1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Kombo 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,520 Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:14,319 Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 6 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:30,240 Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is 7 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: the podcast where we chat mindset, self development and becoming 8 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:37,159 Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 9 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 10 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 11 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 12 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to 13 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 14 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's 15 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting live cast 16 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: you by then you're in the right place. Hi guys, 17 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: welcome back to the R and C Potty. We have 18 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: a special episode for you today. So when this episode 19 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: goes live, it will be a couple of days before 20 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: my birthday. I am turning twenty nine. Cannot wait. I 21 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 1: love birthdays and it is Leah sleevelerm it's my birthday month, 22 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: and so we did an episode all about my biggest 23 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: lessons of this birthday year. So I go into four 24 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: lessons and they're very introspective, aren't they? It, Tia, But 25 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: I loved all four lessons. You're getting a huge insight 26 00:01:56,280 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: into my year. I am very vulnerable with you, so 27 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: please be nice and yeah, I won't say too much 28 00:02:04,240 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: because look, you're about to hear about it exactly a tear. 29 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: Should we do some recommendations? Yes? Do you want to 30 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 1: go first? All right? So I told a tier I'm 31 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:16,280 Speaker 1: going first because I thought we'd have the same one, 32 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 1: but we don't. On the weekend. I think it was 33 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: on Friday. 34 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 2: Yeah. 35 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 1: So, so the second season of the summery term pretty 36 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,679 Speaker 1: came out only three episodes. Were a bit sad about. 37 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 2: That, and I think it's kind of a good lesson 38 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:31,080 Speaker 2: though to like, Wait, nothing small. 39 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: I know. I literally be just been one night. Me too, 40 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 1: and I loved season one, me too. I also have 41 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: another recommendation, what so rogue? I started watching The Witcher. 42 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: Oh do you like it? I'm not sure? I watched 43 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 1: the whole first season though, Oh, I don't like medieval times. Yeah, 44 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: Medieval's really dark. Yeah, but also I love anything that's 45 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 1: magical or like mystical, and it's very mystical, and so 46 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:03,800 Speaker 1: I'm not too sure how I feel about it. So 47 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: it's like not a full recommendation, but it's like seventy percent. Yeah, 48 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: I'm also confused, Like literally was watching the whole first 49 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: season thinking, and I started watching it when I was sick, 50 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: so it was kind of like I fell asleep half 51 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 1: the time and it was like so super rogue. I 52 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 1: kinda like it, but also it's like not a full recommendation. 53 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: What's Yours Mine is a podcast episode. It's the On 54 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: Purpose with Ja Shetty and he interviews Tom Holland, and 55 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 1: it is such a beautiful interview. It's literally two hours, 56 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 1: so it is a bit of a long one, but 57 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: it was just so interesting because I've listened to a 58 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: few of Ja Schetty's interviews before. But what I loved 59 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: particularly was Tom Holland asked Jay Shetty a lot of 60 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 1: questions too, so I heard stuff from Jay Schetty I 61 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: haven't really heard before. I love when they do that. 62 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then Tom Holland also spoke about his journey 63 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 2: going sober, which I found really interesting to listen to 64 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 2: and his reasonings and how he did it and why 65 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 2: he did it. He told himself he just would do 66 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 2: dry January as a challenge because he drank a lot 67 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 2: over November December, and then he found every minute he 68 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,800 Speaker 2: was just thinking about having a drink every day in January, 69 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 2: and that was end of January. He was like, nap, 70 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:30,160 Speaker 2: this doesn't count. Even though he didn't have a drink. 71 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,119 Speaker 2: He was like, I was thinking about alcohol the whole time, 72 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 2: so I'm going to do it again. And then he 73 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 2: just kept doing it and doing it and doing it 74 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 2: until he wasn't thinking about having a drink. And then 75 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 2: he realized how much happier he was and how much 76 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 2: his life had changed and his relationships had changed because 77 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 2: he'd stopped drinking, and it was like a gradual decision. 78 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:53,279 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's amazing. It was so interesting to 79 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:57,039 Speaker 1: listen to. What a good recommendation, Yeah, so much, You're 80 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: all right, let's get it in his zeps. So I 81 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 1: want to paint you a picture of my twenty eighth birthday, 82 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: So this time last year, and the only reason I 83 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 1: literally had to like scroll through my Instagram That's how 84 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 1: I gauge time, Like, wasn't it Alli All? Yeah? I 85 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: was I thinking you're doing at that time because I 86 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 1: post so consistently. I was like, I had just shot 87 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:38,480 Speaker 1: and posted all my LSKD content for my range, So 88 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 1: this was like this time last year. Gosh, that feels 89 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:46,280 Speaker 1: long ago, but also yesterday. It honestly feels like three 90 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 1: years ago. And so I also had just done my colab, 91 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:55,039 Speaker 1: my second co lab with Pedal and Pup, and that 92 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: was like a couple of months prior. And then I 93 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 1: was doing my co lab with LSKD and you know 94 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:03,919 Speaker 1: in the shots, Ivy is probably about six months old 95 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 1: or like Juste and we also were like about to 96 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:14,359 Speaker 1: go to Fiji. Hadn't you been to Fiji? Yeah? Sorry, no, 97 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: we yeah, we had also just been to Fiji. I'm 98 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 1: just trying to gauge you know, wow, roughly around that 99 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: so feels like a lifetime ago, but that was only 100 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 1: a year ago, guys. And for me, I it was 101 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: such a cool exercise because I was like, Wow, I'm 102 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 1: a totally different person. You are like totally different, And 103 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: those feelings I had at that moment were I really 104 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: remember them because I personally was feeling overstretched. I and 105 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 1: I'm very honest about this at the end of twenty 106 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:55,120 Speaker 1: twenty two of being like I was overstretched and I 107 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: said yes to way too many things, and I felt 108 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:04,160 Speaker 1: overwhelmed majority of year. And so my last birthday I 109 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: remember is feeling so overwhelmed. And what we actually did 110 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: on my birthday was we went to Byron and we 111 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: just spent the day with Ivy so sweet. It was 112 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: so sweet, And it was just because I was feeling 113 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: so tapped and really overwhelmed. 114 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 2: And do you think that was just because of work 115 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 2: or were there some other things you might have been 116 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 2: harboring that. 117 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: Caused this feeling cooled out a tea? Can't just call 118 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: me out this whole episode of No one hundred percent. 119 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:44,239 Speaker 1: I was really struggling with being a new mum and working, 120 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 1: really really struggling. I was holding on to a lot 121 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: of guilt. I was also I remember my birthday last year. 122 00:07:55,640 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: I remember feeling just really confused us also like really, 123 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:05,280 Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck is happening or what's 124 00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 1: what's what? And yeah, look not in like in saying that, though, 125 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 1: I remember kind of just being like I just got 126 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 1: to get through this year. That was kind of the vibe. Yeah, 127 00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:18,960 Speaker 1: I just got to get through this year really and 128 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: like it was fine, but it was the vibe you 129 00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: want to be in there. No, it was like I 130 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: was having so many realizations, so many lessons, and so 131 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 1: many like, oh, I never want to feel like this again, 132 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 1: but I'm going to get through this because I have to. 133 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: That was kind of the vibe of my last birthday 134 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 1: A rewind. So I when I was doing this reflection, 135 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: I actually journaled on this last night a tia to 136 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:46,200 Speaker 1: prep for this episode. I love that I got some 137 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 1: little notes here and I think, like my one of 138 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: my biggest lessons, I came down to four. So the 139 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: first one is more is not always better. I love 140 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: that lesson. So she really I think previous years, up 141 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:07,560 Speaker 1: until I was twenty eight, it felt like I just 142 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 1: had unlimited capacity, like I would just take on so much. 143 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: I would say yes to every opportunity, and I really 144 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:18,679 Speaker 1: saw that as my superpower, Like it's literally in my 145 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 1: human design that I can have so lots of information, 146 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 1: a lot of different channels and I can thrive on that. 147 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:30,200 Speaker 1: And so I use that to my advantage for years, 148 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 1: because any opportunity take it, run with it, do amazing 149 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: with it onto the next. 150 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:38,679 Speaker 2: And when you did that in the previous years before 151 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:42,480 Speaker 2: last year, did you feel good, like where you lit 152 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 2: up by it most of the time. 153 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:47,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, there was definitely moments where I felt, you know, 154 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:50,320 Speaker 1: stressed and overdone. But then I would just you know, 155 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:54,080 Speaker 1: have a holiday, or I would like I have some time, 156 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: or you know, I didn't have a child, so I 157 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: just like spend the weekend being a potato. Yeah, And 158 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 1: that was That's how I lived my life, and I 159 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 1: just like, I think also, you know, that's how I 160 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 1: was able to do so much over the years, and 161 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:13,680 Speaker 1: I really like more was always better for me. Yeah, 162 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:17,000 Speaker 1: and I really embraced that. And then for the first time, 163 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: obviously having Ivy and then having all these projects and 164 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:24,640 Speaker 1: just realizing that more is not always better. I realized 165 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:26,960 Speaker 1: that I had to have a huge shift in my 166 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: life and I really started strengthening my boundaries for probably 167 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: the first time in my life. Interesting. Yeah, Like, obviously 168 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 1: I've had evolutions over time, but I think in the 169 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:45,839 Speaker 1: last twelve months it has been the biggest, like the 170 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 1: biggest change has me been so strong in my boundaries 171 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:53,199 Speaker 1: And that was kind of my intention going into this 172 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: new year, which I you know, I told you a tier. Yeah, 173 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 1: And if anything, it's like less is more, that's my 174 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 1: new less there's more and I'm so intentional. And if 175 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:06,240 Speaker 1: it's not a hell, yes, it's no. 176 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 2: And what made you feel like your boundaries prior to 177 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 2: this weren't strong or ever strengthened. 178 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 1: Well, it's interesting because I thought they were. Yeah, I 179 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:20,959 Speaker 1: would have said they were probably pretty good. Yeah, but 180 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:25,080 Speaker 1: it's they were strong in the way of I knew 181 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: what I wanted and I knew who I was, but 182 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 1: not strong in the they were very influenced by outside 183 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: sources and very much like what I was saying, like 184 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: if I had an opportunity, it wouldn't matter how I 185 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 1: necessarily felt or if I was stressed. It's like, of course, 186 00:11:46,520 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 1: I will do it right. So almost people pleasing, yes, 187 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:56,800 Speaker 1: and almost people pleasing to my future self yes, you know, 188 00:11:56,920 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 1: like it's like to other people, but also to my 189 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,320 Speaker 1: future self because it's like I was so happy to 190 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: go through discipline in the moment and like not enjoying 191 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: the moment for a future reward. Reward, fuck, I could 192 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 1: do that twenty four seven. Yeah, it was like one 193 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 1: of my greatest skills, and it's something I learned during 194 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:19,960 Speaker 1: my law degree. Yeah, and then it continued on in 195 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: my career and I really strengthened that because I saw 196 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: that other people couldn't do it right in the industry. 197 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:31,679 Speaker 1: And it's really interesting. I'm only now kind of processing this. Yeah, 198 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:36,120 Speaker 1: and so in that avenue, my boundaries release. And I 199 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: think also, you know, when you have a small business, 200 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: when you're an influencer, when you're your own boss, you know, 201 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:47,319 Speaker 1: you can kind of be in a scarcity mindset where 202 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I don't want to lose traction, I 203 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: don't want to fall behind, I don't want to be forgotten, 204 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:56,560 Speaker 1: or you know, like these weird limiting beliefs come up 205 00:12:56,640 --> 00:13:00,840 Speaker 1: that can often make you make certain choices. And it's 206 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:04,720 Speaker 1: really interesting because since I just went no, no more, 207 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 1: like strong boundaries, I'm going to completely honor myself and 208 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:14,320 Speaker 1: my family and I'm not going to fall into the 209 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:17,080 Speaker 1: trap of more and more and more. I'm actually going 210 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:20,680 Speaker 1: to strip things back. But it's so interesting since I've 211 00:13:20,720 --> 00:13:25,560 Speaker 1: done that, like so many areas have been more strengthened. 212 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:29,040 Speaker 2: Like as in like businesses working better and that sort 213 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 2: of stuff. 214 00:13:29,640 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 1: Relationships, business, like so many things that I'm like, wow, 215 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: oh wow, I probably could have liked didn't I do this? Yeah, 216 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:40,240 Speaker 1: like I said, I could have done this years ago, 217 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 1: and being Okay, well, actually I don't know that because 218 00:13:43,160 --> 00:13:45,760 Speaker 1: you never know, this could be a very specific point 219 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:49,160 Speaker 1: in my career or in you know, my heart. Yeah, 220 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: but that's probably my biggest lesson of being so intentional 221 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:57,320 Speaker 1: and just being like, actually, no, I don't have to 222 00:13:57,320 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 1: do it all. I don't have to say yes to everything, 223 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:03,600 Speaker 1: and that actually gets to work really well for me. 224 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:06,120 Speaker 1: It's like I locked in a new core belief. 225 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:13,400 Speaker 2: Wow, And when would you say you really strengthened those boundaries? 226 00:14:13,880 --> 00:14:17,560 Speaker 2: And then how long did it take to realize like 227 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 2: how well it was going. 228 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 1: I definitely started at the start of the year where 229 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: we did do a few future self and I like 230 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: had the realizations that I had really taken on too 231 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:30,000 Speaker 1: much and I was really presenting certain things. And then 232 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 1: so what are we, like, you know, nearly eight months 233 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 1: into the year. Yeah, so it's taken a good eight months. 234 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:37,560 Speaker 1: Probably around six months I looked back and I was like, 235 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: holy shit, I've actually really stuck to this and it 236 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:42,720 Speaker 1: feels really good. And for the first time, I feel 237 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:46,600 Speaker 1: like I feel really good compared to how I felt. 238 00:14:46,920 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 2: And which I know this might be hard to like 239 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 2: pick one which boundary that you put in do you 240 00:14:55,280 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 2: think made the biggest difference. 241 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:02,760 Speaker 1: It's like it's all to do with IVY. Yeah, So 242 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: like the biggest thing is The biggest thing I ask 243 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: myself is like if I say yes to this, will 244 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 1: this take time away that I have with IVY. So 245 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 1: that's sort of the phrase you use to yourself to 246 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: like help you Yeah, Or if I say yes yes 247 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 1: to this, will that take time away from my NH 248 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:24,760 Speaker 1: team yeah, or my RNC team or like y, you know, 249 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:27,960 Speaker 1: where are the lines? Where are the boundaries? And also 250 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:31,160 Speaker 1: it's really interesting I don't know if this is going 251 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:36,720 Speaker 1: to make sense, but being okay with giving just a 252 00:15:36,760 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 1: certain amount so rather than giving it all all the time, 253 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:44,360 Speaker 1: which is what I previously had done because it felt like, well, 254 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: if I want it all, I have to give it all, 255 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 1: whereas now I'm like, no, actually I don't have to 256 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:51,200 Speaker 1: give it all, and I get to have it all. 257 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 1: Like I it's huge like mind switch where I'm like, no, 258 00:15:56,320 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 1: I actually don't have to give it all and I 259 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 1: don't know if that makes sense. 260 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 2: No, like it makes sense, but I don't know if 261 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:08,720 Speaker 2: I agree how. 262 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 1: Or like not that I don't agree. I would love 263 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 1: to think that way. I think it's at a very 264 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 1: specific point. Yeah. I think previously I did have to 265 00:16:17,760 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 1: give it all, and obviously that has shown so much. Yeah, 266 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:25,280 Speaker 1: but I think there's even a certain point where I'm 267 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 1: gonna give you a really good example. Yeah. So recently 268 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: we did a collab product with Elite Supplements. Oh yes, 269 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: and so we launched an exclusive flavor with them, watermelon. 270 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 1: It's really yummy, so yummy. And on the weekend I 271 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: did like an appearance and that was locked in literally 272 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 1: at the start of actually at the end of last year. 273 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:52,280 Speaker 1: That was confirmed. Locked in, I do an appearance. You know, 274 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 1: there was a certain collateral we did together, and that 275 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:57,120 Speaker 1: was all, you know, locked in and all good. So 276 00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 1: it's just a Saturday. It was a couple of hours. 277 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 1: It was fine, but it was really interesting because I 278 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 1: said to Cooper after, oh, I probably won't do everything. 279 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:11,959 Speaker 1: I probably won't do anything like that again. Interesting, like 280 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 1: just in the not not do a collad product. Yes, 281 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:17,359 Speaker 1: you know, we lovely that nothing against them or anything, 282 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: but just like, oh, I actually feel like I'm not 283 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:23,439 Speaker 1: I'm not available for this anymore. The appearance kind of 284 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:27,360 Speaker 1: what a Saturday when I would usually be with my daughter. Yeah, 285 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 1: and it just it felt very like, matter of a fact, 286 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:35,120 Speaker 1: I had found a new boundary and also kind of 287 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 1: like it was you know, it's literally it's the first 288 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 1: one I've done this year. Yeah, I think it's got 289 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:44,159 Speaker 1: to be one of the last ones. So it really 290 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:46,480 Speaker 1: was fine, and I really felt good doing it. I 291 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 1: didn't feel resentful or anything like that. Yeah, but it 292 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: felt like a very good knowing. Oh, I don't this 293 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 1: probably won't happen again. 294 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,919 Speaker 2: It's kind of like a beige flag makes she stopped 295 00:17:57,000 --> 00:17:59,600 Speaker 2: to look. But it's not a red flag yet. 296 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 1: No, not a replag at all. But it's so interesting 297 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:08,680 Speaker 1: because I think I've never been able to feel that. Previously, 298 00:18:08,960 --> 00:18:13,520 Speaker 1: I had no awareness around my capacity or my boundaries. 299 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:16,640 Speaker 1: And it's really interesting because I straight away I even 300 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 1: said to Cooper on Monday, I was like, it was 301 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 1: really good. I met so many people, it was amazing. 302 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:24,960 Speaker 1: I don't think I'll do that again, though, and he went, cool, 303 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 1: that's good to know. That's the wild do you hear me? 304 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:32,440 Speaker 1: Ye's like a next stage in my evolution. And even 305 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:35,199 Speaker 1: for me to be like, don't get me wrong, you know, 306 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,520 Speaker 1: I would love we want to do further community events 307 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 1: and RNC and H. That's very different than appearance for 308 00:18:42,359 --> 00:18:46,920 Speaker 1: another company, but you know, and I can that's different. Yeah, 309 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:50,160 Speaker 1: But for that certain thing, I just was like, this 310 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:52,240 Speaker 1: is a new boundary and I'm actually going to honor 311 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:56,160 Speaker 1: it and listen to it. Was previously I never would 312 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 1: have even had that signal. 313 00:18:58,359 --> 00:19:03,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. It's almost like I feel like for me, I 314 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:07,679 Speaker 2: will only realize, oh, boundary's been crossed when I'm like 315 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:08,720 Speaker 2: having a breakdown. 316 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:11,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, like a red flag. Yeah, and like that's what 317 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:13,120 Speaker 1: I've done. That's what I did all last year. 318 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:16,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. And what do you feel made the difference in 319 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:20,920 Speaker 2: being able to recognize the almost like Bayse flag of like, oh, 320 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 2: like if I did this a few more times, it 321 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 2: probably wouldn't end well. Yeah, without doing it the few 322 00:19:27,040 --> 00:19:28,080 Speaker 2: more times, Well. 323 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 1: I think I had to have all the red flags 324 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 1: last year and going through all the resentment last year 325 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:36,720 Speaker 1: and all those feelings. But this year, I think the 326 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: reason that I've been able to have awareness about it 327 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:43,960 Speaker 1: is I just have space, Like I've just created so 328 00:19:44,119 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 1: much more space in my life, yet I still do 329 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:49,919 Speaker 1: all the things I want to do. Yeah, that is 330 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:52,920 Speaker 1: the biggest difference between my last birthday and this birthday 331 00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:57,400 Speaker 1: is I have so much space for awareness, so much 332 00:19:57,480 --> 00:20:01,720 Speaker 1: space mentally to unders stand what I want in life, 333 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:05,720 Speaker 1: what is important for me in life, and what is 334 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 1: important to the people around me, that I'm just able 335 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 1: to make better decisions. And it's really interesting. I had 336 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:16,600 Speaker 1: actually another great boundary example where I was supposed to 337 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 1: meet up with a girlfriend and you know, she was 338 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 1: into state traveling, so we don't get to see each 339 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 1: other very often, and she was here into stay. Yeah, 340 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,400 Speaker 1: and you know, we had arranged to actually did see 341 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: her during the week and then we had arranged again 342 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:31,920 Speaker 1: to see each other on the weekend, and it was 343 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 1: getting to that time, and you know, we have to 344 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:39,720 Speaker 1: bring Ivy and I just I noticed like this niggling 345 00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:43,280 Speaker 1: feeling and it was really close to the time, but 346 00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:46,160 Speaker 1: I just text her and I just said, you know what, babe, 347 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: I'm just like, I'm so sorry, but I just this 348 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:50,720 Speaker 1: really doesn't feel good. I really just want to spend 349 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:54,399 Speaker 1: the afternoon with Ivy. And I apologize for you know, 350 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:57,240 Speaker 1: the late the lateness, but I just I really need 351 00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 1: to honor this for myself. And she was so fine. Yeah, 352 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,359 Speaker 1: you know, I had seen her, but again that was 353 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:05,359 Speaker 1: like previously I would have just gone and just got 354 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 1: over and done with you know that, I feel like 355 00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:10,919 Speaker 1: most people. Yeah, and then you please that person, you 356 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:13,639 Speaker 1: saw that person, you ticked it off the list. Yeah, 357 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 1: And so I didn't go, and me and Ivy we 358 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 1: opened up some new toys that I got her, and 359 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:22,159 Speaker 1: then we had a bath together, and then we watched 360 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:24,280 Speaker 1: I think a Disney movie and it was just the 361 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 1: best afternoon. And I really had the reflection of like, Wow, 362 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 1: I've actually come such a long way in my awareness 363 00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:34,920 Speaker 1: and my boundaries and it felt really good. 364 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:39,080 Speaker 2: And do you think that, like, for example, say you 365 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:41,640 Speaker 2: had had that feeling and you hadn't seen her in. 366 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 1: The middle of the week, what would you have done 367 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 1: the same thing? 368 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:50,119 Speaker 2: Well? Or do you think like you kind of felt 369 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,359 Speaker 2: that feeling because you'd already seen her and this was 370 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:53,400 Speaker 2: like twice now. 371 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 1: No, I think no, I think it would have been 372 00:21:56,880 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 1: I would have done the exact same thing. Wow, because 373 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 1: I I did that another time. I did that another 374 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 1: time the other day. But do you know me, I'm 375 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 1: just a strong boundary. 376 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:10,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. 377 00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 1: And if this person is gonna, you know, get angry 378 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 1: and stuff, it's like they also need to respect how 379 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,440 Speaker 1: I'm feeling. And yeah, I truly believe a true friend, 380 00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:23,280 Speaker 1: like they're not going to be like fuck you. Yeah, 381 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,679 Speaker 1: so I don't know that and that's and I but 382 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 1: I notice I could notice the side of myself that 383 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,200 Speaker 1: just wanted to please and just tick it off the box. Yeah, 384 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:34,879 Speaker 1: And I had to really have awareness. But again, that 385 00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:39,200 Speaker 1: awareness has come through a lot of saying, like I've 386 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,000 Speaker 1: said no a lot of times this year. 387 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 2: I was gonna ask about that. So you feel like 388 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 2: you've been saying. 389 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:48,160 Speaker 1: No a lot a lot, and I think, like you'll 390 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,120 Speaker 1: even I think a lot of my close friends would 391 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 1: be like, yeah, I haven't seen her, oh, but like 392 00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,679 Speaker 1: I still love them. Yeah, And I still have so 393 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:02,480 Speaker 1: many beautiful friendships. But like this year, it's almost like 394 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,879 Speaker 1: I felt so burnt out from last year. It almost 395 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 1: like it had to be this really hard no and 396 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:12,880 Speaker 1: this really hard like no, I need to put these 397 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 1: boundaries in. And that kind of leads into my second lesson. 398 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:20,480 Speaker 1: And that's just since I have put these boundaries in, 399 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,480 Speaker 1: and since I have been super intentional with my time 400 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:30,840 Speaker 1: and my priority and I don't experience mum guilt like 401 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:33,480 Speaker 1: I just don't. I love that for you, and that's 402 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:37,640 Speaker 1: something I experienced so much last year. And I think 403 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: also social media and you know, friends and family, they 404 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,959 Speaker 1: normalize mum guilt. Everyone normalized this mumgel. Oh it's just nobl. 405 00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:48,680 Speaker 1: We all we all feel stretched, we all feel shit, 406 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,920 Speaker 1: you know, and that's a lot of you know, the 407 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,560 Speaker 1: rebirth course that we recently did, which is like my 408 00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:59,680 Speaker 1: mindset mum course. I actually realized that mum guilt didn't 409 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,480 Speaker 1: have to be normal for me, and I got to 410 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:08,000 Speaker 1: actually fully change that. And so even it's funny because 411 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,680 Speaker 1: my life is so different, but it's also not I 412 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:16,919 Speaker 1: have just been able to mentally get to a place 413 00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:21,679 Speaker 1: where I don't entertain mum guilt because I'm like, well, no, 414 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 1: I'm so intentional with my time that I have specifically, 415 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:30,000 Speaker 1: you know, for example, this, you know, as we're recording 416 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: this week, we me and Cooper are going to Sydney 417 00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:38,639 Speaker 1: because we're finalists for the ARIA Awards. What's that people 418 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:43,000 Speaker 1: who don't know, Oh, the os Post Online e Commerce Awards. 419 00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,360 Speaker 1: Oh cool, I think so I don't know some shit, 420 00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:52,160 Speaker 1: some shit I've been taught as a magdal and so 421 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 1: and hahe got nominated. It's just really exciting for us. 422 00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:58,800 Speaker 1: And so me and Cooper are going to that. And 423 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:02,360 Speaker 1: so we're flying to Sydney and going to this whole 424 00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:07,919 Speaker 1: gala and we're speaking at something beforehand, and like, I 425 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:11,600 Speaker 1: don't have any mum guilt around that because I am 426 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,720 Speaker 1: so intentional with my schedule and time. And before I 427 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,480 Speaker 1: said yes to that, I was like, okay, let's look 428 00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:20,679 Speaker 1: at my schedule, let's chat to Tim, I arrange things. 429 00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:23,120 Speaker 1: You know, I spent more time with Ivy on side, 430 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:27,199 Speaker 1: like you know, certain things like that, And I don't 431 00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 1: experience mum guilt all the time like I did previously. 432 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:35,600 Speaker 1: And when I do, like because obviously I truly believe 433 00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:39,640 Speaker 1: feelings are just like signposts. So when I have started 434 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:43,879 Speaker 1: to experience mum guilt during the year, I haven't let 435 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:48,200 Speaker 1: it mean anything and I've gone, okay, cool, like where 436 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:51,160 Speaker 1: is there actual truth in this and what I want 437 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:54,960 Speaker 1: to do to change it. So when I am experiencing mumgirl, 438 00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:59,560 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, well I have actually, even though maybe 439 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:02,240 Speaker 1: I'm spending the same time with Ivy you know, we've 440 00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:04,439 Speaker 1: had this big project with NH and so maybe I 441 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,920 Speaker 1: haven't been as present. So you know, next week I'm 442 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,720 Speaker 1: going to take an early afternoon and take her to 443 00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:14,320 Speaker 1: Grump and Zoo or you know, Like the other weekend, 444 00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 1: I was just really craving one on one time with 445 00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:19,879 Speaker 1: her and I said to Tim, I'm like, no offense, 446 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:24,879 Speaker 1: but I just want to spend Sunday with Ivy, go away. 447 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:29,040 Speaker 1: And he was like, do me a favor. And I 448 00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 1: just spent the day with her and I took her 449 00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:33,399 Speaker 1: to like Kingscliffe or something, and I was like craving 450 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,119 Speaker 1: that one on one time and I could notice this, 451 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,480 Speaker 1: you know, the feelings happening. So I changed that and 452 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,040 Speaker 1: that's the biggest. Like, I think the biggest difference to 453 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: me last birthday was just even who I am as 454 00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:53,680 Speaker 1: a mom so different, so different, and it's because I've 455 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: actually done so much work on it and just in 456 00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:59,960 Speaker 1: a really mentally such a better place than last. 457 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:03,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, And what do you think made the biggest difference 458 00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,760 Speaker 2: for you in terms of mum guilt and how much 459 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 2: I guess pressure or not feeling mum guilt. Do you 460 00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,560 Speaker 2: think that is what helped you make so much space 461 00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:15,560 Speaker 2: for everything else. 462 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:19,960 Speaker 1: Well, I did a lot of identity work, and that's 463 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,359 Speaker 1: what our whole rebirth course is. So at the end 464 00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 1: of last year, I literally had to change. I had 465 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,240 Speaker 1: to do so much identity work around who I wanted 466 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:31,240 Speaker 1: to be in this next chapter, and I just I 467 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:35,439 Speaker 1: hadn't done that previously. So when you feel disconnected to 468 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:39,000 Speaker 1: yourself and who you want to be, it creates a 469 00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:41,320 Speaker 1: lot of feelings of guilt and anxiety and all the 470 00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:45,240 Speaker 1: different emotions. So once I was really clear on like, no, actually, 471 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,840 Speaker 1: this is the person I want to be, I could 472 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,800 Speaker 1: start putting in an action plan to strive to be 473 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:54,399 Speaker 1: that person. And then now I'm that person. Yeah, so 474 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 1: I no longer feel those feelings. Does that make sense? Yeah, 475 00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,879 Speaker 1: because I feel I feel connected to my new identity. 476 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 1: But I had to create it. I had to be 477 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:06,000 Speaker 1: very intentional with it. And that's even like kind of like, 478 00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:07,760 Speaker 1: let's go onto the third lesson because I'm going to 479 00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:09,159 Speaker 1: kind of answer it in here. Okay. 480 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:12,320 Speaker 2: In your first lesson, you mentioned that you were able 481 00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:15,880 Speaker 2: to make space and that that's what helped you make 482 00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 2: you more aware of like the beige flags and boundaries 483 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,400 Speaker 2: and that sort of stuff. How did you actually make 484 00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 2: that space mentally, because I know you're probably just as 485 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,439 Speaker 2: busy as you were last year. You've obviously said no 486 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 2: to some catchups and no toe some things in business, 487 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:33,760 Speaker 2: but that doesn't necessarily make mental space all the time. 488 00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a great question. I think it's like I'm 489 00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 1: super I guess I'm super tapped into my connecting to 490 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:47,880 Speaker 1: myself practices. So this is like so cliche, but it's 491 00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:53,120 Speaker 1: like meditation, journaling. Yeah, like those really simple practices that 492 00:28:53,280 --> 00:29:00,520 Speaker 1: I do daily that help me associate with kind of 493 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 1: like this. So like, for example, when you're clear on 494 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 1: who you want to be and what you want in 495 00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: life and then that day you show up as that person, 496 00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:20,640 Speaker 1: you feel good. Yeah, you feel like accomplished good. It's 497 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:25,120 Speaker 1: kind of like I feel like this whole year I've 498 00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:28,400 Speaker 1: had like my blinder is on, Like I feel like 499 00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:32,920 Speaker 1: I have not cared what anyone else is doing, and 500 00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: I have been so fucking like clear with like I'm 501 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:42,400 Speaker 1: gonna do me. Yeah, And I don't know, it's really 502 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:46,600 Speaker 1: changed me in the way of like even I was 503 00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:50,720 Speaker 1: thinking and this is like my third lesson of just 504 00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,120 Speaker 1: like the biggest thing I just like I don't compare 505 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 1: myself to anyone else because I know who I want 506 00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 1: to be, Like, I know who Georgie wants to be. Yeah, 507 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:04,320 Speaker 1: And when you have that clarity of your next level self, 508 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:06,480 Speaker 1: of who you want to be, and obviously you know 509 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,000 Speaker 1: this is what I teach, and it's just me embodying 510 00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:12,600 Speaker 1: of what I teach, It's like, when you have that clarity, 511 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:19,720 Speaker 1: it's really easy to feel happy and to feel satisfied 512 00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:24,000 Speaker 1: because you're like, there's not a hundred messages of like 513 00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:27,080 Speaker 1: let's say social media. Yeah, there's not like a hundred 514 00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:29,320 Speaker 1: reels of you being like, oh I should be the 515 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:32,840 Speaker 1: fucking soft girl, or you know this conversation of like 516 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:34,720 Speaker 1: oh I should be the mom who bakes at home. 517 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,160 Speaker 1: I should be the mom who does this, I should 518 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,520 Speaker 1: be the partner who does this. Yeah, I could be healthier, 519 00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:41,800 Speaker 1: I could be skinnier, I could be all these things. 520 00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 1: But because I'm so clear on who I want to 521 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:46,600 Speaker 1: be and I've got my blinders on and I don't 522 00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:51,000 Speaker 1: let the noise affect me, I feel really good. I 523 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:56,480 Speaker 1: feel really satisfied. Yeah. And I think when like last year, 524 00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:00,480 Speaker 1: I didn't feel good and I didn't feel satisfied because 525 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,360 Speaker 1: I wasn't clear on who I wanted to be. 526 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:06,840 Speaker 2: And do you feel like you spend less time on 527 00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 2: social media? M So going to my third lesson, Yeah, 528 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:14,680 Speaker 2: if you'll allow me, I'll allow it. 529 00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 1: That okay. So I just I've said this in a 530 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: previous episode. Yeah, comparison is distraction, and I just have 531 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:31,920 Speaker 1: not been distracted this year. It's like and this really 532 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,800 Speaker 1: has Like obviously I did a lot of identity work 533 00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:39,360 Speaker 1: around who I want to be, but I I just like, fuck, 534 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:43,440 Speaker 1: I was caught in Like I was caught in the 535 00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:46,440 Speaker 1: social media comparison trap last year and I did not 536 00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,720 Speaker 1: even know it. And it's because again, I wasn't clear 537 00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:51,440 Speaker 1: on who I wanted to be. So I had all 538 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:55,560 Speaker 1: these like external all this external noise of who I 539 00:31:55,600 --> 00:32:00,640 Speaker 1: thought I should be, and it felt fucking suffocating, Like 540 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,680 Speaker 1: it felt suffocating and it's really crazy because I could 541 00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:08,080 Speaker 1: not even identify it was now that I'm so strict 542 00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:13,280 Speaker 1: on my practices and like last night, I even noticed myself. 543 00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:15,960 Speaker 1: So I even noticed myself. So I made my like 544 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:18,200 Speaker 1: we had dinner, I made myself mood milk, I packed 545 00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: my bag, and I like noticed this niggling feeling of 546 00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:26,360 Speaker 1: like maybe I could just go watch Netflix instead of 547 00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:29,200 Speaker 1: because like I journal read a bed, yeah, a single night, 548 00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:32,880 Speaker 1: and even this feeling of like I've been so good 549 00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:34,280 Speaker 1: all yeah, you. 550 00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,080 Speaker 3: Know, like I yea so good all yeah, I'm at 551 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm really solid to myself, like I don't 552 00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,120 Speaker 3: I don't fall into the comparison track, you know, like 553 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,520 Speaker 3: I don't need to restrict myself, like I'm really good. 554 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,520 Speaker 1: And I like notice that and I'm like, oh wow, 555 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 1: it just it keeps, it keeps at you. And I 556 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:54,360 Speaker 1: so I didn't want Netflix or go in my phone, 557 00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: and I sat and journaled, and I journaled for this 558 00:32:56,600 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: episode and I that is the biggest change is I'm 559 00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,440 Speaker 1: just so strict with my boundaries even with social media 560 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:11,080 Speaker 1: of like I think I would spend probably max ten 561 00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:14,720 Speaker 1: to twenty minutes a day on social media, and that 562 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 1: is I do, like, I do really love social media. 563 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,800 Speaker 1: It's a really beautiful platform. Obviously I love posting on there, 564 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:23,400 Speaker 1: I love connecting, but I'm really really strict. And then 565 00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:27,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, so then you know, my workdays eight 566 00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,600 Speaker 1: hours and then on top of that, I've probably got 567 00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:34,520 Speaker 1: four hours with Ivy and then the fucking ninety minutes 568 00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:39,240 Speaker 1: that I've got left, Like I'm not going to mindlessly scroll, 569 00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,600 Speaker 1: mindlessly go on Netflix, because I'm actually going to give 570 00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:46,480 Speaker 1: back to myself and so I meditate or a journal 571 00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,160 Speaker 1: or like on the weekends, I do watch Netflix. I 572 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:51,640 Speaker 1: do love that time, but I really have to clock 573 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:56,960 Speaker 1: myself of am I trying to soothe myself or disassociate here? 574 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,680 Speaker 1: And previously that's what I would do is I would 575 00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,840 Speaker 1: work myself literally to the ground, Yeah, and then I 576 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:09,719 Speaker 1: would soothe myself with social media, Netflix, food, and then 577 00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:11,880 Speaker 1: I would feel better and then I would go and 578 00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:16,479 Speaker 1: do the same thing kind of like almost binge. Yeah, 579 00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,600 Speaker 1: like very addictive tendencies and we will have them, it's 580 00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:22,239 Speaker 1: very normal. Yeah, But I haven't done that this year, 581 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:25,600 Speaker 1: and I've just I've given myself so much room and 582 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,640 Speaker 1: space of like, no, I'm not gonna just go do 583 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,320 Speaker 1: the thing that everyone else is doing, and I'm actually 584 00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,680 Speaker 1: gonna be really intentional with my time. And it's like 585 00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:39,680 Speaker 1: that has just given me. So it's given me so much. 586 00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:43,680 Speaker 1: And it's really funny because I did notice though there 587 00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:48,279 Speaker 1: is a downfall because I'm not gonna lie. I like 588 00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,680 Speaker 1: I sometimes don't even know what my friends are up 589 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:55,919 Speaker 1: to like IM on social is much, I like really bad. 590 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:59,600 Speaker 1: But like one of my friends announced her pregnancy and 591 00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,160 Speaker 1: like I did no she was pregnant, but I never 592 00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:06,279 Speaker 1: saw the announcement. Oh okay, you know, like personally we'd talk, 593 00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:07,960 Speaker 1: but I never saw on Instagram And I saw it 594 00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,239 Speaker 1: like two weeks later, and I thought, oh wow, like 595 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 1: I am actually missing things. Yeah, so there is kind 596 00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:20,440 Speaker 1: of like there is a downfall, but you need to 597 00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:24,319 Speaker 1: decide if that's worth it or not. So for me, 598 00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:28,120 Speaker 1: I noticed that and I went, hmmm, this is interesting. 599 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:32,960 Speaker 2: Would you say it's a downfall because I would say 600 00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,680 Speaker 2: that you didn't really miss it because you knew anyway 601 00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:36,280 Speaker 2: and you'd. 602 00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:37,640 Speaker 1: Spoken to her. Yeah. 603 00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:40,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're kind of just missing it for people 604 00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 2: who you don't really speak to. I. I guess I 605 00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,520 Speaker 2: meant in the way of like there would be other 606 00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:49,240 Speaker 2: things that you know, close friends do that they haven't 607 00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:51,440 Speaker 2: told me that I probably do miss Yeah, okay, I 608 00:35:51,520 --> 00:35:54,120 Speaker 2: get and you know maybe that they might not text 609 00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:55,040 Speaker 2: you to update yeaues. 610 00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:58,399 Speaker 1: It's like a bit random. Yeah. Yeah, So like I 611 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:03,160 Speaker 1: think I've definitely missing things, but for me it feels 612 00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:06,120 Speaker 1: worth it. Yeah, because I've got to a place where 613 00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:09,279 Speaker 1: I just feel so solid and like who I am 614 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,600 Speaker 1: now compared to how I felt, and I don't want 615 00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,080 Speaker 1: to go back to how I felt. So this is 616 00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 1: kind of what I've had to do. And you might think, oh, wow, 617 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,400 Speaker 1: it sounds a bit fucking full on, but it's like, 618 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:23,000 Speaker 1: these are the changes I have had to make personally 619 00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:26,120 Speaker 1: in this new season of my life, and I'm really 620 00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,960 Speaker 1: proud of myself for making them because they have been 621 00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,680 Speaker 1: quite difficult to make. And like I said, I've had 622 00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,320 Speaker 1: to say a lot of no's. I've missed out on things. 623 00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,959 Speaker 1: I haven't said yes to all the things, and there's 624 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:40,319 Speaker 1: been some really exciting things, but I've just I've had 625 00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:44,319 Speaker 1: to be like, no, it's worth it because for me, 626 00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:49,200 Speaker 1: this birthday is hugely evolution and a becoming of me 627 00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:51,839 Speaker 1: being a mother. And I'm really proud of the mom 628 00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:56,160 Speaker 1: I am, and for me, that weighs anything else. That's 629 00:36:56,160 --> 00:37:06,120 Speaker 1: so beautiful. Thank you and yeah, and that's even Like 630 00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:08,480 Speaker 1: I was talking to a friend a couple of months 631 00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:12,200 Speaker 1: ago and she was kind of telling me, she was like, oh, 632 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:14,840 Speaker 1: you know, like how do you not care what people 633 00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:17,279 Speaker 1: think of you on social media? Because like she's not 634 00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:19,200 Speaker 1: being on social media or anything. But she was saying 635 00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:22,280 Speaker 1: like anyway she was dealing with this like crisis or whatever, 636 00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:25,600 Speaker 1: a certain problem and it was affecting her on social media, 637 00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:30,440 Speaker 1: and it was great awareness because I was just like, I, Yeah, 638 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:33,239 Speaker 1: I think I just am so solid in who I 639 00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,120 Speaker 1: am and what I want and what I want for 640 00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,279 Speaker 1: my family and what I want for my businesses and 641 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:40,920 Speaker 1: who's important to me that it's like I'm just not 642 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:45,120 Speaker 1: worried what other people are doing or what other people think, 643 00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:47,640 Speaker 1: And I just I think there's so much power in that. 644 00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 1: There really is. 645 00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:55,120 Speaker 2: And what would be your obviously less time on social media, 646 00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:59,000 Speaker 2: but what else do you think has really strengthened your 647 00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,839 Speaker 2: relationship with you yourself to the point that you're not 648 00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,839 Speaker 2: really worrying about other people. And it's like you've got 649 00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:07,240 Speaker 2: your blinkers on, but it seems like it's quite easy 650 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:09,080 Speaker 2: for you to keep them there. There's not too many 651 00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:13,440 Speaker 2: things that are going like, oh, like hello, whereas I 652 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:15,480 Speaker 2: feel like I've tried to put. 653 00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:18,680 Speaker 1: My blinkers on, but then there's always like things. It's 654 00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:22,840 Speaker 1: the clarity for me, It's the clarity of me knowing 655 00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:26,040 Speaker 1: I'm going through and it see it is kind of 656 00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:30,880 Speaker 1: easier for me because of Ivy, whereas Preev's pre Ivy, 657 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:32,680 Speaker 1: it wasn't easy for me because it's not like a 658 00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:36,839 Speaker 1: central No, So I really resonate with how you feel 659 00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,840 Speaker 1: because I felt like that previously. Yeah, but then since 660 00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,480 Speaker 1: you know, Ivy's come along and she's just the most 661 00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:45,719 Speaker 1: important thing in my world, it's been really easy to 662 00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:50,520 Speaker 1: make those decisions. Yeah, you've got like a benchmark. Yeah, 663 00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:55,200 Speaker 1: and I guess also, oh so cliche, but I've just 664 00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:58,279 Speaker 1: like I've just like never felt a love like being 665 00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:05,680 Speaker 1: a mother. But I don't want advocate honestly, just why 666 00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:11,680 Speaker 1: trust me, It's like I've never yeah, I've never felt 667 00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:16,279 Speaker 1: like this, and it's been because of her. It's been 668 00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:20,160 Speaker 1: really easy. And also I think for me, it's like 669 00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:22,640 Speaker 1: because I've done so much identity work around the mother 670 00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:25,480 Speaker 1: I want to be, is she's never going to be 671 00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:29,560 Speaker 1: the reason why I don't do something, so she like, 672 00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,360 Speaker 1: I'm never going to be like, oh well I didn't 673 00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,080 Speaker 1: go and do Europe because you were born or you know, 674 00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,440 Speaker 1: like those sorts of things. So like being very much like, no, 675 00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,080 Speaker 1: I get to be a mother, but I also get 676 00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:41,000 Speaker 1: to like do all the things I want to do 677 00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,279 Speaker 1: but being very realistic about the things I want to do. 678 00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:48,320 Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, do you think that she helped the clarity 679 00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:50,720 Speaker 2: or do you think the clarity is what has helped 680 00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,600 Speaker 2: you be so clear and that that clarity showed you 681 00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:56,840 Speaker 2: that ivy is your benchmark. But for example, if I 682 00:39:57,000 --> 00:40:01,239 Speaker 2: just worked on getting really really clear, I would myrawn benchmark, 683 00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,000 Speaker 2: which could just be my future self. 684 00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,440 Speaker 1: Yeah. And you need a like you need a good 685 00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:10,280 Speaker 1: enough why. Yeah, And I think that's hard before I kid, 686 00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:14,920 Speaker 1: because there was like you don't really have like, of 687 00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,560 Speaker 1: course you have whys. Yeah, but it's kind of like 688 00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:24,160 Speaker 1: it's not as clear. So my last lesson of this 689 00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:30,719 Speaker 1: birthday is, I it's really funny to say it to you. 690 00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:36,520 Speaker 1: I did not have a lot of awareness around who 691 00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:37,000 Speaker 1: I was. 692 00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:45,560 Speaker 2: What I know, Like if you're saying this way, where 693 00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:47,800 Speaker 2: am I? 694 00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,200 Speaker 1: No? But that's what I mean of And but I 695 00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:53,120 Speaker 1: think that's very normal in your like your twenties. I 696 00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:55,480 Speaker 1: don't think you should know who you are. Yeah, And 697 00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:59,080 Speaker 1: so I think this was and it is this is 698 00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:02,920 Speaker 1: like this turn nine, Well, this year is the start 699 00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:05,799 Speaker 1: of my sad in return. So that makes sense because 700 00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:09,000 Speaker 1: you sat in returns fucked yeah, it's already for the 701 00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,399 Speaker 1: role of go. Yeah, it's a roller co star. And 702 00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:14,800 Speaker 1: so this year has been so pivotal to me because 703 00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:21,480 Speaker 1: I have finally gained awareness and started gaining evidence around 704 00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:24,080 Speaker 1: who I am, but also who I want to be. 705 00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:29,319 Speaker 1: Where was previously. It's really weird. It's like I did 706 00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,600 Speaker 1: not have the awareness. I had a lot of people 707 00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:35,960 Speaker 1: telling me stuff yeah, but I did not believe it 708 00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:39,400 Speaker 1: or embody it. And that's why I had such a 709 00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:42,440 Speaker 1: hard time when I became a mum, because it's like 710 00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:46,520 Speaker 1: I felt so confused of who I was. So this year, 711 00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:50,880 Speaker 1: you know, this birthday year has been really interesting because 712 00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:53,640 Speaker 1: and this is you know, something that I have worked 713 00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:57,239 Speaker 1: with my coach around of to be who you want 714 00:41:57,280 --> 00:42:01,239 Speaker 1: to be, you have to create and build evidence and 715 00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:05,759 Speaker 1: strengthen the parts of yourself you want to be. And 716 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,799 Speaker 1: so I had never really I had done that. Of 717 00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:12,400 Speaker 1: course we all do that, but I had never fully 718 00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:16,080 Speaker 1: done that to the extent that I have done that 719 00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:18,960 Speaker 1: this year. And I'm just I'm gonna give you an 720 00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,520 Speaker 1: example because you kind of I know, these words might 721 00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:26,160 Speaker 1: sound super rogue, so like evidence of who I am 722 00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:29,759 Speaker 1: something I know for sure, and something like no one 723 00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:33,959 Speaker 1: could tell me otherwise I know for sure evidence about 724 00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:37,960 Speaker 1: myself and who I am. Is one of my biggest 725 00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:42,560 Speaker 1: strengths is I will if I agree to something and 726 00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:48,040 Speaker 1: I want something, I will show up and apply myself 727 00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:52,640 Speaker 1: until that thing is done or it is quote unquote success. Yeah. 728 00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:56,600 Speaker 1: Like that is a characteristic a strength that is like 729 00:42:56,800 --> 00:43:00,120 Speaker 1: evidence of who I am. That is like one of 730 00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,359 Speaker 1: my traits that I can guarantee. And it's funny because 731 00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:04,080 Speaker 1: me and Tim were actually talking about it last night 732 00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:06,799 Speaker 1: and we were talking about how last year I said 733 00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,120 Speaker 1: yes to all these things and I felt spread thin 734 00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:13,600 Speaker 1: and I felt like really fucking not great, And he said, yeah, 735 00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:16,200 Speaker 1: but you did them and you saw them through. And 736 00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:19,239 Speaker 1: that's such a testament to who you are, yea. And 737 00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:22,439 Speaker 1: that is who I am. I am someone even if 738 00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:24,239 Speaker 1: like if I've said yes to it, and even if 739 00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,719 Speaker 1: I don't want to do it, I will show up 740 00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:30,040 Speaker 1: and be there and do it because I have such 741 00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:33,440 Speaker 1: this huge piece of integrity in who I am, and 742 00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:38,360 Speaker 1: that has been consistent my whole entire or not probably 743 00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:41,359 Speaker 1: like since I started understanding who I was. Yeah, And 744 00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,360 Speaker 1: that's a trait of mine, and that's something that is 745 00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:47,360 Speaker 1: evidence of who I am, and not only do I 746 00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:49,840 Speaker 1: have evidence, but that is someone I want to be, 747 00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:53,120 Speaker 1: so I will continue to create that evidence. 748 00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:58,440 Speaker 2: On that particular skill. Yes, what's the difference between seeing 749 00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:02,080 Speaker 2: something through even when you don't want to do it 750 00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:04,000 Speaker 2: and respecting your boundaries. 751 00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:07,719 Speaker 1: Well, that's the thing is, I think you need to 752 00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:12,560 Speaker 1: know your boundaries first before you strengthen this skill. I didn't. 753 00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:17,960 Speaker 1: I strengthened that skill first, and now I have my boundaries. 754 00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:21,719 Speaker 1: So it's great. Yeah, Whereas before in saying that, I 755 00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:29,040 Speaker 1: think there's a lot of I see, I'm still going 756 00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:31,919 Speaker 1: to go there, and I think if you have said yes, 757 00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,520 Speaker 1: you should still show up. What about what you did 758 00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:40,239 Speaker 1: with your friend? What what about what you did with 759 00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:45,240 Speaker 1: your friend? No? Not in that way. So I'm talking 760 00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:46,000 Speaker 1: about like. 761 00:44:46,080 --> 00:44:49,840 Speaker 2: Something project commitments, yes, okay, I'm not talking about like 762 00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:54,839 Speaker 2: little boundaries. I A big things, yeah, like work or 763 00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:58,960 Speaker 2: even like if you set yourself a goal okay, interesting, 764 00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:01,279 Speaker 2: or if you say yourself a project. 765 00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:06,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of like it's na. Actually, I'm going 766 00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:09,160 Speaker 1: to take it back because I do agree of it 767 00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:12,440 Speaker 1: does depend on your boundaries, but I think there is 768 00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:16,719 Speaker 1: a lot of power of For example, let's just go 769 00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:21,279 Speaker 1: back to my law degree. Yeah. So I probably six 770 00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,680 Speaker 1: to twelve months before I finish my law degree, I 771 00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:26,279 Speaker 1: knew I probably wasn't going to do law or yeah shit, 772 00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:29,000 Speaker 1: but I was like, nah, I'm just going to finish 773 00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:32,160 Speaker 1: it because this is something I need to do. Yeah, 774 00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:34,759 Speaker 1: and it's something I want to prove to myself. I'm 775 00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:38,000 Speaker 1: also seventy five percent there, you might as well finish. Yeah, 776 00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:40,680 Speaker 1: So in that moment I could make that decision, but 777 00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:44,200 Speaker 1: for someone else it would be the right decision to stop, 778 00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:47,880 Speaker 1: so that it depends on the person and the time. 779 00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:52,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, And navigating whether you're quitting because it's easier to 780 00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:58,360 Speaker 2: quit or you're quitting because it's actually a disservice to 781 00:45:58,400 --> 00:45:59,240 Speaker 2: you to keep going. 782 00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:02,400 Speaker 1: That's the thing is, here's the really amazing thing about 783 00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:05,120 Speaker 1: creating evidence of who you want to be. It's like 784 00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:11,840 Speaker 1: it's going to be so dependent it actually, like I said, 785 00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:16,080 Speaker 1: in those two circumstances, that the quality of showing up 786 00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:22,160 Speaker 1: for yourself could be correct in both instances. Yeah, that's like, 787 00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:26,440 Speaker 1: that's the beautiful thing about evidence is it doesn't logically 788 00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,600 Speaker 1: have to make sense to you or the listener who's listening. 789 00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:34,280 Speaker 1: It just has to make sense to me, Yes, whatever 790 00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:38,799 Speaker 1: feels integral. Yes, And that's like, for example, with you know, 791 00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:42,960 Speaker 1: the friend's situation, it was more integral because on my 792 00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:46,560 Speaker 1: priority list, IVY is always higher than a friend. Yes, 793 00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:52,240 Speaker 1: so it was more integral to honor my time with Ivy. Yes. 794 00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:56,360 Speaker 1: Do you kind of get how I'm getting both vy truths? Yes? 795 00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,360 Speaker 2: I guess it's like perspective and like what truly feels 796 00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,120 Speaker 2: right to you the inside and not what it looks like. 797 00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:05,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's the thing is like that's you'll notice 798 00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:07,960 Speaker 1: such a theme on my content right now of just 799 00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:11,279 Speaker 1: being like don't put yourself in a box, like you 800 00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:14,399 Speaker 1: actually get to so decide your life and be really 801 00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:16,279 Speaker 1: integral to who you want to be. But that's not 802 00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:19,120 Speaker 1: always going to make sense to other people. Yeah. So yeah, 803 00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:21,759 Speaker 1: that was like that was my fourth lesson this year 804 00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:26,000 Speaker 1: of like you get to create the evidence of who 805 00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:28,360 Speaker 1: you want to be, and I was like really intentional 806 00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,520 Speaker 1: about doing that this year, and that's what I have done, 807 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,480 Speaker 1: and I think that's why I feel really solid on 808 00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:38,200 Speaker 1: who I am, because I've been intentional about creating that evidence. Yeah, sorry, 809 00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:44,040 Speaker 1: mumbled that, No, that's okay, And yeah, that's my birthday lessons. 810 00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:47,440 Speaker 1: I love this. I feel like this has been a 811 00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:48,200 Speaker 1: therapy lesson. 812 00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:51,320 Speaker 2: But I've enjoyed listening to them, and I'm sure everyone 813 00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:51,880 Speaker 2: else will. 814 00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,000 Speaker 1: But Guys, I can't wait to be twenty nine. And honestly, 815 00:47:56,239 --> 00:48:00,560 Speaker 1: I just feel like I love getting older. I've been 816 00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:04,279 Speaker 1: told by an astrologist that like, my prime of my 817 00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:07,040 Speaker 1: life will be when I'm forties, like in my forties. 818 00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,600 Speaker 1: Oh so I look, I just I'm excited for that. Yeah, 819 00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:12,640 Speaker 1: can't we to be in my thirties. Can't wait to 820 00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:17,120 Speaker 1: be in my forties. Probably that's it. After that, we're 821 00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:19,200 Speaker 1: not talking about it. I'll be in my forties forever. 822 00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:28,120 Speaker 1: Thanks so much for listening. Guys, thank you so much 823 00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:32,000 Speaker 1: for listening to another episode of the Rise and Conquer podcast. 824 00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:35,040 Speaker 1: If you enjoyed it and want more, come connect with 825 00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:40,200 Speaker 1: us on Instagram at Riseinconquer dot podcast and join our 826 00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:44,520 Speaker 1: Facebook discussion group, a Rise and Concer podcast community. We're 827 00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:47,440 Speaker 1: an independent podcast and we have a small team, so 828 00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:50,400 Speaker 1: we do appreciate your time and support. If you have 829 00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:54,480 Speaker 1: a spare moment, a follow or subscribe on whatever platform 830 00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:58,359 Speaker 1: you listen to would be so amazing. 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