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<v Speaker 1>The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast brought.

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<v Speaker 2>You all right. Listen here, guys, I need a coke

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<v Speaker 2>call for me. I need a having a what's the

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<v Speaker 2>opposite of a sugar high? Is your blood sugar dropping?

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<v Speaker 2>I've never seen you like this before. I had passed

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<v Speaker 2>at eleven am, so I'm probably a bit hungry. It's

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<v Speaker 2>three now. You think you ate too soon? It's four

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<v Speaker 2>pm p or you're due for another meal. I'm doing

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<v Speaker 2>a little tasty taste. Yeah, I think you got an

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<v Speaker 2>early dinner to know tho. Somewhat I need a snack.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not certain that the dinner is going to be

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<v Speaker 3>any good.

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<v Speaker 2>Realistically, we're going out for a dinner together like an event,

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<v Speaker 2>like an event. But also I've rarely gone to an

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<v Speaker 2>event that had like game changing food. I will say

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<v Speaker 2>I DJed for the NBA and they had amazing food,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was coming quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick,

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<v Speaker 2>quick quick.

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<v Speaker 3>It was so nice.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm ready for. We're ready for wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>Weddings become the thing in my friendship group really because

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<v Speaker 2>when I was younger, I had older boyfriend. We'd always

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<v Speaker 2>go to weddings. Oh, it's very popular.

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<v Speaker 3>He was very popular.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we'd always you have a weekend. He'd have

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<v Speaker 2>a wedding like every weekend, and the food was immaculate

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<v Speaker 2>every time we went. At one point there was one.

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<v Speaker 2>Usually it was just because like you were young and

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<v Speaker 2>it was like fresh experience, like everything was public. Yeah. Actually, anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>wedding season, come at me, ready to gallivant around. You must,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, invite in what you want to attend. So

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<v Speaker 2>you've got to get married, start off the season strong. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, just do it for a bit. We're already

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<v Speaker 2>manifesting that I'm gonna settle down.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but like be like, I feel like you need

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<v Speaker 3>to be more clear. That's quite vague. I'm gonna settle down.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna fall off, You're gonna be a has been,

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<v Speaker 2>That's what it sounds like. No, I'm not. So let's

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<v Speaker 2>say in words, I am going to leave my family

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<v Speaker 2>values in any way I can.

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<v Speaker 3>What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna settle down one day? Settle down in a

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<v Speaker 2>romantic sense, not in a work stete. But I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like you're dancing around what you're trying to say, and

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<v Speaker 2>we know words mean what do I want? Then? I

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<v Speaker 2>want to try to I want to be around my

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<v Speaker 2>family and friends.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so you want to be single? I went because

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<v Speaker 3>people have time.

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<v Speaker 2>I went on the Feaking Duck podcast the other day

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<v Speaker 2>and they were like, what do you see for your future?

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<v Speaker 2>And I said the same thing, but they understood, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because they knew what you were getting at. And unlike them,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care for your comforts. Honestly, I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>it's making sense, guys, but through me wants to have

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<v Speaker 2>a trad wife experience, true trophy wife, trad wife. What's

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<v Speaker 2>trad wife? Trad wife are a like a sub I

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<v Speaker 2>don't call it the genre, but a subgroup of like

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<v Speaker 2>modern feminists who want to go back to traditional quote

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<v Speaker 2>unquote values and be married to a man and have kids.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know I was saying, was gonna say, raise

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<v Speaker 2>the household. You know what I'm saying, build a home.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm the trad wife.

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<v Speaker 3>See what's that thing?

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<v Speaker 2>I never tell her. I'll always tell a joke, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'll never tell a lie. I never thought i'd be that.

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<v Speaker 2>I think as I grew up with that, I'm returning

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<v Speaker 2>to center. Anyway, Jesus cross you guys. Life is amazing

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<v Speaker 2>right now let's just put it that way. Shut up,

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<v Speaker 2>shut up, Let's get to our idiots, Fleck and froods.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been thinking about personality tests. Yes, so my housemate. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>my housemate came back from a girl a girl's weekend

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<v Speaker 2>away recently, and she came bursting through the doors so excited, saying,

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<v Speaker 2>all the girls did personality tests while we were away.

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<v Speaker 2>We all decided what we were, and I want you

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<v Speaker 2>to do one amazing And I said, listen, I've actually

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<v Speaker 2>got to work tonight. Oh and she said no, while

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<v Speaker 2>I'm washing up the dishes after I cooked dinner, do

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<v Speaker 2>the personality test. And I said, listen, no, but then

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<v Speaker 2>I then I folded, Yeah, because I think I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>yes man these days, I need to extend that to

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<v Speaker 2>my home environment. And so I did a personally test

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<v Speaker 2>on sixteen personalities that website classic and guess what I got.

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<v Speaker 2>You are an ees f p M. What did you say,

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<v Speaker 2>es eesfp I was apparently e N TJ. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>believe that it's the commander, which is extroverted intuitive thinking

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<v Speaker 2>and judging. See this is so crazy, because I know

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<v Speaker 2>you're intuitive. You don't think you're intuitive, So what is

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<v Speaker 2>that about which one's I instead of J and actually,

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<v Speaker 2>oh yeah, Because when you're when you're not being assessed,

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<v Speaker 2>you're a spooky binch. You're like, I feel that way,

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<v Speaker 2>I quart a vibe this that or whatever. But then

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<v Speaker 2>when you're rationalizing things, you always go for like, well

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<v Speaker 2>that's not what I was told, or I need to

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<v Speaker 2>hear this, or they need to tell me this, or

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<v Speaker 2>I need to see that these things are at odds.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a bit tricky, that isn't it is? Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>did the test. I didn't really feel like I was

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<v Speaker 2>that Eilas. So then she came in this morning, she's

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<v Speaker 2>so excited by this. I came in this morning late

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<v Speaker 2>for work saying, no, I actually think you're I think

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<v Speaker 2>you're something else. I think you're hold on. You also

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<v Speaker 2>have mentioned time and time again that you are going

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<v Speaker 2>through a bit of a vibe change, a personal identity

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<v Speaker 2>SHIFTI one eighty core characteristics to a personality are changing.

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<v Speaker 3>You used to be a neat freak. Now you're not.

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<v Speaker 3>Used to be really stringent and frugal. Now you're not.

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<v Speaker 2>You're on a spending binge. Like there's a ton of

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<v Speaker 2>things happening. So you know, maybe that's what's coming through. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>actually was I was the protagonist? Which is which is

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<v Speaker 2>E NFJ. Anyway, I didn't really vibe with either of these.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what I am. But you saying the

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<v Speaker 2>vibe check thing is very very interesting because I got

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<v Speaker 2>this DM a few weeks ago. Yeah, it was from

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<v Speaker 2>corn Candle COO. So let's see. Oh they may come.

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<v Speaker 2>What do they make? Here we go? They make they

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<v Speaker 2>mass make candles that look like corn.

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<v Speaker 3>Can I tell you the one? I think you are? Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>When I said the ESFP, you want to listen. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>it's the entertainer. If anyone is to be found sponsored

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<v Speaker 2>spontaneously breaking into song and dance, it's this type. Entertainers

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<v Speaker 2>get caught up in the excitement of every moment and

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<v Speaker 2>want everyone else to feel that way too. No other

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<v Speaker 2>personality type is as generous with their time and energy

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<v Speaker 2>as the entertainers when it comes to encouraging others, and

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<v Speaker 2>no other personality type does it with such irresistible soil.

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<v Speaker 2>They are most likely actors, lifelong performers. They love putting

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<v Speaker 2>on a show, chatting with unique and earthy wit, soaking

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<v Speaker 2>up attention, making every outing feel like a party. This

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<v Speaker 2>is just I don't know. I feel like I'm catching

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<v Speaker 2>a vibe. I'm catching a vibe. When we went out

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<v Speaker 2>the other day, it was I giving party vibes you.

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<v Speaker 2>I look how I perceive you and who you really are.

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<v Speaker 2>These are two separate things, true, you know, So perhaps

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<v Speaker 2>I'm catching a vibe. Perhaps I'm just really good at

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<v Speaker 2>seeing who you really are. Let's rid of more characteristics

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<v Speaker 2>and strengths and weaknesses. How dobout we do that and

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<v Speaker 2>you can rule it out? Okay? I found a bunch. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I looked at a mind map on Google images. See.

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<v Speaker 2>Ever since TikTok came out, Google is not pushing. Google's

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<v Speaker 2>not working for me as a search engine. I just

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<v Speaker 2>feel like it's giving me the same for articles or

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<v Speaker 2>something changed. Yeah, something they haven't yet, something definitely changed.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So the optimizer for people who don't know how to

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<v Speaker 2>use the internet literally, and then us who like to

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<v Speaker 2>actually sift through things with our own critical thinking skills

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<v Speaker 2>are left in the lurch literally.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So EESFP, I'm pretty sure these are the strengths. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>they're not realistic, enthusiastic, fun, adaptable, cooperative, outgoing, tactful, enthusiastic, vivacious, resourceful, observant,

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<v Speaker 2>spontaneous is going practical, right, that's a bit of me.

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<v Speaker 2>But then analysis paralysis too much abstract information, restrained by routine,

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<v Speaker 2>uncertain of purpose, detailed plans, unable to change commitments. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>seeing you, babe, And then we have this ESFP meme.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh cool. So I think it's like going to above

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<v Speaker 2>the iceberg below the iceberg, like what you're seeing versus

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<v Speaker 2>what is? Can you read and I'll tell you what

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<v Speaker 2>I related? Yeah, definitely, thanks, At least I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>what the meme format is. Comes late, not true, that's

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<v Speaker 2>not true. Very active, but needs to see a meaning

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<v Speaker 2>in the activity. That's true. I need. I can only

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<v Speaker 2>walk long distances if there's something on the other side

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<v Speaker 2>for me.

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<v Speaker 3>Be got to the sandwich that you were looking for

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<v Speaker 3>in London.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, walked for one hour hungover for this bloody sandwich.

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<v Speaker 2>Often asked for advices. That's correct, hates if you underrate them.

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<v Speaker 2>It's true. Very nice and welcoming, you know. Being nice

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<v Speaker 2>is one of my values overall, thinking about the future.

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<v Speaker 2>Half soft, laugh, half passive.

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<v Speaker 3>During a you do more of a name, not a half.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like a splash and.

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<v Speaker 2>A very strategic about their goals and how to get there,

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<v Speaker 2>but always into a change of plans. It's giving, it's giving. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>so expressive, fast thinker, very positive outlook, acts unbothered, but

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<v Speaker 2>is bollied f I mean it's giving.

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<v Speaker 3>Carging one. I like it.

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<v Speaker 2>Also popular, stupid, lazy, won't commit, all talk, no game.

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<v Speaker 2>I did say you can't close, and everyone's like, why

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<v Speaker 2>are you dudging through me?

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<v Speaker 3>Babes. I'm just reading her anyway, So I say this

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<v Speaker 3>all to.

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<v Speaker 2>Say, well, actually, let me cut you off, because this

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<v Speaker 2>is the reason why I wanted to do this segment. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>a chick message me from corning candles soap. Let's give

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<v Speaker 2>her a shower out. Yes, yes, shared hello frooms. Regarding

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<v Speaker 2>the other Tuesday's podcast episode for personality traits very relevant

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<v Speaker 2>to me, and I think it's because when I answer

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<v Speaker 2>personality tests, it's my values. But like, I'm not living

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<v Speaker 2>up to my values, So when I answer personality tests,

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<v Speaker 2>it's based on my value. However, in terms of my actions,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm anti slaying, which is she said values, perfection, et cetera. Action,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not perfect values. The equal with the slash through

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<v Speaker 2>its actions, hence unhappiness. And as you mentioned, you are

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<v Speaker 2>more relaxed now as I am now too. I have

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<v Speaker 2>not held myself to unattainable values and goals. I think

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<v Speaker 2>with time, lull and therapy, our values will change into

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<v Speaker 2>something more really stick. I hope this helps you. My

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<v Speaker 2>therapist and I are constantly talking about this long time fan.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, do you resonate?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I thought, damn you fully explained it because I

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<v Speaker 2>was doing the test still to my old self. But

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<v Speaker 2>there's way you were upholding the values that you had

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<v Speaker 2>set for yourself more closely. Yes, Whereas like me saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm clean, but you see me as messy. I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's because I'm in a I still value cleanliness, just

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<v Speaker 2>depends on the circumstance, Whereas I used to be clean

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<v Speaker 2>all the time. So I still value cleanness, but it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't present the same way because I'm getting back towards that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>does that make sense? It makes sense, But it's secondary

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<v Speaker 2>to the fact that when you answer aspirationally, the results

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<v Speaker 2>are going to be flawed. Like, for example, aspirationally, I

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<v Speaker 2>want to be like my mum, right, she's like a

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<v Speaker 2>good Samaritan, always extending yourself for.

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<v Speaker 3>Other people sees the best in people.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't see that, so I'm not that, and I

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<v Speaker 2>can respect both or like how like I want to

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<v Speaker 2>be a stoic person, but I'm a hedonist, babe, So

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<v Speaker 2>if I go around, I'm like, balances everything. Moderation is key.

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<v Speaker 2>While I can reconcile that is what I believe, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not that, and therefore I must answer I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to say truthfully, but more in alignment to who I

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<v Speaker 2>am presenting as in that moment. And then, like we

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<v Speaker 2>said before, the distance between who who you know you

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<v Speaker 2>are who you present yourself to be becausseus how people

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<v Speaker 2>perceive you. It's too many things. It's a lot, isn't

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<v Speaker 2>It's too many. I gotta tap out of that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you, corn, candles and.

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<v Speaker 3>Cod Yeah, I like that a lot. Gosh.

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<v Speaker 2>I love when people message in and they're kind of like, wait,

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<v Speaker 2>let's go back to that thought, because I want to

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<v Speaker 2>give you a second articulated Yeah, we're well thinking to you.

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<v Speaker 2>Whough it's lovely, tott and sexy.

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<v Speaker 1>This is flex and frooms on.

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<v Speaker 2>I gotta say I'm in the best mood this week.

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<v Speaker 2>Vibes are high.

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<v Speaker 3>Who you trying to convince you?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I mean it, but I noticed something over the

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<v Speaker 2>last few weeks and I want to confront you over

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<v Speaker 2>at flex Ready. The other day, we were coming home

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<v Speaker 2>from Cata, yes, and we're on the freeway. I left

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<v Speaker 2>at the same time as you, which is often not

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<v Speaker 2>what happens. One of us is playing on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>in the car, doing an Instagram story and I'm trailing behind.

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<v Speaker 2>You haven't seen me yet. I was babes, I check

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<v Speaker 2>my rear views. I was watching you. You had your

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<v Speaker 2>your thingy open. I'm like, you're cruising. We're getting out

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<v Speaker 2>of here. Oh my roof? Yeah yeah, love a rooftop.

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<v Speaker 2>What's it called sky called sunroof, but the sky one?

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<v Speaker 2>I always think skylight? Wrong thing. We have the cars

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<v Speaker 2>that have the whole head, I mean the whole top

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<v Speaker 2>of the car is glass. The top comes off, and

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<v Speaker 2>I must say it's an absolute vibe. So I was

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<v Speaker 2>watching you from afar and what did I see you doing? Tailgating?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? Yeah, retail again.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, that is one of the most dangerous only in

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<v Speaker 2>some context.

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<v Speaker 3>So the road that we're driving down.

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<v Speaker 2>People are not serious, right, I'm not doing this whole

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<v Speaker 2>thing where I'm going to be six meters behind someone.

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<v Speaker 2>We're need to get through this red light that never changes.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting through because then once we get through it,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on the motorway. Chill and chill and chill and

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<v Speaker 2>chill and chilling. You were tailgating this guy so hard

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<v Speaker 2>you were up his ass. Yeah, and I thought, you say,

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<v Speaker 2>you're like chilling the road, but you're doing you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean, I'm see but I'm chill.

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<v Speaker 3>Is in like you have road rage?

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<v Speaker 2>No? I don't you do?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh don't okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Through me?

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<v Speaker 3>Isn't the kind of person cheer? Okay? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you've seen some pectic road rage in your time.

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<v Speaker 2>But when I say road rage, I mean it's this

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<v Speaker 2>idea where I'm like, I'm fine with how we all

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<v Speaker 2>do this. I expect drivers are going to be dumb,

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<v Speaker 2>aggressive and annoying. Then have you ever seen me road rage?

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<v Speaker 3>When we were driving for Uber?

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<v Speaker 2>What did I do? Name one example?

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<v Speaker 1>You?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you serious?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Bring Jordan Jordan, our videographer through me will like

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<v Speaker 2>interrupt a Conversation's like what the is happening?

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<v Speaker 3>Even babes like it's fine, Like we're all going nah

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<v Speaker 3>he's an idiot. Nah, he's an idiot. I'm thinking, is

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<v Speaker 3>she really fad?

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<v Speaker 2>So like I'm chill in the sense, I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 2>expect everyone's gonna be a dummy here, So I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>trying to get away from the dummies as quick as

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<v Speaker 2>possible smooth failing. So, for example, if I get to

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<v Speaker 2>an intersection that I know people who don't drive down

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<v Speaker 2>this intersection don't know that, we have literally thirteen seconds

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<v Speaker 2>for it to go green. I'm not getting stuck, Bobe,

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<v Speaker 2>but yeah, one hundred Pam. I also saw you with

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<v Speaker 2>the other day. We went to a concert. We're driving

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<v Speaker 2>out to Home Bush and you crossed three lanes at

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<v Speaker 2>one time. Yeah, Tokyo drift vibes. Yeah, we needed to

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<v Speaker 2>get to the other side. Guys, you know when it's

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<v Speaker 2>a stage channel tray. Yeah, literally for people who don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>we were on a near Kudos Bank arena. I need

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<v Speaker 2>to do that now, not foul, no, no, no. However,

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<v Speaker 2>I will say if we're gonna judge who's the better driver,

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<v Speaker 2>because we should. I got my license far sooner than

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<v Speaker 2>you did. I don't trust anyone who's been on the road. No,

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<v Speaker 2>as in you've got it later, you got it very recently, sooner,

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<v Speaker 2>sooner than now, far more recently, far more recently, far more,

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<v Speaker 2>far more recently, more recently. It's a late model car.

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<v Speaker 2>That means it's new, Yes, exactly, So the time between

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<v Speaker 2>me and my test one year. Yeah, but a test

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't correlate to being good on the road, yes, But

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<v Speaker 2>also the longer you've been on the road, the more

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<v Speaker 2>time you have to solidify shitty technique. How come every

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<v Speaker 2>time I see someone breaking the rules or doing something dumb,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a forty five year old and I'm like, of course,

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<v Speaker 2>because back in your day, back in your day, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I love driving.

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<v Speaker 2>It's honestly, you know how I was talking before about

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<v Speaker 2>mind emptying behavior, big fan. Not that you should be

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<v Speaker 2>meditating on the road, but there's something about the muscle

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<v Speaker 2>memory of knowing like what needs to happen when you

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<v Speaker 2>get into a flow state with other drivers. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>happen often on Sydney roads because it's always peak hour

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<v Speaker 2>and therefore people are always high strung, beeping beeping, beeping, beeping.

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<v Speaker 2>But when you get into a flow state where everyone's

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<v Speaker 2>following the rules and like gliding at the same pace

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<v Speaker 2>and you're not having to like stop, start and go.

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<v Speaker 3>It feels like a symphony.

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<v Speaker 2>It is quite beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and frooms.

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<v Speaker 3>Speaky stuff happens all the time. Are they coincidences? No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, we willed it to be through a series

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<v Speaker 2>of really intricate spell work.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe that's on you rather than me, M because remember, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so the other day, frum and I went to go

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<v Speaker 2>see Flume. But beforehand, Frumi came to mind so I

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<v Speaker 2>could d d us. There one thing about me. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>the best DD there is designated driver. Now, I have

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<v Speaker 2>two phones. One is a work phone, one is a

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<v Speaker 2>personal phone. Unfortunately for me, work and personal life collide

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<v Speaker 2>too often. That what happens is people text me on

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<v Speaker 2>one phone and then I'm holding the other phone and

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<v Speaker 2>she's very confusing. That is what happened with free Me

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<v Speaker 2>in the situation. She was texting the phone I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have access to because it was in the car. I

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<v Speaker 2>was getting ready. I thought to myself. I was looking

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<v Speaker 2>in the mirror and thought to myself, hmm, I should

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<v Speaker 2>go to my door and see if Rumy is here.

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<v Speaker 3>And as I walked to my door, she was.

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<v Speaker 2>About to knock on my door and then proceeded to say,

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<v Speaker 2>did you call out my name?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I thought your name.

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<v Speaker 2>I heard someone say free me, which is what I

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<v Speaker 2>would do, so like I said, and it was coming

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<v Speaker 2>from up above in the treetops, and my friend Bella

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<v Speaker 2>was like, yeah, I heard that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah you see.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, not to freak out the girls, you need to

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<v Speaker 2>say something even more freaky. Google is releasing an update

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<v Speaker 2>to Maps, which I feel like is long overdue because

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<v Speaker 2>when Instagram first started out, it was meant to be

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<v Speaker 2>like a location based sharing app where it's like, you

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<v Speaker 2>go to a cool place, take a photo, you tag

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<v Speaker 2>where you are, and then I was like, I'm gonna cool.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to go there too. It has strayed far

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<v Speaker 2>from that, and the moment it did, Google Map should

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<v Speaker 2>have jumped in because why not. Anyway, they're trying to

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<v Speaker 2>attract a more gen Z audience naturally with their new

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<v Speaker 2>update called vibe Check. Feels so weird when like, really like,

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<v Speaker 2>Maps is a universally used app, so they'm using even

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<v Speaker 2>the term vibe check. Does that suit everyone? Who knows?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I guess back in the day and who

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<v Speaker 2>knows when this day was, things were made for things

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<v Speaker 2>were made in the vision of the person who made

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<v Speaker 2>it right, So like a bunch of men made stuff

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<v Speaker 2>that a bunch of men would like, and therefore that

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<v Speaker 2>is what it was. And now you have to redefine

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<v Speaker 2>what you're making to suit the audience you're trying to attract.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess this is what it looks like. Almost a

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<v Speaker 2>bit cringy, and I know for a fact, I think

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<v Speaker 2>the concept is cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Listen to this. So basically Google Maps.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, so if you're heading into a new part of town,

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<v Speaker 2>they're gonna drop this new feature called vibe check or

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<v Speaker 2>neighborhood vibe, which will give you an like, an overarching

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<v Speaker 2>view of what the area will be like. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be a mix of like, you know, actual street view,

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<v Speaker 2>but also an amalgamation with a bunch of reviews of

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<v Speaker 2>that area, so like food is good, but you know

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<v Speaker 2>the street is a bit weird, but or whatever, so

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<v Speaker 2>you can get a good vibe check before you go. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>I will say I do like this idea of having

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<v Speaker 2>crowdsourced reviews that are impartial and not just buy a

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<v Speaker 2>restaurant that paying people to say nice things about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Will I use it? Probably not that's okay to.

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<v Speaker 2>Take away the mystery in the fun of going somewhere

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<v Speaker 2>not knowing if it's gonna be a vibe. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 2>what if the vibe has been checked and it just

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<v Speaker 2>was not giving what it needed to give. And what

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<v Speaker 2>if the vibe check is incorrect. Yeah, vibe is something

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<v Speaker 2>that's not Quanta five or necessarily exactly that. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>have answers for you, but you know, we'll keep a

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<v Speaker 2>close eye out. It's not out yet, it's just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it was announced that it's coming, that could be in

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<v Speaker 2>the year twenty twenty six, So don't hold your breath.

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<v Speaker 1>This is flex and frooms on Kita.

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<v Speaker 2>TikTok has taught me something else. Again, I take it

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<v Speaker 2>with a grain of salt only because the self development

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<v Speaker 2>era I've been in is different to the one I'm

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<v Speaker 2>coming into. My old self development era was very girl boss,

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<v Speaker 2>make all the money, be a high achiever.

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<v Speaker 3>She's actually quite boring.

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<v Speaker 2>So my new self development approach is like, have a

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<v Speaker 2>nice mind to live in lust. So I read this

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<v Speaker 2>mindfulness tip and I want to know if this works

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<v Speaker 2>for you, because are you an overthinker? I'm an overthinker,

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<v Speaker 2>but I think it comes out in different ways. Yeah, definitely,

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<v Speaker 2>because your T shirt says avoid overthinking by not thinking

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<v Speaker 2>the values. But this is exactly what I'm getting at,

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<v Speaker 2>because this is the mindset I'm in now.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to do this thing.

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<v Speaker 2>You know when you read like DBT CBT, it's all

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<v Speaker 2>talking about how you need to be mindful of what

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<v Speaker 2>you're thinking and why you're thinking it, and what's impacting

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<v Speaker 2>the way you're thinking. And then all that does is

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<v Speaker 2>get me to a state of overthinking where I believe

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<v Speaker 2>that if I think about something enough, I can control

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<v Speaker 2>the outcome, or it makes me feel like everything is

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<v Speaker 2>in my control. I need to fix it all on

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<v Speaker 2>my own. She's just a very like stressful way to be.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm practicing emptying out my mind more often and

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<v Speaker 2>not exhausting myself with thinking when things aren't necessary to

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<v Speaker 2>think about. So this mindfulness tip came up on TikTok

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<v Speaker 2>and it says if you find yourself in that state

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<v Speaker 2>of mind where you are in a continuous thought cycle

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<v Speaker 2>and you can't break it, or you're just overthinking, so

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<v Speaker 2>it's just walk and think, and walk and think and

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<v Speaker 2>keep walking and thinking until you find that you're not

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<v Speaker 2>thinking anymore, and you're just walking and all the things

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<v Speaker 2>you were thinking so hard about cease to have the

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<v Speaker 2>way that they did, and you're just flowing on.

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<v Speaker 3>Would that work? It's not something I've tried.

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<v Speaker 2>I get my best thinking out when I'm walking, Like

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<v Speaker 2>my best creative ideas when I walk. Hmm, But so

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<v Speaker 2>I think more when I walk. Yeah, well, I guess

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<v Speaker 2>it's what it's saying that you should allow yourself to think,

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<v Speaker 2>because I think what happens is that like people get

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<v Speaker 2>into the cycle of like, oh, I shouldn't be thinking that,

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<v Speaker 2>and so you think about it some more, and then

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<v Speaker 2>it's not productive or helpful because you're battling this thing

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<v Speaker 2>or like I don't I shouldn't but I am, but

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<v Speaker 2>I shouldn't by I am. So if you just do

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<v Speaker 2>it and you continuously go about it with the intention

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<v Speaker 2>of i' when I just walk and think and walk

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<v Speaker 2>and think until I've exhausted myself of all the possibilities

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<v Speaker 2>and then just stop. Well, that's actually a technique that

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<v Speaker 2>they use in the Happiness Trap. It's by Sam Harris. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that's right, but there is a Sam Harris. Yeah, different,

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<v Speaker 2>Sam Harris but the happiness trap. They say, first you've

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<v Speaker 2>got to acknowledge your feelings and then do something else.

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<v Speaker 2>But then the last one is like the last one

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<v Speaker 2>is like, do a task and give yourself one hundred

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<v Speaker 2>percent into the task to get you back on track. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>I like you read it. Yeah, look, these things are

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<v Speaker 2>all helpful and to you're like when when I try that,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll let you know because everything sounds really simple, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, Okay, what if it's been an hour and

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<v Speaker 2>a half and I'm still on the thought. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>get therapy, Bob.

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<v Speaker 3>We are at the bow. We are in.

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<v Speaker 2>Therapy, dar Bow.

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to flex and Frooms on Kita.

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<v Speaker 2>Ye're on the show. We love getting DMS voice notes

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<v Speaker 2>or just general vibes as long as they are positive

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<v Speaker 2>in our DMS.

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<v Speaker 3>Or just unhinged.

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<v Speaker 2>I prefer unhinged to positive people over sharing their deepest,

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<v Speaker 2>darkest secrets with no regard. Like the guy the other

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<v Speaker 2>day talking about how he was running around the floor

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<v Speaker 2>acting like a dog, hit his toe and broke it. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>inspired by us exactly, Like, so we have inspired someone

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<v Speaker 2>to break a bone on the show, which feels significant.

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<v Speaker 3>What will we do next.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone sent me a message and I'm going to read

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<v Speaker 2>it out to you from a girl called Ruby. Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>free me with ie. Oh. I was slipping through a

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<v Speaker 2>book today in a bookstore and came across this. FLEX

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<v Speaker 2>can no longer say you haven't done your research. Amazing

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<v Speaker 2>PS listening to the potty and cackling along with you.

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<v Speaker 3>So she's done the research for you.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't say that this is what's it good? This

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<v Speaker 2>is confirming that I done my research, she said. PS.

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<v Speaker 2>Listening to the potty and cackling along with you two

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<v Speaker 2>is often the highlight of my day. You're the best.

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<v Speaker 2>Sending love from Melbs, one of me locals only. So

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<v Speaker 2>this is from a book and the title of the

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<v Speaker 2>chapter is Planes, Trains and Automobiles. Okay, and it reads

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<v Speaker 2>this is one of the facts from the book. Apparently,

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<v Speaker 2>the person in the middle seat gets both armrests. I

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<v Speaker 2>confess I did not know this rule. It came courtesy

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<v Speaker 2>of a well informed flight attendant, so I guess it

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<v Speaker 2>must be true. It makes sense. There is nothing more

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<v Speaker 2>punishing than the middle seat, so you deserve some kind

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<v Speaker 2>of reward, and that is both armrests.

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<v Speaker 3>Apparently, Is it apparent? Because Ruby said it came from

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<v Speaker 3>a book. Okay, so what is it the book is?

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<v Speaker 2>I think the book is actually a collection published a

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<v Speaker 2>personal essays. It's oh well, so I feel vindicated relative

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<v Speaker 2>whether or not it's a fact, and I will be

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<v Speaker 2>standing on this mountain alone or Ruby.

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<v Speaker 3>I love so much? While where look?

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<v Speaker 2>I think the armorrest thing will be a forever debate

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<v Speaker 2>because we're not going to get to the bottom of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I do think that as we grow and as

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<v Speaker 2>our circumstance changes, and as more people fly, they'll soon

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<v Speaker 2>realize that while you are entitled to the middle rest,

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<v Speaker 2>you are also an unhinged woman. Oh, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>leave it then, flex and I've been hanging out a

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<v Speaker 2>lot on my Instagram explore page, which I didn't usually

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<v Speaker 2>used to do.

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<v Speaker 3>But somehow the algorithm is working really well.

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<v Speaker 2>It started working. See, it's giving me exactly what I

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<v Speaker 2>want my fee to be, which is a mix of

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<v Speaker 2>cursed memes, personal development memes, really cool outfits and really

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<v Speaker 2>cool nails and puppies. Well, and it's perfect because I

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<v Speaker 2>think that sometimes TikTok requires a certain level of comprehension

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<v Speaker 2>and attention that I don't want to almost give some

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<v Speaker 2>not using a little picture, a little screens, a little picture,

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<v Speaker 2>little share And I came across this quote. It's by

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<v Speaker 2>a Twitter user IRP Twitter. Yeah shame. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>delete my account just in case it gets tacked. Oh okay,

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<v Speaker 2>Chloe Bellabie who said I heard someone say I accidentally

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<v Speaker 2>spent all my life making sure everyone else around me

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<v Speaker 2>feels comfortable, only to realize I never felt comfortable the

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<v Speaker 2>whole time. And wow, I felt that do you actually

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<v Speaker 2>relate to that? No, this is what this person is saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh sure, sure, I'm asking you. Do you resonate with that?

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<v Speaker 2>And how does that quote make you feel? Because it

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<v Speaker 2>was one of those viral ones, like by the time

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<v Speaker 2>I got to it, it was old news, like posted

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<v Speaker 2>days ago, millions of retweet types not millions, but one

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<v Speaker 2>hundreds of thousands of retweets.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh my god, yeah saying me too, babe, saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone feels as if they're putting their back out more

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<v Speaker 2>than others. Let me tell you something, You're not people

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<v Speaker 2>who actually extend themselves don't complain about it. You let

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<v Speaker 2>my mom exactly, and my mom as well. Yep, Like

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<v Speaker 2>if you're going out of your way to say, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I did this and I did that. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>you're actually doing enough because you're counting. It's like people

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<v Speaker 2>who always know how much money yeah, yeah, tabs like

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<v Speaker 2>finish that thought, Like people who always know how much

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<v Speaker 2>money yeah, like how much money they spend on the friendship.

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<v Speaker 2>Then they forget how much it's actually been spent on

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<v Speaker 2>them because you always think you're doing more than other

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<v Speaker 2>people are doing for you. It's a brain fallacy. It

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<v Speaker 2>is a brain fallacy because in this instance, right, it

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<v Speaker 2>kind of reminds me of like, you know, that court.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know when we talked about it, but it

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<v Speaker 2>was like this meme that's like, you know, the person

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<v Speaker 2>who traumatized you is currently sitting in a therapist's office,

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<v Speaker 2>and the therapist is like, you're amazing as you are.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just like that, like.

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<v Speaker 2>These narratives and these stories you tell yourself about how

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<v Speaker 2>you're navigating the world are often made to soothe what

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<v Speaker 2>you believe to be true.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, and so a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Of us take this victim, this villain as victim standpoint

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<v Speaker 2>where we're like, not the worst person ever, because definitely

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<v Speaker 2>somewhere along the track somebody hurt me more and that's

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<v Speaker 2>why I feel like I'm able to do what I want.

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<v Speaker 2>But in this instance, accidentally spent all my life making

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<v Speaker 2>sure everyone else around me feels comfortable asual.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean comfortable?

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<v Speaker 3>What did you do? Now?

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<v Speaker 2>I want to know, because imagine someone keeping tabs being

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<v Speaker 2>like like, you know, I said hi and byer for

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<v Speaker 2>me and ye, you know she wasn't giving me energy

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<v Speaker 2>back and now uncomfortable. God who knows. There probably was

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<v Speaker 2>ops everywhere. But thank you to Instagram explore. I see you.

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<v Speaker 2>You know you're feeling a little bit tense because of TikTok.

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<v Speaker 2>They're coming for you. You suddenly back into pickies. Definitely

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<v Speaker 2>do that please? Did you also see music Olympics. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram is letting you upload music to your pictures, but

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<v Speaker 2>also TikTok is trying to make photo carousels a thing. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're working as well. But I try to download

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<v Speaker 2>the photo carousel, but it means you just don't let

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<v Speaker 2>download one photo. They need to fix that function.

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<v Speaker 3>No, they fix it.

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<v Speaker 2>So when you try and download the TikTok photo carousel,

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<v Speaker 2>you can download each individual picture as a picture, but

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<v Speaker 2>not the video carousel, which is I want the video carousel?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh is that what you want? Yeah, yeah, I understand,

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<v Speaker 2>I understand. We have lots of tips for the devs

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<v Speaker 2>in those apps.

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