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Speaker 1: To make your family happier based on what we're learning's

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Speaker 1: I'll do better tomorrow the Happy Family's Podcast Friday Edition

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Speaker 1: Stay with us. Hello, and welcome to the Happy Families

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Speaker 1: Podcast Friday addition, my name is doctor Justin Coulson. Here

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Speaker 1: with missus Happy Families. Mum to our six kids, Kylie.

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Speaker 1: Today we unpack the week that was and talk about

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Speaker 1: what worked and what didn't. You're up first, You've purchased

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Speaker 1: just want to talk about why that's working, so that

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Speaker 1: other families can figure out how to replicate it with

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Speaker 2: Not sponsored at all, but we have been through I've

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Speaker 2: lost count how many alarm clocks we've been through over

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Speaker 1: And everybody's saying, what do you need alarm clock for?

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Speaker 2: We don't want our phones in our room.

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Speaker 2: And we got online and we had a look and

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Speaker 2: we found this alarm clock and it's got the sunrise

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