WEBVTT - G’s Hotline ☎️ my postie’s mancations 🌴 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.400 The Rise and Conquer Podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.680 the land which this episode is being recorded, the Yugen 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:12.160 Bear region. We further acknowledge country throughout Australia and their 0:00:12.160 --> 0:00:16.000 connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:19.600 to their elders past and present and extend that respect 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:33.320 to all Aboriginal and terrestrid Islander peoples today. Hello and 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:36.559 welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcasts. This is 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:47.480 the podcast for ordinary people who want to do extraordinary things. 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:55.480 Hello and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:59.600 It is Georgie's your host, and we've got our Georgie's 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:04.240 Line episode for you. These are fun Friday epps where 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:07.720 you send in your life dilemmas and I N a 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:12.759 tear provide you with my unqualified two cents on the situation. 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:17.760 Today might be one of our most chaotic episodes to date. 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:23.160 Somehow we end up talking about my posty Dave and 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:26.600 his man cations. But I guarantee you you're going to 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:30.720 love this episode. We are chatting can friends be someone 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:34.360 you have dated, how to find friends that align with you? 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:41.720 And is your relationship actually toxic? With any red flags? Guys, 0:01:42.080 --> 0:01:45.840 recommendation for the week. I've got two little recommendations. So 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:50.560 last weekend me, mel and Cooper went on a wellness 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:55.280 retreat I'm gonna butcher the name Gowanda, and it was 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:58.360 so nice. So it wasn't really like a wellness retreat 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:01.520 to just like relax and be We also did that. 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:06.000 It was actually like a business retreat. And my recommendation is, 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:09.639 even though we're in the middle of the year, go 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:13.840 over your goals, because yes, something I think we do 0:02:14.000 --> 0:02:15.560 is we make goals at the start of the year 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:18.520 and then we're like, I don't know, we kind of 0:02:18.520 --> 0:02:22.480 forget about them or we just kind of autopilot think 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:27.519 they're still our goals. But rego like redo your goals act. 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:29.480 You know what would be great for this sitia is 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:30.600 our refresh ebook. 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:32.880 Yeah, absolutely, like a media check in. 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:37.880 Yeah, so if you guys haven't downloaded our freebe ebook, 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:39.520 I'll put a link of the show notes. But it's 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:42.920 basically just to It's called you know, seven Days to 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:48.000 Reignite your Spark, and basically I just give you seven 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.519 exercises things to speak about, and you really go over 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:54.800 your goals. So definitely check in and go over that 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:59.360 because I had so many insights and I re established 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:02.800 a lot of goals and like refocused them because I 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:05.919 just realized I had changed so much, like from who 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:07.560 I was even six months ago. 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:08.680 Six months ago. 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:13.399 Seems like a lifetime. Yes, insane, So that was really helpful. 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:17.040 And then also another recommendation. I don't know if I 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:21.440 fully recommend it yet, but I've started reading Happy Days 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:26.240 by Gabby Bernstein. Love Gabby, love all her books. She's 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:29.480 definitely someone who got me into spirituality. My favorite book 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:31.520 from hers is definitely The Universe Has Your Back. I 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:33.760 feel like that's ceog. I feel like everyone's read it. 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:37.280 But she's just released a new book, Happy Days. I'm 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:41.040 only a few chapters in, but it's all about trauma 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:45.480 and dealing with trauma. Yeah, it's really interesting and so 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:48.200 I'm really enjoying that. I'm not all the way in, 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:50.960 but it's a good read so far. Anything like that, 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:54.160 I think as you know, a bit of self development. 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:58.480 You know, I love it all right, guys, Oh oh 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:03.760 my god. Last little announcement is if you haven't seen 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:10.720 my one million posts on Instagram, I am releasing another 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:14.560 collection with Pedal and Pup. It is my winter collection 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:18.280 with them, and everything is so cute. Oh my god, 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:23.440 i'mum sess So obviously I did a maternity collection and also, guys, 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:26.160 you can tell him a bit sick, So apologies for 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.640 the nasal voice. Little ivy girl is sick and she's 0:04:29.640 --> 0:04:31.560 got me sick. So it's been like a fun week 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:34.960 in our household or no sleep and you know, sick people. 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:39.360 But look I'm here smiling. I'm getting through and yeah, sorry, 0:04:39.360 --> 0:04:42.200 back to Pedal and Pup. We did a winter collection 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:46.160 together and I'm just so bloody excited. If you haven't seen, 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:49.200 go to my Instagram. I have posts there and reels 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:53.760 and lots of fun things. It launches on the fifteenth, 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:56.320 so if you're listening to this in real time on 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:59.880 Friday the tenth, it launches next Wednesday at twelve p 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:04.520 My previous collection with them sold out very fast. I 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:08.359 think the you know, the favorite, the hero dress of 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:11.800 the piece sold out in seventeen minutes. So I was 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:14.000 gonna say, I feel like when I went on when 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:16.120 it went on sale, like within a day, yeah, that 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:20.200 was gone. Yeah, And so obviously, like we have alert 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:22.680 from that and we don't want people to be disappointed 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:25.560 and we do have a lot more stock, so hopefully 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:28.679 things don't sell out that far as Jesus. But again, 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:32.400 because this is a winter collection, if you do like 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:34.440 any of the pieces, I would just try and be 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:38.800 on there when you know it's live, just because even 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:43.239 if we wanted to restock, restocking takes four to six weeks, 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:46.080 so you're almost going to miss when you're going to 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:48.320 wear these pieces, if that makes sense. So I just 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:51.280 don't see us even restocking even if things sell out, 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:53.120 because there would kind of be no point because we'd 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:57.160 be getting into like spring anyway. So if you do 0:05:57.279 --> 0:05:59.440 like any of the pieces, just you know, get there 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:01.480 when it goes. It is twelve pm, so I've made 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:04.159 it lunchtime, so if you are at work, just you know, 0:06:04.279 --> 0:06:06.680 hopefully you can take your break. Then I'll be at 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:12.080 weg just like, hang on, George, I've just gonna go 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:16.440 excise me five minutes, five minutes. But yeah, I'm really 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:20.640 excited all the pieces. You know what I'm into comfy pieces, 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:24.480 and something I did think about is also pieces that 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:27.120 you could wear next winter, so they're not just like 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:30.360 trendy things that you're gonna wear once. It's like, these 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.839 are pieces that you can invest in. We picked also 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:37.880 very specific, like knits that are going to last and 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:42.080 that you can continuously wear. So I'm just obsessed. If 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:43.760 you want to check out the collection, go to my 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:49.320 Instagram page. Launch just Wednesday at lunchtime, fifteenth. I'm so 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:51.640 bloody excited, and I will be doing a bit of 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:55.440 an ig TV going through sizes. I am wearing size 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:59.800 M in the whole collection, except one dress, the Geneva dress, 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:03.400 which I actually went down to size. Love that, Love 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:07.920 that for my self esteem. But yes, very excited. We 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:12.960 actually have next Tuesday's episode, which is the fourteenth, all 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:16.480 about imposter syndrome, because oh my god, I had so 0:07:16.560 --> 0:07:19.559 much imposter syndrome with this collection. I had this weird 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.560 thing that because I wasn't pregnant, no one would want 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:24.520 to buy it. I don't know, it was so weird, 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:27.120 like saying that out, lad, I know I sound stupid 0:07:27.200 --> 0:07:28.960 to you. No, it's not even that. I'm like, that's 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:33.080 a limiting police. You can do things even when you're 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:39.720 not pregnant. Oh god, I hope. So all right, guys, 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:44.160 let's get into this episode. It's a funny, funny one. 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:48.720 I think we cried laughing, Anny, Sorry, I love that 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:59.880 for us. So the first question we have. I went 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.160 on a few dates with a guy who I was 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:06.040 really clicking with. We cooked each other dinner, watched movies, 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.720 and talked for hours. Then he sort of disappeared and 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:13.000 said he's not ready for a relationship. I would never 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:16.000 push someone to that, but I was genuinely enjoying spending 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:18.840 time with him. Can I pursue a friendship if I 0:08:18.880 --> 0:08:20.560 can keep my feelings out of it? 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:22.880 I felt like we really clicked. 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:26.000 Like, Yeah, of course, you can definitely pursue a friendship 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:27.760 if you can keep your feelings out of it. 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:29.680 But I don't think that's impossible. 0:08:31.400 --> 0:08:33.240 Well, I'm kind of reading the question and it kind 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:36.360 of sounds like you already got feelings, You already caught 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:40.400 the feels. Yeah, no, Like I think you definitely can. 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.760 But it also comes down to if he's been very 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:47.120 upfront and gone, look, I don't have the capacity, I 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:50.959 don't want something. Is that almost just trying to soften 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:53.840 that he also probably doesn't want to spend time with you. Oh, 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:55.040 did you think? 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:59.680 I actually just thought maybe he has commitment issues? Yeah, 0:08:59.880 --> 0:09:02.480 he's just genuinely like, maybe he just got out of 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:04.480 a huge relationship and he likes her. 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:05.240 But he's not ready. 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:06.400 I love that he's being honest. 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:09.000 Yeah, at least he's being super honest, and you can 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:09.600 value that. 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.760 Yeah, I think of course, like, of course you can 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:15.559 be friends with the opposite sex, Like, yeah, I know 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:17.920 you can be friends with the opposite sex that you 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:21.800 met by going on dates with them. Yeah, Okay, that's just. 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.679 Like because if that spark was like kind of there 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:26.760 at one point that you went on more than one date, Like, 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:29.120 I think you could probably be friends with someone that 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:30.679 you went on a first date with and you were 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:32.079 like nah. 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:37.240 And honestly, like this could be meeting cynical. But I 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:39.800 feel like if you just continue this friendship, like you'll 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:43.760 just end up like sleeping together, catching more feels when 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.760 he's been very obvious and gone, I don't want anything, 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:48.839 and then you're just gonna be like, oh, spit. 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:51.240 Shit yeah, and then you just get like I think 0:09:51.280 --> 0:09:53.400 we said it in a previous Hotline episode, but you 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:57.000 sort of just get attached to this person and you 0:09:57.080 --> 0:09:59.800 won't grow, like if a job comes up, or if 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:02.160 you someone else that you really like, and like you're 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:05.320 just holding onto hope, that you shouldn't be holding onto 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:08.240 and yeah, it's probably best to just not put yourself 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:09.800 in that situation in the first place. 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:14.520 Also, ask yourself, like do you have time to waste? 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:18.959 Because it's almost a bit of a time waster. Yeah, 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:23.200 don't you reckon, like not time waster, energy waster, Like 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:27.160 would you rather see what happens here? Or would you 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:30.920 rather wait? You do you? And then like the most 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:33.040 perfect person, I'm tell. 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:36.520 One both introverted. Do you have energy to wait? 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:42.280 Literally? Were like, we don't have energy for this? Oh 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:48.040 my god? Can you tell them? Feeling drained? Also, I 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:50.640 feel so bad because like I've been in a relationship 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:53.319 for so long a tears, like never had a relationship. 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:56.160 So we're like on polar opposites and these poor people 0:10:56.240 --> 0:11:00.760 just trying to date. I think a tear you need 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:02.880 to go on some dates, so we have some fun 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:04.040 hotline episodes. 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:05.160 So you're going on a date. 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:08.920 Yeah, well you need to. Let's get a tear on Tinder. 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:16.600 I wouldn't rather die let me too, Okay anyway, so 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:19.480 also so inappropriate me to say that as your boss. 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:25.360 I take it back, don't see me. I would never. 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:26.800 Yeah, I don't know. 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:29.600 I just kind of think it's not the best idea, 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:32.120 but also you do you like if you want to 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:34.319 suss it out, But yeah. 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:37.640 If you because like you hear so many stories of 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:40.560 people who are dating and they're like, he told me 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:43.520 he wasn't ready and then he was ready. 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:47.960 Well actually, yeah, my so my bestie has been with 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.480 her partner for like six years now, and it was 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:53.000 very much a case of you know, it was a 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:56.480 one night stand. They both weren't looking for things, but 0:11:56.520 --> 0:12:00.280 they kept seeing each other and then evolved into a 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:02.520 relationship and they have a beautiful relationship. 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:04.439 Yeah, because I kind of built from a friendship. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:08.440 Yes, so I like, yeah, but then I come from 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:16.679 my relationship with Tim, which also started from what DM 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:21.480 I that was just day one. You know, you're my soulmate. 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:25.280 I love you. Did you both feel that way? Yeah? 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:26.439 He was obsessed something that. 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:29.760 Could you imagine saying, have you just how I met 0:12:29.800 --> 0:12:31.400 your mother? Yeah? 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:33.439 I haven't finished it though, Like I never actually. 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:36.360 Found out, so you know how he was like first 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:39.080 date with Robin and he's like, I think I'm in 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:39.680 love with you. 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:40.280 Yes? 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:42.360 Could you imagine something saying that to you if you 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.040 didn't feel the same so awkward. 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:44.960 No joke though. 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:49.160 Tim was like that, oh that's which like amazing for me. 0:12:49.320 --> 0:12:51.440 I would just got out of relationship though, So I 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.000 was like, I'm not ready. Well I thought he was 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:55.640 just like a fuck boy. He was a lot older 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:58.480 than me too, so I was really confused. So I 0:12:58.559 --> 0:12:59.719 was like, is this how? 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:02.080 This what? 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:04.640 Anyway? That's story for another day. 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:05.680 Maybe give it a girl. 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:06.679 Watch your conclusion. 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:10.160 I'd say, set a time limit, like if you feel 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:12.880 like this could grow into something definitely. Don't want to 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:15.120 be the person to say it couldn't, because it can 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.080 and it does happen for a lot of people. 0:13:17.559 --> 0:13:18.480 But give yourself a. 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:21.839 Limit, and don't set a boundary with yourself in the 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.480 sense that you don't turn other things down because you're 0:13:24.480 --> 0:13:27.360 waiting on him. If it'll if it's gonna happen with him, 0:13:27.559 --> 0:13:31.080 it'll happen. But don't don't not go on dates with 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:33.760 other guys. Don't think that you need. 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:36.559 To wait around. Also, play the field. 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:40.000 Ask yourself, do I need an extra friend right now? 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:40.920 Yeah? 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.120 Maybe this person does. Do you mean yeah? 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:46.360 And if you do and it's fun. 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:48.320 Go for a girl he might Yeah, he might be 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:52.360 a fun time. And then also or alternatively Okay. In conclusion, 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:55.040 my advice, if you want a new friend, you go 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:57.959 for it. If you don't, I would literally text him 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:01.319 and just say, all good, you know what, I'm definitely 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:05.080 looking for more if when you're ready, I've had to say, 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:07.440 if you ever feel differently and you want to explore this, 0:14:07.559 --> 0:14:10.960 text me otherwise don't. Yeah, clear boundary, and you know what, 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:13.160 he'd probably respect that. If he's the kind of person 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:14.880 that's been that upfront with you in the first place, 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:17.880 it won't offend him. Yeah, points for him for being upfront. 0:14:18.000 --> 0:14:25.160 Yeah. Love Okay. Question number two, geez hotline, please help. 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:29.960 I love that as I was completing the seven day 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.000 Refresh ebook. Love that you did that? 0:14:32.720 --> 0:14:36.880 I guys, seven Day Refresh ebook is still available download. 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:39.160 You don't have to do it like we've already. 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:40.320 We've done it. 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:43.160 We've done it, but it is still available to download. 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:45.680 We had so much good feedback from it. We'll put 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:46.480 a link in the show out. 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:49.440 She realized how much of a challenge it was for 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:52.360 her to fill in the sections about friendship. She said 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.520 she's got a few friends at the moment, but she 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:58.400 feels like they don't quite align with her completely, and 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:01.400 she's unsure if it's her the own limiting beliefs that 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:05.040 are stopping her from finding her group of friends, or 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:08.080 if she's just not looking in the right places. She's 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:10.960 got a few friends at the moment, but again just 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:13.440 doesn't feel like they align with her completely. She really 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:16.280 wants that aspect of her life back again, as she 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:19.120 hasn't had a best friend or a tribe of people 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:21.880 that align with her for a very long time. If 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:25.120 we could provide some advice or stories about how we 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:29.760 found our own tribes, it would be so helpful. Oh yeah, 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.280 I love this question because I think, again this is 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:34.920 a question you'd be surprised how a. 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:36.120 Lot of people feel the same way. 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:36.880 Yeah. 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:39.280 I think it's hard because in high school, you're kind 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:41.520 of just made to be friends with certain people and 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:43.480 you feel really close to them. 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:45.920 And then after you realize they weren't your friend. You 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:47.040 just saw them every. 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.120 Day, yes, and you just like had to be friends 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:51.840 with them, And then you get into like the real world, 0:15:52.280 --> 0:15:57.000 and it's actually quite difficult to make and maintain friendships, 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:59.960 especially if you're not like working with the person or 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:01.600 spending a lot of time. Was it. 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:04.480 Yeah, if it's not like a convenient theme. Yeah. 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:07.680 Okay, so my two cents on this, I've had a 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:10.640 not a similar thing because I have a range of 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:14.360 girlfriends where, for example, my best friend is literally from 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:18.560 high school, so we've known each other since we're thirteen. Yeah, 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:22.920 and she's amazing, But we've had like a unique friendship 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:27.560 where for instance, I went through like a huge growth 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:31.600 and self development journey before her, and there was definitely 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:34.800 a stage in our friendship where I felt like she 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:39.280 was not on the same page as me. But I 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:43.040 didn't flicker as a friend and go, oh, we're not 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:45.600 you know, we're not doing the same things. You can 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:51.000 you can fuck off. But she was always a good friend. 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:51.400 Yeah. 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:55.000 But then what is like really unique about our friendship 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:58.560 is she then went through her own self development journey 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:04.800 and I'm looking like manifesting spirituality crystals, and now we're 0:17:04.800 --> 0:17:05.880 on the same level and. 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:09.280 We have even like a stronger friendship. Yeah. 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:12.280 So a big thing with like your current friends is 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:18.080 I wouldn't completely discredit them because they maybe, you know, 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:21.920 grow as people. I think it's about you go through seasons. 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:24.360 So for example, with that friendship, we just went through 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:27.679 season where we didn't see each other as much, and 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:29.840 that's okay, guys. So if you can hear, like the 0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:33.320 NH Warehouse, we tell them to be quiet, and no one. 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:35.560 Listens to us. They don't care. 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.280 They literally don't care. Then they're like yell and we're. 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:39.880 Just like bust in the door. 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:44.720 While recording, you'll often hear Cooper just bust in and 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:46.520 tell us about his day and me until you're like, 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:52.240 shut up, do you want to join the conversation or not? Sorry? 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:55.320 So that's like a version. But in regards to actually 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:59.480 finding your people on the same wavelength and just where 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:03.120 you're at, you've got to think, like where would these 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:06.479 people be. So, for example, I've found a lot of 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:12.200 girlfriends who were either you know, women or business through 0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:17.800 networking events or literally through Instagram, who I feel like 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:20.080 we're on the same level and then we deem each 0:18:20.080 --> 0:18:22.080 other and then we chat and then you know we 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:25.240 might meet up, do you know? I mean like think 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:29.280 where those people would be and that's like go there. Yeah, 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:32.600 that's like for example, with my project, we have like 0:18:32.640 --> 0:18:35.280 a Facebook group and I've had so many messages from 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:39.399 previous rounds saying that they've found their best friend in 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:42.080 the Facebook group because they you know, everyone does this 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:44.160 post at the start of the project where they say 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:47.160 where they're from, and they'll often do meetups meet these 0:18:47.160 --> 0:18:50.120 group of girls and everyone's like clearly on a high vibe, 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:52.960 you know, and it's fun. Yeah, and it's fun and 0:18:53.040 --> 0:18:56.359 so I don't know, like stuff like that, do you agree? 0:18:56.600 --> 0:18:56.919 Yeah? 0:18:56.960 --> 0:18:58.800 And it's weird because when I think about it, a 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:02.520 lot of my friends are from high school or I've 0:19:02.640 --> 0:19:07.040 met them randomly, like through work and unique that UNI 0:19:07.400 --> 0:19:09.879 or no, I don't have any especially I don't have 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:13.159 any UNI any. I like never went to class. I 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:15.919 did all my unique external Yeah, I hate it. 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:18.040 When I went to class, it was like I was 0:19:18.119 --> 0:19:20.080 here any female in there and no one wanted to 0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:20.639 talk to me. 0:19:21.760 --> 0:19:22.880 Oh yeah, you just engineering. 0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:24.040 Well. 0:19:24.640 --> 0:19:28.080 But when it comes to like finding friends that ALIGNE, 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.359 the one thing I've noticed from the message you said 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:33.920 that they don't align with her fully. I can't say 0:19:33.960 --> 0:19:37.119 like it depends obviously how you define it. But for me, 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:41.719 when when you say aligne completely, it's like same goals 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:45.040 in life, same timeline in life, same same everything, Like 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:48.080 you're just going the same place. But I don't actually 0:19:48.160 --> 0:19:51.040 think that you need people around you that have that, 0:19:51.680 --> 0:19:54.560 because none of my friends really do, but they all 0:19:54.640 --> 0:19:57.960 do something different for me, and my measurement stick for 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:01.840 friendship is if I feel refreshed after I spend time 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:05.720 with you, I will be your friend. If spending time 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:09.359 with you drains my energy, probably not gonna. 0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:11.280 You will not be my friend. 0:20:13.240 --> 0:20:14.560 You didn't pass the test. 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:19.639 Sorry, you did not pass my friendship stick. Yeah. I 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:24.080 love that. Let's all use this friendship stick, all right, guys, 0:20:24.119 --> 0:20:26.880 So the friendship stick. If I spend time with you 0:20:26.960 --> 0:20:29.560 and you fill up my cup, we can still be friends. 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:31.919 If I spend time with you and you drain me, 0:20:32.280 --> 0:20:34.360 we cannot be friends. You get the flick, You get 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:38.520 the flicks. Yeah, I love that, Attia, And I think 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:42.240 that is a huge point of just going back to 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:46.359 the actual aligned thing because that's very like similar to me. 0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:52.000 Whereas one of my best friends is completely opposite to 0:20:52.040 --> 0:20:55.359 what I'm doing in life, like completely, we still have 0:20:55.440 --> 0:20:59.199 the same values in regards to like life, you know, 0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:03.399 just being good person value, be a decent human, be 0:21:03.440 --> 0:21:06.359 a decent human. But other than that, like our life 0:21:06.680 --> 0:21:15.080 is honestly polar opposite, and I love it because do 0:21:15.119 --> 0:21:17.160 you just want to like clone yourself. 0:21:19.000 --> 0:21:19.480 Yourself. 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:22.159 I honestly can't stand myself sometimes don't want to have 0:21:22.200 --> 0:21:26.200 friends who are like, like, I've been so annoyed, so annoyed, 0:21:26.800 --> 0:21:28.760 you'd be like that person's the worst. 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:31.320 Why they always messaging me? 0:21:33.280 --> 0:21:40.000 They wouldn't. That person never replies because they're exactly like you. No, 0:21:40.160 --> 0:21:42.440 I'm with you on that one. None of my friends 0:21:42.480 --> 0:21:46.199 are like honestly, apart from that best friend, not like, 0:21:46.240 --> 0:21:48.760 none of my friends have like businesses or you know, 0:21:49.480 --> 0:21:52.399 in the realm where I would say I am. And 0:21:52.480 --> 0:21:55.840 I don't think that's the biggest factor. But if she's 0:21:55.920 --> 0:21:59.000