Speaker 1: Melbourne.
Speaker 2: Welcome to them Christian o'con show podcast.
Speaker 3: In my house at the moment this week, I was
Speaker 3: talking yesterday to a teenager who may or may not
Speaker 3: be one of my daughters. This teenager has been going
Speaker 3: through a.
Speaker 2: Breakup this week. Oh dear, Yeah, we've all been there,
Speaker 2: haven't we. We have.
Speaker 3: Everyone has been there, those teenage breakups, the ones and
Speaker 3: in your late teens, in your twenties.
Speaker 2: They stay with you even all these years later.
Speaker 3: I was sort of saying to this teenager who may
Speaker 3: or may not be a daughter in my house, as
Speaker 3: you say, it's.
Speaker 2: Not really irrelevant. It's just that teenager going through a
Speaker 2: breakup this week. I was just.
Speaker 3: Saying, I still remember you remember all those breakups, don't you.
Speaker 2: It's unbelievable, even.
Speaker 3: Though you know Monday twenty fourth wedding anniversary. They're like
Speaker 3: little scars and they don't fully heal.
Speaker 2: Maybe they're not meant to.
Speaker 3: So today we're looking to sell up our jew box,
Speaker 3: the Broken Hearts jukebox, because one thing about being broken
Speaker 3: hearted is there's this strange It's that the joy you
Speaker 3: get a picking over a scab. You know, you know
Speaker 3: you shouldn't, you should just let it heal, let that
Speaker 3: heel over you. You pick at it and it starts bleeding,
Speaker 3: and there's a strange, weird joy in the slight pain,
Speaker 3: the melancholia.
Speaker 1: I feel like there's a certain amount of sadness that
Speaker 1: wells up in your body and you can only wash
Speaker 1: it out by diving into it. It'll get out for
Speaker 1: a long time. Or you can just dive in and
Speaker 1: play this song.
Speaker 3: That's quite right. Yeah, you got to head towards it.
Speaker 3: And sometimes there's a song that we would listen to
Speaker 3: over and over and over again on a loop, tormenting yourself,
Speaker 3: whether it was your song or it's just a song
Speaker 3: that somehow you have a meaning to for me. We
Speaker 3: go back to nineteen ninety three and a breakup and
Speaker 3: this song that I kept listening to over and over
Speaker 3: again by great Irish band called the Hot House Flowers.
Speaker 2: BASI why are you frowning?
Speaker 3: It'll be easier in the morning, They were singing to
Speaker 3: me and going, hey, hey.
Speaker 2: Christian, it's going to be easier in the morning, buddy.
Speaker 4: Irish country sounds a bit of a yet way Van Morrison,
Speaker 4: this is beautiful music.
Speaker 3: Let's go back to nineteen ninety three, and that pain
Speaker 3: borrowed me be you can imagine is this gonna easy?
Speaker 2: Days are going to come? Easy days are going to come.
Speaker 2: Do you just listen to this moment?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: You want to take time?
Speaker 3: Oh beautiful Patsy, what's it for you? What was the
Speaker 3: song you listened to over and over again with a
Speaker 3: broken heart?
Speaker 6: Well, I was busted up by motorbike boy.
Speaker 2: Oh nineteen, and there's.
Speaker 7: Bits we're not allowed to talk. Don't think we'll ever
Speaker 7: get another full story.
Speaker 2: I don't want to.
Speaker 7: Patsy was one of those ladies at school that got
Speaker 7: involved with someone.
Speaker 2: A little bit older. Come on, who had a motorbike.
Speaker 3: Yes, this is my greatest fear, someone of that turning
Speaker 3: up one day and I will go full Liam Neeson
Speaker 3: and just run him over.
Speaker 6: Not just any motorbike, Like we're not talking a trail bike.
Speaker 6: We're talking a big, thumping like road bike.
Speaker 4: Okay, Ye, it wasn't like it was like a loped
Speaker 4: or one of these electric bikes.
Speaker 6: Anyway, it was very cool. But this was huge in
Speaker 6: the charts at the time. Wendy Matthews the day you
Speaker 6: went away.
Speaker 2: When you say he went away, was that back in
Speaker 2: the big House prison is that what you mean him?
Speaker 7: You know about those weird ladies get to correspondence to
Speaker 7: get married to someone who's the lifer, you know, like
Speaker 7: Ted Bundy had about eight wives.
Speaker 2: No, there's a very nice boy. But distance. This was
Speaker 2: at the time when was this eighteen forty one.
Speaker 6: It was massive in the charts, and I used to lament.
Speaker 6: I used to go into work room and it'd be playing,
Speaker 6: and I'd just sit at my share and I just
Speaker 6: couldn't start the day until the song had finished. Swallow
Speaker 6: in Mine.
Speaker 3: Yes, are you happy to tell us a story which
Speaker 3: is actually very recent for you?
Speaker 2: About the doctor?
Speaker 1: Yes, I can tell you about the doctor. It's a
Speaker 1: it's a recent word.
Speaker 2: Do you know about this the doctor.
Speaker 6: I have heard about the doctor, but I might not
Speaker 6: know this part about.
Speaker 2: The doctor for a while.
Speaker 1: Early last year, yeah, early last year, coming, yeah, sort
Speaker 1: of early twenty twenty one.
Speaker 3: We'd come to work on a Monday, and we all
Speaker 3: knew he'd had a fun weekend with the doctor. And
Speaker 3: then suddenly there wasn't a bounce in a step one Monday,
Speaker 3: and we found out that the doctor.
Speaker 1: Doctor disappeared.
Speaker 2: You're no more going to be no more house course,
Speaker 2: very well, thank you.
Speaker 1: But yeah, this one hurts, not necessarily so much because
Speaker 1: of the heartache, because heartache goes away, right, but the
Speaker 1: embarrassment and the shame still sticks with me. So basically
Speaker 1: what happened was I fell in love. I hadn't been
Speaker 1: in a serious relationship for a long time, and I
Speaker 1: just kind of fell head over heels very.
Speaker 2: Early in the.
Speaker 1: Early goings of the relationship, so much so in fact,
Speaker 1: I would tell my friends, yeah, she's the one, like
Speaker 1: it's definitely.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I presume she was.
Speaker 1: I actually found and I've got it in my hand now,
Speaker 1: a broach that I found on the ground of her name.
Speaker 1: I plan to give it. I know it's a bit
Speaker 1: weird looking back to give her something you found off
Speaker 1: the ground, but I thought.
Speaker 2: I was meant to get her name, and maybe it
Speaker 2: was at the time we're.
Speaker 1: Meant to be together. And then I actually poured my
Speaker 1: heart out of it on Instagram in a message tour
Speaker 1: and she was trying to line up another dinner.
Speaker 2: Young people do it now.
Speaker 1: I woke up on a Monday morning then to this
Speaker 1: message which is hard to read but probably funny for
Speaker 1: you guys.
Speaker 2: Yesterday, and I was feeding the pain of it's the okay,
Speaker 2: oh okay.
Speaker 1: I would have preferred to have this conversation in person,
Speaker 1: but I think I should preface our next hangout. I
Speaker 1: think you're such a fun and in brackets and funny guy,
Speaker 1: which is like on the head and genuine person. I
Speaker 1: really enjoyed hanging out with you. But three t's in
Speaker 1: the butts, I'm not sure if there's anything more than
Speaker 1: just friends there for me. Of course, if you're still
Speaker 1: keen to hang out, that's something i'd totally be up for.
Speaker 6: She doesn't deserve you. You know what I'm going to
Speaker 6: take care of that?
Speaker 2: Is she going to get that biker when he's next? Dono?
Speaker 2: She's not the one, She's not the one.
Speaker 1: But it's the embarrassment of being like you were way
Speaker 1: too in love and they were just like.
Speaker 2: The language and that three tees in the butt That
Speaker 2: what was the song?
Speaker 1: Sorry? So the song that got me through was one
Speaker 1: of the saddest breakup songs of all time.
Speaker 2: Dry your Eyes by the Strings.
Speaker 3: My God, I love this song. Dry your eyes, mate,
Speaker 3: This is a brilliant breakup song.
Speaker 1: Try your eyes.
Speaker 5: It's heart to say makeup.
Speaker 3: It's actually a genuinely heartbreaking tender song from Mike Skinner
Speaker 3: The Streets. There is a moment where your friends do
Speaker 3: need to actually there's a moment to be wallet wallowing,
Speaker 3: and then there's a moment when sometimes you need to
Speaker 3: be radically moved out of that. Isn't it when your
Speaker 3: friends do and friends actually have to say to you, Okay,
Speaker 3: now try your yes? And this song is right on
Speaker 3: the cusp of that. That's a brilliant one. All right,
Speaker 3: what is the song for you?
Speaker 8: Then?
Speaker 2: I saw a broken hearts jukebox? Who needs feel good tunes?
Speaker 7: Fridays about broken hearts?
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Speaker 2: I know it's Friday, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: We're talking about heartbreak when you that heartbreate you have
Speaker 3: when you're a teenager in your twenties, and sometimes there's
Speaker 3: a strange joy listen to a a song that kind
Speaker 3: of torments you, but there's a kind of strange energy
Speaker 3: in listening to it on a loop over and over again.
Speaker 3: For Patsy, was this song by Wendy Matthews. A lot
Speaker 3: of you saying this was also your kind of breakup
Speaker 3: anthem on a loop.
Speaker 2: There's not a que for Rio when he was left
Speaker 2: in a heartbroken way by the doctor.
Speaker 5: Are you.
Speaker 2: Her beIN maker? Some wounds take a long time to heal.
Speaker 2: Men for me we go back to ninety three. BESI
Speaker 2: I know what I'm doing. When I'm done here today,
Speaker 2: I'll listen to this driving home. No, yeah, I am.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we're sticking it up.
Speaker 2: Thatsy. Some great ones coming through, Christian.
Speaker 3: The Lonely Hearts breakup song for me Take a look
Speaker 3: at Me Now by Phil Collins.
Speaker 2: What a song.
Speaker 9: There's I mean, could Shakespeare have written a sonnet more beautiful?
Speaker 3: So take a look at me now. There's just an
Speaker 3: empty space and there's nothing left here to remind me,
Speaker 3: just a memory of your face.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 3: Oh, take a look at me now where there's just
Speaker 3: an empty space and you coming back to me.
Speaker 2: It's against.
Speaker 7: Oh god, guys in the morning, take.
Speaker 2: Your work house house right now.
Speaker 7: All right, there's opened up the Lonely Hearts Club jukebox today. Mark,
Speaker 7: good morning, morning, Christian morning everyone, Markey boye.
Speaker 2: Okay, the Heartbreaks jukebox is open. What's the song for you? Mate?
Speaker 5: The song for me was Brick by Ben.
Speaker 2: I Love. What a beautifully heavy sound song this is.
Speaker 3: There's one I listened to a lot where my daughters
Speaker 3: were born both times Gracie and still fighting?
Speaker 2: What's that only nine? Hello, son, You're a bird or
Speaker 2: something like that.
Speaker 8: Oh it's beautiful, Mark, this is a brilliant one.
Speaker 5: Yeah, look it was.
Speaker 1: It was on high rotation back in the late nineties
Speaker 1: at the time of the breakup, and I was the
Speaker 1: one who'd initiated the breakup, so I wasn't feeling the greatest.
Speaker 5: Realized that I was playing this song a lot, and
Speaker 5: the line She's a brick and I'm trawling slowly made
Speaker 5: me feel even worse about the situation.
Speaker 2: So I know, sometimes I listen to these songs at
Speaker 2: the time.
Speaker 7: Don't actually bring you any comfort today, there's comfort in
Speaker 7: the discomfort.
Speaker 2: Maybe that's actually what you need. Mark. That's a great one.
Speaker 2: Thank you very much for sharing that today.
Speaker 3: Mate, have a nice weekend, you too, say guys, Tests Tests, Hey, yeah, hello, Test.
Speaker 2: You sound like it's a recent breakup, are you okay?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 5: No, I'm thinking about the song.
Speaker 2: Take us there, then take us there? Well, my song
Speaker 2: was Whitney Houston all at once. Wow, what happened?
Speaker 1: I've got the news happening.
Speaker 2: Oh, so what happened? You were. When was this?
Speaker 4: I was in year eleven in all girls school and
Speaker 4: I thought I was really hipped because I had my
Speaker 4: therapist boyfriend.
Speaker 8: Went to school the next day.
Speaker 5: My friend told me that, oh no, he's not with
Speaker 5: you anymore.
Speaker 4: He's with someone else.
Speaker 2: Oh that's awful. He told your friends to tell you
Speaker 2: that is horrible.
Speaker 5: But a doubt.
Speaker 6: If it doesn't work out with her, he'll come back
Speaker 6: to me.
Speaker 2: I know what a cat eight a week to play.
Speaker 2: I hate the game that year eleven is brutal.
Speaker 7: Yes, this is one of the toughest one to hear today.
Speaker 2: Open heart surgery on the radio today, Yes, exactly.
Speaker 7: Test hopefully you know tragedy bus time equals to Christian
Speaker 7: O'Connell break for a show.
Speaker 2: Sure that test. Thank you very much you call. Have
Speaker 2: a nice weekend.
Speaker 6: Problem you two guys, love you show.
Speaker 2: Thank you. I'm see let's get Brucie on Bruce, Hello,
Speaker 2: Alloy and gang. All right, so take us back to
Speaker 2: the breakup, Bruce.
Speaker 5: I was here year ten ago. I was in a
Speaker 5: primary school going out with a girl and she left
Speaker 5: me for another boy at another school and broke my heart.
Speaker 5: And my song was please do not go by the
Speaker 5: one on FMS.
Speaker 2: This is deep, great song and.
Speaker 1: Jeez, the.
Speaker 2: Big emotions, big thoughts for in you can hear the pain,
Speaker 2: the voice you hear, you can I can hear in yours.
Speaker 7: I even even twelve, if you're now in year twelve,
Speaker 7: so it's still hurts two years.
Speaker 5: I even I even said her the tape, I've.
Speaker 2: Done that, I left to take once in a doorstep
Speaker 2: to something that broke here exactly right, her mom.
Speaker 3: Means said, don't don't do that, stay away from that house.
Speaker 3: There's a moment I'm totally forgot about that.
Speaker 2: I wonder why
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