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Speaker 1: And I haven't told you this, and I hadn't told

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Speaker 1: anyone this actually, apart from my partner, we've spoken about

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Speaker 1: it and we both were like, I hate that we

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Speaker 1: felt that way, but I needed to tell you so

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Speaker 1: it's not nice. So when you came in here after

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Speaker 1: the birth of your daughter, Remy, you were beautifully emotional

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Speaker 1: and really really happy.

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Speaker 2: It was there was some people say over the top.

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Speaker 2: I could not control my emotion. You couldn't stop crying,

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Speaker 2: and it was beautiful. Have listened. I am a dad

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Speaker 2: for the first time ever. I've got a.

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Speaker 3: Little girl called Remy Jean Whitelaw and she's the bloody best.

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Speaker 2: You gonna start crying. I don't believe it. It's happened again, I.

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Speaker 1: Thought, And it was one of the nicest things in

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Speaker 1: the world to see. But and this was the really

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Speaker 1: yuck part. And I assisted my partner and I spoke

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Speaker 1: about this that what was I hated this. But you

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Speaker 1: guys had a You.

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Speaker 2: Guys had a vaginal birth.

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Speaker 1: You had a birth that like, you know, went well,

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Speaker 1: you know, in the scheme of things, obviously, there's things

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Speaker 1: that come up in.

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Speaker 2: Every berth and I'm sure everybody's got a war story.

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Speaker 1: But there was this awful part of me because we

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Speaker 1: had possibly the worst birth that ever could have happened.

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Speaker 1: And I'm allowed to say now I spoke to something

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Speaker 1: about this that Max came out, she wasn't breathing, she

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Speaker 1: had to be resuscitated, was an emergency c section. It

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Speaker 1: was one of the worst things I've ever been throughout

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Speaker 1: my life. And it was awful to feel that.

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Speaker 2: I was so happy for you, but I felt jealous that.

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Speaker 1: You had a beautiful birth where you know, you got

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Speaker 1: to pull the baby out and all this sort of

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Speaker 1: stuff and you came in here and it was I

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Speaker 1: just really, as I was writing all this stuff about

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Speaker 1: jealousy today, I really wanted to tell you that, just

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Speaker 2: It was well, just shocking. Yeah, well that must have

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Speaker 2: been really hard. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It made me think even more about, like, you know,

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Speaker 1: all the times that I've bumped into people that you know,

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Speaker 1: friends of mine that can't have babies, I've been trying

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Speaker 1: to have babies and stuff, how hard it would be

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Speaker 1: for them just hearing that, you know, we've got a

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Speaker 1: beautiful girl and all the times we get to have

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Speaker 3: I'd say that with your specific example. Yeah yeah, I think,

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Speaker 3: as you said before, you can't control feeling jealous. Yeah yeah,

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Speaker 3: but you can control how you act to you that feeling.

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Speaker 2: And I know you were very happy for me. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's good.

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Speaker 3: Not at once point did I feel like you weren't

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Speaker 3: overjoyed for and that must have been really hard for you.

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Speaker 2: No, it was. Let's not make it harder than it was,

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Speaker 2: but it was. I'm glad. I'm so glad that it

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Speaker 2: didn't come across.

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Speaker 3: I didn't, you know many the first person I hugged

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Speaker 3: when I walked in here. Yeah, yeah, and as well

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Speaker 3: water works obviously.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: And you know I felt you were very happy for

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Speaker 3: that's good.

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Speaker 2: Man, that's good. Yeah, it was a shocking feeling.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I remember I got home to see them that

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Speaker 1: night and I was like, how good? And she was

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Speaker 1: like burst into tears and she was like, I'm a

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Speaker 1: horrible person. I feel we're both look like oh yeah, anyway.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, off your chest now, mate, totally fine as well, like,

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Speaker 3: don't you let yourself up about it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Good, I'm glad.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, great, Well, if anyone else feels jealous of somebody

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Speaker 1: else out there and they

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Speaker 3: Say the second one beautiful frame, the second one my hair,