WEBVTT - You Break A Strangers Phone 📞 Do You Pay For It ? 🙍‍♀️

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>What happens when you attempt a good deed and it

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<v Speaker 2>backfires in the most upsetting way. There are very few

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<v Speaker 2>situations that I can recall doing something like this personally.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I do know is that when it comes

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<v Speaker 2>to dealing with strangers, I definitely have to pick and

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<v Speaker 2>choose my altruism. Sometimes it's not worth it. I saw

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<v Speaker 2>this TikTok from a user called k eight two seven

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<v Speaker 2>three seven, and all I could think is, this is

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<v Speaker 2>the moral dilemma to beat out all moral dilemmas, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's altruism unfortunately done wrong. She posts a picture of

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<v Speaker 2>her in a phone store and the text on screen says,

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<v Speaker 2>you drop a stranger's phone while taking a photo of

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<v Speaker 2>her at the Louver in Paris, and now you're paying

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<v Speaker 2>thirty nine euro for her new screen protector.

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<v Speaker 1>No, babe, what is the right thing to do in

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<v Speaker 1>this situation?

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<v Speaker 2>Now? I thought about it for a sec because I

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<v Speaker 2>am definitely a throw money at the problem type of babe. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>Like in a lot of situations, I'm like, what can

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<v Speaker 2>I pay to fix this? At the moment, because the

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<v Speaker 2>emotional cost. I can't bear it. I really can't. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not going to go back and forth on you and

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<v Speaker 2>like what's it worth? And what is it You've asked

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<v Speaker 2>me to take a photo? I've dropped the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>It's cracked. Am I'm so sorry? Like sorry, it is

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<v Speaker 1>not enough? What do you need?

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<v Speaker 2>What can I How can I make restitution? How can

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<v Speaker 2>I make you feel comfortable about this?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>When I actually get to the core of what I feel,

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<v Speaker 2>part of me is like, is this not the risk

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<v Speaker 2>you take when asking a stranger to do something for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I feel like you can't put the whole responsibility

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<v Speaker 2>of your whole device and the life span of your

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<v Speaker 2>device in the hands of a stranger in that moment,

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<v Speaker 2>Which is also why I rarely ask strangers to take

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<v Speaker 2>photos of me, because the photo will be bad number one,

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<v Speaker 2>but number two, people have slippery fingers, fingers butter fingers.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't think. I think that's everyone knows that's

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<v Speaker 2>the risk. If I give you my phone you could

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<v Speaker 2>drop it. What would you do in this instance?

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<v Speaker 3>For me?

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta say, like this, that's on you. You just

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<v Speaker 1>giving the phone back? I don't know. I mean if.

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<v Speaker 3>If the tree falls in the forest and no one

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<v Speaker 3>hears it. If I drop a random person's phone in

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<v Speaker 3>another country, nah, I think in theory it pisces me

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<v Speaker 3>off to think that I would then have to pay

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<v Speaker 3>because I was doing you a favor.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a horrible situation, but I probably would.

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<v Speaker 3>I would throw like a give them twenty euro and

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<v Speaker 3>just say I'm not gonna go and fix it, like

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<v Speaker 3>can you fix it?

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<v Speaker 2>I'll give you a little cat, but also a screen protector,

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<v Speaker 2>like did you just chip the edge or if the

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<v Speaker 2>screen cracked? Because we can't really do much either way.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's where my head went. Also, like what

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<v Speaker 2>can we really do? Like if someone dropped your cleaner

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<v Speaker 2>strata dimond encrusted water bottle and then the lid doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>twist on anymore, Like what are we meant to do

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<v Speaker 2>about that?

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<v Speaker 3>I'll make it of ours, But yeah, I'd be pissed.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is a bit This is expensive and why

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<v Speaker 3>were you touching it so it's expensive? Why was this

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<v Speaker 3>is a different level of expensive? This is like this

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<v Speaker 3>is an ornament, this is a piece of art. You

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<v Speaker 3>can always buy another iPhone.

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<v Speaker 2>I say every now and then that I really don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be sat in an exit row because I

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<v Speaker 2>can't trust me to help anyone.

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<v Speaker 1>In the kind of need I like the leg bro.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And similarly, this is one of those situations where

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<v Speaker 2>I found myself having to push past the part of

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<v Speaker 2>myself that wants to be a bystander for fear of

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<v Speaker 2>something like this happening, for fear of my altruism going wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm more liable when I could have just

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<v Speaker 2>minded my own business, do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>And Like, it's not always extreme circumstances, right, Like Let's

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<v Speaker 2>say you are walking out of the women's bathroom and

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<v Speaker 2>then you see four guys are yelling at a girl

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<v Speaker 2>and she's like crying and she looks really meek. You're like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna step in, Like what is this about? Come

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<v Speaker 2>to find out she's a tenzy on the pickpocket in

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<v Speaker 2>all of them. Now what Now, Now I'm implicated. Now

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<v Speaker 2>I look like I've got a problem. Do you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying. Let's say you've got out on a

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<v Speaker 2>limb and you have decided to pick up your friend

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<v Speaker 2>before you go to dinner, but she lives thirty minutes

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<v Speaker 2>in the wrong direction. Now, you've gotten in the car,

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<v Speaker 2>you've picked her up. You're driving, you're driving, you're driving.

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<v Speaker 2>You're laughing, you're laughing, you're laughing. You don't see the

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<v Speaker 2>pothole that you end up driving into your tires popped.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh surely that's on the council.

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<v Speaker 3>Have you guys seen Oh my god, anyone who's in

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<v Speaker 3>Eastern Suburbs bloody olds out there road only way to

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<v Speaker 3>get into BONDI tell me why all along that road

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<v Speaker 3>the most hectic, vile potholes you've ever seen.

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<v Speaker 1>You've been on that road? Of course they are shocking.

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<v Speaker 1>It is shocking. It's very sick. Holes are so Sydney.

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<v Speaker 1>Potles are crazy Sydney. That's not that's not normal. It's

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<v Speaker 1>all the plane trees. I think, yeah, really, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a world. I'm distancing myself.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe this is this is well to do something this

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<v Speaker 3>the maseratis here, guys like, you can't be having potholes

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<v Speaker 3>in the road.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, okay, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's say let's say you are on a flight and

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<v Speaker 2>you're in the middle seat and the flight attendant has

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<v Speaker 2>come and they're asking like, who wants to tea coffee?

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<v Speaker 2>Who wants a drink or whatever, and the person in

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<v Speaker 2>the window to avoid them reaching over you, You've decided

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<v Speaker 2>to help the flight attendant and give them their drink.

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<v Speaker 2>In doing so, picking it up off the tray because

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't know, like should I grab the tray or

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<v Speaker 2>just the cup? I don't know. Now you've spilt it

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<v Speaker 2>all over the person in the aisle.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you doing? God? I just I just I

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<v Speaker 1>melt at the thought. I melt at the thought. Geez,

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<v Speaker 1>just don't help anyone. Guys, stay in your lane, stay

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<v Speaker 1>in your lane.

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<v Speaker 2>Staging your honestly, is so scary to think about, and

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<v Speaker 2>yet this is how I think we should be using

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<v Speaker 2>our brains. Because you want to feel prepared when the

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<v Speaker 2>time comes. You're like some froomes warm me about this sign.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a Seinfeld episode type of thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what that means.

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