WEBVTT - #48 Two Doting Dads and Mum feat. Amy Gerrard 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:02.440 We are very excited today to bring you this bonus 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:05.439 episode with none other than Amy Girard. 0:00:05.640 --> 0:00:08.320 Yes, Amy Girard. You may know her from her escapades 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:11.639 on Instagram as a mum influencer. Of course, I would 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:15.640 say the most asked for mum that we've Oh my god, 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:17.439 when we put a call out, they'd be like, who 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:18.439 do you want us to speak to? 0:00:18.680 --> 0:00:22.680 The floodgates opened down and everyone's like Amy Girard. Amy Girard, 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:27.760 My sister has been like annoying me for weeks, being like, 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:29.200 when are you going to fucking speak to her? 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.840 Same with my wife. So she's not just a mum 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:34.440 influenced she's also an author. 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:37.720 Author, podcast host as well, two podcasts being. 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:40.120 Beyond the Likes and Beyond the Chaos. 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:42.720 Only Chaos both brilliant and I would call her an 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:43.720 entrepreneur as well. 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:47.400 Absolutely, she's got a lot of fingers in pies, my 0:00:47.479 --> 0:00:48.159 friend pies. 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:49.760 So here it is. Here's the episode. 0:00:49.920 --> 0:01:04.120 Enjoy. 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:07.360 We are about to start recording it. Just as we 0:01:07.480 --> 0:01:09.840 press start. I don't know if people can hear what's 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:12.640 in the background. It's a fucking Whooper Snipper. 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:15.240 It's a full blown whip. 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:19.520 Roonda my lovely neighbor. Her gardeners have arrived and they 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:20.840 are getting stuck into the backyard. 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:22.919 She saw a set malp and she was like wow. 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:26.880 I was definitely like the neighbor on the other side, 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:27.880 She's like, get it out. 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:31.319 I can't control everybody buzzing noise. That This is the 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:35.880 downside of recording at a home. You get whipper snippers 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:38.840 in the background. You do anyway, Welcome back to two 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.039 doting dads and one doting mum. 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.520 Yes, my name is Mattie Jay and I'm. 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:46.720 Ash and I am Amy Gerard. 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:48.320 I really forgot you were. 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:53.680 This is a podcast all about parenting. It's the good, 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:56.840 the bad, and the relatable. And if you have come 0:01:57.240 --> 0:02:00.720 for any advice, it's not going to happen from myself. 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:01.520 Maybe from Amy. 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:03.920 Yeah, sure, take it with a grain of salt. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:05.840 Yeah we always say that too, just to cover us, 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.120 just so people they'd be like, you're not experts. 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:11.519 Sam. Let's go straight into sleep schedules. 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:16.520 The hard hitting questions, which is how do you get 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:17.280 your kids to sleep? 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:20.320 Melt okay, beautiful. 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.480 That's what we have time for. Amy. I have to 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:25.600 apologize one for the gardener's next door that's fine. And 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:29.600 two for the fact that we've been talking to you 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.840 about this. I know we spoke. First time was last year. 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:36.160 Yes, we pushed it back, we did. 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:37.040 I got sick. 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:38.760 Yep, I got sick. 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:42.280 People kept messaging me being like, where the hell is 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:46.000 the Amy, but like that be deleted already. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.160 I'm always around, And to be honest, I feel like 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:50.640 this time is better anyway, because last year I was 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:52.000 like a headless chicken. 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:55.720 I scattered if we were calling the podcast curse. He 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:58.079 was like, ash, You're never sick. And then we went 0:02:58.639 --> 0:02:59.519 literally just. 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:03.639 Like one of us was always ill. But Todd Wood, yeah, 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:12.119 I have a tickle Amy. Let's let's get right back. 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:15.239 I kind of imagine that as a teenager, you would 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:17.760 have been someone that was quite a prankster. Have you 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:19.239 always been like the funny gal? 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:21.360 Yeah, the class clown. It's cool. 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:24.880 Yeah, I was very much the tomboy. Didn't have a 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:28.520 lot of female influenced. My mum also very big tomboy. 0:03:28.800 --> 0:03:32.040 Grew up with brothers. So I remember a guy asking 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.880 me out for the year ten formal and I was 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:36.480 quite flattered. But the way I said yes was by 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.640 wrestling him to the ground and then touching him in 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:39.200 the face. 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:44.560 Now running races on, let's gop open and yes, and 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:45.360 now you're married. 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:48.720 I didn't marry that one. 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:53.680 But yes, definitely a bit of a prankster, always the one, 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:56.200 cracking jokes, very self deprecating. 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:58.280 Self deprecating is always nice. 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:02.760 Always, that's prizes me. I mean right now people can't 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:04.120 can't see what you look like. 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:08.080 But wouldn't be tomboy, not at all, full blown tomboy. 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:11.880 Yeah, short hair, no, but I did got. 0:04:11.880 --> 0:04:15.280 Curly curly hair about to hear my mum used to 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:15.680 brush it. 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:19.760 I'd look like sideshow bob. I've been like putting forks 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:20.840 into power points. 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:22.720 Did you grow up with dolls at all? 0:04:22.880 --> 0:04:30.760 We not? No, No, I'm pretty sure that the chainsaw. 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:32.680 Out there, he won't be He surely won't be the 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:34.800 whole There's no grass down the side of the house, 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:35.880 but he's just there by. 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:40.960 The window, over the window recording through this. Did you 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:41.520 have siblings? 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:41.720 Though? 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:44.600 I had two brothers, I might explain it a little bit. 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:45.400 Two brothers. 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:49.680 Spent majority of my childhood outside riding bikes, pushing each 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:53.520 other down the hill in you know bins, discarded mattresses 0:04:53.520 --> 0:04:55.919 from council cleanups a proper. 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.760 So did you have any thought at all of like, oh, 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:03.440 I can't wait to grow up and meet the man 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:04.640 of my dreams and become a mum. 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:07.480 Yes, I definitely always wanted to have children. I wanted 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:09.520 to have six children. In fact, I had all of 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:12.560 their names in a diary. 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:14.880 No more, do you remember what the names were. 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:18.960 My favorite name of all time has always been Charlie. Okay, 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:21.400 So when I fell pregnant, I said to my husband, 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:23.800 if we have a girl, her name is Charlie, you 0:05:23.839 --> 0:05:25.440 have no say And he was like. 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:27.160 Whatever, whatever was a boy? 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:29.760 No, I like Charlie for a girl only. 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:31.680 Did you have any pushback on that? Or was he like, yeah, 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:32.880 it's fine, you can have that. No. 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:35.200 No, I was pretty arested as a pregnant woman, so 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:36.880 he wouldn't dare push back. 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:38.760 Yeah, he's like, I know how you like to wrestle. 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:41.880 I don't want to split lips. 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:44.839 You got Ryan, your husband, and head Charlie. 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:47.480 Pretty much. 0:05:47.760 --> 0:05:51.680 So you were the class clown ish tomboy. We are 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:52.760 very academic. 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:57.919 I was very academic until I found, not found, but 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:01.200 until I got my first boyfriend. Did really great in 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:05.880 my school certificate. Then I got a boyfriend. I was 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:07.840 in year eleven, he was in year twelve. 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:09.440 Was he a bad boy? 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:11.599 He wasn't a bad boy. He was really nice. I 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:13.800 made him wait nine months and then I let him 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:18.960 put his penis inside and then it was game over school. 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:22.400 I did not want to from here. 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:25.960 Oh no, they actually called my parents and he's got 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:28.120 so much potential, and she was doing so well and 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:29.599 we don't know what's happening. 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:31.080 To her, just smells of cop. 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:37.040 I was skipping classes. I was Yeah, anyway, there you go. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:40.920 Once you pop, you can't stop right it. 0:06:42.560 --> 0:06:45.200 Did your parents try and get you back on track? 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:46.880 They tried desperately. 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:47.159 Yeah. 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:48.640 What sort of methods did they try? 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:51.240 Locking me in my room, that's surrounding me. 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.839 They're all things that are known to work. 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:56.800 Nothing really worked. I used to wait till they went 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:58.040 to bed, and they don't sneak out. 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:58.359 Of the house. 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:00.480 No chastity bell, yeah like that. 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:04.200 Yeah, but well, my dad was really strict. He was 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.880 a police prosecutor. I was his firstborn as well as 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:07.279 a daughter. 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:10.880 Do you remember then bringing your boyfriend at the time home. 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:12.040 Did he meet your dad? 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:12.440 Yes? 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:13.640 How did he respond? 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:16.320 No? He was fine, he wasn't. It's a two story 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:19.160 house and his name was Darren. Dad. 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:22.120 We used to call him Big Daz. 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:22.840 That was his. 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:28.000 Nickname because he wasn't big at all. He was beginning boyfriend. No, 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:30.840 my dad's big b Oh, there's lots of bigs, right, No, Darren. 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:34.360 His nickname was Big Daz or Tripod because he had 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:35.160 a big dick. 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:35.679 Yeah. 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:36.840 I didn't want to say. 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:40.280 It, so they called yeah. 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:41.200 No. He had to. 0:07:41.720 --> 0:07:43.480 He had to be obviously very respectful. 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:46.120 My dad is very big on respect and manners, and 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.160 so he would have to sit at the bottom of 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:51.160 the staircase while I went upstairs to get changed or 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:54.560 do whatever. We dated for two years as well. I 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:57.560 don't think he ever stepped foot in my bedroom that your. 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.640 Dad knows of. Anyway, my dad knows was listening. 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:04.480 But what happened, let's never tell my dad about this podcast. 0:08:04.640 --> 0:08:06.920 All that did was make me go outside of the 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.440 family home to have sex. So I was in bushes 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:15.400 and cars and places where you know, not as. 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:18.160 Safe totally, well the bushes actually. 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:20.520 But in his head he was like, ou out of mind. 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:22.240 As long as it's not happening under my roof, I 0:08:22.280 --> 0:08:23.200 don't want to know about it. 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:26.440 Well, then when did your now husband? Where did he 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:27.440 come into the scene. 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:33.079 I met Brian when I was twenty eight. Okay, yeah, 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:35.520 he came over to my house. He met my parents. 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:39.040 We were playing a game of winking murder around the table. 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:41.200 What is w's winking murder? 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:43.719 You divvy out cards and whoever gets I think it's 0:08:43.720 --> 0:08:46.360 the joker or the king, you're the murderer and then 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:49.360 everyone It's quite odd, right, It's a weird game to play, 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:52.439 especially when you're introducing your new partner and you're all 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:54.319 just staring at each other and you got a wink 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:57.560 on the sly right and not be caught by everybody 0:08:57.600 --> 0:09:00.000 else at the table, and then you have to pretend 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:01.800 to die, so you have to wait a couple of 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:05.040 seconds then go. 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:07.320 Ah, and other people have to work out who did that? 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:10.360 So why was Ryan in your house at a time? 0:09:10.400 --> 0:09:11.240 Who initiated that? 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:14.280 So we had like a family dinner, Yeah, and he 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:15.480 had come over to meet my. 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:16.200 Mum and dad. 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:17.280 Very daunting. 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:19.920 Yes, So we had the dinner. My brothers were there 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:23.400 with their partners. Ryan came over, We played winking murder. 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:27.920 Ryan's fiercely competitive. Somehow managed to win Winking Murder, and 0:09:27.960 --> 0:09:28.880 he did this like. 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.560 Interesting because your dad having a prosecutor, you'd think he'd 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:32.880 be all over that, what. 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:35.160 You would, but you know what, he was all over 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:37.719 So Ryan, Ryan does this thing where he gets when 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:40.640 he gets really nervous, he gets extra loud and boisterous, 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:43.240 and he almost comes across like a bit of a 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:48.400 cocksucker because he's over compensating for being really nervous. So 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:51.000 he won Winking Murder and he's kind of picked me 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.600 up and pretended to do this WWE wrestling move where 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:59.680 he slams me over his knee. God like, it didn't 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:03.040 hurt me, but my dad after he left was like, 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:05.280 what was that about? What was that about? 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:06.920 I never wanted to touch my daughter. 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:09.959 I don't know if I'm comfortable with that kind of stuff. So, 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:12.720 you know, got brought up in the wedding speech, he 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:13.760 gets reminded about it. 0:10:13.800 --> 0:10:16.679 Yeah, nothing like a good first impression. And so then 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:19.200 at what point, how far into the relationship, after you 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.960 guys had met it twenty eight did you think, Wow, 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:24.199 this this is the one. Yeah? 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:27.640 God, it was just really easy with Ryan. 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:28.880 He's quite the hunk. 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:30.800 Can say he's pretty hunky. 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:35.760 He's. Yeah, look the dark hair and the blue eyes 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:37.640 he is. He's getting a bit of salt and pepper 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:43.720 in the beard, which I'm into. His dad is quite attractive. 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:48.800 Listen to this, this is what we want, and he 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:52.760 is and Ryan does look very similar to him, so 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:57.160 I'm like tick right. Yeah, I actually think that Ryan, 0:10:57.360 --> 0:11:00.400 as we get older, is getting more attractive. So I've 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:03.720 done well there. But it was just he's a good time. 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:07.120 I have more fun when he's with me as opposed 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:09.000 to have boyfriends. I just wanted to go out with 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:10.920 girls and then you know, be with him when I 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:14.520 was hungover on a Sunday, whereas Ryan kind of matches 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.920 my energy. We love a dance floor and it's got 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.400 good banter and he doesn't mind me taking the piss 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:21.640 out of him and vice versa. 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:22.760 Yeah, I think that's key. 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:24.160 When you can take the piss out of each other, 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:27.840 it's like makes everything else so much easier. It's when 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.079 like you're too serious. I notice, like when I meet 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:32.120 couples and they're, oh my god, they can't make fun 0:11:32.120 --> 0:11:34.840 of each other. It's like, how does that work at home? 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:37.719 Is it like a library where does no one talks like, 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:38.679 and I think it has. 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:41.880 I think a big component of our marriage is we're 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.880 really great friends. Yeah, and I think that definitely helps 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:47.760 because like the last that fucked off real quick. 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:52.400 I'm always a big believer in like having similarities with 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:54.640 your partners. Some people are like, it's opposites that are tracked, 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:56.000 and I'm like, no, you want to be on the 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:59.439 same page, the same energy. And then when it comes 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.480 to having a fan only that can be a tricky 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.840 one because sometimes they tick all the boxes everywhere. Else 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:06.800 then they don't want to you know, they don't want 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:08.760 to have the same once is what you want. Yeah, 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:09.680 I don't want six kids. 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:12.040 Also get values like values too. 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.760 It's kind of like you could be happy, go luck, 0:12:14.800 --> 0:12:16.800 you're having so much funer. Then it's like, I don't 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:18.520 want kids. I don't want I don't believe in that. 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:20.280 I don't believe in that. I think it's really important 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:23.360 that you do, even if it's not exactly the same. 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:24.640 Fine some sort of. 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:27.120 Yeah, and we also love the same things, like we 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:31.839 love eating like we love but like eating out really 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:32.280 good food. 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:34.680 He's an exceptional cook. I'm a fantastic eater. 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.240 I've seen your stories where You're just like, he's just 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:38.959 like got to cook up this big thing for a 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:40.600 couple of people coming in, and. 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:42.920 He loves it. So I was like, that's great because 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:43.880 I hate cooking. 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:46.920 Do you remember kind of saying to Ryan at any point, 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:49.160 let's start talking about a family. 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:52.360 I'm pretty sure I spoke about it on our first date. 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:56.199 I think he asked me like. 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:58.560 I was like, I'm not fucking around. 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:01.679 I'd just gotten out of a pretty hectic, shitty, toxic 0:13:01.720 --> 0:13:04.120 relationship and I was like, I'm gonna lay all my 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:06.440 cards out. I think he actually asked, do you want kids? 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:10.600 And I was like, yeah, I do, Victor. Now right 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:13.080 now we can practice No. I think we discussed it 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:15.600 on the first day. Wow, we did have a few 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.040 new gronies so pretally like. 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:20.480 Yeah, yeah at twenty eight as well. 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:25.079 Around thirty two, so like early twenties you were. 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:28.920 Clog sticken pretty much. 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:30.679 Did you plan this is when we're going to have 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:32.800 or did it happen just along the way. 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:38.600 This story is wild. No, nothing was planned. 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.560 I I didn't make him wait as long as I 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:43.040 made Big Das wait, Big Da. 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:45.679 Just big Daer did have a decent sized cock. 0:13:45.880 --> 0:13:50.280 Yeah, No, Ryan did. I still made him wait a 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.320 little bit. My thing is if you're into them, you 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:56.520 don't give it up straight away. This is about three weeks. 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.000 That's actually better than most people today. 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:03.600 But we had gone to the city to serf, you know, 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:04.320 the city deserf. 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:05.520 I was living in Bellby Hill. 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:08.920 For anyone who doesn't know outside of Sydney is what 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:11.560 you run from the city to the serf to Bondai. 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:15.480 It's like fourteen It's massive. Everyone runs and then gets 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:16.160 ship faced. 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:17.959 Yeah, and it sounds amazing. 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:21.480 It's yeah, I definitely don't do the running part. I'm 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:24.640 just there to get And so I had been at 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:29.080 a party in Bondi from like eleven am and he 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:31.160 had been somewhere else. He was living in Paddington, and 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:35.160 then we somehow met at Icebergs. It's all a very 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:40.280 blurry and we went home together and then I I 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:42.720 remember waking up in the morning and he was next 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:43.320 to me and I. 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:46.880 Was like, wow, like I am so hungover. 0:14:47.160 --> 0:14:51.920 And he was like yeah, same, and he goes, so, 0:14:53.480 --> 0:15:00.040 I think you've wet the bed. I was like, what, No, 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:02.080 I haven't, and he goes, no, no, you definitely have. 0:15:02.720 --> 0:15:05.680 I actually thought it was me to begin with, and 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:09.560 then I've realized, no, it's definitely coming from Amy's side. 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.160 But I also was just too hungover. 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:14.359 He was like, I kind of wanted to leg it, 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:17.320 but I didn't. I'm still here, and I feel like 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:20.960 in that very moment, it's all comes down to how 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:23.920 I was going to play it right, Like if I 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:27.400 wigged out and got really embarrassed and awkward, it would 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:29.880 have just made the situation. It was already. 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:33.080 Straight to him. 0:15:33.240 --> 0:15:33.440 Yeah. 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:38.480 No, I was just like, oh, yes, pissed, did that 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:39.160 really happen? 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:41.120 And I just kind of made a joke about. 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:41.880 It, like it always happens. 0:15:45.400 --> 0:15:47.600 It's a thing in our family, Like it's not in 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:51.000 the med it's in the corner. That's what happens after 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:53.080 a few drinks. And so that was the first night 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:56.000 we spent together. And then the next night we ended 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:59.480 up having a shower together, and I again after a 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:02.200 few drinks, quite a few drinks after a big night. 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:03.360 Out, so eat in the shower. 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:05.720 I didn't we on the shower, but I actually didn't 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:07.000 remember having the shower with him. 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:08.800 And I woke up the next morning, I was like, 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:11.680 when I go my hair, like I always think about 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:13.400 the Bachelor. You know, you go on these dates and 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:14.680 all these girls jump in the water. 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:17.520 I'm like, how me. I'd jump in the water. 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:19.800 Looking like this, and then I'd come out looking like 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:24.000 Hagrid from Harry Potter, right, like full afro, curly hair. 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:26.960 And I woke up and I've transformed into the. 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:29.040 Real met and I was like, why the fuck is 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:29.760 my hair curly? 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:32.720 He was like, oh, we had a shower, and then I 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:35.800 was like wow. So the first two nights that we 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:42.680 spent together off to Flying Star Beautiful. Yeah, you try 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:45.280 to get to the first time we had sex was. 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:47.320 Going to lead to like getting pregnant. 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:50.000 Oh, I didn't get pregnant the first time we. 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:54.040 Had set I thought. 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:56.120 That did get pregnant very early on. 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:59.160 Though, But I'm enjoying the first Let's move to the 0:16:59.200 --> 0:16:59.680 third time. 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:01.920 That's where I got pregnant. 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:04.440 And so when you felt pregnant? Was that one planned 0:17:04.800 --> 0:17:06.080 with Charlie. 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:10.040 No, We've been dating for about five and a half months, oh, 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:13.679 very early five and a half maybe six months. We 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:18.240 had thankfully had one trip over to America. He'd broken 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:20.280 up with his ex. He was meant to go to Coachella, 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:22.800 so he had these tickets which he couldn't get the 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:23.640 flights refunded. 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:24.919 So he was like, do you want to go on 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:25.440 a holiday? 0:17:25.440 --> 0:17:28.879 And I was like, sure, with you, it's probably going 0:17:28.920 --> 0:17:32.399 to put our relationship into a blender, but why not 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:36.880 test it out. Yeah, So we went to San Francisco, 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:41.600 Santa Barbara, La, over to Mexico, Player del Carmen, onto Tulum. 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:45.119 I'll tell you what best thing we ever did, because 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:48.400 let me tell you, it's the only international holiday that 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:50.160 we have ever had on our own. 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:50.760 Oh wow. 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:56.080 Right, okay, so we've had this incredible holiday which kind 0:17:56.080 --> 0:17:59.560 of just cemented our love for each other. Came back, 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:03.399 moved together in Surrey Hills, went to the races. I 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:06.680 had a big day there, somehow ended up at the stables. 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:08.919 So, okay, fast forward. 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:12.080 A couple of weeks and my girlfriend tells me that 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:13.520 she's pregnant and I was like, oh my god, I'm 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:14.600 like two days late as well. 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:15.359