WEBVTT - Life in a 'Closed, Quad, Polyamorous' Relationship - Uncut with Taya and Alysia 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.760 Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.800 --> 0:00:06.520 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.560 past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.400 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.400 --> 0:00:13.319 recorded on Drug Wallamata Land. 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:26.080 Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:29.560 I'm Brittany and I'm producer Keisha feeling in for Laura. Okay, 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:32.040 hold alone one second. I think I've left the stove on. 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:32.880 My past is cookie. 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:33.279 Hang on. 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:37.239 Well, al redes that I will tell you what we 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:38.720 are doing in this episode. 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:40.480 This was such an incredible chat. 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:44.000 We are chatting with Taya Heartless and Alisha Rogers. Now 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:46.839 Taya and Alisha are ever in America and they are 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:50.920 in a closed quad polyamorous relationship and is the pastor 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:51.760 boiling over the stove? 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:55.160 Okay, I'm back, I'm turned the stove box. Yes, today's 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:56.320 episode is absolutely incredible. 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:58.840 I saw this online and I had to reach out 0:00:58.840 --> 0:01:01.639 and contact the women because I was so intrigued by 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:04.000 how it worked and listening to them talk about how 0:01:04.040 --> 0:01:06.000 the relationship work really. 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:08.160 Opened my eyes to a whole nother perspective. 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:10.400 Yeah, so the way it works is that Taya is 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:13.640 married to Sean and Alicia is married to Tyler, or 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:17.240 at least they were individually married couples. Okay, so they 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:20.080 came together. They are now a part of the One family. 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:22.240 They've got four kids, they've got a fifth one on 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:25.840 the way. The biological origin of those kids is not 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.600 known because it's not important to them, and they live 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:31.640 their whole life as the one family under the one roof. 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:35.000 Yeah, it's a very modern day Brady Bunge with a 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:39.240 sexy twist. I think you're kind of gonna love listening 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:41.600 to it as much as we loved recording it. My 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:44.800 little gold medalist over here for the one hundred meters 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:46.640 athletics hurdles. 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:48.160 Pretty ukily out of big weekend and you took home 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:49.880 a gold trophy I did. 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:52.560 It wasn't in hurdles, wasn't in one hundred meters sprint. No, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.080 it was the Media week they called the next of 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:55.880 the Best awards, and I. 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:56.960 Hate even saying that out loud. 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:01.640 So Mediawig had like Industry Award, which is really nice, 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:04.960 and it's for like radio, TV, like all the front 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:06.640 of house kind of things, but then all the back 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:09.720 of house kind of stuff as well, production and sales 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:12.360 and literally everyone that's involved in media, which I think 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:15.440 is really nice, A really big celebration with everyone that 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:16.400 works in the industry. 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:17.240 So it was pretty cool. 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:19.920 But yeah, I was nominated, so you get nominated, like 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:21.799 I was nominated a couple of months ago for Next 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:22.600 to the Best Radio. 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:24.240 I was stoked and got nomination. 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:25.799 To be honest, I was like, there's no fucking way 0:02:25.800 --> 0:02:28.720 I would ever win, and long story short, I want. 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.200 So that's what I'm gonna say. But I'm really bad. 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:33.800 I absolutely no. 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.720 I just I definitely didn't expect to win, and yeah, 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:38.640 it was really nice. It was also really nice because 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:41.359 Mitch Drury, who you guys all know and love as well. 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:43.840 He's our radio co host and he won bronze, so 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:45.160 he was there as well for an award, but he 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:47.519 also presented me my award, so that was really nice. 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.160 It was really nice to win an award and be 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:51.760 recognized for something that you love and you work really 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:53.720 hard for and you're passionate about. But then also to 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:55.880 be given the award by like one of your closest friends. 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:58.240 Is really cool as well. Yeah, this is all like 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:01.200 this is very lovey and very anything I couldn't even 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:01.840 win the Bachelor. 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:06.880 The last thing I won was the Easter hat parade 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:09.160 when I was four years old, and all I got was. 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:11.840 Like extra streggs. This is a real moment. It really 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:14.160 is in making up for it. No, it's really care 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:15.880 that's definitely. 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:17.959 I'm definitely gonna put my award front sender next to 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:18.960 my Easter hat. 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:21.440 We're very proud of you, and I'm not surprised you won. 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.520 But even if you are well done, thanking big round 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:25.000 of appause. 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:26.440 The reason that I am sitting. 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:28.960 Here again today, apologies if you're getting sick of me, 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:32.600 is because our wonderful Laura ben She's a little busy 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:33.799 knocking people out on. 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:34.680 The ants floor. 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:37.600 So Laura, our lovely Laura Burnie is still on Dancing 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:40.800 with the Stars. Did you see the video she posted 0:03:40.880 --> 0:03:43.600 where she chaoed her dance partner Daniel. 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:45.320 It was like a behind the scenes video. Do you know? 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:48.320 It wasn't the footage that made me so alarmed? 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:50.920 It was the sound. It was because you know when 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:52.680 you slow down a video and it's. 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:55.120 Like they did like it. 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:58.040 For anyone playing at home, go on to Laura's Instagram 0:03:58.040 --> 0:03:59.600 if you haven't seen her. She posted her behind the 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:02.480 scenes of her getting chaoed. Well, no, she chaoto her 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:04.840 dance partner. So they're they're practicing in the studio. She's 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:07.400 in this little black outfit and they're doing some I 0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:08.600 don't know what the charter. 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:10.520 Yeah, yeah, they're practicing the charter. 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.280 And she did like a toil out and she went 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:16.760 to rapid fire toil in and a full on like 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:21.400 hook with elbow to have dance partner's cheekbone. He dropped 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:23.160 to the floor. He went flying like two minion dropped 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:24.880 the floor and you heard. I was like, surely she's 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:26.200 just broken this guy's face. 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:29.600 Anyway, dance stas is going really well for Laura. 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:33.320 Was like, I wouldn't fuck with Laura Hey after that video. 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:35.560 I think I used to think that you'd be the badass. 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:37.719 If ever I was in trouble and I needed someone 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:40.240 to like take someone out on the street, I really 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:42.560 would have put my money on you, but I'm revoting. 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:44.520 I'd like to put Laura forward. No, I would still 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:47.359 put your money on me because she's so gangly. She 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:49.560 can't control the limbs. Her limbs go flying like. 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:54.640 But Laura is still on dancement stars, so we're all 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:55.280 rooting for her. 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:57.479 We actually do not know when it's airing, but I 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:58.680 know I can say it's soon. 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:00.400 I know it's soon. It's probably we got to be 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:01.039 with the next month. 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.039 I can't get in trouble for saying that because I 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.280 genuinely don't know, and I haven't signed an NBA yet. 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:08.960 But we're really rooting for our girl over here. So 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:12.440 Keisha's on board. On the podcast, Kisha, you're actually lucky. 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:14.600 I was about to say the exact same. I'm surprised, 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:16.480 and I'm sitting here today, you are lucky. 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:18.839 Did I let you back in that hot seat after 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:21.640 the things that you did to me last week? 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:25.359 I think you're lucky because I have experienced some of 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:28.599 the most intense, hurtful trolling. 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:32.080 I had to deal with in my entire life. 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:35.360 And I'm of course talking about your stupid wallgate photos. 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:38.320 That's what I'm calling this scenario. Now, it's a scandal. 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:40.880 This is a three weeks sagon. Now we've talked about 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:42.800 this for three weeks. It's the issue that will not 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:44.120 go away because. 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:45.799 You don't let it. 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.080 It's the issue of the photographs that I put on 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:50.480 my wall. We have mentioned the last three weeks in 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.359 the podcast so Yes. I printed out some photos of 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:55.159 my boyfriend and Ben and I and put them on 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:58.159 my wall, and Keisha had a problem with it. Laura 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.120 Burn had a problem with it. My friend Kim a 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:01.800 problem with a lot of people in my life seemed 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:03.160 to have had a problem with the fact that I 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:05.200 am in love and put some photos. 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:07.520 On my wall. We did a video and it sort 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.919 of went viral. It went pretty big, got picked up 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:12.840 by some pretty big people. I think Vogue gonna talk 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:13.280 about it. 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.960 Want to Vogue wanna Passion, not style, the merry condo 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.360 of not get what is it not sparking joy that's 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:22.600 coming next on Netflix. Vogue reached out to me and 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:25.640 they said, we saw the interior of your home and 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:26.960 we want to feature it. 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:32.360 Okay, how believable was that? 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:36.040 So we put up a video, right, I reckon over 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:38.720 ninety percent of the comments and or messages that I 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:41.240 got that were not in the hate category. And by 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:42.719 the way, I know that some of the messages I 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:44.440 got were like tongue in cheek taking the piss. 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:47.360 Yeah, and Jasha wasn't actually trouble you life, as were 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:50.320 just fun trolling They were like, this is so mean. 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:54.400 Leave Brittany alone stuff believing Brittish she's newly in love. 0:06:54.520 --> 0:06:57.039 And I was like, mate, I know that, but the 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.520 photos are too small, and this is what everyone kept 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:00.279 on bringing up with me. 0:07:00.360 --> 0:07:02.279 But I agree with that, but don't you try and 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:02.840 bend the truth. 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:03.080 Now. 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:05.520 That was not your problem, and we have video evidence. 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:07.640 Your problem was that I shouldn't have printed photos out 0:07:07.640 --> 0:07:10.320 at all. Now, when I got the photos, I agree 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:12.080 they're too small for the space. 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:17.760 I agree that is not the problem. But imagine, imagine 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:21.360 if I had made them bigger. What you would have done. 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:24.080 Is not just the size, as all of the. 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:27.680 People who messaged me mentioned, it is the problem. 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.720 What's the Okay, So I didn't notice this at first, 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:38.160 only news comment on one day. I believe what I 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:39.960 said was it just looks weird. 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:43.600 It's weird, and I've now got more evidence as to 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:44.200 why it's weird. 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:48.240 I'm five foot two, right, so I'm sure. And I was. 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:51.400 Looking at the photos kind of being like, they're really 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:53.800 high up on the wall, but maybe they're not high 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:55.640 up on the wall for someone who's a bit taller. 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:57.120 They're too high. 0:07:57.200 --> 0:07:59.840 It's the size, it's the composition of the fact that 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:03.840 not all the one it goes like portrait, landscape portrait. 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:08.040 I did that on purpose. I thought it would be cute. Also, 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:10.760 I picked my three favorite photos and one of them 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:13.560 was taken in landscape, so I worked with it. Okay, 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:20.000 my rebuttal fucking court. Proceeding my rebuttal to the shrine 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:22.920 on the wall is I live in a rental. Believe 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:23.280 it or not. 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:25.200 I do not own a house in Bondi Beach. I 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:27.480 will never own a house in Bondi Beach, I'm sure. 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:30.000 But there were already holes in the wall. So I 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:31.880 worked with what I had, and. 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:34.000 I have tried to do the best I can with 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:36.160 the amount of love that I have left in this room. 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:38.080 And that is what I came up with, the wall 0:08:38.120 --> 0:08:40.839 shrine of the semi professional photoshit that we didn't actually 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:42.520 book at the Louver, And I'm happy with it and 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:44.440 I love it. And a lot of people wrote to me. 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:48.240 Actually ninety percent of people in the poll said having 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:51.040 photos of yourself and your partner is fine. They only 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:52.320 said it was gonna be a problem if I had 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:54.360 three giant photos of myself on my wall. 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:56.320 Which I do not. I did not have one photo 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:57.200 of myself on the wall. 0:08:57.640 --> 0:09:01.080 I also asked Ben who is the subject of the 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:01.680 photo shoot? 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:05.000 And Ben thought it was very lovely. Of course he did. 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:09.000 He's the one who's in the pictures. 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:11.920 Get laid. He's like, it was amazing, he just laid. 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:14.840 Let's be real. Anyway, Wargate saga, look faite. 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:18.520 The people came to defend you, okay, they they came 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:19.960 with their pitchforks fierce. 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:23.360 The one hashtag I wish took off was hashtag live 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:27.000 laugh Leave Brinillo, Like that. 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.960 Was such a missed opportunity. Like years, I'm here for 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:32.040 the people. The people have spoken to Shrine. 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:35.440 He's okay. My most valued comment was just Shrine in 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:36.280 capital letters. 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:38.559 We actually even had if you were listened to the 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:39.439 podcast a few months ago. 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:42.200 Comedian Joanne McNally. She's the irishmedia we had on. 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:44.520 She's one of the hosts of My Therapist Ghosted Me, 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:48.040 a great podcast. She's so fucking funny. Anyway, she slipped 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.240 my damns and she's like, I am dead. I cannot 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:53.640 stop laughing at this whole Shrine Wallgate and. 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:55.800 Made it to Ireland. The Shrine made it to Island. 0:09:55.920 --> 0:10:00.000 Made you know girl Joanne mcnaly anyway, Man Island. 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:03.319 But speaking of shrines, this got me thinking I had 0:10:03.320 --> 0:10:05.920 a friend. This wasn't not that long ago. I had 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:07.960 some friends. They live in the UK. They're guys. 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:11.560 What they did to their flatmates so their flatmate that 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:13.840 a bunch of guys that live together, three guys. One 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.880 of their flatmates had this date that he was so 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:19.560 fucking chuffed about, like he was over the moon about this. 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:22.280 Cheek was a ten. He was like, I'm vibing, I'm connecting. 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:23.120 I think this could be it. 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:24.480 I'm so serious about her. 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:26.680 It was the second date and he knew that he 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.360 was going to I shouldn't say kne was going to 0:10:28.400 --> 0:10:29.079 sleep with it, but they were. 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:29.680 They were there. 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:31.360 He's like he had said to the boys, if you 0:10:31.360 --> 0:10:33.480 can clear out tonight, you know, like we're going to dinner. 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:35.480 I got this lovely date. I reckon you know, I 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:37.160 would love to spend good night with her in the 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:37.920 apartment alone. 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:39.840 Things could get a little hot. And also that's what 0:10:39.880 --> 0:10:42.520 you do right when your flatmates and you live with people. Anyway, boys, 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.160 you need to clear out tonight. I got this hot date. 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:46.920 They agree, all yours mate, we're here for you. We're 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:48.440 going to support you in your quest for love. So 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:51.079 he goes out on the date when his future wife. 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:53.000 Where do they go? Did they go to? What pub? 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:57.240 Do they? They went to dinner? No? They oh? The boys, Oh, 0:10:57.280 --> 0:10:58.640 I don't know. You just gotta leave. It's just the 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:01.320 rule of the flats, like and somewhere else to say 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:03.480 tonight party or whatever you want to do. Those walls 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:04.959 are paper Thin's true, but. 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:06.840 I think it's more like, of course they can come 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:09.440 back later in the night, but it's like to sleep 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:11.240 like it is their house. But it's more like, you know, 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:13.679 give us the majority of the night and come back 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:14.760 and sleep when we're done. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:16.080 And does it? So they agree. 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:18.120 So anyway, all Mat goes out in his date with 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:21.079 his ten future wife. The boys inadverted Commas go out 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.559 to the pub. But what they decided to do was 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:27.760 they printed off, like thirty photos of Princess. 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:31.559 Diana a shrine. 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.439 They printed off thirty photos of Princess Diana, got heaps 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:37.560 of candles and they put them in his room. Yeah, 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:40.120 so they put a shrine of Princess Diana with candles 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:43.520 and notes and like prints print offs of like magazines 0:11:43.559 --> 0:11:45.800 and stuff, and they put it all through his room. 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:47.000 Then they left. 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:50.199 Now when he comes back from his date, it's getting 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:52.360 frisky and he's like, I'm going to lock this down. 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.640 Goes into his bedroom and she turns on the light 0:11:54.720 --> 0:12:02.040 and there's a shrine of what would you do if 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:05.360 you were the girl? Would you imagine? You imagine what 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:07.719 I mean? Like, she's the people's princess. Okay, we all 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:11.360 love princess blocking on another level, like from the grave, 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:14.000 she's cock blocking. She's like, this ain't going down. Also, 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:14.920 like the more. 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.760 That you know in any of those scenarios when something 0:12:17.840 --> 0:12:21.320 like that happens, the more you defend and try to justify, like, 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:24.000 oh this wasn't me, Like oh sorry, you know, like 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:28.360 I promise, the more guilty you've seen, Like then you're like, 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:29.160 I don't even like her. 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:31.520 And then she's like I love princess. I like her, 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:35.559 but not enough to print off, not to have thirty 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:38.800 photos of her in my bed. Oh my god, that's 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:42.080 what I do. I'd probably think I'd gone to the 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:42.720 effort together. 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:45.360 I'd probably want to get laid, But then I don't 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.160 think i'd call him back, Like I think i'd commit 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:49.280 and go through with the deed, because you don't. You 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:51.520 reckon the second day, you're lying her you had a 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:53.880 nice dinner, probably some wine, and always says you're already there. 0:12:53.920 --> 0:12:54.199 Do you know what. 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:56.160 I've had a housemate stitch me up in a bit 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:57.040 of a similar way to. 0:12:57.000 --> 0:13:00.320 This, explain what you've got such a problem with. Try 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:02.960 the alarm bells are ringing. 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:06.000 No, it's a similar kind of embarrassing moment, but they 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:07.160 fucking got me really good. 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:09.199 So I had started. 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.679 Dating this musician and this is I'm talking like, oh, 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:13.120 this must be seven eight years ago. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:14.160 It's like a long time ago. 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:16.559 And I was living in this apartment in Newcastle with 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:20.960 hilarious housemates. Right. So I'd started dating this musician and 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:24.480 I had told them, hey, just so you know, he's 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.760 coming around tonight, just getting their heads up. I didn't 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:28.719 even ask them. I definitely didn't ask them to leave 0:13:28.760 --> 0:13:31.680 the apartment. And maybe maybe that was my number one 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:36.160 mistake because just before he got there, one of my 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:40.240 housemates started playing their music through. 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:44.800 The speakers, right, the musicians music. Yes, So you know 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:46.240 they were kind of like, well does this get you 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:46.720 in the mood? 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:48.320 You know, And they were taking the piss, which was 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:50.920 all well and good until he I can't remember what 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.120 speaker it was. It must have been one attached to 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:55.080 like something in the lounge room or that kind of thing. 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:56.800 And we're talking seven or eight years ago, so I 0:13:56.800 --> 0:13:57.640 don't remember them. 0:13:57.760 --> 0:13:59.120 I was a giant binbox six pe. 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:02.480 I don't remember how it was played anyway, So music 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:05.280 goes off, he comes over. It's all you know, It's 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:10.679 gone great until like I was having a drink of 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:13.040 wine on the couch. We were just catching up and 0:14:13.120 --> 0:14:15.160 I went to put some music on and I just 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:18.840 hit on and out plays his music. 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:21.600 So like, so the music was off when he got there. 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:23.880 He was off, but it was like loaded in when 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:25.640 you press it on it It's like kind of when 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:27.720 you get back in your car and whatever was playing 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:32.600 most recently starts starts playing. You're like, I would have 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:34.880 preferred porn had to start playing, because I just looked 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:39.200 like such a fucking fangirl. I was like, I'm seriously 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.320 over Housebaates like they just you know, they were listening. 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:44.080 He probably turned him on. 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:46.880 Most musicians are so godlike complex, they won't people would 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:47.320 be listening to. 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:49.040 I would hope that that didn't turn him on. You 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:51.160 probably get you paid for dinner. Every time his truck 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:54.240 gets played, he gets money from it, just getting his streams. Babe, 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:56.760 I supporting the cause I had this other friend. 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:58.840 Now this was years ago, but it's just make him 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:01.640 you think back another friend that did a similar thing. 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:02.920 Guys. Again, it's always guys. 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:05.000 I don't think I know any girls has cooked their 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:08.640 friends same thing. Hot date was coming back to the apartment, 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:11.520 so they went and bought. They must have just gone 0:15:11.560 --> 0:15:15.040 to like Kmart or something. They went bought fifty stuffed 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:17.560 small toys and put them on his bed. 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:22.680 So that when he comes home on the date, like 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.240 you're getting freaky, legs arerapped around the waist. 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:26.880 You know, your barge in to plunk on the bed 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:29.120 and you can't lay down, and you sit down, all 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:31.840 these teddies jump up like it's on a trampoline. They 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:35.880 go everywhere, fifty stuffed teddies of all everything, all Australian animals, 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:36.720 native animals. 0:15:37.120 --> 0:15:38.400 They would it be worse if it was all of 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:40.240 the one type, all different? 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:42.520 No, And so she thought he had a stuffed toy collection, 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:45.440 and he's like, I don't know how to say. 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:50.880 Not heat a yucky, yum, I have stuff toy one one. 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:51.600 I'm sorry. 0:15:51.680 --> 0:15:55.080 If there is a guy in his thirties that has 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:57.040 a bedroom of stuff toys. 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:58.800 Not yucky and yum, but there's alarm bells for me, 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:00.760 I'd be like, I have did a guy that has 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:01.280 those you know. 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:04.120 Those like figurines with the big bubble head things. 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:05.000 I don't know what they're. 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:07.640 Actually called, but I went into his room and they 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:11.720 were like, I'm not exaggerating more than fifty and put 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:14.160 them in air bondies as collectibles, and it was a 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:14.600 bit weird. 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:21.440 You still slept with tast more than that, but I 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:23.720 did find it a little a little strange. What would 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:24.000 you do? 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:26.640 Or like, seriously, you've gone back to your guy's house. 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:29.760 Let's say it was the shrine or fifty stuff toys. 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.440 What would you do? Am I the age that I'm 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:35.120 at now? This weekend's Friday night. When you're in your. 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:38.200 Early twenties, you like, they breathe in the wrong direction, 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:39.960