WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Was that an orgasm or did you spasm? 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:07.720 Australia and their connections to land. 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:08.600 Sea and community. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.760 We pay our respect to their elders past and present 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:14.960 and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:16.120 islander peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.599 This episode is recorded on Gadigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:42.120 Hi guys and all, welcome back to another episode of 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:45.680 Life Uncut. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is our 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:49.840 down and dirty, sexy, fun little Thursday episode where we. 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:53.040 Answer all your deep, dark and burning questions. Do you 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:55.279 still feel random? 0:00:55.440 --> 0:00:57.319 But do you still feel even though we've been back 0:00:57.360 --> 0:00:59.360 a few days from our Barley trip, Actually we've. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:02.000 Been back a while. I feel like this weird jet lag, 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:04.240 but the time difference is only two hours? Like what 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:07.039 is is that actually jet lag? Or am I having 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:09.240 holiday withdrawls? I think it's a bit of both. 0:01:09.240 --> 0:01:12.480 But also I'm like with you on the jet lag thing, 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:14.520 because like, Okay, if you normally wake up at six am, 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:17.480 you're now waking up at what is bally four am? 0:01:17.640 --> 0:01:19.480 Like that's jet lag. That's fine, you can have it 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:21.440 with two hours. I think sometimes when the travel is 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:23.800 less time, the jet lag is more severe. 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:25.600 I don't know if that's a fact. No one quotas 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.040 on that. I've certainly done zero research. 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:30.160 But I do have two kids that are also jet 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:33.920 lagged because their sleep patterns since getting home is fucked 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:37.120 and it is not enjoyable for anyone, especially in my household. 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:39.120 And that is why I've had to just make you 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:41.080 your third cup of coffee for the day. I would 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:42.840 like to say it is five PM and that's why 0:01:42.840 --> 0:01:44.640 I've had three, but it's three and it's probably like 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:45.360 ten am. 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:47.120 And that's like two my eyeballs, but it's keeping me 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:48.520 feeling I'm feeling great. 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:50.200 This is exactly what I need in my life. 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:53.200 But this is very convenient because Starbucks at Home are 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:56.200 our sponsor for today's episode. They are a long term 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:57.480 partner of ours and one. 0:01:57.320 --> 0:01:58.320 We absolutely love. 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:01.760 Now. Starbucks at Home have three different roasts. 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But let's get into what today's episode is 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:25.560 all about, and that is answering all of your questions. 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.000 We have been on break. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.400 We have had so many questions come in, like hundreds 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:32.359 and thousands, and I'm sorry that we don't get a 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:35.040 chance to get back to or answer every single question. 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:37.640 We do have an amazing person who works in admin 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:39.840 now who goes through and actually replies to everyone, So 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:42.760 we guarantee that your messages have all been seen, but 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:44.640 we have picked out a few for today. 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.160 Before we do get into this, I want to just 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:49.240 talk about something I just read. So obviously, we've just 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:51.399 come home from holidays from overseas. 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:51.880 We've come back. 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:53.920 How long do you think we can talk about holidays 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:57.160 for before people people to start reviewing us and saying, 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:59.280 Laura and Brittany only ever talk about fucking holidays. 0:02:59.320 --> 0:02:59.760 It's still. 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:02.520 All right three months later. 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:05.280 No, I just thought this was just for me, this 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:07.480 timing from the universe. I was like, maybe I need 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.120 to move somewhere else. Don't hate me, Laura, but this 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:09.680 is what I felt. 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:10.800 I read this article by. 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:13.200 Time Out magazine and I thought, great, I need to 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:16.280 pack up and move countries. Time Out magazine just did 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:19.960 a survey with about twenty thousand different people from all. 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:21.720 Over the world. That's fair few people. It's a lot 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:22.000 of people. 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:23.600 If you've got twenty thousand people in a room, you 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:24.840 would be a big wedding. 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:25.359 Put it that way. 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:29.480 Well, the results that came back about Sydney do not 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:32.840 instill a lot of confidence in me. It came back 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:37.160 that three quarters of people said Sydney was pretty much 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:39.760 the number one city in the world, like the worst 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:42.640 city in the world to make friends, like to meet 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.480 anybody new. They were saying that we weren't very nice 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:47.880 people and it wasn't easy. And I guess people all 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:50.400 in their clicks maybe like maybe it's hard to break 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:53.680 that barrier, but that many people have said it's not 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:56.600 a friendly city. On top of that, they've come back 0:03:56.680 --> 0:03:58.720 as a loveless city. 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:00.880 They've said it is so hard to be single here. 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:02.320 Now, this is people that have traveled from all over 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.120 the world and spend time here and spent times in 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.720 other countries. So they've said being single is fucking cooked, 0:04:06.800 --> 0:04:09.160 Like don't go there, but you know. 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:11.400 Why I think Sydney is so hard for meeting new people. 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:13.600 It's also because we have no night life anymore. 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:15.920 That is a third thing. There's no night life. That 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:17.640 was it. It was the second worst place in the 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:20.719 world for nightlife. So the first worst place in the world. 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:22.839 It doesn't say which one is first, probably. 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:25.080 Probably somewhere like Antarctica. I would say that that probably 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:26.400 has a fucking bad night life. 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:27.480 It's the North Pole. 0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:29.800 What else is a terrible no, But I mean like 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:32.080 it makes sense, right, Like not that you need to 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:33.839 be drinking to make friends or anything like that, but 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.560 like going out being able to like have a bit 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.240 of a boogie, have a party like that is where 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:42.120 so many best friends are made in bathrooms, or like 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:45.400 you meet new people, you change numbers whatever. Like think 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:47.880 about the amount of friends that you made when you're 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:49.440 in your twenties and you're going out and you're being 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:52.760 social versus the way that Sydney is set up down now, 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:55.400 it's like you arranged to go for dinner with people 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:58.120 who you already have a foundation of friendship with. 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:00.440 Absolutely So now you can't go out, you can't make friends, 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:01.320 you can't fall in love. 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:04.040 So it's it's not ideal. But speaking of love, actually 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:06.719 I am going on to Day to Night with someone 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:11.200 from Sydney. Actually no, it's from England, but he lives 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:11.880 Sydney now. 0:05:12.240 --> 0:05:13.800 But I am going on to Day to Night wish 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:16.839 we like, he's not from Australia. So this could be 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.600 a positive thing after hearing those results, because no Sydney 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.440 person will date you because they're already that I want 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:22.320 to open up their circle. 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.680 I mean, I wasn't gonna go that. Foller it keep 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:25.680 me one down. 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:28.719 I want to say one thing because I think, like 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:31.240 on this like little report that's been done, I think 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:33.480 that people who live in Sydney and like we obviously 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.480 are from Sydney, right, so this is this is definitely 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.479 not a Sydney based podcast in terms of like we 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:40.440 are open to all areas. It goes out all across 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:43.040 Australia and the world, but mostly you guys are from Australia. 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:46.279 So I think that people who live in Sydney think 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:48.960 that Sydney is the best place to live, whereas like 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:51.240 if you ask people in Melbourne, they will say that 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:52.960 Melbourne is the best place to live if. 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:53.240 You are there. 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:56.359 It is like a fucking rivalry. And every time I 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:58.560 have been to Melbourne or I have been to other 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:03.440 metropolitan cities in Australia, I'm always like, Wow, I think 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:05.680 they're a bit better than Sydney. Like, Melbourne is better. 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:08.200 It has so much culture, There is so much nice 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:09.920 stuff to do. It's just that it's so often raining 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:12.320 and cult not to like stereotype, but it is better. 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:15.960 No, But also it's not just Melbourneians. I think Melbourne's better. 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:19.920 The rest of the world also, I think we can 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:21.200 give that one to this. Also. 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:26.600 Adelaide freaking great, very underplated, small, its own country great, 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:28.760 wouldn't even let people in during COVID because it was 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.279 so good they didn't want to. It has its own microclimate, 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:33.840 do you know. Okay, going back to this whole thing 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:35.960 that you're doing tonight, which is going on a date. 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:37.880 It's a whole weird thing that no one knows what 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:41.159 a date. Yeah, this very foreign concept that is called 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:41.720 a date. 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:44.680 I read something that I want to share with you 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:47.359 before we get into answering questions. 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:47.880 Now. 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:52.440 It is trending on TikTok. It is TikTok also trending 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:54.000 across all news websites. 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:54.480 At the moment. 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:56.320 So not only if you're not on TikTok, Like, if 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.279 you google this word, you will find it. You may 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:01.320 have even heard other people talking about it. 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:04.480 But we could collectively say it's trendy. It's a fucking thing. 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:05.400 It is a thing. 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:08.119 And I heard it thrown around a few times whilst 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:09.359 we were on holidays, and I put it into my 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:10.640 notes because I was like, I need to talk to 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:13.520 you about this bread and that is vabbing? 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:20.040 Is are you saying vaping with an accent fort hey man, babing? No? 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:21.960 Is it like dabbing with a vape? 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:27.640 No, it is dabbing something though, dabbing your vagina the vaping, well, 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:28.960 dabbing or what you vagina? 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:31.640 I mean dabbing a vagina? How or you would do it? 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:32.400 You do anything else? 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:32.640 Do it? 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:33.080 This is. 0:07:35.440 --> 0:07:36.920 This is really great. I feel like we're playing a 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:38.000 game of charades now. Okay. 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:40.960 So for anyone who doesn't know, babbing is something that 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:43.960 has taken the world by storm. It currently has thirty 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.960 five point seven million views on TikTok, you need to 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:48.680 get out more because there. 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:50.920 Is a lot of conversations happening about babbing. 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:55.080 Vabbing is when you take your vaginal juices, knew it 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:59.239 was the vagina, and you dab it on your erogenous zone, 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:02.320 so like under your arms, you dab it on your neck, 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:06.160 you dab it on your wrists, and you use your 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.560 vaginal discharge as perfume. 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:10.320 Should I do this on my date tonight? See what happens? 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:15.320 So apparently it is like how you use your pheromones 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.960 to be able to attract the opposite sex. And there 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:19.600 are so many people doing it, and there are so 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:22.440 many people documenting their experiences with vabbing. 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:25.960 I do not want to walk around smelling people's vaginas 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:26.840 down the street like. 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:29.080 This, or you might be imagine if someone was doing 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:30.440 it and then they just gave you a hug and 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:32.000 you didn't know that they'd babb that morning. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:38.280 I mean, there's no consent there, where's the line? 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:41.280 Okay, but it's like okay, So apparently, and you're to 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:44.480 think about it. Scientists have been trying to manufacture like 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:48.240 artificial chemical based pheromones for the better part of the 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:49.680 last three decades, right, Like I. 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:51.720 Mean, Gwyneth Poultry did it with her candle, didn't she. 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:53.920 Yeah, well, no, I think they're actually smelled more like 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:56.640 petula oil or petula oil or whatever it whatever. Her 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:59.440 vagina smell like literally smell like dried flowers. No, so 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:01.840 like this is something that scientists have been trying to 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:03.760 do for a long time because there is so much 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:06.600 money to be made if you could create a bottled 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:08.160 version of what pheromones are. 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:10.120 And I guess the thing is is that it happens 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:13.160 in the animal kingdom. Like dogs do it, I don't, 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:15.679 but cats do it. Who what other animals do it? 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:18.520 Well, it's about I'm sure loads monkeys. And I think 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:20.800 that we kind of do it to some level. Like 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.440 I mean, you know, you might like your the smell 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:24.000 of your partner's bo, but not like the smell of 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:24.840 anyone else's bo. 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:27.360 That's a thing, right, Like I don't know that's a thing. 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.280 Matt's bio doesn't smell bad to me, but I'm sure 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:30.480 it smells bad to other people. 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.920 I remember, and you've just made me think of this, 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:36.200 But I remember my very first boyfriend. He was a builder, 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:37.679 Like he's a stink at the end of the day, 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:40.480 like ten hours in the sun sweaming. But I remember 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:42.400 I used to love it, like it used to do 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:44.400 things to me. But if you just walk past someone 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:46.760 that you don't know with the gym and you smell them, 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:48.400 you're like, bro, go put some doughter on. 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:50.160 So apparently this is a thing. 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:53.600 There are hordes of women out there who are dabbing 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:57.760 their vaginal discharge onto their bodies in the hopes of 0:09:57.800 --> 0:10:00.400 attracting men, and I might be I just. 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:01.559 Realize what the smell is in here? 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:06.240 You have tested this on me, having you absolutely not 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:09.760 there is nothing that I'm going to gain from doing 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:11.599 that in this environment whatsoever. 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:13.560 I know what you're up to, Okay, but let me 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:14.880 just this is how I feel about this. 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:18.760 We already have to go to so much effort on dates, 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:20.760 Like you've gotta shave your legs, you've got to like 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:24.160 fix opening downstairs, you gotta like shave your under arms, 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:25.760 you gotta do your hair, you gotta put makeup on. 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.080 There's so much effort that women have to go to 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:31.000 when they're going on dates, right, so this is just 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:34.520 one extra step. And then do you put your dab 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:36.160 on and then put perfume on or do you just 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:39.080 dab and go? You dab and go, You don't dab 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:41.600 spray and go. Because it covers up the dab. But 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:43.280 then what if you get there and you smell like 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:47.800 a vagina? Well, it's the point, that's the bat, that's 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:49.320 the whole point. What if you get there and you 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:52.080 smell like a vagina and your date looks at you 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:55.040 and goes you smell only like a vagina? 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:57.360 Do you think I should try it tonight? I will. 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:59.920 I will pay you money to go on a date 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:02.280 and report back for the podcast. If I had to 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:06.719 go and get a vagina osonizer for content, you are 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:08.840 gonna dab and come back and report? 0:11:09.040 --> 0:11:10.040 Can I just say? 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:11.000 No? 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:14.640 One, you go and get the vagina osenizer. You were 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:17.360 like frothing at the bits to go and get that done. 0:11:17.400 --> 0:11:19.480 You kept a segaret. You're like, this is gonna be good. 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:21.839 Great. No, I did it purely for content, guys. I 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:23.680 did it for the greater good of this podcast. 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:24.959 Yeah right, well, look. 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:27.280 My date just message me right now, do you want 0:11:27.280 --> 0:11:28.719 to see him and just tell me if you think 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:29.240 I should dab? 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:32.320 Okay, all right, here Brittany is showing me a photo. 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:35.000 This is what's happening. I'm getting a live viewing of 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:36.559 tonight's date. 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:37.840 Do you know what I really like. 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:40.200 Okay, he can zoom in there, he's done with the dog. 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:42.920 I really like when somebody uses your name. 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:44.400 Oh yeah, yeah, you. 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:50.280 Should lab Dabby Brittany is vabbing tonight. That is, you 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:52.600 need to go calling a dabbing. You need to go 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:57.160 and dab some bab That is one boy. Hello, what 0:11:57.480 --> 0:11:58.040 is his name? 0:11:58.120 --> 0:11:58.280 Oh? 0:11:58.480 --> 0:12:00.439 Yeah, Cue, I thought you cute. 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:04.679 Hmmmm, Anyway, I'm not I don't think he's the right 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:05.760 person to trial the dam. 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:07.240 Oh. 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.800 I think if anyone was gonna have a little hello. 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:12.680 Oh yeah, oh, I approve of this one. I don't 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.640 really approve of many. She never approves of many. Okay, well, 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:16.920 I'm looking forward to a live update. 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:19.079 Will be're in twenty fourteen. Now on his instagra, so 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:24.480 I like what. Alright, let's get into the questions for today. 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:27.560 First off the ranks, we have a very important one, 0:12:27.679 --> 0:12:30.160 all right, question number one. Hi, guys, I've been in 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:32.680 a relationship with my partner for two years and we 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:35.880 have an amazing relationship. He's the first person I've ever 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:39.120 had sex with, and it's been great, at least I think. 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:41.920 So now, I don't know. 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:44.760 What it's like to orgasm, and there has been a 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:48.240 few times when I've spasmed, but I'm not sure if 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:51.160 this means I've come What is it like for you? 0:12:51.480 --> 0:12:55.360 And do you know if it's happened this? You can 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:56.560 take this one first bridge. 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:58.280 I can see you giggling away over. 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:02.400 This is actually a very very good question and a 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:05.559 very fair question, and I think pretty common because maybe 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:08.640 a lot of people don't know, but not everyone can 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:11.560 orgasm like that is a thing. Even the people that 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:15.440 do orgasm orgasm very differently. Some do a literal like 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:18.800 external orgasm, some are an internal orgasm, and some people 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.680 and I believe Laura from our conversations, we both know 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:24.120 people in life that have an orgasm and not for 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.760 not want of trying, but they haven't got there. And 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:28.840 this is actually brilliant because we are going to do 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:32.280 a whole episode on orgasms very very soon. But in 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:36.080 answer to your question on on how do you know 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:37.800 if you've done it? I mean, and I can only 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:41.760 speak for myself because I've only orgasmed for myself, but 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:45.959 you know, it feels so good, like you know that 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:48.240 that is happening at the time. 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:49.760 So okay, I don't know. 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:51.800 This is why I think the question is an interesting 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:55.440 one because for me, the sensation of having an orgasm 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:59.680 is so unmistakable that I one percent, no, I've had 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:01.920 an orgasm, and that is from the very first time 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:03.280 I ever had one, you know, I was. 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:05.240 Like, oh, this is an orgasm. Well, and some of 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:06.040 them get way. 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:07.920 Better, especially from the first time to the last time. 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:12.240 They get better. But like, yeah, you can't not when 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:13.720 it's happening. You can't not know what's happening. 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:16.680 But then I think when she says, no, I've definitely spasmed, 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:19.480 But I don't know if that's an orgasm, what could 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:22.440 that be? Like maybe maybe this person who's writing in 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.400 is having orgasms or they're having a really heightened sense 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:28.480 of arousal. But maybe in their mind they think that 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:32.880 an orgasm is supposed to be this like transcending, toe curling, euphoric, 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:36.920 like I go, I fucking astral plane to another planet moment, 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:39.440 And maybe they can be, but maybe that's not what 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:43.160 their orgasms are because obviously every single person is going 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:46.560 to be different, and even though I think people experience 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:49.320 orgasms in a similar way, they definitely don't experience it 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:50.200 in the same way. 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.520 Yeah, this is exactly right, And one thing I want 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:54.520 to add here is and all I'm gonna say is 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:56.480 definitely tune into the episode we're going to do because 0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:58.440 we will ask all these questions and we will really 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:00.600 draw this out. But we've spoken to sa sologists in 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:05.080 the past that have said orgasms can be learned. They 0:15:05.160 --> 0:15:08.320 can be something that you can teach yourself and your 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:12.400 partner and your body to improve or experience differently or 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:16.080 on different levels. So what Laurie just said could very 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:18.200 much be true. You could be having one, but you 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:21.240 could be very much stuck in your own mind thinking 0:15:21.760 --> 0:15:22.400 is it happening? 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:24.760 Is this it? And my having it? Like what am 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:25.360 I experiencing? 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:28.920 So maybe you're not in that moment enough to enjoy 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:30.840 it and experience it and let go like this is 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:33.160 just I mean, we don't know. This is just a 0:15:33.200 --> 0:15:35.720 thought process that if you find yourself thinking that at 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:37.960 that time, maybe try and just be really present in 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.960 that moment and really enjoy what is happening as opposed 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:42.680 to like worrying if it's happening. 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:45.120 Also, I think, like on this and what you said 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:48.200 earlier brit about how there is clatorial orgasms and how 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:52.000 there is an internal orgasm, the type of intensity that 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:55.200 you can get from different types of orgasms, is like, 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:57.400 that's something that plays and factors in like a lot 0:15:57.400 --> 0:16:00.640 of people will only orgasm if there's external stimulation. 0:16:00.840 --> 0:16:03.840 Way you are waving those two fingers around, Laura, you 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:05.160 are waving two things. 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:07.320 External stimulations. 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:08.040 A lot going on. 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:10.040 I talk with my hands, but I guess the thing 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:12.160 is that from what we've learned from the interviews we've 0:16:12.160 --> 0:16:14.920 done in the past with sex ologists Chantleotten and also 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:19.080 sex ologists Juliet Allen, internal orgasms that are achieved from 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:23.400 internal stimulation can be far, like far more intense than 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:24.400 an external one. 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:26.560 But I also and also on top. 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:27.840 Of that, Laura, before you go on, is that they 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:30.680 can literally on top of it, jumping on top of 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:31.920 you as you wave those things around to. 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:40.320 Whoa babbing this morning? I don't wait, No. 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:42.480 But the other thing is like, yes, internal can be 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:45.240 different to external, but also when they're combined, they can 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:47.520 be different as well. So if they're happening at the 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:50.920 same time you're having penetrative sex, something's going on with 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:53.960 a clitters simultaneously and they're together, that can be different. Again, 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.000 So there are just so many there's not a one 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:57.440