1
00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:06,960
Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

2
00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:10,239
Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers mew.

3
00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:13,600
Speaker 2: Margin means that there's room around the edges for you

4
00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:16,080
Speaker 2: to do the stuff that lights you up, that's playful,

5
00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:17,599
Speaker 2: that's fun, that brings you joy.

6
00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:20,840
Speaker 3: And now here's the stars of our show, My mum

7
00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:22,880
Speaker 3: and dad. What's your favorite game in the car?

8
00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:24,400
Speaker 1: I don't have a favorite game in the car.

9
00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,640
Speaker 3: I like to eat in the car. Is that why

10
00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:28,680
Speaker 3: there's always crumbs everything?

11
00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:29,400
Speaker 1: I like to sing?

12
00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:33,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, singing is good. Singing is fun, Singing is playful.

13
00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:34,800
Speaker 2: What about I spy?

14
00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:36,000
Speaker 3: Though? Surely you like I spy.

15
00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:38,040
Speaker 1: Don't get me started with I spy.

16
00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:39,879
Speaker 3: You don't like to play though, do you?

17
00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,839
Speaker 1: It doesn't come very naturally to me, if that's what

18
00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:43,559
Speaker 1: you're asking.

19
00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:46,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, So this is something that I've discovered as

20
00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,320
Speaker 2: I watch parents. Actually, we should introduce ourselves for those who.

21
00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:51,440
Speaker 3: Are new to the podcast. I'm justin French.

22
00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:55,080
Speaker 2: I've written six books about raising happy families, and you are.

23
00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,360
Speaker 1: I'm Kylie and I missus happy family.

24
00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:00,800
Speaker 3: Who doesn't like to play games?

25
00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:01,600
Speaker 1: Oh you're hilarious.

26
00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:03,279
Speaker 3: Actually you do like playing games? But I do.

27
00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:06,160
Speaker 1: I love playing quirkle and I love playing blocks. They're

28
00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:08,080
Speaker 1: all bright colors. I love.

29
00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:12,560
Speaker 3: The competitive You like to destroy our children's self esteem.

30
00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:15,000
Speaker 1: That you demolishing so bad.

31
00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:20,760
Speaker 2: So today we're talking about playful households because something that

32
00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:24,679
Speaker 2: I've noticed about parents is that we don't often look

33
00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:28,399
Speaker 2: like we're having fun when we're with our kids. When

34
00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,720
Speaker 2: you watch parents in the shopping and it's probably unfair

35
00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:32,360
Speaker 2: because shops, kids hate shops.

36
00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:35,840
Speaker 1: I don't know any parent who loves taking their kids

37
00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:36,479
Speaker 1: to the shops.

38
00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:38,280
Speaker 2: I don't know any child who likes going to the shops.

39
00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:40,520
Speaker 2: And that's that's the kind of the reason that was unfair.

40
00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:42,920
Speaker 2: But even at the park, a lot of parents look bored.

41
00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:45,200
Speaker 2: They don't want to be with their kids, And I reckon,

42
00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,760
Speaker 2: we need to talk about how to have fun, how

43
00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,960
Speaker 2: to have a more playful family environment.

44
00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,480
Speaker 1: Well that all sounds really, you know, dandy, but the

45
00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:57,840
Speaker 1: reality is life's hard. I just think about the person

46
00:01:57,840 --> 00:01:59,920
Speaker 1: who comes home, whether it's Mum or Dad or Bob.

47
00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,000
Speaker 1: You've been at work all day and you get home

48
00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:06,600
Speaker 1: and you just want to have a few minutes of downtime.

49
00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:08,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, and with COVID you don't even get that because

50
00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:11,880
Speaker 2: coming home means leaving the study and walking into the

51
00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:12,399
Speaker 2: living room.

52
00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:15,359
Speaker 3: There's no time to decompress like it's.

53
00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:19,520
Speaker 1: On and then every single person, whether it be your

54
00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:22,840
Speaker 1: spouse or your partner or your children, everybody wants a

55
00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:27,120
Speaker 1: piece of you. And you just want to decompress after

56
00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:30,320
Speaker 1: the day that you've had, and you know, compartmentalize everything,

57
00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:32,760
Speaker 1: and you don't get that, And so how are you

58
00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:34,200
Speaker 1: supposed to be playful with all of that?

59
00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:35,679
Speaker 2: I was going to say, it is hard to be

60
00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:37,440
Speaker 2: playful because not only have you got to try to

61
00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:39,880
Speaker 2: find the ability to smile and joke around and have

62
00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:43,359
Speaker 2: a nice time with people, but you're also juggling this

63
00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,400
Speaker 2: really significant issue of the cooking needs to be done,

64
00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:48,840
Speaker 2: the cleaning needs to be done, and everything needs to

65
00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:50,960
Speaker 2: be ready for tomorrow, and there's loads of washing to

66
00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:52,440
Speaker 2: put on or take out of the dryer.

67
00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:53,799
Speaker 3: So there's a lot going on.

68
00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:58,079
Speaker 2: And yet we know that kids who have high quality

69
00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:02,440
Speaker 2: playtime with their parents more resilient, they learn better boundaries,

70
00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:06,079
Speaker 2: they have a higher level of connectedness and relatedness. Being

71
00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:08,920
Speaker 2: playful at home is one of the easiest things that

72
00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:11,520
Speaker 2: we can do to build connection. Fill the relationship bucket

73
00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:14,560
Speaker 2: full of water, that gorgeous stuff that makes everyone feel

74
00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:16,639
Speaker 2: so good about life. And I reckon, as hard as

75
00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:19,240
Speaker 2: it is, and we should acknowledge that as you have,

76
00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:22,720
Speaker 2: it's really important for parents to get reminders regularly to

77
00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:24,960
Speaker 2: be playful. So I reckon, we should have a conversation

78
00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:26,680
Speaker 2: about how we can be more playful. And there's three

79
00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:27,600
Speaker 2: things that I think we need.

80
00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:31,160
Speaker 1: Number one, margin, Oh really, what's margin?

81
00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:34,320
Speaker 2: Margin means that there's room around the edges for you

82
00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:37,240
Speaker 2: to do the stuff that lights you up, that's playful,

83
00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:38,640
Speaker 2: that's fun, that brings you joy.

84
00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,880
Speaker 3: So we need margin margin. What's your point?

85
00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:44,880
Speaker 2: I feel like you're kind of digging the knife in

86
00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,760
Speaker 2: in a passive aggressive way and trying to injure me here.

87
00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:49,640
Speaker 3: What's maybe? What are you saying?

88
00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:51,400
Speaker 1: I'm sure everyone else will work it out.

89
00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:52,160
Speaker 3: What are you saying?

90
00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,760
Speaker 1: Come on, I don't think we have a lot of

91
00:03:55,840 --> 00:03:56,880
Speaker 1: margin in our lives.

92
00:03:56,960 --> 00:03:59,200
Speaker 3: Okay, So six kids, a business, a podcast, blah blah

93
00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,600
Speaker 3: blah blah blah. But we can still have a sense

94
00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,360
Speaker 3: of time affluence, can't we.

95
00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:07,600
Speaker 1: Sure if you follow me while you have a conversation,

96
00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:11,560
Speaker 1: as I clean the house and the washing, help.

97
00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:12,200
Speaker 3: With that thing you do.

98
00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:15,360
Speaker 2: So the first thing is margin, and I reckon we

99
00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:17,359
Speaker 2: need to be really intentional about that, which is the

100
00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:21,920
Speaker 2: second thing. Margin requires intention, So if we're going to

101
00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:24,000
Speaker 2: be playful with our kids, we have to be intentional

102
00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,680
Speaker 2: about not just being playful, but intentional about creating the

103
00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:29,680
Speaker 2: margin so that we've got the headspace to play without

104
00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:31,479
Speaker 2: being stressed and saying, oh, for goodness, ex we haven't

105
00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:31,919
Speaker 2: got time for this.

106
00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:32,280
Speaker 3: Got a bit.

107
00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:34,719
Speaker 1: So I'm going to ask you a question then, around

108
00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:37,920
Speaker 1: that intention. Did you feel very playful when the roof

109
00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:38,279
Speaker 1: fell in?

110
00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:41,800
Speaker 2: Well, there are times to be playful, and there are

111
00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:46,520
Speaker 2: times to pick up the damage that's caused by a

112
00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:50,159
Speaker 2: bath that has overflowed into the TV room downstairs, and

113
00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:51,320
Speaker 2: cause the life is.

114
00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:53,919
Speaker 1: Hard, and whether it's the ceiling caving in, there is

115
00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:56,000
Speaker 1: stuff going on all the time, and as parents, it

116
00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:59,880
Speaker 1: can be really really hard to find the right mind.

117
00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:01,920
Speaker 3: Okay, so two things about that though.

118
00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:04,600
Speaker 2: First of all, people's roofs don't fall in every day,

119
00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:10,280
Speaker 2: even metaphorically. And secondly, we have started laughing about it

120
00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:11,680
Speaker 2: now that we're a few days down the track and

121
00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:14,360
Speaker 2: we've realized that it's only going to cost a couple

122
00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:17,440
Speaker 2: of thousand dollars and not the jillion dollars that we

123
00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:19,000
Speaker 2: thought it was going to be. Even though that's a

124
00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:22,040
Speaker 2: horrible thing to have to go through, we're at the

125
00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,360
Speaker 2: point now where we can geel about it and it's funny.

126
00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:26,640
Speaker 2: The third thing we need if we're going to have

127
00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:32,119
Speaker 2: a playful household is margin, intention, and mindset. We've actually

128
00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:35,520
Speaker 2: got to have the mindset that life is fun, that

129
00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:38,159
Speaker 2: life is to be enjoyed, and that our family relationships

130
00:05:38,200 --> 00:05:41,680
Speaker 2: can be playful and enjoyable. Now, I don't think that

131
00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:45,120
Speaker 2: sarcasm is playful. I think sarcasm is usually rude and unkind.

132
00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:48,640
Speaker 2: But we can be playful in our relationships with the

133
00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:51,200
Speaker 2: right margin, the right mindset, and the right intention.

134
00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,600
Speaker 3: Let's talk about what that looks like in practice. Right

135
00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,320
Speaker 3: after the break. It's the Happy Families Podcast.

136
00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:01,159
Speaker 4: Imagine a home where discipline got result without anyone having

137
00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:03,520
Speaker 4: to feel bad or in trouble. The Do's and don'ts

138
00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:06,160
Speaker 4: of Discipline as a webinar to help parents set limits

139
00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,839
Speaker 4: with love, compassion, and humanity. Find it now at happy

140
00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:12,480
Speaker 4: families dot com dot au slash shop.

141
00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,400
Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast, The podcast for the time

142
00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:18,160
Speaker 1: poor parent who just wants answers now and today we

143
00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:22,080
Speaker 1: are talking about what a playful household looks like. I've

144
00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:25,480
Speaker 1: been thinking about this and thinking about our Mother's Day disaster,

145
00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:28,080
Speaker 1: and I'm wondering whether or not you could have actually

146
00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:31,359
Speaker 1: invited everybody down so they could have had a water fight.

147
00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:33,320
Speaker 1: That would have been playful, that.

148
00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:36,680
Speaker 2: Would have been breathtakingly playful. I wish, I wish that

149
00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:39,520
Speaker 2: I'd done that. See now I'm feeling bad for being

150
00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:41,800
Speaker 2: a big grump and saying Mother's a's ruined because somebody's

151
00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:43,599
Speaker 2: flooded the bathroom and the rest of the house.

152
00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:45,960
Speaker 1: Hindsight is a wonderful thing, is it not.

153
00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:48,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, it is. But it's also a great opportunity to

154
00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:49,800
Speaker 3: learn to be better. So next time we do flood

155
00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:52,520
Speaker 3: the house, we'll have a water fight. Okay, that's my

156
00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:55,200
Speaker 3: promise to you. I'll replay something to you.

157
00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:57,600
Speaker 5: You ready, Oh, hy there and welcome to me, and

158
00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:01,520
Speaker 5: I so order sell it. That aren't really salads. Today's

159
00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:03,320
Speaker 5: ingredients for snicker salad.

160
00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:04,120
Speaker 3: That's right.

161
00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:07,200
Speaker 5: In Minnesota, snickers and apples can make a salad. I

162
00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:09,320
Speaker 5: never said it was healthy. If you want to make

163
00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:12,640
Speaker 5: the salad extra Minnesotan use honeycrisp apples, which were developed

164
00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:15,360
Speaker 5: at the University of Minnesota in nineteen sixty. Mix one

165
00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:19,080
Speaker 5: package of vanilla pudding into one cup of buttermilk. Chop

166
00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:19,920
Speaker 5: eight apples.

167
00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:21,760
Speaker 3: Add your chopped apples to the pudding.

168
00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:24,040
Speaker 5: Lots of recipes say to take the skins off, but

169
00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:25,720
Speaker 5: I say leave them on, because where else are we

170
00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:29,040
Speaker 5: getting fiber in our diet. Chop your snickers? How many

171
00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:32,040
Speaker 5: snickers you ask? Measure that with your heart fold in

172
00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:33,520
Speaker 5: at least one top of cool it. But if you

173
00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:35,760
Speaker 5: have too many apples, you'll need two tups. And there

174
00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:38,200
Speaker 5: you have it, Snickers salad. And yes, I also use

175
00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:40,679
Speaker 5: milky way because I think it tastes like a caramel apple.

176
00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:43,200
Speaker 5: When it's all done, it does sound like fun.

177
00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:46,160
Speaker 1: A snack is salad that sounds like I've got Cinderella

178
00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:46,920
Speaker 1: in my kitchen.

179
00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:48,920
Speaker 3: So better? How playful?

180
00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:49,160
Speaker 1: Right?

181
00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:49,840
Speaker 3: How much fun?

182
00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,760
Speaker 2: You know what I really loved on Instagram in the

183
00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,960
Speaker 2: last week or so, maybe the last two weeks, Hamish Blake.

184
00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,000
Speaker 2: He's got this tradition and it's brilliant.

185
00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:02,040
Speaker 3: It's not as crazy, scary, horrible as a Minnesota salad

186
00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:05,960
Speaker 3: that snickers and apples with extra fiber. If you leave

187
00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:07,960
Speaker 3: the skin on what is going on there.

188
00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:10,400
Speaker 2: But Hamish Blake made a commitment to one of his

189
00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:13,720
Speaker 2: kids that every single year he would bake that child

190
00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:15,680
Speaker 2: whatever cake he wanted.

191
00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:18,160
Speaker 1: He clearly doesn't have six children.

192
00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:19,320
Speaker 3: No he doesn't, he has two.

193
00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:22,360
Speaker 2: But he promised that he would bake the cake for

194
00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:25,400
Speaker 2: the birthday every single year, whatever cake the kid wants.

195
00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:30,480
Speaker 2: And this year the cake took Hamish. He created this

196
00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:33,840
Speaker 2: Pokemon thing that opens and closes. It does so manually,

197
00:08:34,320 --> 00:08:36,200
Speaker 2: and it's in a bottle of jello, and there's cake

198
00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:40,880
Speaker 2: and there's there's just stuff everywhere. He was up until

199
00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,480
Speaker 2: one am. He started at seven pm, finished at one am.

200
00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:47,400
Speaker 2: Consumed a surprising him out of alcohol while he was

201
00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:50,040
Speaker 2: doing it to get through the night, I think, but I.

202
00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:51,400
Speaker 3: Just thought, here's this guy.

203
00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:54,120
Speaker 2: Now, obviously he's a comedian and everyone in Australia knows

204
00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:56,360
Speaker 2: Hamish Blake is. He's one of our most loved comedians

205
00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:59,000
Speaker 2: and he's also clearly a really devoted that and if

206
00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:01,920
Speaker 2: you follow on Instagram see that. But we talk about

207
00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:04,160
Speaker 2: playfulness and if you go through those three things that

208
00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:07,560
Speaker 2: I was talking about, margin, Hamish Blake has created the

209
00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:10,360
Speaker 2: margin that he needs to bake the cake every single year,

210
00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,840
Speaker 2: no matter what it takes. Intention he's really intentional about

211
00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:17,160
Speaker 2: being playful. And third, he's got a mindset that says,

212
00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:19,600
Speaker 2: I'm here for my kids and I want their lives

213
00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:21,440
Speaker 2: to be joy and fun.

214
00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,600
Speaker 3: Now that takes the cake, can I say that.

215
00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:27,360
Speaker 1: You're so bad? So bad?

216
00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,679
Speaker 2: But what I love about that story is that all

217
00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:33,760
Speaker 2: of us can do our own version of that in

218
00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:37,080
Speaker 2: our homes. It doesn't have to involve ovens and icing

219
00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:39,000
Speaker 2: mixture and pokemon or anything like that.

220
00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:41,200
Speaker 1: But I'd like to see you take that one on.

221
00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:45,720
Speaker 3: I'm going to bake a cake this weekend. Okay, let's see.

222
00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:47,600
Speaker 2: I'm not saying it's going to be fancy, it's gonna

223
00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:49,120
Speaker 2: come straight out of a packet, but I'll bake a

224
00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:50,320
Speaker 2: cake just to prove that I can.

225
00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:53,800
Speaker 3: And then I'm going to eat it in front of you.

226
00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:54,520
Speaker 1: Oh is that right?

227
00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:56,720
Speaker 2: To prove that I can bake a cake, I might

228
00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:58,400
Speaker 2: share some of it with you. So let's talk about

229
00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:00,440
Speaker 2: some ways that we can be playful in our homes.

230
00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:02,319
Speaker 3: What do you reckon? Well, look, you've set me up to.

231
00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:04,280
Speaker 1: Be the unplayful person in our family.

232
00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:06,679
Speaker 2: Well, okay, let me ask you a question. Then, proved

233
00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:08,480
Speaker 2: me wrong. When was the last time that you played

234
00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:10,319
Speaker 2: any kind of wrestling game with the kids.

235
00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:12,000
Speaker 1: I'm not going to wrestle with the kids. Do you

236
00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,760
Speaker 1: know how much I'm spending with my exercise physiologists to

237
00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:16,760
Speaker 1: get my neck and shoulders.

238
00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:17,120
Speaker 3: Or back to normal.

239
00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,240
Speaker 1: Okay, they told me I had a cheeseboard for a back.

240
00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:22,720
Speaker 3: I rest my case a cheeseboard for a bit.

241
00:10:23,320 --> 00:10:26,440
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to have cheese spine, but I have a

242
00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:27,840
Speaker 1: cheeseboard spine.

243
00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:29,920
Speaker 2: Who says that, I don't know. So, but you're not

244
00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:32,120
Speaker 2: playful because you don't wrestle the kids, right, No, that's

245
00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:34,480
Speaker 2: not true. Okay, tell me when you play with the kids.

246
00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:36,960
Speaker 1: Well, we put the music on really loud in the

247
00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:39,719
Speaker 1: mornings when you're off gallivanting around the country size I

248
00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:42,760
Speaker 1: don't know, surfing, or whatever else you do at that

249
00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:44,880
Speaker 1: early hour of the morning, we put the music up

250
00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:47,760
Speaker 1: really loud, and we dance. You should see Emily's moves. Awesome.

251
00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:49,679
Speaker 3: Okay, So but do you dance or do you just

252
00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:50,520
Speaker 3: send the musicals?

253
00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:52,880
Speaker 1: I dance? Where do you think they got their moves from?

254
00:10:54,559 --> 00:10:57,439
Speaker 3: Not one of us can dance? All right, Well, that

255
00:10:57,520 --> 00:10:59,080
Speaker 3: kind of takes care of my first three things that

256
00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:01,720
Speaker 3: I had on my list dancing and singing. They're great

257
00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:03,319
Speaker 3: ways for us to play with our kids.

258
00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:05,240
Speaker 1: I rest my case.

259
00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:07,199
Speaker 3: Okay, what else have you got on your list for

260
00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:08,240
Speaker 3: how we can be more playful?

261
00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:10,160
Speaker 1: Look, I think one of the most favorite things that

262
00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,000
Speaker 1: I love doing is when we break the rules.

263
00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:14,240
Speaker 3: Oh tell me more about that.

264
00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:16,760
Speaker 1: Well, we have certain rules. The kids go to bed

265
00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:19,319
Speaker 1: at seven thirty, We don't watch a TV.

266
00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:23,960
Speaker 2: If they do not. It makes us sound so perfect.

267
00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:25,840
Speaker 2: When was the last time our kids went to bed

268
00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:26,120
Speaker 2: at side?

269
00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:29,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying our kids, I'm just saying, you have rules,

270
00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:32,440
Speaker 1: got and seven thirty might be a time frame that

271
00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:37,040
Speaker 1: some people put their children to beds or you might

272
00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:39,080
Speaker 1: you might have a rule that you eat a main

273
00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:42,440
Speaker 1: meal before you have dessert, yes, Or you might have

274
00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:46,319
Speaker 1: a rule that you don't watch TV on school nights.

275
00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,240
Speaker 3: Uh huh, anything like, we've all got rules and you're

276
00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:51,040
Speaker 3: saying you can be more playful if you break the rules.

277
00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:51,480
Speaker 4: Yeah?

278
00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:53,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, How cool is it when your kids come home

279
00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:55,920
Speaker 1: from school and you go, you know what, We're going

280
00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:57,600
Speaker 1: to have a movie night tonight. And I know we

281
00:11:57,720 --> 00:11:59,640
Speaker 1: usually eat at the dinner table, but we're going to

282
00:11:59,679 --> 00:12:00,760
Speaker 1: have dinner in front of the TV.

283
00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:02,760
Speaker 2: I'm still going to argue that a movie not it's

284
00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:04,920
Speaker 2: the best way to be playful, but I take your point.

285
00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:07,240
Speaker 2: It's great to do that. One of my favorite ways

286
00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:10,200
Speaker 2: to be playful is we play this game with the kids.

287
00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:13,160
Speaker 2: I know you hate it because it destroys your beautifully

288
00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:15,520
Speaker 2: made bed every time we play this game called Pushed

289
00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:18,240
Speaker 2: That off the Bed. It started when our eldest was

290
00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:20,199
Speaker 2: our only child and she was only a couple of

291
00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:22,160
Speaker 2: years old, and she started trying to push me off

292
00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:23,520
Speaker 2: the bed one day and that turned into a game

293
00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:25,040
Speaker 2: and has been going for twenty years.

294
00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:27,680
Speaker 3: And I usually get injured. I need to go and.

295
00:12:27,679 --> 00:12:30,840
Speaker 2: See a messoge so to hire a practor the bed

296
00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:32,440
Speaker 2: takes an absolute hammering as well.

297
00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:33,800
Speaker 3: But we pushed that off the bed.

298
00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:36,120
Speaker 2: And then once I'm off the bed, the kids jump

299
00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:37,319
Speaker 2: on and I've got to get all of them off

300
00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:40,000
Speaker 2: the bed at the same time, which is getting increasingly

301
00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:43,280
Speaker 2: difficult the older and bigger that they get. But playfulness

302
00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:48,840
Speaker 2: goofing off the intention, the mindset and having the margin

303
00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:49,440
Speaker 2: for it.

304
00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:52,920
Speaker 3: These are some ideas that maybe will help your family

305
00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:55,960
Speaker 3: to be a little more playful tonight.

306
00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:58,160
Speaker 1: Well, I think we can be really playful tonight. If

307
00:12:58,200 --> 00:12:59,800
Speaker 1: you organized dinner.

308
00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:02,360
Speaker 3: I'll tell you what donuts for dinner.

309
00:13:02,480 --> 00:13:02,880
Speaker 1: Ah.

310
00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:04,480
Speaker 3: Yes, done will.

311
00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:06,600
Speaker 2: Break the rules and we'll sing really loud while we're

312
00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:09,720
Speaker 2: eating them. We really hope you've enjoyed the podcast. We

313
00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:12,719
Speaker 2: have so much fun playing around with these ideas and

314
00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:15,760
Speaker 2: sharing them with you. We will not be talking about

315
00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:16,880
Speaker 2: Minnesota salads ever.

316
00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:19,640
Speaker 3: Again. Snickers and apple should never be combined in the

317
00:13:19,640 --> 00:13:20,679
Speaker 3: same recipe.

318
00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:23,679
Speaker 1: Thing that sounds really good, of course you do, just

319
00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:24,640
Speaker 1: not with donuts.

320
00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:26,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not going to make that for your cake

321
00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:29,440
Speaker 2: this weekend. That's a guarantee. Thanks so much for listening tomorrow.

322
00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:31,600
Speaker 2: A Q and A from one of our listeners via

323
00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:34,440
Speaker 2: podcasts at Happy families dot com dot U. Michelle wants

324
00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:36,800
Speaker 2: to know about how to help her eight year old

325
00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:39,160
Speaker 2: with some body image issues and I can't wait for

326
00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:42,560
Speaker 2: Wednesday Maggie Dent talking about raising boys. It's going to

327
00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:45,040
Speaker 2: be a conversation that I'm really really looking forward to.

328
00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:47,400
Speaker 2: Maggie's a superstar when it comes to talking about boys,

329
00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:50,000
Speaker 2: and that's coming up then. The Happy Families podcast is

330
00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:52,680
Speaker 2: produced by Justin Ruhlan from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is

331
00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:55,200
Speaker 2: our executive producer and if you want more info about

332
00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:57,800
Speaker 2: how to make your family happier, we have to do

333
00:13:57,920 --> 00:13:59,360
Speaker 2: is jump onto Facebook.

334
00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:01,679
Speaker 3: Dr Justin Coulson's Families or visit our website

335
00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:03,959
Speaker 2: Where you can get all the info you need Happy

336
00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:05,559
Speaker 2: families dot com dot au