WEBVTT - MINI: Churi’s news 💔

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<v Speaker 1>Is it just me a podcast by a couple of images?

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<v Speaker 2>All right? Now, I don't quite have a roadmap of

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<v Speaker 2>how I want to talk about this or really know

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<v Speaker 2>how to bring it in. And it's not often that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm lost for words. I'm not lost for words. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just emotional. You probably have noticed on this show or

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<v Speaker 2>even online or socials, I haven't been posting about my

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<v Speaker 2>relationship much. I haven't been speaking about it at all.

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<v Speaker 1>People have said, oh, I haven't heard Hayden's name mentioned

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<v Speaker 1>in a while.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I've got I've got a few messages and they've

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<v Speaker 2>been increasing in volume over the last few days and weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>So I thought i'll talk about it. I will just

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<v Speaker 2>say that Hayden and I have split up. We're no

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<v Speaker 2>longer together, we've broken up, we've valeted our relationship, and

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<v Speaker 2>I am got it. I'm really, really sad.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean there's been ups and downs for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you agree? Because it is not news to us.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously about a month. It's been about four or five weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I feel I have to talk about it,

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<v Speaker 2>because it's my life at the moment, and it's happened,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's real and it's reality.

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<v Speaker 1>So and even though it's been going on in private

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<v Speaker 1>for a few weeks, yeah, it doesn't make it any

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<v Speaker 1>less sad. Now that you're a little bit further along

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<v Speaker 1>the line at a point where you're ready to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I wouldn't even say that I'm ready, but I

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<v Speaker 2>just have to. I mean, it's my life and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>getting asked questions and it's the reality. And I just

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<v Speaker 2>think it's so tough. When my job is to come

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<v Speaker 2>out and be funny and be the entertainer, and I

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<v Speaker 2>do it two daily radio shows, It's fucked And to

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<v Speaker 2>put on this mask and perform has been one of

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<v Speaker 2>the hardest things I've ever done. And I also want

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<v Speaker 2>to preface this by saying I often hate talking about

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<v Speaker 2>myself and my personal life in this regard because I

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<v Speaker 2>hate any ounce of arrogance or any ounce of look

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<v Speaker 2>look at me. To listen to my life, it's so important.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's what we've got this podcast for that

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<v Speaker 1>complex must be very challenging. It's you hate talking about yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>but we do it for at.

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<v Speaker 2>Least an hour away. It's a bit like, oh, shut up,

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<v Speaker 2>who cares? But it's my life.

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<v Speaker 1>People want to know because we spoke a lot about

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship when that was your situation that you were in,

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<v Speaker 1>moving out of your parents' place for the first time,

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<v Speaker 1>moving in with the partner, etcetera, etcetera. Either all things

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<v Speaker 1>I've covered, this is just the next thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just so it's just that's why I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>so hard, because we were together for five years in October,

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<v Speaker 2>and I will say it was my choice to end

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<v Speaker 2>the relationship. Just I'm not going to go into the details, so.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need to throw a drink in anyone's face.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't. I don't feel it's necessary. Okay, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm hurting, but I ultimately made the decision

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<v Speaker 2>in the end, and it's just it's being in a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship that you came out for. Like I was talking

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<v Speaker 2>to you about this, trying to work out how I

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<v Speaker 2>was going to articulate it. And sorry if I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>bit scattered and all over the place, but this is

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<v Speaker 2>just a true, live recounting of where I'm at. And

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<v Speaker 2>I've never been through a breakup before, so there's no

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have any sort of stick in the sand

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<v Speaker 2>to go. That's how I should be reacting. But I

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<v Speaker 2>have been thinking, Okay, well, who was I before I

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<v Speaker 2>was in this relationship, because everyone's like, you'll be fine,

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<v Speaker 2>You're Mitch cheery, you'd be great, you got a blue tick.

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<v Speaker 1>You said that it was at the arrogance that you

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<v Speaker 1>mentioned before.

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<v Speaker 2>Correct, there it is, And I think, well, the person

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<v Speaker 2>that I was before I was in this relationship was

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<v Speaker 2>a twenty two year old, closeted kid who lived with

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<v Speaker 2>his parents.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. No, you can't go back to that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's scary.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not how it works in any breakup situation. I

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<v Speaker 1>think you don't just go back to the person you

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<v Speaker 1>were before.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but you sort of think, okay, well life

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<v Speaker 2>was fine without them, But then you go back to

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<v Speaker 2>when where life was without them. I was a different person.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's five years. It's going to take a while

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<v Speaker 1>to find the new normal and five informative years. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>oh god, yeah, I mean, even though it's a sad situation,

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<v Speaker 1>love Hayten, love you, it's not a good situation for

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<v Speaker 1>anyone involved. I've already told you this. There's a very

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<v Speaker 1>big part of me that's quite excited because you're excited

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<v Speaker 1>because you've never lived life as an openly gay single man.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I haven't.

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<v Speaker 1>We Well, may you have a lot more relationship experience

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<v Speaker 1>than me, but I've got a lot more experience being

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<v Speaker 1>single than you. So now I've got wisdom to impart.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>If you'd told me this time last year that you

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<v Speaker 1>would be the single Mitch and I wouldn't be I

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have fucking believed you. But now that we're here,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, great, the next chapter for you. It's still

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<v Speaker 1>fragile at the moment, but eventually we'll be able to

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<v Speaker 1>run all the segments I have in mind. Cheeries blind date, No,

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<v Speaker 1>Cheery's speed dating, setting up, Cheery's hinge is the Cheeries

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<v Speaker 1>one night stand? Will we good to go next week with?

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<v Speaker 2>I need time. I need time. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>look at another person for ten years. I mean I

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<v Speaker 2>will get there. Of course I'll get there. Yeah, But

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<v Speaker 2>at the moment, the light at the end of the

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<v Speaker 2>tunnel is hazy. It's so much better than it was

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<v Speaker 2>four or five weeks ago. Oh, I'm in chaotic.

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<v Speaker 1>A few weeks ago you were crying to me on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone, and then the week after that you were saying,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go to Oxford Street. I want to go gay clubbing.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't been in fun five years, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>fucking too easy. I'll make it up, and we did,

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<v Speaker 1>and in the following week you were sad again. And

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<v Speaker 1>then so it's like it'll be like that for a bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I do imagine ups and down. Some days. You were

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<v Speaker 1>seeing the pros more than the convolt.

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<v Speaker 2>Definitely, and it's sort of you need to be out

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<v Speaker 2>of a relationship and have the benefit of hindsight to

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<v Speaker 2>really look at the way you want to be treated

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<v Speaker 2>and the way that you need to be treated in

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<v Speaker 2>a relationship. And I think that has helped me come

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<v Speaker 2>to realize that it's the right decision exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean five years experience, you'll know going into the

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<v Speaker 1>next relationship, not that that's going to happen anytime soon, relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>don't think about that yet. Fucking when it happens, you'll

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<v Speaker 1>be well better equipped relationship. You know what you will

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<v Speaker 1>put up with and won't put up. Yes, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>very different situation, but there are things that I put

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<v Speaker 1>up with in the past that I would not put

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<v Speaker 1>up with now with Sean. Not that he's ever shown

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<v Speaker 1>any of those red flags, but you just become more

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<v Speaker 1>aware of them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, with experience exactly, but anyone out there, and oh

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<v Speaker 2>my god, can I just I have struggled so much

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<v Speaker 2>to find content on queer breakups and queer relationships. There's nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>There's nothing out there. It is actually barren. Every podcast

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<v Speaker 2>you surge and you look for it is if the

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<v Speaker 2>man cheats his goals to football with his mates and

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<v Speaker 2>he works it out with his boys and the girls

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<v Speaker 2>need a spa day and men are horrid wired to

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<v Speaker 2>their cave men and they have red blood.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, shut the fuck up.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm all mean, real life story. So that's why

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<v Speaker 2>I want to talk about it for a little like

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<v Speaker 2>queer kids listening to this or queer adults, like, fuck,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm twenty seven, I'm going through this for my first time.

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<v Speaker 2>It is. It's tough, and I just want to say

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<v Speaker 2>to anyone that maybe you're not going through it, but

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<v Speaker 2>people listen to this podcast at many different times, they'll

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<v Speaker 2>be listening in years to come. There is no right

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<v Speaker 2>way to do it. And it's like a fucking it's

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<v Speaker 2>like a death, like I've had to grieve the relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's like I said before, it is the seventh stages, Yes, totally.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember all seven off the top of my hand.

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<v Speaker 1>I want anger with the fun week.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I feel like I'm in that at the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Well here I am drinks. But this week I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>fuck man, I'm gonna have to come around there and

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<v Speaker 1>hold your back.

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<v Speaker 2>Ask me next week. I mean, Hayden, Spice girl stuff

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<v Speaker 2>are still at home. So if you want to burn

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<v Speaker 2>that to the ground, Oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, you're in the dividing up the assets face

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<v Speaker 1>my God gets to keep the details I gave you

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<v Speaker 1>to that house form.

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<v Speaker 2>The're fucking mind disgusting. You can take them. It's really hard, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>actually really, and I'm making fun of it, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>just these things are happening, and I have really high highs,

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<v Speaker 2>really low lows. I know I've made the right decision

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<v Speaker 2>and onwards and upwards. But I will say, if you

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<v Speaker 2>want to send me a nice message, I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>I love them so please because the nights are cold

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<v Speaker 2>and they are lonely.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know it's easier for me to see the

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<v Speaker 1>positives of you now being single, but hear me out,

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<v Speaker 1>you fucking dove in the deep end. As soon as

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<v Speaker 1>you came out of the closet, you were already in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship. When you came out to your parents, you

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<v Speaker 1>were like, dude, I've got two things to tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gay and I have a boyfriend. Like, you've skipped

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<v Speaker 1>several milestones, and so now's a great time to catch

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<v Speaker 1>up on the milestone living by yourself for the first time,

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<v Speaker 1>being single, going on dates, et cetera, et cetera. These

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<v Speaker 1>are all things that a form and even have informative

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<v Speaker 1>for me, and now you get to experience them too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not excited about it at the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Eventually, eventually you'll look back and be like, Okay, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Right now, I'm living in our giant three bedroom home

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<v Speaker 2>and Hayden's living with his mum, and I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 2>find a fucking property after you know, the head fuck

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<v Speaker 2>that I've just gone through to find a property, understair storage,

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<v Speaker 2>all that fucking shit, and now I've got to turn

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<v Speaker 2>around to it all fucking again. I'll doing two shows,

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<v Speaker 2>the radio shows, this fucking podcast, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Say, put in the current place for a bit. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a later problem. The house hunting one thing at a time.

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<v Speaker 2>But if I'm a bit flat or sad in the

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<v Speaker 2>next few weeks. I'm pushing through and I love doing

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<v Speaker 2>this show and you've been a great friend to me

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<v Speaker 2>over this time, so thank you for that. Of course,

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<v Speaker 2>Off the c you have been great and I've got

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<v Speaker 2>a great support nowork and I'm fine, but I'm sad

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm flat. So I want to talk about it

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<v Speaker 2>because I want to be able to lean into that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's real human emotions. We've done this show for so

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<v Speaker 2>fucking long. You guys listening, you idiots. I adore you

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<v Speaker 2>and I want you to just get the real me

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<v Speaker 2>and the show is to reflect where we're at our life.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's funny. We I mean, you haven't had a

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<v Speaker 2>breakup of this magnitude, you haven't been in a relationship

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<v Speaker 2>this long. You're in your first relationship. This show has

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<v Speaker 2>never had to go through this kind of mean work.

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<v Speaker 2>We're fucking entertainers, like, we're funny people. We talk about

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<v Speaker 2>funny stuff. So I don't know uncharted waters for us,

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<v Speaker 2>but I guess we might be getting real and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>happy to get real if you are.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, there's no rule that says we have

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<v Speaker 1>to be funny. Every week. No, I mean you said

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<v Speaker 1>last week, I'm sorry that I've been flat recently, and

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<v Speaker 1>I did say, and I did mean it hasn't come across.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I guess you'll just have the fucking breakup

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<v Speaker 1>card up your sleeve next time. Jenna and I are

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<v Speaker 1>being a little bit too mean. We're teasing you too much.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, oh, I'm going to the breakup.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't pulled it, but I'm going to pull that.

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<v Speaker 1>You can now it's out there. God, I hope there's

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<v Speaker 1>no horny idiots listening that are going to start sliding

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<v Speaker 1>here again.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean if there's in any year. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>you know they've wanted to ravish you for years now.

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<v Speaker 2>The turns of tables have turned.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't actually gotten a lot of that. I did

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<v Speaker 1>fuck one listener. They didn't tell me they were listener

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<v Speaker 1>until after.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I going to fuck a listener?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I should you keep it to you?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey? If you want to be my first fuck? Hey, Siri,

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<v Speaker 2>download Grinder.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, I don't think if you're anything like me,

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<v Speaker 1>which I feel that you are, you won't enjoy Grinder series.

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<v Speaker 2>Getting it No delete Syria, I don't want that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you'd enjoy grinder. I could be wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just feel like, if I know you as

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<v Speaker 1>well as I think I do, you probably wouldn't enjoy grinder.

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<v Speaker 1>Get amongst hinge, Baby, We've been doing ad to it

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<v Speaker 1>on this very show.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going on the ass. Also, I know Heyden

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<v Speaker 2>if you're listening to this, because I know he will listen.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh for once, he never listens.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop it. Yes, he didn't listen to the podcast, and

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<v Speaker 2>who wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I do you reckon? He we'll be listening this week.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I don't know, but I listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't drink in your face.

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<v Speaker 2>I did a load of washing and there were skid

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<v Speaker 2>marks and all your undies. I had to use extra bleach,

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<v Speaker 2>so you transferred me for half of the bleach.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, that might explain to our listeners why

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<v Speaker 1>you're all of a sudden doing your own laundry.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, what was my excuse? What was the

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<v Speaker 2>word I used?

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember.

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<v Speaker 2>I said for circumstances outside my control.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we just started talking about the fact that you're

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<v Speaker 1>now having to do your own laundry, and Jenna and

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<v Speaker 1>I are looking at each other're like, oh fuck, we

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<v Speaker 1>can't accidentally slip up and say because.

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<v Speaker 2>You're it's been so hard to hide. But you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I tried to work on it and I said, let's

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<v Speaker 2>put the work in, and then things happened, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just we're here and we're not together anymore. And

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<v Speaker 2>I love the five years we spent together. And that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>I did.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't remember. I don't regret a year. It was

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<v Speaker 2>the most incredible five years. I'm going to get sad now,

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<v Speaker 2>most incredible five years I've had.

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<v Speaker 1>So listen that five years were also incredible for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I wasn't in a relationship. So everyone does everything

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<v Speaker 1>in different orders, you know, Like we were just saying before,

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<v Speaker 1>my sisters thirty has three kids, Jenna's thirty has no kids. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>everyone moves at their own pace, and so this is

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<v Speaker 1>just where you're at now.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. I'm just such a fucking sad I hate

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<v Speaker 2>I want to cry.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh sweetie, give us the cattle.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you don't have to have what's wrong? Oh tissues things.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm all good.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, has anyone ever told you that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have an ugly crying face at all. Really, you

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<v Speaker 1>were just crying in front of me. You wipe the

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<v Speaker 1>tissue over your eye? Gone? Really, if I've been crying,

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<v Speaker 1>I look disgusting for hours a compliment.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll take that in my stride.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just looking at you, going what he was

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<v Speaker 1>just crying? How did he look normal again? Oh? Completely

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<v Speaker 1>back to normal?

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<v Speaker 2>Sweet. I think that's the benefits of having a chubby face.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's all in the eyes. If I've been crying,

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like I'm stoned for the next few hours.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't go anywhere after crying. Everyone knows.

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<v Speaker 2>So do I look good now? You?

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<v Speaker 1>Literally, I'm not kidding. You wipe the tissue and then

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<v Speaker 1>back to normal.

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<v Speaker 2>You're know what my tactic is. I don't know where

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<v Speaker 2>I learned this from, but I dab. I don't wipe

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<v Speaker 2>because wiping sort of makes it all red.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't fucking know, but I'll say my eyes go

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<v Speaker 1>red like the lids go everything. You can tell when

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<v Speaker 1>I've been crying. Oh, it's lovely.

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<v Speaker 2>I crying face. I wonder if I've got a good

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<v Speaker 2>cumface too. I'll feel that and send it to you

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<v Speaker 2>so you can compare.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, mate, I'll come and find out myself.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, shall we end here and we can we can,

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<v Speaker 2>we can come back in a week. Do you even

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<v Speaker 2>have a segments?

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, we can get out of here.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's what I mean. Let's go and then and

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<v Speaker 2>we can check back in this week. I'm give me,

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<v Speaker 2>give me seven days and I'll be all right.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's very needy, He's made no secret of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Send the lovely messages.

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<v Speaker 2>I am a libra. Words of affirmation and acts of

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<v Speaker 2>service in my love language. So if anyone wants to

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<v Speaker 2>cook me a roast dinner and send me a lovely message,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll take it.

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<v Speaker 1>Never been through this, you know. I did think of that.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, maybe I should cook him something. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, God, you get home so late at night.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd have to be sitting there on your door set

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<v Speaker 1>with a fucking up and try.

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<v Speaker 2>Honest, I get home like nine thirty.

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<v Speaker 1>These days, I can manage that. I can be that.

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<v Speaker 2>My mum is my my, oh my god, I will

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<v Speaker 2>just shout out. I've had I've got a brilliant support network,

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<v Speaker 2>my family who were also heartbroken, because you know, he

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<v Speaker 2>was like a son to my parents. I'm gonna cry again.

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<v Speaker 1>That's okay, you can why I don't want.

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<v Speaker 2>It though, And oh my god, I just pulled a

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<v Speaker 2>tissue out of my my wrist.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm fuck, you are getting on look at me.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got a tissue in my wrist in my sleep.

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<v Speaker 2>My family've been amazing. My mum has been dropping me

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<v Speaker 2>meals every week and I've been seeing them and that's

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<v Speaker 2>just He's have been great, and yeah, yeah, yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>all good. It's all good.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be right, you know, like you said, you've got

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<v Speaker 1>a great support network around you. So even though it's

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<v Speaker 1>still shit, imagine going through something like that alone.

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<v Speaker 2>And I am brandishing it from here on out, ladies.

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<v Speaker 2>In generalising divorce, it's not a breakup. It's a divorce.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean legally, give a de facto it's for years,

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<v Speaker 1>so technically.

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<v Speaker 2>The volume of shit that we have to deal with

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<v Speaker 2>and the move out and the owning of assets, and

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<v Speaker 2>it feels like a fucking divorce.

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<v Speaker 1>Where are you at today? Like what do you have

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<v Speaker 1>to do with today?

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<v Speaker 2>We're currently dividing our assets, which we kind of done.

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<v Speaker 2>We have an Excel spreadsheet, so horny.

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<v Speaker 1>And god, I didn't feel like there was so much

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<v Speaker 1>admint involved in a breakup.

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<v Speaker 2>That excel leafy green color. It gets me, gets me

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<v Speaker 2>fucking hard, and then we have to I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 2>find a place to live alone. Leave it with me.

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<v Speaker 2>I've already you know. I don't like being earnest and

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<v Speaker 2>this was a lot. So thank you, Mitchell. You've been

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<v Speaker 2>a great friend for yees.

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<v Speaker 1>And I will continue to be thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah it stops now, catch.

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<v Speaker 1>You thrown idiots?

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<v Speaker 2>Love you?

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<v Speaker 1>Is It just Me? A podcast by a couple of mitches.