WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - Freebies from friends and age gaps 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:22.479 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:22.520 --> 0:00:25.000 on Part This is out down and dirty little episode. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:26.119 It is our Thursday. 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:29.920 Episode where we answer you're deep, dark and burning questions. 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:32.559 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany. That was quite soothing. That 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:33.520 was a soothing interest. 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:36.120 Once I finished podcasting, I'm going to get into sex 0:00:36.200 --> 0:00:38.680 line work, I reckon, and then I can just you know, hello, 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:41.280 tell me gast recording, tell me about your fantasies. 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:43.760 Okay, well that is not the call that I got 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.519 from you earlier today. Why don't you feel the listeners 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:49.040 in on the call that I got and what went 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:51.680 down for you this morning? I'm talking like an hour ago. 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:53.159 This is all very very recent. 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:57.560 I am not okay, everybody not okay. And I also 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:00.800 have not emotionally recovered from this yet. So this morning 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:01.959 I woke up. 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:04.200 This is why it's so fucking weird as well. 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:06.440 Okay, so when I was on The Bachelor, you know 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:09.039 how at the end the Bachelor gives you a ring 0:01:09.319 --> 0:01:09.679 at the end. 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:11.560 There's about five people who's ever made it to the end, 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.600 and I'm not successfully okay, Well, if you had made 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:16.880 it to the very end, honey Badger, would have given 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:18.759 you a ring, right, I did make it to the end, 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:21.039 I didn't get my ring, and it's always too soon, 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:23.319 more soon, too soon. Okay. 0:01:23.400 --> 0:01:25.960 So when we're on the finale, Matt gave me this 0:01:26.160 --> 0:01:27.280 beautiful diamond ring. 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:28.520 I never wear it anymore. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.520 It's not it's not really my style, but he you know, 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:32.520 since then, I've been given an engagement ring which I 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.800 wear every day. So I woke up this morning and 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:38.000 I keep the ring that Matt gave me on the show. 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:40.120 I keep it in a special spot in a cupboard, 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:42.920 and I just woke up with this feeling like, oh, 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:45.320 I know Mary has been going through that cupboard, and 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:47.360 I was like, holy shit, I hope she hasn't moved 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:50.560 the ring. So I run to the cupboard and I 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:52.680 open it and I start looking for the ring. And 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:54.720 as I'm looking for the ring that Matt gave me 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:56.800 on the show, I look down at my hand and 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.680 my actual engagement ring is gone. 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:04.400 And I was like, what the farugh is happened? That 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:07.400 moment of like sickness in the pit of your stomach 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:08.040 It was gone. 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:09.720 And then I was like, did I take it off 0:02:09.720 --> 0:02:11.880 in my sleep? So then I always say I went 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:13.800 through the bed, and then I went back through photos 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:16.480 from the day of yesterday, and then I realized the 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:18.440 ring wasn't on my hand when I was making dinner, 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:19.880 because I had taken photo of me as you. 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:20.760 Do when you're making dinner. 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:23.799 So I went back through all my photos from the 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.320 day and I was like, holy crap, I've lost my ring. 0:02:26.400 --> 0:02:31.160 Somewhere between three o'clock and seven o'clock and my engagement 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:31.720 ring's gone. 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:34.720 And then I just hysterically cried for about four hours. 0:02:34.800 --> 0:02:37.080 So I want to do a reenactment for one second. 0:02:37.120 --> 0:02:40.280 And I mean hysterically. I was crying so hard that 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:42.960 I couldn't even look for the ring. It's actually and 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:46.000 I know the type of pain that you felt like, 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.840 I know the type of crying. So I get a 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:49.320 call from Laura. She's supposed to be out in my 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:51.440 house mind you for the record, and I was like, oh, 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:54.640 she must be downstairs or something. I say, hello, this 0:02:54.720 --> 0:03:05.720 is what I get and I was like what the 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:08.280 I was like, oh my god, what is I was like, breathe, 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:10.760 what is wrong with you? Where are you? Anyway? It 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.239 ensued from that. After about fifteen minutes I got from 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:15.280 her that she'd lost her ring. Is it at my 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:17.760 house somewhere. I've checked my back and I checked everything, 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.480 and it was a bit of a meltdown moment. 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:23.400 It's like it's like on a toddler when something really catastrophic, like, 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:26.720 for example, when you break your toddler's Scotch fingerbiscuit in half, 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:28.280 and they wanted the whole thing. It was like one 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.720 of those moments when they are crying so hard that 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:31.680 they can't breathe. 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:33.880 Yeah, and you know what the weird thing is. I mean, 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:37.280 I'm sure you've thought of this. The weird thing is 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:40.600 you were supposed to get married this weekend. So imagine 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.360 if thanks for reminding me, Brittany, but no I tomorrow. 0:03:43.440 --> 0:03:45.960 Actually I was supposed to be getting married tomorrow everybody. 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:49.080 But imagine if this was actually going ahead and you 0:03:49.160 --> 0:03:51.480 did lose your ring the day before the wedding. This 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:54.040 is how pathetic I was. I was like, Matt, you 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.000 still Mary, I've lost my ring, And he was like, 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:59.320 could you stop going to find the damn ring? And 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.840 he's like, yeah, yeah, Like the wedding's off because you 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:03.800 lost your ring. He's only marrying for the ring that 0:04:03.840 --> 0:04:04.600 he bought you. 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:08.440 Anyway, I would just like to confirm that my babysit 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:10.680 have found my ring, and I love her so much 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:12.320 that I might actually marry her instead. 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:15.120 I was actually hoping I would find it, because then 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:17.679 you might like me more. You'd keep it in cash 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:19.920 it I'd be like, I definitely did not find it, 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:25.240 and you'd be like, what's that new car are you driving? Anyway, Look, 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:28.320 it has been it's been a rollercoaster of emotions this morning. 0:04:28.360 --> 0:04:30.760 I can't say that I've it sounds so dumb. I know, 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:31.760 it's just a thing. 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:35.000 It's not dumb as your engagementary, but it is honestly 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:38.560 the only physical, tangible thing I have in life that 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:40.679 I actually really care about. It like beside your kids. 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:44.960 No, like they're not, but I mean, I mean, I 0:04:45.200 --> 0:04:48.360 mean as in like a piece of material. 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:48.840 That's the thing. 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:51.200 I was trying to a materialistic item, you know, like 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:53.960 anything else in my life. If I lost other things 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:56.400 would be inconvenient, like my lap place, yeah, my laptop, 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:58.640 my foot whatever, those things I would be annoyed and 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.000 probably a bit upset about. But this was like, this 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:03.960 hit very differently. So for anybody out there who has 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:07.279 lost an engagement ring, or lost something that's just you know, 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:09.560 maybe it's an heirloom piece from your great grandma or 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:10.360 something like that. 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:14.840 I know exactly how you feel. I was almost going 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:16.760 to tell you. I was like, if we don't find 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:18.720 it in the next hour, because you went to line 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:20.200 and she did a bunch of things after it, I 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:21.680 was like, you should put on your Instagram and you 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:23.559 should just say I've lost this. This is a photo. 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:25.160 Can someone look for it. I'm going to tell you 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.520 a quick story of something that happened really recently in 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.800 the tennis world. Andy Murray. Everybody knows Andy Murray. He's 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:33.920 one of the best tennis players in the world. He 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:36.559 always takes his wedding ring off. Now, this only happened 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:38.680 about a month ago. He always takes his wedding ring 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:40.960 off when he plays because it's just inconvenient, but he 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:43.880 wants to wear it on his body, so he tied 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.520 it to his shoelace. That's a stupid place to put 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:48.560 your ring. Well, he plays double Kno, it's never he's 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:50.680 done his whole career and there's never been a problem. 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:53.200 But he was training his shoes and he always wears 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:55.440 this one pair of shoes because they're made for him 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:59.080 by his sponsors. They got really wet and muddy. They're 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:00.920 stunk that when he's he was like, oh, I need 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.440 to air these out. This is the night before the tournament, 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:08.080 so it hurts. He just forgot that his ring was 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:13.760 still attached to the shoelace. He put his shoe underneath 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:15.880 his car in the car park of the hotel, like, 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:17.480 I don't even know how anyone saw them. They were 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:19.919 underneath because he's like, there's nowhere else to put them outside, 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:23.920 so they were hidden. He has this moment of panic 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:26.599 the next morning where he's like, oh my god, my 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.240 ring was on my shoe. But he's like, it's fine, 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:31.640 they're going to be under the car. He goes back 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:35.120 out and someone has stolen his shoes, so that without 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:37.200 knowing that his wedding ring's on it, he was in 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:39.760 an absolute panic. He puts something out on his gram 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:41.760 and he's got he's got a few million people. But 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:44.279 long story short, about three days later, whether it was 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:47.440 the thief that took the shoes, somebody returned the ring. 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:49.200 He got his wedding ring back, and that was just 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:51.839 in It was just like a manic story. I was 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:54.119 like you know, when you hear things like this, I'm like, God, 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:57.120 sometimes we can use social media for the power of good, honestly, 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.280 but imagine being a thief with that fact, that little 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:01.440 bit of heart still like I'll take the shoes, but 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:03.479 I'll give the expensive point. Yeah. 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:06.440 Like when you hear those horrible stories about somebody stealing 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:07.880 a car and then there's a kid in the back 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:09.480 and they're like, fuck, I just wanted to steal a car. 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:13.800 I don't want your kids. This escalated really quickly. 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:17.160 Anyway, guys, I'm happy to confirm that I have my ring. 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:19.520 I'm sad to also confirm I'm still not getting married, 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:21.680 so who knows when that's gonna happen. But I wanted 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:23.680 to tell you about a little news article that I 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:26.280 read this week because it gave me a really good chuckle. Now, 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:29.000 I hope that some of you, most of you, our 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:32.000 young listeners, may not know this, but back in our day, 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:35.560 when we were kids, there was a lovely dinosaur named Barnie. 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:38.760 I reckon there. We so people that are like, who's Barney, 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:41.920 Barney the purple dinosaur? You know who Barney is. Barnie 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:44.800 was an absolute staple in our life. In our generation's 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:47.160 life growing up, it was a cartoon. He was a dinosaur. 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:48.280 Everyone watched him. 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:49.760 And he would dance and I don't know, I think 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:51.720 he sung. He was in a costume. He looked like 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.440 a football mascot. But he was just just like purple 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:55.840 dinosaur with a green belly. 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:57.800 It's like the equivalent of the kids today having pepper 0:07:57.800 --> 0:07:59.760 Pig Like. It was that kind of all bluey like. 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:01.800 It was a big staple in our life, except it 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:04.360 was a grown man in cider costume dancing around. It 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.000 was kind of more like like the wiggle. 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:09.320 Yes, exactly, exactly a sessimestre feel. 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:11.200 Like we've described with this enough for everybody who knows 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:13.280 who Barney is, they're like, get to the fucking boy. 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:15.680 Why was really in my childhood? Okay, what happened with Barney? 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:16.480 What has he done here? 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:19.640 It is, guys, the man who played Barney the Dinosaur 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:24.520 now runs tantric sex business. After playing Varney the Dinosaur 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.360 from nineteen ninety one to two thousand and one, David 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:30.640 Joyner decided that he wanted to retire as a dinosaur 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:33.240 and he would set up his very own tantric sex business. 0:08:33.440 --> 0:08:36.880 What a normal progression. Hey, absolutely, what a segue. What 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:38.760 else would you do when you were once a dinosaur? 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.760 When you've once been a giant dinosaur. 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:43.080 I'd just like to read this quote few because it's 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:45.359 it's a bit weird. Makes me feel a bit uncomfortable, 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:48.080 to be honest. Speaking to Vius back in twenty eighteen, 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:50.640 he said the energy I brought up while in costume 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.960 is based on the foundation of tantra, which is love. 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:57.520 Everything stems, grows, and evolves from love. Even when you 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:00.440 have emotionally blocked energy, the best way to remove it 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:02.680 is to remove it with love and then replace it 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:05.280 with God's divine love. Love heels and allows you to 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:08.800 continue to grow. Now, I think that's a beautiful quote. However, 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:13.800 not in relation to being a children's performer. Absolutely, It's like, 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:15.160 who would have thought the Barny was. 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:17.640 Such a trooper? I think that's a beautiful quote. Also, like, 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:19.760 I think the world is full of love, and I 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:21.520 think things should be dealt with love. And I think 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:24.800 there's nothing wrong with sex, and okay there is when 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:27.200 it's from a child. This is my point. There's nothing 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:29.880 wrong with sex and tantrick, sex and all of the above. 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:33.240 But it's a little bit worrying when you've spent twenty 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:35.720 years as a children performer on a stage and a 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:37.839 dinosaur and then you have those feelings like I just 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:39.559 think those two need to be separate. Yeah, I think 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:40.199 you made a good point. 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.760 Look, I think it's absolutely fine to have seasons in 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:44.680 a lifetime, Like you can go from being a child 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:47.640 performer and that career and then go to doing whatever 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:50.160 else you want to do. It's absolutely those two things 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:53.400 can be completely unrelated careers and occupations. I think the 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:57.240 issue comes with making reference to your child performing days 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:59.400 and saying that you are exuding that energy. 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:02.960 That is where I'm like, wow, I feel very differently 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:06.600 about watching you as a Sami world. Now, how many 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:11.600 live shows did you know? Don't say that? Okay, Well, 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:13.480 I love that headlines. It has been a little while 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:15.240 since we had a random headline. My favorite is still 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:16.679 the woman that married the Dolphin, But I love that 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:19.400 you brought that today, Laura, I'm coming in hot with 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.600 an update today. Actually, I don't often have updates. You 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:25.400 guys don't actually update us often, but this is an 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:27.800 update from a listener. Now, if you listen to last 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:31.280 week's ask Guncut. We answered a question about a man 0:10:31.320 --> 0:10:33.679 and a woman, a boyfriend and girlfriend that had gone 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:36.199 to UNI together. They had the same degrees. They were 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:38.559 out in the workforce at the same time. He was 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:41.160 really unmotivated. He wasn't earning any money. He was sleeping 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:44.480 till midday. She was very motivated, had a really great job, 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:48.360 and he asked her basically to pay more rents. 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:50.679 They could have a nicer place. Just on this as 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:53.240 well if you didn't listen to the episode. Basically, she 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.800 said that he was pursuing a more entrepreneurial career. However, 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:59.520 he wasn't really hustling at that career. He was sleeping 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.839 until mid He was being pretty lazy, but he was 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:04.000 still expecting her to pay a majority share. 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:06.920 She just wrote us an update, and I wanted to 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.160 read it out just because I really love when these 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:11.480 updates come through. And if you guys, if we've ever 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:13.920 answered a question for you and you want to update us, 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:15.920 and whether it's a good update or bad one, however 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:18.800 it worked out, just slide back into the DMS. Hey, girls, 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:21.480 you answered my question this week, and I was absolutely stoked. 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:23.960 I loved your answers and I agree with everything so 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:27.720 much I realized it was really not about feminism. I 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.240 think the main point is the problem of transferring a 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:32.959 UNI relationship to the real world. It's tough as fuck. 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:35.200 I made it clear to my boyfriend that I am 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:37.360 not willing to put that amount of money into rent, 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:39.560 and he said he understands. I think it is a 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:42.080 big problem in our relationship that he is still clinging 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:44.280 to his UNI rhythm. It's like he doesn't want to 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:46.840 grow up and accept that UNI is over. He said 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:50.760 that he'll give himself six months to follow his entrepreneurial ideas, 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:53.720 and after that he will get back into the real world. 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:56.640 I think getting up earlier would be helpful, or even 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:59.000 give him the opportunity to have a small side job. 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:01.760 But it's his life the end, and I can't make him. 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:04.480 Let's see what happens in six months. But thank you 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:07.360 for your answers. I think it's great they've had the conversation. 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:09.560 She's like, I'm not gonna pay the extra rent. He said, 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:13.200 totally fine, give me six months. But he's still sleeping in. 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:16.679 He's still not willing to get up and think. I 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:19.200 think the problem in this relationship is and she highlighted 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:23.400 the problem is UNI relationships and teenage relationships and those 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:28.760 really young relationships we do, unfortunately sometimes grow in different directions, 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.439 and I think some relationships can be very situational and 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:35.560 points of our life. And she's obviously realized that she's 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:37.480 still willing to give it a go and work at it, 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:39.000 but there's a part in the back of her head 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:41.600 that's like, you know what, maybe we've both finished university 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:44.360 and we're ready for different things, and that's definitely a consideration. 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:47.000 But they've given each other six months, so I hope 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:48.960 hopefully she writes us in six months and he's either 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:52.559 making a million bucks as an entrepreneur, or he's got 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:54.559 a real job, or they're not together anymore. But I'd 0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:55.800 love to know what happens in the end of that. 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:58.480 Yeah, Like brit said, we absolutely love it when we 0:12:58.559 --> 0:13:01.800 have answered and asked guncut question and we get the outcome, 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:04.560 like whether you've taken on the advice, whether you disagree 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:06.439 with the advice, whether you love the advice. 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.520 And I really would love for us to be. 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:10.800 Able to do an update episode, like a bonus episode 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.000 in the next coming weeks where we kind of just 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:15.920 rehash some of our ask uncut questions that we have 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.240 done in the past. So if you ask somebody who's 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:21.600 listening who has had an ask uncut answered, please slide 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:23.640 into our DMS and answer that. The only other thing 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:25.480 I want to say on this and just to expand 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:28.920 or what you just said, Britt, is like absolutely, relationships 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:32.280 can be situational, and when something fundamentally changes i e. 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:36.000 Finishing UNI and everything in your life shifts, it can 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:40.199 really highlight the huge differences that you guys have or 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:43.000 the huge differences in personality that maybe were masked because 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:44.720 you were both doing the same thing and enjoying the 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:47.840 same lifestyle. So, like you said, you know, relationships have 0:13:48.040 --> 0:13:50.319 and not just like all relationships the same as friendships. 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:52.559 Some of them are for a reason, a season. 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:54.480 Or a lifetime, and there's this moment like think back, 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:56.840 I don't know what your situation was, Laura, when you 0:13:56.880 --> 0:14:00.360 finish university, but there is this moment in time when 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:03.880 you finish UNI and there's this realization of some people 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:06.600 have Okay, I finally can go and earn money, and 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:08.600 I can be professional and I can do all these 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:10.120 things I've wanted to do because money is going to 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.000 allow me to do this and this and this, and 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:14.439 they're really excited to knuckle down and progress their career. 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:16.960 But then there's this moment of like, this could be 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:20.400 the last moment of my entire life that I don't 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:24.680 have this freedom and this youth and this stress free life. 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:27.280 In a way, there's a moment that some people don't 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:29.960 transition as easily. So maybe he's just having some trouble 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.280 accepting that that stage of his life is over and 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:34.520 he's got a whole bunch more responsibility now, And you 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:36.280 can't sleep in the second he goes and gets a 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:38.960 real job. Those sleeping until twelve o'clock are gone totally. 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:40.960 And you know what, Neither of these things are right 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.560 or wrong, Like, neither of these things are better or worse. 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:45.360 It's just that it's the same for like coming out 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.440 of school, coming out of university, coming out of like 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:51.600 big career changes. It's like any one of these huge 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:55.360 shifts in life. Some people adapt to change really quickly 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:56.480 and easily. 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:57.200 And some people don't. 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:59.800 And some people will take on extra courses at UNIQ 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:02.320 becase they're not ready to leave that lifestyle yet or 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.120 to figure out what the hell they're going to do. 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.720 All of it is absolutely okay, and the whole spectrum 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.440 of it is like, there's nothing wrong with it as 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:13.160 long as it works for both of you, one hundred percent. Okay, 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:14.640 let's get into today's questions. 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:18.080 We've got a different kind of question to kickstart today. 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:20.880 That's good, and I've actually got two questions that tie 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:23.720 into the same sort of vibe. We haven't answered something 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:26.720 like this before. Girls, one of my best friends does 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:29.840 makeup on the side as a little side hustle. This weekend, 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:31.840 we have a wedding coming up with a big group 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:33.960 of our friends. I asked her if she could do 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:36.680 my makeup for it, but we didn't discuss a cost. 0:15:37.000 --> 0:15:39.560 Silly me assumed she would do it for free, as 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:41.600 we are best friends and I wouldn't charge your best 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:44.320 friend for that. As a maximum, I would charge someone 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:47.120 for the products. I would expect this, as of course 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:50.080 the products cost money. I was very taken aback when 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:52.760 she asked me to bring seventy dollars cash when I come. 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:55.520 I think I was so taken aback because I wouldn't 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:57.400 have asked a friend for money to do their makeup. 0:15:57.680 --> 0:16:00.080 I tried to say, I don't want lashes hope it 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:02.360 would be a little bit cheaper, but she said nope, 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:04.720 she usually charges ninety dollars and that she can't do 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.320 it for free as the products cost money. I totally 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:10.000 understand this, but I just wasn't expecting to be stung 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:14.000 seventy dollars. Am I being stingy? Or is this a 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:17.000 bit steep to be doing a friends makeup? I ended 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:20.480 up very awkwardly canceling, as I'd rather spend the money 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:23.760 to get my makeup done for a bigger event. What 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:26.600 are your thoughts, doun done dumb? Okay? 0:16:26.800 --> 0:16:31.640 I have some feeling I think, and like this is 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:33.240 probably going to come off as a bit harsh, but 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:36.360 I think it is very unreasonable to ask your friend 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.720 to do something with the expectation that they're going to 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:41.080 do it for free, regardless of whether they're a best 0:16:41.080 --> 0:16:44.080 friend or not. If that's their job, if you're asking 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:47.880 them to work for free, I think, like it's a 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:50.320 side hustle. Yeah, well, I mean it's still their job, right, 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:53.040 it's still how they make income. I think, yes, it 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:55.400 would be nice if they did. And obviously it's nice 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:58.280 that she offered a discount, which she has offered a discount. 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:01.160 But you can't ask for some thing with the expectation 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.800 that it's free, regardless of who the person is, regardless 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:05.080 of whether it's your best friend or not. 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:08.240 I agree. I think this is a tricky one, and 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:12.639 you said it yourself. You can't always expect people to 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:15.000 have the same ideas as you and opinions and you 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:19.640 and behave like you do. That's that's unrealistic. I agree 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:21.720 with Laura. I think you can never have an expectation 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:24.760 from anyone that you know, friends or strangers, that somebody 0:17:24.840 --> 0:17:26.919 is going to do something for free. So even with 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:30.000 my friends, I've been in situations like that before. I 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:32.200 always and I've had friends that would do a lot 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:33.280 for me for free, and I do a lot for 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:35.040 them for free. But I always go into that with 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.240 the expectation that it's not for free. I always go 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:38.679 in and say, let me know the cost of this, 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:41.920