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Speaker 1: We do this every week on our podcast Life Uncut
Speaker 1: podcast where we help you with your biggest problems. And
Speaker 1: today we have Tylia on the phone, who's having a
Speaker 1: bit of a problem with a lover or.
Speaker 2: An ex lover.
Speaker 1: Should I say Hi Tyler?
Speaker 2: Hi, Tyler?
Speaker 1: Hey, what's the situation?
Speaker 3: So my ex kids blocking me and unblocking me. The
Speaker 3: last time I was in Bali on a girl trip
Speaker 3: with my friends for my birthday. I've been blocked for
Speaker 3: about nine months this time probably the longest stay. And
Speaker 3: he unblocked me, sent me a message. We spoke for
Speaker 3: two days. FaceTime said he missed me and worke up
Speaker 3: blocked again?
Speaker 2: Who did not breaking up in this situation?
Speaker 3: He did, so he broke up with you, then he.
Speaker 2: Blocked you, and now he just unblocks you and reblocks
Speaker 2: you and messages you sporadically. Yeah, just oh nice?
Speaker 1: Is your question like? Is this has this confused you?
Speaker 2: Now? Like?
Speaker 1: Does he like me?
Speaker 2: What do I do, like, what's what?
Speaker 1: How's it made you feel?
Speaker 3: Yeah, when we first broke up, it was a lot
Speaker 3: of on and off blocking, back and forth.
Speaker 1: And then it's just nine months, so it's a lot ridiculous, you.
Speaker 3: Know, because just now that he came out of nowhere,
Speaker 3: we spoke so nicely for two days, had a nice FaceTime,
Speaker 3: and then I don't know what I did to get
Speaker 3: blocked together, Kylie, you'd be doing it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you did nothing to get blocked, and you have
Speaker 2: done nothing to receive like the hot and cold back
Speaker 2: and forth. It is so much more of a reflection
Speaker 2: of where he's at, and that is like he's lonely,
Speaker 2: he wants attention. It sounds like it's a validation thing
Speaker 2: as well. Maybe and he probably knew you were in Bali.
Speaker 2: He probably saw that you were having the time of
Speaker 2: your life, so then he felt a little bit jealous. Though.
Speaker 2: He'd reach out and then he was like oh no, no, no,
Speaker 2: I'm good and then blocked again, Like you need to
Speaker 2: if he messages you ignore him.
Speaker 3: Does he block you on?
Speaker 1: Like everything you blocked on Instagram?
Speaker 3: And fine, everything I'm blocked on.
Speaker 1: G I'm sorry that I'm not laughing at you. I'm
Speaker 1: also not laughing with you, So okay, here's what you
Speaker 1: need to do. It's purely a control attention thing, like
Speaker 1: he has had the control from day one, since he
Speaker 1: broke up with you. He controls if you have contact,
Speaker 1: what you can see, when you can see it. I
Speaker 1: would just block him so that the next time he
Speaker 1: goes to contact you, he literally can't, and he will
Speaker 1: be the controls taken away from him. He'll have such
Speaker 1: a shock and like, you cannot waste another moment thinking
Speaker 1: about this idiot. And I hope no matter what happens
Speaker 1: in the future, you don't ever get back with him.
Speaker 1: Me too, Like, I don't know if that's brutal, but no,
Speaker 1: it's not brutal.
Speaker 2: I also think, like, I mean, even if he did
Speaker 2: turn around in a month's time and was like I've
Speaker 2: changed my mind and I love you again and I
Speaker 2: want to be with you, do you really want to
Speaker 2: be with someone who after nine months he has been
Speaker 2: like hot and cold and blocking you and unblocking you
Speaker 2: and like treating you in a disposable way, Like I
Speaker 2: just I think that, I mean, I wouldn't be giving
Speaker 2: it another chance, and I wouldn't be giving him the
Speaker 2: opportunity to try and weasel his way back in again.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, definitely only poor thing.
Speaker 1: But you're better than that. I even have to know
Speaker 1: you to know you better than that.
Speaker 3: He's a weezy.
Speaker 2: We actually don't know this guy. He could actually be fine.
Speaker 2: I have one question, though, why do you reply? Why? Like?
Speaker 2: What is it about him? When he unblocks you and
Speaker 2: messages you like? Why are you facetiming what's going on?
Speaker 3: I just got one of those ones that has a
Speaker 3: bit of a hold over me.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Everyone I've dated since just hasn't quite compared, unfortunately, and
Speaker 3: I think because we had quite a messy breakup, hence
Speaker 3: the Gmail blocking. I kind of just want to read
Speaker 3: these good books again. I don't want him to think
Speaker 3: I'm the crazy one.
Speaker 1: No, don't. I mean, I really hate this. I hate
Speaker 1: that you're still thinking about it and trying to get back.
Speaker 2: In his book.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: Now, I'm curious as to what you said on Gmail.
Speaker 3: A hundred messages?
Speaker 2: What abuse did you send him in like the absolute
Speaker 2: depths of crazy.
Speaker 1: I'm assuming that he blocked you on Instagram and your phone,
Speaker 1: so then you email correct, which is okay because there's
Speaker 1: nothing worse than like really desperately wanting to get some
Speaker 1: closure and you're not being able to get it, so like,
Speaker 1: I'm on your side for that, but you need to
Speaker 1: let dead dogs lie. You need to move on. He's
Speaker 1: in your past and you need to find whatever else
Speaker 1: is out there for you. It's not going to come
Speaker 1: to you while you were hanging on to this twats.
Speaker 3: Nothing is crossed, blocked, uncrossed.
Speaker 2: Your fingers and go on blocking.
Speaker 3: Thanks Taarlia