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Speaker 3: Okay, enough funny business.
Speaker 2: Can I ask a question. What's the worst gift you
Speaker 2: ever got from a boyfriend?
Speaker 3: Lipstick?
Speaker 2: Oh? That's the worst.
Speaker 4: It was.
Speaker 3: It was my birthday and he bought me this lipstick.
Speaker 3: What was the brand? It's from Mecca, really good lipstick.
Speaker 3: Pretty sure, I still got it. It's Shanta Cala, Shanta Kai,
Speaker 3: Shanta Kai. All he bought was a lipstick.
Speaker 2: Oh that's the worst gift.
Speaker 3: Yes, at least chop out like one hundred.
Speaker 2: And fifty how many years it been?
Speaker 3: Yeah a hear Yeah, okay, so you know what hit
Speaker 3: me because three months earlier at Christmas, I'm getting a
Speaker 3: veritable buffet of gifts, like four gifts.
Speaker 2: Oh so he kind of like he blew his load
Speaker 2: with that when he was like, oh, we got it.
Speaker 3: However, I will say we'd go to Bali two months
Speaker 3: before and he did pay for that. But like, why
Speaker 3: turn the tap off on the third gift giving?
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is what I'm saying. You have to start
Speaker 2: as you intend to finish, So you can't, like I said,
Speaker 2: give it your best shot and then start, you know.
Speaker 2: But this is also The tricky thing about gift giving
Speaker 2: because are you in the camp of people who are
Speaker 2: like it needs to be like almost like a surprise,
Speaker 2: or do you want to say, oh, I.
Speaker 3: Don't want to fugle you surprise, I shill always crack
Speaker 3: it at Christmas? Or my mum would like branch out
Speaker 3: and get me one surprise would make me so mad
Speaker 3: that I wanted to punch a wall. Why because I
Speaker 3: love my mum. But if it wasn't right, you know,
Speaker 3: I want to like.
Speaker 2: It's not right, it's not right, and now I gotta
Speaker 2: be a preacher. Do you feel that. I feel that
Speaker 2: because I see every now and then I do this
Speaker 2: thing where I'm like, I can be different, you know,
Speaker 2: Like at the start of October, I was like, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna be a passive princess. I'm not gonna I'm just
Speaker 2: gonna like let things happen. No, try that for a
Speaker 2: seven days. It was torturous. I remember with one of
Speaker 2: my boyfriends. I was like, you know, I'm gonna try
Speaker 2: like letting you decide what you want to get me,
Speaker 2: you know, like I trust you. Yeah, I don't know
Speaker 2: what I was thinking because I knew what I wanted,
Speaker 2: but I was like, Max, I wanna say, you can
Speaker 2: get it. I just moved house. Naturally annually I do it,
Speaker 2: and he I want to get you a practical gift.
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, cool, okay, so what's that? This
Speaker 2: guy got me a microwave number one. I don't even
Speaker 2: eat left a microwave. He got me like this chrome
Speaker 2: cast thing. I don't want to watch anything on a TV.
Speaker 2: Dude like all this, Like, he got me like a blender.
Speaker 2: I'm like, shut up, honestly, I'm drowning under the confusion.
Speaker 2: And he was so stoked. He's like She's like, He's
Speaker 2: like and he was going He's like, no, you're gonna
Speaker 2: this is why because like the blenders, Like I know
Speaker 2: you like Smoothie by Boost. I make Boost.
Speaker 3: There's a big different son.
Speaker 2: And then from there, I'm like cracking the whip. At
Speaker 2: all times. I'm like, do not ever deviate you want
Speaker 2: to you want to get me a gift, here's a list.
Speaker 3: Let's bring back brattism. Be spoilt little brat. Did you
Speaker 3: ever do that beauty test? You should do it. You
Speaker 3: did choke me before. Literally, anyway, we're giving up. We're
Speaker 3: giving away too much Flecks, just this wave of an idiot.
Speaker 3: I had a big ass breeder for a madmex about one.
Speaker 3: Let's stop in there, Let's get as I said, I
Speaker 3: want to say this one TikTok. Imagine the food that
Speaker 3: you've eaten then being inside of your stomach fucked up. Oh,
Speaker 3: abolish it anyway, whatever, let's.
Speaker 1: Go Fleck and Frooms.
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, I have some bad news for you. Starting off
Speaker 2: on a somber note, Frooms did leave her mug in
Speaker 2: the work bathroom. It is unfortunately a breach of our
Speaker 2: comfort and our trust. Why are the sanitary hygienic work
Speaker 2: mugs in the unsanitary work bathroom? Through Mini please advice.
Speaker 3: Look, I did have a keep cup today, so I
Speaker 3: went and took a mug from the kitchen and out
Speaker 3: got a coffee at the coffee shop. Finish it, obviously,
Speaker 3: finished the coffee, run straight to the bathroom. Ye use
Speaker 3: the coffee cup in the bathroom, every intention to take
Speaker 3: it out and put in the kitchen.
Speaker 2: Oh so you've done your bit for the environment, but
Speaker 2: not for your fellow men. I understand.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the felat man not got to be around, so
Speaker 3: I might as well piss you off. Now, flixie, I
Speaker 3: want to tell you about what happens when you die,
Speaker 3: which seems like clu.
Speaker 2: I can tell you what happens.
Speaker 3: Okay, let me tell you what it's about to go down.
Speaker 3: This is a TikTok.
Speaker 4: This new study made be excited to die. Researchers were
Speaker 4: able to study what happens when you die by going
Speaker 4: to five hundred and sixty seven patients who were having
Speaker 4: cardiac arrests and while they were being resuscitated, studying.
Speaker 2: Their brain, not asking them questions.
Speaker 4: They could see that people trying to resuscitate them they
Speaker 4: were aware that they were dying, but they also felt
Speaker 4: this pull towards a place that felt like home in
Speaker 4: their brains. They found that the neurons no longer had
Speaker 4: the same inhibition they did when someone was not quote
Speaker 4: unquote dying, So their brain started firing in all these
Speaker 4: really intense ways. They didn't really have their lives flash
Speaker 4: before their eyes, but they had this really strong sense
Speaker 4: of moral judgment of their life, going through every aspect
Speaker 4: of their life and almost seeing if what they had
Speaker 4: done had followed proper ethics and moral values. This is
Speaker 4: a fascinating study that makes you realize you need to
Speaker 4: be a good person because right before you die, you're
Speaker 4: going to be assessing whether or not you were a
Speaker 4: good person. But also that the experience of dying is
Speaker 4: going to be very out of body and you know,
Speaker 4: honestly croaking my pickle.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I disagree with that one. So like, let's say
Speaker 2: you are about to die, and then you start measuring
Speaker 2: your life against a moral and ethical code. Hello, keyword,
Speaker 2: you're about to die. Live it up, live it up,
Speaker 2: live it out. That's not the time to be judging yourself.
Speaker 2: Get off it. This is it narcissistic?
Speaker 3: No, we need some self positive informations as you day. Yeah. Also,
Speaker 3: we always talk about this, what is what are morals?
Speaker 2: What are morals? Does this name?
Speaker 3: We shouldn't have morals full stop?
Speaker 2: I think we need a couple just to get by.
Speaker 2: But I also feel like the emphasis should be living fully.
Speaker 2: So even if there's some look back on, you can
Speaker 2: say with certainty, you know it's a bit red hot
Speaker 2: in a few of those years, but I lived, true,
Speaker 2: lived well.
Speaker 3: It makes me think it's like, if you're gonna die anyway,
Speaker 3: who cares if you go through the roller deecks. It's
Speaker 3: kind of like when people go, oh, I'm wearing good
Speaker 3: undies in case you get hit by a bus and die.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you die, base, that's it, Flex and frooms.
Speaker 3: I've just had a sip from my coke no sugar.
Speaker 3: I'm more of a diet coke girl. The coke no
Speaker 3: sugar tastes like a regular coke but with no sugar,
Speaker 3: whereas the diet coke has a softer, lighter flavor profile.
Speaker 2: I'm all about a regular coke. The last thing I
Speaker 2: want is any kind of diet sugar free whatever. Whatever
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it, Let's crank it. Give me the
Speaker 2: stixy tablespoons of sugar. Who gets raised my veins?
Speaker 3: Flex, I've got a This is kind of like an
Speaker 3: am I the asshole, but it's more like a relationship
Speaker 3: advice issue. It is from a woman who writes, is
Speaker 3: it a bad idea to get my boyfriend a dog?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Hard the dome?
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's have a look.
Speaker 2: Absolutely.
Speaker 3: Hi, I twenty three year old female, have been with
Speaker 3: my boyfriend twenty four year old male for four years.
Speaker 3: Who this year, he's mentioned multiple times that he wishes
Speaker 3: he had a puppy, specifically a chiuaba. He's one of
Speaker 3: yours mucking and that he would love to have something
Speaker 3: to hang out with and take care of.
Speaker 2: I feel that something is not specific enough for me.
Speaker 3: However, I know that he won't actually take the steps
Speaker 3: to get one, because he tends to need to be
Speaker 3: pushed a little in order to make big decisions or
Speaker 3: changes himself. My baby prints. So I found out that
Speaker 3: a couple in my neighborhood have some newborn chihuahuas that
Speaker 3: they're going to be selling at the end of November.
Speaker 3: I decided that I'm going to surprise my boyfriend with
Speaker 3: a chihuahua as a Christmas present. I went over there
Speaker 3: and told a couple I was interested. I even picked
Speaker 3: out which dog I'd be buying. I mentioned this to
Speaker 3: my friend and she insists that surprising someone with an
Speaker 3: animal is a really bad idea. I thought it would
Speaker 3: be nice and thoughtful, and now she has me second
Speaker 3: guessing that what does everyone else think? Too long, don't
Speaker 3: read I want to surprise my boyfriend with a puppy
Speaker 3: is a Christmas present? Trying to determine whether or not
Speaker 3: this is a recipe for disaster.
Speaker 2: There's a distinction between a push and making the decision
Speaker 2: for him. You know what I'm saying. You know, one
Speaker 2: is one is saying, hey, there are some chuahas for sale,
Speaker 2: what do you reckon? And if he said, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: I really want to get one, they said, okay, cool,
Speaker 2: I'll book an appointment. That's a push. But getting a
Speaker 2: non consensual pet for someone is so hectic. I have
Speaker 2: just come to terms very recently that I really don't
Speaker 2: like people who buy pets as successories, because I know
Speaker 2: I would be that person and it's not a good thing.
Speaker 2: Like my decision making for wanting to get a pet,
Speaker 2: I don't have one, by the way, is well, which
Speaker 2: breed do I want to get? And I want to
Speaker 2: get a cute one and one that has this kind
Speaker 2: of coloring, you know, for coloring, And before you know it,
Speaker 2: you're not thinking I gotta be with this thing for
Speaker 2: fifteen years.
Speaker 3: Now buying a house one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: I did that on a whim. Two But but I
Speaker 2: wasn't hurting anyone in that process, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: Like I was atually building something stable for my own future.
Speaker 2: This random dog that I'm going to pick because it
Speaker 2: looks cute, and then decide that I have the capacity
Speaker 2: to look after it. I don't like that at all.
Speaker 2: In this instance as well, I was talking to someone
Speaker 2: the other day or maybe like a month ago, now
Speaker 2: who his The reason why him and his girlfriend broke
Speaker 2: up is because she bought an impulsive pet called him
Speaker 2: up one day they lived together and said, hey, like,
Speaker 2: I just was at the shops. I saw this really
Speaker 2: cute pet. I'm like, I got it, like it's dunt dog.
Speaker 2: I should have clarified that sounds odd. I saw a
Speaker 2: really cute pet, saw a really cute dog. And he
Speaker 2: was like, okay, like I made shops. Yeah, even that's
Speaker 2: where I draw the one. He's like, yeah, maybe not.
Speaker 2: She's like I already got it, like it's already confirmed,
Speaker 2: Like I'm picking it up. I'm taking it home now,
Speaker 2: but I need to go out letter, so can you
Speaker 2: look after it? They come home, they have this huge
Speaker 2: fight because she cannot understand where he's coming from. You
Speaker 2: just gon't buy pets randomly. Naturally. She does not look
Speaker 2: after it. She does not train it, feed it, walk it,
Speaker 2: none of it. They break up. Obviously he's still has
Speaker 2: the pet.
Speaker 3: I mean maybe he's growing to love the pet.
Speaker 2: Oh, they like obsessed, like it's great it's a happy ending,
Speaker 2: but it could have been an unhappy ending.
Speaker 3: Well, I've been in this position perform. When me and
Speaker 3: my sister were kids, her friend bought her a cat
Speaker 3: whoa like a kitten. Of course, it's very presumptuous. You
Speaker 3: sister loved it. Of course, my friends are kind of like,
Speaker 3: this is crazy.
Speaker 2: It's the whole responsibility you sign me up for.
Speaker 3: So the friend bought my sister the cat. And then
Speaker 3: the friend's younger sister came over to hang out at
Speaker 3: our house, and I had a canary called tweety What
Speaker 3: does a little girl do? The little girl crabs tweety
Speaker 3: no out of my cage and puts it in front
Speaker 3: of the cag and the cat.
Speaker 2: You were in the room with a whole sociopath.
Speaker 3: The cat bit my canary's head off. So then obviously
Speaker 3: I had to get another canary.
Speaker 2: What was it called tweety tweety too? Yeah, of course
Speaker 2: tweety too.
Speaker 3: Naturally, imine that playing with a little sick honestly, but
Speaker 3: I don't really care for pets, so I wasn't that sad. No,
Speaker 3: I'm kidding, Rope, She's not kidding.
Speaker 2: I'm not kidding. She's one that is terrifying. I hate
Speaker 2: that story. Don't get your boyfriend the chihuahua as sweet
Speaker 2: as you think. It might be the one thing I
Speaker 2: know about people who are in relationships, they break up.
Speaker 3: Yeah they do? Do they do?
Speaker 2: And you know the worst thing about a breakup is
Speaker 2: you're stuck with those memories and that trauma, and he's
Speaker 2: gonna be stuck with the physical embodiment of your failed relationship.
Speaker 2: Not that you're breaking up, no god, no, no, no
Speaker 2: no no, but you could.
Speaker 3: Leave that little body thing in the cage. Please, thanks truly,
Speaker 3: This is flex and frooms for me.
Speaker 2: Has only had, you know, two career paths in her life.
Speaker 2: One was selling window tint and the second being a
Speaker 2: media personality. I have had a bajillion, bajillion jobs career paths.
Speaker 2: The whole thing started at McDonald's, as you do. How
Speaker 2: many years, I don't know. I did three months. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't think I did very long.
Speaker 3: You were definitely the one with the headset on bar.
Speaker 2: No no, no, no no. I was in the drive through, and
Speaker 2: then I was front cashier, and then it was just
Speaker 2: a lot like it was very high stress, and I
Speaker 2: just went there to hunt with my friends because we
Speaker 2: all got jobs. There wasn't I wasn't serious. Worked at Diva,
Speaker 2: the jewelry store. Rip, you are such a dance, such
Speaker 2: a d guy. Worked at Some Last Heart did a
Speaker 2: bunch of things right, But there was a point in time.
Speaker 2: I worked at Bets Shoes and Zoo Shoes, right, and
Speaker 2: Zoo Shoes was a footwear store for men and women.
Speaker 3: Very cool, very cool.
Speaker 2: I worked at the Bondai one. So if you know,
Speaker 2: you know, and so generally when we do I my
Speaker 2: best friend there Sully shout out, that's what we meant.
Speaker 2: The store was split in two men's shoes on one side, women'
Speaker 2: shoes on the other. And then often what would happen
Speaker 2: when two people were working, you'd separate and you kind
Speaker 2: of tackle one or the other generally, right, and then
Speaker 2: you kind of developed your habit of knowing who to
Speaker 2: sell to. And I just always selling to men. I
Speaker 2: felt like it was an easy sale. It is what
Speaker 2: it is, internalized misogyny much, No, not at all. It's
Speaker 2: just like in that was like a play joke. Babes,
Speaker 2: you're a comedian. They got a lamb better?
Speaker 1: Why am I?
Speaker 2: Why are.
Speaker 3: Something is gone?
Speaker 2: All right? So The reason why I'm bringing this up
Speaker 2: is because the other day I was on my Love
Speaker 2: Island show. I've got a text with Josh and flex. Josh,
Speaker 2: my co host, complimented my shoes, my Balantiaca crocs the
Speaker 2: greatest right now, other ones. But I was wearing my
Speaker 2: slip on crocs and then I said, He's like, well,
Speaker 2: what size are you? And then I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: I'm a men's eight and a half nine. And I
Speaker 2: was like, what size are you? Am you going to
Speaker 2: say you're an eleven? And he was like, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: I am like I'm like an eleven. I'm like, yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: because all men are size elevens. He's like, what are
Speaker 2: you talking about. I'm like, in my experience, the majority
Speaker 2: of men who walked into this shoe store, you'd say, hey,
Speaker 2: what size are you? They'd be like, I don't know
Speaker 2: either one, I don't know. I gotta ask my girlfriend,
Speaker 2: I got to ask my mom. Those were the answers.
Speaker 2: And if it wasn't those three, the fourth are size
Speaker 2: eleven twelve. Okay, so you've got liars, liars, liars liars,
Speaker 2: So naturally I'm talking to Josh and I say, okay, cool,
Speaker 2: let me try on your shoes. I'll bet I'll fit them. Betty,
Speaker 2: you try my shoes? What does he do? He swoops,
Speaker 2: he's went to the Plantager Croc Perfect fit, perfect fit.
Speaker 2: He said he was a size eleven. So he's like,
Speaker 2: whoa he' said these seem a little big. They seem
Speaker 2: a little big. Maybe your feet are big at no faith, No, no, no,
Speaker 2: I'm a size eight and a half. Nine men, you're
Speaker 2: also a size eight and a half, he said, he's
Speaker 2: here eleven. I don't want to hear it. So back
Speaker 2: in the shoe store, though, every time, pull out of
Speaker 2: size eleven and we get a ten down just in case.
Speaker 2: Not climbate that latter twice for this guy who's a lie.
Speaker 2: So you give me eleven. Oh, these seem like they
Speaker 2: made kind of big. Did you want to size down?
Speaker 2: I'm usually an eleven. Oh okay, these ones seem to
Speaker 2: be made big. Maybe try it. Maybe try the ten.
Speaker 2: Do you have a half size ten and a half?
Speaker 2: No we don't. You just get to get the ten,
Speaker 2: bring out the ten, put it on. Yeah, these seem huge.
Speaker 2: These seem really really big. I mean, do you want
Speaker 2: to try the size down? It just seems like a
Speaker 2: weird making model. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Majority of the time
Speaker 2: these men were size eighth and size nines, and there's
Speaker 2: no shame in it. You're just not all built like
Speaker 2: a size eleven. It's like, how there are no guys
Speaker 2: who are five to eleven. It's a fake hut.
Speaker 3: It is a fake hut. What is with all this dysmorphia? Guys?
Speaker 2: Do you know what? I can't even throw shade because
Speaker 2: I've been going through my own battle with dysmalphia shout out.
Speaker 2: So in my head, I'm a tall person, I swear
Speaker 2: to you. In my head, I'm five ten, maybe even
Speaker 2: five eleven, And it only dawned to me in the
Speaker 2: last six months or so because I'm always wearing a
Speaker 2: high ponytail and a platform.
Speaker 3: Yes always.
Speaker 2: The platform is giving three inches maybe four. The pony
Speaker 2: is giving an extra one or two. I'm walking around
Speaker 2: five ten, five eleven looking at fellow five ten to
Speaker 2: being like, where this is us? We're in it together.
Speaker 3: It's not your community, bit, it's not.
Speaker 2: Because I stand next to someone who I perceived to
Speaker 2: be short and they're.
Speaker 3: Towering over meus me.
Speaker 2: It's cooked. So I'm working through it. You'll notice today
Speaker 2: I'm not doing the high pony because I'm practicing what
Speaker 2: it's like to show up as myself. Obviously wearing the
Speaker 2: three inches because don't be ridiculous, they're.
Speaker 3: Bigger than three inches. You've got these massive black blints.
Speaker 2: No, I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 3: That's at least five inches.
Speaker 2: Anyway, So to me and the men lying about our
Speaker 2: heights and shoe size, this is what it is. No shade,
Speaker 2: just in confessions.
Speaker 3: Get closer to your real self.
Speaker 1: This is flex and frooms on Kita.
Speaker 2: The other day, I bumped my knuckle on the corner
Speaker 2: of my bathroom mirror cabinet. It sort of nicked a
Speaker 2: bit of skin, It didn't bleed. Didn't think much of it.
Speaker 2: Why is it raised? Why is there a bump, and
Speaker 2: why does it still hurt?
Speaker 3: Let me tell you why. That was actually a figment
Speaker 3: of your imagination that occurrence. But what really happened was
Speaker 3: while you're asleep, Edwin Colin came in and had a
Speaker 3: little nibbling on your finger. Just get a little taste.
Speaker 3: See if you're rolling with that, Oh blood type.
Speaker 2: I think I am, oh blood time really yeah, I
Speaker 2: just knew.
Speaker 3: Ready, listen to this. That's Edward Clin cracking open a
Speaker 3: can of your blood. Girl.
Speaker 2: That's really romantic. Thank you so much for sharing number two.
Speaker 2: Four years, I've been plagued with moving into apartments with
Speaker 2: bad tasting tap water. Every time I expressed this concern,
Speaker 2: people gas like me. They don't say, let me come
Speaker 2: over and try the tap water. They say, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: you must be picky, or only people who don't drink
Speaker 2: water enough don't know what water should taste, like Laddy
Speaker 2: daddy dada out. No I've tasted at all. What I've
Speaker 2: done is every time someone comes over, I make them
Speaker 2: taste the tapwater. And what do they say? Oh, my goodness,
Speaker 2: so true, your pipes might be too fresh. Then I
Speaker 2: start doing some googlings, and I was like, yeah, there
Speaker 2: is like a bit of that taste. It's like you
Speaker 2: know when you get a new aluminium lined bottle, it
Speaker 2: has that taste. You know, it's probably what's happening in
Speaker 2: your apartment. And the good tasting water is from you know,
Speaker 2: I don't want to say it, but decrepit taps, really,
Speaker 2: I think. So that's the only correlation. You move somewhere fresh,
Speaker 2: you get the fresh pipes. You're getting all the chemicals
Speaker 2: and the things that we used to like make the pipe,
Speaker 2: and the residue of the aluminium and the metal. It's
Speaker 2: actually terrifying because now bottle water Warrior, it's not sexy.
Speaker 3: What I do want to say is I just thought
Speaker 3: of it. When you have a Tapo home that you're
Speaker 3: drinking from and you turn the tap on, is the
Speaker 3: water is just chilling there in the pipe until you
Speaker 3: turn it on.
Speaker 2: No, it's not getting pushed up. I mean, I know
Speaker 2: I've seen my water pipes in the garage, so that
Speaker 2: they're coming through a bunch of different tubes. But by
Speaker 2: the time they get to mine, they're going through old
Speaker 2: tubes into my newtubes, picking up the newtube residue. And
Speaker 2: I think, I know you want to ask, like, what
Speaker 2: does it taste like. I can tell you exactly what
Speaker 2: it tastes like. First, thing's gritty. It tastes gritty, and
Speaker 2: like there's a sensation that feels as though there's sediment
Speaker 2: or dust or dirt that's sitting at the bottom of something.
Speaker 2: And by the time it gets up, it's picking up
Speaker 2: a bit with it picking up a bit, with it,
Speaker 2: picking up a bit with It also tastes as if
Speaker 2: I was in my bear grills era. I'm like doing
Speaker 2: some off you know, off path, rough terrain hiking. I've
Speaker 2: stopped by a local lake to get a bit of
Speaker 2: water because I've run out of my own. I've scooped
Speaker 2: a bit of that water where the pebbles are, not
Speaker 2: in the pit, but where the pebbles are you get
Speaker 2: a little bit of something. That's what it tastes like.
Speaker 3: Why are always people having the water from the pebble
Speaker 3: bit rather than the stream.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure. Because the pebble bit is where it's
Speaker 2: just been sitting stagnant. I feel like you'd want it
Speaker 2: from the stream.
Speaker 3: Also, it's where the rain comes down. Well, I will say,
Speaker 3: I'm having the opposite problem. My building's probably built in
Speaker 3: the nineteen forties. The water is cloudy, cloudy, apple, bro.
Speaker 3: It's not looking good.
Speaker 2: It's not looking good, bro.
Speaker 3: So what I suggest you do is it a soda stream.
Speaker 3: It's good for the impire.
Speaker 2: I have one, but then I need to use the
Speaker 2: tap water to use a soda stream. So someone said
Speaker 2: ihould use a brit of But it wasn't American who
Speaker 2: told me that, And I just felt like, no comment,
Speaker 2: no comment.
Speaker 1: You're listening to Flex and Frooms on Kada.
Speaker 2: For a moment they're getting DMS was not fun. But
Speaker 2: you guys have been really really poping off recently. Got
Speaker 2: one the other day, it says, and I quote, Hey, Flex,
Speaker 2: you said once that if people don't DM you after
Speaker 2: following you, you think they're a bot. I don't remember
Speaker 2: saying that, but I stand by it. So after several months,
Speaker 2: I want to prove that I'm not. Recently, in your podcast,
Speaker 2: I heard you teasing Rooms for not knowing how to close,
Speaker 2: and I can't bullying.
Speaker 3: You can say what it was harassment in the workplace.
Speaker 2: In the workplace, HR is not present, this person says,
Speaker 2: and I can't either either. I never know which one
Speaker 2: it is either. So if it's not too forward to
Speaker 2: suggest it would be fun to hear you guys chat
Speaker 2: about it someday and maybe you could share some tips
Speaker 2: of the train. Also, no, that's a private message, love
Speaker 2: for me your fellow aries.
Speaker 3: So our woman in the DMS wants to know how
Speaker 3: do I close in a relationship in a sexual way
Speaker 3: with a prospective partner.
Speaker 2: I think we can broaden it out. Closing is just
Speaker 2: getting to your desired outcome. Okay, right, So that could
Speaker 2: be a text back, that could be a date, that
Speaker 2: could be a root, that could be marriage, could be children.
Speaker 2: Though I tease you for not knowing how to close,
Speaker 2: I'll have you know that Frumi does in fact have game.
Speaker 2: I'm going to put it out on record. I'm going
Speaker 2: to manifest into Frumy's life. Frumy has a ton of game.
Speaker 2: If you saw her roster, okay, if you saw her
Speaker 2: past conquests, you would know the jokings in jests, the
Speaker 2: teasings and jests. It's a bit of a gag.
Speaker 3: Okay, don't jinx it.
Speaker 2: What do you mean jinx it?
Speaker 3: Say that I've done well in the past.
Speaker 2: So you want to humble your game because I can
Speaker 2: do it?
Speaker 3: Okay? Yeah, no, I've had enough.
Speaker 2: Any tips for how to close?
Speaker 3: Okay, tips on how to close? Think about this like
Speaker 3: a business meeting. Never under sell yourself, never explain too much.
Speaker 3: So when you're texting somebody, you don't go, oh, and
Speaker 3: I did this on the weekend. I did that on
Speaker 3: the weekend. And let's strip it back. Why are they
Speaker 3: texting you? Do they want to go for a route?
Speaker 2: Probably?
Speaker 3: Yes, let's keep it simple. Wait, okay, number two. I
Speaker 3: don't want to say play it cool.
Speaker 2: You've already lost me. But it's good. We have different approaches.
Speaker 3: Please, Okay, let me think about it. I meet someone
Speaker 3: at the club, I think they're really cute. Maybe the
Speaker 3: reason why I'm not closing is I have a self
Speaker 3: confidence issue. You know, this comes up time and time again.
Speaker 3: Sometimes you just need to go on the date. So
Speaker 3: we have to do put yourself out there and just say.
Speaker 3: The worst that can happen is you don't take the
Speaker 3: shot and you don't get anything. So just put it
Speaker 3: that way. Also, I heard Chantelle Ott and the sex
Speaker 3: Ologist once say that you should approach dating like it's
Speaker 3: like fun, like think of the story. And I think
Speaker 3: if you're thinking of your life as a story, which
Speaker 3: is quite a narcissistic main character energy approach, which I back,
Speaker 3: just think of the story. So just try and approach someone,
Speaker 3: try and close it.
Speaker 2: Let's stop you there.
Speaker 3: I didn't really answer the question.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, let's stop you there. Okay, this is how
Speaker 2: you close. A Comprehensive guide by Lillian Flexmami A. Hankm
Speaker 2: So what you want to do is you need to
Speaker 2: know your role in life, know what role you play,
Speaker 2: and play that position accordingly. So for me, I try
Speaker 2: not to give dating advice people who are not feral
Speaker 2: and also Turbo. It's never gonna work because as you
Speaker 2: start is as you have to maintain, is as you
Speaker 2: have to finish. Right, there's nothing worse than someone coming
Speaker 2: in all hot and then realizing they're insecure, or they're
Speaker 2: not hot, or they don't have the confidence to keep
Speaker 2: it up. It sends mixed signals. So if you are
Speaker 2: in ares, I did clock that, so i'mna say you're
Speaker 2: a fellow Turbo number one. You always have to make
Speaker 2: sure you're creating a comfortable environment for the preferred outcome.
Speaker 2: Everybody loves flirty, they love fun, they love a safe
Speaker 2: place to land. If you aren't creating fun, flirty, safe
Speaker 2: place to land, you're never gonna close, all right, So
Speaker 2: you need to be making sure that everybody comfortable, everyone
Speaker 2: feels safe to share. It's amazing. From there, I need
Speaker 2: eye contact, prolonged, I need full sentences, no mumbling. I
Speaker 2: need direct, direct everything. That's part one. Part two of
Speaker 2: closing is plausible deniability. Everything you do you need to
Speaker 2: have the potential to shake it off if it doesn't
Speaker 2: land all right. So if you say, oh, my goodness,
Speaker 2: you're so cute and they're like, I have a girlfriend,
Speaker 2: you're like, oh, can I compliment a friend? You can't
Speaker 2: compliment people this that's phase two. Once you know there's
Speaker 2: mutual thirst, you take a page out of Flex's book
Speaker 2: and you say the most direct thing you can think of.
Speaker 2: I think you're cute, and I think you want to
Speaker 2: take me on a date? Am I wrong? Intogestion that
Speaker 2: and they say, oh my goodness, ha ha ha, I
Speaker 2: love that. Your so forward ha. Then you're on a
Speaker 2: date and you fall in love. Works every time. Don't
Speaker 2: do it if you're not trying to secure someone though,
Speaker 2: Otherwise you become the love bomber that I was in
Speaker 2: my past.
Speaker 3: No more of that. I think we need to put
Speaker 3: this into a video and go tick one, two, three
Speaker 3: as your tips, and then we'll go.
Speaker 2: No, don't do that. Don't do that.
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