that they found, now you dare

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Speaker 1: drum wrong me is was so astonishing to them that

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Speaker 1: They actually had to double check it with another study

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Speaker 1: on well being because they were like, we do not

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Speaker 1: think this can be right.

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Speaker 2: I think this couldn't. This couldn't be the answer to

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Speaker 2: long life and happiness.

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Speaker 1: This thing killed people more than smoking or alcoholism.

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Speaker 2: Comfortably, Sorry, there's a negative thing.

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Speaker 1: They found. Well, if it's the same thing, but the

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Speaker 1: other side of the coin of this killed people more

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Speaker 1: than smoking or alcoholism. Did wow? Yeah, that don't. Relationships. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: people's relationships. If you had a good relationship, if you

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Speaker 1: had a lot, if you had lots of successful, loving

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Speaker 1: relationships where you felt secure in relationships, you outlived everyone.

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Speaker 1: Even for people that like smoked a lot or drank

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Speaker 1: a lot. This thing was fun more powerful in terms

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Speaker 1: of how long they lived. So he had the strength

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Speaker 1: of their relationship was the size of their heart, was

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Speaker 1: how much they loved in their life.

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Speaker 2: So doctor Victor Frankel, who's a psychiatrist who was in

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Speaker 2: the Holocaust and he was in a concentration camp, he

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Speaker 2: came to the same thing.

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Speaker 1: He did.

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Speaker 2: So he did a study from his time in the Holocaust.

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Speaker 1: Well, come on, I've come on here with a very

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Speaker 1: impressive study.

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Speaker 2: The people. Well, it's the same answers, drum.

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Speaker 1: You've tried to you've tried to outstudy me, and you

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Speaker 1: hear me with the same thing. He said.

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Speaker 2: The people who survived overwhelmingly just had someone to live

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Speaker 2: for outside of the concentration, and overwhelmingly, yeah, the people

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Speaker 2: who I'm staying alive for this person because I'm looking

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Speaker 2: forward to seeing I've got a relationship with something. Whereas

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Speaker 2: the people who didn't or the people who found out

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Speaker 2: that say family or that loved died, Yeah, they would

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Speaker 2: also die almost yeah.

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Speaker 1: Interesting. Yeah, well yeah, so apparently when this study began,

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Speaker 1: when they started it, nobody cared about empathy or attachment

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Speaker 1: in their relationships. But they started realizing really quickly how

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Speaker 1: important it was as they got older and older. But

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Speaker 1: for something that it was too late and they die effectively,

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Speaker 1: they just die. As you said, there's no reason to

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Speaker 1: be here anymore if you're not living with securely somebody else,

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Speaker 1: unless you've got other people in your life to be

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Speaker 1: happy with and to share your life with.

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Speaker 2: So lots of Instagram followers live along life.

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Speaker 1: I think you missed the point.

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Speaker 1: Oh where I mean get your podcasts