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Speaker 1: It is Georgie's your host, and we've got our Georgie's
Speaker 1: Line episode for you. These are fun Friday epps where
Speaker 1: you send in your life dilemmas and I N a
Speaker 1: tear provide you with my unqualified two cents on the situation.
Speaker 1: Today might be one of our most chaotic episodes to date.
Speaker 1: Somehow we end up talking about my posty Dave and
Speaker 1: his man cations. But I guarantee you you're going to
Speaker 1: love this episode. We are chatting can friends be someone
Speaker 1: you have dated, how to find friends that align with you?
Speaker 1: And is your relationship actually toxic? With any red flags? Guys,
Speaker 1: recommendation for the week. I've got two little recommendations. So
Speaker 1: last weekend me, mel and Cooper went on a wellness
Speaker 1: retreat I'm gonna butcher the name Gowanda, and it was
Speaker 1: so nice. So it wasn't really like a wellness retreat
Speaker 1: to just like relax and be We also did that.
Speaker 1: It was actually like a business retreat. And my recommendation is,
Speaker 1: even though we're in the middle of the year, go
Speaker 1: over your goals, because yes, something I think we do
Speaker 1: is we make goals at the start of the year
Speaker 1: and then we're like, I don't know, we kind of
Speaker 1: forget about them or we just kind of autopilot think
Speaker 1: they're still our goals. But rego like redo your goals act.
Speaker 1: You know what would be great for this sitia is
Speaker 1: our refresh ebook.
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, like a media check in.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so if you guys haven't downloaded our freebe ebook,
Speaker 1: I'll put a link of the show notes. But it's
Speaker 1: basically just to It's called you know, seven Days to
Speaker 1: Reignite your Spark, and basically I just give you seven
Speaker 1: exercises things to speak about, and you really go over
Speaker 1: your goals. So definitely check in and go over that
Speaker 1: because I had so many insights and I re established
Speaker 1: a lot of goals and like refocused them because I
Speaker 1: just realized I had changed so much, like from who
Speaker 1: I was even six months ago.
Speaker 2: Six months ago.
Speaker 1: Seems like a lifetime. Yes, insane, So that was really helpful.
Speaker 1: And then also another recommendation. I don't know if I
Speaker 1: fully recommend it yet, but I've started reading Happy Days
Speaker 1: by Gabby Bernstein. Love Gabby, love all her books. She's
Speaker 1: definitely someone who got me into spirituality. My favorite book
Speaker 1: from hers is definitely The Universe Has Your Back. I
Speaker 1: feel like that's ceog. I feel like everyone's read it.
Speaker 1: But she's just released a new book, Happy Days. I'm
Speaker 1: only a few chapters in, but it's all about trauma
Speaker 1: and dealing with trauma. Yeah, it's really interesting and so
Speaker 1: I'm really enjoying that. I'm not all the way in,
Speaker 1: but it's a good read so far. Anything like that,
Speaker 1: I think as you know, a bit of self development.
Speaker 1: You know, I love it all right, guys, Oh oh
Speaker 1: my god. Last little announcement is if you haven't seen
Speaker 1: my one million posts on Instagram, I am releasing another
Speaker 1: collection with Pedal and Pup. It is my winter collection
Speaker 1: with them, and everything is so cute. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: i'mum sess So obviously I did a maternity collection and also, guys,
Speaker 1: you can tell him a bit sick, So apologies for
Speaker 1: the nasal voice. Little ivy girl is sick and she's
Speaker 1: got me sick. So it's been like a fun week
Speaker 1: in our household or no sleep and you know, sick people.
Speaker 1: But look I'm here smiling. I'm getting through and yeah, sorry,
Speaker 1: back to Pedal and Pup. We did a winter collection
Speaker 1: together and I'm just so bloody excited. If you haven't seen,
Speaker 1: go to my Instagram. I have posts there and reels
Speaker 1: and lots of fun things. It launches on the fifteenth,
Speaker 1: so if you're listening to this in real time on
Speaker 1: Friday the tenth, it launches next Wednesday at twelve p
Speaker 1: My previous collection with them sold out very fast. I
Speaker 1: think the you know, the favorite, the hero dress of
Speaker 1: the piece sold out in seventeen minutes. So I was
Speaker 1: gonna say, I feel like when I went on when
Speaker 1: it went on sale, like within a day, yeah, that
Speaker 1: was gone. Yeah, And so obviously, like we have alert
Speaker 1: from that and we don't want people to be disappointed
Speaker 1: and we do have a lot more stock, so hopefully
Speaker 1: things don't sell out that far as Jesus. But again,
Speaker 1: because this is a winter collection, if you do like
Speaker 1: any of the pieces, I would just try and be
Speaker 1: on there when you know it's live, just because even
Speaker 1: if we wanted to restock, restocking takes four to six weeks,
Speaker 1: so you're almost going to miss when you're going to
Speaker 1: wear these pieces, if that makes sense. So I just
Speaker 1: don't see us even restocking even if things sell out,
Speaker 1: because there would kind of be no point because we'd
Speaker 1: be getting into like spring anyway. So if you do
Speaker 1: like any of the pieces, just you know, get there
Speaker 1: when it goes. It is twelve pm, so I've made
Speaker 1: it lunchtime, so if you are at work, just you know,
Speaker 1: hopefully you can take your break. Then I'll be at
Speaker 1: weg just like, hang on, George, I've just gonna go
Speaker 1: excise me five minutes, five minutes. But yeah, I'm really
Speaker 1: excited all the pieces. You know what I'm into comfy pieces,
Speaker 1: and something I did think about is also pieces that
Speaker 1: you could wear next winter, so they're not just like
Speaker 1: trendy things that you're gonna wear once. It's like, these
Speaker 1: are pieces that you can invest in. We picked also
Speaker 1: very specific, like knits that are going to last and
Speaker 1: that you can continuously wear. So I'm just obsessed. If
Speaker 1: you want to check out the collection, go to my
Speaker 1: Instagram page. Launch just Wednesday at lunchtime, fifteenth. I'm so
Speaker 1: bloody excited, and I will be doing a bit of
Speaker 1: an ig TV going through sizes. I am wearing size
Speaker 1: M in the whole collection, except one dress, the Geneva dress,
Speaker 1: which I actually went down to size. Love that, Love
Speaker 1: that for my self esteem. But yes, very excited. We
Speaker 1: actually have next Tuesday's episode, which is the fourteenth, all
Speaker 1: about imposter syndrome, because oh my god, I had so
Speaker 1: much imposter syndrome with this collection. I had this weird
Speaker 1: thing that because I wasn't pregnant, no one would want
Speaker 1: to buy it. I don't know, it was so weird,
Speaker 1: like saying that out, lad, I know I sound stupid
Speaker 1: to you. No, it's not even that. I'm like, that's
Speaker 1: a limiting police. You can do things even when you're
Speaker 1: not pregnant. Oh god, I hope. So all right, guys,
Speaker 1: let's get into this episode. It's a funny, funny one.
Speaker 1: I think we cried laughing, Anny, Sorry, I love that
Speaker 1: for us. So the first question we have. I went
Speaker 1: on a few dates with a guy who I was
Speaker 1: really clicking with. We cooked each other dinner, watched movies,
Speaker 1: and talked for hours. Then he sort of disappeared and
Speaker 1: said he's not ready for a relationship. I would never
Speaker 1: push someone to that, but I was genuinely enjoying spending
Speaker 1: time with him. Can I pursue a friendship if I
Speaker 1: can keep my feelings out of it?
Speaker 2: I felt like we really clicked.
Speaker 1: Like, Yeah, of course, you can definitely pursue a friendship
Speaker 1: if you can keep your feelings out of it.
Speaker 2: But I don't think that's impossible.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm kind of reading the question and it kind
Speaker 1: of sounds like you already got feelings, You already caught
Speaker 1: the feels. Yeah, no, Like I think you definitely can.
Speaker 1: But it also comes down to if he's been very
Speaker 1: upfront and gone, look, I don't have the capacity, I
Speaker 1: don't want something. Is that almost just trying to soften
Speaker 1: that he also probably doesn't want to spend time with you. Oh,
Speaker 1: did you think?
Speaker 3: I actually just thought maybe he has commitment issues? Yeah,
Speaker 3: he's just genuinely like, maybe he just got out of
Speaker 3: a huge relationship and he likes her.
Speaker 2: But he's not ready.
Speaker 1: I love that he's being honest.
Speaker 3: Yeah, at least he's being super honest, and you can
Speaker 3: value that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think of course, like, of course you can
Speaker 1: be friends with the opposite sex, Like, yeah, I know
Speaker 1: you can be friends with the opposite sex that you
Speaker 1: met by going on dates with them. Yeah, Okay, that's just.
Speaker 3: Like because if that spark was like kind of there
Speaker 3: at one point that you went on more than one date, Like,
Speaker 3: I think you could probably be friends with someone that
Speaker 3: you went on a first date with and you were
Speaker 3: like nah.
Speaker 1: And honestly, like this could be meeting cynical. But I
Speaker 1: feel like if you just continue this friendship, like you'll
Speaker 1: just end up like sleeping together, catching more feels when
Speaker 1: he's been very obvious and gone, I don't want anything,
Speaker 1: and then you're just gonna be like, oh, spit.
Speaker 3: Shit yeah, and then you just get like I think
Speaker 3: we said it in a previous Hotline episode, but you
Speaker 3: sort of just get attached to this person and you
Speaker 3: won't grow, like if a job comes up, or if
Speaker 3: you someone else that you really like, and like you're
Speaker 3: just holding onto hope, that you shouldn't be holding onto
Speaker 3: and yeah, it's probably best to just not put yourself
Speaker 3: in that situation in the first place.
Speaker 1: Also, ask yourself, like do you have time to waste?
Speaker 1: Because it's almost a bit of a time waster. Yeah,
Speaker 1: don't you reckon, like not time waster, energy waster, Like
Speaker 1: would you rather see what happens here? Or would you
Speaker 1: rather wait? You do you? And then like the most
Speaker 1: perfect person, I'm tell.
Speaker 2: One both introverted. Do you have energy to wait?
Speaker 1: Literally? Were like, we don't have energy for this? Oh
Speaker 1: my god? Can you tell them? Feeling drained? Also, I
Speaker 1: feel so bad because like I've been in a relationship
Speaker 1: for so long a tears, like never had a relationship.
Speaker 1: So we're like on polar opposites and these poor people
Speaker 1: just trying to date. I think a tear you need
Speaker 1: to go on some dates, so we have some fun
Speaker 1: hotline episodes.
Speaker 2: So you're going on a date.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you need to. Let's get a tear on Tinder.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't rather die let me too, Okay anyway, so
Speaker 1: also so inappropriate me to say that as your boss.
Speaker 1: I take it back, don't see me. I would never.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just kind of think it's not the best idea,
Speaker 1: but also you do you like if you want to
Speaker 1: suss it out, But yeah.
Speaker 3: If you because like you hear so many stories of
Speaker 3: people who are dating and they're like, he told me
Speaker 3: he wasn't ready and then he was ready.
Speaker 1: Well actually, yeah, my so my bestie has been with
Speaker 1: her partner for like six years now, and it was
Speaker 1: very much a case of you know, it was a
Speaker 1: one night stand. They both weren't looking for things, but
Speaker 1: they kept seeing each other and then evolved into a
Speaker 1: relationship and they have a beautiful relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I kind of built from a friendship.
Speaker 1: Yes, so I like, yeah, but then I come from
Speaker 1: my relationship with Tim, which also started from what DM
Speaker 1: I that was just day one. You know, you're my soulmate.
Speaker 2: I love you. Did you both feel that way? Yeah?
Speaker 1: He was obsessed something that.
Speaker 2: Could you imagine saying, have you just how I met
Speaker 2: your mother? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I haven't finished it though, Like I never actually.
Speaker 3: Found out, so you know how he was like first
Speaker 3: date with Robin and he's like, I think I'm in
Speaker 3: love with you.
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: Could you imagine something saying that to you if you
Speaker 3: didn't feel the same so awkward.
Speaker 2: No joke though.
Speaker 1: Tim was like that, oh that's which like amazing for me.
Speaker 1: I would just got out of relationship though, So I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm not ready. Well I thought he was
Speaker 1: just like a fuck boy. He was a lot older
Speaker 1: than me too, so I was really confused. So I
Speaker 1: was like, is this how?
Speaker 2: This what?
Speaker 1: Anyway? That's story for another day.
Speaker 2: Maybe give it a girl.
Speaker 1: Watch your conclusion.
Speaker 3: I'd say, set a time limit, like if you feel
Speaker 3: like this could grow into something definitely. Don't want to
Speaker 3: be the person to say it couldn't, because it can
Speaker 3: and it does happen for a lot of people.
Speaker 2: But give yourself a.
Speaker 3: Limit, and don't set a boundary with yourself in the
Speaker 3: sense that you don't turn other things down because you're
Speaker 3: waiting on him. If it'll if it's gonna happen with him,
Speaker 3: it'll happen. But don't don't not go on dates with
Speaker 3: other guys. Don't think that you need.
Speaker 2: To wait around. Also, play the field.
Speaker 1: Ask yourself, do I need an extra friend right now?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Maybe this person does. Do you mean yeah?
Speaker 2: And if you do and it's fun.
Speaker 1: Go for a girl he might Yeah, he might be
Speaker 1: a fun time. And then also or alternatively Okay. In conclusion,
Speaker 1: my advice, if you want a new friend, you go
Speaker 1: for it. If you don't, I would literally text him
Speaker 1: and just say, all good, you know what, I'm definitely
Speaker 1: looking for more if when you're ready, I've had to say,
Speaker 1: if you ever feel differently and you want to explore this,
Speaker 1: text me otherwise don't. Yeah, clear boundary, and you know what,
Speaker 1: he'd probably respect that. If he's the kind of person
Speaker 1: that's been that upfront with you in the first place,
Speaker 1: it won't offend him. Yeah, points for him for being upfront.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Love Okay. Question number two, geez hotline, please help.
Speaker 2: I love that as I was completing the seven day
Speaker 2: Refresh ebook. Love that you did that?
Speaker 1: I guys, seven Day Refresh ebook is still available download.
Speaker 1: You don't have to do it like we've already.
Speaker 2: We've done it.
Speaker 1: We've done it, but it is still available to download.
Speaker 1: We had so much good feedback from it. We'll put
Speaker 1: a link in the show out.
Speaker 3: She realized how much of a challenge it was for
Speaker 3: her to fill in the sections about friendship. She said
Speaker 3: she's got a few friends at the moment, but she
Speaker 3: feels like they don't quite align with her completely, and
Speaker 3: she's unsure if it's her the own limiting beliefs that
Speaker 3: are stopping her from finding her group of friends, or
Speaker 3: if she's just not looking in the right places. She's
Speaker 3: got a few friends at the moment, but again just
Speaker 3: doesn't feel like they align with her completely. She really
Speaker 3: wants that aspect of her life back again, as she
Speaker 3: hasn't had a best friend or a tribe of people
Speaker 3: that align with her for a very long time. If
Speaker 3: we could provide some advice or stories about how we
Speaker 3: found our own tribes, it would be so helpful. Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: I love this question because I think, again this is
Speaker 3: a question you'd be surprised how a.
Speaker 1: Lot of people feel the same way.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think it's hard because in high school, you're kind
Speaker 1: of just made to be friends with certain people and
Speaker 1: you feel really close to them.
Speaker 2: And then after you realize they weren't your friend. You
Speaker 2: just saw them every.
Speaker 1: Day, yes, and you just like had to be friends
Speaker 1: with them, And then you get into like the real world,
Speaker 1: and it's actually quite difficult to make and maintain friendships,
Speaker 1: especially if you're not like working with the person or
Speaker 1: spending a lot of time. Was it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if it's not like a convenient theme. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, so my two cents on this, I've had a
Speaker 1: not a similar thing because I have a range of
Speaker 1: girlfriends where, for example, my best friend is literally from
Speaker 1: high school, so we've known each other since we're thirteen. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and she's amazing, But we've had like a unique friendship
Speaker 1: where for instance, I went through like a huge growth
Speaker 1: and self development journey before her, and there was definitely
Speaker 1: a stage in our friendship where I felt like she
Speaker 1: was not on the same page as me. But I
Speaker 1: didn't flicker as a friend and go, oh, we're not
Speaker 1: you know, we're not doing the same things. You can
Speaker 1: you can fuck off. But she was always a good friend.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: But then what is like really unique about our friendship
Speaker 1: is she then went through her own self development journey
Speaker 1: and I'm looking like manifesting spirituality crystals, and now we're
Speaker 1: on the same level and.
Speaker 2: We have even like a stronger friendship. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So a big thing with like your current friends is
Speaker 1: I wouldn't completely discredit them because they maybe, you know,
Speaker 1: grow as people. I think it's about you go through seasons.
Speaker 1: So for example, with that friendship, we just went through
Speaker 1: season where we didn't see each other as much, and
Speaker 1: that's okay, guys. So if you can hear, like the
Speaker 1: NH Warehouse, we tell them to be quiet, and no one.
Speaker 2: Listens to us. They don't care.
Speaker 1: They literally don't care. Then they're like yell and we're.
Speaker 2: Just like bust in the door.
Speaker 1: While recording, you'll often hear Cooper just bust in and
Speaker 1: tell us about his day and me until you're like,
Speaker 1: shut up, do you want to join the conversation or not? Sorry?
Speaker 1: So that's like a version. But in regards to actually
Speaker 1: finding your people on the same wavelength and just where
Speaker 1: you're at, you've got to think, like where would these
Speaker 1: people be. So, for example, I've found a lot of
Speaker 1: girlfriends who were either you know, women or business through
Speaker 1: networking events or literally through Instagram, who I feel like
Speaker 1: we're on the same level and then we deem each
Speaker 1: other and then we chat and then you know we
Speaker 1: might meet up, do you know? I mean like think
Speaker 1: where those people would be and that's like go there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's like for example, with my project, we have like
Speaker 1: a Facebook group and I've had so many messages from
Speaker 1: previous rounds saying that they've found their best friend in
Speaker 1: the Facebook group because they you know, everyone does this
Speaker 1: post at the start of the project where they say
Speaker 1: where they're from, and they'll often do meetups meet these
Speaker 1: group of girls and everyone's like clearly on a high vibe,
Speaker 1: you know, and it's fun. Yeah, and it's fun and
Speaker 1: so I don't know, like stuff like that, do you agree?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And it's weird because when I think about it, a
Speaker 1: lot of my friends are from high school or I've
Speaker 1: met them randomly, like through work and unique that UNI
Speaker 1: or no, I don't have any especially I don't have
Speaker 1: any UNI any. I like never went to class. I
Speaker 1: did all my unique external Yeah, I hate it.
Speaker 3: When I went to class, it was like I was
Speaker 3: here any female in there and no one wanted to
Speaker 3: talk to me.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you just engineering.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 3: But when it comes to like finding friends that ALIGNE,
Speaker 3: the one thing I've noticed from the message you said
Speaker 3: that they don't align with her fully. I can't say
Speaker 3: like it depends obviously how you define it. But for me,
Speaker 3: when when you say aligne completely, it's like same goals
Speaker 3: in life, same timeline in life, same same everything, Like
Speaker 3: you're just going the same place. But I don't actually
Speaker 3: think that you need people around you that have that,
Speaker 3: because none of my friends really do, but they all
Speaker 3: do something different for me, and my measurement stick for
Speaker 3: friendship is if I feel refreshed after I spend time
Speaker 3: with you, I will be your friend. If spending time
Speaker 3: with you drains my energy, probably not gonna.
Speaker 1: You will not be my friend.
Speaker 2: You didn't pass the test.
Speaker 1: Sorry, you did not pass my friendship stick. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: love that. Let's all use this friendship stick, all right, guys,
Speaker 1: So the friendship stick. If I spend time with you
Speaker 1: and you fill up my cup, we can still be friends.
Speaker 1: If I spend time with you and you drain me,
Speaker 1: we cannot be friends. You get the flick, You get
Speaker 1: the flicks. Yeah, I love that, Attia, And I think
Speaker 1: that is a huge point of just going back to
Speaker 1: the actual aligned thing because that's very like similar to me.
Speaker 1: Whereas one of my best friends is completely opposite to
Speaker 1: what I'm doing in life, like completely, we still have
Speaker 1: the same values in regards to like life, you know,
Speaker 1: just being good person value, be a decent human, be
Speaker 1: a decent human. But other than that, like our life
Speaker 1: is honestly polar opposite, and I love it because do
Speaker 1: you just want to like clone yourself.
Speaker 2: Yourself.
Speaker 1: I honestly can't stand myself sometimes don't want to have
Speaker 1: friends who are like, like, I've been so annoyed, so annoyed,
Speaker 1: you'd be like that person's the worst.
Speaker 2: Why they always messaging me?
Speaker 1: They wouldn't. That person never replies because they're exactly like you. No,
Speaker 1: I'm with you on that one. None of my friends
Speaker 1: are like honestly, apart from that best friend, not like,
Speaker 1: none of my friends have like businesses or you know,
Speaker 1: in the realm where I would say I am. And
Speaker 1: I don't think that's the biggest factor. But if she's
Speaker 1: generally saying like not aligned, I'm guessing she's just not
Speaker 1: vibing with them.
Speaker 3: And then that's where there's an issue, and it's more
Speaker 3: just about maybe distancing yourself.
Speaker 1: I feel like I just said this in a previous episode,
Speaker 1: but I think it's also the thing of, well, don't
Speaker 1: waste your time with these people, and maybe you just
Speaker 1: need some time and space to let the right people
Speaker 1: come in.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and just find some hobbies, and then the.
Speaker 1: Right people will come there and get a hobby.
Speaker 3: I literally don't have a hobby. If you like more
Speaker 3: about putting yourself in the room with where you'd find
Speaker 3: these people, if you like, maybe.
Speaker 1: Take a few lasses studio. Yeah, sorry, I didn't, because
Speaker 1: you've got to put yourself out there if you do
Speaker 1: want to find these people, and you can. And I
Speaker 1: think you've got to be very optimistic and your mindset
Speaker 1: is like I am attracting my tribe.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and not being nervous because I feel like making
Speaker 3: friends as an adult.
Speaker 1: Is weird, because you like, do I ask for their Instagram?
Speaker 1: Do I message them asking if they want copy?
Speaker 2: You don't think that. I think I get so nervous.
Speaker 1: Really, Yeah, Oh no, I don't. That's good.
Speaker 2: It's good. Good. I'm gonna go in my room now.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: At least were different. We're so different. I love it.
Speaker 1: This is why the Hotline episodes are so great, because
Speaker 1: our opinions are usually so different. Then we get Cooper
Speaker 1: in here, and it's fucking really different. They're like to
Speaker 1: the point where but we're both like, no, that's not correct.
Speaker 2: It's so different. We agree that it's wrong.
Speaker 1: We reject this statement. All right, all right, all right,
Speaker 1: I think we're on to the next.
Speaker 2: Yeah, lucky.
Speaker 3: Last I was looking for advice on what to do
Speaker 3: when your family disapproves of your relationship, not your partner,
Speaker 3: but the relationship itself, but you feel like you're the happiest,
Speaker 3: most confident, independent version of yourself than you have been
Speaker 3: in years. I've been with my partner for nearly four
Speaker 3: years now and we're currently in a long distance relationship.
Speaker 3: My mom continues to tell me she thinks the relationship
Speaker 3: is unhealthy and where too dependent on each other. Any
Speaker 3: advice on how to handle her opinion, but also not
Speaker 3: sacrifice a relationship I'm happy.
Speaker 1: So interesting, I would love to know.
Speaker 2: I feel like it.
Speaker 3: Comes down to what kind of relationship you have with
Speaker 3: your mom?
Speaker 1: Mm?
Speaker 2: Deep, Like is this your mom?
Speaker 1: Is she being overprotective?
Speaker 3: Is she being overprotective or is she actually concerned?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Is she just being kind of like wingy, like
Speaker 1: oh yeah, you know when your mom says one herself
Speaker 1: and you're like yeah, yeah, like let me live my life, yeah,
Speaker 1: let me make my own mistakes. Or is she genuinely concerned?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And sorry, I'm just gonna say it to you, Like,
Speaker 1: if she likes him and she's not concerned by him,
Speaker 1: then what is.
Speaker 3: It about the relationship, Because that's the only thing that
Speaker 3: makes me question it because it's not her mum saying
Speaker 3: dump him. I hate him, he's a horrible human being,
Speaker 3: which then you obviously question it because it's been four years.
Speaker 3: But it's just her saying, I feel like you're too
Speaker 3: dependent on each other.
Speaker 1: Okay, so I have a really interesting story. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: not that it's not that interesting. I swear, I've told
Speaker 1: you guys before. But so we have parents that are
Speaker 1: actually so co dependent on each other. It's sickening. It's
Speaker 1: not sickening, it's really cute. So my parents have been
Speaker 1: together since I were sixteen, have a very beautiful relationship,
Speaker 1: but they actually like they do not do anything without
Speaker 1: each other, like I'm talking about, like they will not
Speaker 1: like Dad would not go to the shops without mum
Speaker 1: like ever, and like my dad goes to fundings every
Speaker 1: day just to get away from your mom. Are joking,
Speaker 1: I'm joking.
Speaker 2: I don't know your tears. Mom, I love you.
Speaker 1: I apologize, so rude. That's so cute.
Speaker 2: Your dad can't go to.
Speaker 1: The shop about you, like he just wouldn't want to,
Speaker 1: like the other day I was telling. And so yeah,
Speaker 1: and back to the story of like when me and
Speaker 1: Tim were dating, I feel like we have a very
Speaker 1: I love my your own company, I love my own time,
Speaker 1: and through me and Tim's relationship. For example, we used
Speaker 1: to go on holidays with our friends. So Tim would
Speaker 1: go to Bali with the boys. I'd go to Bali
Speaker 1: with the girls. Love that, and we would have like
Speaker 1: and especially remember I was with him since I was seventeen,
Speaker 1: so I've got to live my life. Yeah, and we
Speaker 1: just like we're fine, Like it's yeah, like I it's
Speaker 1: not like I do like three months Europe trip without
Speaker 1: him or anything, but you know, we'd have a week
Speaker 1: and I, you know, go have fun with the girls,
Speaker 1: he have fun with the boys. And I feel like
Speaker 1: we have this very healthy relationship where we can spend
Speaker 1: time with other people and it be okay. And my
Speaker 1: parents used to think it was weird. They're like, wow,
Speaker 1: why you're going to bully of the girls? What do
Speaker 1: you mean so Tim's not coming? And they literally thought
Speaker 1: it was weird and they would say that is so weird,
Speaker 1: like that's not normal, And because I know what's normal,
Speaker 1: I just was like used to with thee.
Speaker 2: Like so funny.
Speaker 1: I was telling mom and dad the other day how
Speaker 1: I was so excited to have some time to myself
Speaker 1: because Tim, I can't even remember what I was doing anything.
Speaker 1: I was getting like your.
Speaker 2: Parents are probably like they're gonna get a divorce, no joke.
Speaker 1: When we went on separate holidays, Dad was like, Dad
Speaker 1: was like, is everything And I was like, yes, Dad,
Speaker 1: We're just like having fun with our friends. Like it's fine,
Speaker 1: but no joke. And then the other day I said
Speaker 1: something about I was so excited to have some time
Speaker 1: alone without Tim, and my parents were there and literally
Speaker 1: my dad turns to my mum and goes, he won't
Speaker 1: leave me this weekend, will you like kind of as
Speaker 1: a joke, but he was also being sick. My mom
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, this is what I have
Speaker 1: to deal with, and.
Speaker 2: Like my laugh than cute. They're obsessed with each other.
Speaker 1: It's too much, but it's funny because like my mom
Speaker 1: will make jokes that she is just so funny. She
Speaker 1: doesn't want to eat breakfast early because she doesn't want
Speaker 1: to just like I don't eat breakfast till like nine am. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but my dad wants to eat breakfast early and wants
Speaker 1: to have breakfast.
Speaker 2: With you, And no joke.
Speaker 1: It's this consistent fight. Mom says I don't want to
Speaker 1: eat breakfast eliot, but Dad likes to eat breaprice Ellie,
Speaker 1: and he wants to have breakfast with me. It's such
Speaker 1: a six am and he's asking me when I went
Speaker 1: for breakfast and they're like bigger about it. And I
Speaker 1: say to her, well, just don't hope first, and she's like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: he gets funny if I do that, And I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is just the funniest thing ever. But like, like
Speaker 1: it's no joke. But this is such a prime example
Speaker 1: of like my parents think me and Tim are weird
Speaker 1: because in their relationship. So is it just that your
Speaker 1: mom has experienced a different.
Speaker 2: A bit of an independent relationship.
Speaker 1: And it's funny because our posty, how did we get
Speaker 1: it here?
Speaker 2: What is your posting? So we're really close to.
Speaker 1: A h like your house And I was like, what
Speaker 1: is crying? No? So our posty who like my parents
Speaker 1: know too because I used to work out n H.
Speaker 1: He has this like he's with his wife and they
Speaker 1: the kids get for like forty years, and he has
Speaker 1: these man cations when where he will go overseas literally
Speaker 1: with his man friends for literally like three months. And
Speaker 1: can you imagine what my parents think they're like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, did you hear about Dave's man cation, and
Speaker 1: like he loves his wife and they have a beautiful
Speaker 1: relationship and they think they're like it's so weird, but
Speaker 1: like I'm just saying, like we can all have different
Speaker 1: relationships and whatever. Suit she was fine.
Speaker 2: I don't know how we got there.
Speaker 3: I loved it, though. I think just have a chat
Speaker 3: with your mom stas friend, I know.
Speaker 1: I I think you need to establish if she's genuinely
Speaker 1: concerned or if she just has as experiences in her life. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I think like if it comes down to that,
Speaker 1: just be like, my relationship is just a bit different, yeah,
Speaker 1: and just set that boundary. And it's like mom stopping
Speaker 1: so annoying. Yeah.
Speaker 3: And it sounds like you've recently gone long distance as well,
Speaker 3: so maybe you're in that little phase where you're just
Speaker 3: on FaceTime all the time and your mom might just
Speaker 3: feel a bit neglected and it's a little bit of
Speaker 3: that coming out. So it could just be going for
Speaker 3: a mom and daughter date once a week or something
Speaker 3: like that. But definitely don't sacrifice the relationship if you're happy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But also if she does have a point like
Speaker 1: if you have gone long distance and you're always on FaceTime,
Speaker 1: maybe you just seasoned to like do you yeah? Like
Speaker 1: very random point there, but yeah, yeah, maybe just FaceTime
Speaker 1: for an hour a day instead of seven Like, who
Speaker 1: we to tell? I know, guys, I'm so sorry. We
Speaker 1: don't know how we really went on a tangent. All right, guys,
Speaker 1: I think that's enough from us. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for listening. We will be back in your ears on Tuesday.
Speaker 2: Bye.
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