Speaker 1: Hello, cringe, no, ye a little bit.
Speaker 2: No, the girl is coming to you in podcast form,
Speaker 2: which is ever so exciting to me every single day.
Speaker 3: There is actually no excuse.
Speaker 2: Imagine, don't check for us on Instagram being like where's
Speaker 2: the contents? A lot more stories? You don't get any
Speaker 2: more stories. It's right here.
Speaker 3: Care factor zero.
Speaker 4: Anyways, stick around, let's get down to cringeeness.
Speaker 5: Flex and frooms.
Speaker 3: I love brainstorms.
Speaker 2: Really, I don't get any too. Honestly, I think one
Speaker 2: of my best skills is coming up with good ideas
Speaker 2: when the framework is good. Also, but if you like,
Speaker 2: let's do a brainstorm, I'm there with you. Alas, did
Speaker 2: you know that it should only take you ninety seconds
Speaker 2: to get over any emotion, whether that's being angry, sad, happy,
Speaker 2: and anything after that is self inflicted?
Speaker 3: Let me go deeper. Let's say we have a tussle,
Speaker 3: have a big.
Speaker 1: Spound to happen. We've got a lot of time together.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it hasn't.
Speaker 2: Happened yet, No, you're easy going. Next minute, so let's
Speaker 2: say we have a brawl. Right, we're upset at each other. Physiologically,
Speaker 2: it should take my body ninety seconds to process that
Speaker 2: emotion and if I find myself ruminating afterwards, that's self imposed.
Speaker 3: That's me attaching a thought.
Speaker 2: Or a feeling or any or a story or a
Speaker 2: narrative towards that emotion and then extending the life cycle.
Speaker 1: Is that not the human condition?
Speaker 2: It is, absolutely it is. But it's also good to
Speaker 2: know that if you find yourself in this cycle frustration
Speaker 2: or sadness, or anger or even happiness, that physiologically your
Speaker 2: body is meant to get over things.
Speaker 3: If you wanted to, you.
Speaker 2: Could, If you wanted to, you would. It is on
Speaker 2: you squarely, period.
Speaker 5: This is Flex and frooms on Keda.
Speaker 2: Right now we have a bit of a delemma, not
Speaker 2: our own, fortunately, but from a person who's messaged us.
Speaker 2: This is love line where Flex infirmed your resident professional
Speaker 2: opinion have is give you advice on your love dilemmas.
Speaker 3: What's the problem.
Speaker 2: We don't know, but we will find your solution and
Speaker 2: give you a song to send you on your merry way.
Speaker 4: Yes, that was a stunning description, Flex, and I want
Speaker 4: to get straight to it. I just found out that
Speaker 4: my boyfriend of six months is close friends with his
Speaker 4: ex partner. They dated for years and were friends before
Speaker 4: they dated. They broke up about two years ago. Throughout
Speaker 4: our relationship, he has spent time with her and even
Speaker 4: stated a house in a different state for the weekend.
Speaker 4: Uft I knew that he was spending time with her.
Speaker 4: I just assumed she was a friend and not an ex.
Speaker 4: Do I have a right to be upset about this?
Speaker 4: I'm not upset that he's friends with her per se,
Speaker 4: just that he never told me. And this is a
Speaker 4: fairly significant relationship. I've never met this person, they live
Speaker 4: in a different state, and they only spend time together
Speaker 4: at conference is for work.
Speaker 1: I'm putting a little astex there. What's the issue here?
Speaker 2: It's sus. It's not sus to be friends with your ex.
Speaker 2: I pride myself on not being friends with my exes,
Speaker 2: but being loved.
Speaker 3: By all of them.
Speaker 1: So I say, why aren't you friends with them?
Speaker 2: I don't need that many friends, and so you gotta
Speaker 2: you gotta cut the fat. Sometimes not everyone can be
Speaker 2: top ten.
Speaker 3: Here's the thing.
Speaker 2: If they were just friends who were exes, fine, But
Speaker 2: this is your friend who is your ex and you
Speaker 2: dated for a long time two years ago. Two years
Speaker 2: ago is not that long when it comes to gaps
Speaker 2: in relationships, that's fresh. If I dated something two years
Speaker 2: ago and have a lifetime of friendship with them, you
Speaker 2: gotta pass that on. That's information that your current person
Speaker 2: needs to be privy to. And then work conferences.
Speaker 3: What is that?
Speaker 2: If you're hanging what is that if you're if you're
Speaker 2: hanging out, it's customary to give your partner context on
Speaker 2: the on your friends. Where did you meet, how did
Speaker 2: you meet? How do you know each other? Totally shady boots,
Speaker 2: sus not sus? Does current girlfriend have the right to
Speaker 2: be angry?
Speaker 4: I'm gonna say yes, current girlfriend is hanging out with
Speaker 4: old girlfriend in a friend situation, you need to know
Speaker 4: if they've dated so you can pick up SUS vibes.
Speaker 4: Otherwise you're going in blind.
Speaker 2: And even if that's not the only reason, keeping that
Speaker 2: a secret is the SUS thing. If it's a non event,
Speaker 2: then it should be known. Why hasn't it. Why hasn't
Speaker 2: any of the other friends mentioned it? It's not come up.
Speaker 1: I've been in this situation before, have you pray Telle.
Speaker 4: I was dating a guy and he was still good
Speaker 4: friends with some of that he'd slept with.
Speaker 1: I don't know if.
Speaker 4: They'd dated before yeah, of course I didn't know about this,
Speaker 4: so I'm sure I didn't know about a lot of things.
Speaker 4: And they'd hang out and she was always a bit
Speaker 4: of a sus unit to me. And before I thought,
Speaker 4: this is weird, like you're acting a bit possessive and
Speaker 4: strange to like you, but you're making it difficult and
Speaker 4: the long and behold. Afterwards I found out and I thought, Yep,
Speaker 4: some of those snide comments you made to me while
Speaker 4: I tried to ingratiate myself with the group wasn't just
Speaker 4: in my head it wasn't.
Speaker 2: And I, on the other hand, have been the possessive
Speaker 2: X situationship who has let me not incriminate myself.
Speaker 3: I'm glad.
Speaker 1: I was so ready.
Speaker 5: This is flex and frooms.
Speaker 2: Do you know anyone born on the same day as you, like,
Speaker 2: actually know someone not well not well enough to say.
Speaker 3: Yes, same day, same year? Yep?
Speaker 1: Really on the third of the third. It's like a
Speaker 1: very historic day, is it?
Speaker 3: I think?
Speaker 5: So?
Speaker 3: According to whom me, oh, can I one up you please?
Speaker 1: Great?
Speaker 2: I met somebody in my Instagram dms who told me, well,
Speaker 2: let me backtrack a little bit. This is someone that
Speaker 2: I have had casual interactions with in my Instagram DM
Speaker 2: who would just like agree with things that I agreed with, like, oh,
Speaker 2: we have the same opinion on this thing, we like
Speaker 2: this thing. It was like cute, but not that exclusive Anyway,
Speaker 2: One day I posted my birth chart onto Instagram story.
Speaker 2: For those who don't know who birth chart is, it's
Speaker 2: just like astrology. You put your birthday and where you're
Speaker 2: born into this internet thing and then it tells you
Speaker 2: some stuff about your astrology.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I post this and this same girl says, huh, that
Speaker 2: looks kind of like mine. I was like, okay, cool, whatever.
Speaker 2: Then she goes and asks me when I was born,
Speaker 2: what day, what time, what year? And we were born
Speaker 2: not only in the same day, the same year, but
Speaker 2: in the same bloody hospital.
Speaker 3: Really, what are the odds?
Speaker 1: Same hospital, same hospital?
Speaker 2: And then that led me to think, what are the like,
Speaker 2: how many babies are birthed in a campanyun birthing board
Speaker 2: at one time? For eight of us, nine of us,
Speaker 2: maybe even twenty. But it's not high enough for us
Speaker 2: to not only be in each other's dms, but to
Speaker 2: share mutual friends.
Speaker 3: Oh you've got me, We've got mutual friends.
Speaker 1: Wow, have you figured out who the friends are?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Similar area?
Speaker 3: What do you mean the people? I know? The friends?
Speaker 2: But like, no, the mutual friend we have wasn't even
Speaker 2: born here in Sydney. It's born in Brisbane.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: So here's the thing.
Speaker 2: Don't let to how they say you should never meet
Speaker 2: your double ganger in real life, the person who looks
Speaker 2: just like you, because one of you has to go.
Speaker 2: I feel as if I meet her in the flesh,
Speaker 2: it's going to be too close to home. Either we'll
Speaker 2: get along so well that it's not exciting because it's predictable,
Speaker 2: or we'll realize we're nothing alike and we embarrassingly have
Speaker 2: to keep up this. Oh you know, we're cosmic twins.
Speaker 2: We have the same birthday.
Speaker 1: That gives me demons?
Speaker 3: Does it really?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Just keep it in the DMS.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll keep it. We'll keep it, you know, arms lengths.
Speaker 2: But what I love about that is now I have
Speaker 2: a fun story to tell totally. And the reason why
Speaker 2: I need that is because every time you have those
Speaker 2: like Icebreaker group interview party full of strangers, things like,
Speaker 2: you know, tell us something nice about yourself.
Speaker 3: I've got nothing. I've got no fun story.
Speaker 1: Earlier, I thought you'd be really good at that.
Speaker 3: This is what I'm saying. But now I do I
Speaker 3: have a cosmic twin.
Speaker 1: Cosmic twin or now stave and she's listening to.
Speaker 2: This probably and PSA for anyone who wants to try
Speaker 2: and one up me, you can't.
Speaker 3: Don't share your stories.
Speaker 2: I don't want to know if you two have a
Speaker 2: cosmic twin who's born on the same day, say your
Speaker 2: same hospital.
Speaker 3: Shut it. I don't want to hear it.
Speaker 1: Keep it to your damn self.
Speaker 5: You're listening to flex and frooms on Kada.
Speaker 1: How are you all doing.
Speaker 4: Doing?
Speaker 1: It's really not working for me today.
Speaker 2: I just want to let you be you. That's what
Speaker 2: I'm here to do. I want you to imagine that
Speaker 2: you're on a weekend away with a group of your friends.
Speaker 3: I know five six of them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you took two cars, five six of them in particular.
Speaker 2: Though you're with your bestest friends, so whoever that is,
Speaker 2: keep them in mind. At the beach house, you all
Speaker 2: decide to go for a walk to a local kind
Speaker 2: of like secluded beach. There's just you, your mate and
Speaker 2: like a small family yonder a couple drinkies later, everyone's
Speaker 2: kind of loose, having a good time.
Speaker 3: You're in your period.
Speaker 2: You also got cramps, so like, you're not interested in
Speaker 2: getting involved or going for a swim, but your best
Speaker 2: friend is. You tell her I don't think you should. Like,
Speaker 2: there's storm cloud coming in. Those waves are kind of hectic.
Speaker 2: She says, no, there's like a little girl about to
Speaker 2: go and if she can go and I can go in.
Speaker 2: You're like, okay, whatever, she goes in. You lie down,
Speaker 2: pop a couple on EUROPM. Maybe I don't know what
Speaker 2: you do for your cramps. And then you hear two
Speaker 2: deathly screams.
Speaker 3: You're like, what what is that?
Speaker 2: You turn to look towards the beach and you see
Speaker 2: both your friend and that little girl flailing. You're freaking
Speaker 2: out because at first he thought it was just a
Speaker 2: little girl. Both of them are caught in the roob
Speaker 2: and it's hectic. Turns out family can't swim. Yeah, all
Speaker 2: your friends are cooked, so it's only you.
Speaker 3: What are you doing?
Speaker 1: Have ever been in a rib?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: Mmm?
Speaker 1: I can tell because if you're.
Speaker 4: In a.
Speaker 3: Something to me, what does that meant to me? Because
Speaker 3: you set it up. I could have said, yeah, I have.
Speaker 3: Actually I have.
Speaker 4: And then what Joe said, if someone's in a rib,
Speaker 4: you can't go and save them.
Speaker 3: Well, this is why I'm asking, Babe.
Speaker 4: No, I guess if someone's in a rib, I only
Speaker 4: going to save one of them if I knew how
Speaker 4: to swim out of a rip. But this is only
Speaker 4: something that I've learned recently, and that's if you're in
Speaker 4: a rip at the beach, you need to swim sideways.
Speaker 4: In this scenario, I feel bad for a little girl,
Speaker 4: but I don't know her and agism. Really, everyone's life
Speaker 4: is worth the same as someone else, So as awful
Speaker 4: as that is, I'm going for my friend.
Speaker 2: Hold on, everyone's life is worth the same as somebody else's.
Speaker 2: Direct quote from you. Yeah, you're gonna save your best
Speaker 2: friend over the little girl. Her family is freaking out,
Speaker 2: none of them. They're helpless. They can't do anything.
Speaker 1: Well, so are our friends because they're cooked.
Speaker 3: Great. Yeah, so what will you do.
Speaker 1: I'm saving my best friend.
Speaker 3: And you are letting the little girl.
Speaker 1: Ah, she's gonna swim back to the shore. She's got it.
Speaker 3: That's so hectic.
Speaker 2: It's good to know who your friends are. I, for one,
Speaker 2: I'm not saving anyone.
Speaker 3: Listen, to what.
Speaker 2: I'm saying, Babe, there are two people in danger. You
Speaker 2: go out, makes it three. There's a family who can't
Speaker 2: swim and a bunch of cooked friends.
Speaker 3: It's game over.
Speaker 2: Not even gonna notice that you're gone five hours letter,
Speaker 2: Oh where Frooms go?
Speaker 3: Done? Your legacy, lost bloodline gone.
Speaker 1: The Froom's name has disappeared.
Speaker 3: It's good to know. Thanks for the thanks for disclosing.
Speaker 2: Flex And through me revealed to me that she has
Speaker 2: a special talent from her days working at a car dealership.
Speaker 2: Perhaps I'm not sure if it's related, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: She said.
Speaker 2: Her special talent is being able to tell what the
Speaker 2: make and model is on any Australian car that she sees.
Speaker 2: I was flabbergasted. I was also skeptical and immediately quizzed her.
Speaker 2: I pointed to a car that she confidently said was
Speaker 2: admit to be She it was like a Henda.
Speaker 3: So we were not off to a good start.
Speaker 2: And so today in front of us we have sheets
Speaker 2: of paper, and on each of those sheets of paper
Speaker 2: we have Australian cars. We've got images of cars.
Speaker 1: They're not Australian cars, they're international.
Speaker 3: Car cars found in Australia. Okay, there we go through me.
Speaker 2: Suggests guarantees that she'll be able to tell me the
Speaker 2: make and the model of each car just by looking
Speaker 2: at an image.
Speaker 3: Happily, let's go with car number one.
Speaker 1: It is a Masda.
Speaker 3: Okay, I didn't catch that. It's silver.
Speaker 2: It's like a five seedter, looks like a car a
Speaker 2: mum drives. It's all I've got for you. So you
Speaker 2: said it to Mazda. There is a logo on it,
Speaker 2: so I feel like you could have guessed that one easily.
Speaker 2: What is the make and model all the year?
Speaker 4: Okay, We're gonna go with year because I'm not a
Speaker 4: complete genius. Originally I wanted to say two thousand and eight, yep,
Speaker 4: but I've decided, actually, this looks like fourteen fifteen, so
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go twenty fourteen.
Speaker 1: Mazda.
Speaker 3: She's actually right. I told you said two thousand.
Speaker 2: Night I was ready to rip into I was like,
Speaker 2: is it it's a Mazda three twenty fourteen. Okay, that's
Speaker 2: the one. Next I want to say it's a Fluke,
Speaker 2: but let me not be a hater. No, no, no, in
Speaker 2: front of me, We've got a big barmber Hummer.
Speaker 1: I think it's a Hummer. It's some sort of Ford.
Speaker 2: Okay, hold on, it's a big bus car, hunker chunker,
Speaker 2: like huge wheels, like elevated off you know, like a
Speaker 2: monster truck of ur monster, but definitely road safe. And
Speaker 2: it's got flames on it.
Speaker 3: What is it for me?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 4: This could actually be some sort of jeep, but I
Speaker 4: don't think it is. I think it's like an American
Speaker 4: hot car. Something about the way that the photo is
Speaker 4: taken two thousand and eight to twenty twelve, and what
Speaker 4: is it now? It's two thousand and eight and it
Speaker 4: is a Chrysler.
Speaker 3: Loser, it's a two thousand and five Hummer.
Speaker 5: Crap.
Speaker 2: I don't know what's go with your gut, but if
Speaker 2: you really knew the car, you wouldn't have to go
Speaker 2: with your gut, you'd use your brain.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, next, shit you straight away. This is a
Speaker 4: Ford Wild Track. It is a four door ute situation
Speaker 4: four by four, very nice. And this is from two
Speaker 4: thousand and six.
Speaker 3: Hmm. It's a Ford Ranger okay.
Speaker 2: And it's from two thousand and seventeen, oh so just
Speaker 2: about nine years off. Now, can you let us know
Speaker 2: what made you say two thousand and six. So confidently the.
Speaker 4: Shape of the eyes at the front of the lights
Speaker 4: is giving Commodore early two thousands Commodore.
Speaker 2: But how would you know that? You're so far off
Speaker 2: that at this point, So how many of you got right? One?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 4: Next up, we've got a VW Combi van and this
Speaker 4: is nineteen seventy three.
Speaker 2: Wrong, it's nineteen seventy one. Though it's close enough, not
Speaker 2: close enough for you to say that you can guess
Speaker 2: any make and model in a year of a car
Speaker 2: by sight. In this instance, I swear to you out
Speaker 2: of nowhere, we're gonna get a sandwich. We're not even
Speaker 2: talking about automobiles, vehicles, nothing. Rooms looks me dead in
Speaker 2: my eye and says I can guess any making, any car,
Speaker 2: any car, confidently points to the next one. That's a
Speaker 2: twenty fourteen yan.
Speaker 1: Day And I was right at that time.
Speaker 3: But the next one was a Missubichi And you're like, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's heyday.
Speaker 4: It's a pretty good strike rate for somebody who does
Speaker 4: not work has used castles.
Speaker 3: That's not even like a BC. That's a fail.
Speaker 1: You're so mean. You're listening to flex and frames and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna yeez away in my.
Speaker 5: Car, flex and frooms on.
Speaker 2: Average day, I'm watching you exist. Do you think you
Speaker 2: change your behavior because you know I'm watching you?
Speaker 1: Definitely?
Speaker 3: Really?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I definitely change my behavior. I think I think
Speaker 1: I am more considered.
Speaker 4: Ah, I think I try to preserve my energy for
Speaker 4: on air with you.
Speaker 1: I'm not making small talk.
Speaker 3: That's really sweet.
Speaker 1: Do you think you change around me?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I think if I was in a room four walls
Speaker 2: or white, decked out in the best furniture and no
Speaker 2: one there to observe me, I would number one, not talk.
Speaker 2: I would probably not think as much either. I'll probably
Speaker 2: be asleep. But I came across this think called the
Speaker 2: Hawthorne effect, and it's the belief that we subconsciously alter
Speaker 2: our behavior when we're being observed, and it can affect
Speaker 2: all kinds of behaviors like what you eat, your hygiene habits,
Speaker 2: how you speak, how you present yourself. And it makes
Speaker 2: a lot of sense too, because there are tons of
Speaker 2: people that I know that in their own space they
Speaker 2: behave a different way.
Speaker 3: What are you looking at? Don't look at him and
Speaker 3: look at me, look at you.
Speaker 2: The fact that I just told you that on average,
Speaker 2: we only listened to twenty percent of a conversation, and
Speaker 2: midway through making my point, you've caught your reflection just
Speaker 2: behind me, and you haven't even made it subtle. But
Speaker 2: I was doing more research about this Hawthorne effect, and
Speaker 2: it's also they say the Hawthorne effect is the reason
Speaker 2: why in offices they encourage like good lighting and regular breaks,
Speaker 2: because if we can all see each other clearly and
Speaker 2: we're forced to interact with each other, then we'll behave
Speaker 2: better really, rather than being in like dark corners or
Speaker 2: secluded or in our own little bubbles where we're left
Speaker 2: to our own devices.
Speaker 3: Makes heaps of.
Speaker 4: Sense, makes a lot of sense. I get it when
Speaker 4: we're in these rooms because we spend a lot of
Speaker 4: time at cater and there is a lollijar in our
Speaker 4: studio which is constantly haunting me because I am a
Speaker 4: sweet tooth. It's haunting you, haunting me, haunting you, it's
Speaker 4: haunting me because I love sweet treats. And if nobody
Speaker 4: was here, I beating the whole jar, really, But instead
Speaker 4: I've got to bide my time. You know, one every
Speaker 4: three breaks, I'll go in for a little lolly, make
Speaker 4: a little stash here, so I'm not being judged.
Speaker 1: Go for it. Yeah, I should go for it.
Speaker 2: Nobody's thinking about you like You're thinking about you in
Speaker 2: the nicest way possible.
Speaker 3: Nobody cares.
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