WEBVTT - Dealing with triggers: jealousy & envy 😲🐍 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.320 So I had that initial sting and then like I 0:00:02.400 --> 0:00:04.880 reminded myself, this is amazing. 0:00:05.040 --> 0:00:06.960 This person is doing it. 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:11.200 If she can do it, I can do it too. So, guys, 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:14.920 when we have envy, I want you to use this 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:24.119 as an expander. 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:29.560 Welcome back to. 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:33.200 The Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:39.560 former lawyer turned entrepreneur, social media personality and personal development junkie. 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:42.400 This podcast is for my girl gang who want to 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:46.440 feed their mind with positive and expansive thoughts to help 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:50.280 them step into their power and live their most authentic life. 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:55.760 Which had a variety of topics including mindset, business, relationships, health, 0:00:55.840 --> 0:01:00.200 and so much more. Basically, wherever you are on your journey, 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:03.360 I want to help you feel inspired and empowered to 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.760 rise up and conquer your next bold move. I know 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:09.440 that's going to look different for everyone, but just no, 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:12.240 I'm right here by your side and that you have 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:14.120 the RNC community behind you. 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:15.560 Let's do this. 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:26.600 Hi, guys, and welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.280 I've got a solo episode. 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:31.640 For you, and it's kind of a bit random, but 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:35.479 I saw a quote on my girlfriend's Instagram. She owns 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:40.240 a crystal company called Core Crystal Co. And she posted 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:44.160 this quote title that said, your triggers are your teachers. 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:46.680 Whatever triggers you reveals. 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:47.600 What needs to be healed. 0:01:48.120 --> 0:01:52.600 And it's really funny because I've been talking, not talking. Sorry, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.880 I have been doing a lot of like internal work 0:01:56.000 --> 0:02:02.400 and journaling around triggers and also just I guess thinking 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:07.040 about triggers in general lately. So I saw that quote 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:09.200 and then I was like, I want to do a 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:11.840 podcast on it, because usually if I have that feeling, 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:15.520 you know someone needs it. And I think for me, 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:19.799 triggers has been such a journey of the biggest thing 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:23.880 we can do is be aware why something upsets us, 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:27.720 because that is the first step, and then from there 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:31.800 we can kind of dig deep and see why this 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:35.080 triggers us, why this upsets us, write a new story 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:37.400 and really go into it. So I did put a 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:40.720 little question thing on my story asking what you guys 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:45.200 wanted me to talk about. So many answers, and a 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:50.119 lot of them were very kind of deep rooted in trauma, 0:02:50.520 --> 0:02:54.880 and I just don't feel comfortable talking about those sorts 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:58.160 of things, Like first of all, I'm not a professional. 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:01.840 This is you know, a self help podcast. But you know, 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:05.040 I'm not a psychologist, I'm not a counselor. 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:05.120 Anything like that. 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.920 I talk about my experience and what I'm currently learning 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:10.440 and how I'm applying it to my life, but I 0:03:10.480 --> 0:03:15.520 really don't feel comfortable going into like deep trauma. And 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:21.440 then also, yeah, I just think, you know, trauma from 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:25.440 your childhood or a previous relationship that's really deep rooted. 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:29.040 I just think it's it's going to be so helpful 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:31.320 to get professional help for that. So I don't really 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:34.600 feel comfortable going into that. But the main thing that 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:39.000 people were kind of, you know, dming me about was 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:42.680 like jealousy and envy. And it's funny because I have 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:48.200 also been diving deep into those concepts lately, just because 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:52.160 I'm going to be adding on another module of my 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:55.840 Rise and Conker project, so the next round will be 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:58.200 the first people to have that module, and then of course, 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:01.840 if you have purchased the reject previously, you will be 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:05.360 able to get that module as well. But yeah, so 0:04:05.520 --> 0:04:07.800 I've been getting into that, so it was kind of funny, 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:12.600 and so I wanted to chat about jealousy and envy triggers. 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:14.800 But before I go into that, I guess I just 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:19.000 want to do a skim across what I believe about 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:22.240 triggers and kind of what I'm talking about. So I 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:26.600 am a big believer that like triggers are often like, 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:28.320 you know, a mirror. 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:30.560 I guess, yeah, So triggers. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:34.520 I feel like triggers are often something given to us 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:39.039 from the universe that is a mirror that is like, look, 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:41.880 you need to heal this, you need to get into this. 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:46.000 So if something is upsetting us, we need to like 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:47.240 dive deeper into that. 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:50.200 And it's usually nothing to do with the other person. 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:52.160 It's all to do with us. 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:56.480 So a big thing is like awareness and then getting deeper. 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:58.880 And I'll just give you a real quick kind of 0:04:58.920 --> 0:05:01.400 trigger scenario me personally. 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:01.080 So. 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:07.240 I remember years ago, you guys might know that my 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:12.840 husband is like a complete chiller. Like he here's the 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:15.320 opposite to me. I am not a chiller, and he, 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:20.200 you know, totally relax. So he's a total chiller. And 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:23.320 he even though he's very proactive and he's very tidy, 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:29.960 but he very much can step into this calm do 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:33.760 things just because he wants to do things not have 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:38.000 too many worries. And I'm the opposite where I'm a 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:40.360 high achiever, I feel like I always need to be 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:43.919 doing something otherwise I don't have worth. And so a 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:48.039 simple thing that triggered me years ago with Tim is 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:51.720 on a Saturday, if I was working and he was 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.359 literally just chilling doing nothing, like on the couch the 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.440 whole day. It used to trigger me because I would 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.839 I would be like, what are you doing? Like you 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:03.680 free time? You should be mowing or you know, doing this, 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:08.040 or you know, taking advantage of your time or working, 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.599 and he was like, no, I just want to do nothing. 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:14.520 And that was triggering to me because in myself, I 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:16.920 don't know how to do that. I don't know how 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:21.400 to sit there and just completely completely relax and receive 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:25.159 and whatnot. Like now I'm a lot better at because 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:28.600 I've realized it. But before and then, so I used 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:31.359 to take that as I was just agitated and annoyed 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:35.240 at him. Bit really he was mirroring a quality that 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:39.000 I wanted in my life and that I didn't know 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:41.720 how to get. So does that make sense? So usually 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:46.800 something triggers you, it's mirroring something usually that you need 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:51.479 to heal or something that you want. Okay, guys, so 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:55.480 that's just a little over overview. Let's talk about jealousy 0:06:55.760 --> 0:07:00.279 and envy. So, guys, we all have social media, Like 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:02.400 probably if you're listening to this episode, you probably have 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:06.320 social media, and you know, gone of the days where 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.000 we can just be jealous of our friends and our 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:13.000 neighbors or whatnot. Like now we literally have the touch 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:17.120 of our fingers everyone's lives and usually it's the highlight reel. 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:22.280 So it's very easy to feel envious and jealous. So 0:07:22.600 --> 0:07:25.240 first of all, I just want you guys to know 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:30.360 the difference between these two words, because there's a difference, 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:33.600 and I know, I don't know people can use them interchangeably. 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:38.720 But basically, so, jealousy occurs when somethink, and this is 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:44.880 a definition, jealousy occurs when somethink we already possess, usually 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:48.080 like you know, a special relationship or something like that, 0:07:48.720 --> 0:07:52.680 is threatened by a third person. So jealousy is, you know, 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:56.240 when you see a beautiful girl talking to your husband, 0:07:56.800 --> 0:08:00.520 or maybe your best friend is hanging out with another 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:04.080 you know girl a lot more than you. So jealousy 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:08.200 is actually to do when you already have something and 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:13.440 you're worried that it might be taken or like, or 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:17.240 the person might leave or the thing might leave, whereas 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:24.160 envy occurs when we lack a desired attribute or thing 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:29.000 enjoyed by another. So if we're talking about someone on 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:33.760 Instagram who let's say they're a travel blogger and they're 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:36.480 always like really not at the moment, but they're always 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:40.200 traveling to Bali and Dubai and they're going first class 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.720 and you're someone who loves to travel, that is envy, 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:46.720 not jealousy. So I just wanted to make sure we, yeah, 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:52.080 make a difference between that. Yeah, So, like jealousy is 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:57.040 usually like a three person situation, whereas envy is usually 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:00.200 just you and another person. So guys, just quickly with 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.079 jealousy because I don't want to touch on it too 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:07.040 much because again, like I'm not really qualified, you know, 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:11.120 in that relationship sort of section. And also I just 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.240 really want to talk about the other stuff because I'm 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:15.640 it's you know, I have more to talk about. 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.560 I guess. But so just quickly with jealousy. 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:20.600 If you're jealous of someone, let's just say it's your partners, 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:25.440 I don't know, coworker or something like that. A great 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:30.480 thing to start with is what inside you or what 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:35.320 in the relationship do you believe that that person. 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:38.880 Can leave or will leave you? And usually that's. 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:42.200 Like a worthiness issue that you need to look into. So, 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:44.960 for example, I have we kind of Me and Tim 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:49.320 had this running joke where like we got together when 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:52.240 I was seventeen, and so I went through my eighteen 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:54.200 stage with Tim, and most of the time he was 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:57.640 with me, like coming clubbing with me. Otherwise, you know, 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:00.760 I was out with the girls, and I think I 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:05.560 remember maybe one or two if that, but you know, 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:08.120 if I was talking to other guys or hanging with 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:13.320 other guys, literally Tim didn't care or he didn't show that, 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:17.120 and he never seemed jealous. And I remember making the 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:19.040 joke that it's like I don't even know, I don't 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:21.920 even know if Tim likes me, because he just does 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:22.920 not get jealous. 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:27.000 And so that is, like, I guess, a. 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:31.720 Deep rooted thing that he always felt very worthy of 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.840 me and our relationship and he didn't feel rocked by it. 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:40.040 Whereas if you ask someone who gets jealous, easy doesn't 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:43.320 necessarily mean the person you know is at fault, like 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:47.000 maybe they are, but it's like what in what inside 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:50.840 you believes that you are not worthy of this person 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:55.960 sticking around that you know, are not worthy, you know, 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.960 the person leaving or whatnot. So it's just like something 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:00.760 to think about. But again, and I don't really want 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:02.920 to go into that too much. It doesn't feel like 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:06.480 my sort of thing. But I really want to talk 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:11.199 about envy because I think this is something that absolutely 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:15.000 gets everybody. Like I said, we see someone on social 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:19.920 media that has a life that we want and we're envious, 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:23.520 or you know, maybe it's a friend. You know, like 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:25.680 maybe it's a friend that you're like, oh my god, 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:27.360 she's just always getting the thing I. 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:28.079 Want, or. 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:32.960 You know, achieving the goals I want to do or 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.560 something like that. And so I really want to chat 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:39.800 about that today. So first of all, I'm a big 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:47.640 believer that you won't get envious unless you want that thing. 0:11:48.440 --> 0:11:51.120 But also you can receive it. 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.439 So this is kind of like, you know, me, I'm 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:58.720 getting into manifesting, FYI. So this is kind of like 0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:01.960 the thing I always say, you guys know, I always 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:05.520 say your desires are put on your heart for a reason. 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:08.880 So you know that thing that you want was put 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:12.000 on your heart from for a reason, and you need 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:14.360 to go and follow that because that's going to lead 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:17.680 you to either the end result or the next thing. 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:21.240 And so I'm also a big believer in you know, 0:12:21.600 --> 0:12:29.160 our envy being there as almost like a mirror of 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:32.960 what we can have. 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Let's get back into the show. 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:40.600 And so try and think about this because you're maybe thinking, what, no, 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:43.800 like I can't have that thing, which again that's a 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:47.400 limiting belief. But for example, you know, Harro was talking 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:50.920 about that travel blogger, Like I follow heats of travel 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:56.760 bloggers on Instagram, and not once have I been envious 0:15:56.840 --> 0:16:00.480 of a travel blogger. And that is because in no way, 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:05.040 shape or form is it in my you know, journey 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.240 or life to do that does that make sense? Like, 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:10.480 don't get me wrong, I love their pictures, I love 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:13.560 seeing like you know, places they're going to, and I 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:18.040 like holidaying, but the idea of traveling for a living 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:22.480 literally makes me anxious. I'm such a homebody. I love 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:26.080 being at home. I love having my routines. I love 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:27.960 you know, that sort of side of things, like yeah, 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:30.920 I like to holiday at tropical places, but you know, 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:33.920 maybe three four times a year and that's about it. 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:39.880 So that travel blogger would never trigger me because their 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:43.960 life is no way or shape or form what I 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:48.479 want or my future. Does that make sense? Whereas for example, 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:54.360 literally I had something today where I saw someone who 0:16:54.760 --> 0:17:01.320 has a podcast and you know, sim following or like 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:04.600 even less ener following, not doing a similar thing, but 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:07.280 she brought out a book. 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:09.280 And that's I think. 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:11.560 I've been very open that, like I would love to 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:15.000 write a book in the future, not anytime soon, because 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:18.320 I just don't have the capacity and I almost don't 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:20.119 know what it would be on what I kind of do. 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:25.480 But long story short is I had this initial sting. 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.560 I guess of she wrote a book and she has 0:17:29.600 --> 0:17:33.960 a book, and that is only because I would love 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:36.840 to write a book. I would love to have my 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:39.399 own book. I would love to, you know, do that 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:42.639 side of things. And don't get me wrong, I know 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:45.760 I will or you know, do something similar in some 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:48.520 shape or form at a later date. So I had 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:52.040 that initial sting and then like I reminded myself, this 0:17:52.119 --> 0:17:56.040 is amazing. This person is doing it. If she can 0:17:56.119 --> 0:17:59.320 do it, I can do it too. And so, guys, 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:02.280 this is the light bulb moment of the episode. I 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:03.800 love that I told you that this is the light 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:08.200 bulb moment. So guys, when we have envy, I want 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:13.240 you to use this as an expander. So what is 0:18:13.280 --> 0:18:15.919 an expander? And this is kind of, you know, the 0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:19.159 module that I will be including the next round, hopefully, 0:18:19.600 --> 0:18:24.280 because I think it's so important important in manifesting. So 0:18:24.440 --> 0:18:29.440 manifesting is you really need to believe in your worth 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:31.879 to attract that thing to get that thing. If you 0:18:31.920 --> 0:18:34.120 don't believe that you can have it, or you don't 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:37.040 believe you deserve it, you will not attract that thing. 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:38.640 It's just law of attraction. 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:44.840 So what I love about envy is not only does 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:49.160 it mirror to us what we want, but we can 0:18:49.280 --> 0:18:53.040 then use that thing as proof proof, you know, to 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:57.200 the universe, to ourselves that if that person can do it, 0:18:57.720 --> 0:19:00.760 I can do it too. And I said, I've been 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:04.760 really diving deep into these concepts, and I've realized in 0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:09.800 my life that I have used certain people, certain things, 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:16.240 even like TV shows as expanders to I guess, manifest 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:18.720 certain things or get where I want to go. So 0:19:18.840 --> 0:19:22.000 this is like a really basic example, and you're going 0:19:22.280 --> 0:19:26.640 you're literally going to find this hilarious. So I've definitely 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:29.679 said this on podcasts when people ask me, you know, 0:19:29.840 --> 0:19:31.479 why did I want to do law? 0:19:32.720 --> 0:19:33.760 There was two things. 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:38.359 So my oldest brother's girlfriend was doing law, and she 0:19:38.600 --> 0:19:42.359 was this like very cool girl. So she was in 0:19:42.359 --> 0:19:44.800 grade twelve and she wanted to do law, and she 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:47.119 was like studying for it at this point, and she 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:49.159 was a very kind of like cool girl. Like I 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:54.040 really looked up to my older brother and I was like, oh, 0:19:54.160 --> 0:19:56.760 she's doing law, Like she's smart enough to do law. 0:19:56.880 --> 0:20:02.159 And she kind of came from a very like I 0:20:02.200 --> 0:20:05.080 don't want to say poor background, but yeah, like her 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:09.160 parents didn't have any money. She came from a very yeah, 0:20:09.160 --> 0:20:12.280 I would just say, like poor sort of household. And 0:20:12.359 --> 0:20:14.400 I guess I had in my head that you kind 0:20:14.400 --> 0:20:16.959 of had to be wealthy to go to university, and 0:20:17.000 --> 0:20:19.640 so I saw that, you know, through everything, she got 0:20:19.640 --> 0:20:22.280 a good enough op she went to university and she 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:25.160 did law. And that was kind of the first time 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:29.400 that I had ever opened to myself up to expand 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:32.320 enough to be like, oh, well, if she can do it, 0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:35.439 I can do it too. So there's my first expander 0:20:35.600 --> 0:20:39.560 in following my dreams. The second one was and again 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:43.280 you guys are going to laugh, but and I've said 0:20:43.280 --> 0:20:48.000 this on a podcast, but I watched Legally Blonde. So 0:20:48.200 --> 0:20:51.280 in Legally Blonde, the story is, you know, she's this 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:56.520 dumb blonde. She's super fun and good looking and just 0:20:56.560 --> 0:21:00.560 has a good time all the time. Wow, And her 0:21:00.600 --> 0:21:04.160 boyfriend goes to law school and yeah, anyway, she ends 0:21:04.240 --> 0:21:07.120 up following him, goes to law school, is really good 0:21:07.160 --> 0:21:11.159 at it, studies really hard and you know, can do 0:21:11.240 --> 0:21:14.600 law and becomes a lawyer. And again, that was an 0:21:14.640 --> 0:21:17.440 expander for me. It was a story where a girl 0:21:17.520 --> 0:21:21.960 comes from a background that isn't necessarily like the typical 0:21:22.560 --> 0:21:24.560 background of that degree. 0:21:24.960 --> 0:21:26.480 Bit does it, puts. 0:21:26.160 --> 0:21:29.280 In the work and yeah, gets to that point. So 0:21:29.440 --> 0:21:32.120 that was an expander for me. And so that's why 0:21:32.240 --> 0:21:37.120 guys like it. If you see something on Instagram, if 0:21:37.160 --> 0:21:39.800 there's a girl that triggers you, or you know a 0:21:39.800 --> 0:21:43.960 friend that triggers you, instead of sitting there and being 0:21:44.320 --> 0:21:48.840 negative about that situation, I really want you to think 0:21:48.960 --> 0:21:52.960 and be like, what does she have that I want? 0:21:53.440 --> 0:21:57.000 And maybe it's not the whole scenario, Maybe it's a 0:21:57.040 --> 0:22:00.959 tiny little bit or you know, a trait or something 0:22:01.160 --> 0:22:06.760 like that, and then look at the whole thing of 0:22:07.119 --> 0:22:11.159 instilling the belief that if she can have it, I 0:22:11.280 --> 0:22:14.879 can have it too. So again, guys, and this is 0:22:14.920 --> 0:22:18.560 also another thing, like if you are trying to manifest 0:22:18.560 --> 0:22:21.720 something and it seems a bit out of reach or 0:22:21.760 --> 0:22:23.639 it seems a bit like you're trying to get on 0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:26.680 board with it, but you're like, fuck, like you know. 0:22:27.040 --> 0:22:30.320 It's it's huge, it's a big it's a big dream 0:22:30.400 --> 0:22:31.240 you're going after. 0:22:31.920 --> 0:22:37.160 I really encourage you to surround yourself with people who 0:22:37.200 --> 0:22:40.520 have accomplished that, so you know that might not be 0:22:40.840 --> 0:22:45.000 you know, friends or family, but are there people online? 0:22:45.160 --> 0:22:49.600 Are there people on Instagram? And so like, for example, 0:22:49.760 --> 0:22:53.480 let's just say you're really young, and let's just say 0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:56.160 you're literally like seventeen and you want to start a company. 0:22:56.560 --> 0:22:59.400 And you're like, oh, I'm so young, I've got no experience. 0:22:59.400 --> 0:23:02.200 I should go do a degree. Like I would be 0:23:02.320 --> 0:23:06.919 googling people and going who has this successful company at seventeen? 0:23:07.480 --> 0:23:10.800 Looking into their life, reading into it. So your brain 0:23:11.400 --> 0:23:14.480 can be like, you know, this person did it, I 0:23:14.520 --> 0:23:16.679 can do it too. And don't get me wrong, like, 0:23:17.640 --> 0:23:20.840 of course, I think there's scenarios where you have to 0:23:20.880 --> 0:23:24.760 go through a journey and you have to like, for example, 0:23:24.800 --> 0:23:27.639 that scenario like maybe it is very helpful going to 0:23:27.800 --> 0:23:30.760 UNI or doing you know, a business course or something 0:23:30.880 --> 0:23:34.360 like that. But I think if we can really change 0:23:34.520 --> 0:23:39.320 our beliefs and go, hey, that person can do it, 0:23:39.520 --> 0:23:43.399 I can do it too. So again it's like, look 0:23:43.600 --> 0:23:47.679 at who you're envious of, and instead of seeing this 0:23:47.800 --> 0:23:51.560 trigger as negative, I really want you to use it 0:23:51.840 --> 0:23:55.280 as an expander and see it as a like a 0:23:55.400 --> 0:23:59.320 possibility in your life. And it's okay if you can't 0:23:59.600 --> 0:24:03.520 fully get on board. So you know, a great example 0:24:03.880 --> 0:24:08.600 is let's just say you follow someone and it triggers 0:24:08.640 --> 0:24:13.280 you because she, you know, comes from money, and so 0:24:13.400 --> 0:24:17.000 it's it's like, you know, it's not the scenario of 0:24:17.760 --> 0:24:21.080 she she did it, I can do it too, because 0:24:21.160 --> 0:24:24.840 you don't come from money. But I think what you 0:24:24.880 --> 0:24:28.680 would then do is you would look for people who 0:24:28.720 --> 0:24:32.560 are successful who didn't come from money. Does that make sense? 0:24:33.000 --> 0:24:37.159 And that's like like when I talk about money, like 0:24:37.200 --> 0:24:40.800 you guys know, I'm very open about money, like I've 0:24:41.320 --> 0:24:44.119 openly said, you know how much Naked Harvest makes and 0:24:44.560 --> 0:24:46.400