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Speaker 2: A pickup with Britt.
Speaker 3: Hockley and Laura Bed Brady.
Speaker 2: Your what our windows? That's my world?
Speaker 4: Risen the dust only good fab dog all down.
Speaker 1: I've don't much, but yeah I know I'll big get
Speaker 1: and what I want.
Speaker 2: It don't matter where.
Speaker 3: This is the.
Speaker 2: Pick up, Hi, guys, Happy Friday.
Speaker 1: It's the pick up with Britt Hockley and Laura Bird
Speaker 1: Happy Friday.
Speaker 2: We'll talk us to what you're wearing today?
Speaker 1: Lawis I knew you were going to so could I not?
Speaker 1: This is this has been going on for a while.
Speaker 1: Nothing fits me anymore, guys, nothing, I'm going.
Speaker 2: To fix me calling bears right now.
Speaker 4: This has been going on long before you're pregnant.
Speaker 2: No, no, it hasn't. I've only pulled these pants out.
Speaker 2: These were in my old pregnancy box.
Speaker 4: That must be your other pants.
Speaker 2: I've pulled the mare once.
Speaker 1: I realized I was pregnant, so I knew i'd get
Speaker 1: some were out of them. The problem is is like
Speaker 1: these are a big floaty what.
Speaker 2: Do you call them? Palazzo pans?
Speaker 4: I do know they're just like a very wispy material.
Speaker 1: If I was standing up, you'd probably think that they
Speaker 1: are a big Maxi skirt, but they're actually pants. The
Speaker 1: problem is is that they have the most enormous hole
Speaker 1: in the crutch and I can just get away with
Speaker 1: it because they're floaty, except if I lift my leg
Speaker 1: and then it's all out for show. I could give
Speaker 1: birth right now, would be so easy.
Speaker 2: I do want to say.
Speaker 5: We sit opposite each other directly, and Laura has.
Speaker 4: A tendency to sit with one knee up, and.
Speaker 1: I did cop an eye ball this morning, you poor thing,
Speaker 1: because things are not good.
Speaker 2: Down there anymore. I can still see. It's not great.
Speaker 1: It's not what it used to be. It's probably gonna
Speaker 1: be worse after the third kid.
Speaker 5: Well, I have an idea, though, we could sew the
Speaker 5: whole up.
Speaker 3: Shock.
Speaker 2: Well that's what I'm going to get done after this
Speaker 2: this birth.
Speaker 4: Which hang on, Well, Laura, don't overthink it. Quick fire answer.
Speaker 4: What do you think the main reason.
Speaker 5: Is that people break up in relationships?
Speaker 2: It's cheating? Okay, cheating?
Speaker 5: Well, interestingly, I was just reading an article about the
Speaker 5: fact that whilst cheating is like a huge reason for
Speaker 5: break up, usually it's I know this because I've done
Speaker 5: my research.
Speaker 1: Cheating is number one and financial problems is number two.
Speaker 5: Yes, for breakups, but let's go back a step, so
Speaker 5: before we've broken up. Okay, the number one reason that
Speaker 5: relationship counselors and relationship therapists have said that couples come
Speaker 5: to them for has to do with phones and how
Speaker 5: much phones are like taking over couples relationships and lives.
Speaker 1: I know why I have this figured out now, Brick,
Speaker 1: Because the person who's cheating is spending all their time
Speaker 1: on the phone talking to the person that they're cheating with.
Speaker 2: What then the woman finds.
Speaker 1: Out and then she leaves, And that's what happens.
Speaker 2: That's the story.
Speaker 5: Yes, that is also true, but not even just cheating.
Speaker 5: For couples that aren't cheating and are monogamous, phones are
Speaker 5: causing a real issue because we're getting to this point
Speaker 5: where we're sort of not giving enough attention to our partners,
Speaker 5: or we're not giving them.
Speaker 4: Sometimes we're giving them half of our attention. We're having
Speaker 4: a conversation, but we.
Speaker 5: Automatically pick up our phone and aimlessly scroll. We go
Speaker 5: to bed, we roll over and instead of having a
Speaker 5: conversation or a snuggly time we pick up our phone.
Speaker 5: This is an issue that people are reporting saying that
Speaker 5: they're feeling like their phone's becoming more important than them
Speaker 5: in their relationship.
Speaker 1: To be fair, my husband and I can be pretty
Speaker 1: bad on our phones at times, but I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I like a little scroll. I like a little rabbit
Speaker 1: hole of looking at you know, is this cake or
Speaker 1: is it the real thing?
Speaker 2: Like sometimes I just got a TV show. Isn't it
Speaker 2: no cake or not? What is it?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but like there's loads of them on on so Okay,
Speaker 1: I know because I've gone down that rod hole.
Speaker 2: I want to look at baby goats.
Speaker 1: Like sometimes I just don't want to talk to anyone,
Speaker 1: my kids, my husband, no one. I just want to
Speaker 1: sit on the couch and look at my phone.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I think it's one of those things that
Speaker 5: maybe you need to ask yourself right now, is is
Speaker 5: this a problem.
Speaker 4: In your relationship?
Speaker 5: Do you think you can do better or be better
Speaker 5: or do you have to set it aside maybe an
Speaker 5: hour in your relationship that where you say, hey, from
Speaker 5: seven to eight, there's no phone time. We're gonna eat
Speaker 5: our dinner, We're gonna communicate because so many people can't
Speaker 5: even leave one room into another in their own house
Speaker 5: without taking their phone.
Speaker 4: Or they go to that dinner tea, will they take
Speaker 4: their phone.
Speaker 1: He does take his phone every time he goes to
Speaker 1: the toilet, and then spends a long time in there.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because he's pretending to poop, So.
Speaker 1: No, he stays, Yeah, but he stays in there for
Speaker 1: a good thirty five minutes.
Speaker 4: Every man does that.
Speaker 1: I understand that everyone has different issues in their relationships,
Speaker 1: and a lot of people have different like how obsessed
Speaker 1: they are with their phones. I think when it becomes
Speaker 1: a problem is when you're talking to someone, you have
Speaker 1: their attention for all of about thirty seconds, and then
Speaker 1: they don't even realize they're doing it, right, And I
Speaker 1: have friends that all like this. They don't even clock it.
Speaker 1: They're picking up their phone and they're scrolling. They're not
Speaker 1: doing anything that's important. It's just become habit that they
Speaker 1: always kind of refer to looking at it. That's when
Speaker 1: I think it's really upsetting. And I would say that
Speaker 1: there's probably been times where Matt and I have both
Speaker 1: done that to each other, but we're way more conscious
Speaker 1: of that now because we know it's something that once
Speaker 1: you get into the habit of it, you can be
Speaker 1: so guilty of doing it to your partner.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Also, you're pregnant, you've had your snugly time this
Speaker 5: year that you've done you you'd wait on nine months now.
Speaker 2: We did that once at Christmas. Never, God damn it.
Speaker 1: Look at the problem that got us into No. I
Speaker 1: think maybe on one step worse. Actually, sometimes I tell
Speaker 1: my husband, I say, Honey, I'm going to bed now,
Speaker 1: and I am going to bed.
Speaker 2: It's not true, but I'm not going to sleep.
Speaker 1: I'm going upstairs and I turn all the lights off,
Speaker 1: and I get in bed and I put my warm
Speaker 1: doner on. It's so nice and cozy, and then I
Speaker 1: lay there in the dark and I just look at
Speaker 1: all the things scroll and I feel like for me,
Speaker 1: and I know that it's not meant to be good
Speaker 1: for you going to sleep and all that.
Speaker 2: There's loads of research, but I do feel like for me.
Speaker 1: It's just twenty minutes that I need to switch off
Speaker 1: from all of the crap that's happened in the day.
Speaker 2: Now, britt, I feel like being a parent it's hard.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's really hard, actually, And that's it from us today.
Speaker 2: That's where the show we have discovered it is indeed hot.
Speaker 1: I feel like it comes part and parcel that sometimes
Speaker 1: your kids are going to do stuff that embarrasses you.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and you just.
Speaker 1: Got to take it on the chin like a champion
Speaker 1: because they don't really know.
Speaker 2: I don't think they do.
Speaker 1: Sometimes maybe it's malicious, but other times I think it's
Speaker 1: really innocent and they just don't know that what they've
Speaker 1: said or what they've done is kind of not appropriate.
Speaker 2: Yeah, adults dance.
Speaker 5: It's like when you see those videos go around where
Speaker 5: like the little kid goes to school and tells everyone
Speaker 5: that they heard mommy and daddy.
Speaker 4: Screaming in the room in the night, like you know,
Speaker 4: when they get.
Speaker 2: We were playing gorillas, Yeah, we're playing wrestling.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. Look, I mean we've all got our own
Speaker 1: version of that with our own kids. But I went
Speaker 1: in to pick up Molly May. She's five, she's in kindergarten.
Speaker 1: I went in to pick her up from school the
Speaker 1: other day and she goes to after school care. So
Speaker 1: I walked into after school care and there's all these lovely,
Speaker 1: really young, beautiful young girls who like work in the
Speaker 1: after school care center. Right got it and they're gorgeous
Speaker 1: and they take such good care of the kids.
Speaker 2: Walk in.
Speaker 1: Then the girl who's like the main director, she just
Speaker 1: starts kickling and I was like, oh, nice to see
Speaker 1: you too, darling, and she goes, I've got something for you.
Speaker 2: She's like, Marley's been.
Speaker 1: Drawing some pictures, cute, and let me tell you, like,
Speaker 1: my kids draw a thousand pictures. We have draws and
Speaker 1: draws and draws full of drawings that we keep and
Speaker 1: keep them all. Well, no, I don't keep them all,
Speaker 1: only the key the good ones. We've had to start culling,
Speaker 1: like the manet. Yeah, I'll tell her. I'll say that
Speaker 1: one's not good enough to keep. And she was like,
Speaker 1: I wanted to put this aside for you. She's like,
Speaker 1: because I think you'd really like to keep this one.
Speaker 1: And I walk in and I get this picture and
Speaker 1: I just want to show you what it's of, Britt,
Speaker 1: because I think she's captured me in my raw and
Speaker 1: beautiful essence.
Speaker 4: We can say it's raw.
Speaker 1: So marleis she's started to revert to drawing me pregnant
Speaker 1: now because she's really excited.
Speaker 2: About being a big sister.
Speaker 1: She's so thrilled she got, so she drew a picture
Speaker 1: of me and my pregnant belly, and she drew the
Speaker 1: baby inside the belly. It's kind of like a cross
Speaker 1: between an X ray because you can see inside me,
Speaker 1: but you can also see ay and pawn.
Speaker 2: Well an X.
Speaker 1: Ray and just a really graphic detail photo. You can
Speaker 1: see inside me, but you can also see the outside
Speaker 1: of me, and I'm completely naked. She has drawn boobs
Speaker 1: with nipples, very big nipples.
Speaker 2: We all understand why. And she's also drawn me with
Speaker 2: a fool bush.
Speaker 1: Okay, So then what happened is she drew this and
Speaker 1: some of her friends were confused.
Speaker 2: They were like, what's going on here, Bummy's lazy. So
Speaker 2: then it.
Speaker 1: Turns out that my daughter had a full on debrief
Speaker 1: with all her friends about whether their parents or their
Speaker 1: mummies do or don't have hair on their downstairs.
Speaker 2: So funny.
Speaker 1: So when I picked Marley up, did anyone else kids
Speaker 1: draw nudes? No one else drew a nude, but I
Speaker 1: know what every other mum's downstairs looks like. So three
Speaker 1: kids came up to me and they were like, Marley
Speaker 1: told us that you've got hair down there. My mummy doesn't.
Speaker 1: My mummy doesn't have any hair.
Speaker 5: You need to put that neut WhatsApp group chat, the
Speaker 5: school group chat are so funny, be like, hey it
Speaker 5: is what's everyone doing downstairs?
Speaker 4: Just like throw it in there.
Speaker 2: I was like, surely, hey, Sharon.
Speaker 4: What lazy you go to?
Speaker 2: So I don't know what to do with this picture?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 2: Do I put it on the fridge. It's really a
Speaker 2: beautiful one for.
Speaker 4: Me to take it.
Speaker 1: I reckon, there somewhere a bit lazier, right, it's quite
Speaker 1: hot when you're pregnant.
Speaker 2: Don't want to reach down there, got it?
Speaker 5: Anyway, if there's a bit of like hyperbole here or
Speaker 5: I don't know what's going on, but that's yeah, you
Speaker 5: need to get that tended to.
Speaker 2: I reckon. I could get my gardener to come over.
Speaker 1: Go get a wik whack out anyway, what like a
Speaker 1: whipper sniffert not a wik whack house, Like a wait,
Speaker 1: what we're talking about the same thing anyway. Look, being
Speaker 1: a mum is full of joy and so many special moments.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, you.
Speaker 5: Could probably head into chemists ware house, maybe get some
Speaker 5: wax strips or something.
Speaker 1: Now it is time, speaking of chemist warehouse for our
Speaker 1: little wins of the week where we have a five
Speaker 1: hundred dollars to spend at Chemists ware House to give
Speaker 1: away to somebody who has had a notable little win.
Speaker 2: Now, we don't want the big stuff.
Speaker 5: We don't want like, can't just be a little win
Speaker 5: notable little but not too big, not too much.
Speaker 2: Just right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just want to give the description out. They're
Speaker 1: real good, like I mean, I don't want like a graduation.
Speaker 1: I don't want an engagement. I don't proposals.
Speaker 4: Having said that, if you.
Speaker 5: Have graduated, congratulations, well it would be a bit weird
Speaker 5: mid year graduation.
Speaker 2: Does that happen? I don't know.
Speaker 1: Congrats if it did well done. But also like you
Speaker 1: get enough congratulations for that stuff. This is the things
Speaker 1: that normally go unnoticed. We are here to celebrate, and
Speaker 1: we have three calls on the line. One of them
Speaker 1: is going to win the five hundred dollars to spend. Jamie,
Speaker 1: what's your little win of the week?
Speaker 4: Him, My little win of the week was when I
Speaker 4: gathered all the courage to ask the guy out. Ah,
Speaker 4: that's exciting that did he hang on?
Speaker 2: Do you say yes?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: I didn't know he was dating someone else.
Speaker 4: Oh that's okay.
Speaker 5: Not the ending we wanted, but we love the fact
Speaker 5: that you had the guts to do that.
Speaker 2: So that's it. That's a good win.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's like when you put yourself outside your comfort
Speaker 1: zone that little bit you do that thing that's scary,
Speaker 1: and then the next time it's not going to.
Speaker 2: Be that scary. Yeah, exactly, all right, Jamie, stay right there, Mikayla.
Speaker 2: What is your little win of the week. So my
Speaker 2: little win is, after eight weeks, my very timid and
Speaker 2: scared for SI kitten actually killed up with me and
Speaker 2: let me pat.
Speaker 3: Him this week.
Speaker 2: Oh that's really cute.
Speaker 5: That's just as cute as the other one, asking the
Speaker 5: guy out and him saying no.
Speaker 2: At least it's a happy ending.
Speaker 3: The other one not quite so much, very happy ending.
Speaker 2: All right, Mikayla, stay there, hope. What's your little winn
Speaker 2: of the week?
Speaker 3: Not falling for a scams?
Speaker 2: Not falling for a stam.
Speaker 4: That could be a big win because they could be
Speaker 4: just they can clean you out.
Speaker 2: What was the scam? Who was it from?
Speaker 3: It's to do with the acting. You know, I did
Speaker 3: it like years ago, like acting kind of roles, and
Speaker 3: I've had on my mind again and then I saw
Speaker 3: something advertised and it was a couple actually a couple
Speaker 3: of companies, and I was running like a nice suite
Speaker 3: in Sinciata, so I'm like, yeah, I'll just go see
Speaker 3: what happened. But it all seemed like legit when I
Speaker 3: was in there, but then when I got out of it,
Speaker 3: and then I just came to my senses.
Speaker 2: So they were happened. They took a kidney. That will happen.
Speaker 3: So I actually had a really good day. And then
Speaker 3: I got a new umbrella because my umbrella got smashed
Speaker 3: in the rain getting it. But it was like quite
Speaker 3: quite the day anyway.
Speaker 2: I hope you've been on a journey.
Speaker 1: Just wait there and we're gonna we're gonna deliberate who
Speaker 1: do we think deserves a little win of the week.
Speaker 2: I think they're all brilliant.
Speaker 5: There was quite a story at the end there the
Speaker 5: cats win, but I'm going to have to go the
Speaker 5: guts to asking someone out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we love las, you say, Jamie, even unrequited love.
Speaker 2: Jamie.
Speaker 1: You have won the five hundred dollars to spend at
Speaker 1: Chemists warehouse.
Speaker 2: Congratulations. I hope that gives you.
Speaker 1: The confidence to go and ask the next man out.
Speaker 2: That you come.
Speaker 4: Across and take you on a date to Chemis warehouse
Speaker 2: And guys, that's it from us this week.