Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the
Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Kombo
Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present
Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and
Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson,
Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is
Speaker 1: the podcast where we chat mindset, self development and becoming
Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs,
Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses
Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo
Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No
Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to
Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical
Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's
Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting live cast
Speaker 1: you by then you're in the right place. Hi guys,
Speaker 1: welcome back to the R and C Potty. We have
Speaker 1: a special episode for you today. So when this episode
Speaker 1: goes live, it will be a couple of days before
Speaker 1: my birthday. I am turning twenty nine. Cannot wait. I
Speaker 1: love birthdays and it is Leah sleevelerm it's my birthday month,
Speaker 1: and so we did an episode all about my biggest
Speaker 1: lessons of this birthday year. So I go into four
Speaker 1: lessons and they're very introspective, aren't they? It, Tia, But
Speaker 1: I loved all four lessons. You're getting a huge insight
Speaker 1: into my year. I am very vulnerable with you, so
Speaker 1: please be nice and yeah, I won't say too much
Speaker 1: because look, you're about to hear about it exactly a tear.
Speaker 1: Should we do some recommendations? Yes? Do you want to
Speaker 1: go first? All right? So I told a tier I'm
Speaker 1: going first because I thought we'd have the same one,
Speaker 1: but we don't. On the weekend. I think it was
Speaker 1: on Friday.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So, so the second season of the summery term pretty
Speaker 1: came out only three episodes. Were a bit sad about.
Speaker 2: That, and I think it's kind of a good lesson
Speaker 2: though to like, Wait, nothing small.
Speaker 1: I know. I literally be just been one night. Me too,
Speaker 1: and I loved season one, me too. I also have
Speaker 1: another recommendation, what so rogue? I started watching The Witcher.
Speaker 1: Oh do you like it? I'm not sure? I watched
Speaker 1: the whole first season though, Oh, I don't like medieval times. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Medieval's really dark. Yeah, but also I love anything that's
Speaker 1: magical or like mystical, and it's very mystical, and so
Speaker 1: I'm not too sure how I feel about it. So
Speaker 1: it's like not a full recommendation, but it's like seventy percent. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm also confused, Like literally was watching the whole first
Speaker 1: season thinking, and I started watching it when I was sick,
Speaker 1: so it was kind of like I fell asleep half
Speaker 1: the time and it was like so super rogue. I
Speaker 1: kinda like it, but also it's like not a full recommendation.
Speaker 1: What's Yours Mine is a podcast episode. It's the On
Speaker 1: Purpose with Ja Shetty and he interviews Tom Holland, and
Speaker 1: it is such a beautiful interview. It's literally two hours,
Speaker 1: so it is a bit of a long one, but
Speaker 1: it was just so interesting because I've listened to a
Speaker 1: few of Ja Schetty's interviews before. But what I loved
Speaker 1: particularly was Tom Holland asked Jay Shetty a lot of
Speaker 1: questions too, so I heard stuff from Jay Schetty I
Speaker 1: haven't really heard before. I love when they do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then Tom Holland also spoke about his journey
Speaker 2: going sober, which I found really interesting to listen to
Speaker 2: and his reasonings and how he did it and why
Speaker 2: he did it. He told himself he just would do
Speaker 2: dry January as a challenge because he drank a lot
Speaker 2: over November December, and then he found every minute he
Speaker 2: was just thinking about having a drink every day in January,
Speaker 2: and that was end of January. He was like, nap,
Speaker 2: this doesn't count. Even though he didn't have a drink.
Speaker 2: He was like, I was thinking about alcohol the whole time,
Speaker 2: so I'm going to do it again. And then he
Speaker 2: just kept doing it and doing it and doing it
Speaker 2: until he wasn't thinking about having a drink. And then
Speaker 2: he realized how much happier he was and how much
Speaker 2: his life had changed and his relationships had changed because
Speaker 2: he'd stopped drinking, and it was like a gradual decision.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's amazing. It was so interesting to
Speaker 1: listen to. What a good recommendation, Yeah, so much, You're
Speaker 1: all right, let's get it in his zeps. So I
Speaker 1: want to paint you a picture of my twenty eighth birthday,
Speaker 1: So this time last year, and the only reason I
Speaker 1: literally had to like scroll through my Instagram That's how
Speaker 1: I gauge time, Like, wasn't it Alli All? Yeah? I
Speaker 1: was I thinking you're doing at that time because I
Speaker 1: post so consistently. I was like, I had just shot
Speaker 1: and posted all my LSKD content for my range, So
Speaker 1: this was like this time last year. Gosh, that feels
Speaker 1: long ago, but also yesterday. It honestly feels like three
Speaker 1: years ago. And so I also had just done my colab,
Speaker 1: my second co lab with Pedal and Pup, and that
Speaker 1: was like a couple of months prior. And then I
Speaker 1: was doing my co lab with LSKD and you know
Speaker 1: in the shots, Ivy is probably about six months old
Speaker 1: or like Juste and we also were like about to
Speaker 1: go to Fiji. Hadn't you been to Fiji? Yeah? Sorry, no,
Speaker 1: we yeah, we had also just been to Fiji. I'm
Speaker 1: just trying to gauge you know, wow, roughly around that
Speaker 1: so feels like a lifetime ago, but that was only
Speaker 1: a year ago, guys. And for me, I it was
Speaker 1: such a cool exercise because I was like, Wow, I'm
Speaker 1: a totally different person. You are like totally different, And
Speaker 1: those feelings I had at that moment were I really
Speaker 1: remember them because I personally was feeling overstretched. I and
Speaker 1: I'm very honest about this at the end of twenty
Speaker 1: twenty two of being like I was overstretched and I
Speaker 1: said yes to way too many things, and I felt
Speaker 1: overwhelmed majority of year. And so my last birthday I
Speaker 1: remember is feeling so overwhelmed. And what we actually did
Speaker 1: on my birthday was we went to Byron and we
Speaker 1: just spent the day with Ivy so sweet. It was
Speaker 1: so sweet, And it was just because I was feeling
Speaker 1: so tapped and really overwhelmed.
Speaker 2: And do you think that was just because of work
Speaker 2: or were there some other things you might have been
Speaker 2: harboring that.
Speaker 1: Caused this feeling cooled out a tea? Can't just call
Speaker 1: me out this whole episode of No one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: I was really struggling with being a new mum and working,
Speaker 1: really really struggling. I was holding on to a lot
Speaker 1: of guilt. I was also I remember my birthday last year.
Speaker 1: I remember feeling just really confused us also like really,
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck is happening or what's
Speaker 1: what's what? And yeah, look not in like in saying that, though,
Speaker 1: I remember kind of just being like I just got
Speaker 1: to get through this year. That was kind of the vibe. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just got to get through this year really and
Speaker 1: like it was fine, but it was the vibe you
Speaker 1: want to be in there. No, it was like I
Speaker 1: was having so many realizations, so many lessons, and so
Speaker 1: many like, oh, I never want to feel like this again,
Speaker 1: but I'm going to get through this because I have to.
Speaker 1: That was kind of the vibe of my last birthday
Speaker 1: A rewind. So I when I was doing this reflection,
Speaker 1: I actually journaled on this last night a tia to
Speaker 1: prep for this episode. I love that I got some
Speaker 1: little notes here and I think, like my one of
Speaker 1: my biggest lessons, I came down to four. So the
Speaker 1: first one is more is not always better. I love
Speaker 1: that lesson. So she really I think previous years, up
Speaker 1: until I was twenty eight, it felt like I just
Speaker 1: had unlimited capacity, like I would just take on so much.
Speaker 1: I would say yes to every opportunity, and I really
Speaker 1: saw that as my superpower, Like it's literally in my
Speaker 1: human design that I can have so lots of information,
Speaker 1: a lot of different channels and I can thrive on that.
Speaker 1: And so I use that to my advantage for years,
Speaker 1: because any opportunity take it, run with it, do amazing
Speaker 1: with it onto the next.
Speaker 2: And when you did that in the previous years before
Speaker 2: last year, did you feel good, like where you lit
Speaker 2: up by it most of the time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there was definitely moments where I felt, you know,
Speaker 1: stressed and overdone. But then I would just you know,
Speaker 1: have a holiday, or I would like I have some time,
Speaker 1: or you know, I didn't have a child, so I
Speaker 1: just like spend the weekend being a potato. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: that was That's how I lived my life, and I
Speaker 1: just like, I think also, you know, that's how I
Speaker 1: was able to do so much over the years, and
Speaker 1: I really like more was always better for me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I really embraced that. And then for the first time,
Speaker 1: obviously having Ivy and then having all these projects and
Speaker 1: just realizing that more is not always better. I realized
Speaker 1: that I had to have a huge shift in my
Speaker 1: life and I really started strengthening my boundaries for probably
Speaker 1: the first time in my life. Interesting. Yeah, Like, obviously
Speaker 1: I've had evolutions over time, but I think in the
Speaker 1: last twelve months it has been the biggest, like the
Speaker 1: biggest change has me been so strong in my boundaries
Speaker 1: And that was kind of my intention going into this
Speaker 1: new year, which I you know, I told you a tier. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And if anything, it's like less is more, that's my
Speaker 1: new less there's more and I'm so intentional. And if
Speaker 1: it's not a hell, yes, it's no.
Speaker 2: And what made you feel like your boundaries prior to
Speaker 2: this weren't strong or ever strengthened.
Speaker 1: Well, it's interesting because I thought they were. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: would have said they were probably pretty good. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: it's they were strong in the way of I knew
Speaker 1: what I wanted and I knew who I was, but
Speaker 1: not strong in the they were very influenced by outside
Speaker 1: sources and very much like what I was saying, like
Speaker 1: if I had an opportunity, it wouldn't matter how I
Speaker 1: necessarily felt or if I was stressed. It's like, of course,
Speaker 1: I will do it right. So almost people pleasing, yes,
Speaker 1: and almost people pleasing to my future self yes, you know,
Speaker 1: like it's like to other people, but also to my
Speaker 1: future self because it's like I was so happy to
Speaker 1: go through discipline in the moment and like not enjoying
Speaker 1: the moment for a future reward. Reward, fuck, I could
Speaker 1: do that twenty four seven. Yeah, it was like one
Speaker 1: of my greatest skills, and it's something I learned during
Speaker 1: my law degree. Yeah, and then it continued on in
Speaker 1: my career and I really strengthened that because I saw
Speaker 1: that other people couldn't do it right in the industry.
Speaker 1: And it's really interesting. I'm only now kind of processing this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and so in that avenue, my boundaries release. And I
Speaker 1: think also, you know, when you have a small business,
Speaker 1: when you're an influencer, when you're your own boss, you know,
Speaker 1: you can kind of be in a scarcity mindset where
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I don't want to lose traction, I
Speaker 1: don't want to fall behind, I don't want to be forgotten,
Speaker 1: or you know, like these weird limiting beliefs come up
Speaker 1: that can often make you make certain choices. And it's
Speaker 1: really interesting because since I just went no, no more,
Speaker 1: like strong boundaries, I'm going to completely honor myself and
Speaker 1: my family and I'm not going to fall into the
Speaker 1: trap of more and more and more. I'm actually going
Speaker 1: to strip things back. But it's so interesting since I've
Speaker 1: done that, like so many areas have been more strengthened.
Speaker 2: Like as in like businesses working better and that sort
Speaker 2: of stuff.
Speaker 1: Relationships, business, like so many things that I'm like, wow,
Speaker 1: oh wow, I probably could have liked didn't I do this? Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I said, I could have done this years ago,
Speaker 1: and being Okay, well, actually I don't know that because
Speaker 1: you never know, this could be a very specific point
Speaker 1: in my career or in you know, my heart. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but that's probably my biggest lesson of being so intentional
Speaker 1: and just being like, actually, no, I don't have to
Speaker 1: do it all. I don't have to say yes to everything,
Speaker 1: and that actually gets to work really well for me.
Speaker 1: It's like I locked in a new core belief.
Speaker 2: Wow, And when would you say you really strengthened those boundaries?
Speaker 2: And then how long did it take to realize like
Speaker 2: how well it was going.
Speaker 1: I definitely started at the start of the year where
Speaker 1: we did do a few future self and I like
Speaker 1: had the realizations that I had really taken on too
Speaker 1: much and I was really presenting certain things. And then
Speaker 1: so what are we, like, you know, nearly eight months
Speaker 1: into the year. Yeah, so it's taken a good eight months.
Speaker 1: Probably around six months I looked back and I was like,
Speaker 1: holy shit, I've actually really stuck to this and it
Speaker 1: feels really good. And for the first time, I feel
Speaker 1: like I feel really good compared to how I felt.
Speaker 2: And which I know this might be hard to like
Speaker 2: pick one which boundary that you put in do you
Speaker 2: think made the biggest difference.
Speaker 1: It's like it's all to do with IVY. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: like the biggest thing is The biggest thing I ask
Speaker 1: myself is like if I say yes to this, will
Speaker 1: this take time away that I have with IVY. So
Speaker 1: that's sort of the phrase you use to yourself to
Speaker 1: like help you Yeah, Or if I say yes yes
Speaker 1: to this, will that take time away from my NH
Speaker 1: team yeah, or my RNC team or like y, you know,
Speaker 1: where are the lines? Where are the boundaries? And also
Speaker 1: it's really interesting I don't know if this is going
Speaker 1: to make sense, but being okay with giving just a
Speaker 1: certain amount so rather than giving it all all the time,
Speaker 1: which is what I previously had done because it felt like, well,
Speaker 1: if I want it all, I have to give it all,
Speaker 1: whereas now I'm like, no, actually I don't have to
Speaker 1: give it all, and I get to have it all.
Speaker 1: Like I it's huge like mind switch where I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I actually don't have to give it all and I
Speaker 1: don't know if that makes sense.
Speaker 2: No, like it makes sense, but I don't know if
Speaker 2: I agree how.
Speaker 1: Or like not that I don't agree. I would love
Speaker 1: to think that way. I think it's at a very
Speaker 1: specific point. Yeah. I think previously I did have to
Speaker 1: give it all, and obviously that has shown so much. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I think there's even a certain point where I'm
Speaker 1: gonna give you a really good example. Yeah. So recently
Speaker 1: we did a collab product with Elite Supplements. Oh yes,
Speaker 1: and so we launched an exclusive flavor with them, watermelon.
Speaker 1: It's really yummy, so yummy. And on the weekend I
Speaker 1: did like an appearance and that was locked in literally
Speaker 1: at the start of actually at the end of last year.
Speaker 1: That was confirmed. Locked in, I do an appearance. You know,
Speaker 1: there was a certain collateral we did together, and that
Speaker 1: was all, you know, locked in and all good. So
Speaker 1: it's just a Saturday. It was a couple of hours.
Speaker 1: It was fine, but it was really interesting because I
Speaker 1: said to Cooper after, oh, I probably won't do everything.
Speaker 1: I probably won't do anything like that again. Interesting, like
Speaker 1: just in the not not do a collad product. Yes,
Speaker 1: you know, we lovely that nothing against them or anything,
Speaker 1: but just like, oh, I actually feel like I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm not available for this anymore. The appearance kind of
Speaker 1: what a Saturday when I would usually be with my daughter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it just it felt very like, matter of a fact,
Speaker 1: I had found a new boundary and also kind of
Speaker 1: like it was you know, it's literally it's the first
Speaker 1: one I've done this year. Yeah, I think it's got
Speaker 1: to be one of the last ones. So it really
Speaker 1: was fine, and I really felt good doing it. I
Speaker 1: didn't feel resentful or anything like that. Yeah, but it
Speaker 1: felt like a very good knowing. Oh, I don't this
Speaker 1: probably won't happen again.
Speaker 2: It's kind of like a beige flag makes she stopped
Speaker 2: to look. But it's not a red flag yet.
Speaker 1: No, not a replag at all. But it's so interesting
Speaker 1: because I think I've never been able to feel that. Previously,
Speaker 1: I had no awareness around my capacity or my boundaries.
Speaker 1: And it's really interesting because I straight away I even
Speaker 1: said to Cooper on Monday, I was like, it was
Speaker 1: really good. I met so many people, it was amazing.
Speaker 1: I don't think I'll do that again, though, and he went, cool,
Speaker 1: that's good to know. That's the wild do you hear me?
Speaker 1: Ye's like a next stage in my evolution. And even
Speaker 1: for me to be like, don't get me wrong, you know,
Speaker 1: I would love we want to do further community events
Speaker 1: and RNC and H. That's very different than appearance for
Speaker 1: another company, but you know, and I can that's different. Yeah,
Speaker 1: But for that certain thing, I just was like, this
Speaker 1: is a new boundary and I'm actually going to honor
Speaker 1: it and listen to it. Was previously I never would
Speaker 1: have even had that signal.
Speaker 2: Yeah. It's almost like I feel like for me, I
Speaker 2: will only realize, oh, boundary's been crossed when I'm like
Speaker 2: having a breakdown.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like a red flag. Yeah, and like that's what
Speaker 1: I've done. That's what I did all last year.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And what do you feel made the difference in
Speaker 2: being able to recognize the almost like Bayse flag of like, oh,
Speaker 2: like if I did this a few more times, it
Speaker 2: probably wouldn't end well. Yeah, without doing it the few
Speaker 2: more times, Well.
Speaker 1: I think I had to have all the red flags
Speaker 1: last year and going through all the resentment last year
Speaker 1: and all those feelings. But this year, I think the
Speaker 1: reason that I've been able to have awareness about it
Speaker 1: is I just have space, Like I've just created so
Speaker 1: much more space in my life, yet I still do
Speaker 1: all the things I want to do. Yeah, that is
Speaker 1: the biggest difference between my last birthday and this birthday
Speaker 1: is I have so much space for awareness, so much
Speaker 1: space mentally to unders stand what I want in life,
Speaker 1: what is important for me in life, and what is
Speaker 1: important to the people around me, that I'm just able
Speaker 1: to make better decisions. And it's really interesting. I had
Speaker 1: actually another great boundary example where I was supposed to
Speaker 1: meet up with a girlfriend and you know, she was
Speaker 1: into state traveling, so we don't get to see each
Speaker 1: other very often, and she was here into stay. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you know, we had arranged to actually did see
Speaker 1: her during the week and then we had arranged again
Speaker 1: to see each other on the weekend, and it was
Speaker 1: getting to that time, and you know, we have to
Speaker 1: bring Ivy and I just I noticed like this niggling
Speaker 1: feeling and it was really close to the time, but
Speaker 1: I just text her and I just said, you know what, babe,
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I'm so sorry, but I just this
Speaker 1: really doesn't feel good. I really just want to spend
Speaker 1: the afternoon with Ivy. And I apologize for you know,
Speaker 1: the late the lateness, but I just I really need
Speaker 1: to honor this for myself. And she was so fine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I had seen her, but again that was
Speaker 1: like previously I would have just gone and just got
Speaker 1: over and done with you know that, I feel like
Speaker 1: most people. Yeah, and then you please that person, you
Speaker 1: saw that person, you ticked it off the list. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so I didn't go, and me and Ivy we
Speaker 1: opened up some new toys that I got her, and
Speaker 1: then we had a bath together, and then we watched
Speaker 1: I think a Disney movie and it was just the
Speaker 1: best afternoon. And I really had the reflection of like, Wow,
Speaker 1: I've actually come such a long way in my awareness
Speaker 1: and my boundaries and it felt really good.
Speaker 2: And do you think that, like, for example, say you
Speaker 2: had had that feeling and you hadn't seen her in.
Speaker 1: The middle of the week, what would you have done
Speaker 1: the same thing?
Speaker 2: Well? Or do you think like you kind of felt
Speaker 2: that feeling because you'd already seen her and this was
Speaker 2: like twice now.
Speaker 1: No, I think no, I think it would have been
Speaker 1: I would have done the exact same thing. Wow, because
Speaker 1: I I did that another time. I did that another
Speaker 1: time the other day. But do you know me, I'm
Speaker 1: just a strong boundary.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And if this person is gonna, you know, get angry
Speaker 1: and stuff, it's like they also need to respect how
Speaker 1: I'm feeling. And yeah, I truly believe a true friend,
Speaker 1: like they're not going to be like fuck you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I don't know that and that's and I but
Speaker 1: I notice I could notice the side of myself that
Speaker 1: just wanted to please and just tick it off the box. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I had to really have awareness. But again, that
Speaker 1: awareness has come through a lot of saying, like I've
Speaker 1: said no a lot of times this year.
Speaker 2: I was gonna ask about that. So you feel like
Speaker 2: you've been saying.
Speaker 1: No a lot a lot, and I think, like you'll
Speaker 1: even I think a lot of my close friends would
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, I haven't seen her, oh, but like
Speaker 1: I still love them. Yeah, And I still have so
Speaker 1: many beautiful friendships. But like this year, it's almost like
Speaker 1: I felt so burnt out from last year. It almost
Speaker 1: like it had to be this really hard no and
Speaker 1: this really hard like no, I need to put these
Speaker 1: boundaries in. And that kind of leads into my second lesson.
Speaker 1: And that's just since I have put these boundaries in,
Speaker 1: and since I have been super intentional with my time
Speaker 1: and my priority and I don't experience mum guilt like
Speaker 1: I just don't. I love that for you, and that's
Speaker 1: something I experienced so much last year. And I think
Speaker 1: also social media and you know, friends and family, they
Speaker 1: normalize mum guilt. Everyone normalized this mumgel. Oh it's just nobl.
Speaker 1: We all we all feel stretched, we all feel shit,
Speaker 1: you know, and that's a lot of you know, the
Speaker 1: rebirth course that we recently did, which is like my
Speaker 1: mindset mum course. I actually realized that mum guilt didn't
Speaker 1: have to be normal for me, and I got to
Speaker 1: actually fully change that. And so even it's funny because
Speaker 1: my life is so different, but it's also not I
Speaker 1: have just been able to mentally get to a place
Speaker 1: where I don't entertain mum guilt because I'm like, well, no,
Speaker 1: I'm so intentional with my time that I have specifically,
Speaker 1: you know, for example, this, you know, as we're recording
Speaker 1: this week, we me and Cooper are going to Sydney
Speaker 1: because we're finalists for the ARIA Awards. What's that people
Speaker 1: who don't know, Oh, the os Post Online e Commerce Awards.
Speaker 1: Oh cool, I think so I don't know some shit,
Speaker 1: some shit I've been taught as a magdal and so
Speaker 1: and hahe got nominated. It's just really exciting for us.
Speaker 1: And so me and Cooper are going to that. And
Speaker 1: so we're flying to Sydney and going to this whole
Speaker 1: gala and we're speaking at something beforehand, and like, I
Speaker 1: don't have any mum guilt around that because I am
Speaker 1: so intentional with my schedule and time. And before I
Speaker 1: said yes to that, I was like, okay, let's look
Speaker 1: at my schedule, let's chat to Tim, I arrange things.
Speaker 1: You know, I spent more time with Ivy on side,
Speaker 1: like you know, certain things like that, And I don't
Speaker 1: experience mum guilt all the time like I did previously.
Speaker 1: And when I do, like because obviously I truly believe
Speaker 1: feelings are just like signposts. So when I have started
Speaker 1: to experience mum guilt during the year, I haven't let
Speaker 1: it mean anything and I've gone, okay, cool, like where
Speaker 1: is there actual truth in this and what I want
Speaker 1: to do to change it. So when I am experiencing mumgirl,
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, well I have actually, even though maybe
Speaker 1: I'm spending the same time with Ivy you know, we've
Speaker 1: had this big project with NH and so maybe I
Speaker 1: haven't been as present. So you know, next week I'm
Speaker 1: going to take an early afternoon and take her to
Speaker 1: Grump and Zoo or you know, Like the other weekend,
Speaker 1: I was just really craving one on one time with
Speaker 1: her and I said to Tim, I'm like, no offense,
Speaker 1: but I just want to spend Sunday with Ivy, go away.
Speaker 1: And he was like, do me a favor. And I
Speaker 1: just spent the day with her and I took her
Speaker 1: to like Kingscliffe or something, and I was like craving
Speaker 1: that one on one time and I could notice this,
Speaker 1: you know, the feelings happening. So I changed that and
Speaker 1: that's the biggest. Like, I think the biggest difference to
Speaker 1: me last birthday was just even who I am as
Speaker 1: a mom so different, so different, and it's because I've
Speaker 1: actually done so much work on it and just in
Speaker 1: a really mentally such a better place than last.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And what do you think made the biggest difference
Speaker 2: for you in terms of mum guilt and how much
Speaker 2: I guess pressure or not feeling mum guilt. Do you
Speaker 2: think that is what helped you make so much space
Speaker 2: for everything else.
Speaker 1: Well, I did a lot of identity work, and that's
Speaker 1: what our whole rebirth course is. So at the end
Speaker 1: of last year, I literally had to change. I had
Speaker 1: to do so much identity work around who I wanted
Speaker 1: to be in this next chapter, and I just I
Speaker 1: hadn't done that previously. So when you feel disconnected to
Speaker 1: yourself and who you want to be, it creates a
Speaker 1: lot of feelings of guilt and anxiety and all the
Speaker 1: different emotions. So once I was really clear on like, no, actually,
Speaker 1: this is the person I want to be, I could
Speaker 1: start putting in an action plan to strive to be
Speaker 1: that person. And then now I'm that person. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I no longer feel those feelings. Does that make sense? Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I feel I feel connected to my new identity.
Speaker 1: But I had to create it. I had to be
Speaker 1: very intentional with it. And that's even like kind of like,
Speaker 1: let's go onto the third lesson because I'm going to
Speaker 1: kind of answer it in here. Okay.
Speaker 2: In your first lesson, you mentioned that you were able
Speaker 2: to make space and that that's what helped you make
Speaker 2: you more aware of like the beige flags and boundaries
Speaker 2: and that sort of stuff. How did you actually make
Speaker 2: that space mentally, because I know you're probably just as
Speaker 2: busy as you were last year. You've obviously said no
Speaker 2: to some catchups and no toe some things in business,
Speaker 2: but that doesn't necessarily make mental space all the time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a great question. I think it's like I'm
Speaker 1: super I guess I'm super tapped into my connecting to
Speaker 1: myself practices. So this is like so cliche, but it's
Speaker 1: like meditation, journaling. Yeah, like those really simple practices that
Speaker 1: I do daily that help me associate with kind of
Speaker 1: like this. So like, for example, when you're clear on
Speaker 1: who you want to be and what you want in
Speaker 1: life and then that day you show up as that person,
Speaker 1: you feel good. Yeah, you feel like accomplished good. It's
Speaker 1: kind of like I feel like this whole year I've
Speaker 1: had like my blinder is on, Like I feel like
Speaker 1: I have not cared what anyone else is doing, and
Speaker 1: I have been so fucking like clear with like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do me. Yeah, And I don't know, it's really
Speaker 1: changed me in the way of like even I was
Speaker 1: thinking and this is like my third lesson of just
Speaker 1: like the biggest thing I just like I don't compare
Speaker 1: myself to anyone else because I know who I want
Speaker 1: to be, Like, I know who Georgie wants to be. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And when you have that clarity of your next level self,
Speaker 1: of who you want to be, and obviously you know
Speaker 1: this is what I teach, and it's just me embodying
Speaker 1: of what I teach, It's like, when you have that clarity,
Speaker 1: it's really easy to feel happy and to feel satisfied
Speaker 1: because you're like, there's not a hundred messages of like
Speaker 1: let's say social media. Yeah, there's not like a hundred
Speaker 1: reels of you being like, oh I should be the
Speaker 1: fucking soft girl, or you know this conversation of like
Speaker 1: oh I should be the mom who bakes at home.
Speaker 1: I should be the mom who does this, I should
Speaker 1: be the partner who does this. Yeah, I could be healthier,
Speaker 1: I could be skinnier, I could be all these things.
Speaker 1: But because I'm so clear on who I want to
Speaker 1: be and I've got my blinders on and I don't
Speaker 1: let the noise affect me, I feel really good. I
Speaker 1: feel really satisfied. Yeah. And I think when like last year,
Speaker 1: I didn't feel good and I didn't feel satisfied because
Speaker 1: I wasn't clear on who I wanted to be.
Speaker 2: And do you feel like you spend less time on
Speaker 2: social media? M So going to my third lesson, Yeah,
Speaker 2: if you'll allow me, I'll allow it.
Speaker 1: That okay. So I just I've said this in a
Speaker 1: previous episode. Yeah, comparison is distraction, and I just have
Speaker 1: not been distracted this year. It's like and this really
Speaker 1: has Like obviously I did a lot of identity work
Speaker 1: around who I want to be, but I I just like, fuck,
Speaker 1: I was caught in Like I was caught in the
Speaker 1: social media comparison trap last year and I did not
Speaker 1: even know it. And it's because again, I wasn't clear
Speaker 1: on who I wanted to be. So I had all
Speaker 1: these like external all this external noise of who I
Speaker 1: thought I should be, and it felt fucking suffocating, Like
Speaker 1: it felt suffocating and it's really crazy because I could
Speaker 1: not even identify it was now that I'm so strict
Speaker 1: on my practices and like last night, I even noticed myself.
Speaker 1: So I even noticed myself. So I made my like
Speaker 1: we had dinner, I made myself mood milk, I packed
Speaker 1: my bag, and I like noticed this niggling feeling of
Speaker 1: like maybe I could just go watch Netflix instead of
Speaker 1: because like I journal read a bed, yeah, a single night,
Speaker 1: and even this feeling of like I've been so good
Speaker 1: all yeah, you.
Speaker 3: Know, like I yea so good all yeah, I'm at
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm really solid to myself, like I don't
Speaker 3: I don't fall into the comparison track, you know, like
Speaker 3: I don't need to restrict myself, like I'm really good.
Speaker 1: And I like notice that and I'm like, oh wow,
Speaker 1: it just it keeps, it keeps at you. And I
Speaker 1: so I didn't want Netflix or go in my phone,
Speaker 1: and I sat and journaled, and I journaled for this
Speaker 1: episode and I that is the biggest change is I'm
Speaker 1: just so strict with my boundaries even with social media
Speaker 1: of like I think I would spend probably max ten
Speaker 1: to twenty minutes a day on social media, and that
Speaker 1: is I do, like, I do really love social media.
Speaker 1: It's a really beautiful platform. Obviously I love posting on there,
Speaker 1: I love connecting, but I'm really really strict. And then
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so then you know, my workdays eight
Speaker 1: hours and then on top of that, I've probably got
Speaker 1: four hours with Ivy and then the fucking ninety minutes
Speaker 1: that I've got left, Like I'm not going to mindlessly scroll,
Speaker 1: mindlessly go on Netflix, because I'm actually going to give
Speaker 1: back to myself and so I meditate or a journal
Speaker 1: or like on the weekends, I do watch Netflix. I
Speaker 1: do love that time, but I really have to clock
Speaker 1: myself of am I trying to soothe myself or disassociate here?
Speaker 1: And previously that's what I would do is I would
Speaker 1: work myself literally to the ground, Yeah, and then I
Speaker 1: would soothe myself with social media, Netflix, food, and then
Speaker 1: I would feel better and then I would go and
Speaker 1: do the same thing kind of like almost binge. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like very addictive tendencies and we will have them, it's
Speaker 1: very normal. Yeah, But I haven't done that this year,
Speaker 1: and I've just I've given myself so much room and
Speaker 1: space of like, no, I'm not gonna just go do
Speaker 1: the thing that everyone else is doing, and I'm actually
Speaker 1: gonna be really intentional with my time. And it's like
Speaker 1: that has just given me. So it's given me so much.
Speaker 1: And it's really funny because I did notice though there
Speaker 1: is a downfall because I'm not gonna lie. I like
Speaker 1: I sometimes don't even know what my friends are up
Speaker 1: to like IM on social is much, I like really bad.
Speaker 1: But like one of my friends announced her pregnancy and
Speaker 1: like I did no she was pregnant, but I never
Speaker 1: saw the announcement. Oh okay, you know, like personally we'd talk,
Speaker 1: but I never saw on Instagram And I saw it
Speaker 1: like two weeks later, and I thought, oh wow, like
Speaker 1: I am actually missing things. Yeah, so there is kind
Speaker 1: of like there is a downfall, but you need to
Speaker 1: decide if that's worth it or not. So for me,
Speaker 1: I noticed that and I went, hmmm, this is interesting.
Speaker 2: Would you say it's a downfall because I would say
Speaker 2: that you didn't really miss it because you knew anyway
Speaker 2: and you'd.
Speaker 1: Spoken to her. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're kind of just missing it for people
Speaker 2: who you don't really speak to. I. I guess I
Speaker 2: meant in the way of like there would be other
Speaker 2: things that you know, close friends do that they haven't
Speaker 2: told me that I probably do miss Yeah, okay, I
Speaker 2: get and you know maybe that they might not text
Speaker 2: you to update yeaues.
Speaker 1: It's like a bit random. Yeah. Yeah, So like I
Speaker 1: think I've definitely missing things, but for me it feels
Speaker 1: worth it. Yeah, because I've got to a place where
Speaker 1: I just feel so solid and like who I am
Speaker 1: now compared to how I felt, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to go back to how I felt. So this is
Speaker 1: kind of what I've had to do. And you might think, oh, wow,
Speaker 1: it sounds a bit fucking full on, but it's like,
Speaker 1: these are the changes I have had to make personally
Speaker 1: in this new season of my life, and I'm really
Speaker 1: proud of myself for making them because they have been
Speaker 1: quite difficult to make. And like I said, I've had
Speaker 1: to say a lot of no's. I've missed out on things.
Speaker 1: I haven't said yes to all the things, and there's
Speaker 1: been some really exciting things, but I've just I've had
Speaker 1: to be like, no, it's worth it because for me,
Speaker 1: this birthday is hugely evolution and a becoming of me
Speaker 1: being a mother. And I'm really proud of the mom
Speaker 1: I am, and for me, that weighs anything else. That's
Speaker 1: so beautiful. Thank you and yeah, and that's even Like
Speaker 1: I was talking to a friend a couple of months
Speaker 1: ago and she was kind of telling me, she was like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, like how do you not care what people
Speaker 1: think of you on social media? Because like she's not
Speaker 1: being on social media or anything. But she was saying
Speaker 1: like anyway she was dealing with this like crisis or whatever,
Speaker 1: a certain problem and it was affecting her on social media,
Speaker 1: and it was great awareness because I was just like, I, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I just am so solid in who I
Speaker 1: am and what I want and what I want for
Speaker 1: my family and what I want for my businesses and
Speaker 1: who's important to me that it's like I'm just not
Speaker 1: worried what other people are doing or what other people think,
Speaker 1: And I just I think there's so much power in that.
Speaker 1: There really is.
Speaker 2: And what would be your obviously less time on social media,
Speaker 2: but what else do you think has really strengthened your
Speaker 2: relationship with you yourself to the point that you're not
Speaker 2: really worrying about other people. And it's like you've got
Speaker 2: your blinkers on, but it seems like it's quite easy
Speaker 2: for you to keep them there. There's not too many
Speaker 2: things that are going like, oh, like hello, whereas I
Speaker 2: feel like I've tried to put.
Speaker 1: My blinkers on, but then there's always like things. It's
Speaker 1: the clarity for me, It's the clarity of me knowing
Speaker 1: I'm going through and it see it is kind of
Speaker 1: easier for me because of Ivy, whereas Preev's pre Ivy,
Speaker 1: it wasn't easy for me because it's not like a
Speaker 1: central No, So I really resonate with how you feel
Speaker 1: because I felt like that previously. Yeah, but then since
Speaker 1: you know, Ivy's come along and she's just the most
Speaker 1: important thing in my world, it's been really easy to
Speaker 1: make those decisions. Yeah, you've got like a benchmark. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I guess also, oh so cliche, but I've just
Speaker 1: like I've just like never felt a love like being
Speaker 1: a mother. But I don't want advocate honestly, just why
Speaker 1: trust me, It's like I've never yeah, I've never felt
Speaker 1: like this, and it's been because of her. It's been
Speaker 1: really easy. And also I think for me, it's like
Speaker 1: because I've done so much identity work around the mother
Speaker 1: I want to be, is she's never going to be
Speaker 1: the reason why I don't do something, so she like,
Speaker 1: I'm never going to be like, oh well I didn't
Speaker 1: go and do Europe because you were born or you know,
Speaker 1: like those sorts of things. So like being very much like, no,
Speaker 1: I get to be a mother, but I also get
Speaker 1: to like do all the things I want to do
Speaker 1: but being very realistic about the things I want to do.
Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, do you think that she helped the clarity
Speaker 2: or do you think the clarity is what has helped
Speaker 2: you be so clear and that that clarity showed you
Speaker 2: that ivy is your benchmark. But for example, if I
Speaker 2: just worked on getting really really clear, I would myrawn benchmark,
Speaker 2: which could just be my future self.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And you need a like you need a good
Speaker 1: enough why. Yeah, And I think that's hard before I kid,
Speaker 1: because there was like you don't really have like, of
Speaker 1: course you have whys. Yeah, but it's kind of like
Speaker 1: it's not as clear. So my last lesson of this
Speaker 1: birthday is, I it's really funny to say it to you.
Speaker 1: I did not have a lot of awareness around who
Speaker 1: I was.
Speaker 2: What I know, Like if you're saying this way, where
Speaker 2: am I?
Speaker 1: No? But that's what I mean of And but I
Speaker 1: think that's very normal in your like your twenties. I
Speaker 1: don't think you should know who you are. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: so I think this was and it is this is
Speaker 1: like this turn nine, Well, this year is the start
Speaker 1: of my sad in return. So that makes sense because
Speaker 1: you sat in returns fucked yeah, it's already for the
Speaker 1: role of go. Yeah, it's a roller co star. And
Speaker 1: so this year has been so pivotal to me because
Speaker 1: I have finally gained awareness and started gaining evidence around
Speaker 1: who I am, but also who I want to be.
Speaker 1: Where was previously. It's really weird. It's like I did
Speaker 1: not have the awareness. I had a lot of people
Speaker 1: telling me stuff yeah, but I did not believe it
Speaker 1: or embody it. And that's why I had such a
Speaker 1: hard time when I became a mum, because it's like
Speaker 1: I felt so confused of who I was. So this year,
Speaker 1: you know, this birthday year has been really interesting because
Speaker 1: and this is you know, something that I have worked
Speaker 1: with my coach around of to be who you want
Speaker 1: to be, you have to create and build evidence and
Speaker 1: strengthen the parts of yourself you want to be. And
Speaker 1: so I had never really I had done that. Of
Speaker 1: course we all do that, but I had never fully
Speaker 1: done that to the extent that I have done that
Speaker 1: this year. And I'm just I'm gonna give you an
Speaker 1: example because you kind of I know, these words might
Speaker 1: sound super rogue, so like evidence of who I am
Speaker 1: something I know for sure, and something like no one
Speaker 1: could tell me otherwise I know for sure evidence about
Speaker 1: myself and who I am. Is one of my biggest
Speaker 1: strengths is I will if I agree to something and
Speaker 1: I want something, I will show up and apply myself
Speaker 1: until that thing is done or it is quote unquote success. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Like that is a characteristic a strength that is like
Speaker 1: evidence of who I am. That is like one of
Speaker 1: my traits that I can guarantee. And it's funny because
Speaker 1: me and Tim were actually talking about it last night
Speaker 1: and we were talking about how last year I said
Speaker 1: yes to all these things and I felt spread thin
Speaker 1: and I felt like really fucking not great, And he said, yeah,
Speaker 1: but you did them and you saw them through. And
Speaker 1: that's such a testament to who you are, yea. And
Speaker 1: that is who I am. I am someone even if
Speaker 1: like if I've said yes to it, and even if
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it, I will show up
Speaker 1: and be there and do it because I have such
Speaker 1: this huge piece of integrity in who I am, and
Speaker 1: that has been consistent my whole entire or not probably
Speaker 1: like since I started understanding who I was. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: that's a trait of mine, and that's something that is
Speaker 1: evidence of who I am, and not only do I
Speaker 1: have evidence, but that is someone I want to be,
Speaker 1: so I will continue to create that evidence.
Speaker 2: On that particular skill. Yes, what's the difference between seeing
Speaker 2: something through even when you don't want to do it
Speaker 2: and respecting your boundaries.
Speaker 1: Well, that's the thing is, I think you need to
Speaker 1: know your boundaries first before you strengthen this skill. I didn't.
Speaker 1: I strengthened that skill first, and now I have my boundaries.
Speaker 1: So it's great. Yeah, Whereas before in saying that, I
Speaker 1: think there's a lot of I see, I'm still going
Speaker 1: to go there, and I think if you have said yes,
Speaker 1: you should still show up. What about what you did
Speaker 1: with your friend? What what about what you did with
Speaker 1: your friend? No? Not in that way. So I'm talking
Speaker 1: about like.
Speaker 2: Something project commitments, yes, okay, I'm not talking about like
Speaker 2: little boundaries. I A big things, yeah, like work or
Speaker 2: even like if you set yourself a goal okay, interesting,
Speaker 2: or if you say yourself a project.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of like it's na. Actually, I'm going
Speaker 1: to take it back because I do agree of it
Speaker 1: does depend on your boundaries, but I think there is
Speaker 1: a lot of power of For example, let's just go
Speaker 1: back to my law degree. Yeah. So I probably six
Speaker 1: to twelve months before I finish my law degree, I
Speaker 1: knew I probably wasn't going to do law or yeah shit,
Speaker 1: but I was like, nah, I'm just going to finish
Speaker 1: it because this is something I need to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's something I want to prove to myself. I'm
Speaker 1: also seventy five percent there, you might as well finish. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So in that moment I could make that decision, but
Speaker 1: for someone else it would be the right decision to stop,
Speaker 1: so that it depends on the person and the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And navigating whether you're quitting because it's easier to
Speaker 2: quit or you're quitting because it's actually a disservice to
Speaker 2: you to keep going.
Speaker 1: That's the thing is, here's the really amazing thing about
Speaker 1: creating evidence of who you want to be. It's like
Speaker 1: it's going to be so dependent it actually, like I said,
Speaker 1: in those two circumstances, that the quality of showing up
Speaker 1: for yourself could be correct in both instances. Yeah, that's like,
Speaker 1: that's the beautiful thing about evidence is it doesn't logically
Speaker 1: have to make sense to you or the listener who's listening.
Speaker 1: It just has to make sense to me, Yes, whatever
Speaker 1: feels integral. Yes, And that's like, for example, with you know,
Speaker 1: the friend's situation, it was more integral because on my
Speaker 1: priority list, IVY is always higher than a friend. Yes,
Speaker 1: so it was more integral to honor my time with Ivy. Yes.
Speaker 1: Do you kind of get how I'm getting both vy truths? Yes?
Speaker 2: I guess it's like perspective and like what truly feels
Speaker 2: right to you the inside and not what it looks like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's the thing is like that's you'll notice
Speaker 1: such a theme on my content right now of just
Speaker 1: being like don't put yourself in a box, like you
Speaker 1: actually get to so decide your life and be really
Speaker 1: integral to who you want to be. But that's not
Speaker 1: always going to make sense to other people. Yeah. So yeah,
Speaker 1: that was like that was my fourth lesson this year
Speaker 1: of like you get to create the evidence of who
Speaker 1: you want to be, and I was like really intentional
Speaker 1: about doing that this year, and that's what I have done,
Speaker 1: and I think that's why I feel really solid on
Speaker 1: who I am, because I've been intentional about creating that evidence. Yeah, sorry,
Speaker 1: mumbled that, No, that's okay, And yeah, that's my birthday lessons.
Speaker 1: I love this. I feel like this has been a
Speaker 1: therapy lesson.
Speaker 2: But I've enjoyed listening to them, and I'm sure everyone
Speaker 2: else will.
Speaker 1: But Guys, I can't wait to be twenty nine. And honestly,
Speaker 1: I just feel like I love getting older. I've been
Speaker 1: told by an astrologist that like, my prime of my
Speaker 1: life will be when I'm forties, like in my forties.
Speaker 1: Oh so I look, I just I'm excited for that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: can't we to be in my thirties. Can't wait to
Speaker 1: be in my forties. Probably that's it. After that, we're
Speaker 1: not talking about it. I'll be in my forties forever.
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