WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT: "My ex keeps blocking and unblocking me, just to tell me he misses me?"

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<v Speaker 1>We do this every week on our podcast Life Uncut

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<v Speaker 1>podcast where we help you with your biggest problems. And

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<v Speaker 1>today we have Tylia on the phone, who's having a

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<v Speaker 1>bit of a problem with a lover or.

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<v Speaker 2>An ex lover.

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<v Speaker 1>Should I say Hi Tyler?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Tyler?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, what's the situation?

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<v Speaker 3>So my ex kids blocking me and unblocking me. The

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<v Speaker 3>last time I was in Bali on a girl trip

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<v Speaker 3>with my friends for my birthday. I've been blocked for

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<v Speaker 3>about nine months this time probably the longest stay. And

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<v Speaker 3>he unblocked me, sent me a message. We spoke for

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<v Speaker 3>two days. FaceTime said he missed me and worke up

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<v Speaker 3>blocked again?

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<v Speaker 2>Who did not breaking up in this situation?

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<v Speaker 3>He did, so he broke up with you, then he.

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<v Speaker 2>Blocked you, and now he just unblocks you and reblocks

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<v Speaker 2>you and messages you sporadically. Yeah, just oh nice?

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<v Speaker 1>Is your question like? Is this has this confused you?

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<v Speaker 2>Now? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Does he like me?

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<v Speaker 2>What do I do, like, what's what?

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<v Speaker 1>How's it made you feel?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, when we first broke up, it was a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of on and off blocking, back and forth.

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<v Speaker 1>And then it's just nine months, so it's a lot ridiculous, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, because just now that he came out of nowhere,

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<v Speaker 3>we spoke so nicely for two days, had a nice FaceTime,

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<v Speaker 3>and then I don't know what I did to get

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<v Speaker 3>blocked together, Kylie, you'd be doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you did nothing to get blocked, and you have

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<v Speaker 2>done nothing to receive like the hot and cold back

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<v Speaker 2>and forth. It is so much more of a reflection

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<v Speaker 2>of where he's at, and that is like he's lonely,

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<v Speaker 2>he wants attention. It sounds like it's a validation thing

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<v Speaker 2>as well. Maybe and he probably knew you were in Bali.

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<v Speaker 2>He probably saw that you were having the time of

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<v Speaker 2>your life, so then he felt a little bit jealous. Though.

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<v Speaker 2>He'd reach out and then he was like oh no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm good and then blocked again, Like you need to

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<v Speaker 2>if he messages you ignore him.

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<v Speaker 3>Does he block you on?

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<v Speaker 1>Like everything you blocked on Instagram?

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<v Speaker 3>And fine, everything I'm blocked on.

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<v Speaker 1>G I'm sorry that I'm not laughing at you. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>also not laughing with you, So okay, here's what you

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<v Speaker 1>need to do. It's purely a control attention thing, like

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<v Speaker 1>he has had the control from day one, since he

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<v Speaker 1>broke up with you. He controls if you have contact,

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<v Speaker 1>what you can see, when you can see it. I

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<v Speaker 1>would just block him so that the next time he

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<v Speaker 1>goes to contact you, he literally can't, and he will

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<v Speaker 1>be the controls taken away from him. He'll have such

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<v Speaker 1>a shock and like, you cannot waste another moment thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about this idiot. And I hope no matter what happens

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<v Speaker 1>in the future, you don't ever get back with him.

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<v Speaker 1>Me too, Like, I don't know if that's brutal, but no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not brutal.

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<v Speaker 2>I also think, like, I mean, even if he did

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<v Speaker 2>turn around in a month's time and was like I've

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<v Speaker 2>changed my mind and I love you again and I

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<v Speaker 2>want to be with you, do you really want to

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<v Speaker 2>be with someone who after nine months he has been

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<v Speaker 2>like hot and cold and blocking you and unblocking you

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<v Speaker 2>and like treating you in a disposable way, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>just I think that, I mean, I wouldn't be giving

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<v Speaker 2>it another chance, and I wouldn't be giving him the

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<v Speaker 2>opportunity to try and weasel his way back in again.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, definitely only poor thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But you're better than that. I even have to know

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<v Speaker 1>you to know you better than that.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a weezy.

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<v Speaker 2>We actually don't know this guy. He could actually be fine.

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<v Speaker 2>I have one question, though, why do you reply? Why? Like?

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<v Speaker 2>What is it about him? When he unblocks you and

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<v Speaker 2>messages you like? Why are you facetiming what's going on?

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<v Speaker 3>I just got one of those ones that has a

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<v Speaker 3>bit of a hold over me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Everyone I've dated since just hasn't quite compared, unfortunately, and

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<v Speaker 3>I think because we had quite a messy breakup, hence

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<v Speaker 3>the Gmail blocking. I kind of just want to read

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<v Speaker 3>these good books again. I don't want him to think

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<v Speaker 3>I'm the crazy one.

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<v Speaker 1>No, don't. I mean, I really hate this. I hate

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<v Speaker 1>that you're still thinking about it and trying to get back.

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<v Speaker 2>In his book.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, I'm curious as to what you said on Gmail.

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<v Speaker 3>A hundred messages?

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<v Speaker 2>What abuse did you send him in like the absolute

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<v Speaker 2>depths of crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm assuming that he blocked you on Instagram and your phone,

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<v Speaker 1>so then you email correct, which is okay because there's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing worse than like really desperately wanting to get some

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<v Speaker 1>closure and you're not being able to get it, so like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on your side for that, but you need to

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<v Speaker 1>let dead dogs lie. You need to move on. He's

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<v Speaker 1>in your past and you need to find whatever else

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<v Speaker 1>is out there for you. It's not going to come

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<v Speaker 1>to you while you were hanging on to this twats.

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<v Speaker 3>Nothing is crossed, blocked, uncrossed.

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<v Speaker 2>Your fingers and go on blocking.

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<v Speaker 3>Thanks Taarlia