1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:04,320 Speaker 1: Christ Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell Show podcast. 2 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 2: I'm just going to say something, but before I say that, 3 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:10,720 Speaker 2: I just want to flag up what we're going to 4 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 2: talk about, because I'm obviously where that you know, anytime 5 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:16,799 Speaker 2: when you're on the radio, you could start talking about 6 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:19,240 Speaker 2: something and someone might be going through something in their 7 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 2: own life and you didn't know what it was about. 8 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:25,320 Speaker 2: So if anyone is going through grief at the moment, 9 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 2: and you can probably guess what I'm going to be 10 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 2: talking about, it is going to be a death that 11 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 2: happened to my mother in law over the weekend. If 12 00:00:31,320 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 2: you're going through this right now, just don't listen to 13 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:35,519 Speaker 2: the next couple of minutes. The last thing I want 14 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:37,800 Speaker 2: to do is upset anybody, the rest of you. I 15 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 2: don't want to be a down this morning or ruin 16 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 2: what you normally get from the show. But one thing 17 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:45,480 Speaker 2: I hope we always do every day on this show 18 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:48,199 Speaker 2: is we talk about our lives and hopefully that we're 19 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 2: there to talk about anything that goes on in our lives. 20 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 2: That's what I love doing about this show. It's everything 21 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 2: to do with our lives. The funny stories, the hardships, 22 00:00:56,360 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 2: and hopefully helping each other through the heat ups and 23 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 2: downs that you'll find in life. And over the weekend, sadly, 24 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 2: my mother in law, Jackie, she lost her life and 25 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:16,680 Speaker 2: it was sudden, and the in amongst author awfulness of 26 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 2: what that's like, we were all there. That's my wife, 27 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 2: me and our two daughters as well. And Jackie didn't 28 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 2: die alone. She was surrounded, even though it was sudden 29 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:28,560 Speaker 2: and we had no warning. But if you know my 30 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 2: mother in law, when she wants to go, she just goes. 31 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 2: You know, you look around sometimes that jackets on and 32 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 2: she's like, take me home, farmer wants a wife is 33 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 2: on in ten minutes, Doe hanging around here. She had 34 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 2: made her mind up. And despite my poor wife doing 35 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 2: actual CPR, that's how sudden it was to her. Mum. 36 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 2: I mean, my wife is always my hero. But I'm 37 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 2: telling you guys, you know we were waiting for the 38 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 2: paramedics and it must have been ten minutes off and 39 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 2: the suddenly you're inner world. I feel like my wife 40 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 2: and I this week have joined this club that no 41 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 2: one really wants to be in. Suddenly this whole other 42 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 2: part of life just opens up, and suddenly there's a 43 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 2: kind soul on the line for the emergency services the 44 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 2: other end of triple zero. These people that do this, 45 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 2: this is their just this is their day. And this 46 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:18,359 Speaker 2: woman is counting when I run into a room when 47 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:22,239 Speaker 2: I heard what happened that Jackie had collapsed. She's counting one, two, three, 48 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 2: four to keep my wife in time doing CPR. And 49 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 2: so Sarah did CPR to a mom to try and 50 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 2: keep her alive. And I was holding Jackie's hand, but 51 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 2: you could see that she actually looked like to me, 52 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 2: I don't know whether I imagined it in that moment. 53 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 2: It was all so quick. It was just it was 54 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 2: It was traumatic. And the reason I want to talk 55 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 2: about this is actually to say thank you to the 56 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:45,839 Speaker 2: people that do this stuff. Whoever that lovely lady was 57 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 2: trying to save somebody's life over the phone. She was 58 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,399 Speaker 2: so calm but in control. I never got to thank 59 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 2: or anything like that, whoever you were. Thank you to 60 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 2: the paramedics that came. The firefighters were the first ones 61 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 2: there after agonizing ten minutes, terrified daughters weighing out of 62 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 2: the roads, trying to find when the paramedics were going 63 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 2: to come. But there were two paramedics Rob and Cass 64 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 2: who were just in a in the darkest time in 65 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 2: your life, who just turned up and throughout all of it, 66 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 2: and obviously Sarah losing her mum in a couple of minutes. 67 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 2: It was so quick guys and brutal. They were incredible, right, 68 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:25,240 Speaker 2: and that's what they do. We don't know what they 69 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 2: actually go through. It must be so hard, so stressful. 70 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 2: You don't know what situation are going to. It is 71 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:33,519 Speaker 2: disgusting how they're not supported, they're not paid enough. But 72 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 2: I'm telling you now what those guys did for us. 73 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 2: We just didn't know because there'd been no warning. Suddenly 74 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 2: there's someone someone who's lost their life and she's lying 75 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 2: on the floor of a little unit and you don't know. 76 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 2: Nothing prepares you. Suddenly it's like so surreal. You don't 77 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 2: even know what I actually said to them. What happens next, 78 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 2: you know, because I didn't know, And he was like, 79 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 2: did you have any plans? Weren't and I always have, 80 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 2: saying she wasn't supposed to die. Today we try not. 81 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 1: To laugh because I meant it. I was just like, no, 82 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: we were just chatting to her an hour ago. I 83 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 1: just got a Maca's cheez burger. She was very alive 84 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: an hour ago, and her last words to one of 85 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: the kids was I'll call you later on this week 86 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: and we're talking about who won Master Chef. She'd been 87 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:20,080 Speaker 1: house sitting for us while we're on holiday, so she 88 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:22,720 Speaker 1: was suddenly very alive and then not, and it was 89 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,159 Speaker 1: I'll talk about check my phone yesterday some like twenty 90 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: one minutes and it was all over and this suddenness, 91 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: and then you're like, so, what happens next? And he's like, 92 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:36,359 Speaker 1: you need to call a funeral director. I'm like, right, okay. 93 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: Then I'm googling on my phone while my wife is 94 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: literally collapsing and everything's suddenly very quiet. There's this stillness 95 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: in the air that hangs around there, and it's so sudden. 96 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 2: But thank you too. I think it was W. D. Rose, 97 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 2: who've been the funeral directors we're dealing with here, who've 98 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 2: been just beautiful with my wife, just holding a hand. 99 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 2: They've got like a therapy dog there, you know, just 100 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 2: helping her through what is just the worst week of 101 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 2: your life. And suddenly you're in this admin for some 102 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 2: kind of party that you're throwing for someone who is 103 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:11,280 Speaker 2: there and you've got to go into admin mode this 104 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 2: week of the worst kind of admin. The other day, 105 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 2: my wife said, I just need to go back to 106 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 2: Mum's unit and I said, what for. She doesn't need 107 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 2: to pick up an outfit for her. I went an 108 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 2: outfit for what? And I thought, she's not something to lose. 109 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 2: The plot is she's going to be one of these people. 110 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 2: And she said, I suddenly realized what the outfit was 111 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 2: for was for her to be buried in And you 112 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 2: kind of imagine someone happened to go through and do that. 113 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 2: But I'll say this, paramedics were amazing, the police who 114 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 2: had to wait with us for a couple of hours 115 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:40,799 Speaker 2: as well, Senior Constable Matthew Scott, thank you so so much. 116 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 2: Wd Rose, the funeral director's just incredible, heartfelt. These beautiful 117 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 2: souls that do us day in day out. I don't 118 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 2: think they appreciate what they do in a tough situation. 119 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 2: And the other thing I want to say is Jackie 120 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 2: was seventy nine. She loved her life, She moved here 121 00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:01,279 Speaker 2: three years ago what kind of moves, and built a 122 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 2: new life the other side of the world in their 123 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:06,279 Speaker 2: mid seventies. There's something we can all take from that, 124 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:09,159 Speaker 2: there's an amazing final chapter and then you've got to 125 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,840 Speaker 2: be close to her and have her here. Yeah, and 126 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 2: you know what, It was savage, it was sudden, it 127 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:18,599 Speaker 2: was brutal, but there was grace and there within all 128 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,159 Speaker 2: of that there was beauty. I'm glad we weren't there 129 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 2: to hold her out. Let's take a break. I'll be 130 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 2: back in a minute. This is the Christian O'Connell Show podcast.