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Speaker 1: My Heart podcasts, hear More Kids podcasts, playlists, and listen

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Speaker 2: A gossip And apparently, according to a new study, gossip

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Speaker 2: can be very good for your relationship.

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Speaker 3: Oh really apparently.

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Speaker 2: And this is a study unlike one of those Mickey

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Speaker 2: Mouse ones that you pull from Vietnam Woods, this is

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Speaker 2: from the Journal of Science and Personal Relationships. This is

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Speaker 2: a legit psychological study found that in instances of gossip

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Speaker 2: amongst partners, it produced incredibly high scores for happiness in

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Speaker 2: relationship quality.

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Speaker 1: Is it because you feel better about your relationship when

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Speaker 1: you're sort of gossiping about other people and like, look,

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Speaker 1: how look how bad it's going for them? Like, do

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Speaker 1: we feel stronger now?

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Speaker 3: Is that the bit?

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Speaker 2: That's one of the things. That's definitely one of the things.

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Speaker 2: So it affirms to both partners that you're on the

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Speaker 2: same team when you're talking about other people. So there's

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Speaker 2: that part of it fostering more communication with you. Gossip

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Speaker 2: often leads to a really you know, juicy conversation, which

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Speaker 2: means you're talking rather than not talking.

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Speaker 3: I suppose, yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 2: And also it establishes expectations and behaviors within the relationship.

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Speaker 2: So you're kind of like sussing out within your relationship

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Speaker 2: via the lens of somebody else. Is that good behavior?

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Speaker 2: Is that bad behavior?

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Speaker 3: Would you like that? Would you not like that? Oh? Fascinating?

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Speaker 3: It is really really interesting.

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Speaker 4: So do you goss with Sem? Of course it's hard

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Speaker 4: not to like, like, I know, I.

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Speaker 1: Mean, I think she brings most of the content, though,

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Speaker 1: if I'm being honest, like when we have it, it's

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Speaker 1: often just like she's caught up with the girls and

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Speaker 1: then she's like, here's a bit for you.

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Speaker 4: But and then I'm like, great, great, great.

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Speaker 3: Then I'm just like I've got yes, or I will

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Speaker 3: haven't find that.

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Speaker 2: I will be sitting on a piece of gossip that

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Speaker 2: I didn't your lize was gossip, and then Sem will

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Speaker 2: find out through somebody else the gossip and she'll be

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Speaker 2: like did you know that? And I'll be like, well, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I knew that Sally was sleeping with Sean. And then

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Speaker 2: she's like, why didn't that's great goss? Why didn't you

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Speaker 2: Why didn't you bring that to the table. It would have

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Speaker 2: been a great chat for us. And I feel like

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Speaker 2: that is the that's the complain of a lot of

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Speaker 2: women in heterosexual relationships. I mean, I'm looking at button

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Speaker 2: push of tom over here. I'm sure you boys you

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Speaker 2: bitch the house.

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Speaker 3: Down, don't you know?

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Speaker 2: But interestingly with guys, because within this study, the people

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Speaker 2: that were found to be in the happiest relationship were

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Speaker 2: actually female and female couples who produced the greatest amount

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Speaker 2: of gossip.

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Speaker 4: Of course, yeah that makes sense.

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Speaker 3: Yes, so women know how to gossip. I mean we

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Speaker 3: saw it on the show Sex and the City.

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Speaker 2: The whole show was literally built around, you know, those

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Speaker 2: lunches that needs to have sit down.

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Speaker 3: And just spill the tea. And I mean that made

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Speaker 3: the show very watchable, very successful.

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Speaker 2: I'm not I would like to try and buck the

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Speaker 3: You want to train, you want to get better at gossip.

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean the producers who are all female. Now

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Speaker 2: the Captain poop Pants is not here. We're getting were surrounded.

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Speaker 2: Woods were surrounded.

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Speaker 4: They are out there gossiping, right, they turn us down

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Speaker 4: and they start.

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Speaker 3: Very good. So I think we can gossip. I think

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Speaker 3: we can lift our game. And I'd like to prove

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Speaker 3: on behalf of some men that we can gossip.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I contribute when when mim brings the content.

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Speaker 2: I've got thoughts, your thoughts of crap, manna, they are

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Speaker 2: they're a big crap. You know, You've got these quirky

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Speaker 2: things like have you ever thought to yourself, what if

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Speaker 2: they were on the moon? And you're like, what are you?

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Speaker 3: You're not You're not a question.

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Speaker 2: You're not on the bit more, mate, You're a tangent.

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Speaker 3: I can tangent, Yeah, I can.

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Speaker 1: That's good chat. Though, isn't this whole bit about talking

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Speaker 1: more with your partner? No, you've got to turn until

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Speaker 1: the cows come home.

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Speaker 2: You got to stay on the bit and you got

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Speaker 2: to make it spicy and well, okay, what oh my god, what.

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Speaker 3: If it was happening before we knew? And did you

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Speaker 3: see the way that he looked?

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Speaker 1: You know, like I just follow question? What if we

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Speaker 1: got some girls to call right now? On thirteen one

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Speaker 1: oh six five? And I don't know if this is

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Speaker 1: too spicy, but like, is there any goss in your

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Speaker 1: life or maybe just bring up some some level of

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Speaker 1: gossip that was from ages ago, right, doesn't need to

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Speaker 1: be just in case you don't want to share gossip

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Speaker 1: on radio, Harry, bring up some great goss that you

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Speaker 1: had in your life like years ago, maybe even from

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Speaker 1: like high school.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that was a great rumor about you in

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Speaker 3: high school.

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Speaker 1: So so you call an old gossip and then and

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Speaker 1: then we'll just we'll just see if we can sex

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Speaker 1: in the city with you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm samanthah obviously, and we'll just see if we're Samantha.

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Speaker 3: Yeah that checks out with that rumor about.

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Speaker 1: You right well, strong and independent anyway, So yeah, bring

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Speaker 1: the goss lunch on sex in the city.

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Speaker 4: I think we'll prove that we can keep the ball

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Speaker 4: in the air.

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Speaker 3: So we're going to try and gossip with some some women.

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Speaker 3: Ball in the air. Yeah, what's more than that.

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Speaker 2: It's keeping the ball in the air, and it's it's

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Speaker 2: spicing the ball up, you know. Six five, give us

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Speaker 2: call if you've got some gasp woods and I on

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Speaker 2: a quest right now to dispel the myth that men.

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Speaker 3: Are bad gossipers. Study that's found it recently as well.

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Speaker 2: And to be honest, my partner is Sami's often frustrated

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Speaker 2: at my lack of good gear the front or often

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Speaker 2: I'll come home and be like, you know, oh, you

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Speaker 2: wouldn't believe it. One of the one of the texts

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Speaker 2: at work is he's leaving. She's like, I don't know

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Speaker 2: that best.

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Speaker 3: You're even boring me.

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Speaker 2: But it was a sad day in the cash anyway,

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Speaker 2: I don't put a name on now.

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Speaker 3: I feel terrible. It was a sad day. Absolutely was

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Speaker 3: a sad man. So right now, we want.

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Speaker 1: To go to gossip boot camp, Will, So we want

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Speaker 1: to join you guys for a Sex and the City lunch,

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Speaker 1: which is apparently where the.

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Speaker 3: Girls on sex and were doing.

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Speaker 4: I'm Samantha, You're you're Miranda.

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Speaker 3: No, I am not Miranda. You do I am not Miranda.

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Speaker 3: Can get off it? Well, you just call yourself the

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Speaker 3: hottest one.

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Speaker 1: And I'm on my lunge between Charlotte and Samantha.

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Speaker 5: You know, don't touch Charlotte. She you're mound Charlotte. You're

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Speaker 5: mound Charlotte a bit vanilla. No, I'm Sarah, I'm the star.

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Speaker 5: I know I'm a rider. I'm a bit of a bitch.

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Speaker 3: Like come clearly, I'm Carrie. Let's let's gossip.

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Speaker 1: Call me Carrie and well gossip okay, carry let's gossip okay.

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Speaker 1: So Sarah, you just you bring a little bit of

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Speaker 1: gossip here and our goal is to just kind of

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Speaker 1: like ask the right follow up questions and keep the

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Speaker 1: gossip ball in the air.

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Speaker 3: So hit us with your guys, Sarah.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So a lady that I know from high school,

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Speaker 6: she had a baby with her ex partner when that partner, yes,

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Speaker 6: so they broke up and when the child was about

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Speaker 6: six months old, she got a new partner, and then

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Speaker 6: shortly after that relationship started, she found out she was pregnant,

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Speaker 6: and unfortunately that relationship had ended, and now she has

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Speaker 6: another partner.

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Speaker 3: Right, my god, Okay, sorry, slow down. What's the goss there?

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Speaker 6: The goss is that she's got two or three different

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Speaker 6: baby daddy.

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Speaker 3: Have I missed a bit? What's the bit? She's got

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Speaker 3: pregnant a couple of times.

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Speaker 6: Right, yep, yes, two different baby daddies, all within a

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Speaker 6: two year period, and now she's got a third baby daddy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think power to her. I think she's

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Speaker 1: doing an amazing job. Sure, she's an incredible mother.

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Speaker 3: What's that?

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Speaker 4: A lot of organizing?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Right, I don't think that that's all that.

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Speaker 4: Like, you know, she's nice in school?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Was she nice in school?

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Speaker 6: She's an amazing person. She's such a great mum.

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Speaker 4: And she's still she's still with the third guy. Is

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Speaker 4: she still with the third guy currently?

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 4: And he is Is he parenting all three of the children?

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Speaker 1: Yes? Are the two other guys in the kid's life

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Speaker 1: that's a good question.

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Speaker 4: No, any of them?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 3: And is that a bit nasty?

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Speaker 6: Not nasty, but just not involved?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 1: And which one is the best kid?

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Speaker 3: Does he?

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Speaker 4: Does he prefer his own child more than the others?

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Speaker 6: No? No, no, no, definitely not. So he's he's great

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Speaker 6: with all of the kids. So, yeah, she's very lucky

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Speaker 6: in that.

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Speaker 2: A bitch?

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Speaker 3: What a bitch? Is that right? Why she a bitch?

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm trying to the gossip thing.

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Speaker 1: Man, She's just been a good mother. I thanks Sarah. Hey,

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Speaker 1: sorry Sarah, before we go.

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Speaker 7: What sort of thing you say, like, what a bitch

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Speaker 7: when they're being a bitch, but being a bitch, she

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Speaker 7: has just being, you know, exactly exploring with Julia Roberts hearings.

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Speaker 2: Normal and then you know, and then I tried to

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Speaker 2: add some spice to it.

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Speaker 3: I got frowned upon.

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Speaker 2: Isn't gossip, you know?

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Speaker 3: Sorry, Sarah. I'm from the hip calling people bitches. I

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Speaker 3: carry carry that car that.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, I didn't realize seek.

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Speaker 3: Alex story about a bitch go on.

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Speaker 6: So when I was seventeen, I worked at this hotel

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Speaker 6: as like a chef, and there was this other chef there.

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Speaker 6: He was like thirty dog.

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Speaker 4: And we got was he hard?

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Speaker 3: Did he have a big package?

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Speaker 6: He was at Ranger, So nothing against.

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Speaker 3: The next.

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Speaker 6: I mean, she just gave me a lot of health

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Speaker 6: space because she's also born ye