1 00:00:01,440 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: And Amanda jam Nation. Look yesterday, I mean Liam's home 2 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: for a couple of days. He came down for Father's 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 1: Day from Newcastle and he's here for a few days. 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: And when I went home yesterday, he and Harley were 5 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:16,280 Speaker 1: taking down. 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 2: Oh you're not going to cry over this. 7 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:23,239 Speaker 1: Yeah I am, and I did. We're taking down the 8 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,760 Speaker 1: basketball hoop that's attached to the front of our house. 9 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 2: That old thing at the front of your house. 10 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 1: The kids have spent hours playing basketball at that place 11 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:35,920 Speaker 1: just in front of the house, in the driveway, playing 12 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 1: basketball for years. But the imagery of it coming down 13 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:43,959 Speaker 1: just said to me, there are no children that live 14 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: in this house anymore. 15 00:00:45,080 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 2: Oh, okay, grandchildren. 16 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: But this is a Let me just tell you what 17 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 1: the emotion is. And you've probably felt it too in 18 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: your own life. You know, Sometimes you know time, the 19 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 1: passage of time passes, and sometimes it flows like a 20 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: river and you don't notice it so much. And then 21 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 1: occasionally there are markers like this where you go. You know, 22 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: the children are moving through different phases. None of them 23 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 1: live at home anymore. And a big symbol of that 24 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: hit me in the face yesterday that the basketball hoop 25 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: was coming down to fall down. It was getting water 26 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: had gone in behind it and was starting to rot. 27 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: And even Liam appreciated. He said, well, maybe Harley had 28 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 1: told him, because Harley and I have been speaking about 29 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:26,120 Speaker 1: this for a few weeks. And I said, please, I 30 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: don't want that to come down, and he was worried 31 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 1: to drop on our cars or any of that stuff. 32 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: I said, I don't care, just please, can we just 33 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: keep it there, Just pretend that that moment in time 34 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:40,640 Speaker 1: is still there. Oh no, it happened yesterday, And even 35 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: Liam said, it's probably hard for you to see this go. 36 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 2: It is sad. Having said that, though, when you've got 37 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 2: a basketball ring in the front of your house, it 38 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 2: doesn't it invite other people just come along, Like some 39 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 2: old darre could just come along and throw them ball. 40 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, some kid. You know, I'd be having an afternoon 41 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: sleep upstairs and some kid would be some random child 42 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: will be throwing a thing the hoop. But that's part 43 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: of a community. I liked that, actually, really, I liked 44 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: that because I just felt that we've got a house 45 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:11,640 Speaker 1: that other kids are sharing. So anyway, that brought me 46 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 1: up short yesterday. 47 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 2: So I'm a man, and I'm different men and women 48 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: are wired differently. When my daughter grew up and didn't 49 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 2: need that stupid trampoline anymore, one of the greatest things 50 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 2: in the world was when I got rid of it. 51 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 2: That was the greatest thing in the world. 52 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: Well, that does take up a big space. 53 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, it takes up the whole backyard. 54 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: But when you dismantled it. When you dismantled it, did 55 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 1: you have a moment of remembering the memories of her 56 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: jumping out and down in the tram with. 57 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,920 Speaker 2: The guinea pig heutch and the rabbit hearts. 58 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:44,079 Speaker 1: You didn't have a single kick in the heart of Wow, 59 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:45,519 Speaker 1: the kids are moving on. 60 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 2: As you go, good, go on. 61 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: Maybe that's because she was living at home until recently. 62 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: Would you have felt different if she didn't live at 63 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 1: home anymore? 64 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 2: No? Probably not. Men, we're just we're pragmatic. It was 65 00:02:57,160 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 2: you know, I just meant we love our kids any less. 66 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 2: What I appreciate you to see the stuff go down. 67 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 1: It's not about that. 68 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 2: It's about the baseball. Who would have Oh man, look 69 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 2: at it's got it's delaminated. 70 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: Which is what Arlee was thinking. 71 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, well he's a man and he gets it. To 72 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 2: show that I'm not a hard hearted man. I was 73 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 2: driving past a place that had been completely bulldozed the 74 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 2: other day, nothing not as sceric of what that house was. 75 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 2: And up the back was a little cubby house just 76 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 2: sitting there, a little cubby house, a little slide. 77 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: That's Sydney real estate. Someone was living in the studio apartment. 78 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 2: It's just sad.