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Speaker 3: You're taking it a fet further. How so it's very
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Speaker 2: You hate my people, my brethren. Today we're talking about
Speaker 2: deep conversations. I was on TikTok as I always am,
Speaker 2: and I came across the TikTok, which helps you facilitate
Speaker 2: deeper questions, and I thought to myself, that is one
Speaker 2: way to.
Speaker 4: Connect with my girl Flex.
Speaker 2: She loves to have deep conversations, and so I brought
Speaker 2: some to the table.
Speaker 4: And I hope you like it. Yeah, we're so excited.
Speaker 1: Such a vibe Flex and Frooms.
Speaker 4: I was sick as in DOWG last week. What kind
Speaker 4: of sick were you? Hell? But not COVID? Do you
Speaker 4: get flues often?
Speaker 2: It was a flu kind of girly growing up sick girl. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I can't relate. God, bless many blessings, many blessings. I
Speaker 2: was staying at my sister's house while I was sick
Speaker 2: because she has a really nice, big double king bed.
Speaker 4: She was looking after you.
Speaker 2: Nah, we're just like sitting staying in bed. She was
Speaker 2: working on what's a topple king? Like a big big bed,
Speaker 2: just a king like a bed that is bigger in
Speaker 2: the width than is from the length.
Speaker 4: Oh, super king, yes, big wit.
Speaker 2: Which my new thing in life is one day I
Speaker 2: need to have a super king bed for myself.
Speaker 4: I do own one. You do have one? Do you
Speaker 4: know why I bought it? Though?
Speaker 3: I would have been fine with the king and me
Speaker 3: being the philanthropist, the virtuous girl that I am. When
Speaker 3: you date someone who's six foot four, you make accommodations.
Speaker 4: That was sweet of me. They don't want to see
Speaker 4: him be sweet. They don't want to see it. Anyway.
Speaker 2: We came across this show on Binge otherwise known as HBO,
Speaker 2: and the show is called The Baby. The premise is
Speaker 2: that it is a horror comedy. It's British, so you
Speaker 2: know it's gonna be good. You know it's gonna be
Speaker 2: real dark.
Speaker 3: See people say that, and I don't think I would
Speaker 3: anticipate watching a British show and thinking it's gonna be good.
Speaker 4: I think it's gonna be gray, green and gloomy. Yes see,
Speaker 4: I think that's good.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I think it lends for good acting, huh.
Speaker 4: And so this one is a horror comedy.
Speaker 2: It stars a woman called Michelle di Swart or Swalte,
Speaker 2: and she's this thirty something year old woman and basically
Speaker 2: like all of her friends are having babies and she's
Speaker 2: just not there yet. And then one day late, yeah,
Speaker 2: one day a baby falls off a cliff into her hands,
Speaker 2: and now she has said take care of the baby, obsessed.
Speaker 2: And then as she's going around people around, the baby
Speaker 2: keep dying. Ooh, turns out the baby is evil. Yeah,
Speaker 2: this baby's evil and it's following this woman around and
Speaker 2: she can't do anything.
Speaker 4: She has to take care of it or it will
Speaker 4: kill her. Oh, it chose her. And it was just
Speaker 4: a really good show. It was very very dark, more
Speaker 4: horror than comedy.
Speaker 3: Like is the the horror aspect just the fact that
Speaker 3: this baby is evil and the rest is like quite humorous.
Speaker 2: The horror aspect is like it's quite graphic, like a
Speaker 2: horror movie, right, you know, It's got graphic scenes and
Speaker 2: it deals with very dark themes. Essentially, I believe it's
Speaker 2: a parable for child wearing and women and the like
Speaker 2: effort that's required and how a lot of people, a
Speaker 2: lot of women like take all the responsibility for themselves. Like,
Speaker 2: the really interesting thing in the show is there's no
Speaker 2: men really in the show, Like, there's no there's no
Speaker 2: romantic interest.
Speaker 4: She doesn't have any interest tests, that's for sure. Oh,
Speaker 4: full on, full on.
Speaker 2: So Bechdel, besch deel, what is wrong with me? Bechdel Bechelle. Anyway,
Speaker 2: whatever test it is, it is passing it. It's really
Speaker 2: it's a really interesting, thought provoking thing while also being
Speaker 2: stylish like the chicken. It. I really like the main chick.
Speaker 2: She's really funny and has cool style. And so what
Speaker 2: do you think the moral of the story is in
Speaker 2: that show? For the people who have children, people who
Speaker 2: don't have children, what is the show telling us?
Speaker 4: In summary?
Speaker 2: In summary, it's saying that children want want want, want.
Speaker 4: Want, get a job. Kids.
Speaker 3: Literally, you're that crying. You want us to stay in life.
Speaker 3: Do what the rest of us do? Add value apecially.
Speaker 2: So I think the whole thing is there is at
Speaker 2: a point where you need to stop giving it so much.
Speaker 2: And that doesn't mean that you don't love it. Oh fact,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna read it that one.
Speaker 4: I'm not sure that's fascinating. I feel like I might
Speaker 4: watch it. I don't know. I'll report back. I think
Speaker 4: you'd like it.
Speaker 1: Flex and frooms FLEXI.
Speaker 2: I was up till two a and the other night
Speaker 2: on the talk getting to my little TikTok.
Speaker 4: Zones school night. Ah yeah wow, Thursday night.
Speaker 2: No rules here in firms world, And I came across
Speaker 2: this guy's TikTok who puts up conversation starters. Basically, he's
Speaker 2: like a philosophy kind of bro. Doesn't look very like insufferable,
Speaker 2: which we love. And he shared this little video of
Speaker 2: some conversation starters amazing, and I wanted to ask you them.
Speaker 4: You're gonna answer them too, Yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 2: This guy's account is at for your eyes, that's with
Speaker 2: the four underscore. So if you want to like share
Speaker 2: this with your friends, do a little conversation time. That's
Speaker 2: where you find them.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: Number one, if there was no afterlife, how would you
Speaker 2: change how you live.
Speaker 4: If there's no afterlife?
Speaker 3: Well, it is really important to know that if there
Speaker 3: was a heaven, I'd be going not because of merit,
Speaker 3: but I think that I could like network or something
Speaker 3: up there, and I could add a lot of value
Speaker 3: to the environment.
Speaker 4: Multi talented.
Speaker 3: If there's not, I mean, the afterlife is after living, right,
Speaker 3: So what am I going to do differently now?
Speaker 4: Nothing?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess this is probably more pertinent if you're religious.
Speaker 2: What would you do eat McDonald's every meal?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 2: What emotion are you the most comfortable experiencing?
Speaker 3: Kind of like a feral amount of joy that's really
Speaker 3: like like it's not not that deep seated, like I'm
Speaker 3: happy in my core, but like something silly made me laugh,
Speaker 3: or like I want to tell you this thing that
Speaker 3: doesn't really matter, but it makes me really excited.
Speaker 4: That is yeat zone. Yeah, yeat zone me too. That's good.
Speaker 4: That's an easy one.
Speaker 3: But I also think you have to like train your
Speaker 3: environment to humor you, because when I was younger, it
Speaker 3: used to make me so insecure.
Speaker 4: Everyone's like why is she still talking? No, Like it's
Speaker 4: like a really cool thing and like this is a
Speaker 4: tangent like like no, stop. Good to know some weaknesses
Speaker 4: in your prior life.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: The last one that I'll do is what's a physical
Speaker 2: feature about yourself that you really like?
Speaker 4: Got plenty?
Speaker 3: My ankles are so good, Like if you see me
Speaker 3: stand up in just like a regular it's a great ankle,
Speaker 3: and it's something about like the way the bones look something.
Speaker 4: They're really good.
Speaker 3: I have really good hands, like beautiful in all ways.
Speaker 3: And also alien hands. I can't explain it to you
Speaker 3: know why they're alien hands because you have to see
Speaker 3: them to know they have four lines and the flanges.
Speaker 3: I like my teeth, I like my cheeks. I like
Speaker 3: my wrists a lot. That's a big one.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: It's just like a body love exercise that I've done before.
Speaker 3: You You know how sometimes you know, you look at
Speaker 3: certain parts of your body like, oh, that's gross, but
Speaker 3: then some of the parts I'll just look during the
Speaker 3: day like that's a good there's a good mailbirds, bab.
Speaker 2: I've done a lot of body mod so it's hard
Speaker 2: for me to tell mod modifications.
Speaker 4: What do you mean my favorite parts is no, no, no
Speaker 4: no no no no no no. I've done a lot
Speaker 4: of body modu.
Speaker 2: Like, for example, I like the bit of my lip here,
Speaker 2: but I've had my lips done in the past, so
Speaker 2: they obviously claim that claim it say what's your favorite
Speaker 2: because a trying maker don't say what's your favorite from
Speaker 2: the womb body part?
Speaker 4: True?
Speaker 2: Okay, in that instance, I like this bit of my cheeks,
Speaker 2: and I like, what's this bit the top it.
Speaker 4: Near your eyes?
Speaker 2: I think I can have a nice bone structure in
Speaker 2: my face. Yeah, and that you can't necessarily, Oh you
Speaker 2: can fix it, fix it, you know, you can mod modify,
Speaker 2: get a chinam plant fillers haven't.
Speaker 4: Done under those. But yeah, it's my favorite bit. Shave
Speaker 4: of my head. Yay, the shape of your head? Yeah,
Speaker 4: in what way? Oh that's good one. Yeah. When I
Speaker 4: shave my head, the back of my head's you've got
Speaker 4: a really nice shave. Would you ever do it again? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Everyone should shave their head once. Just see what you're
Speaker 2: working with at the back there. You can always wear
Speaker 2: a hat.
Speaker 3: How comfortable would you be to ask just regular people
Speaker 3: these questions someone you didn't know that well, your colleague,
Speaker 3: your best friends, your parents.
Speaker 2: It's like people you see on TikTok that go up
Speaker 2: to people and ask like these questions.
Speaker 4: On the street. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I've cultivated quite like an open relationship with
Speaker 2: most of the people that I'm close to, so they
Speaker 2: know everything about me. Essentially, I don't keep many secrets,
Speaker 2: so I could ask them these things.
Speaker 4: What about you? Yeah? I can too.
Speaker 3: I think I used to be way more interested in asking,
Speaker 3: like everybody these questions strangers or whatever. But I don't
Speaker 3: think I was prepared for when the answers weren't interesting,
Speaker 3: or like, not only interesting, but I feel like I
Speaker 3: wasn't ever considerate that deep conversations could have deep answers
Speaker 3: that couldn't be moved on from.
Speaker 4: I remember when.
Speaker 3: I made my conversation card game Reflex, I was asked
Speaker 3: to do some vox pops at a festival. So go
Speaker 3: to a festival, ask some strangers some questions, and they're like,
Speaker 3: just pick some like light, easy going ons.
Speaker 4: It was like, get sick, you know.
Speaker 3: So I pulled out the five that I had in
Speaker 3: the deck and one of them was like, na, three
Speaker 3: things you like about yourself? And every time it got
Speaker 3: the worst reception I have ever experienced in my life.
Speaker 3: People grimacing, One girl cried, one guy got really really upset.
Speaker 4: Why would you ask that? I just couldn't fathom.
Speaker 3: I was like, of all the questions I could have asked,
Speaker 3: I was like, this is the bottom of the barrel,
Speaker 3: this is chill. So for me, I've recognized a lot
Speaker 3: of responsibility with not like forcing people into any kind
Speaker 3: of self reflection they don't want to have unless it's
Speaker 3: an environment where I can share first and make it
Speaker 3: like comfortable and safe. But I was just wreaking havoc
Speaker 3: and I was like, damn, three things you like about
Speaker 3: yourself and I've ruined your day at the Fezzy.
Speaker 4: Thrown him into another dimensionlessly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I think it's the hardest thing when
Speaker 2: it's boring, isn't it?
Speaker 3: With that in mind, let me when you traumatize someone inadvertently,
Speaker 3: is there someone that.
Speaker 4: Who in this world do you think you've hurt the most?
Speaker 4: Whoa who in this world have I hurt the most?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 3: Probably your ex boyfriends, right, I reckon, because that's like
Speaker 3: active hurt. I feel as though I don't think I
Speaker 3: would have hurt my friends that much in terms of.
Speaker 4: Like active like.
Speaker 3: Maybe in like a passive way, but like I think
Speaker 3: a breakup is a very hurtful thing to go through.
Speaker 4: And I'm a breakup rower.
Speaker 2: You're a breakup Erah yeah, every time that's a you
Speaker 2: need to see a therapist.
Speaker 4: I did, Well, we know why. Okay, that's why I
Speaker 4: don't date anxious avoidant.
Speaker 3: No avoidant avoidant, And also my task, not my task.
Speaker 3: The thing to focus on is I have control issues,
Speaker 3: So I just need to leave people alone.
Speaker 2: They're fixing to fix fix, ne're fixing, editing.
Speaker 3: But I also think that people need to leave me
Speaker 3: alone as well. In the same way, Like I'm constantly
Speaker 3: trying to not do things. I'm like, I don't feel
Speaker 3: comfortable doing that. That's my vibe, Like I just know
Speaker 3: how I am so like it goes both ways, like
Speaker 3: I need to not fix people and people need to
Speaker 3: respect me when I say no, not like, but you'd
Speaker 3: be so good at that, Like we'd be so good together.
Speaker 3: I'm like no, Like I'm telling you.
Speaker 4: I'm telling.
Speaker 2: You never have foresight, quite strong foresight on yourself.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Who have I hurt the most? You almost seem happy?
Speaker 2: Brook?
Speaker 4: Can you edit this out?
Speaker 2: Probably the same probably ex boyfriends. You hurt me a
Speaker 2: little bit, I'm gonna hurt you back ten times more.
Speaker 2: I'm a vengeful princess when it comes to relationships.
Speaker 4: How do you do it? Though?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 4: How does that work?
Speaker 2: My classic trick? Break up with me? I go silent forever?
Speaker 2: Oh you Like so I'm you you let me go,
Speaker 2: but I'm still gonna be the one that got away
Speaker 2: Eliah bait and switch.
Speaker 3: Yeah, how else does that manifest? Give me another example,
Speaker 3: what about when you're in a relationship and someone's hurt
Speaker 3: your feelings? How would you get back at them in
Speaker 3: your like ten times worse kind of way.
Speaker 2: It's very hard because my last relationship was like a
Speaker 2: year ago and that's probably my most adult one's.
Speaker 4: Saying you didn't do that, then do what that's called?
Speaker 4: Don't know? So no, I don't know.
Speaker 2: Probably like when I was younger, like go hang out
Speaker 2: with my friends and not invite them, like I think
Speaker 2: I would have hurt people's feelings not inviting them into
Speaker 2: my life, like I was very much one of those pieces. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I would very much integrate into their life, but I
Speaker 2: wouldn't invite them into my spaces. It's a power move that, yeah,
Speaker 2: can hurt someone's feelings. I think that's bold. Thanks for sharing.
Speaker 1: This is flex and frooms.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 3: I've been on the front lines my whole life. Uh okay, Now,
Speaker 3: I was just thinking about, like I've been reflect on
Speaker 3: being a teenager because I've forgotten most of it. But
Speaker 3: I do think I spent a lot of time trying
Speaker 3: to defend habits that I created out of nowhere, not
Speaker 3: because I felt like I couldn't change, but I just
Speaker 3: didn't like the criticism. So the picky eatering pickie eating
Speaker 3: was a habit. But now I'm reforming, And for a
Speaker 3: little while there I was trying to reform with being
Speaker 3: a night out. The average night for me, I'm sleeping
Speaker 3: at four am, and now that I have a real job,
Speaker 3: gonna be up at nine am yea, which is like late,
Speaker 3: you know, and then on the weekend I'm gonna.
Speaker 4: Try and sleep for twelve hours.
Speaker 2: So it's like going to bed at four am waking
Speaker 2: up at four pm.
Speaker 4: What do you mean you have a real job.
Speaker 3: A real job is in I have like responsibilities that
Speaker 3: like I can't keep bludging that affects other people. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so like while I could sleep till mid day, it's like, well,
Speaker 3: you've got four employees base, so what are they doing
Speaker 3: while you're sleeping. It's unfortunate, but you know, blessings nonetheless,
Speaker 3: But yeah, the thing about the sleeping thing, I won't
Speaker 3: get over. Like I could change, but I don't want
Speaker 3: to because I'm so sick of the anti night out propaganda.
Speaker 4: Here's my thing.
Speaker 3: People say you get up at five am, and you
Speaker 3: get so much done in a day. But it's like, no,
Speaker 3: you don't because you're tied by eight pm, so you've
Speaker 3: had fifteen hours awake. I'm doing the same thing. I'll
Speaker 3: get up at nine, go to bed at three am.
Speaker 3: It's the same day. We're having the same day. And
Speaker 3: my thing is I'm setting up my lifestyle in a
Speaker 3: way that that's fine. Like I think that the five
Speaker 3: Am Warriors, you know, it's like it suits your lifestyle.
Speaker 4: You gotta be in an office.
Speaker 3: At nine am, and you gotta get things done beforehand
Speaker 3: because you can't get them done afterwards. But I thought, like,
Speaker 3: in the way that some people are mourning people, where
Speaker 3: is the morning person slander?
Speaker 4: Nobody thinks mourning people are bumps? Right? You think it's
Speaker 4: easy to stay up late.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's easy to watch things when there's
Speaker 2: no sunlight streaming outside.
Speaker 4: I have to put the lamp on so my eyes
Speaker 4: don't get funny.
Speaker 3: But anyway, I have some research to justify my habits,
Speaker 3: which is also nice. I don't think that's the way
Speaker 3: you're meant to do it, But here we go.
Speaker 4: The night. Our syndrome.
Speaker 2: Is a sleep phase disorder. It is a genetic mutation.
Speaker 4: I can't help it.
Speaker 3: I would if I could, and I've tried, because people
Speaker 3: would ask me, what did you do when you work
Speaker 3: in an office? I suffered, Yeah, I suffered. I slept
Speaker 3: at four am, work up at seven and suffered. Anyway,
Speaker 3: people with this condition can't fall asleep until late at night,
Speaker 3: often after two am, and then struggle it up in
Speaker 3: the morning. You know how much effort it takes me
Speaker 3: not to be the annoying person to travel with getting
Speaker 3: up early when everything within my body is like please
Speaker 3: let me, let me, let us stay here. And then
Speaker 3: after finding out this fact, it took me to this
Speaker 3: other fact called bedtime procrastination. This is the psychological phenomenon
Speaker 3: when a person stays up too late in order to
Speaker 3: feel like they have some time to themselves.
Speaker 4: I always say this, I need to unwind.
Speaker 3: If that takes eight hours, I need to TikTok for
Speaker 3: three four hours. I need to read for four hours.
Speaker 3: I need to read it the book I was reading,
Speaker 3: just to make sure we're on the same page. And
Speaker 3: then if you're reading fantasy, I have to look at
Speaker 3: the glossary. I don't know what these words mean. So
Speaker 3: I say this all to say the shame needs to stop.
Speaker 4: I agree, shamy needs to stop. Thank you.
Speaker 2: When I was young, you try to stay up as
Speaker 2: lady as you can to watch Rove live. That would
Speaker 2: be considered procrusty bludging. I also think there's too much
Speaker 2: slander on junk food. Yeah, I do believe we are
Speaker 2: turning the page though, I'm becoming more accepting. I think
Speaker 2: we're starting to see holes in the healthies, wealth mindsets
Speaker 2: that dominated the twenty fifty twenty twenty era. H So, yeah,
Speaker 2: I look forward to our night all night ours that
Speaker 2: are subsisting on junk food having a revolution.
Speaker 4: My community mine too. Like I said, I've been on
Speaker 4: the front line to my whole life.
Speaker 2: I'm new to the game, but I'm willing to fight
Speaker 2: with you.
Speaker 4: Flex.
Speaker 1: This is Flex and Froomes on cat.
Speaker 2: FLEXI I came across this article, which I think you're
Speaker 2: gonna like. The title is the future is now one
Speaker 2: hundred year old predictions about twenty two. Yeah, it's so
Speaker 2: u so. Essentially, there was this English author called W. L.
Speaker 2: George and he was born in eighteen eighty two. He
Speaker 2: died in nineteen twenty six.
Speaker 4: Damn short life.
Speaker 2: So yeah, about a hundred years ago, and he was
Speaker 2: a visionary and he did this a prediction about twenty
Speaker 2: twenty two. Essentially, it was a full page article in
Speaker 2: the New York Herald. And here are some of his predictions.
Speaker 2: I suspect that commercial flying will have become entirely commonplace.
Speaker 2: The passenger steamer will survive on the coasts. What's that, Oh,
Speaker 2: passenger steam a boat on the coast, but it will
Speaker 2: have disappeared from the main routes. And there should be
Speaker 2: a distance of twelve hours between London and New York.
Speaker 2: Is there is there? Probably less? I'd say there's probably
Speaker 2: more like six.
Speaker 4: So King, he's on a roll, get it, King, He said,
Speaker 4: people of the.
Speaker 2: Year twenty twenty two will probably never see a wire
Speaker 2: outlined against the sky. It's bactically certain that the wireless
Speaker 2: telegraphy and wireless telephones will have crushed the cable system.
Speaker 3: So I need that, babe, cell phones. Oh, I thought
Speaker 3: he might like, I thought, I mean like telephone wires. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but get rid of those.
Speaker 2: I think I think telephone liars had other uses that
Speaker 2: we don't use them for anymore. So it's eight hours
Speaker 2: from New York to London. So man was close.
Speaker 4: I'm giving him.
Speaker 3: Fifty to fifty so far because I don't understand how
Speaker 3: far he's saying, so I can't confirm.
Speaker 2: He said, movies will have been will have become more attractive,
Speaker 2: and they will use natural colors and speak with ordinary voices.
Speaker 2: So obviously, back in nineteen twenty two it was like
Speaker 2: black and white, yeah, and.
Speaker 4: Maybe dubbed well Charlie Chaplin. There was like silent films.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: He said, many buildings will now stand as preserved, such
Speaker 2: as the Capitol at Washington. We're going to reserve preserved buildings.
Speaker 4: And then there are a few other ones that weren't
Speaker 4: quite right, so he act we should have led with those.
Speaker 4: We're giving you too much credit.
Speaker 2: So apparently he reckons that walls, furniture and hangings will
Speaker 2: we made more and more of paper mache bound with
Speaker 2: brass or taping along the edges, and when they get dirty,
Speaker 2: they'll peel them back, so instead of cleaning, you just
Speaker 2: peel the peel it off. It is conceivable, though not certain,
Speaker 2: that in twenty twenty two a complete meal maybe taken
Speaker 2: in the shape of four pills.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we would like that wouldn't.
Speaker 2: See what we wouldn't. I don't think that was ever
Speaker 2: gonna happen because eating is so young.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but where look at what the consequence of eating is.
Speaker 3: We eat cows, cows and the methane, the methane into
Speaker 3: the galaxy and then global warming.
Speaker 4: True. True.
Speaker 2: He also said divorce will become more commonplace. Women will work,
Speaker 2: and if he got that, yeah, come.
Speaker 4: On now through the little will work for me. I've
Speaker 4: never seen normal work in my Nobody wants to work anymore.
Speaker 2: He knew, he knew, Kim, So I thought that was
Speaker 2: pretty amazing. He did also think there's going to be
Speaker 2: like like bridges between skyscrapers in the sky, which wasn't
Speaker 2: quite right, but pretty incredible.
Speaker 3: Because I was thinking that he was predicting things that
Speaker 3: did not exist. But these were just expansions on existing ideas.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But to me, it's like if if we did so,
Speaker 2: for example, in our lifetime, when I was a kid,
Speaker 2: I couldn't have conceived there being an iPad or like
Speaker 2: a touchscreen phone. Yeah, so true, even in two thousand
Speaker 2: and five. What is this and it's got the Internet
Speaker 2: on it? Yeah, I'm saying, so I think it's pretty
Speaker 2: incredible to be able to conceive what's going to happen
Speaker 2: in thirty years time?
Speaker 4: And what was his name?
Speaker 2: mL Washington Sligh.
Speaker 1: You're listening to flex and frooms on Kita.
Speaker 4: Do we go to therapy? Yes? Not anymore?
Speaker 3: Oh, story for another day. Okay, I think I've taught
Speaker 3: it before, but we don't get into it.
Speaker 4: You haven't, but I think I have. What was it?
Speaker 4: I was beyond repair.
Speaker 3: I know that people say that you shouldn't like internalize
Speaker 3: therapy advice that you get on the internet that's made
Speaker 3: for ad audience, because therapy is for the individual experience,
Speaker 3: And the same way that people who like astrology say
Speaker 3: that horoscopes aren't helpful because they made for a broad audience,
Speaker 3: and you are so unique that it's not helpful to
Speaker 3: have this information.
Speaker 4: I don't care. I don't care. I'm still interested. I
Speaker 4: want to know.
Speaker 3: So there's this trend currently on TikTok that goes a
Speaker 3: little something like this things I will no longer do
Speaker 3: after becoming a insert professional here, after becoming an obg
Speaker 3: wayn after becoming a doctor, after becoming a lash technician.
Speaker 3: So this one was five things I would no longer
Speaker 3: do after becoming a psychologist. Juicy, Yes, okay, listen to this.
Speaker 5: Here are things that I wouldn't do since becoming a psychologist.
Speaker 5: Number One, any sarcastic joke made at my expense I
Speaker 5: no longer ignore, since I know that this is actually
Speaker 5: indication that this person has a problem with me but
Speaker 5: hasn't dealt with it. Maybe they're not aware of it,
Speaker 5: could be unconscious, but there's still something between the two
Speaker 5: of us that's problematic. I would never ignore my guts
Speaker 5: instinct if something doesn't feel quite right. I know now
Speaker 5: that there are more serotonin receptors in the gut system
Speaker 5: that there are in the brain. That's why the gut
Speaker 5: system is called the second brain. If I met someone
Speaker 5: with a history of aggression, I would not minimize the
Speaker 5: potential risk to me. The best predictor of dangerousness is
Speaker 5: a past history of violence. I would not give anyone
Speaker 5: under the age of high school a cell phone. The
Speaker 5: first exposure to pornography is at nine, and protophiles and
Speaker 5: predators use social media accounts of minors as a way
Speaker 5: to target and groom them. Yes, children need access to
Speaker 5: the Internet, but you can supervise a home computer. Not
Speaker 5: so much a cell phone hectic, there's a lot.
Speaker 3: I thought it was gonna be lat like I would
Speaker 3: never judge a book base cover.
Speaker 4: I said, bybe, we need a video per suggestion. I
Speaker 4: don't know what you're saying. That first one spun me
Speaker 4: for a loop.
Speaker 3: This psychologist on TikTok said that based on her practice,
Speaker 3: she would no longer accept people making sarcastic jokes about
Speaker 3: her because she feels like that illuminates that there's some
Speaker 3: kind of like deep rooted issue that needs to be discussed.
Speaker 4: And my thing is with that one.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, but like could that encourage someone
Speaker 3: to internalize everything that somebody says, like to over personalize it. So,
Speaker 3: for example, I'm being at dinner the other day and
Speaker 3: like the maitre d was reading out the specials and
Speaker 3: like for me, I'm new to like dining out and
Speaker 3: not being picky eater, So I don't know what these
Speaker 3: things are. I just go with the flow. Somebody was like,
Speaker 3: did you get that? Like did you get that? As
Speaker 3: in like you're a pickI eater? Do you know what
Speaker 3: she means when she says braise whatever, whatever whatever? And
Speaker 3: somebody else at the table got offended. On my behalf.
Speaker 3: They're like, she's trying, like, give her a second. I
Speaker 3: was like, it's not that deep, Like I can, I
Speaker 3: can understand where you're coming from. But if I'm gonna
Speaker 3: get offended every time somebody makes like a little quip,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna stay mad all the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And sometimes there is nothing to resolve, Like maybe
Speaker 2: the thing they're being psychastic about is something about you
Speaker 2: that you can't change. You might not want to change it.
Speaker 2: And it doesn't mean that they're beefing you. They're just
Speaker 2: pointing out the office seekers.
Speaker 4: Um, that one's sounded personal.
Speaker 2: I want to know my brain's doing that thing again,
Speaker 2: little where I'm picturing this place in Chadstone when I'm talking.
Speaker 4: It's really annoying me. Wait, we've got to explain the thing.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I have a thing called synesthesia. Well that's
Speaker 2: self diagnosed quite like our psychologists. Yeah, where you're talking
Speaker 2: about one thing, or like you see one person and
Speaker 2: you see a color, you see something that's not logically
Speaker 2: correlated to that person.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you interpret words in your brain as places, colors,
Speaker 3: sounds that are not obviously connected to that place. So
Speaker 3: I'm talking about this picky eater experience and Frooms in
Speaker 3: her head for no foreseeable reason. Is picturing a place.
Speaker 2: Yes and before In one of our episodes last week,
Speaker 2: I was picturing the Glen the whole time, which is
Speaker 2: a shopping center in Australia.
Speaker 4: When I say I'm talking to Frooms, I see your
Speaker 4: eyes glaze over. Because she's picturing places. I might help
Speaker 4: her interpret the message in a different dimension. I'm not there.
Speaker 2: No, I can't think of any things like I said
Speaker 2: that someone said to me recently. But I think you
Speaker 2: shouldn't take that on board. I think what was her
Speaker 2: last point.
Speaker 3: She said that she doesn't think that people below high
Speaker 3: school age should have access to phones because based on
Speaker 3: the study that nine year olds have like nine years
Speaker 3: is like the median age when people first access pornography,
Speaker 3: and that they are child predators and it's just an
Speaker 3: unsafe place and it's better as a parent that you
Speaker 3: can monitor them on like a home computer.
Speaker 4: Okay, this is a contentious point. Let it out.
Speaker 2: So if you don't give your kid a phone, they're
Speaker 2: most likely not going to be like in the little
Speaker 2: group chats, little snapchat chats with their friends, like they're
Speaker 2: not cultivating a friendship group to take them from primary
Speaker 2: school to high school, which is a tumultuous period.
Speaker 4: They could be very traumatic, so it's worth the potential. Yes, yep.
Speaker 2: However, I have been watching other tiktoks that are about
Speaker 2: child grooming and other things, and it's like, very much
Speaker 2: if I was an adult with a child, I might
Speaker 2: be doing the home computer run.
Speaker 4: Oh so you're agreeing with her? Well I don't. I'm
Speaker 4: not sure. I see both sides. Yeah.
Speaker 2: True, it's like, do you want your child to be
Speaker 2: in danger or do you want your child to have
Speaker 2: a loser?
Speaker 3: You can only have one big questions, you know. We
Speaker 3: asked the big questions. Look, I'm still processing. I will
Speaker 3: say that was overall good advice where we apply them,
Speaker 3: I'm not sure. Yeah, I think it's a good conversational
Speaker 3: photo at the very least.
Speaker 4: Absolutely.
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