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Speaker 1: Jersey and Amanda jam Nation. I saw something yesterday that

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Speaker 1: I reckon Brendan, you will think is funny and probably

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Speaker 1: I remember you telling a similar story about yourself. This

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Speaker 1: woman has shared a text she got from her husband

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Speaker 1: on social media. Her partner has texted her she said,

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Speaker 1: our wedding is two months away, and he's texted hers

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Speaker 1: saying what time is our wedding? And the poster has

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Speaker 1: divided audiences, some finding it amusing and some finding it infuriating.

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Speaker 2: Tell me what happened on your This is two months

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Speaker 2: before on.

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Speaker 1: The invitations have all gone out, the planning has been done.

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Speaker 2: On the night before, someone rang the house. I was

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Speaker 2: staying at my in law's place to be and someone rang,

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Speaker 2: and I yielded out to Helen in the back backyard. Hey, Helen,

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Speaker 2: what time is this two of yours on tomorrow? I

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Speaker 2: did it sort of half in jest, but it was

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Speaker 2: in front of my mother in law, and who thought

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Speaker 2: it was funny? She laughed ahead of did she?

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Speaker 1: And what about?

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Speaker 2: Helen laughed as well? I did kind of know, But

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Speaker 2: you know, men don't know the finer parts, the finer

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Speaker 2: details of wedding.

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Speaker 1: You just got to show up see this is the

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Speaker 1: thing that has divided people. And I don't want to

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Speaker 1: be a harpy in going on about old men. But

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Speaker 1: we talked about this on Double a Chattery recently, the

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Speaker 1: podcast I do with my friend Anita McGregor, and this

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Speaker 1: goes straight to the heart of a bigger issue, I think,

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Speaker 1: which is the emotional burden that women carry. It's not

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Speaker 1: just about planning weddings or planning Christmas Day or all

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Speaker 1: that sort of stuff. It's waking up at midnight thinking, oh,

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Speaker 1: it's sports day tomorrow, are the kids shirts ready? It's

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Speaker 1: knowing your kid's shoe sizes, it's knowing their teachers' names.

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Speaker 1: It's being across the schedule that is exhausting. That women

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Speaker 1: do far more than men. And it's almost like there's

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Speaker 1: expression for it called weaponized incompetence, where men go, I'm hopeless,

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Speaker 1: therefore I opt out, and often women let them do it.

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Speaker 1: So weaponized incompetence I think both ways. But it's that

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Speaker 1: stuff of I'm hopeless at this, honey, you do and

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Speaker 1: the woman may be wan in control of that too,

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Speaker 1: but there's the exhaustion of everyday life. Women are working

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Speaker 1: in jobs the same number of hours often that men

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Speaker 1: are now and statistic show is still doing the bulk

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Speaker 1: of the housework, et cetera, as well as this emotional burden.

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Speaker 1: So while it seems funny to say, hey, what time

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Speaker 1: is the wedding and think it's funny that men, as

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Speaker 1: you say, just turn up on the wedding day, behind

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Speaker 1: that is a whole lot of planning, emotion exhaustion that

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Speaker 1: goes into decision making that women keep in their heads

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Speaker 1: that men just don't. Jimmy Kimmel has a funny thing

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Speaker 1: where he leans into this. He has someone out on

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Speaker 1: the street talking to dads about how much they know

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Speaker 1: about their families. What is your son's birthday? No, that's

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Speaker 1: a that's a really good one, because I don't know.

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Speaker 2: What is your daughter's favorite subject in school? Social study?

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Speaker 2: That's true. Now, what's the name of your daughter's school?

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Speaker 1: Crash Creek?

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Speaker 2: Now creek, now something creek? Now what color are your

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Speaker 2: daughter's eyes? Brown?

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Speaker 1: All right, let's look that is incorrect, they're blue.

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Speaker 2: What are your daughters of birthdays?

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Speaker 1: Agua any gases?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, yesterday? Horrible?

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Speaker 1: Her birthday was yesterday?

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Speaker 2: Yes, well, I know the twenty fourth of the ninth,

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Speaker 2: two thousand and two. Whose birthdays are that's Dominic's because

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Speaker 2: it's today.

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Speaker 1: Yes, today, we are.

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Speaker 2: The other ones. No, I know the other ones.

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Speaker 1: But it is funny that this stuff does seem comical,

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Speaker 1: and you know when, what, what time is your shin dig?

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Speaker 1: But looking deeper at that, that is the emotional burden

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Speaker 1: that women carry. And we won't even get started. As

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Speaker 1: I said on the exhaustion of Christmas Day, Dad will

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Speaker 1: put some little car together and say done, whereas Mum's

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Speaker 1: already planning it from now.

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Speaker 2: You have no idea how hard it is to put

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Speaker 2: together one of those little cars, a pushbike or a trampolone.

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Speaker 1: I'll see at the prawn shop. Brendan