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Speaker 1: Get a I'm Lola Berry, nutritionist, author, actor, TV presenter,

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Speaker 1: and professional overshare us. This podcast is all about celebrating

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Speaker 1: failure because I believe it's a chance for us to learn,

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Speaker 1: grow and face our blind spots. Each week, I'll interview

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Speaker 1: a different guest about their highs as well as their lows,

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Speaker 1: all in a bid to inspire us to fearlessly fail. Ulloha,

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Speaker 1: Welcome to a Valentine's Special Potteroony with a special guest,

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Speaker 1: none other than Bossachenko.

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Speaker 2: Hello aka Matt Sovo saved. That's very ausy way to

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Speaker 2: say my.

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Speaker 1: And what are you to me? What are you to me?

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Speaker 2: By boyfriend, partner, de facto, lover, lover, bestie, bestie, good

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Speaker 2: time pal, good time pal, sweet cheese, sweet cheese, full

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Speaker 2: time chef, full time cleaner, dancer, dancer, arm candy.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness?

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Speaker 2: What else?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So we're basically doing a Valentine Special pod which

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Speaker 1: is all around celebrating love. I've planned a few questions.

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Speaker 1: Boss has done zero prep? Is that correct?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely zero?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely zero in raw raw dog and it are we?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: So if you are single, this isn't like a loved up.

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Speaker 1: You know you need to have a partner to listen

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Speaker 1: to this pod. This is for anybody that just wants

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Speaker 1: to celebrate a bit of love. Since we're coming into

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 2: Cute cute. When is Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 1: The fourteenth feb which should.

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Speaker 2: Be weirm coming out real quick?

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Speaker 1: Is that Wednesday?

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Speaker 2: Something like that? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I feel like it is.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think today's eleventh, isn't it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Which is Sunday, Monday twelfth Wednesday Wednesday. Any plans

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Speaker 1: for Valentine's.

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Speaker 2: Day booth look to be honest? No, okay, but that

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Speaker 2: could change. Uh, we'll just see how We've just been

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Speaker 2: in Melbourne and Sydney, so I feel like that's had

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Speaker 1: Do you know what would be nice? Tell me beautiful

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Speaker 1: dinner with a Linser talt?

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Speaker 2: Oh it's talt. Yeah. I can make a talk talk.

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Speaker 1: For about a year.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So just to let the audience know what is a

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Speaker 1: Linsa taught?

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Speaker 2: I think it's like, are we talking about like the

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Speaker 2: history of a Linsa tort or just German? It's like

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Speaker 2: Austrian or something like that, maybe Austrian or German.

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Speaker 1: But it's just basically like a tart with an armor

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I do a hazel up meal base, so it's

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Speaker 2: all gluten free everything. So it's like a very short

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Speaker 2: kind of crust like hazel r but glint free flower,

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Speaker 2: a little bit of glinten free flower, an egg and

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Speaker 2: some spices. That's pretty much it.

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Speaker 1: Oh and lemon rind I feel you and lemon grind

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Speaker 1: and then what goes in the center.

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Speaker 2: And then I just jam what kind whatever you feel like? Rasberry?

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Speaker 1: It's so then we get the vanilla being panna ice cream.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you just do like the latching on top.

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Speaker 2: So that's what makes it look like a fancy talk.

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Speaker 2: Fancy talk.

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Speaker 1: That could be a nice little Valentine's Okay, I can

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Speaker 1: make that for you. And for the listener, we have

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Speaker 1: a little Valentine's surprise prasie for you to hang in

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Speaker 1: till the end.

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Speaker 1: Yeah I did check it with you before. Yeah, I'll

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Speaker 1: hang about Oh good. Okay. So I've got some questions planned.

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Speaker 2: Had on what's your plans for Valentine's Have you planned

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Speaker 2: anything for me?

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Speaker 1: Well, we are packing our lives up and going to

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Speaker 1: don't think we should spend moula on each other. And

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Speaker 1: are you doing a bit of booze free time?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Want to detox this month?

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Speaker 1: No booze for Boss doesn't want to. We had a

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Speaker 2: That was it. That's it, Donzos.

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Speaker 1: So then I feel like we should just kind of

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Speaker 1: like save our peties, okay, or do maybe a belated

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Speaker 1: date in Los Angeles, Okay, belated.

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Speaker 2: For Valentine's Okay, wonderful.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. What do you think we have?

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Speaker 2: We can we can reschedule for the fourteenth of March.

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Speaker 2: How about that?

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Speaker 1: Oh? What what cuisine would you like over there? What

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Speaker 1: Chinese chateau. Oh you've got you've romanticized that place. I

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Speaker 1: have not been there in ten years.

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Speaker 2: I don't reckon really, I thought you've never been. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay. So I've got some questions all around. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: the theme is Valentine's and love and all that. So

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Speaker 1: first of all, we actually celebrated your parents' fiftieth wedding

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Speaker 1: anniversary last week in Malps. That was one of the

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Speaker 1: cute to see how loved up they are and gorgeous

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Speaker 1: they are together. And your dad's speech was gorgeous. It

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Speaker 1: was about sixteen minute monologue speech.

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Speaker 2: That he'd written and printed out and put.

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Speaker 1: Like mathematician because he's a maths professor, put mathematician like

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Speaker 1: quotes about how many breaths there are in how many

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Speaker 1: heartbeats there are in fifty years? Was it sixty one

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Speaker 2: No, I think was more like the million. I thought

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Speaker 2: it was all six point one billion, maybe something like that.

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Speaker 2: I'd have to figure it out.

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Speaker 2: Like one hundred beats per minute times fifty years sixty

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Speaker 2: twenty four hours in a day, and any times fifty two,

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Speaker 1: So that was really nice. That was a really sweet thing.

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Speaker 1: How did that make you feel seeing your parents celebrate love.

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Speaker 2: I think it was beautiful. I think it was lovely.

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Speaker 2: What was the highlight? I think I think the highlight

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Speaker 1: We've got a good gang. Ye, like thirty of us there.

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Speaker 1: I think you come back into your socialization when all

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Speaker 2: Yeah, probably for sure. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Do you know that that was not my first fiftieth

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Speaker 1: wedding anniversary?

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Speaker 2: Really?

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Speaker 1: Did you know that?

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Speaker 1: I was at my grandparents. Oh that's cute, Bevan fred

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Speaker 1: Dad's and it was obviously quite different. Yours was a

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Speaker 1: lot of dancing and cute, very sweet italiano.

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Speaker 2: Music Bevin Fred's.

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Speaker 1: So I think you're meant to give each year the

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Speaker 1: wedding anniversary is a different themed gift, like and when

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Speaker 1: I say thing like one year, it's like paper one

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Speaker 1: it's leader once. So I think fifty years gold is gold.

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Speaker 1: Hence why your mum got gold earrings. Correct, So I

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Speaker 1: think it was more around the like what that officially meant?

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Speaker 1: It was the same vibe as yours. Like I was

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Speaker 1: at a hotel reception room as well. I know Dad

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Speaker 1: you that i'd already been to. It's very sweet. All

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Speaker 1: they were both married until they passed away. Nice, I'm

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Speaker 1: very sweet, very romance.

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Speaker 2: Very roan. But yeah, it was very very nice and

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Speaker 2: nice to nice to be there, nice experience it. Yeah, Fan, Now.

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Speaker 1: Matt's not a huge although he's a lover. You're needed

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Speaker 1: in all their around marriage.

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Speaker 2: Correct, Yeah, don't need it, don't need it?

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Speaker 1: And what am.

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Speaker 2: I into marriage? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: How do you feel about that?

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, you know, I'm fine with it.

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Speaker 1: I'm into a celebration of love.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm into totally. And to be fair and honest, like,

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Speaker 2: I'm into that too. I just think that like my

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Speaker 1: So we are probably on the fence about a few

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Speaker 1: a celebration of love totally. But I'm look, I am

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Speaker 1: of the pagan. I love a bit of pagan. We

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Speaker 1: we will do that. He's giving a cute little eyes

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Speaker 1: right now, right now, Okay, Well this is obviously a

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Speaker 1: very like big question. But what does love mean to you?

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Speaker 1: I excuse me, excuse me.

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Speaker 2: I wanted you. I warned you of that question. You

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Speaker 2: did warn me of this, and he was in a

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Speaker 2: foul mood. Wasn't in a foul mood.

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Speaker 1: I'm just I'm having a business exact because I farted

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, you did fart on me. He was, so

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Speaker 2: we should do that as a Valentine's a special like

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Speaker 2: the grocer? Why why do? And it's mainly it's mainly

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Speaker 2: females that just become grosser and grosser. I wasn't grosser.

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Speaker 2: Were having a cute little moment a.

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Speaker 1: Bit at la stuff together, and I was like, oh

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Speaker 1: my goodness, a little a little a little.

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Speaker 2: Lum love what little love puff?

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Speaker 1: He's going to slip out? But it just so happened,

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Speaker 1: and almighties, and I could not have been happier.

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Speaker 2: You are more not impressed by it, Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: People listening know that they would for sure totally you've

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Speaker 1: been in a long term relationship. Fighting is entertainment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it totally is entertainment. But my point is

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Speaker 2: is that before I get to my point of what

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Speaker 2: do I think love is? Yeah, it just nobody prepares

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Speaker 2: you for that in life, that you end up with

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Speaker 2: a long term partner and you just know you're going

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Speaker 2: to get farted on.

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Speaker 1: Speaking like he is archangel Michael or something that has

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Speaker 1: never farted in his life.

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Speaker 2: I think that.

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Speaker 1: You let off some rippers in the middle of the night.

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Speaker 2: In the middle the night. You can't control that. That's

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Speaker 2: I can't remember, honestly. I wish I could now, I

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Speaker 2: Do you? Okay? Love? Wow? This is well. I feel

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Speaker 2: So I think for me personally, like what is love?

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Speaker 2: so it's take away all the shine and the polish

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Speaker 2: Like that's what it means to me. And I don't

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Speaker 2: to spend time with you. I like to spend time

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Speaker 1: Not always in Los Angeles, I know.

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Speaker 1: and to be like no, no, like don't forget you

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Speaker 2: So it's like I could be like I don't want

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Speaker 1: But that comes back to the teammate thing, which is

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Speaker 1: Base yourself there. Yeah, oh my goodness, could you imagine.

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Speaker 2: I could be you could be my sugarmuma for three months.

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Speaker 1: I don't like that saying at all.

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Speaker 2: Really, no, mummy pays the bills.

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Speaker 1: That is fair all that is grosser than the fart

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Speaker 2: Have you seen there's like a funny mement's like when

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Speaker 2: that's actually no, but yeah, no I get. I think

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well I am very excited to have

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Speaker 2: Another thing that you do quite well is like I

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Speaker 2: But you're very good at when I'm like, you know what,

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Speaker 1: Matt thinks I have adult ADHD, but I actually am

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Speaker 1: getting shit done at any given moment totally. I know

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Speaker 1: I'm constantly in that phase of like how can I

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Speaker 2: I know that and I do notice all of that

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00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:39,640
Speaker 2: as well.

443
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 1: No, but I think even when you are stressed and

444
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 1: I step up, that's only usually around food stuff. I'm

445
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 1: usually trying to get something done in the house or

446
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 1: for our to better our lives any one time.

447
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:52,639
Speaker 2: But I think like we pick up the site for

448
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,120
Speaker 2: each other like when we need.

449
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:58,520
Speaker 1: To, and you are my you are my superpower when

450
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 1: it comes to boundaries because I'm still shit at them,

451
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:06,679
Speaker 1: like and you helped me like put a boundary in place,

452
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,560
Speaker 1: like and even things that happened like recently, You're like,

453
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,880
Speaker 1: you've got to, like, you have to set a boundary there,

454
00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 1: otherwise that that thing is going to keep upsetting you,

455
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:17,960
Speaker 1: or that thing is going to keep robbing you of time.

456
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 1: And you're you know, so I love that you're so

457
00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 1: good at that. So thank you.

458
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 2: Okay, next question, Jeez, we went on a few tangents there.

459
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:30,800
Speaker 1: Best date, Oh doesn't need to be me. I saw

460
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 1: his eyes flutter for a second there.

461
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 2: Do you know what oh that is? That's you can't

462
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 2: throw that on me.

463
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 1: Worst date then, because that's the next question.

464
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:46,360
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't remember worst date.

465
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: I've got a bad date.

466
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 2: You've got a bad date? Yeah, do you want to go?

467
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,479
Speaker 2: You go first? Then what's your worst date? So?

468
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 1: I had never kissed a boy. I went to the movies.

469
00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:57,920
Speaker 2: Here we go.

470
00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: I just had my braces titaned, Yeah, I have braces on.

471
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 1: I got to the date.

472
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:04,480
Speaker 2: Sounds bad.

473
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 1: I got to the date and I was like, oh,

474
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: I don't like this guy. Like the moment I got

475
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,320
Speaker 1: to the movie theater, I was like, I did not

476
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:12,119
Speaker 1: like this guy at all. You know, you just know

477
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:16,159
Speaker 1: in your bones. And so I made up a joke

478
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,400
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, my teeth are really not joke,

479
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 1: I made up a story. I was like, my teeth

480
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 1: really saw. I got my braces tightened today. I don't

481
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 1: e fin kiss me, dude, I don't want you to.

482
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 1: And he still went straight in tongue and all. And

483
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 1: I was like, get me out of here. Gross first kiss,

484
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:38,360
Speaker 1: first date, first everything. Yeah, yees, remember his names, remember everything.

485
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 1: I even remember the movie The Mummy Returns.

486
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 2: Oh wow, do you want to watch that on Valentine's

487
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 2: No way.

488
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:48,679
Speaker 1: It was just like I just like I was like,

489
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:51,399
Speaker 1: get me out of here. And again there's the no

490
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: boundary Lola that is like it doesn't want to be

491
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 1: in this scenario. And next minute I'm someone I'm not

492
00:25:58,160 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 1: into is shoving their tongue down my throat.

493
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 2: Yeah not fun. No, it was not.

494
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:05,399
Speaker 1: There was no foul play, by the way, I just

495
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 1: didn't verbalize that I wasn't into the person at all.

496
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: That would go down in history. Is my worst date?

497
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 3: I think I can't. I don't think I've ever had

498
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 3: like a really bad date. I've had another bad one

499
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 3: actually as an adult. Yeah, I think I've told you

500
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 3: a bit.

501
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 2: I was I think, like, what's like the worst Valentine's Day.

502
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:27,200
Speaker 2: You've had.

503
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: Valentines. Yeah, I've had a funny Valentine.

504
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 2: Has anyone like have you been on like a date

505
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 2: on a Valentine's and they've like stuffed it up?

506
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 1: No, you've got to get me a present.

507
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:41,560
Speaker 2: One year, Oh you were so sulty.

508
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:45,439
Speaker 1: He got me a one rose. I got you so

509
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:49,120
Speaker 1: many presents that year. I got your Gatsy Martini glasses,

510
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 1: I got your Martini.

511
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 2: I got your long It was when we first moved here.

512
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you went rocked on down to the bungalow

513
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:00,159
Speaker 1: foul flowers, brought me in one single rows and I

514
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 1: was like, excuse for me? And then a week later, No, it's.

515
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 2: Okay, we're too we know well I took you out too.

516
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,400
Speaker 1: That was probably an afterthought. Boom, let's be wious.

517
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:13,679
Speaker 2: We went to raise.

518
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'd love to do that.

519
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 2: Well we can do that.

520
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: No, off the boost.

521
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 2: Wagon, I'll have a mocktail.

522
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:24,360
Speaker 1: No, that's a waste.

523
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 2: I took it. We took I took it a raise.

524
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: What did I do? A week later?

525
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: My favorite perfume just magically showed up. I've dated it.

526
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 1: I dated a guy on Valentine's though, and it was

527
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 1: so hot, and we decided to meet on Chapel Street.

528
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 1: It was one of those forty five degree heat days

529
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: and he had a whole bouquet of flowers waiting for me.

530
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: I don't think I had anything for him. I don't

531
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 1: think I was into this one either, And I just

532
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,879
Speaker 1: remember him profusely sweating, and we met at someplace on

533
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,880
Speaker 1: Chapel Street where they did those like ice God could

534
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 1: drinks like ice ashes Temperance Hotel, yeah, somewhere like that,

535
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 1: and to cool him down, and I was just like,

536
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 1: this is so. He was just such a sweet guy,

537
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 1: but I didn't like him. I sound like a mean goal.

538
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 2: So funny, okay, since we're sharing x'es. I think it

539
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:20,439
Speaker 2: was like maybe maybe the second year with my ex,

540
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 2: and her birthday is oh yeah, I know which one. Yeah, yeah,

541
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:29,439
Speaker 2: her birthday is like close to Valentine's. So birthday I

542
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 2: bought like an incredible gift and was it. It was

543
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 2: like lubatons, Oh my, you never bought me. Then I

544
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:43,640
Speaker 2: bought you the designer. Yeah, I'm going to buy you

545
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 2: the same president anyway. And then two days later, obviously

546
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 2: Valentine's and I'm like, well it was about both of us, right,

547
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 2: so and obviously, like again, I'm my primary cook and

548
00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 2: you know all that kind of shit. So I bought

549
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 2: us like a really expensive like fry pan, like a

550
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 2: Jamie Oliver like yeah, and she was so off me.

551
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: That's crazy because it was a birthday day before and

552
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 1: you would have spent it sounds like thousands of dollars

553
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: or a grand and a half.

554
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 2: I think it was maybe a grand maybe less. And

555
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 2: then yeah, like and the pan was not cheap either,

556
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 2: And what did.

557
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 1: She get you?

558
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 2: I don't think she got me anything. Then she needs

559
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 2: to drop off maybe like a flower and some chocolates

560
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 2: or some shit. I was like, this is for both

561
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,160
Speaker 2: of us, and I'm going to cook dinner for us,

562
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 2: and you.

563
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: Know, yeah household item.

564
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know about that.

565
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: I don't feel good or bad about it. It depends.

566
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 1: I think. Here's the thing. I think you've got to

567
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: lay the law out before. So when we were in Bangalore,

568
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: we had a bit more money because we weren't putting

569
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 1: all our money into saving for a house, right Whereas

570
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,959
Speaker 1: now we're about to go to America mortgage life, all

571
00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 1: that monarchy. Our money is friggin' We're aware of our pennies.

572
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 1: So I think, like, you don't need to go above

573
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: and beyond when you know for me what I.

574
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 2: Love you like a card and effort. I love a card.

575
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 2: I love a good love you like just and like

576
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 2: just a thought for something. Yeah thought okay. But so

577
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 2: household items for Valentine's Day off the table. Apparently I'm

578
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 2: neutral for that. I'm so into it. I'm like, if

579
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 2: you bought me that, I'd be like.

580
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:27,840
Speaker 1: So if I came home with the dice and you'd

581
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 1: be like.

582
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 2: How I would be?

583
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 1: I think I feel like because I've done you remember

584
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: when I did that massive deal with Brebel, and like,

585
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:37,719
Speaker 1: your family got shit and my family do me give

586
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: your sister like a humidifier your mom and toaster and

587
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 1: a blender. My dad got a brand new blender. Like

588
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: the whole family just went mental and got stuff. So

589
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: maybe I look at household stuff different thing as I

590
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: get them for work.

591
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 2: Imagine if we got that deal in America. No, like,

592
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 2: when we came in here and we're like, our house

593
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 2: would have been decked out with all.

594
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: The newest and the sickest coffee machines and stuff.

595
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, Anyway, hopefully they're listening.

596
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, so that's worse. What about have you had

597
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: a best date?

598
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 2: Nah? Like, I think every year I've spent with you,

599
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:21,240
Speaker 2: I've really really enjoyed. Okay, I've definitely enjoyed, like Valentine's

600
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 2: with you more than anyone else. Like that's the truth.

601
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 2: And I've just been so happy just like I mean, yeah,

602
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 2: we've kind of gone to raise and had a drink

603
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 2: and it's nice just done that the last couple of

604
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 2: years here and again. I think Valentine's isn't I don't

605
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 2: think that you need one day to celebrate fucking love.

606
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 2: It's the accumulation of everything that you do throughout the year.

607
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

608
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 2: So if you're only doing shit on like one day

609
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 2: for your missus, like buying the flowers, like you know.

610
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 1: That's you're missing the point.

611
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 2: You're missing the point, you know. And it's a beautiful day,

612
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 2: but it is a it is a day that just

613
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 2: you know, people in relationships celebrate and if you single,

614
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 2: it you know makes you feel like shit because you've

615
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 2: got no one.

616
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, isn't it like peak capitalism Americana?

617
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally. And I think there's a lot of pressure

618
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 2: on Valentine's day as well.

619
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, from both it doesn't and also don't flower prices

620
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: go through the roof.

621
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 2: Absolutely everything goes through the roof.

622
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you almost want to celebrate it like a

623
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 1: week earlier or a week later.

624
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. Anyway, Valentine's Day every day?

625
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: What's a good idea for like a Gallantine? So if

626
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,920
Speaker 1: girls are single and hanging together, Oh, what would you

627
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 1: think is a good idea?

628
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 2: Honestly? I would just be like, get together at someone's house. Yeah,

629
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 2: get a couple of big doners and some snacks. Yeah,

630
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 2: and just like put on a movie and like chill together.

631
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 2: Just be there for each other and have like a

632
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 2: fun night together. Yeah, it doesn't matter, Like if you're single,

633
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 2: it's like you shouldn't be feeling bad that you don't

634
00:32:56,600 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 2: have like a Valentine, be Valentine for your friends. I

635
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 2: love that booth. Yeah, Gallantine Valentine. Maybe we'll send some

636
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 2: mess like happy Valentine's messages out.

637
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 1: Do you know when I was in primary school when

638
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 1: it always gets sent to my house and my dad

639
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: would write it.

640
00:33:14,680 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 2: Too, that's cute.

641
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it would say from your admirer sequent Avira,

642
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 1: and he'd try and change his handwriting and everything. Would

643
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: He's got a very specific can right, yes, all in

644
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 1: block letters instead.

645
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 2: Oh how funny? Yeah?

646
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: How nice?

647
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 2: Is that? It's super nice?

648
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 1: Okay, so we have actually been talking for quite some times,

649
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 1: so we can talk about the giveaway now if you want.

650
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, what are we going to give away?

651
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 1: Well, I'm seeing and we do the pink hot chocolate

652
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: because love and pink and hearts and stuff, the Hindland

653
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: hot chocolate and a copy of Beauty Food signed beautiful

654
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 1: as a little Gallantine. So all people have to do

655
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 1: to enter is just write to me on Instar and

656
00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 1: just say what you've got planned for Gallantines or Valentine,

657
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 1: and our favorite one will win the Prezzi and you

658
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: can get it signed to you or a Gallantine or

659
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 1: a Valentine. You like that?

660
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 2: Yeah? I love that.

661
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Speaker 1: It's just a nice little pressy. Okay, So let's just

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Speaker 1: let's just end on a couple of fun questions. But

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Speaker 1: we are doing a Valentine's hot Seat for Wednesday. But

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Speaker 1: do you have a favorite romantic movie?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Oh see, I love Valentine's Day? Really yeah, I love romance.

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Speaker 1: So on like happy endings.

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Speaker 2: I've just finished like a romance movie. Technically yes, I

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Speaker 2: feel okay, great, Harry Pottery.

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Speaker 1: Do you have a favorite love song?

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Speaker 2: Uh? I can't. I could never answer that, no way.

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Speaker 1: So I love Green Gloves by The National And I

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Speaker 1: told you in my roommate always.

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Speaker 2: Do you think thought it was like a funeral song?

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Speaker 2: But you think it be a nice wedding song?

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Speaker 1: I think anything the National is like the most beautiful

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Speaker 1: stuf to get married to.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, any of it.

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Speaker 1: It's like, but you're not totally drinking the kool aid

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Speaker 1: the way I am.

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Speaker 2: No, I like it, but I'm not. Yeah, you don't.

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Speaker 1: Love that kind of super melancholy music though the way

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Speaker 1: I do, Whereas I could like on repeat, I love

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Speaker 1: all that like heart wrenching music like the new David

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Speaker 1: Kushner song Skin and Bones.

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Speaker 2: Yeah I love what.

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Speaker 1: Is You're like? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Cool? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love it? Okay. So in wrapping up, we're

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Speaker 1: going to do a belated Valentines in Americana. Okay, does

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Speaker 1: that sound good to you?

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Speaker 2: You're going to put out maybe if you're lucky.

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Speaker 1: If you're lucky, I love you, boss, Happy Valentine and

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Speaker 1: the listener Happy Valentine's too. We hope you have a

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Speaker 1: great Valentines or Gallantines or whatever you choose to do.

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Speaker 2: To celebrate todayes. What's the boy version? Bollian time? Okay,

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Speaker 2: lovely only Boy.

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Speaker 1: That's a wrap on another episode of Fearlessly Failing. As always,

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Speaker 1: thank you to our guests and let's continue the conversation

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