Speaker 1: The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast brought.
Speaker 2: You all right. Listen here, guys, I need a coke
Speaker 2: call for me. I need a having a what's the
Speaker 2: opposite of a sugar high? Is your blood sugar dropping?
Speaker 2: I've never seen you like this before. I had passed
Speaker 2: at eleven am, so I'm probably a bit hungry. It's
Speaker 2: three now. You think you ate too soon? It's four
Speaker 2: pm p or you're due for another meal. I'm doing
Speaker 2: a little tasty taste. Yeah, I think you got an
Speaker 2: early dinner to know tho. Somewhat I need a snack.
Speaker 3: I'm not certain that the dinner is going to be
Speaker 3: any good.
Speaker 2: Realistically, we're going out for a dinner together like an event,
Speaker 2: like an event. But also I've rarely gone to an
Speaker 2: event that had like game changing food. I will say
Speaker 2: I DJed for the NBA and they had amazing food,
Speaker 2: and it was coming quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick,
Speaker 2: quick quick.
Speaker 3: It was so nice.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm ready for. We're ready for wedding.
Speaker 2: Weddings become the thing in my friendship group really because
Speaker 2: when I was younger, I had older boyfriend. We'd always
Speaker 2: go to weddings. Oh, it's very popular.
Speaker 3: He was very popular.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we'd always you have a weekend. He'd have
Speaker 2: a wedding like every weekend, and the food was immaculate
Speaker 2: every time we went. At one point there was one.
Speaker 2: Usually it was just because like you were young and
Speaker 2: it was like fresh experience, like everything was public. Yeah. Actually, anyway,
Speaker 2: wedding season, come at me, ready to gallivant around. You must,
Speaker 2: you know, invite in what you want to attend. So
Speaker 2: you've got to get married, start off the season strong. Yeah,
Speaker 2: all right, just do it for a bit. We're already
Speaker 2: manifesting that I'm gonna settle down.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like be like, I feel like you need
Speaker 3: to be more clear. That's quite vague. I'm gonna settle down.
Speaker 2: You're gonna fall off, You're gonna be a has been,
Speaker 2: That's what it sounds like. No, I'm not. So let's
Speaker 2: say in words, I am going to leave my family
Speaker 2: values in any way I can.
Speaker 3: What does that mean?
Speaker 2: We're gonna settle down one day? Settle down in a
Speaker 2: romantic sense, not in a work stete. But I feel
Speaker 2: like you're dancing around what you're trying to say, and
Speaker 2: we know words mean what do I want? Then? I
Speaker 2: want to try to I want to be around my
Speaker 2: family and friends.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you want to be single? I went because
Speaker 3: people have time.
Speaker 2: I went on the Feaking Duck podcast the other day
Speaker 2: and they were like, what do you see for your future?
Speaker 2: And I said the same thing, but they understood, yeah,
Speaker 2: because they knew what you were getting at. And unlike them,
Speaker 2: I don't care for your comforts. Honestly, I don't think
Speaker 2: it's making sense, guys, but through me wants to have
Speaker 2: a trad wife experience, true trophy wife, trad wife. What's
Speaker 2: trad wife? Trad wife are a like a sub I
Speaker 2: don't call it the genre, but a subgroup of like
Speaker 2: modern feminists who want to go back to traditional quote
Speaker 2: unquote values and be married to a man and have kids.
Speaker 2: And you know I was saying, was gonna say, raise
Speaker 2: the household. You know what I'm saying, build a home.
Speaker 2: I think I'm the trad wife.
Speaker 3: See what's that thing?
Speaker 2: I never tell her. I'll always tell a joke, but
Speaker 2: I'll never tell a lie. I never thought i'd be that.
Speaker 2: I think as I grew up with that, I'm returning
Speaker 2: to center. Anyway, Jesus cross you guys. Life is amazing
Speaker 2: right now let's just put it that way. Shut up,
Speaker 2: shut up, Let's get to our idiots, Fleck and froods.
Speaker 2: I've been thinking about personality tests. Yes, so my housemate. Yeah,
Speaker 2: my housemate came back from a girl a girl's weekend
Speaker 2: away recently, and she came bursting through the doors so excited, saying,
Speaker 2: all the girls did personality tests while we were away.
Speaker 2: We all decided what we were, and I want you
Speaker 2: to do one amazing And I said, listen, I've actually
Speaker 2: got to work tonight. Oh and she said no, while
Speaker 2: I'm washing up the dishes after I cooked dinner, do
Speaker 2: the personality test. And I said, listen, no, but then
Speaker 2: I then I folded, Yeah, because I think I'm a
Speaker 2: yes man these days, I need to extend that to
Speaker 2: my home environment. And so I did a personally test
Speaker 2: on sixteen personalities that website classic and guess what I got.
Speaker 2: You are an ees f p M. What did you say,
Speaker 2: es eesfp I was apparently e N TJ. I don't
Speaker 2: believe that it's the commander, which is extroverted intuitive thinking
Speaker 2: and judging. See this is so crazy, because I know
Speaker 2: you're intuitive. You don't think you're intuitive, So what is
Speaker 2: that about which one's I instead of J and actually,
Speaker 2: oh yeah, Because when you're when you're not being assessed,
Speaker 2: you're a spooky binch. You're like, I feel that way,
Speaker 2: I quart a vibe this that or whatever. But then
Speaker 2: when you're rationalizing things, you always go for like, well
Speaker 2: that's not what I was told, or I need to
Speaker 2: hear this, or they need to tell me this, or
Speaker 2: I need to see that these things are at odds.
Speaker 2: It's a bit tricky, that isn't it is? Well, I
Speaker 2: did the test. I didn't really feel like I was
Speaker 2: that Eilas. So then she came in this morning, she's
Speaker 2: so excited by this. I came in this morning late
Speaker 2: for work saying, no, I actually think you're I think
Speaker 2: you're something else. I think you're hold on. You also
Speaker 2: have mentioned time and time again that you are going
Speaker 2: through a bit of a vibe change, a personal identity
Speaker 2: SHIFTI one eighty core characteristics to a personality are changing.
Speaker 3: You used to be a neat freak. Now you're not.
Speaker 3: Used to be really stringent and frugal. Now you're not.
Speaker 2: You're on a spending binge. Like there's a ton of
Speaker 2: things happening. So you know, maybe that's what's coming through. Oh,
Speaker 2: actually was I was the protagonist? Which is which is
Speaker 2: E NFJ. Anyway, I didn't really vibe with either of these.
Speaker 2: I don't know what I am. But you saying the
Speaker 2: vibe check thing is very very interesting because I got
Speaker 2: this DM a few weeks ago. Yeah, it was from
Speaker 2: corn Candle COO. So let's see. Oh they may come.
Speaker 2: What do they make? Here we go? They make they
Speaker 2: mass make candles that look like corn.
Speaker 3: Can I tell you the one? I think you are? Yes?
Speaker 2: When I said the ESFP, you want to listen. Yep,
Speaker 2: it's the entertainer. If anyone is to be found sponsored
Speaker 2: spontaneously breaking into song and dance, it's this type. Entertainers
Speaker 2: get caught up in the excitement of every moment and
Speaker 2: want everyone else to feel that way too. No other
Speaker 2: personality type is as generous with their time and energy
Speaker 2: as the entertainers when it comes to encouraging others, and
Speaker 2: no other personality type does it with such irresistible soil.
Speaker 2: They are most likely actors, lifelong performers. They love putting
Speaker 2: on a show, chatting with unique and earthy wit, soaking
Speaker 2: up attention, making every outing feel like a party. This
Speaker 2: is just I don't know. I feel like I'm catching
Speaker 2: a vibe. I'm catching a vibe. When we went out
Speaker 2: the other day, it was I giving party vibes you.
Speaker 2: I look how I perceive you and who you really are.
Speaker 2: These are two separate things, true, you know, So perhaps
Speaker 2: I'm catching a vibe. Perhaps I'm just really good at
Speaker 2: seeing who you really are. Let's rid of more characteristics
Speaker 2: and strengths and weaknesses. How dobout we do that and
Speaker 2: you can rule it out? Okay? I found a bunch. Okay,
Speaker 2: I looked at a mind map on Google images. See.
Speaker 2: Ever since TikTok came out, Google is not pushing. Google's
Speaker 2: not working for me as a search engine. I just
Speaker 2: feel like it's giving me the same for articles or
Speaker 2: something changed. Yeah, something they haven't yet, something definitely changed.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: So the optimizer for people who don't know how to
Speaker 2: use the internet literally, and then us who like to
Speaker 2: actually sift through things with our own critical thinking skills
Speaker 2: are left in the lurch literally.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: So EESFP, I'm pretty sure these are the strengths. Maybe
Speaker 2: they're not realistic, enthusiastic, fun, adaptable, cooperative, outgoing, tactful, enthusiastic, vivacious, resourceful, observant,
Speaker 2: spontaneous is going practical, right, that's a bit of me.
Speaker 2: But then analysis paralysis too much abstract information, restrained by routine,
Speaker 2: uncertain of purpose, detailed plans, unable to change commitments. I'm
Speaker 2: seeing you, babe, And then we have this ESFP meme.
Speaker 2: Oh cool. So I think it's like going to above
Speaker 2: the iceberg below the iceberg, like what you're seeing versus
Speaker 2: what is? Can you read and I'll tell you what
Speaker 2: I related? Yeah, definitely, thanks, At least I think that's
Speaker 2: what the meme format is. Comes late, not true, that's
Speaker 2: not true. Very active, but needs to see a meaning
Speaker 2: in the activity. That's true. I need. I can only
Speaker 2: walk long distances if there's something on the other side
Speaker 2: for me.
Speaker 3: Be got to the sandwich that you were looking for
Speaker 3: in London.
Speaker 2: Yeah, walked for one hour hungover for this bloody sandwich.
Speaker 2: Often asked for advices. That's correct, hates if you underrate them.
Speaker 2: It's true. Very nice and welcoming, you know. Being nice
Speaker 2: is one of my values overall, thinking about the future.
Speaker 2: Half soft, laugh, half passive.
Speaker 3: During a you do more of a name, not a half.
Speaker 3: It's like a splash and.
Speaker 2: A very strategic about their goals and how to get there,
Speaker 2: but always into a change of plans. It's giving, it's giving. Yes,
Speaker 2: so expressive, fast thinker, very positive outlook, acts unbothered, but
Speaker 2: is bollied f I mean it's giving.
Speaker 3: Carging one. I like it.
Speaker 2: Also popular, stupid, lazy, won't commit, all talk, no game.
Speaker 2: I did say you can't close, and everyone's like, why
Speaker 2: are you dudging through me?
Speaker 3: Babes. I'm just reading her anyway, So I say this
Speaker 3: all to.
Speaker 2: Say, well, actually, let me cut you off, because this
Speaker 2: is the reason why I wanted to do this segment. Yes,
Speaker 2: a chick message me from corning candles soap. Let's give
Speaker 2: her a shower out. Yes, yes, shared hello frooms. Regarding
Speaker 2: the other Tuesday's podcast episode for personality traits very relevant
Speaker 2: to me, and I think it's because when I answer
Speaker 2: personality tests, it's my values. But like, I'm not living
Speaker 2: up to my values, So when I answer personality tests,
Speaker 2: it's based on my value. However, in terms of my actions,
Speaker 2: I'm anti slaying, which is she said values, perfection, et cetera. Action,
Speaker 2: it's not perfect values. The equal with the slash through
Speaker 2: its actions, hence unhappiness. And as you mentioned, you are
Speaker 2: more relaxed now as I am now too. I have
Speaker 2: not held myself to unattainable values and goals. I think
Speaker 2: with time, lull and therapy, our values will change into
Speaker 2: something more really stick. I hope this helps you. My
Speaker 2: therapist and I are constantly talking about this long time fan.
Speaker 3: Okay, do you resonate?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I thought, damn you fully explained it because I
Speaker 2: was doing the test still to my old self. But
Speaker 2: there's way you were upholding the values that you had
Speaker 2: set for yourself more closely. Yes, Whereas like me saying, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm clean, but you see me as messy. I think
Speaker 2: it's because I'm in a I still value cleanliness, just
Speaker 2: depends on the circumstance, Whereas I used to be clean
Speaker 2: all the time. So I still value cleanness, but it
Speaker 2: doesn't present the same way because I'm getting back towards that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: does that make sense? It makes sense, But it's secondary
Speaker 2: to the fact that when you answer aspirationally, the results
Speaker 2: are going to be flawed. Like, for example, aspirationally, I
Speaker 2: want to be like my mum, right, she's like a
Speaker 2: good Samaritan, always extending yourself for.
Speaker 3: Other people sees the best in people.
Speaker 2: I don't see that, so I'm not that, and I
Speaker 2: can respect both or like how like I want to
Speaker 2: be a stoic person, but I'm a hedonist, babe, So
Speaker 2: if I go around, I'm like, balances everything. Moderation is key.
Speaker 2: While I can reconcile that is what I believe, I'm
Speaker 2: not that, and therefore I must answer I don't want
Speaker 2: to say truthfully, but more in alignment to who I
Speaker 2: am presenting as in that moment. And then, like we
Speaker 2: said before, the distance between who who you know you
Speaker 2: are who you present yourself to be becausseus how people
Speaker 2: perceive you. It's too many things. It's a lot, isn't
Speaker 2: It's too many. I gotta tap out of that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: thank you, corn, candles and.
Speaker 3: Cod Yeah, I like that a lot. Gosh.
Speaker 2: I love when people message in and they're kind of like, wait,
Speaker 2: let's go back to that thought, because I want to
Speaker 2: give you a second articulated Yeah, we're well thinking to you.
Speaker 2: Whough it's lovely, tott and sexy.
Speaker 1: This is flex and frooms on.
Speaker 2: I gotta say I'm in the best mood this week.
Speaker 2: Vibes are high.
Speaker 3: Who you trying to convince you?
Speaker 2: No, I mean it, but I noticed something over the
Speaker 2: last few weeks and I want to confront you over
Speaker 2: at flex Ready. The other day, we were coming home
Speaker 2: from Cata, yes, and we're on the freeway. I left
Speaker 2: at the same time as you, which is often not
Speaker 2: what happens. One of us is playing on the phone
Speaker 2: in the car, doing an Instagram story and I'm trailing behind.
Speaker 2: You haven't seen me yet. I was babes, I check
Speaker 2: my rear views. I was watching you. You had your
Speaker 2: your thingy open. I'm like, you're cruising. We're getting out
Speaker 2: of here. Oh my roof? Yeah yeah, love a rooftop.
Speaker 2: What's it called sky called sunroof, but the sky one?
Speaker 2: I always think skylight? Wrong thing. We have the cars
Speaker 2: that have the whole head, I mean the whole top
Speaker 2: of the car is glass. The top comes off, and
Speaker 2: I must say it's an absolute vibe. So I was
Speaker 2: watching you from afar and what did I see you doing? Tailgating?
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah, retail again.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, that is one of the most dangerous only in
Speaker 2: some context.
Speaker 3: So the road that we're driving down.
Speaker 2: People are not serious, right, I'm not doing this whole
Speaker 2: thing where I'm going to be six meters behind someone.
Speaker 2: We're need to get through this red light that never changes.
Speaker 2: I'm getting through because then once we get through it,
Speaker 2: I'm on the motorway. Chill and chill and chill and
Speaker 2: chill and chilling. You were tailgating this guy so hard
Speaker 2: you were up his ass. Yeah, and I thought, you say,
Speaker 2: you're like chilling the road, but you're doing you know
Speaker 2: what I mean, I'm see but I'm chill.
Speaker 3: Is in like you have road rage?
Speaker 2: No? I don't you do?
Speaker 3: Oh don't okay?
Speaker 1: Through me?
Speaker 3: Isn't the kind of person cheer? Okay? I don't know.
Speaker 2: Maybe you've seen some pectic road rage in your time.
Speaker 2: But when I say road rage, I mean it's this
Speaker 2: idea where I'm like, I'm fine with how we all
Speaker 2: do this. I expect drivers are going to be dumb,
Speaker 2: aggressive and annoying. Then have you ever seen me road rage?
Speaker 3: When we were driving for Uber?
Speaker 2: What did I do? Name one example?
Speaker 1: You?
Speaker 3: Are you serious?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Bring Jordan Jordan, our videographer through me will like
Speaker 2: interrupt a Conversation's like what the is happening?
Speaker 3: Even babes like it's fine, Like we're all going nah
Speaker 3: he's an idiot. Nah, he's an idiot. I'm thinking, is
Speaker 3: she really fad?
Speaker 2: So like I'm chill in the sense, I'm like, I
Speaker 2: expect everyone's gonna be a dummy here, So I'm just
Speaker 2: trying to get away from the dummies as quick as
Speaker 2: possible smooth failing. So, for example, if I get to
Speaker 2: an intersection that I know people who don't drive down
Speaker 2: this intersection don't know that, we have literally thirteen seconds
Speaker 2: for it to go green. I'm not getting stuck, Bobe,
Speaker 2: but yeah, one hundred Pam. I also saw you with
Speaker 2: the other day. We went to a concert. We're driving
Speaker 2: out to Home Bush and you crossed three lanes at
Speaker 2: one time. Yeah, Tokyo drift vibes. Yeah, we needed to
Speaker 2: get to the other side. Guys, you know when it's
Speaker 2: a stage channel tray. Yeah, literally for people who don't know,
Speaker 2: we were on a near Kudos Bank arena. I need
Speaker 2: to do that now, not foul, no, no, no. However,
Speaker 2: I will say if we're gonna judge who's the better driver,
Speaker 2: because we should. I got my license far sooner than
Speaker 2: you did. I don't trust anyone who's been on the road. No,
Speaker 2: as in you've got it later, you got it very recently, sooner,
Speaker 2: sooner than now, far more recently, far more recently, far more,
Speaker 2: far more recently, more recently. It's a late model car.
Speaker 2: That means it's new, Yes, exactly, So the time between
Speaker 2: me and my test one year. Yeah, but a test
Speaker 2: doesn't correlate to being good on the road, yes, But
Speaker 2: also the longer you've been on the road, the more
Speaker 2: time you have to solidify shitty technique. How come every
Speaker 2: time I see someone breaking the rules or doing something dumb,
Speaker 2: it's a forty five year old and I'm like, of course,
Speaker 2: because back in your day, back in your day, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I love driving.
Speaker 2: It's honestly, you know how I was talking before about
Speaker 2: mind emptying behavior, big fan. Not that you should be
Speaker 2: meditating on the road, but there's something about the muscle
Speaker 2: memory of knowing like what needs to happen when you
Speaker 2: get into a flow state with other drivers. It doesn't
Speaker 2: happen often on Sydney roads because it's always peak hour
Speaker 2: and therefore people are always high strung, beeping beeping, beeping, beeping.
Speaker 2: But when you get into a flow state where everyone's
Speaker 2: following the rules and like gliding at the same pace
Speaker 2: and you're not having to like stop, start and go.
Speaker 3: It feels like a symphony.
Speaker 2: It is quite beautiful.
Speaker 1: Flex and frooms.
Speaker 3: Speaky stuff happens all the time. Are they coincidences? No?
Speaker 2: No, no, we willed it to be through a series
Speaker 2: of really intricate spell work.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Maybe that's on you rather than me, M because remember, Okay,
Speaker 2: so the other day, frum and I went to go
Speaker 2: see Flume. But beforehand, Frumi came to mind so I
Speaker 2: could d d us. There one thing about me. I'm
Speaker 2: the best DD there is designated driver. Now, I have
Speaker 2: two phones. One is a work phone, one is a
Speaker 2: personal phone. Unfortunately for me, work and personal life collide
Speaker 2: too often. That what happens is people text me on
Speaker 2: one phone and then I'm holding the other phone and
Speaker 2: she's very confusing. That is what happened with free Me
Speaker 2: in the situation. She was texting the phone I didn't
Speaker 2: have access to because it was in the car. I
Speaker 2: was getting ready. I thought to myself. I was looking
Speaker 2: in the mirror and thought to myself, hmm, I should
Speaker 2: go to my door and see if Rumy is here.
Speaker 3: And as I walked to my door, she was.
Speaker 2: About to knock on my door and then proceeded to say,
Speaker 2: did you call out my name?
Speaker 3: No, I thought your name.
Speaker 2: I heard someone say free me, which is what I
Speaker 2: would do, so like I said, and it was coming
Speaker 2: from up above in the treetops, and my friend Bella
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, I heard that.
Speaker 3: Yeah you see.
Speaker 2: Anyway, not to freak out the girls, you need to
Speaker 2: say something even more freaky. Google is releasing an update
Speaker 2: to Maps, which I feel like is long overdue because
Speaker 2: when Instagram first started out, it was meant to be
Speaker 2: like a location based sharing app where it's like, you
Speaker 2: go to a cool place, take a photo, you tag
Speaker 2: where you are, and then I was like, I'm gonna cool.
Speaker 2: I want to go there too. It has strayed far
Speaker 2: from that, and the moment it did, Google Map should
Speaker 2: have jumped in because why not. Anyway, they're trying to
Speaker 2: attract a more gen Z audience naturally with their new
Speaker 2: update called vibe Check. Feels so weird when like, really like,
Speaker 2: Maps is a universally used app, so they'm using even
Speaker 2: the term vibe check. Does that suit everyone? Who knows?
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess back in the day and who
Speaker 2: knows when this day was, things were made for things
Speaker 2: were made in the vision of the person who made
Speaker 2: it right, So like a bunch of men made stuff
Speaker 2: that a bunch of men would like, and therefore that
Speaker 2: is what it was. And now you have to redefine
Speaker 2: what you're making to suit the audience you're trying to attract.
Speaker 2: I guess this is what it looks like. Almost a
Speaker 2: bit cringy, and I know for a fact, I think
Speaker 2: the concept is cool.
Speaker 3: Listen to this. So basically Google Maps.
Speaker 2: Wait, so if you're heading into a new part of town,
Speaker 2: they're gonna drop this new feature called vibe check or
Speaker 2: neighborhood vibe, which will give you an like, an overarching
Speaker 2: view of what the area will be like. And that's
Speaker 2: gonna be a mix of like, you know, actual street view,
Speaker 2: but also an amalgamation with a bunch of reviews of
Speaker 2: that area, so like food is good, but you know
Speaker 2: the street is a bit weird, but or whatever, so
Speaker 2: you can get a good vibe check before you go. Now,
Speaker 2: I will say I do like this idea of having
Speaker 2: crowdsourced reviews that are impartial and not just buy a
Speaker 2: restaurant that paying people to say nice things about it.
Speaker 3: Will I use it? Probably not that's okay to.
Speaker 2: Take away the mystery in the fun of going somewhere
Speaker 2: not knowing if it's gonna be a vibe. Yeah, because
Speaker 2: what if the vibe has been checked and it just
Speaker 2: was not giving what it needed to give. And what
Speaker 2: if the vibe check is incorrect. Yeah, vibe is something
Speaker 2: that's not Quanta five or necessarily exactly that. I don't
Speaker 2: have answers for you, but you know, we'll keep a
Speaker 2: close eye out. It's not out yet, it's just you know,
Speaker 2: it was announced that it's coming, that could be in
Speaker 2: the year twenty twenty six, So don't hold your breath.
Speaker 1: This is flex and frooms on Kita.
Speaker 2: TikTok has taught me something else. Again, I take it
Speaker 2: with a grain of salt only because the self development
Speaker 2: era I've been in is different to the one I'm
Speaker 2: coming into. My old self development era was very girl boss,
Speaker 2: make all the money, be a high achiever.
Speaker 3: She's actually quite boring.
Speaker 2: So my new self development approach is like, have a
Speaker 2: nice mind to live in lust. So I read this
Speaker 2: mindfulness tip and I want to know if this works
Speaker 2: for you, because are you an overthinker? I'm an overthinker,
Speaker 2: but I think it comes out in different ways. Yeah, definitely,
Speaker 2: because your T shirt says avoid overthinking by not thinking
Speaker 2: the values. But this is exactly what I'm getting at,
Speaker 2: because this is the mindset I'm in now.
Speaker 3: I used to do this thing.
Speaker 2: You know when you read like DBT CBT, it's all
Speaker 2: talking about how you need to be mindful of what
Speaker 2: you're thinking and why you're thinking it, and what's impacting
Speaker 2: the way you're thinking. And then all that does is
Speaker 2: get me to a state of overthinking where I believe
Speaker 2: that if I think about something enough, I can control
Speaker 2: the outcome, or it makes me feel like everything is
Speaker 2: in my control. I need to fix it all on
Speaker 2: my own. She's just a very like stressful way to be.
Speaker 2: So I'm practicing emptying out my mind more often and
Speaker 2: not exhausting myself with thinking when things aren't necessary to
Speaker 2: think about. So this mindfulness tip came up on TikTok
Speaker 2: and it says if you find yourself in that state
Speaker 2: of mind where you are in a continuous thought cycle
Speaker 2: and you can't break it, or you're just overthinking, so
Speaker 2: it's just walk and think, and walk and think and
Speaker 2: keep walking and thinking until you find that you're not
Speaker 2: thinking anymore, and you're just walking and all the things
Speaker 2: you were thinking so hard about cease to have the
Speaker 2: way that they did, and you're just flowing on.
Speaker 3: Would that work? It's not something I've tried.
Speaker 2: I get my best thinking out when I'm walking, Like
Speaker 2: my best creative ideas when I walk. Hmm, But so
Speaker 2: I think more when I walk. Yeah, well, I guess
Speaker 2: it's what it's saying that you should allow yourself to think,
Speaker 2: because I think what happens is that like people get
Speaker 2: into the cycle of like, oh, I shouldn't be thinking that,
Speaker 2: and so you think about it some more, and then
Speaker 2: it's not productive or helpful because you're battling this thing
Speaker 2: or like I don't I shouldn't but I am, but
Speaker 2: I shouldn't by I am. So if you just do
Speaker 2: it and you continuously go about it with the intention
Speaker 2: of i' when I just walk and think and walk
Speaker 2: and think until I've exhausted myself of all the possibilities
Speaker 2: and then just stop. Well, that's actually a technique that
Speaker 2: they use in the Happiness Trap. It's by Sam Harris. No,
Speaker 2: I don't think that's right, but there is a Sam Harris. Yeah, different,
Speaker 2: Sam Harris but the happiness trap. They say, first you've
Speaker 2: got to acknowledge your feelings and then do something else.
Speaker 2: But then the last one is like the last one
Speaker 2: is like, do a task and give yourself one hundred
Speaker 2: percent into the task to get you back on track. Anyway,
Speaker 2: I like you read it. Yeah, look, these things are
Speaker 2: all helpful and to you're like when when I try that,
Speaker 2: I'll let you know because everything sounds really simple, and
Speaker 2: it's like, Okay, what if it's been an hour and
Speaker 2: a half and I'm still on the thought. You're gonna
Speaker 2: get therapy, Bob.
Speaker 3: We are at the bow. We are in.
Speaker 2: Therapy, dar Bow.
Speaker 1: You're listening to flex and Frooms on Kita.
Speaker 2: Ye're on the show. We love getting DMS voice notes
Speaker 2: or just general vibes as long as they are positive
Speaker 2: in our DMS.
Speaker 3: Or just unhinged.
Speaker 2: I prefer unhinged to positive people over sharing their deepest,
Speaker 2: darkest secrets with no regard. Like the guy the other
Speaker 2: day talking about how he was running around the floor
Speaker 2: acting like a dog, hit his toe and broke it. Yes,
Speaker 2: inspired by us exactly, Like, so we have inspired someone
Speaker 2: to break a bone on the show, which feels significant.
Speaker 3: What will we do next.
Speaker 2: Someone sent me a message and I'm going to read
Speaker 2: it out to you from a girl called Ruby. Hey,
Speaker 2: free me with ie. Oh. I was slipping through a
Speaker 2: book today in a bookstore and came across this. FLEX
Speaker 2: can no longer say you haven't done your research. Amazing
Speaker 2: PS listening to the potty and cackling along with you.
Speaker 3: So she's done the research for you.
Speaker 2: I can't say that this is what's it good? This
Speaker 2: is confirming that I done my research, she said. PS.
Speaker 2: Listening to the potty and cackling along with you two
Speaker 2: is often the highlight of my day. You're the best.
Speaker 2: Sending love from Melbs, one of me locals only. So
Speaker 2: this is from a book and the title of the
Speaker 2: chapter is Planes, Trains and Automobiles. Okay, and it reads
Speaker 2: this is one of the facts from the book. Apparently,
Speaker 2: the person in the middle seat gets both armrests. I
Speaker 2: confess I did not know this rule. It came courtesy
Speaker 2: of a well informed flight attendant, so I guess it
Speaker 2: must be true. It makes sense. There is nothing more
Speaker 2: punishing than the middle seat, so you deserve some kind
Speaker 2: of reward, and that is both armrests.
Speaker 3: Apparently, Is it apparent? Because Ruby said it came from
Speaker 3: a book. Okay, so what is it the book is?
Speaker 2: I think the book is actually a collection published a
Speaker 2: personal essays. It's oh well, so I feel vindicated relative
Speaker 2: whether or not it's a fact, and I will be
Speaker 2: standing on this mountain alone or Ruby.
Speaker 3: I love so much? While where look?
Speaker 2: I think the armorrest thing will be a forever debate
Speaker 2: because we're not going to get to the bottom of it.
Speaker 2: But I do think that as we grow and as
Speaker 2: our circumstance changes, and as more people fly, they'll soon
Speaker 2: realize that while you are entitled to the middle rest,
Speaker 2: you are also an unhinged woman. Oh, I'm going to
Speaker 2: leave it then, flex and I've been hanging out a
Speaker 2: lot on my Instagram explore page, which I didn't usually
Speaker 2: used to do.
Speaker 3: But somehow the algorithm is working really well.
Speaker 2: It started working. See, it's giving me exactly what I
Speaker 2: want my fee to be, which is a mix of
Speaker 2: cursed memes, personal development memes, really cool outfits and really
Speaker 2: cool nails and puppies. Well, and it's perfect because I
Speaker 2: think that sometimes TikTok requires a certain level of comprehension
Speaker 2: and attention that I don't want to almost give some
Speaker 2: not using a little picture, a little screens, a little picture,
Speaker 2: little share And I came across this quote. It's by
Speaker 2: a Twitter user IRP Twitter. Yeah shame. I want to
Speaker 2: delete my account just in case it gets tacked. Oh okay,
Speaker 2: Chloe Bellabie who said I heard someone say I accidentally
Speaker 2: spent all my life making sure everyone else around me
Speaker 2: feels comfortable, only to realize I never felt comfortable the
Speaker 2: whole time. And wow, I felt that do you actually
Speaker 2: relate to that? No, this is what this person is saying.
Speaker 2: Oh sure, sure, I'm asking you. Do you resonate with that?
Speaker 2: And how does that quote make you feel? Because it
Speaker 2: was one of those viral ones, like by the time
Speaker 2: I got to it, it was old news, like posted
Speaker 2: days ago, millions of retweet types not millions, but one
Speaker 2: hundreds of thousands of retweets.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, yeah saying me too, babe, saying.
Speaker 2: Everyone feels as if they're putting their back out more
Speaker 2: than others. Let me tell you something, You're not people
Speaker 2: who actually extend themselves don't complain about it. You let
Speaker 2: my mom exactly, and my mom as well. Yep, Like
Speaker 2: if you're going out of your way to say, oh,
Speaker 2: I did this and I did that. I don't think
Speaker 2: you're actually doing enough because you're counting. It's like people
Speaker 2: who always know how much money yeah, yeah, tabs like
Speaker 2: finish that thought, Like people who always know how much
Speaker 2: money yeah, like how much money they spend on the friendship.
Speaker 2: Then they forget how much it's actually been spent on
Speaker 2: them because you always think you're doing more than other
Speaker 2: people are doing for you. It's a brain fallacy. It
Speaker 2: is a brain fallacy because in this instance, right, it
Speaker 2: kind of reminds me of like, you know, that court.
Speaker 2: I don't know when we talked about it, but it
Speaker 2: was like this meme that's like, you know, the person
Speaker 2: who traumatized you is currently sitting in a therapist's office,
Speaker 2: and the therapist is like, you're amazing as you are.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: It's just like that, like.
Speaker 2: These narratives and these stories you tell yourself about how
Speaker 2: you're navigating the world are often made to soothe what
Speaker 2: you believe to be true.
Speaker 3: Right, and so a lot.
Speaker 2: Of us take this victim, this villain as victim standpoint
Speaker 2: where we're like, not the worst person ever, because definitely
Speaker 2: somewhere along the track somebody hurt me more and that's
Speaker 2: why I feel like I'm able to do what I want.
Speaker 2: But in this instance, accidentally spent all my life making
Speaker 2: sure everyone else around me feels comfortable asual.
Speaker 1: What do you mean comfortable?
Speaker 3: What did you do? Now?
Speaker 2: I want to know, because imagine someone keeping tabs being
Speaker 2: like like, you know, I said hi and byer for
Speaker 2: me and ye, you know she wasn't giving me energy
Speaker 2: back and now uncomfortable. God who knows. There probably was
Speaker 2: ops everywhere. But thank you to Instagram explore. I see you.
Speaker 2: You know you're feeling a little bit tense because of TikTok.
Speaker 2: They're coming for you. You suddenly back into pickies. Definitely
Speaker 2: do that please? Did you also see music Olympics. Yes,
Speaker 2: Instagram is letting you upload music to your pictures, but
Speaker 2: also TikTok is trying to make photo carousels a thing. Yes,
Speaker 2: and they're working as well. But I try to download
Speaker 2: the photo carousel, but it means you just don't let
Speaker 2: download one photo. They need to fix that function.
Speaker 3: No, they fix it.
Speaker 2: So when you try and download the TikTok photo carousel,
Speaker 2: you can download each individual picture as a picture, but
Speaker 2: not the video carousel, which is I want the video carousel?
Speaker 2: Oh is that what you want? Yeah, yeah, I understand,
Speaker 2: I understand. We have lots of tips for the devs
Speaker 2: in those apps.
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