1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for. 2 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 2: The time poor parent who just wants answers. 3 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:12,920 Speaker 3: Now, it's just the importance of having this plan right, 4 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 3: That's really that's ultimately what this is about. It's about saying, 5 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:18,760 Speaker 3: we're going to identify one thing to improve. What's the 6 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 3: plan stand. 7 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,600 Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show. My mum 8 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: and dad. 9 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:26,439 Speaker 2: Have we got some exciting news for you? 10 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: Should we dive into it? Of course? Okay, five days ago. 11 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 3: Six days ago, across the weekend, we sat down at 12 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,840 Speaker 3: the in law's place. So our daughter Chanelle is married 13 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 3: to Jared. Jared's parents hosted. 14 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: The gender reveal. 15 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 3: I'm not a fan of the gender reveal. I'd rather 16 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 3: find out on the day that the baby is born. 17 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,319 Speaker 3: I want to find out how we've never found out. 18 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 1: We've never found out. 19 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:48,080 Speaker 2: It's been very exciting for us, and I would have 20 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 2: loved for her to follow suit, and she probably actually 21 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:51,959 Speaker 2: was in line with that. 22 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 3: So you know what, Hey, it's their life. If this 23 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 3: is what they've chosen to do. I'm all on board 24 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 3: because I love the kids and so a while back 25 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 3: we said that we were going to become grandparents. It's really 26 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:04,319 Speaker 3: happening now, like it's really happening. What had it got 27 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 3: like a month and a half ago, six weeks? 28 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: Two days? Get out it. It can't even be that. 29 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 2: It's going to be less than that now, No, sixty days, Okay, 30 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 2: well she's counting. 31 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 3: Sometime in the next couple of months there is going 32 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 3: to be an additional baby in the family, and it 33 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,040 Speaker 3: won't be one that we have to deal with all 34 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 3: the time, which I'm so delighted about. We now know 35 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 3: we now know what gender that child will be. And 36 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 3: the photographer who came along a friend of Chanel's, to 37 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 3: sort of document the gender reveal, got a little bit 38 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 3: of audio for us by videoing the explosive moment where 39 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:38,960 Speaker 3: the cannons went off and we saw the color of 40 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 3: the smoke. Here's what happened, y and the color of 41 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 3: the smoke was we know how to make girls in 42 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 3: this family. 43 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 2: The funny thing was Jared's sided the family. They have 44 00:01:56,720 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 2: all boys, all of the grandkids boys. We have a 45 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 2: house full of girls, and I'm full of girls, and 46 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 2: you've got the majority of girls in your family as well. 47 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,519 Speaker 2: And so we were on team blue. 48 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, we were convinced that there was a boy 49 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: coming and his. 50 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 2: Family were Team Pink. Ye, So it was very funny 51 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 2: to see it all unfold. What's so funny is watching 52 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 2: the breakdown on camera where we've got the still shots 53 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 2: minute like second by second. Yeah, is the cannon has 54 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:32,160 Speaker 2: literally blown. You can see pink all through the sky 55 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:38,240 Speaker 2: and for about four frames there is zero response in 56 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:39,359 Speaker 2: real time. 57 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: Happens in a fraction of a seconds, yes, but when. 58 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:46,679 Speaker 2: It's broken down into those incremental like second by second frames. 59 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: You can see all the brain's computing Yes, it's pink, 60 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: it's a girl, Oh my goodness. 61 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 2: And you've got Team Girl with their arms throwing in 62 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 2: the air. You've got the mother in law who was 63 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 2: on Team Blue and she's literally got her head in 64 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:03,400 Speaker 2: both hands thinking, oh no, I really wanted a boy. 65 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 2: It was just it was so delightful. It was so 66 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 2: nice to be with everybody and was just be able 67 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 2: to celebrate the expectant joy and how that and how 68 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 2: that is actually creating joy in our lives already. 69 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 3: I'm feeling I'm feeling super confident now, like I know 70 00:03:20,720 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 3: what to do with a baby girl. I'm feeling okay 71 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 3: about this now. I was, I mean, I was. I 72 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 3: was really excited to have a little grand baby boy, 73 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 3: but I had no idea, like, it's what do you 74 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 3: do with that little thing between its legs when you 75 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 3: have to change the snappy? I was nervous about that 76 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 3: sort of stuff, not that I planned on changing any nappies. 77 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 2: But well, a couple of the sister in laws they 78 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 2: actually thought you were a bit disappointed. 79 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 1: Did they really? 80 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 2: They did. 81 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: Oh, they must have seen the photo of my face. 82 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 2: They did. They thought you were a bit disappointed. You're 83 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 2: on team Blue, you were expecting a boy, you wanted 84 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 2: a boy? 85 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 3: No, no, no, there was no expectation or wanting. Do you 86 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 3: know what it actually came down to? This is there's 87 00:03:55,840 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 3: a theory that's been going around for a long long time. 88 00:03:57,880 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 3: Many people have shared it with me. And the theory 89 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 3: is that super fit and healthy men with lots of 90 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 3: testosterone have girls. 91 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 2: I don't know where you've ever heard that. 92 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 1: I've heard it a number of times and people who. 93 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 2: Are not the more you enjoy sex, the better. 94 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: And maybe that's the theory, I don't know. 95 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 3: And if you're a little bit less in shape, maybe 96 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 3: have slightly lower testosterone, you're more likely to have a boy, 97 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 3: that's the theory that I heard, and I like, Jared 98 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 3: has been in better shape over the years. 99 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 1: He's not in horrendously bad shape or anything, but I've 100 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 1: always been in really good shape, and I thought, that's it. 101 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: I'm super athlete. I've had lots of girls. 102 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:36,960 Speaker 3: And there goes the theory, because well, either that. 103 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 2: Or Jared's actually super super fit. 104 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 3: That or they're having a wonderfully healthy intimate life which 105 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 3: we don't need to talk about here on the podcast 106 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 3: or whatever. Again quite frankly, so anyway, we're going to 107 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 3: become girl grandparents because we're already were already a girl. 108 00:04:51,360 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: Girl mom and girl dad. And the trend continues. 109 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 3: Now with that exciting personal news out of the way 110 00:04:57,680 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 3: and having taken up way too much time in our 111 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 3: podcast already, we need to talk business every single Friday, 112 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:05,279 Speaker 3: and the Happy Families podcast. 113 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:07,719 Speaker 2: Well, I've noticed for a little while now, every time 114 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:09,800 Speaker 2: we got on to do Oh, do Better Tomorrow, you 115 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 2: acknowledge that you're not here, Yes. 116 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 1: And it's been another week like that. 117 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 3: At the moment we have I'm just traveling a lot. 118 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 3: There is a lot of seminars to do all over 119 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 3: the country, and so this. 120 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 2: Episode gets a little bit tricky to do from time 121 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:22,680 Speaker 2: to time because you're not here a lot. 122 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: But I'm here now you are. 123 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 2: And so during the week I was actually, oh, I 124 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 2: discovered a new function on my podcast at Okay, there's 125 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 2: this thing you just push unplayed and it brings up 126 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 2: all of the unplayed episodes whenever podcast. You're making fun 127 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 2: of me. 128 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, Honestly, I just listened to what's 129 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: next in the queue. 130 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:45,480 Speaker 2: Well, I usually flick down and I find Okay, haven't 131 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 2: listened to that one, and I'll play that. But there's 132 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 2: a button, right, and I pushed it and there was 133 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:53,359 Speaker 2: a lot more than I thought I hadn't listened to. 134 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 2: So I started. I actually scrolled down to the bottom 135 00:05:56,120 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 2: because you know, when you play if you want to 136 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:00,840 Speaker 2: play them consecutively, actually goes up the list instead of down. 137 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, So I had to go down 138 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 2: to the bottom of the list so I could start there. 139 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 2: So I would kind of go upwards. Well, it took 140 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 2: me back to when I very first joined the podcast, right, 141 00:06:11,279 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 2: there were so many that I hadn't listened to. So 142 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 2: I just started kind of you know, on speed Doll, 143 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 2: I'm listening to them really fast. 144 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 3: Oh, I've got to say on that now, I know 145 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 3: that we've got an important conversation to have here. But 146 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 3: I've started listening. I'm trying to reduce my phone usage 147 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:26,479 Speaker 3: and I'm also trying to slow my life down and 148 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 3: create my margin. I've started listening to podcasts on regular speed. 149 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 2: Do you know what I did this with the girls 150 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 2: the other day because I'm listening at one point seventy five. 151 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 1: All right, Oh my goodness, no, no, no, no. 152 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 2: It sounds so normal. It sounds so normal. So anyway 153 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 2: the other day, so it's like. 154 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 1: We've just got this great energy all the time. 155 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 2: Yes, it's really energy pumped. If I'm listening to Americans 156 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 2: every now and again, I have to slow it down because. 157 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: They don't speak Australian English. 158 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:54,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, their twang's a bit too hard to get when 159 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 2: you speed. 160 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: It up listening on one. 161 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 2: But I was listening to this therapist the other day 162 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 2: and no joke, I put her on single speech and 163 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 2: I looked at my daughter and I was like, I 164 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 2: said to her, does that sound like it's like droll old? 165 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: It was so slow. 166 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 2: She looked at me, she said, that does not sound normal. 167 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 2: So then I put it up to one point seventy five, 168 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:19,119 Speaker 2: and I'm like, no, that's better. 169 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, well absolutely single speed. Anyway, you've been listening to 170 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 1: all of our old podcasts. 171 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 2: I listened a whole not all of them, but obviously 172 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 2: the ones I've missed. And I've noticed a trend. Right now, 173 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 2: we've got over eight hundred episodes. I joined you at 174 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 2: about one hundred and thirty four. 175 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: I think, Wow, was the U recorded a lot of 176 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:38,840 Speaker 1: podcast episodes, so. 177 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:41,920 Speaker 2: There's a lot of you and I in there. And 178 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 2: what I noticed is time and time again. Yes, in 179 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 2: how I'll do better tomorrow, we've acknowledged that we really 180 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 2: suck at doing holidays. 181 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: That's a big thing. 182 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 2: I can see that literally back from like the first week. Wow, 183 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 2: we acknowledged that we're really bad at holidays. 184 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 1: Let's make a plan, let's improve that, let's do better tomorrow. 185 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 2: And that we need to slow down time and time again. 186 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 2: It's just this acknowledgment that we're craming way too much 187 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 2: into our lives and we need to slow down. And 188 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 2: I thought, isn't it interesting after all of this time, 189 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 2: we're still talking about the same thing. 190 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 1: Wow, So we're not getting any better? Is what you're saying. 191 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 2: I think that we get better at different time. 192 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: Right, Okay, so it's so cyclical. 193 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, And I think often what happens is we 194 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 2: get really intentional and we make changes yep, necessary changes 195 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 2: to what's going on. But then we become complacent. And 196 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 2: sometimes it's not even complacency. Sometimes there are like big 197 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 2: things that happen our lives that change moving house that 198 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:45,960 Speaker 2: changed everything in our lives. There's just different seasons in 199 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 2: our lives and things that happen. 200 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:48,679 Speaker 1: That progression and regression. 201 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:51,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that we're at a stage in our 202 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 2: lives yet again where we need a bit of an overhaul. 203 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 3: Yes, and it's been a long time since we've gone 204 00:08:57,040 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 3: and done like our quarterly getaways for those of you 205 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 3: who are new to the contents once every quarter we 206 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 3: used to before COVID, we used to disappear for a 207 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:06,400 Speaker 3: weekend and either your parents or my parents watch the 208 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 3: kids for those two nights and we go away. And yes, 209 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 3: we would enjoy our time together and have a little 210 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 3: bit of a break, but we actually went there with 211 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 3: an agenda and we talked about what's going. 212 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 1: Well, what's not, and what we're going to improve on. 213 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 3: Over the next twelve weeks over the next quarter, and 214 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:19,439 Speaker 3: it made such a difference. 215 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 1: It helped us to stay aligned. 216 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:23,679 Speaker 3: And focused together and really beyond the same page and 217 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:27,960 Speaker 3: work towards improving and progressing what our family was about. 218 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 2: Since COVID, because it's been so challenging to get that 219 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 2: time away. It hasn't been the regular quarter. 220 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. 221 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 3: I mean, you've had your parents have had some health issues, 222 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 3: and my parents are just a long way away from us, 223 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 3: So it's just been tricky. 224 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 2: And so when we have gone away, we haven't been 225 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 2: able to do two nights. Generally, it's been one night. 226 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 2: We're squeezing it in. 227 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:46,840 Speaker 1: Oh. We've just wanted to have fun and just wanted 228 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: to be together. 229 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, So it's been really tricky, and it's something that 230 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 2: we really recognize makes such a difference in our lives when. 231 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:57,679 Speaker 3: We do it. Let's talk about our olds about it 232 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:00,439 Speaker 3: tomorrow and now that we've shared your insights from our 233 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 3: repetitive challenges as a family and the delight of being 234 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 3: baby girl grandparents or soon to be at least, what 235 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 3: is your old do better tomorrow? 236 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: For the week. 237 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 2: On the weekend just gone, you and I did something 238 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:17,559 Speaker 2: that we know works yes to get on the same page. 239 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:20,600 Speaker 2: We got together, we had a catch up. 240 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 3: It wasn't nearly long enough. We need a quarterly get away, 241 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 3: but it was an hour an hour. 242 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 2: Instead of sitting in our bed yep and being less 243 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:32,439 Speaker 2: than inspired, I said, let's go down to the beach. 244 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 2: So we went down to the beach. We had a walk, 245 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 2: We took the notepad and pen, and we went through 246 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:40,840 Speaker 2: the same three questions that we ask every time we 247 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:41,199 Speaker 2: do this. 248 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: What's going well, what's not going so well? 249 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:46,680 Speaker 3: And what's the one thing that we're going to improve 250 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 3: this week to make our family or our individual lives 251 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:50,679 Speaker 3: function better. 252 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 2: And the challenge when you need a complete overhaul is 253 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:58,079 Speaker 2: how do you prioritize one thing. So we're looking at diet, 254 00:10:58,160 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 2: we're looking at sleep, we're looking at screen usage, we're 255 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:01,440 Speaker 2: looking at. 256 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 1: We're looking at every like seriously. 257 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:06,199 Speaker 3: The list of what's going well, I mean, things are fine, 258 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:08,559 Speaker 3: but the thing is we don't want things to be fine. 259 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:10,479 Speaker 1: We want things to be fantastic. 260 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:11,679 Speaker 2: We want to be flourishing. 261 00:11:11,880 --> 00:11:13,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, and the list of things that we can improve on, 262 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 3: I mean it was long, it was substantial, but if 263 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 3: you try and try to improve it, all at once. 264 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 3: It just it's overwhelming. It gets too hard, and you 265 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 3: kind of run out of seam on about day three. 266 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: It all just hurts too much to try to implement 267 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: all this change all at once. 268 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:31,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, and what often happens is you start off gung 269 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 2: ho with all of these changes and within a few 270 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 2: days you can't. 271 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:38,440 Speaker 3: Stay sustain it. So we picked just a couple of 272 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 3: things to work on this week, one thing personally, one 273 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:46,680 Speaker 3: thing as a couple, and something as a family. We 274 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:49,640 Speaker 3: brought the kids in once we'd had our conversation and 275 00:11:49,679 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 3: we talked about the family stuff. I have done super 276 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:55,760 Speaker 3: well on my personal stuff in terms of making my 277 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:57,359 Speaker 3: mornings magic. 278 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:01,440 Speaker 1: And we have our first date. We've got a date. 279 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 3: Night tonight, which I'm delighted about because it means that 280 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 3: we're implementing this stuff that we've said it's important, and 281 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 3: the stuff that the family said that we would work 282 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:12,400 Speaker 3: on together and try to improve. It's been a little 283 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 3: bit lumpy and bumpy, but the reality is we're making progress, 284 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:18,640 Speaker 3: and it's just the importance of having this plan right. 285 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 3: That's really that's ultimately what this is about. It's about 286 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 3: saying we're going to identify one thing to improve what's 287 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 3: the plan stand? 288 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 2: And I think the most important thing is so often 289 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:36,120 Speaker 2: we want immediate and substantial change to take place, to 290 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:39,600 Speaker 2: feel like we've been successful, to feel like it's been worthwhile. Yes, 291 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 2: But the very fact that we now have awareness of 292 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:47,160 Speaker 2: what's going wrong and where we need to improve, that's 293 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:49,600 Speaker 2: a massive tick. Yeah right, Because we can keep living 294 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 2: this life and just letting things slide and make no 295 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:57,199 Speaker 2: acknowledgment and nothing changes. But the very fact that we're 296 00:12:57,240 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 2: able to have the conversation is the most important thing. 297 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,160 Speaker 2: The second thing is recognizing that because it's not just 298 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:07,559 Speaker 2: you that you're bringing along, it's a whole team of 299 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:13,440 Speaker 2: people that are at various developmental stages, let alone capacity. 300 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 3: And care factor, like different kids care a whole lot 301 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 3: more about some stuff than other stuff. 302 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:19,200 Speaker 2: It's really important that you're not hard on yourself or 303 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:22,680 Speaker 2: your family. So if you see that for one moment 304 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:26,480 Speaker 2: in time, life was actually really good, then you have 305 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 2: to be able to see that and acknowledge it, yes, 306 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 2: for what it is. And the conversation that we have 307 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:35,200 Speaker 2: next week is Okay, we had a great Monday. How 308 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 2: do we make this flow into Tuesday? Or how do 309 00:13:39,080 --> 00:13:42,200 Speaker 2: how do we you know, increase the amount of time 310 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 2: we've been I've spent together as a family this week. 311 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 2: So we have to see the wins for what they are. 312 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 2: Ye however small, however incremental, however small, because if we don't, 313 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:56,360 Speaker 2: then we're going to literally spiral down, lose all desire 314 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 2: and motivation to keep trying. 315 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 3: So that it tomorrow for this week really is get 316 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 3: serious with intention and put a plan together for one 317 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 3: or two things to improve this week, and then have 318 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:10,560 Speaker 3: the conversation every week, every Saturday or every Sunday, sit 319 00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 3: down and have the ten or fifteen minutes with the family, 320 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:15,240 Speaker 3: maybe have an hour as a couple, get on the 321 00:14:15,240 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 3: same page, and watch things fingers crossed hopefully get better. 322 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:23,120 Speaker 3: The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin rule On 323 00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 3: from Bridge Media, Craig Bruce as our executive producer. 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