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Speaker 2: What happens when you attempt a good deed and it
Speaker 2: backfires in the most upsetting way. There are very few
Speaker 2: situations that I can recall doing something like this personally.
Speaker 2: But what I do know is that when it comes
Speaker 2: to dealing with strangers, I definitely have to pick and
Speaker 2: choose my altruism. Sometimes it's not worth it. I saw
Speaker 2: this TikTok from a user called k eight two seven
Speaker 2: three seven, and all I could think is, this is
Speaker 2: the moral dilemma to beat out all moral dilemmas, and
Speaker 2: it's altruism unfortunately done wrong. She posts a picture of
Speaker 2: her in a phone store and the text on screen says,
Speaker 2: you drop a stranger's phone while taking a photo of
Speaker 2: her at the Louver in Paris, and now you're paying
Speaker 2: thirty nine euro for her new screen protector.
Speaker 1: No, babe, what is the right thing to do in
Speaker 1: this situation?
Speaker 2: Now? I thought about it for a sec because I
Speaker 2: am definitely a throw money at the problem type of babe. Okay,
Speaker 2: Like in a lot of situations, I'm like, what can
Speaker 2: I pay to fix this? At the moment, because the
Speaker 2: emotional cost. I can't bear it. I really can't. I'm
Speaker 2: not going to go back and forth on you and
Speaker 2: like what's it worth? And what is it You've asked
Speaker 2: me to take a photo? I've dropped the phone.
Speaker 1: It's cracked. Am I'm so sorry? Like sorry, it is
Speaker 1: not enough? What do you need?
Speaker 2: What can I How can I make restitution? How can
Speaker 2: I make you feel comfortable about this?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 2: When I actually get to the core of what I feel,
Speaker 2: part of me is like, is this not the risk
Speaker 2: you take when asking a stranger to do something for you?
Speaker 2: Like I feel like you can't put the whole responsibility
Speaker 2: of your whole device and the life span of your
Speaker 2: device in the hands of a stranger in that moment,
Speaker 2: Which is also why I rarely ask strangers to take
Speaker 2: photos of me, because the photo will be bad number one,
Speaker 2: but number two, people have slippery fingers, fingers butter fingers.
Speaker 2: I just don't think. I think that's everyone knows that's
Speaker 2: the risk. If I give you my phone you could
Speaker 2: drop it. What would you do in this instance?
Speaker 3: For me?
Speaker 1: I gotta say, like this, that's on you. You just
Speaker 1: giving the phone back? I don't know. I mean if.
Speaker 3: If the tree falls in the forest and no one
Speaker 3: hears it. If I drop a random person's phone in
Speaker 3: another country, nah, I think in theory it pisces me
Speaker 3: off to think that I would then have to pay
Speaker 3: because I was doing you a favor.
Speaker 1: This is a horrible situation, but I probably would.
Speaker 3: I would throw like a give them twenty euro and
Speaker 3: just say I'm not gonna go and fix it, like
Speaker 3: can you fix it?
Speaker 2: I'll give you a little cat, but also a screen protector,
Speaker 2: like did you just chip the edge or if the
Speaker 2: screen cracked? Because we can't really do much either way.
Speaker 2: I think that's where my head went. Also, like what
Speaker 2: can we really do? Like if someone dropped your cleaner
Speaker 2: strata dimond encrusted water bottle and then the lid doesn't
Speaker 2: twist on anymore, Like what are we meant to do
Speaker 2: about that?
Speaker 3: I'll make it of ours, But yeah, I'd be pissed.
Speaker 3: But this is a bit This is expensive and why
Speaker 3: were you touching it so it's expensive? Why was this
Speaker 3: is a different level of expensive? This is like this
Speaker 3: is an ornament, this is a piece of art. You
Speaker 3: can always buy another iPhone.
Speaker 2: I say every now and then that I really don't
Speaker 2: want to be sat in an exit row because I
Speaker 2: can't trust me to help anyone.
Speaker 1: In the kind of need I like the leg bro.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And similarly, this is one of those situations where
Speaker 2: I found myself having to push past the part of
Speaker 2: myself that wants to be a bystander for fear of
Speaker 2: something like this happening, for fear of my altruism going wrong.
Speaker 2: And now I'm more liable when I could have just
Speaker 2: minded my own business, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: And Like, it's not always extreme circumstances, right, Like Let's
Speaker 2: say you are walking out of the women's bathroom and
Speaker 2: then you see four guys are yelling at a girl
Speaker 2: and she's like crying and she looks really meek. You're like, okay,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna step in, Like what is this about? Come
Speaker 2: to find out she's a tenzy on the pickpocket in
Speaker 2: all of them. Now what Now, Now I'm implicated. Now
Speaker 2: I look like I've got a problem. Do you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. Let's say you've got out on a
Speaker 2: limb and you have decided to pick up your friend
Speaker 2: before you go to dinner, but she lives thirty minutes
Speaker 2: in the wrong direction. Now, you've gotten in the car,
Speaker 2: you've picked her up. You're driving, you're driving, you're driving.
Speaker 2: You're laughing, you're laughing, you're laughing. You don't see the
Speaker 2: pothole that you end up driving into your tires popped.
Speaker 1: Oh surely that's on the council.
Speaker 3: Have you guys seen Oh my god, anyone who's in
Speaker 3: Eastern Suburbs bloody olds out there road only way to
Speaker 3: get into BONDI tell me why all along that road
Speaker 3: the most hectic, vile potholes you've ever seen.
Speaker 1: You've been on that road? Of course they are shocking.
Speaker 1: It is shocking. It's very sick. Holes are so Sydney.
Speaker 1: Potles are crazy Sydney. That's not that's not normal. It's
Speaker 1: all the plane trees. I think, yeah, really, I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is a world. I'm distancing myself.
Speaker 3: Maybe this is this is well to do something this
Speaker 3: the maseratis here, guys like, you can't be having potholes
Speaker 3: in the road.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2: Let's say let's say you are on a flight and
Speaker 2: you're in the middle seat and the flight attendant has
Speaker 2: come and they're asking like, who wants to tea coffee?
Speaker 2: Who wants a drink or whatever, and the person in
Speaker 2: the window to avoid them reaching over you, You've decided
Speaker 2: to help the flight attendant and give them their drink.
Speaker 2: In doing so, picking it up off the tray because
Speaker 2: you didn't know, like should I grab the tray or
Speaker 2: just the cup? I don't know. Now you've spilt it
Speaker 2: all over the person in the aisle.
Speaker 1: What are you doing? God? I just I just I
Speaker 1: melt at the thought. I melt at the thought. Geez,
Speaker 1: just don't help anyone. Guys, stay in your lane, stay
Speaker 1: in your lane.
Speaker 2: Staging your honestly, is so scary to think about, and
Speaker 2: yet this is how I think we should be using
Speaker 2: our brains. Because you want to feel prepared when the
Speaker 2: time comes. You're like some froomes warm me about this sign.
Speaker 1: This is a Seinfeld episode type of thing.
Speaker 2: I don't know what that means.
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