Speaker 1: Now it is time for our favorite segment. This is
Speaker 1: what we do every week on the podcast Life Uncut.
Speaker 1: It's called Ask Uncut Were you writing? Or you call
Speaker 1: up with your biggest conundrum. Now on the line, we
Speaker 1: have Sam who is having a bit of an issue
Speaker 1: with his wedding. Hi.
Speaker 2: Sam, Hey, how are you guys?
Speaker 3: Sam? What's going on?
Speaker 2: So I'm hoping you guys can help. We put the
Speaker 2: wedding together later on this year and it got delayed
Speaker 2: you to COVID, so it's sort a bit in the
Speaker 2: works for a while. But we're looking at the guest list.
Speaker 2: We're looking at the bridal party now and one of
Speaker 2: my mates who I asked to be my groomsman, I
Speaker 2: think we've grown a part of it, like it would
Speaker 2: feel weird him being there, And I do.
Speaker 3: You want him at the wedding? You just don't want
Speaker 3: him as a groomsman?
Speaker 2: Well, I don't think either, but I definitely we don't
Speaker 2: want rooms Hang.
Speaker 1: On, you're just trying to say you don't want him
Speaker 1: as a groomsman anymore.
Speaker 2: I feel like if I asked him not to be
Speaker 2: a grous when it'd be weird if he was at
Speaker 2: the wedding.
Speaker 3: I mean, you can obviously un ask someone to be
Speaker 3: a groosman or a bridesmad, especially if it's been five
Speaker 3: years or four years.
Speaker 1: But if they haven't done anything, But.
Speaker 3: I think you have to accept that it's friendship ending.
Speaker 3: Like I think that that could be something that ends
Speaker 3: the friendship if they turn around and they really hurt me.
Speaker 3: Would you be okay with it to be friendship ending?
Speaker 1: I don't think it has to be friendship ending. It's
Speaker 1: only friendship ending if you cancel him from the whole wedding.
Speaker 1: But I think you can demote someone from groomsman duties
Speaker 1: to just a bridle attendee if it's the right reason.
Speaker 2: Do you reckon it? He would be okay sitting there
Speaker 2: at a different table.
Speaker 3: Would do you think? Do you think that it's something
Speaker 3: that could end your friendship if you demote him from
Speaker 3: being a groomsman or or don't invite him at all.
Speaker 2: I've never had to do it before, so it just
Speaker 2: feels like a tricky situation.
Speaker 1: Okay, here's what I think. I think uninviting someone completely
Speaker 1: to the wedding is like huge and will be friendship ending.
Speaker 1: But I think just demoting him to attendee is not
Speaker 1: friendship ending. I just think you have to say, hey,
Speaker 1: we we've rearranged the bride all party a little bit.
Speaker 1: I'm just having my brother and my lifelong friend. There's
Speaker 1: been a few budget cuts in the federal election, but
Speaker 1: a few budget cuts. You're still so important to me
Speaker 1: and I still really want you there. And yeah, I hope,
Speaker 1: I hope you understand. It was really it's a really
Speaker 1: hard conversation to have how many grooms?
Speaker 3: When do you have?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 2: So I was going to have three?
Speaker 3: So he was, And is your partner still having she
Speaker 3: got three bridesmaids and you're just cutting one or she
Speaker 3: got two?
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, she's still gladd to have three.
Speaker 3: And you can. You can do whatever you want. But
Speaker 3: I don't agree with Britt. I think he's going to
Speaker 3: be offended and you probably are not going to be
Speaker 3: that good of friends afterwards. However, it sounds like you're
Speaker 3: kind of not really friends now.
Speaker 1: He probably doesn't want the responsibility.
Speaker 2: He's probably like, oh yes, thank god, Yeah, there's a
Speaker 2: good shared I think maybe I could just beat him
Speaker 2: at one of the tables at the back.
Speaker 3: I've got a question. Has he bought his suit?
Speaker 2: No, we didn't get that far because COVID canceled it.
Speaker 3: So that's has he planned accommodation and everything.
Speaker 2: No, no, not yet, we're revisiting it now.
Speaker 3: Okay, look, I mean, you know you're probably not going
Speaker 3: to be his close friends when you're telling me you
Speaker 3: can't come to the wedding. But like, I think maybe
Speaker 3: a demoting is better than a cancelor toge.
Speaker 1: I demote like for sure. And also chances are if
Speaker 1: you feel this way that you've grown apart, it's not
Speaker 1: going to come as a shock to him, like he's
Speaker 1: going to say, oh, yeah, totally, we haven't seen j
Speaker 1: other in years. Like, I don't think it'll be as shocking,
Speaker 1: and you just have to explain it the right way. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: but don't cancel him, and don't put him near the toilet, Sam,
Speaker 1: come on, don't put him near the stinker. If you're
Speaker 1: devoting him, he's still got to be at a good table.
Speaker 2: Thank you,