Speaker 1: Plead on Flex and Frooms. Flex and Frooms. This is
Speaker 1: the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast.
Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen, It's time for Flexi's Big Question of
Speaker 2: the Week.
Speaker 3: We have had a week of Flexi's Big Questions.
Speaker 1: We do them weekly.
Speaker 3: It goes off basically, I pose a question that gets
Speaker 3: you to think deeply about who you are, why you
Speaker 3: are that way, what you think and why you think it,
Speaker 3: and also who is influencing the way that you think.
Speaker 3: The most recent question I pose was what's the misconception
Speaker 3: that people make about you that you use to your advantage?
Speaker 3: And the reason why I asked that is because a
Speaker 3: lot of times we can feel a bit hard done
Speaker 3: by by the way that we're perceived by others, But
Speaker 3: I think there are a few gaps in that that
Speaker 3: actually work to our favor. So I asked you to
Speaker 3: respond via the little box on our Instagram story. A
Speaker 3: bunch of you did. I'm We're going through and read
Speaker 3: some of the not the best answers, just some of
Speaker 3: the answers. Brooks says, Uni everyone thought I was dumb,
Speaker 3: felt bad, and gave me their materials.
Speaker 1: I got honors. I love that. Kraud says that I'm
Speaker 1: a scary, mean girl.
Speaker 3: I'm just a serious, resting heat face, and that means
Speaker 3: people leave me alone. BB says that I'm quiet, but
Speaker 3: I'm taking in data points and observations of my surroundings.
Speaker 3: Lenn says that I'm white and just really tanned, but
Speaker 3: I'm half Kenyans white privilege. Ashley says people see who
Speaker 3: I'm younger than I am. People ask for my mom
Speaker 3: if they come to my house, but realistically, I'm a
Speaker 3: mum of two.
Speaker 1: I can't relate. I love that.
Speaker 3: Lana says that I'm rude and antisocial. I'm actually really friendly,
Speaker 3: but I like it. I could just keep that to myself.
Speaker 3: This person who doesn't have a name here says people
Speaker 3: always perceive me to not know things. If there's tea,
Speaker 3: I played dumb to hear it from all sides. Ooh,
Speaker 3: I love that. Thank you for submitting. And to everyone
Speaker 3: who I didn't read out, I'm reading it in the flesh.
Speaker 3: I have it on my phone.
Speaker 1: I see it.
Speaker 3: But we're giving a limit of time on air, so
Speaker 3: must do with that what we will talk to us?
Speaker 3: Miss Reena, what is a misconception people have about you
Speaker 3: that you used to your advantage.
Speaker 4: Oh, oh that I have music taste.
Speaker 1: The story is going to come out one time I
Speaker 1: told this story yet on it. Oh you you've You've
Speaker 1: told it.
Speaker 3: When you're pretending to be someone else, just know every
Speaker 3: now and then, when Frem.
Speaker 1: Tells stories, they're actually her.
Speaker 3: And depending on how Mickey and I respond or don't respond,
Speaker 3: you will know.
Speaker 1: That we don't want to be caught up gonna lie.
Speaker 1: There will be saying, oh.
Speaker 5: My god, what's a misconception that I'm working class? Yeah,
Speaker 5: a few months of me perhaps was playing, but I
Speaker 5: think people people think I'm a private school girl. Once
Speaker 5: they dropped the receipts of me going to the same
Speaker 5: was Jermaine private school girl, there was no denying that
Speaker 5: tuition money had been spent.
Speaker 3: That's an interesting thing I think a lot of people
Speaker 3: have about how we all grew up. Like when I
Speaker 3: say I'm from Sydney's East, everyone thinks.
Speaker 1: I was super rich. But I did live in Housing Commission,
Speaker 1: so it wasn't there.
Speaker 3: You know, it was a house, but it's still Housing
Speaker 3: Commission a house in They had to come by to
Speaker 3: come by, And I would much rather if people think
Speaker 3: that I was privileged and bougie.
Speaker 1: Than the old turner because I hate a sub story.
Speaker 1: I really do.
Speaker 3: No offense everyone, damn. I don't like the way sub
Speaker 3: stories are weaponized. I think that people are really intentional
Speaker 3: with what they share and how they share it, and
Speaker 3: I think that we don't have a culture of being
Speaker 3: open and vulnerable and communicative naturally. So when people muster
Speaker 3: up this really concise narrative in all the ways that
Speaker 3: they've been hard done by expecting a very specific response
Speaker 3: from the person they're telling it too, more is like, Okay,
Speaker 3: enjoy your storytelling.
Speaker 1: It's always good to practice.
Speaker 4: That would be mine, But I'm coming to terms with
Speaker 4: it being rich.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we all have our personal shruggles, and it's about
Speaker 3: time that somebody really held space for theives, because it's
Speaker 3: come to a point where even the richest among us
Speaker 3: don't feel safe to express themselves and like through me
Speaker 3: and like Victoria Beckham. You know, people say, oh, Victoria
Speaker 3: Beckham didn't come from a working class family because she
Speaker 3: was driven to school every day in a Rolls Royce.
Speaker 3: But to that, I say, on behalf of frugh me
Speaker 3: that there are different struggles.
Speaker 1: There are different struggles, guys.
Speaker 5: Some of them internal others. You know, my dad did
Speaker 5: drive me to school in various different cars. Sometimes it
Speaker 5: was a truck, other times it was a rolls voice
Speaker 5: quite literally, like actually, quite literally.
Speaker 1: You're funny. This is great, FLEXI, you're one first quickly, Miki.
Speaker 2: I did think about this, Yeah, bag, I am not
Speaker 2: good at replying to people, and I think people have like,
Speaker 2: oh okay, this's are good at texting, but I see
Speaker 2: all the message.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Just don't want to everyone.
Speaker 1: Do you have one?
Speaker 4: Flex?
Speaker 3: I think people feel like things come really easily to me,
Speaker 3: and that like I can like just sharp places and
Speaker 3: like things work in my favor and even if they're
Speaker 3: really hard.
Speaker 1: I'd much rather think that people think that much rather.
Speaker 1: I like the thought of.
Speaker 3: Coming out and being like this was really difficult for me,
Speaker 3: and I found that really challenging. Like if I'm stabbing
Speaker 3: a knife in my own gut, you can't do that.
Speaker 3: I would much rather just be like, oh my god, yeah,
Speaker 3: like whatever you say, if it was easier. So I
Speaker 3: felt this from the beginning, like even before media stuff.
Speaker 3: Choosing your audience right, Like my mom used to give
Speaker 3: me this. I don't know if it's a lecture. I
Speaker 3: don't know it's a lecture is not the right word.
Speaker 3: But she used to like give me this same kind
Speaker 3: of nuggets of truth constantly, and so I have all
Speaker 3: of them and every time I call.
Speaker 1: Her, she's so wise.
Speaker 3: But she was saying, you have to be careful because
Speaker 3: people naturally don't recognize their own individual power, right, Like,
Speaker 3: we all have so much power to influence and affect
Speaker 3: somebody else's life, and we don't feel responsible for that.
Speaker 3: So if through me talks to me one day and
Speaker 3: I make a comment about the way you look and
Speaker 3: I make you feel really insecure, I don't feel accountable
Speaker 3: for that. But like that's a lot of power to
Speaker 3: have over a person. So she says, you need to
Speaker 3: be really careful about how you Number One, give people
Speaker 3: an opportunity to speak.
Speaker 1: Into your life.
Speaker 3: So if you're constantly talking to your friends and inviting
Speaker 3: them to create extra narratives around why you can't be something,
Speaker 3: or why you can't go somewhere or you can't do something,
Speaker 3: they'll become really real. Because it's one thing for you
Speaker 3: to reinforce them in your mind, but to let everybody
Speaker 3: else start to reinforce.
Speaker 1: It for you, it's a very powerful thing to do.
Speaker 3: And so the other thing is like be wary of
Speaker 3: the context you give up to now feed into your life. So,
Speaker 3: for example, if someone's looking at me and they're like,
Speaker 3: she has everything so easy, that's a beautiful thing to experience.
Speaker 3: Like to truly believe that someone is experiencing ease, that
Speaker 3: is so sexy. So if that's the worst thing that
Speaker 3: someone can like impart onto me that she doesn't try
Speaker 3: and it's so easy, I'm going to take that. But
Speaker 3: if I counteract the narrative and I say everything is
Speaker 3: so hard and it's so difficult and I'm struggling and
Speaker 3: la la la la, and then people validate that narrative,
Speaker 3: it reinforces that narrative and like almost like fuels flame
Speaker 3: to it. So it's like being mindful about how you
Speaker 3: challenge people's perceptions of you and the power you give
Speaker 3: them to do. So that's why I was getting funny
Speaker 3: and like stop telling people about this big forehead thing,
Speaker 3: because number one, it's not true, but number two, it's
Speaker 3: giving people this like setting this environment and license wheveryone's
Speaker 3: like why I can comment on you generally if it's
Speaker 3: something that I haven't noticed before, Why don't I eliminate
Speaker 3: something else I've noticed about you, And I'm like, I don't,
Speaker 3: like you've always you.
Speaker 5: Taught me that, like, be careful what you say about
Speaker 5: yourself because then people give permission to say it too,
Speaker 5: and we see it.
Speaker 1: Happen all the time. Oh my, it's treacher it's a scary.
Speaker 3: Well anyway, loving you and leaving you.
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