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Speaker 3: Hello and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast.

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Speaker 3: into the show. Chloe, Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you, thank you for having me so

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Speaker 4: So honestly, how I forget that I'm older than you?

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Speaker 3: when you get.

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Speaker 2: In those moments like that, how do you sort of

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Speaker 2: pull yourself out.

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Speaker 1: Of it in the funniest way. And it's going to

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Speaker 1: sound a bit funny when I say this, but I

445
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Speaker 1: often think of like the little me, like my inner child,

446
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Speaker 1: and I've gone through this. I've been open about that.

447
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Speaker 1: I've had a psychologist for quite a few years now.

448
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Speaker 1: Again one of the best choices I have made, But

449
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Speaker 1: she often talked about like the little version of me.

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Speaker 1: And if you think about it when you're younger, like

451
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Speaker 1: when you're a kid and your parents tell you, like

452
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Speaker 1: you can be anything you want to be when you

453
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Speaker 1: grow up, you just believe it. You're like, oh, sweet,

454
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a fireman and I'm gonna be a

455
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Speaker 1: ballerina and a mom and a policeman all in one day.

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Speaker 1: You know when I often think, like, bring it back

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Speaker 1: to that, that in that mindset, I could be anything

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Speaker 1: that I wanted and I could or anything, And why

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Speaker 1: did that ever have to change just because I'm that

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Speaker 1: a little bit older, And yes there's some more stresses,

461
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Speaker 1: and yes I've got more commitments. But if you bring

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Speaker 1: it back to that, you owe it to your little

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Speaker 1: self to be the best version that you can be

464
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Speaker 1: today and know that might not be one hundred and

465
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Speaker 1: fifty percent today, might be seventy percent some days and

466
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Speaker 1: forty percent other days. But it's just about taking that

467
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Speaker 1: moment of gratitude and going like, you know what, I'm

468
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Speaker 1: doing the best I can for me today, give yourself

469
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Speaker 1: like a little hug in your brain and just go

470
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Speaker 1: like this is all I can do now, and that's okay,

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Speaker 1: you know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I often have to do that, like yeah, give myself

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Speaker 2: that pep talk and go like, oh my god, georger,

475
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Speaker 2: you're actually doing so well, yea, and everything is so okay.

476
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Speaker 1: Like just yeah, it's actually fine, it's actually fine. Yeah, yes,

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Speaker 1: And I remember to be honest a little. I don't

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Speaker 1: know if you've ever done this before, but mirror work.

479
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Speaker 1: I used to think it was crazy.

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Speaker 2: I do it, and that's the most like intense thing ever.

481
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Speaker 2: I find it really uncomfortable, so do I.

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Speaker 1: So if anybody doesn't know what mirror work is, it's

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Speaker 1: like you literally stay yourself in the mirror and basically

484
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Speaker 1: like roundabout way, be like I'm fricking awesome looking at yourself.

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Speaker 4: No, yes, say aphaby to yourself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So it's it's quite funny and honestly, like I'll

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Speaker 1: sometimes do it and I ends up giggling at myself.

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Speaker 1: But either way, I think you always end up in

489
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Speaker 1: a better mood because either way, you've giggled, you've smiled,

490
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Speaker 1: you've had to laugh at yourself, you've got oh my god, whatever,

491
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Speaker 1: and you just move on. But yeah, it's got a

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Speaker 1: funny one.

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Speaker 2: I know, I only recently started doing that, and it's

494
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Speaker 2: really funny because it's like I got told you to

495
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Speaker 2: look at yourself in the eyes, yes, or I'm like, I'm.

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Speaker 4: Like kind of like look myself. It's really different because

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Speaker 4: it's funny because.

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Speaker 2: You know, I constantly look in the mirror all day,

499
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Speaker 2: you know, not the day, but throughout.

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Speaker 1: The day, but you don't actually look at you Yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: it's it's another experience.

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Speaker 4: It's very intense.

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Speaker 2: Note but I highly recom recommend guys if you're yeah,

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Speaker 2: if you're having a ship day like looking in the

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Speaker 2: mirror and going like I personally say, you know, it's

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Speaker 2: my motto, but like no one is me and that

507
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Speaker 2: is my power, and I will like basically yell it

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Speaker 2: at myself and it.

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Speaker 4: Is so powerful. It is so uncomfortable, but it's great.

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Speaker 3: It is.

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Speaker 1: And I think the more you do it, the more

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Speaker 1: you practice it, the better it Actually it's just yeah,

513
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Speaker 1: getting used to it is the hard part.

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Speaker 4: Yes, like with everything, and I love that you touched

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Speaker 4: on that. You see.

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Speaker 2: I say psychologists too, because I could not agree more.

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Speaker 1: I tell everyone to do it. I'm like, whether you

518
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Speaker 1: have past issues or no issues at all, when no

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Speaker 1: matter what you're going through, it's talking to somebody with

520
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Speaker 1: that has zero bias against your life is such an

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Speaker 1: empowering thing. And I definitely want to push for the

522
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Speaker 1: fact that if you speak openly about the way that

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Speaker 1: you feel, that is brave. It's often depicted is that

524
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Speaker 1: it's weak. But what a lot of people don't understand,

525
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Speaker 1: like sharing your emotion is one of the bravest things

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Speaker 1: that you can do because it's actually accepting that you're

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Speaker 1: feeling some type of way, whether it's great or whether

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Speaker 1: it's not so great or anything in between. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: honestly recommend it to everyone. I'm like, you got a problem,

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Speaker 1: go to a psychologist.

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Speaker 2: And what's what's beautiful about that relationship with your psychologist

532
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Speaker 2: is you don't have any attachment or you don't have

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Speaker 2: any sort of I'm trying to think what the word is,

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Speaker 2: but face. Yeah, So like with my psychologist, you know,

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Speaker 2: I can and I guess like you know, like with

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Speaker 2: Tim for example, it's my husband.

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Speaker 4: We've been together.

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Speaker 2: For over eight years, and so I feel like I

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Speaker 2: can tell him anything. But you know, when I'm telling

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Speaker 2: him something, I'm thinking how does he feel? How is

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Speaker 2: he going to react?

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Speaker 1: Exactly?

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Speaker 3: And sometimes that might change the way you know I work.

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Speaker 4: It does.

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Speaker 2: Where's a psychologist you can say it so straight, So

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Speaker 2: whatever you're feeling, and you know they don't care, you

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Speaker 2: can see it's no.

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Speaker 4: Burdens on them.

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Speaker 1: If that makes that's their job that they do huge

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Speaker 1: and they actually want you to talk about yourself. And

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Speaker 1: like you say, you can say it exactly how you want. It,

552
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Speaker 1: can blurt out, you can cry. I think my first

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Speaker 1: two sessions I pretty much cried the whole time. But

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Speaker 1: it is very empowering, and they's the thing you can

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Speaker 1: say as it is like you wouldn't be able to

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Speaker 1: talk to your um, want to tell your husband or

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Speaker 1: your partner or your friend that way because you're worrying

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Speaker 1: about them. But you also know how much they love you,

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Speaker 1: so they have your back and they are you know,

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Speaker 1: looking at it from your perspective rather from an outside

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Speaker 1: who has no clue about your life. Your family want things.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no bias, I love that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So another thing that we're kind of talking about before,

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Speaker 2: but then we got side Chassie was self care.

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Speaker 4: And see, I love.

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Speaker 2: That you talk about the importance of choosing you. So

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Speaker 2: what are your favorite forms of self care?

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Speaker 1: It honestly depends on the day, because some days it's

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Speaker 1: like I'm gonna go to the gym and like absolutely

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Speaker 1: rip into myself and go like super savage and like

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Speaker 1: hardcore and then have like some tough love with myself.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's start self care. It depends the mood. But

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Speaker 1: other times it's like my little favorite Friday night ritual

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Speaker 1: is like I love Tai food, so going like eating

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Speaker 1: Thai by myself, like having my little gloss of wine

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Speaker 1: or some chocolate and like doing that. And then other

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Speaker 1: times it's just going for a walk and a coffee

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Speaker 1: and dependent on the day. But I am definitely a

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Speaker 1: big believer in sometimes you need this tough love and

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Speaker 1: then again sometimes you need to give yourself a hug

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Speaker 1: or you know, sometimes it's giving my mom a call

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Speaker 1: or Yeah, it depends on the emotion. But oh, chocolate.

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Speaker 1: And I'm such a foodie, so all the food.

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Speaker 2: I love that you said tough love because of like,

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Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever had that answer when I

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Speaker 2: talk about self care. So that's super interesting, and that's

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Speaker 2: that's actually it's such a great point because it's almost

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Speaker 2: like self care is saying, Hey, what do I actually

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Speaker 2: need in this moment? Yes, not Oh, how can I

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Speaker 2: be really nice to myself?

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Speaker 1: And that kind of was what I was like talking

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Speaker 1: about before, is like you're in a child in the

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Speaker 1: weirdest way, it's like me actually looking at myself and

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Speaker 1: going to get exactly right, going, Okay, you're not in

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Speaker 1: a good mood today, but why is that? And if

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Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I haven't slept, probably haven't eaten properly,

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Speaker 1: I'm festering too much on this and anxious about this?

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Speaker 1: Exactly what do I need to do to fix that?

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Speaker 1: And do I need to give myself a bit of

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Speaker 1: tough love and address that I'm not choosing me for

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Speaker 1: the moment or for the past week I haven't been

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Speaker 1: choosing me? Or do I need to go I need

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Speaker 1: a break, I need to go like have some food,

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Speaker 1: have a chill out, go for a walk, whatever. So, yeah,

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Speaker 1: tough love is a big one. I'm a good deliver of.

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Speaker 4: That, okay.

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Speaker 2: And also, you know this concept of choosing yourself, Yes,

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Speaker 2: I think a lot of people would almost be like,

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Speaker 2: that's quite foreign to them.

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Speaker 4: Yes, what would your advice be for.

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Speaker 2: Those people in regards to if they struggle to choose themselves?

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Speaker 1: I definitely can relate to that because for a long

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Speaker 1: time I thought choosing you meant that you were selfish.

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Speaker 1: I thought that choosing you was like, oh, you're not

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Speaker 1: considering anybody else. But what you really need to understand

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Speaker 1: is that choosing you allows you to be the best

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Speaker 1: person you can, not just for yourself, but for everyone

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Speaker 1: around you. So by doing those little things for you,

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Speaker 1: so as I said, whether it's going for a walk

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Speaker 1: or even saying no, saying no is a really awesome

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Speaker 1: thing when choosing yourself, because we don't want to do everything,

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Speaker 1: and sometimes we commit to too many things. But I

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Speaker 1: think it's just story. Yes, yes, it's oh wait, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm kid, I don't want to do that, crist Yes,

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00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: but yes, sometimes it is just understanding that choosing you

659
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: allows you to be the best you for yourself, for work,

660
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 1: for relationships. And it does take one step at a time.

661
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 1: So maybe for this week it might be just doing

662
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 1: that one coffee for yourself, like you say, journally at

663
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,400
Speaker 1: the beach by yourself, no dogs, no tim no nothing.

664
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 1: The other weeks it might be going to the gym

665
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 1: or then it doesn't have to be an all or

666
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 1: nothing approach. Some people take that all or nothing and

667
00:28:57,760 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 1: go it's going to be a spa day and this

668
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: and that, And it doesn't need to be that. It

669
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 1: can be simple, and it can be as simple as

670
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 1: saying no. Or you know, having your coffee, gone to

671
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 1: the gym, whatever works for you. But it is very important.

672
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 2: One hundred percent. And I love what you said about

673
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 2: it doesn't need to be all or nothing. I can

674
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 2: really get in the mind frame something. Sorry, I can

675
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 2: really get in the mind frame sometimes. And this isn't

676
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 2: just with this concert. It's like with everything life where

677
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 2: it's like I have to be all or nothing. And

678
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 2: so when you kind of again what I was talking

679
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 2: about taking that pressure off and being like, actually, I

680
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 2: don't have to be all nothing and I can do

681
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 2: one little thing that's going to make me feel good today,

682
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 2: it does.

683
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 4: Like I said, take the pressure off.

684
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 1: Doesn't feel really nice exactly. Yes, I can relate to

685
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 1: that one hundred percent.

686
00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 4: Okay, so let's switch gears and let's chat a.

687
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 2: Bit about health and fitness because I know you, much

688
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 2: like myself, have a bit of journey.

689
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 4: With health and fitness. Can you talk to us.

690
00:29:55,720 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 2: About, you know, what your previous relationship was like with

691
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 2: health and fitness now eating and what it is like now?

692
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh, it's crazy because even I look at myself

693
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 1: like six months ago and I'm like, wow, the journey's

694
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 1: changed again. And this is something about you and I

695
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 1: spoke the first time we met each other. But again

696
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 1: talking back to that fitness goals Pinterest board, it was

697
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 1: all green juices, no carbs, box gap cardio and that

698
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 1: was it. And that was what I thought because what

699
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: a lot of people portrayed. And this is not definitely

700
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 1: not me blaming anyone, because at the end of the day,

701
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: it was my choice to do those things. But that

702
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 1: was my idea and ed it was the cling eating thing,

703
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 1: and that's what I thought health and fitness was. But

704
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 1: what I failed to understand was that health and fitness

705
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 1: is so individual. And that's kind of my main message

706
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 1: in what I'm about is finding what works for you.

707
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 1: And for some people, like health and fitness is, and

708
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 1: health in general is about like you know, having you know,

709
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 1: one extra vegetable a week, but for some people it's

710
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: about being able to go out and eat the pizza.

711
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 1: So it's dependent on your journey. And for me now

712
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: it is just about not being restricted with my diet.

713
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: I went through a lot of that and binge ting

714
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 1: was something that I experienced for quite a long time.

715
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 1: Was either one where the other. Again, it's the all

716
00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 1: or nothing approach. The very restrictive mindset that I had,

717
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 1: and so I went through the ups and downs of that,

718
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 1: and ye're going far too clean or that's what you

719
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: want to call it, Whereas now it's just about how

720
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 1: I feel in myself and about moving my body. I

721
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 1: make sure I'm getting the right nutrients in, but also

722
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 1: enjoying myself because life is to be enjoyed at the

723
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 1: end of the day.

724
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:20,719
Speaker 4: I love that.

725
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 2: And what would your advice be for someone who's maybe

726
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 2: stuck in that little bit of diet culture much like

727
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 2: you said you were previously of being you know, a

728
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 2: bit restrictive or like feeling like they, you know, have

729
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 2: to work out, And I guess it's just the concepts

730
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: of you know, feeling like they have to do something

731
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 2: instead of you know, feeling into themselves.

732
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 4: What sort of advice would you have for that person?

733
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 1: I would say to education is the biggest thing, because

734
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 1: until I really like stepped into learning about being a

735
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 1: personal trainer and kind of doing my own research or nutrition,

736
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 1: I really didn't understand. And I think it's one of

737
00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 1: those things that I think should be in schools. To

738
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: be honest, I think health and and you should be

739
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 1: taught in schools as a holistic things, so that we

740
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:06,520
Speaker 1: don't have these crazy ideals about certain things. But my

741
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 1: advice to would be, do not do something if you

742
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 1: don't enjoy it. I know plenty of girls and clients

743
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 1: that I have spoken to you or you know, I

744
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 1: ran ten Columbus, but I hate running. I'm like to

745
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 1: find something that you do like, whether it's movement and

746
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 1: dancing around your kitchen, or it's going you know, whether

747
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 1: it's to f forty five or you're going to you know,

748
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 1: you have a pet, or you I don't know, you

749
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: go to a park and do lapse or whatever it is.

750
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 1: Whatever it is, I don't mark. You can work on

751
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 1: the kitchen bench. I don't care you do you in

752
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 1: final works for you? And my advice would be especially

753
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: on the nutrition component if you aren't sure. Secret professional

754
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 1: like we talked about psychology. I'm such an advocate for

755
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: dietitians and I think they can definitely help you in

756
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 1: just learning the basics for what you need and what

757
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 1: you don't need and getting rid of that all or

758
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 1: nothing approach again as we spoke about before.

759
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think that is huge, is getting professional

760
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 2: help that is beyond the kind of like I to

761
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 2: be very blantly honest, like beyond that kind of you know,

762
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 2: following your fitness influence, going beyond and seeking you know

763
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 2: that professional helptition.

764
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, like we're talking about psychologists.

765
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 2: I think that's huge And definitely I was much the

766
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 2: same as when you learn more of the education behind it,

767
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 2: and you know, just simple things like you know how

768
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 2: I feel like social media taught me that, you know,

769
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 2: carbs are bad and then when you learn the background

770
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:24,760
Speaker 2: of oh, actually we need carbs to live and they

771
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 2: are actually a great source energy, sometimes you're like you're

772
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 2: not scared of them, and so it's kind of like

773
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 2: getting that sort of knowledge behind you. Yeah, like I say,

774
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 2: like not education, knowledge is power, and that's like a

775
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 2: huge sort of exacting point rather than just you know,

776
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 2: following people and getting their advice to social media.

777
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: But even as simple as like looking at that you

778
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 1: can google the Australian dietary guidelines on Google and have

779
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 1: a look at that, and that can even just give

780
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 1: you a breakdown of like you know, the things that

781
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 1: you you know your body needs and like you say,

782
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 1: looking from an educational point of view, but it's not

783
00:33:57,400 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 1: confusing because your breakdown of serving sides and things like that.

784
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: That makes it a little bit less daunting, which I

785
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 1: think can be really beneficial.

786
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure. And so talk to us a little bit.

787
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 2: We kind of touched on it, but like, talk to

788
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 2: us about the comparison trap, because much like I was

789
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 2: kind of talking about before, and you know, it can

790
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,760
Speaker 2: be you know what I was talking about in regards

791
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:21,439
Speaker 2: I was feeling like, you know, I needed to post

792
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 2: more content because other people were and whatnot. But we

793
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:26,959
Speaker 2: can often feel it in so many ways of whether

794
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:30,840
Speaker 2: that's looking at somebody's body, looking at someone's life.

795
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:32,240
Speaker 4: And it's always through a screen.

796
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:32,719
Speaker 1: It is.

797
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 4: What advice would you have in regards to.

798
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 1: That if we're talking through social media, and especially now

799
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 1: I think because of COVID, like you say, it basically

800
00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 1: almost is always through a screen. To I always say,

801
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 1: just unfollow. I know that may sound really harsh, but

802
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 1: as I said, sometimes I'm the deliverer of tough love.

803
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: But for me personally, if I will find myself in

804
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 1: that scroll trap, and at the end of the day

805
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:57,560
Speaker 1: your social media feed feeds you it is you're literally

806
00:34:57,600 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: digesting that. At the end of the day, you are

807
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 1: consuming that. So if you kind of look at it

808
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:03,279
Speaker 1: from that perspective and go, Okay, if I'm focusing on

809
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 1: my health and fitness, and why am I digesting this negativity?

810
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 1: That's not making me feel good. And that's not necessarily

811
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 1: having a stab at anybody or saying that anybody is

812
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 1: to blame. But I have unfollowed people that I know

813
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 1: in real life purely because looking at what they post,

814
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: all the things they say, just doesn't align with who

815
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,720
Speaker 1: I am. And that is no disrespect to them whatsoever.

816
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: But sometimes it's as simple as cleaning out that feed.

817
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:23,319
Speaker 1: And I love to look at my feet and go,

818
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 1: who am I saying? It's people that inspire me. It's

819
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:28,880
Speaker 1: inspirational quotes, it's affirmations, it's work out videos and recipes

820
00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. And it's also just about that

821
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: if you, I think, find yourself and that be conscious

822
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,120
Speaker 1: of it. Try not to the minute you're roll over.

823
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 1: You know, the minute you roll over, most of us

824
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:40,279
Speaker 1: grab the phone. You've got bed hair, you might have

825
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 1: some dribble on the side of your face, and nobody's

826
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 1: looking pretty. But if you're gonna pick up the phone,

827
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 1: the first thing that you see is a girl with

828
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 1: her Louis Vuitton suitcase often jet set to the Bahamas

829
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:49,879
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god, I'm in my bed

830
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:51,799
Speaker 1: like I've gotta go to work. Of course that's not

831
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 1: the same thing. You know, we're not You can't compare yourself,

832
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 1: but we do tend to fall into that. So my

833
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:58,719
Speaker 1: advice would be just be conscious of it, you know,

834
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: filter it out as much as you can, and try

835
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:02,359
Speaker 1: not to reach for the phone automatically.

836
00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 2: Do you have any sort of practices in place in

837
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,799
Speaker 2: regards to, you know, time you spend off your phone

838
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 2: or anything like that.

839
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 1: Yes, I make sure that even I mean, I get

840
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: up at four am every day for work, so I

841
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: try obviously not to touch it, especially that early. But

842
00:36:15,800 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 1: I will make sure that I do not touch it

843
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: when I'm eating because I like to get my body

844
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 1: to digest my food properly. At nighttime. We speaking about

845
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: moon milk before funny enough, But at nighttime, I give

846
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 1: myself that hour before bed, I like do my little

847
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 1: nighttime routine. Phone goes off, do not disturb like I

848
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 1: do not look at it purely, just like almost is crazy.

849
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:34,879
Speaker 1: It sounds scheduling the times that I'm not looking at it,

850
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 1: because otherwise we honestly, do just subconsciously pick up our

851
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 1: technology without even realizing and subconsciously consumed and it can

852
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:43,320
Speaker 1: be really damaging.

853
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 2: One hundred percent. This is like I haven't got this

854
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 2: question written down, but I'm gonna say it because I

855
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 2: was just thinking about this when you were talking. So

856
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,800
Speaker 2: you know, Chloe, you, like you said, you're only twenty

857
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 2: years old, just you move to the Gold Coast and

858
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 2: then you've just moved to Brisbane And do you live

859
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: by yourself?

860
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 4: I do?

861
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 2: Yes, you live by yourself. You know, you've got this career,

862
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:07,360
Speaker 2: in this job. And to be honest, I've never.

863
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 3: Seen someone as young as you.

864
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 4: I don't want to say like hasard together. You definitely do.

865
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 1: But it's like I definitely do not.

866
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:16,919
Speaker 4: I can.

867
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:21,040
Speaker 2: I can feel your presence and confidence, and I just

868
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 2: think it's also so grounding and I'm just like sitting

869
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 2: here wondering.

870
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 4: Like almost how do you get Because when I.

871
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 2: Think back to when I was twenty Jesus Christ, I

872
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 2: was like being drinking.

873
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 4: I was like, you know, I've done that before. I like,

874
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:40,719
Speaker 4: I do. I love.

875
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,759
Speaker 2: Tell us kind of like how you got to this

876
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 2: point of being this person? Because I'm sitting here look

877
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 2: at you, going sissy.

878
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:55,239
Speaker 1: You not you know, to be honest, I my mom

879
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: will be like, oh my god, don't say that. But

880
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 1: I really do have my mom to thank because, as

881
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 1: I said, from the moment that I was born, I

882
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 1: have just been allowed this space to be whoever I

883
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 1: wanted to be, and I am so grateful for that

884
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: because that has honestly allowed me to just do whatever

885
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 1: I have wanted to do. And don't get me wrong,

886
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: that has been set backs and stuff like that, and

887
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 1: I don't even know. Sometimes I forget I'm twenty. Sometimes

888
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, you need to chill the

889
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 1: hell out, Like oh my God, slowed down. But I

890
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 1: think it comes back down to authenticity once I truthfully

891
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,440
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, this is me and I'm

892
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 1: not gonna apologize for anymore. Every decision I ever made

893
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:34,359
Speaker 1: has just benefited me Pooler because I just like chose

894
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:37,760
Speaker 1: it on my own accord. And I think, although obviously

895
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:39,799
Speaker 1: all of you are not going to have a Stacey here,

896
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:41,919
Speaker 1: which is my mum to allow you, maybe that's space

897
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:43,759
Speaker 1: to be who you want to be. You have to

898
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:46,399
Speaker 1: allow that space for yourself. You have to be kind

899
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 1: enough and look at that in a child, as we

900
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:50,359
Speaker 1: talked about before, and go, I'm going to allow you

901
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: this space because you deserve it to be who you

902
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:54,280
Speaker 1: really want to be, because you owe it to yourself

903
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 1: to be the best version of you. I don't understand

904
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 1: what other real point there is to life if you're

905
00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 1: not going to give your best shot and not to

906
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 1: say that we won't make mistakes something like that. There's

907
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: plenty of things that I've done that I'm like, oh

908
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 1: my god, you're not just say that. But at the

909
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: end of the day, like I think, if you again,

910
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 1: it comes back down to that self care and self

911
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 1: love of just going like I'm gonna be me no

912
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 1: matter what, and sometimes you do have to have your

913
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:18,720
Speaker 1: own back. There's again, I live by myself. I don't

914
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 1: really have any friends in Brucebane, to be honest, it's

915
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,800
Speaker 1: been tough because my family lives on New South Wales

916
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:27,399
Speaker 1: as well as of most of my friends. But I

917
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: know at the end of the day that I've got

918
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 1: my own back, and I think that's really really awesome

919
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: and empowering to come by. And once you do, you're

920
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 1: unstoppable at.

921
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 4: The end of the day. And I can feel that

922
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 4: it's huge thank you.

923
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 2: I guess like the last sort of advice tip is

924
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 2: like with authenticity, I guess it's hard to kind of,

925
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 2: you know, tell someone how to be authentic. But do

926
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 2: have sort of any tips to the audience if they're

927
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,720
Speaker 2: kind of like, yeah, Okay, I want to be authentic,

928
00:39:57,800 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 2: I want to be myself. I want to choose myself.

929
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 2: But I I'm almost like I've never done that before.

930
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 2: How do I do that?

931
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 1: It is? It is hard because, like I said, I'm

932
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 1: very grateful that I've been allowed the space to be

933
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 1: who I am and never really had to think twice

934
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:09,440
Speaker 1: about it.

935
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 4: Yea, So to me, what you were saying like allowing

936
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 4: the space.

937
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 1: Yes, So I think that might be where you need

938
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 1: to look as far as your relationships. And this is

939
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:19,800
Speaker 1: gonna get a little bit deep into it, but self worth.

940
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 1: If you struggle with self worth, which I know so

941
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:24,919
Speaker 1: many people do, it's not commonly spoken about, you need

942
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 1: to look at your relationship with failure. That is the

943
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:29,720
Speaker 1: biggest thing if you look at I know that sounds crazy,

944
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:30,840
Speaker 1: you might be like thinking, oh my god, what is

945
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: talking about? But for me, for me going into a

946
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 1: little bit deeper into that, when I was younger, I

947
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 1: with family relationships thought that I was incapable of being loved.

948
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 1: That was a long thing that I had to deal with,

949
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 1: and that was where I thought that I failed. So

950
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,879
Speaker 1: a lot of the choices and decisions I'd made were

951
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 1: based off the fact that, oh my god, all these

952
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: people are gonna leave me. I'm not gonna be able

953
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: to be loved. So I was making all these crazy

954
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 1: decisions and not being my true self purely because I thought,

955
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 1: oh my god, all these people are gonna leave me,

956
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: I can't be loved and oh my gosh. So that

957
00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 1: obviously wasn't stepping into the full version of Chloe. But

958
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 1: if you to struggle with self worth and authenticity, sorry,

959
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 1: look at your relationship with failure. And it might be

960
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:10,399
Speaker 1: as simple as like, I don't know, a teacher told

961
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 1: you that you're oh we're talking about this before, spoke

962
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 1: too fast in yours in your speech in year six

963
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:16,919
Speaker 1: or whatever it was. But look at that, understand where

964
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 1: it came from. Forgive that situation, allow yourself that forgiveness

965
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:23,320
Speaker 1: that you didn't you were younger, or this happened and

966
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: you didn't know how to accept it then and there,

967
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: but now it is your choice to step into that.

968
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 1: And you know, you know, like I said, write down

969
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: the things that you do love about yourself, whether it

970
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 1: literally is like your eyebrows or like something you're small,

971
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 1: so the way that you laugh. Like everybody is weird

972
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 1: in some way or another, and whether they want to

973
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 1: admit it or not is one thing. But finding those

974
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 1: little things, and again, like we said, look at the

975
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:47,880
Speaker 1: step in front, not the staircase. Find those little things

976
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 1: and start to choose people that embrace you, that make

977
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:55,359
Speaker 1: you feel comfortable. Notice those energies find people that when

978
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 1: you're with you just feel comfortable. And I think, you

979
00:41:57,840 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 1: know what, if that's no one right now, then choose

980
00:41:59,880 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 1: your be that person. You are much better off being

981
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 1: by yourself and choosing you than being around people who

982
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 1: drag you down at the end of the day. So

983
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: notice those energies. Find maybe that spot where you know

984
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: you feel like you have I don't know, something there

985
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:16,560
Speaker 1: that just doesn't sit right or past experience it maybe

986
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 1: has damaged yourself worth a little bit. And it might

987
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 1: take some time, it might take weeks, it might take months,

988
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 1: but if you're conscious of it, I can promise you

989
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 1: that it will it will come up.

990
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,600
Speaker 4: I'm sitting here like just nodding my head looking at.

991
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to my ted talks.

992
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 2: So I no, I absolutely love that and I couldn't

993
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:34,879
Speaker 2: agree more.

994
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 4: Thank you so much for going into that.

995
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 2: And I want to end the podcast because, like I said,

996
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 2: my favorite thing is to open up my phone and

997
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:48,439
Speaker 2: see some sort of motivational story series from what about Now,

998
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 2: I'm always like put the volume out because.

999
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: I'm yelling most of the time normally anyway actually is.

1000
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 2: And so to finish off the podcast, I want you

1001
00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,319
Speaker 2: to give us a bit of a pet talk yes

1002
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 2: pep us or goodness me motivate us and the question

1003
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 2: and this is how I end almost three episodes. So

1004
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:09,920
Speaker 2: I want you to talk about what advice would you

1005
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:11,800
Speaker 2: give yourself or others.

1006
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 4: When you know you're having moments of.

1007
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:19,720
Speaker 2: Self doubt or fear around something new, doing something new,

1008
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 2: or something like that.

1009
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 4: What would you tell yourself?

1010
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 1: I would say the first step is to breathe. Now,

1011
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: this is something I'm really bad at. I am like

1012
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 1: a go go go bullet gate. Let's go. I need

1013
00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 1: everything done in one day. But the first step is

1014
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 1: just to breathe and gratitude as I spoke about at

1015
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 1: the beginning. But gratitude allows you to be present. So

1016
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 1: become present in that moment. Understand that, like, you can

1017
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 1: only do as much as you think you can. So

1018
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:44,720
Speaker 1: if you think you can't do something, you automatically can't.

1019
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: And me spring back my mother up again. But when

1020
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 1: I was a kid and we used to try and

1021
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 1: run up sandtills, she always used to say, I used

1022
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 1: to run up and fall down. And she used to

1023
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 1: say A nice to go, I can't. I can't. She's like, no,

1024
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: you can. And so when I used to run, she

1025
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 1: used to say, I think I can. I think it can.

1026
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 1: So the whole time we were running up, I go,

1027
00:43:57,840 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: I think I can. I think it can. And I

1028
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 1: get up the top of the hill. And it just

1029
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 1: proves that it's all about mental It is how you

1030
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: view it. So choosing that positivity, whether it's writing it down,

1031
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:08,760
Speaker 1: whether it's having that pep talk in the mirror with yourself,

1032
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 1: whatever it is, choose to hype yourself up. And I

1033
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,399
Speaker 1: will hype you up, because, like I said, stepping into

1034
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: yourself is the greatest choice that you'll ever make. Like

1035
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:18,839
Speaker 1: you said, it is your power, and you'll be able

1036
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: to do anything that you want to do, but also

1037
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,759
Speaker 1: understand that being brave doesn't have to mean that there's

1038
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 1: no fear. I think automatically people think that being brave

1039
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 1: and taking leaps and doing all these fabulous things means

1040
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 1: you're not scared or no, it means you're scared, absolutely,

1041
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: but it also just means that you're choosing to do

1042
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 1: it anyway and kind of allow yourself to kind of

1043
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 1: just feel that little bit, you know, whether it's anxious

1044
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: or whatever it is, and just go, Okay, I feel

1045
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 1: that way, but think about think about that leaf, like

1046
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 1: that leap and that step forward, and go, you know,

1047
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:46,440
Speaker 1: I can do this. Think about the hill. I think

1048
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: I can. I think I can, and you'll get there. Ah.

1049
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 3: Again, I'm sitting here nodding my head. Thank you, no,

1050
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 3: thank you.

1051
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,760
Speaker 2: Honestly, like I said, you are my favorite hype girls

1052
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 2: and it has been such a pleasure, and I'm like

1053
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 2: taking mental notes. I'm like, I'm gonna go back and

1054
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 2: listen to this episode.

1055
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 4: When i need the motivation.

1056
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:08,880
Speaker 2: Iron I'm sure the ron C fam is feeling the

1057
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 2: exact same. So before we leave, can you let us

1058
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,240
Speaker 2: know where we can go find and to you, because

1059
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,920
Speaker 2: I'm sure everyone's like, I need to go and follow

1060
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 2: this person so I can.

1061
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 1: Be hyped up, like, oh my god, little me my

1062
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: stories every day. Get ready everyone, No, you can find me.

1063
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 1: It's just my handle at Chloe Brummage so c H

1064
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 1: l O E B R O M A g E

1065
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:28,759
Speaker 1: and that is just my Instagram and then you will

1066
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 1: find everything you.

1067
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 2: Need to do there amazing and Choe has such an

1068
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:37,320
Speaker 2: amazing platform for positivity and pep talks, but also fitness

1069
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 2: and health. That is all about, like she said, embracing you.

1070
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 2: So go and find her. You will not regret it. Oh,

1071
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:46,919
Speaker 2: thank you, and.

1072
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:49,919
Speaker 3: That is it for today's episode. Thank you so much

1073
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:52,800
Speaker 3: for listening. I hope you enjoyed this chat.

1074
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 2: And guys, if you did love this episode, if you

1075
00:45:56,280 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 2: love the podcast, please give us a review. Make sure

1076
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 2: you're subscribed. It really helps out the Rise and Conquer podcast.

1077
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 2: And if you do love the podcast and you love

1078
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 2: the conversations that we have, I think that you would

1079
00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 2: love our Facebook group, So come and join us. It's

1080
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:18,279
Speaker 2: just Rise and Conquer Podcast community and yeah, it's a

1081
00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 2: private group where we chat all things we do on

1082
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:21,400
Speaker 2: the podcast.

1083
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 4: But thank you so much for listening. I'll chat to

1084
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 4: you in our next day, as

1085
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: Maybe there's all the time for dreams and