WEBVTT - Froomy Tricked Flex In The Biggest Stitch Up Ever ✨🔮 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:07.320 The Flex in Frooms Daily Podcast, brought to you by Cana. 0:00:08.000 --> 0:00:10.600 Hello everybody, this feels actually quite intimate to be speaking 0:00:10.600 --> 0:00:13.240 into the microphone when I know what's about to come up. 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:17.560 Today's podcast was going to be about love languages. We 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:21.759 do get this in parts slightly, but there was a 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:24.960 bit of a supernatural experience that happened to me on 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:27.520 this day, so we actually had to veer down more 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:30.280 into that territory. Perhaps tomorrow on the podcast or next 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:33.560 week we will go more into detail on the seven 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:37.120 love languages. So this is just my upfront apology. This 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:39.280 is a bench you're on his own, and that's the 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:42.560 only apology you'll hear from me this month, So enjoy. 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:44.600 Flex and Frooms. 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:49.280 I feel like it's my duty to bestow upon you 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:51.640 the information. Are you trying to record me? 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:53.279 Well? 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:57.320 A camera pointed at me. Do you know those creepy 0:00:57.320 --> 0:00:58.000 men on the train? 0:00:58.080 --> 0:00:58.960 What are you doing? 0:00:59.320 --> 0:00:59.920 It was a mistake. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:03.720 Drooms had her iPhone rested delicately at her hit bone 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:05.480 camera eyeline with my face. 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:07.520 Isn't it funny, you know when someone's recording you? 0:01:07.560 --> 0:01:11.119 But nah, that's what someone who wasn't recording me would say. 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:15.120 But I think it's really important to not gate keep information. 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:17.040 I think that a lot of us don't take into 0:01:17.080 --> 0:01:20.040 consideration how powerful it is to share what we know 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:22.480 when we know it. I think we can make the 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:24.680 assumption that, like, we just all know the same things 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:30.840 about everything, and those like my souls who are always 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:34.760 consuming information very isolating. I'm glad to share. If you 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:38.640 come across the term energy vampire, yes, what is it? 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:39.280 In your opinion? 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:42.440 Someone who sucks energy out of you whenever you see them? 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:44.479 Mm hmm, anything else? 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:47.440 Yeah, just someone that you wouldn't necessarily want to hang 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.440 around with. Hectic, right, and they often don't realize that 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:51.040 they're doing it. 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:54.120 There we go ding ding ding ding ding. So an 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:58.480 energy vampire is something that most people should be aware of. 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:01.600 I've said it before. I improve my mind body connection, 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:05.120 take stock of how I feel after interacting with certain people, 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:10.000 because as like a extrovert, probably by nurture, not by nature. 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:12.960 Before you know, I'm surrounded by people who just suck 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:15.079 the life out of me, and then I'm left just like. 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:17.600 Just the bones, like like the pulp of the mango 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:19.880 that little like mats all suck exactly. 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:25.040 So basically, energy vampires leave you feeling really drained after 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:29.640 every conversation. They always want your non stop attention. People 0:02:29.639 --> 0:02:32.320 that require a lot of maybe like a lot of 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:35.000 focus from you, require like everything that you have to 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:38.200 give at any given point. They want the conversation to 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:42.239 be about them. They can be really charming or charismatic 0:02:42.360 --> 0:02:45.040 or worthy interaction. It's not just like some weirdo who 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:47.760 you're like, there's nothing about this person that's redeeming. They 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:53.920 might be quite likable people, but ultimately it is every 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:57.120 interaction you have with them is for their benefit and 0:02:57.200 --> 0:03:02.560 for how you can bolster them self perception, their emotions, 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:06.960 their feelings, their situations. And it's interesting because I've known 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:09.520 about energy vampires for a long while. I'm the kind 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:11.639 of person I don't do a hard cut off for people. 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:14.280 I just wean them off me by just ignoring them, 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:17.240 because I used to be the hard cut and dry 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:21.360 person without taking into consideration that people don't accept a 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:23.639 hard cut off. Like you can say to someone, hey, 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:25.520 I just really want to hang out with you anymore, 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.920 say lovey so long? And then they're like but why, 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:31.359 and like but what if? And I can change It's like, 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:33.480 well this is too much. This is a me problem, 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.040 not a you problem. Let me go. But I recognized 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:38.720 I had an energy vampire in my life, and only 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:42.720 because I have been actively trying to avoid them, like 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:45.920 going out of my way to like screen their call, 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:49.960 say no to hanging out, because it is actually an 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:52.480 out of body experience to deal with someone who is 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:55.560 so self absorbed that they won't leave you alone. How 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:55.880 did you? 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:57.760 Is the person going to hear this? 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:01.600 Maybe, but I feel like we've talked about this before, 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:03.040 where it's like, if you think it's about you, it 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:03.600 probably is. 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:08.480 Every anxious person ever is absolutely freaking out. 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:13.840 But like whom like, I feel as though being an 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:16.120 outgoing person anyway, what I need to be mindful of 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:19.880 is managing people's expectations of my relationship with them. And 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:21.520 I never used to do that before. I would just 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:23.480 let people like run wild, be like, oh, I'm gonna 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:26.640 hang out. But I recognized I had an energy vampire friend, 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:29.480 and it honestly put me in like a paralytic state 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:31.479 because I was like, oh, my goodness, I don't want 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:35.040 to cut them off because they're emotionally fragile and mentally fragile, 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:37.640 but also I can't deal with them like you're stressing 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:40.880 me out. So I don't have a solution. But here's 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:42.640 a wake up call for anyone else as a fellow 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:46.359 energy vampire. If you've got any tools, any tips, tricks 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:48.400 of the trade, let me know. And this is coming 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:51.919 from someone who is conflict positive but also recognizing that 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:55.520 people are much more fragile than I realize. And it's 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:59.040 almost not helpful to burden someone with the reality that 0:04:59.080 --> 0:04:59.960 they're burdensome too. 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:04.040 A lot of people can't take that. So yeah, it's 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:06.320 kind of like the soft ghost of friendships. Yeah, well, 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:09.440 anyone else in your life that's vampire. 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:13.840 Mmmm, leave vampires. 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:17.320 This is flex and frooms on kit FLEXI. 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:18.839 When was the last time you went and bought chocolate 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:21.160 from the shops? 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.919 Not recently? Not a big chocolate eater? What mo lollygo? 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:30.680 Oh okay, what we last lollies? The oh Alan's just released. 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:34.160 You know, Frogs like traditional red frogs, but they have 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:38.120 sour versions, so they're coated with sour flavoring. I think 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:41.120 they're really nice. Most people that I recommend them to 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.960 feel like they're really gross. I think the flavors don't 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:45.839 make sense to people, like really sweet. And then a 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:52.240 kick us out that and then after that killer pythons cool. 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:55.640 I once ate two killer pythons in a row and 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:57.040 I got a headache. I've just never been up to 0:05:57.080 --> 0:05:58.359 eat them again. I respect that. 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:02.040 Anyway. I was in the lolly aisle last week, What 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:03.800 are you going for? I was going up to a 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:06.800 girlfriend's house, so I wanted two blocks of Cadbury. I 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:09.039 got fruit and nut and then also the marble with 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:09.799 a Cara milk. 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:10.880 Fruit and nut. 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:12.960 Yeah. Just that's like when you want to be a 0:06:12.960 --> 0:06:14.120 bit healthy. Oh. 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:16.200 I thought fruit and nut was the equivalent of gifting 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:19.960 people handlation and candles for their birthday, but not like 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:23.359 the bougie kind, like the kit you know, like the 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:27.920 little party pack version is that twenty bucks for the three? 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.560 You don't know someone will even to give them something secret, 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:33.039 Sanna go on. 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:36.440 It's a secret Sanda of all chocolates. Anyway, standing there, 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:38.800 the SuperM got I go to is very small, so 0:06:38.800 --> 0:06:41.800 it's very very narrow aisles, and there's this two men 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:45.080 standing side beside me. We're all kind of loitering, and 0:06:45.160 --> 0:06:46.680 I was just watching them look to try and get 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:49.240 their chocolate, and I thought, this is so intimate these 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:50.080 two cool because. 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.240 You were standing so close, so close to each other, or. 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:56.080 No, it was something different. It's kind of like, I 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:58.560 feel very close to you. You standing here like a 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:01.520 little child trying to pick out what your favorite Chucky is. 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:04.799 And so I made this TikTok. I'll play the audio 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:06.360 and then i'll play what I wrote. 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:08.920 It's like explaining a joke. Weird, tricky one, isn't it? 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:13.000 I my god, kis you want to me me? And 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:16.000 they don't casket cat, I'll. 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:16.920 Come on, yes you do. 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:19.360 I'm ever might not put it down. You can have it. 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:26.240 So the audio is from CHERYLN. Barnes, who's this YouTuber. 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:29.200 But basically I wrote, I love watching men choose their 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.920 favorite Chucky in the loy Isle. It's so raw and vulnerable. 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:34.960 What we little baba choose a Weiriker moment or perhaps 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:38.480 a family sized caramel KitKat a Smarties Block two fifty G. 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:43.600 Either way, I'm feeling emotional at the sight. Forty thousand likes. 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:45.000 Yeah, they like that one. 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:48.240 So this resonated and people were saying. 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:52.160 It was controversial. I thought it was only going to 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:55.560 be received. It's just funny. It was funny, great audio, 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:59.800 great clip, great little caption, A masterful TikTok. I really 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:02.680 liked one, Thank you very much. I laughed out loud, Oh, 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:04.600 we don't do that in twenty twenty two. TikTok twenty 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:06.880 twenty TikTok definitely twenty twenty two. It's rare. 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:08.960 Well, here's some of the comments. This is what people 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:12.239 feel about this. Why is it sweet when they literally 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.520 do the simplest things a ha ha ha, like oh, 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.880 he's sitting on the floor tying his little shoelaces. And 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.600 then someone wrote, because it's nice to see them not 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:27.200 violent always. And then someone said it's a shame that 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:29.800 the stigma against men is like that when the majority 0:08:29.840 --> 0:08:32.000 of them are just choosing their favor jockey bar, you know. 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:34.520 Someone said this is the opposite of vick. 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.719 How do we get here? Keep going with I love 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:41.480 hearing these all comments. This is why I don't linger. 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:44.040 I walk down the aisle, place my foot down and. 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:47.120 Pick a chocolate. As soon as my heel turns, I'm gone, 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:50.079 just action, no thought to not be ogalled by women 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:56.160 literally sorry haha. It's like us women picking what insignificant 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:58.240 issue to ruin a day over. That's when I said 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:01.320 enough of the comments, had enough. This was a safe 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:05.360 space and you've absolutely ruined it. But yeah, that's my 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:08.520 little TikTok, And think about it next time. I'd say, 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:12.600 bring your boyfriend or your partner that is maybe considers 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:13.480 himself to be a boy. 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:15.600 What do you think it is about them? Like, you've 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:20.160 made the TikTok, but you have not explained what informed 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.560 the joke. I'll give you thirty seconds. We are on 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:23.280 a time crunch. 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:27.880 I think it's funny because you think of a little 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:29.959 kid in a candy store and the idea that you're 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:32.400 sitting there or you're standing there looking at all these 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:34.880 different choices. Obviously, when they're looking at the different choices, 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:37.680 they're imagining in their head, Oh I'm going to eat 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:39.800 what's this one going to taste? Like? Like, Oh, I'm 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:40.840 going to go home and eat this? 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:43.959 Like but just for men? Yeah, women don't. 0:09:44.160 --> 0:09:46.800 No, I don't feel it for women. Something about men. 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:50.760 Maybe it's it's like an old school thing because when 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:56.319 men didn't shop like a bygone era. Yeah, my dad 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:57.199 doesn't know how to shop. 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:00.520 This is flex and frooms O miss for me. 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:02.480 You're familiar with the five love languages, aren't. 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:06.960 You, gifts, affection, tell me them again. 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:14.120 Gifts, treating them nice. The five Love Languages were developed 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:18.400 by this dude called Gary Chapman, essentially an approach to 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:24.199 maintaining harmonious romantic relationships by identifying how your partner wants 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:27.400 to be loved and how you comfortably show love right, 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:30.240 because what ends up happening a lot of dynamics is 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.880 that people are like, oh my god, of course they 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:36.160 know I love them. I always cook, And then the 0:10:36.160 --> 0:10:38.080 other ones like, of course they know I love them. 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:40.800 I always watch TV with them, and you're like, what 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:44.000 that doesn't work for me. So the five Love Languages 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:46.720 have been referenced all across the Internet for a bajillion years. 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:51.480 They are words affirmation, which is compliments, saying nice things, 0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:56.000 acknowledging when someone's done something good. You know, there's receiving 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:59.560 gifts or giving gifts. We know what that is. Physical touch, 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:04.480 which which is also non sexual touching, hugging, caressing, that 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:08.960 kind of stuff. There's quality time, which is spending time 0:11:09.200 --> 0:11:12.440 with one another intentionally to do stuff together. And then 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:15.360 there's also acts of service, which is doing stuff for 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:19.080 your partner, making their lives easier by taking on some 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:20.400 of that load for them. 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:21.959 Do you know what your. 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:24.280 Love language is or better yet, do you have a 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:27.120 preference of how you like to show love versus how 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:29.640 you like to receive love. 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:33.640 I like to be touched, you do, Yeah. 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:35.880 I do? Hit through me with you know, a weekly 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:39.520 neck massage. Get right in there, squeeze the back of 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:39.880 the necks. 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:42.280 She loves that delicious pull down the bit behind my 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:47.400 ears is my cat trace. I like physical touch, and 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:51.440 I like getting gifts, and I like being told that 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:54.520 I'm good. And I probably would give words of affirmation 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:55.880 as my thing that I give. 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:58.000 Why don't you give the others? 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:03.720 I don't not interested in acts service, really, I don't 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:05.200 have time for that. I just want to be the 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:08.000 fun one. You get little kisses and a nice word, 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:10.600 and then we go and get someone else to do everything. 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:12.920 Sounds like a babysitting. You get little kisses and a 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:15.480 nice word, you know, we head out. Yeah that's pretty fair. 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:19.040 I'm like a words affirmation ye person, but only because 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:21.200 that's very easy for me to do. And people are 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:26.280 compliments starved, let me tell you. And people should be validating. 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:31.320 But I prefer acts of service. I'm big on that. 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:33.720 But I was raised in an acts of service family, 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:38.080 so you know, I'm used to being treated like a 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:41.079 little princess. Think about it. I was raised in a 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:44.319 household what I was always called princess and boss? What 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.040 do you think that did to me? Are you actually 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:50.960 my mum called me boss, she called me princess, My 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:51.959 brothers call me boss. 0:12:53.840 --> 0:12:54.880 It all makes sense. 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:56.440 It makes so much sense. 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:57.120 Wow. 0:12:57.320 --> 0:13:00.480 Receiving gifts, which is a very interesting one that one 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:02.959 gets a bad rap and was like, it's so superficial, 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:06.360 quite sweet, receiving just getting a little. 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:06.960 Box of shoes. 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.760 Yeah, if it's a thoughtful gift, that's, you know, right 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:11.160 on the money. I'm like more of this. 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:13.400 When you got me the Shrek croc tublets? 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:13.840 Yeah? 0:13:14.040 --> 0:13:16.360 Whoa exercise of slutter. 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:21.040 The fact that there are seven love languages affirms that 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:23.679 there's so much to get wrong about love, Like why 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:26.280 are we making up new rules this far into civilization? 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:29.040 I feel like we should have gotten them down pat 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:31.440 by now. But it's not made by the same guy, 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:35.400 Gary Chapman. This was made by this person called Molly Owens, 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:40.440 who definitely said she leaned on Gary for like the theory, 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:44.040 but decided that her approach to love languages tast into 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:47.960 consideration that gender norms have changed, and so our expectations 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:53.480 of romance has changed as well. In particular, like Chapman's 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:58.280 book talks a lot about like housework and when the 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:00.920 man comes home from work and the women's at home, 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.120 and these things just don't take into consideration that, like, 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:06.680 not all households like that. So, without further ado, here 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:11.800 are the seven love languages. The first is activity. I 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:14.640 was like, what does that mean? It means these people 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:17.800 feel special and valued when their partner actually takes interests 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:22.480 in their hobbies and activities. Appreciation These people feel loved 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:25.800 and adored when their partner shows them, showers them and compliments, 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:32.080 praises and appreciation. Emotional, these people feel like they can 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:35.040 connect with their partner and be supported through the toughest 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:38.640 of times. They feel very valued by someone who validates 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:43.080 their emotions. Financial, they feel loved when they have a 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:45.560 partner who is very generous with their money and sees 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:50.520 the value in giving, giving experiences, sharing resources, helping each 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:54.280 other make money. Intellectual, these people want to connect through 0:14:54.320 --> 0:14:59.520 the mind. They value opinions, difference in opinions, respecting opinions 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:05.760 healthy debate, open communication, thought for discussion. Physical these persons, 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:10.280 these people, these persons. These people feel really validated through 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:13.240 physical affection like hugs and holding hands. The last one 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:17.000 is practical. These people feel most loved when their partnership 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:23.040 in with everyday practical duties and responsibilities. A lot doesn't 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:25.120 really roll off the tongue at the five. Dude, this 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:26.520 feels like an essay. 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:28.280 Slam poetry. 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.400 Slam poetry. I was like, how am I meant to 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:30.920 remember these? 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.360 Okay? Okay, So one of my love languages, yeah, I'm 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:37.880 going to get your our messages up is sharing things 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.960 with partners. So I love being honest and like sharing 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:42.720 things about my life. I like it when you take 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:46.400 an active interest in my activities, and so we often talk. 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:48.600 This is a bit of like a segue that we 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:49.640 didn't think we were going to take. 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:52.600 But I didn't know we were taking this, so maybe 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:54.720 I did just holding onto the chair. Yeah, like we 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:55.960 let's go. 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:01.280 Okay, So we believe is a politiceist in our studio. 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:04.440 There's some sort of ghost like creature that lives among 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.920 us as we record and friend, Yeah, I just went 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.920 to the toilet before, and it's a stinky toilet. 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:14.000 We don't really need to pipes in this toilet. They 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:18.320 just feel like, whatever the wherever the feces are meant 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:20.320 to go, they've not been emptied out. 0:16:20.800 --> 0:16:25.040 The cater family dropping heat in the cubicles, now please. 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:28.800 I actually recorded the craziest sound that I heard. I 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:32.560 sent it to your phone. I was literally freaking out. 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:36.920 You go to make sure it's on the microphone. 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:55.640 Is that you pooling? Can I tell you? With the 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:58.760 way that this bit was set up, I have to 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:01.560 commend you because we were just out there. For me 0:17:02.000 --> 0:17:05.680 runs into the common area. She's like, oh my goodness, 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:08.760 something happened to me in those bathrooms. Did you did 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:09.879 you see what I said? Did you hear what I 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:12.159 said you? I was like, nah, babe, I didn't. My 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:15.120 phone's over there. It's like, oh my god, we have 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:17.840 to talk about it. I had an experience with the poltergeist. 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:20.160 I was like, okay, cool, we'll talk about it. No stress. 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:24.840 We get here. We're trying to have a civil conversation 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:31.240 about love languages using decorum and a wide vocab, and 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:35.199 three me derails that conversation. So we can listen to 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:37.040 a voice from you doing what. 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:38.720 I don't nothing. 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:44.520 It was a little anyway, or was it? It was airy? 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:45.119 It was liquid. 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:48.120 I told you in the previous break we were talking 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:49.800 about having a saw ummy. 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:51.119 You did, you said you were curdling. 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:52.520 I know what we're going to do, fart in the 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:56.520 studio because my love is being thoughtful and considerate. 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:09.760 It's the second one that's especially grows ill. You're a 0:18:09.760 --> 0:18:16.680 feral beast, but I love this makes you so stoked. 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:19.600 I want to relate because these feel like this is 0:18:19.720 --> 0:18:22.919 joy radiating, radiating out of you. This is not like 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:24.760 casual like that was funny. 0:18:25.800 --> 0:18:28.720 Okay, it's enough. 0:18:28.880 --> 0:18:30.879 Do you want to talk us through your setup? Okay? 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:34.920 Some what like in between us eating doughnuts, you have 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:39.640 a curdling stomach then running to the bathroom. At what 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:41.879 point did you think I'm gonna record this? 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:44.840 Because I was sitting on the toilet and I went 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:46.520 to like, in between the breaks, you have to go 0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:48.400 do other work, you know, And I was gonna send 0:18:48.400 --> 0:18:51.320 a voice memo to a colleague of mine and you 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:55.840 can me pissing in it? Are you eat me? Like? 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:56.520 Oh got here? 0:18:56.920 --> 0:18:58.720 It's gonna make great materials. And I just pushed a 0:18:58.720 --> 0:19:02.040 little bit. Oh yeah, someone in the tank. Open up 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:03.919 our messages, hit the record. 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:06.080 But what was in the tank was that a far. 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:09.760 Why are you making me? Why are you humiliating me 0:19:09.920 --> 0:19:12.280 like this me humiliating you. 0:19:12.720 --> 0:19:14.560 This is self prescribed humiliation. 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:16.080 No, no, it was a little poo. 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:18.240 It was pooh. 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:23.080 It was like the middle of my guts, like at 0:19:23.160 --> 0:19:26.200 the core of my being. I can't believe you're making 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:28.400 me recall this. This is absolutely disgusting. 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:33.200 This is foul. Actually, this is set up. Now what 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:36.040 the social media this? 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:40.280 You're a savage beast. Let's get back to what we wanted. 0:19:40.320 --> 0:19:43.200 This is why we have to have a very interesting 0:19:43.200 --> 0:19:46.720 conversation about perception versus reality. Everyone thinks Rooms is a 0:19:46.720 --> 0:19:50.320 pretty delicate princess, and nobody think the most bush piggery 0:19:50.359 --> 0:19:55.000 of bush pigs. Ever, this is unprovoked bush piggery. This 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:59.240 is like premeditated bush piggery. I've never experienced this before 0:19:59.240 --> 0:19:59.880 in my life. 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:02.520 Listening to Flex and Frooms on Kada. 0:20:02.880 --> 0:20:05.520 Despite what you might think, we are not twins. 0:20:06.080 --> 0:20:07.320 Oh yeah, that's come up quite a bit. 0:20:07.600 --> 0:20:08.719 It's a weirly weird, isn't it. 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:10.639 I guess yeah, separated at birth. 0:20:11.280 --> 0:20:14.080 He would have thought you know, technically we could be 0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:15.240 we could have the same mother. 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:16.640 Yeah we could. 0:20:17.960 --> 0:20:21.640 We don't, but we could, and that's what matters anyway. 0:20:22.320 --> 0:20:25.800 In twenty thirteen, when Anaia Sportyas saw a YouTube video 0:20:25.840 --> 0:20:29.880 of Samantha Footman, who looked exactly like her, she Facebook 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:32.800 messaged her and discovered they were both adopted and born 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:37.159 on the same day. They were identical twins, separated at 0:20:37.160 --> 0:20:40.320 birth who'd found each other through happenstance. 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:44.359 And social media. That's awesome. Did I tell you about 0:20:44.359 --> 0:20:49.720 my cosmic twin? No? What? Why haven't I spoken about this? 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:55.200