WEBVTT - MINI! Is cheating at a bachelor party still cheating? 🤔

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<v Speaker 1>It's the pickup Wednesday of a britt Laura mitch here

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<v Speaker 1>head into chemist warehouse today. Great savings every day.

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<v Speaker 2>I have some wild statistics that I have recently read.

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<v Speaker 1>We have some stats on this showdown, which is nothing

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<v Speaker 1>but the truth.

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<v Speaker 3>Here.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, don'ts where it's from now labelsource. Six thousand people

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<v Speaker 4>have been surveyed. Now, this is about bachelore and bachelorette parties.

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<v Speaker 4>Seventy percent of Americans have said that they have cheated

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<v Speaker 4>on their partners while attending bachelor and bachelorette parties. Now,

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<v Speaker 4>I want it to be noted here that it's not

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<v Speaker 4>just the bachelor and the bachelorette that are doing the cheating.

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<v Speaker 4>It's it's sometimes it is, but it's also anyone at

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<v Speaker 4>the event. I also want to be noted that cheating

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<v Speaker 4>is a broad spectrum. It's different for different people. So

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<v Speaker 4>this statistic ranges around flirting, to downloading apps, to sexting,

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<v Speaker 4>texting to strip clubs, to go in the full hold.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so this is everyone invited to a bachelor bachelorette's.

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<v Speaker 2>Party seventy percent of people.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, wait, and you said six thousand people were surveyed.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, yep.

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<v Speaker 4>Six thousand people saved about their unfaithful behavior of these shindigs.

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<v Speaker 3>So how many people are flirting and just having a

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<v Speaker 3>little like, oh, you look cute tonight, verse getting a

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<v Speaker 3>lap dance or you know that's having a shnog?

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, so lap dance. I'm lucky, you asked Laura, because

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<v Speaker 2>I do have that stat here as well. Thirty three

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<v Speaker 2>point one percent I get lap dancers.

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<v Speaker 4>Yep, kissing.

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<v Speaker 2>Just the sound effect.

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<v Speaker 4>There are twenty one point three percent eleven point two percent.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a big one.

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<v Speaker 4>Eleven point two percent of people had said that they

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<v Speaker 4>had slept with somebody else. Nine percent said they had

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<v Speaker 4>a threesome. So that's twenty percent of people that are

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<v Speaker 4>actually going the full hog and cheating completely on their partners.

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<v Speaker 1>Thirteen one. I six y five what happened to the

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<v Speaker 1>Bucks party? Because I feel like all the Bachelor party,

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<v Speaker 1>because I feel like this is more common than we think, apparently.

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<v Speaker 2>For me, I mean, cheating is different for everyone.

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<v Speaker 4>Now for me, hypothetically Ben, my beautiful boyfriend, he does

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<v Speaker 4>live overseas, so we have to have a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>trust in our relationship anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>But hypothetically he's at a bachelor atte party. No, he's

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<v Speaker 2>not a bachelotte party. He's at a bachelor party. If

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<v Speaker 2>he got a lap dance, he was with a bunch.

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<v Speaker 4>Of people and then stripper came over, gave him my

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<v Speaker 4>lab dance, no touching, moved on, gave someone else lap dance.

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<v Speaker 4>I'd be probably mad about it, wouldn't be comfortable with it,

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<v Speaker 4>but I wouldn't think that that was cheating.

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<v Speaker 2>But if there were any contact or I went any further,

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, I know that's different for everybody, but for me,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, Okay, one night, nothing happened, there was no touching.

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<v Speaker 4>Everyone's got the same thing, So I guess it's different.

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<v Speaker 4>Depends on what your boundaries are relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with you. I mean, I've learned a lot about

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<v Speaker 1>cheating in the last couple of months, But it depends

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<v Speaker 1>on the relationship that you have with your partner. You

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<v Speaker 1>have to communicate totally. You need to know what the

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<v Speaker 1>boundary is for them and they need to know what

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<v Speaker 1>the boundary is for you.

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<v Speaker 3>But in saying that, I think that bachelorette parties and

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<v Speaker 3>bachelor parties are very triggering for some people because once

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<v Speaker 3>you put that sort of cocktail of drinking, of having strippers,

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<v Speaker 3>of temptation, of all the mates and the lads together

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<v Speaker 3>that there can be this you know, additional peer pressure

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<v Speaker 3>or this additional like enabling that can make a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of peace. People feel really worried about what their partners

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<v Speaker 3>are going to do, a worry that may not be

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<v Speaker 3>there at a normal day today or on a normal

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<v Speaker 3>Saturday night out.

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<v Speaker 1>Katie, Hi, what happened at bachelor party?

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<v Speaker 5>I've caught my boyfriend, my fiance cheating on me with

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<v Speaker 5>a stripper. So that was fantastic.

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<v Speaker 4>Caught how physically caught or just found out like inspector

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<v Speaker 4>Garadget after the fact.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, so I actually found out. I mean it makes

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<v Speaker 5>me look I look back at it now, I think

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<v Speaker 5>he's so stupid because one of his bucksmen is like

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<v Speaker 5>one of our mutual friends, and I'm like, as if

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<v Speaker 5>you know I've known this, you know his friend Alex

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<v Speaker 5>of our you know, we've been good friends for years,

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<v Speaker 5>As if he's not going to tell me, And it

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<v Speaker 5>all happens four weeks before the wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, did you still get married? What did

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<v Speaker 3>he do? What? What was the cheating?

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<v Speaker 5>So he slept with a stripper. Basically, yeah, so that's

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<v Speaker 5>how extreeve. It was the biggest like walking red flag.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you married him?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>No? No, oh, hell no, I haven't spoken to him.

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<v Speaker 5>So I got a call on Friday from the mutual

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<v Speaker 5>friend Alex, who is like, look, I can't let you

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<v Speaker 5>get married knowing this information. And I'm at work at

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<v Speaker 5>the time, and I think I was more angry than

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<v Speaker 5>like upset. I just aw read, I packed up my stuff.

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<v Speaker 5>I straight to my parents' house and this is the

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<v Speaker 5>worst bit. So Alex has then told Riley the ex fiance,

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<v Speaker 5>he's driven to the house, to my parents' house, knowing

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<v Speaker 5>that's where I'm going to be. We have this massive

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<v Speaker 5>screaming argument on the front lawn like it was a

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<v Speaker 5>scene from Housosa that he told you. Yeah, so he

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<v Speaker 5>didn't tell me. I found out from Alex. And then

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<v Speaker 5>he comes kind of, you know, apologize obviously we're supposed

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<v Speaker 5>to be getting married in four weeks and then yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>and I just said no, this is like and to

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<v Speaker 5>be fair, like I'm still fairly young, and I'm like

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<v Speaker 5>I wasted my youth on you whatever, and I'm just like, nah,

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<v Speaker 5>this isn't not happening.

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<v Speaker 3>If that was me, I would do exactly the same thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Like if I had found out just before my that

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<v Speaker 3>my partner had cheated on to me, I would.

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<v Speaker 1>Have to cool it off.

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<v Speaker 4>I would not be able to trust them again. I

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<v Speaker 4>think it no, hang on, I think it depends on

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<v Speaker 4>the situation. It depends on everyone's different.

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<v Speaker 3>Some people have.

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<v Speaker 4>Kids, some people want to work it out. They need

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<v Speaker 4>to try and work it out. There's different reasons.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we can't blanket statement, but it's pretty.

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<v Speaker 1>Cooked before we get out of here for today. Next

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<v Speaker 1>on the show, it was my beautiful Olma's eighty fifth birthday,

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<v Speaker 1>my grandma with Dutch, and she was given something at

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<v Speaker 1>her party over the weekend that you'd normally give someone

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<v Speaker 1>once they've died.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh h you'd normally give it to them once they've died, gravestone.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I got photos at the pickup