WEBVTT - When Are You Allowed To Call Someone Your Ex? 💔 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.600 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast, brought to you by. 0:00:03.640 --> 0:00:10.400 Cana Illo, My Gremlins and Goblins. We are backed podcast 0:00:10.560 --> 0:00:14.120 edition for me taking selfies off herself? So whoms for 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:15.920 what we do not know? Boy? 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:17.800 Not really my mum. 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:20.720 Either way, you don't need to share your business, It's okay. 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:24.279 But any opportunity I'm just waiting to get into a 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:28.120 relationship so I can completely decimate it by sharing personal information. 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:28.840 Oh will you? 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:29.520 Yeah? 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:30.760 Oh fantastic. 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:33.280 We run out of material, flex, you know, I'm in 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:34.879 the trenches. Always think, what do. 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:36.880 You mean running out? You post ten stories a day, 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:42.960 it's not even cracking the surface. But big questions we're 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:47.240 asking today, when are you allowed to call someone your ex? 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:51.080 In particular? What needs to happen? How long do you 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:55.000 need to be interacting before it is fair, reasonable and 0:00:55.200 --> 0:00:57.840 sane Yes, to refer to someone as your ex. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:03.160 There's a lot of conditions that I believe need to 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:06.560 be met before the X tag can come in. I've 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:10.679 been burnt by someone saying calling me a nex after 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:15.200 two dates, so I have a particular interest in abolishing 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:20.240 this happening because it's triggering. Yeah, so let's get to it. 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:23.520 This is Flex and frooms on CAD. 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:25.920 I was in the toilet the other day. I won't 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:27.280 tell you what I was doing, but you can use 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:30.520 your imagination. It was number twos, so I was taking 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:33.000 a little bit of time in There no foot elevation 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:34.440 at the time, so there was a struggle. 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.960 We need to figure out portable poopstools. 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:40.039 I have one that was a little handle, but people 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:40.679 aren't ready for that. 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:42.559 But is it portable in the way that you're taking 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:45.679 it out of the house location to location or. 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.039 It's like a briefcase. 0:01:47.640 --> 0:01:51.360 Have you done that? No, exactly, I'm talking like pocket 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:52.640 size phone size. 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.320 But just know if you invite me over to your house, 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:57.360 I will be rummaging in the cupboards looking for some 0:01:57.400 --> 0:02:00.120 sort of object. There's at least thirty centimeters high I 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.880 can prop my feet onto. I digress. I was in 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:05.680 the toilet of cater last week. I'm having a think. 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:08.400 It's been a big day for us, and I go, oh, 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:10.840 I've got a really good thought experiment. If I was 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:12.880 to give you one hundred thousand dollars to do this, 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:16.360 would you do it? Okay, we hook a wire up 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:19.840 to your brain and we can tell every single thought 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:22.200 that you've had for an entire day, every single thought, 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:27.960 impulsive thoughts, intrusive thoughts you could snap at any time. 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:29.640 I get a snapt I wouldn't do it for one 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:30.399 hundred thousand dollars. 0:02:30.480 --> 0:02:31.440 No, okay, a million? 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:32.240 No? 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:33.720 Wait, do you get what I'm saying? Though? 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:37.040 Yeah, Like if you would hook up some kind of 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:39.560 machine to my brain that would be able to tell 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:42.040 what I was thinking, when I was thinking it, and 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:46.040 broadcast those thoughts to anyone who wanted access to them, 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:47.520 My thoughts are priceless. 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.000 Would you do any amount of money? 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:53.080 Yeah, I'd do it for a billion dollars? 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:54.760 What about five million? 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:55.919 I do it for five million? 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:56.800 Three? 0:02:57.440 --> 0:02:58.200 Yeah, I'll do for three. 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:00.680 One million, I'll do for one okay, okay. 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.959 One million cash and it's a gift, so I'm not 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:09.600 getting taxed. Yeah, wow, will you wouldn't do it? 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:10.359 No? 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:11.880 What are you thinking? 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:13.480 You don't want to know? 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.240 One hundred thousand dollars is not enough for the chaos. 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:17.200 It's gonna cause. 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:18.200 Exactly a million. 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:18.679 I don't mind. 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:20.960 But like, this is gonna live on in perpetuity, so 0:03:21.000 --> 0:03:23.280 your children could wake up one day and like go 0:03:23.360 --> 0:03:25.760 back to the annals and say everything that you're thinking. 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.680 Are we not only doing that now? I'm sharing my 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:31.120 thoughts on the internet all the time. Yeah, but this 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:33.320 is the next step, and it's for a day, and 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:35.280 you're saying it in this environment. Yeah, I think a 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:39.160 million dollars is enough to deal with the repercussions or 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:41.840 any of the consequences. For example, if we were at 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:44.960 cater for a whole day and you're paying me a 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.600 million dollars have my thoughts broadcasted, it just gets a 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:48.280 bit too hectic. 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:53.600 I'll quit, like I'm quitting because through me is a 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:54.520 bushpig and I hate it. 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:58.200 I don't think it's less about my thoughts being shared, 0:03:58.200 --> 0:04:01.040 but the consequence of those thoughts. If I think some 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:03.960 rowdy stuff and it can't just be brushed off as 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:07.160 like a and it's chaotic, I'll just quit. 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:10.200 Cool. Oh guess because you had a million dollars? Yeah, 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:12.840 and just hide away. Fabulous? 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:13.440 Would you do it? 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:17.520 No thoughts are sacred. I have intrusive thoughts. You can't 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:18.440 hear them. 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:22.960 Knowing you you accidentally say them. Anyway, that was a 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:27.840 nice thought experiment, and I will say for anybody who's 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:32.080 interested in seeing how that would play out, you should 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:36.120 watch the movie Chaos Walking with Spider Man. What's his name? 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:42.360 Tom Holland Cool. It's about a time in history. It's 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:44.560 still on Earth, but an alternate universe. Actually maybe it's 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:48.240 another planet. But basically, the men in this place have 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:51.600 all of their thoughts broadcasted and the women don't have 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:54.400 the same affliction. And so you look at how society 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:57.120 functions when men can't hide their thoughts, and how that 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:01.799 impacts how masculinity is perceived. So no longer is physical 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:06.359 strength or the inability to conceal emotions the most masculine 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:10.919 thing you can do. But it's being, you know, traditionally 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:14.800 masculine and being able to hide what you think, like 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.520 shield your thoughts. It's fantastic, wrong, go watch it. It's 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:19.640 also a book if you like reading. Okay, I love it. 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:20.520 Thank you, Flexile. 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:24.400 And we need to discuss this. It's very important. I 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:27.880 feel like today we need to come to a consensus 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:31.120 and then disseminate this information far and wide so we 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:34.000 are all on the same page. Are you ready, all 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:37.640 in favor? Say yes, flex yes, Flexi Freney. Please tell 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:41.279 me when are you allowed to call someone your ex? 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:46.279 And by that I mean after what dating experience with someone, 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:49.800 are you entitled to continue to refer to them as 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:50.880 your ex? 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:53.720 Perhaps we need to go through all the stages. 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:54.600 Great, I can do that. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:55.080 Okay. 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:58.320 So is it appropriate to call somebody your ex after 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:03.520 one date? No care? No, after one date with kissing 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:10.280 and tongue. No, after a sexual encounter. Absolutely not after 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:17.440 casually speaking for three months. No, after a situationship there's 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.359 like dating, they're sleeping together, but it only happened for 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:29.000 a month. No, damn, tough crowd, after you've been hooking 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:33.080 up on and off for a year. Friends with benefits. 0:06:33.560 --> 0:06:36.320 It depends what context you're talking about the ex. 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:37.520 I gave you the context. 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:40.960 No, No, I like, who's asking me? Like, if I'm 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.880 in a conversation with all of my girlfriends and I'm 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:45.800 talking about the guy, I'm not going to call him 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:48.280 my ex because they have all the background. Whereas if 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:50.520 I'm meeting up with new friends and they're like, oh, 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:53.480 we just you know, and I've just bumped into the guy, 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:54.720 and then I go to the dinner with the new 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:56.200 friends and like, oh, what's happened. I'm like, Oh, I 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:59.400 just bumped into like my ex or this guy I dated. 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:02.599 So you're saying that you use X as a term 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:06.080 to summarize what somebody is to you to people who 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.080 might not have all the context. 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:11.160 Yeah, because it's easier than saying, oh, this guy that 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:13.280 I like dated for a little bit and then didn't 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:17.160 date and then we dated, is it really X? Okay? No, 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:19.320 to be fair, I don't know who uses the term 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:20.080 X anymore. 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:27.960 We've abolished X Y wocab What do we call people. 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.280 People are dated victims? 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:32.160 Stop? 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:33.120 Okay. 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:36.400 Here's the thing. I think that the reason why I've 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:39.200 asked this question is because the more conversations I have 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:43.160 about dating generally, the more I realize my approach can 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:46.320 feel a bit like direct and binary, like things are 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:49.240 or they are not. I was their girlfriend, I was 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:53.080 not their girlfriend. We kissed, we did not kiss. But 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:55.640 as I speak to other people, they have what I 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:58.920 refer to as like a convoluted approach that is very confusing. 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:00.920 The kind of people where they're like, oh, yeah, we 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:02.840 hooked up and I'm like, oh, so you slept here 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:06.480 They're like no, no, no, no, no, we kissed. Babes, use 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:10.040 the right words to describe what you're saying. So in 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:13.720 this particular instance, I was talking to somebody who had 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:17.760 described somebody that they were talking to, like you know 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:22.600 how people they do talking stages these days, sheesus somebody 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:27.560 they were somebody they were flirting with frequently, virtually, that's 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:29.320 what we want to call it, for a couple of 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:32.040 months and they had said, oh, that's my ex. And 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:33.839 I was like, oh, you know, when did you date? 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:36.000 When'd you go out? And they were like, oh, you know, 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:37.680 it was a couple of months. A girls like, oh, like, 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:41.160 tell me about it. Goes on to describe a talking situation. 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:45.959 I said, babes, babes virgin behavior At this point, though, 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:50.040 it feels slenderous because if anybody but the people that 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:54.800 I had had an official boyfriend, girlfriend dynamic with referred 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:56.920 to me as their ex, that's defamation. 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:00.600 As I said, it's a very virgin all kind of 0:09:00.600 --> 0:09:03.079 thing to do in what way saying that you talk 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:04.600 to someone and then call them the X. 0:09:05.640 --> 0:09:08.800 In some instances, I don't think I've ever had such 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:12.760 a what's the word I'm looking for? Such and like 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.800 an inslammatory connection with someone that I wasn't in an 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:19.040 official relationship with. I've seen the way some people do 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:25.160 situationships like someone you're flirting with virtually like people these days, 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:28.839 especially on TikTok, often describe their situationships as being far 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:32.320 more heartbreaking than their actual relationships. Something about the fantasy 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:35.520 of almost having you know, this dynamic but not having it, 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:38.240 and it feeling a lot more intimate because there was 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:41.080 a lot more limitations. I get that. I totally get that. 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:45.319 But words mean things. If we're going to start calling 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:49.720 literally everyone we've interacted with in a romantic sense an ex, 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:52.679 we need to add at a suffix an X. 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:54.640 What explain this. 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:59.559 Is my ex talking stage, This is my ex situationship, my. 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:04.520 Ex, your ass, some ass was eat? If you ate 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:05.640 an ass, you got an X. 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:09.360 Okay, I will say, tell me. 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:16.600 Oh, do certain things they're your X. Oh, okay, meet 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:21.440 the parents, giveaway? Are you all for the first time? Okay, 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:23.080 I haven't done it myself. 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:30.120 Vaginal penetration is not exert that's child's play. Do other 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:35.559 week pegging, pegging one finger, meeting friends for the first 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:39.120 time when they've not been pegged before, meeting friends. 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:44.320 Before you just loosen them up. Okay, this is one 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:44.600 of the. 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:47.840 Things you're gonna say made and then regret. 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:49.560 You're not built that way for me. 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:53.920 You know, I don't do it. I just want to 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:54.480 pretend that. 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:57.839 I do it. No, if you've met their friends under 0:10:57.840 --> 0:11:01.880 any circumstance, that's feels like it's verging on X to me, 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:04.600 if you're being introduced in a romantic way. 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:07.000 I could go on and on about this because meeting 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:08.840 the friends, did you really, because. 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:12.480 You haven't said he's stopped with Hanal and Peggy and 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:13.120 give me this. 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:21.280 On community Meeting the friends is crucial love bombing vibes. Yeah, 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:24.560 nobody talks about this, but like I remember instances where 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:28.080 like I was going on dates with this guy and 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.360 I met his friend. He had a friend over one night, 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:33.560 and the friend was so interested in me, asking all 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:38.200 these questions. It's a fucking trap. And then two dates 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:42.120 later we go to some house Shanghai, dumpling house eight 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:45.240 twelve dumplings, go back to his house, never see him again. 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:47.920 So but yeah, i'd met the friend, which made me 0:11:47.960 --> 0:11:50.200 think we're on here telling me all about his mum. 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:54.760 Mom would love you going to his works and we've all. 0:11:54.600 --> 0:11:58.320 Fallen victim to it, because of course, why would your 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:01.880 mom not love me? I'm very lovable me and like 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:06.439 love bobbing isn't bad because I get why, Yes. 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:08.800 But that's definitely a crucial part of love bobbing. But 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:12.560 the whole ex thing, I don't call anyone my ex 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:17.400 because I'd say ex boyfriend X feels like shady and 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:20.200 like American, and I don't like it. He's my ex. 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:23.200 I'm trying to complicate my digital footprints and nobody knows 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:27.400 my business me moonlighting as a mysterious gal you wish 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:30.720 and like, nobody is my ex. I want to feel 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:33.559 like I just like incubated in a pod and then 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:36.240 arrived on the planet as a twenty eight year old 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:38.400 with no past, no fut vibes. 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:43.520 Have you debuted only one boyfriend? Yeah? Because when I 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:45.800 type in your name in flex mummy on. 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:48.920 On TikTok, this we have to discuss. Okay, we won't 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:54.160 do it this episode. But if you type in like 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:57.200 like women influences on Instagram and I didn't even see 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.960 this myself, Sally, my best friend, pointed out, She's like, 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:01.880 why do Why is it when I go to search 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:06.840 up women influences on TikTok, the first video that comes 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:10.400 up is always them with their boyfriend. Of all the 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:13.800 thousands of videos I've posted. Mine is like this cute 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:16.720 little Valentine's Day with my ex boyfriend? What is that? 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:20.319 Have I not gone viral? Have I not made a 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:23.480 name for myself as a CrOx connoisseur And this random 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:27.560 thirty K video is the one. That's also what we 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:31.240 need to discuss is seeing the most searched terms for 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:36.360 your name. I love mine is like flex mammy, network, 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:42.000 flex mammy, boyfriend, fex, flexmamy ex boyfriend, it's bizarre. 0:13:42.520 --> 0:13:48.120 Mine's listener price, age, listener, price triplet. Can you do 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:48.760 on TikTok? 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:49.560 Should it quickly? 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:52.720 Now? I don't know you could do this? 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:53.680 Are you sure? 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:54.560 Okay? Hold on? 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:55.040 Yeah? 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:57.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. And I don't know if it's 0:13:57.080 --> 0:13:59.840 because it's our own algorithm, so we're like confusing it 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:04.840 a type in flex mammy. Here's what we've got, flex mammy, crocs, 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:12.040 flex mummy, house tour, breakup boyfriend bar, which is a 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.560 very interesting one. But there was a section when I 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:21.400 was doing Socialize Era when I was recommending bars, jewelry, podcast, restaurant, 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:24.840 Tinder and like tinder me no. 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:30.960 Okay, mine mine is flex and froomes Froome's crypto frooms World, 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:34.800 Flex and frooms bts god got a monopoly on my TikTok. 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.920 Yeah, they really want the flex integration and I'm not surprised, 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:40.920 you know what I'm saying. So we need to come 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:44.240 to a consensus. I think it is only appropriate to 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:46.920 call some of your ex if you were in an 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:48.400 official dynamic. 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:50.000 And or if you've eaten their ass. 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:55.720 And third caveat is emotional damage happened? 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:59.960 Yes, Oh but nah, I think that. 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:02.680 It's fair because if you only had a situation whip 0:15:02.720 --> 0:15:05.400 for a week, but like really what you know, like 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:07.640 you're still ragging on about it six months later, I 0:15:07.640 --> 0:15:08.240 think it's fair. 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:10.520 This is flex and froomes on. 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:13.560 I know it's really lame to talk about extreme weather, 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.600 not in a climate change way, but just I feel 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:19.760 like people think that's a conversational crutch. But when I 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:23.760 find some really interesting information, I have to share. So 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:27.320 if you've been keeping abreast of the news, then you 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.960 know there's been extreme weathers all across the world, but 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:32.920 in particular in the UK they're experiencing a heat wave 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:36.560 currently with temperatures up to forty degrees and given their 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:39.080 infrastructure and the way that they're not built for that 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:42.840 kind of heat. I can imagine they're suffering. The tiktoks 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:45.160 have been funny though. Did you know there was a 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:48.040 runway like a plane runway that had melted so plans 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:51.920 couldn't take off. This is serious stuff, Yeah, for real, 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:53.760 it's hectic. 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:55.640 See. I just imagine they're all winging. 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:58.640 Yeah, but no, they're not winging. It's actually they're suffering, 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:02.040 but so much so that unions in the UK are 0:16:02.040 --> 0:16:06.200 calling for a maximum UK workplace temperature. What they're currently 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:08.800 saying is that it is inhumane to let people work 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:11.640 in these conditions, and there should be it should be 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:15.840 understood nationwide. When is it too hot for people to 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:19.360 come into work and be allowed opportunities to work from 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:22.640 home or to be given, you know, incentives to still 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:26.360 come in or whatever. The GMB union is saying that 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:29.360 the government should set a maximum temperature for workplaces of 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:34.280 twenty five degrees, which I was like, wait a second, 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:36.920 HoTT on. 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:39.440 Only don't want to go to the beach. Literally. 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:43.360 They're saying that they want employers to offer flexible working 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:48.120 hours and travel arrangements, or give staff extra breaks or 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:52.000 relaxed stress codes to accommodate for warm weather. So if 0:16:52.040 --> 0:16:54.880 you want the girl used to come in to the office, 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:59.480 let the more spaghetti straps at the very be spaghetti straps. Yeah, 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:02.120 a lot crocky or something. We can't be doing three 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:05.119 piece suit when it's twenty five point five degrees be 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:11.840 serious the top hatch. But interestingly enough, the approach to 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:15.840 this discussion is not just people feel uncomfortable, therefore they 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:19.560 should be allowed exceptions to the rule. But they were 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:24.320 also talking about how like workplaces should be doing what 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:26.640 is required for people to be as safe and as 0:17:26.680 --> 0:17:29.359 comfortable as possible. They do have a duty of care, 0:17:29.920 --> 0:17:32.760 and because the UK isn't used to extreme heat, they 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:37.280 aren't like people don't know how to live and work 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.600 in the best way possible. That we should create a 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:43.320 system that prioritizes that. Like people are dying and like 0:17:43.359 --> 0:17:45.040 getting heat stroke and stuff because they don't know what 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:47.639 to do. They're not keeping hydrated anyway. I don't know 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:50.119 if they're going to be able to enforce the legal 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:53.000 maximum temperature. But you need to have done wild stuff 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:55.760 in the past. Who's to say this won't sparkle, you know, 0:17:56.119 --> 0:17:58.879 a global ripple effect. 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:02.400 Do you know that'sorry about the unions in Australia. Some 0:18:02.440 --> 0:18:04.800 singer came to Australia. I want to say Frankie Valley, 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:08.640 but oh, frank Sinatra I think in the seventies and 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:14.480 he had these like really fudged like opinions on women 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:16.919 and women in work. And he went did a show 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:20.439 and like spouted some of these views. And this was 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:24.480 deep in the feminism second wave era. So all these 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:28.119 people revolted about it, and men and women too were like, 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:31.760 this is crap. He's got to apologize. So then he 0:18:31.800 --> 0:18:33.520 said I'm not going to perform and he went to 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:37.040 get on his jet. The unions of the aircrafts in 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:40.560 Australia said no, we're grounding your flight. The people who 0:18:40.600 --> 0:18:43.360 gave the petrol say no, we're not giving you any petrol. 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:47.280 So he was stuck in Australia. But he wouldn't apologize 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:49.760 for what he said. So then Bob Hawk, who at 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:51.640 the time wasn't the Prime Minister, he was the head 0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:53.920 of the unions, came and had a meeting with him. 0:18:53.960 --> 0:18:57.480 Brought a bottle of liquor. They finished the liquor and 0:18:57.720 --> 0:19:00.240 they came to an agreement that he would yeat away 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:01.760 from Australia and never come back. 0:19:02.440 --> 0:19:05.880 Ooh facts, I like that story. Thank you for sharing them. 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:07.800 I put so unions yes or no? 0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:12.119 Yeah, babe, slap you're listening to flex and Frooms on Kita. 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:13.920 One thing I like to do is ask me questions. 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:18.359 Some would say I am very curious. Not everybody is 0:19:18.400 --> 0:19:22.320 curious in the same way. Some people like asking questions. 0:19:22.800 --> 0:19:25.560 Some people like seeking out answers. 0:19:26.320 --> 0:19:29.760 Yes, I for one and both, and you're mostly questions. 0:19:29.800 --> 0:19:31.560 Are you often going to give me an answer? Find 0:19:31.600 --> 0:19:32.639 it deeply frustrating? 0:19:32.720 --> 0:19:35.040 Yeah, because when you start seeking out too many answers, 0:19:35.080 --> 0:19:37.119 people start looking for truth. And I'm not interested in 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:40.960 one single truth. It's too limiting. I just like ideas, 0:19:41.040 --> 0:19:43.199 and one idea in particular. I wouldn't say it's been 0:19:43.200 --> 0:19:44.560 at the front of my mind, but somewhere in the 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:48.200 back is what were we doing before toilet paper? Only 0:19:48.240 --> 0:19:52.480 because as a person who lives alone and has a 0:19:52.480 --> 0:19:55.520 toilet paper subscription, I was like, we've gone too far. 0:19:55.760 --> 0:20:00.160 We've progressed and modernized to a point where I I'm 0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:03.719 actually a bit concerned with how much money and how 0:20:03.760 --> 0:20:05.919 much of a system I've created around this thing that 0:20:05.960 --> 0:20:08.600 should just be number one free and number two delivered 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:10.840 to my house, not at my expense. But listen to this. 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:14.040 I typed in the phrase what did we do before 0:20:14.080 --> 0:20:18.600 toilet paper, hoping that something good would come up? We 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:21.919 use leaves, sticks, moss, sand and water. 0:20:22.440 --> 0:20:22.760 Sand. 0:20:23.640 --> 0:20:26.840 Yeah, which doesn't sound bad to me because if you 0:20:26.880 --> 0:20:29.919 think about it, without getting too graphic, what happens when 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:32.480 you put a bit of liquid on sand. It starts 0:20:32.480 --> 0:20:35.439 to congeal is not the right word, but creates, you know, 0:20:35.760 --> 0:20:39.080 little micro clumps. Yeah, use the sand to dust off 0:20:39.080 --> 0:20:42.040 the excess and exfolia at the same time. I find 0:20:42.119 --> 0:20:44.800 that to be a better option than moss. It's frank 0:20:44.840 --> 0:20:48.600 body scrub, don't without the costs. Don't do it, don't 0:20:48.600 --> 0:20:51.760