1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,479 Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 4 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:22,599 Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is 7 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: the podcast where we have mindset, self development and becoming 8 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 9 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 10 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 11 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 12 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, we're here to 13 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 14 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's 15 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting life pass 16 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:11,680 Speaker 1: you by, then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, 17 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: and welcome back to the Potty and Happy Friday. We're 18 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: back with another Geez Hotline, and on today's episode, we 19 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: are unpacking a question from a listener who is struggling 20 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 1: having moved away from her hometown to study. So it's 21 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: been about four years already, but because of where you 22 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:33,040 Speaker 1: know she is, it has been hard to make friends 23 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 1: and form deeper connections. And she asked us how to 24 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,320 Speaker 1: get through this tough time as she really can't see 25 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: a light at the end of the tunnel. I loved 26 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: this episode a tear. Did you we fully unpack it 27 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 1: we get into it? I was kind of I shocked 28 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: at the end result where we went, but as always, 29 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: it was so much fun. Of course. So before we 30 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: get into a tier, any weekly update, Well, it's been 31 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: a bit of a big week. 32 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 2: We've been prepping for something very exciting that's starting on Monday. 33 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 2: It's one of our first sales in a long time. 34 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 2: I tear. 35 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: Are we doing an ear off feet sales? I think 36 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:09,799 Speaker 1: we are. 37 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 2: We can't say much just yet, but I can let 38 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:20,519 Speaker 2: you know. The Facebook potty community found out yesterday and 39 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:23,079 Speaker 2: everything will be dropping on Instagram today if you're listening 40 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:23,679 Speaker 2: in real time. 41 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: Amazing. So guys, you guys know, we literally never do sales, 42 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:34,120 Speaker 1: and the team have twisted my arm we have about 43 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: this sale. So we have some really exciting deals in 44 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 1: there for you. So if you have been a long 45 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: time listener, you know, maybe you want to do one 46 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:45,360 Speaker 1: of our courses, grab one of our products, but you 47 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: never have. This is the perfect time because you will 48 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: not see deals like this ever again. Literally, I don't think. So. 49 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 2: Yes, we really we got it in our hands with 50 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 2: knees and begged you got you some good deals. 51 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 1: Well it's the perfect time because we've still got six 52 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: months left of the year. But you know, I know 53 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: a lot of us are maybe not having a lot 54 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: of clarity. I maybe wanting more of a formula to 55 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 1: manifest things and you know, really utilize the next six 56 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:21,640 Speaker 1: months and go for it. And they're like, I just 57 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 1: I need to revamp that spark and that's what we 58 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: do here at RNC. So I'm really excited me too. 59 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 2: I'll definitely be redoing both of our courses halfway through 60 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 2: the year, just just a. 61 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 1: Refresher, literally, as a refresher. I want to definitely do 62 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 1: our Clarity course because how I felt after doing that 63 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: in jam Wow, literally life changing. And I'm going to 64 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:46,280 Speaker 1: go back to my workbooks and like check out and 65 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: see how much I've actually committed to. It'll be so 66 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 1: nice to see how far you've got exactly read my 67 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 1: letter all the things. So guys, you can check that 68 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: out in our Facebook group or our Instagram. But more 69 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: on that next week. But yeah, no week updates for me. 70 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: Just just working, hear love and life, Just working, working away. 71 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:13,480 Speaker 1: I had a pretty great week. Should we get into 72 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: the episode? 73 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 2: I think so okay, So our question today. Hi rn 74 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 2: C fam, looking for some help with limiting beliefs and 75 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 2: just some general words of affirmation when you're struggling with life. 76 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:33,799 Speaker 2: I moved to a new town. This is my fourth 77 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 2: year here. 78 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: I hate it. 79 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 2: I only moved because I'm pursuing a health career that 80 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 2: will literally change my life and the lives of others. 81 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,480 Speaker 2: I'm studying to be a doctor. I'm away from all 82 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 2: my friend's family partner he can't move as his job 83 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 2: is back home, but he comes to visit one to 84 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 2: two times a month, and I just feel so alone. 85 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 2: And I also hate the town I'm living in. I 86 00:04:58,040 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 2: don't have any deep friendships with the people here. Everyone 87 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 2: is either a lot older or younger than me, so 88 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 2: we have nothing we can connect on. And I am 89 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:10,839 Speaker 2: struggling so hard with mentally seeing the light at the 90 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 2: end of the tunnel. I know these times don't last, 91 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 2: but I am just looking for some advice on how 92 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 2: to be more positive about my duration, or any techniques 93 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 2: generaling strategies you can recommend, or even any limiting beliefs 94 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 2: you can identify. I try to romanticize my life, but 95 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:30,559 Speaker 2: my life here just isn't one I enjoy. And also 96 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 2: my living and housemates situation isn't great. Does anyone have 97 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:35,719 Speaker 2: any words of wisdom? 98 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:39,599 Speaker 1: Oh, I know, that's horrible. I know, and that would 99 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: be so hard. 100 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:44,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think, and I think a lot of people 101 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:47,919 Speaker 2: can resonate with this with us. When you have a 102 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 2: goal and you're so it's an aligned goal and you 103 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 2: know it's something you want to do, but and you'll 104 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 2: do anything to get there, but the path may not 105 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 2: always be the most enjoyable, like finding ways to manage 106 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 2: that throughout the process because it's so Yeah, you don't 107 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 2: want to like quit on your goal ery. 108 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, let's get straight into it. Unpopular opinion. I 109 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 1: love challenges. I really have changed my perspective around challenges 110 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:25,839 Speaker 1: where they are what shape me, and I welcome them. 111 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:31,279 Speaker 1: It's like cool, what's next? And I think in this perspective, 112 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 1: obviously you know she has tried, and I very much 113 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 1: do feel for her. But it's like, can this be 114 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 1: a moment of your life where you don't one hundred 115 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: percent enjoy yourself, But it gets to be the moment 116 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,039 Speaker 1: where you put in the hard work, you do the 117 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: absolute best in your doctor's degree, you you know, move 118 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: up in the hierarchy, or I don't know, whatever you're 119 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: doing that you put in the extra effort because again, 120 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: you're not even enjoy you're at home time. So it's 121 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 1: like you could actually be in a huge season of 122 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 1: like I'm actually gonna work really, really hard so I 123 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:11,760 Speaker 1: get in a position where I actually get to choose 124 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: where I live next time because I'm so sought after. 125 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 1: I love that. 126 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 2: And it's almost like she's in the perfect environment to 127 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 2: do that too. Yeah, you've got no friends, like in 128 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 2: the best way, like you don't have anyone that is 129 00:07:25,960 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 2: going to distract you or but this is what I 130 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 2: mean of, like it's because unpopular opinion, I'm kind of 131 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 2: encouraging the hustle season, which I know people are probably 132 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 2: at me, But it's like this actually gets to be 133 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 2: a really amazing opportunity because let's just think parallel universe. 134 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: You have heaps of friends there and you can get 135 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: really distracted. You spend all you know, your partner's there 136 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: and you all you want to do is be at home, 137 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: and you know this and that it can actually work 138 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: against you. And so it's almost like the universe is like, 139 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:03,720 Speaker 1: You've got no pledges here anyway, Like, let's just work hard, 140 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: let's get through this season. It also sounds like she's 141 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:07,679 Speaker 1: kind of close, Like it's. 142 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 2: Like if you've been there four years, yeah, hopefully it. 143 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: Is not much longer. Jesus, you know what I mean, Like, yeah, 144 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:18,119 Speaker 1: could this be that season where it's like, no, I 145 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:22,240 Speaker 1: actually just get too sacrifice. And then what this will 146 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: do is it's going to build so much personal power 147 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 1: and confidence within herself, yes, to be like I can 148 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 1: do hard things. I can do challenges. Like I look 149 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 1: back at when I was doing my unique degree and 150 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: I was working full time at a law firm. I 151 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: also had YouTube and Instagram and a partner, and I 152 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: was doing all the things, and people literally ask me like, 153 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 1: how are you fitting this all in? And I was 154 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:55,800 Speaker 1: just of the mentality of like, how could I not? 155 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 1: Because this is my season of hustle and getting it done. 156 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: And It's funny because now where I'm sitting a lot 157 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: of people don't realize the years of like hard work 158 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: that I put in where I did sacrifice a lot 159 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:14,679 Speaker 1: of personal time, a lot of time with friends, a 160 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:17,320 Speaker 1: lot of time not go and hit in the clubs. Yeah, 161 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 1: Like there was a lot of sacrifices in like the 162 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 1: building the foundation that you now might see my life 163 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: and be like, oh wow, like she's got it so 164 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: good or this and that, Like I know people know 165 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: I work hard, yeah, but also like let's be really real, 166 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:37,080 Speaker 1: like I work hard, but also my life is super comfortable. Yeah, 167 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 1: but I have like gradually got here. 168 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. 169 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 1: It really started with me doing six years to study, 170 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 1: working full time, having absolutely no time and just being 171 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 1: like this is the grind and I'm willing to do it, 172 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: and it very much has shaped me. And I think 173 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: back to those times and I think, fuck, I was crazy, 174 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:57,840 Speaker 1: but also I know I could. I know I can 175 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:00,680 Speaker 1: do that. Yeah, And that has given so much like 176 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:04,440 Speaker 1: confidence in strength in who I am because I've actually 177 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,240 Speaker 1: done it exactly. 178 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 2: And I think even when you think about it, you 179 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 2: are very young, and you fit like I'd say, like 180 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 2: twelve years of work in like six years. If you 181 00:10:16,960 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 2: work like six years full time and study that at 182 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 2: the same time when someone normally would only do one 183 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:25,959 Speaker 2: or the other. That's like twelve years you've condensed into 184 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 2: six years. So of course you're going to be that 185 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 2: much like sort of further ahead quote unquote yeah, because 186 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:35,320 Speaker 2: you actually put in all those hours in less time 187 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 2: than what other people have. And this is honestly how 188 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 2: you can collapse time and quantum leap time, which is 189 00:10:43,040 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 2: I truly look back at my journey, I'm like, I 190 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:48,480 Speaker 2: have actually collapsed time so many times because. 191 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 1: I know when to lean in. I know when to 192 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:57,319 Speaker 1: be the unbalanced person and be like, Okay, this is 193 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:00,560 Speaker 1: a season of this and I'm going fully in and 194 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: I'm going to realize that maybe I'm not going to 195 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,839 Speaker 1: enjoy life as much and that's okay. And I was 196 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 1: always willing to do that. And then that's why I've 197 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 1: been able to contemp leap because when you have a 198 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:18,679 Speaker 1: condensed period of focus, oh my god, it is so 199 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: powerful and like a tea. You can even probably see 200 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: in you know, since we've worked together, of like when 201 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 1: I've had little almost sprints of condensed focus h or 202 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:33,080 Speaker 1: rn C and then you see the output. Yeah, it's 203 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:37,199 Speaker 1: like there's no there's no coincidences, no, if that makes sense. 204 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: And where what my favorite quote right now is like 205 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: what you focus, where you focus, energy. 206 00:11:44,480 --> 00:11:48,439 Speaker 2: Goes, energy goes where folks, where energy flows? 207 00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: Where your focus goes? Is that it? Where focus goes, 208 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 1: energy flows, Where focus goes, energy flows? Is that it? Yeah? Yeah? 209 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 2: But me, we put it on Instagram? 210 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: Why really, I can't perfectly get me? This is my question. No. 211 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: Our eCOM guy was literally saying this, and I was like, yes, 212 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 1: I love this goal. Yeah, and it's like it's so 213 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 1: it's such a truth. And I think, you know, me 214 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,839 Speaker 1: and Ti are actually just talking offline about I got 215 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,719 Speaker 1: stuck in a TikTok holl on Saturday on Saturday night, 216 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 1: and it's funny because I saw some tiktoks about like 217 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:32,199 Speaker 1: and you can tell their younger people about this whole 218 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: balance of you know, you can do both of You 219 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 1: can work really hard or you can be like the 220 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 1: Platti's girl or the soft girl or fucking whatever girl, 221 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 1: era girl, whatever, and then you can also have balance 222 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 1: of like eating out and going partying and all that 223 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:50,320 Speaker 1: sort of thing, and one hundred percent you can absolutely, 224 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: but I truly believe it's like if you have certain goals, 225 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 1: there will be seasons where it's not balanced, and I think, like, 226 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 1: let's fucking normalize that. I'm so over this shit of 227 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 1: like it has to be balanced all the time. And 228 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: I think, if you want it, if you want to 229 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 1: be average. 230 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:11,520 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, no, I was. 231 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 1: I wouldn't use those ones exactly. 232 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 2: I was gonna say, if you want to have a 233 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,480 Speaker 2: balanced life, you need to accept that you're going to 234 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 2: get where you want to go a lot slower. Yes, 235 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 2: And if that's fine with you, amazing, amazing to do that. 236 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:29,560 Speaker 2: But if you want to get there fast and you 237 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 2: want to get there yesterday. 238 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: You're going to have to not be balanced for a bit. 239 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: And that's and that's the thing is like that's not 240 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 1: for certain people. No, I totally know how I do 241 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: life is not for everyone. Is very specific to me. 242 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 1: I just love how I do life. And I know 243 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:48,520 Speaker 1: there are a lot of people who also resonate. They're 244 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:53,480 Speaker 1: probably managens. Yeah, most of people I work with resume. 245 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 1: I do attract a certain type. But that's what I 246 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: mean is like, really switch your perspective where you're like, 247 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:04,240 Speaker 1: holy shit, I actually get to use this period to 248 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:09,080 Speaker 1: collapse time like that excites me. I'm almost like I 249 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:12,160 Speaker 1: want a period to you know, you have actually so 250 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:15,079 Speaker 1: much going for you in your environment that you think 251 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 1: isn't good that is actually like cool. I actually get 252 00:14:18,960 --> 00:14:22,280 Speaker 1: to really fucking ramp things up here. 253 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 2: I love that, and I think as well. The other 254 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:28,120 Speaker 2: thing she could also look at this as an opportunity 255 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 2: to do is to go very inward. And even if 256 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:35,000 Speaker 2: she's because obviously she's got all this time on her hands, 257 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 2: do some self development, like invest in some courses. 258 00:14:39,760 --> 00:14:40,520 Speaker 1: Do the project. 259 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:45,080 Speaker 2: If I had no distractions, that's exactly what I would 260 00:14:45,080 --> 00:14:47,640 Speaker 2: be doing. I would be saying, Okay, there's obviously something 261 00:14:47,680 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 2: big coming in at the end of this. I need 262 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:52,680 Speaker 2: to be prepared. And that's sort of what I'm looking 263 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 2: at doing right now with myself is get all my 264 00:14:57,000 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 2: routines and everything as second nature, so that when challenges come, 265 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 2: it's not an additional challenge. It's the thing I get 266 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 2: to shift my focus on. Because I go to gym 267 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,640 Speaker 2: four times a week. I'm doing all these things that 268 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:11,720 Speaker 2: I've wanted to do for so long. That's a habit 269 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:14,120 Speaker 2: now it's not a struggle, and I then get to 270 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 2: go onto the next thing that and invest all that 271 00:15:17,360 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 2: energy in there instead, So even look at it that 272 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 2: way of get your routine the ideal way you want it. 273 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:27,040 Speaker 2: Do some self development if you want to be product 274 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 2: like be be just like productive. 275 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:32,800 Speaker 1: Also something to think about. And this is really interesting 276 00:15:32,920 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: because you know, I'm going to contradict myself here and 277 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:38,640 Speaker 1: I love that I do this on my Moment podcast. 278 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 1: Very contradicting, but I'm like, I'm in a season of 279 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 1: not hustling, like obviously because I'm a new mum and 280 00:15:48,080 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: I have Ivy and I have huge goals in both 281 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 1: my businesses. But it is a season where it is 282 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 1: me seeking balance because that's what I need. And that's 283 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 1: almost from a sense of needing inner piece and needing 284 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:07,080 Speaker 1: a season where I am more present because I know 285 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:09,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna blink and Ivy's going to be ten. Yeah, 286 00:16:09,560 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 1: so I actually need to slow things down. And that 287 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 1: is because I have been an absolute workaholic and hustler 288 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 1: for most of my life and it doesn't come naturally 289 00:16:20,080 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 1: to me and probably why those balanced videos trigger me. 290 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:28,440 Speaker 1: Let's be honest, it's my shadow. Something really interesting I've 291 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 1: been leaning into is let's also just be honest when 292 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: you have an eighteen month old life is not that exciting. 293 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 1: You actually cannot do as much as before. And that's 294 00:16:41,360 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 1: not like a limiting belief. That's like pure like logistics. 295 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 1: And you're also just like you don't want to be 296 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 1: doing one hundred things all the time. Like again, it's 297 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 1: like this is a season of me being present. So 298 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 1: it's like I do want to slow down. I do 299 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 1: want to have chill time with Ivy. And that also 300 00:16:58,000 --> 00:17:01,600 Speaker 1: just means like our life looks now yeah, with a child. 301 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:06,080 Speaker 1: And so what I have been leaning into and really 302 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:12,479 Speaker 1: thinking about is how can I, I guess, romanticize a 303 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:17,920 Speaker 1: slower life and romanticize a mundane life and almost like 304 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:22,400 Speaker 1: how can I kind of make things that quote unquote 305 00:17:22,720 --> 00:17:25,520 Speaker 1: don't feel that fun? Or let me just give you 306 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:29,440 Speaker 1: an example of like, for example, baff time with Ivy. 307 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 1: Sometimes it can be really stressful because she's like fucking 308 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 1: climbing on the bed and then she's like, oh my god, 309 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:37,920 Speaker 1: this thing she eats my ear plunks and it's the 310 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:40,800 Speaker 1: grossest thing. She finds them. I always hide them, and 311 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:42,959 Speaker 1: she finds them and wants to eat them, and so 312 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: then I get them off her and she's screaming and 313 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 1: then she wants the tooth frush and she does this 314 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: thing where we've taught her to say tar like yeah something. 315 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:57,200 Speaker 1: So she's going ta ta ta. 316 00:17:57,000 --> 00:18:09,120 Speaker 3: Ta ta, and she screams star because she thinks she's 317 00:18:09,160 --> 00:18:10,880 Speaker 3: going to get it, and I'm like, oh my god, 318 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 3: you're so smart, but that's not. 319 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:23,679 Speaker 1: Just get like fuck Ivy. That's so funny, I know. 320 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:26,119 Speaker 1: And I feel so bad because I'm like trying to 321 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 1: teach her that when you say ty, you get things. 322 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, you can't have like do or my 323 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 1: ears like you sicko. I know exactly what gonna do 324 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 1: with them. Put everything in her mouth. My god, that's 325 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 1: so but no, don't like screams tired at the top 326 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:48,720 Speaker 1: of her lums. And so look, sometimes bathtime looks like that. Yeah, 327 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:53,520 Speaker 1: but it's really interesting because if I go into bathtime 328 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:59,199 Speaker 1: and I check my energy beforehand, and I go like 329 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:02,359 Speaker 1: I internally, and I'm like, this is going to be beautiful. 330 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:06,560 Speaker 1: I love bath time. Maybe I put some music on. Yeah, 331 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:08,479 Speaker 1: maybe I light a candle where she can't reach it 332 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:12,720 Speaker 1: or eat it or eat it fuck me, It's like 333 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:15,919 Speaker 1: do you? And then I go into that. And also 334 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:18,919 Speaker 1: something that I do is recently, I've been giving her 335 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:21,399 Speaker 1: a bath, which she usually just comes in the shower 336 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:24,320 Speaker 1: with us, but she loves the bath, so I can 337 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:26,119 Speaker 1: put her in the bath and she can kind of 338 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:29,639 Speaker 1: entertain herself, like obviously I'm watching her, but she loves 339 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 1: the bath, or maybe like I jump into the bath 340 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:34,879 Speaker 1: with her. And something new we've been doing is we 341 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:39,399 Speaker 1: have this really nice like baby shower. I didn't think 342 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 1: it's shower oil, but it's just like body oil from 343 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: grow to and we've been using it in the bath 344 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:47,840 Speaker 1: and giving each other massages. Oh my god, I'm so cute. 345 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:49,280 Speaker 1: So I put in the bath and I give her 346 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 1: a massage, and no joke, she gets up and sits 347 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: on my lap because she likes it. And then she 348 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:59,639 Speaker 1: goes behind me and gives me a message. And do 349 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,560 Speaker 1: you see see how it's like I've changed I'm doing 350 00:20:02,600 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 1: the exact same thing. Yeah, I've changed my energy around it, 351 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 1: and I can have such a different experience. So it's 352 00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 1: like it's the exact same experience, but I've changed my 353 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:16,399 Speaker 1: perspective again. So I know, she said, you know how 354 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:19,880 Speaker 1: I've tried to romanticize my life, But it's like, can 355 00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 1: you actually lean into that in maybe different ways where 356 00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:27,320 Speaker 1: you hadn't thought of, to make things a bit better 357 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:28,920 Speaker 1: and to embrace things. 358 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:32,240 Speaker 2: Like romanticize going for a walk every morning by yourself 359 00:20:32,280 --> 00:20:35,440 Speaker 2: and listening to a podcast episode and that sort of 360 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:39,800 Speaker 2: stuff and listening to the RNCT it. But there's so 361 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:43,239 Speaker 2: much like you can cherish sort of about being on 362 00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:43,680 Speaker 2: your own. 363 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 1: And see, that's the interesting thing is I'm such an 364 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 1: I love alone time, and now that I rarely get 365 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:55,080 Speaker 1: alone time, I think of like all the alone time 366 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:59,439 Speaker 1: that I had that I like didn't really relish, and like, really, 367 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 1: you know, yeah, embrace And I'm like, you selfish, I 368 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,119 Speaker 1: don't say that. I don't say that, but I'm like, 369 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,159 Speaker 1: oh my god, you really should like embrace that a 370 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,200 Speaker 1: bit more because now you have no time. So it's 371 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,840 Speaker 1: like this actually, and for example, if you ask someone 372 00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: who doesn't like being alone learn to love it. Yeah, 373 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,120 Speaker 1: this actually gets to be a period where you strengthen 374 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:23,199 Speaker 1: that part of yourself of like, no, I actually do 375 00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:26,520 Speaker 1: get to be an independent person who likes her alone 376 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:30,560 Speaker 1: time because it's actually and I think, don't minimize the 377 00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:33,159 Speaker 1: strength that you have to do what you've done. Not 378 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 1: everybody can move somewhere where they don't know anyone and 379 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:40,240 Speaker 1: they're obviously yeah, like you're already older or younger than you. 380 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:43,480 Speaker 1: It's such an achievement to move somewhere like that where 381 00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: it is unlikely for you to have really good connection 382 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:49,160 Speaker 1: with people and be completely on your own for so long. 383 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:52,800 Speaker 1: You've done it for so long, and just congratulate yourself 384 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:55,040 Speaker 1: because that takes a certain type of strength and I 385 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 1: feel like that you've done it once, you'll be able 386 00:21:57,640 --> 00:21:58,200 Speaker 1: to do it again. 387 00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:00,920 Speaker 2: Like if you ever want to move to like or London, 388 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,000 Speaker 2: it's not going to scate because you've done it before. 389 00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:07,560 Speaker 1: And also, like something to think about is like, maybe 390 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:11,400 Speaker 1: you don't have friends in person, but do you have 391 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: a friend that you can call them every Monday morning 392 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:17,040 Speaker 1: on your walk? Could you actually strengthen some other connections 393 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,679 Speaker 1: that you already have That is just you know, I 394 00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 1: know it's not in person, but you know. 395 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I know what you mean. Online and online 396 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:30,159 Speaker 2: and do some do some networking virtually as well if 397 00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:30,440 Speaker 2: you can. 398 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:34,040 Speaker 1: Yes, just such a great time to network. 399 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 3: Us. 400 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 1: Never yes, but I feel like we've answered the question Atia, 401 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:46,360 Speaker 1: And thank you so much for sending in your hotline cues. 402 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,960 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of 403 00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:57,159 Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquered podcast. 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