WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - The one with the side eye

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<v Speaker 1>Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of the

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<v Speaker 1>Life on Part I'm Brittany.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm Laura, and this is our Thursday episode, which

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<v Speaker 2>is our down and dirty little episode where we answer

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<v Speaker 2>all of your deep, dark and burning questions.

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<v Speaker 1>And we have had a lot of dm slidings this

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<v Speaker 1>week with the questions. We do have a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>killer questions.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know what, guys, before we do get into

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<v Speaker 2>answering your questions, if you have one for next week,

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<v Speaker 2>you can slide into the DMS at Life un Cup

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<v Speaker 2>podcast that there's something that we really want to share

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<v Speaker 2>with you all, and we are I don't even know

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<v Speaker 2>how to bring this conversation up or say it, because

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<v Speaker 2>it's genuinely the most devastating news and it's something that

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<v Speaker 2>we found out last Friday, and we weren't really sure

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<v Speaker 2>how to share it with you guys. We weren't really

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<v Speaker 2>sure if we just had the conversation on social media

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<v Speaker 2>or whether we brought it to the podcast and talked

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<v Speaker 2>about it here. And we have been speaking about it

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<v Speaker 2>over the last couple of days, but we really wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to for anybody who's not part of the social media community,

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<v Speaker 2>for anyone who's not part of Facebook, to be able

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<v Speaker 2>to also honor that conversation on the podcast as well,

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<v Speaker 2>and that is we found out last Friday that Chanelle Bryant,

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<v Speaker 2>who is an incredible woman, somebody who we interviewed last December.

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<v Speaker 2>Chanelle had triple negative breast cancer and she had been

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<v Speaker 2>diagnosed with terminal cancer and we spoke to her about

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<v Speaker 2>her journey. We spoke to her about the importance of

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<v Speaker 2>checking your breast and she was so incredible. She has

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<v Speaker 2>been a huge member of the life onn cut community.

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<v Speaker 2>She's been an active member in the Facebook group. So

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<v Speaker 2>many of you know who she is and have been

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<v Speaker 2>as invested in her story as what we have been.

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<v Speaker 2>And we received the news that she passed away last

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<v Speaker 2>Friday in her sleep, surrounded by her family, and we

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<v Speaker 2>just wanted to be able to share that with you

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<v Speaker 2>all because we know, just like I said, how much

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<v Speaker 2>she touched every single one of you as well. We

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<v Speaker 2>did speak to Chanelle. The interview that we did do

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<v Speaker 2>with her for anyone that hasn't listened to it yet

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<v Speaker 2>but that would really like to. It was such a beautiful,

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<v Speaker 2>powerful episode. But that was on the fourteenth of December,

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<v Speaker 2>and when we did speak to Chanel. Then she did

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<v Speaker 2>say to us that if she could make it till Christmas,

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<v Speaker 2>which obviously was only I guess two weeks away at

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<v Speaker 2>that point, that she would just be beyond happy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all she wanted to do was was make it

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<v Speaker 1>till Christmas. She did make it past Christmas, and then

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<v Speaker 1>her next goal was to make it to her daughter

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<v Speaker 1>Vague's birthday, which she did. So Chanelle made it until

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<v Speaker 1>the twenty first of January, and that is when she

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<v Speaker 1>passed away. I guess if there's one thing we can take,

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<v Speaker 1>it's that she got to make some last, really beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>memories with her family. So we just want to send

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<v Speaker 1>all of our love to Chanelle's family, to her friends,

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<v Speaker 1>to her children, to the community, to everybody that Chanel touched,

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<v Speaker 1>because she was just such a ray of light. Just

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<v Speaker 1>as a reminder, because it was Chanelle's message, it was

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<v Speaker 1>what she was literally fighting for, was to make everyone

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit more aware of their body and their breasts.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you are listening right now, grab.

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<v Speaker 2>Your boobs and check them out, honestly, and this is

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, Chanelle was only thirty seven years old.

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<v Speaker 2>She has two children and She's left behind an incredible legacy. However,

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<v Speaker 2>I think the big message here is that when you're young,

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<v Speaker 2>you just don't think that these things could ever possibly

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<v Speaker 2>happen to you. I wanted to leave this conversation with

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<v Speaker 2>one thing that Chanelle said. We had a really beautiful

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<v Speaker 2>conversation around what happiness meant to her, and she said,

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<v Speaker 2>happiness is loving and being loved. Lean in not a way,

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<v Speaker 2>allow yourself to feel it, let it all wash over you, breathe,

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<v Speaker 2>and surrender to it. Your experience of life in that

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<v Speaker 2>moment will be more uncut, more pure and real than

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<v Speaker 2>you've ever imagined possible. Ough, Honestly, our absolute hearts go

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<v Speaker 2>out to Luke and to Smith and to Vogue and

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<v Speaker 2>to every single one of you who have been touched

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<v Speaker 2>by Chanelle's story. Now, there is another woman that we

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<v Speaker 2>want to talk about on the beginning of today's episode

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<v Speaker 2>before we get into answering your questions, and that is

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<v Speaker 2>somebody else who is equally as powerful and fierce, Grace Tame.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, we need to talk about Grace Tame and what

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<v Speaker 1>went down with her and Scottie Morrison at the Handover

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<v Speaker 1>Awards of Australia of the year. So Grace, if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, Grace was Australian of the Year last year,

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<v Speaker 1>she did go to the ceremony on Tuesday night and

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<v Speaker 1>that is the handover award for Australia of the Year. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>Grace is a fierce advocate for sexual assault. She's a

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<v Speaker 1>survivor of sexual assault. Please please go and do your

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<v Speaker 1>research on Grace. If you haven't come across her yet,

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<v Speaker 1>if you haven't come across her, everyone, so I would

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<v Speaker 1>be gobsmacked because this woman has just moved mountains and

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<v Speaker 1>she has just made such noise in the year that

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<v Speaker 1>she I mean, she really took the opportunity of Australian

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<v Speaker 1>of the Year to do good and she did make noise,

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<v Speaker 1>and she did race a voice, and she put a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of things into motion and a lot of changes

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<v Speaker 1>to be made. She has been so vocal in advocating

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<v Speaker 1>for victims of sexual assault and sexual abuse. And this

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<v Speaker 1>year and last year has come at a time when

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<v Speaker 1>Brittany Higgins and there's been the whole conversation around parliamentary

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<v Speaker 1>and they're big swinging dicks and the insidious misogyny that

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<v Speaker 1>has lived within our parliament and within government in Australia.

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<v Speaker 1>But the reason there's so much talk on this, if

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are wondering why we're even talking about it,

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<v Speaker 1>is because the photos going around right now from her

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<v Speaker 1>meeting with Scott Morrison out the front in Canberra. It's

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<v Speaker 1>actually quite funny to look at. So Grace isn't a

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<v Speaker 1>fan of Scott Morrison. That has been noted throughout the year,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's for good reasons. You know, she doesn't agree

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<v Speaker 1>with a lot of things that he has said and done,

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<v Speaker 1>and when you look into that a little bit more,

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's warranted. Let's put it that way. And we

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<v Speaker 1>will get into that in another episode because it's there's

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<v Speaker 1>so much to talk about in this But the reason

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<v Speaker 1>these photos and videos are going viral if you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>seen them, is because of the way Grace greeted Scott Morrison.

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<v Speaker 1>Now there's one photo in particular where she is standing

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<v Speaker 1>next to him. It is very cold, you can feel

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<v Speaker 1>the ice, and she's giving him it looks like that

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<v Speaker 1>cartoon dog, you know, the side eyed dog. She's giving

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<v Speaker 1>him the most brutal so you've ever seen, and it

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<v Speaker 1>has gone viral. This photo, this video is anyone's talking

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<v Speaker 1>about and it's taken over the world and I'm to

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<v Speaker 1>be honest, I'm here for it.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like everybody needs to enter twenty twenty two

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<v Speaker 2>with the absolute fierce energy the Grace Tame entered meeting

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<v Speaker 2>Scott Morrison. That this has come to the attention of media.

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<v Speaker 2>It's also come to the attention of the Facebook group

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<v Speaker 2>and it has been incredibly divisive.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw some comments floating around in the Facebook group yesterday.

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<v Speaker 2>The majority of people are in full support that Grace

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<v Speaker 2>Tame shouldn't feel like she needs to be friendly to

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<v Speaker 2>Scott Morrison just because he's the Prime Minister, especially when

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<v Speaker 2>there's so many things that he's done during his term

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<v Speaker 2>as Prime Minister that go against what she has been

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<v Speaker 2>advocating for now.

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<v Speaker 1>On the flip side to that, there has.

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<v Speaker 2>Been people who think that the actions of her were

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<v Speaker 2>petty or petulant or childish, and we really wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>unpack where these thoughts come from and why is it

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<v Speaker 2>that women are expected to behave in a certain way.

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<v Speaker 1>One of those people that are on the bandwagon of

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<v Speaker 1>Grace immaturely, and I say immaturely because that is a

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<v Speaker 1>quote from the article is journalist Peter then on Selen,

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<v Speaker 1>who writes for The Australian. He also co hosts sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>on the Project, which he did last night. Now. The

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<v Speaker 1>headline for The Australian that Peter wrote says, Grace tame

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<v Speaker 1>If you're disdain for the PM is so great, why go?

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<v Speaker 1>And the opening paragraph says, the footage of Grace Tamee

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<v Speaker 1>meeting the Prime Minister at his residence in the nation's

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<v Speaker 1>capital for a reception today was embarrassing for her. That is,

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<v Speaker 1>she was ungracious, rude and childish, refusing to smile for

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<v Speaker 1>the cameras, barely acknowledging his existence when standing next to him.

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<v Speaker 1>The footage tells the story free of overstatement. He has

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<v Speaker 1>literally called her rude and childish for refusing to smile.

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<v Speaker 1>That is it now. If you watch this, Grace shakes

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<v Speaker 1>his hand, he says hello to her, She says hello back.

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<v Speaker 1>There is nothing that was childish about this behavior. The

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<v Speaker 1>problem that he has this whole article that he's written,

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<v Speaker 1>is saying that she should show some respect for Scott

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<v Speaker 1>Morrison and she should have sat there and smiled, which

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<v Speaker 1>essentially is a photo opportunity. The only problem is she

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<v Speaker 1>didn't pretend to like somebody and enjoy a moment when

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<v Speaker 1>she didn't actually like someone and enjoy the moment, and

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<v Speaker 1>that is what she's been criticized for. I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>pretty crazy that we've been conditioned in a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>ways to think that women need to behave in a

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<v Speaker 1>certain way. And I know that there's going to be

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<v Speaker 1>people who listen to this who are like, oh God,

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<v Speaker 1>here we go. We are expected as women to be

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<v Speaker 1>nice and to be polite and to be friendly, and

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<v Speaker 1>we are constantly told, Hey, why don't you just smile.

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<v Speaker 2>In this instance. There has been so much that's happened

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<v Speaker 2>in the past two years, especially in the last year

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<v Speaker 2>with Britney Higgins, and directly that's been directly correlative to

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<v Speaker 2>sexual assault and sexual violence against women. And this is

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<v Speaker 2>what Grace's entire campaign as Australian of the Year has

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<v Speaker 2>stood for. It would have been disingenuous of her to

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<v Speaker 2>stand there and smile alongside Scott Morrison and pretend like

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<v Speaker 2>she was enjoying the moment. That would have gone against

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<v Speaker 2>everything that she stood for on her own social media,

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<v Speaker 2>in the conversations that she's had with her own community.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I feel like it should actually be commended

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<v Speaker 2>and has been by a lot of the female led media.

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<v Speaker 2>It should be commended that she has been absolutely authentic

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<v Speaker 2>and stood behind and alongside what her feelings are towards

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<v Speaker 2>him and the government he represents.

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<v Speaker 1>Live on the project, Carrie Bigmore gave Peter a real

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<v Speaker 1>dressing down. So Peter wrote the article that we're speaking

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<v Speaker 1>about then he was on the project speaking about it now,

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<v Speaker 1>he mentioned straight away the Grace acted childish, And this

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<v Speaker 1>was Carrie's response in the article today, you spoke about

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<v Speaker 1>how she acted as a child, you know, when she

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<v Speaker 1>should have been able to act as a child when

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<v Speaker 1>she was a child, only she was preyed upon by

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<v Speaker 1>a man and lost parts of her childhood. Peter's response was, well,

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<v Speaker 1>then she shouldn't go. If she's not going to show

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<v Speaker 1>him any respect and she's going to be rude, she

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't go, which, in response, starts a whole other conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Why should we be silenced, Why should we be made

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<v Speaker 1>to not be able to express our real feelings in

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<v Speaker 1>a situation. She's still Australian of the Year, she still

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<v Speaker 1>deserves to go, and she shouldn't have to not go.

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<v Speaker 1>She should be able to go and if she's in

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<v Speaker 1>an uncomfortable situation, she doesn't have to smile.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think there's a bigger question here around

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that, like, just because somebody is in a

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<v Speaker 2>position of power, does that mean that they're instantly entitled

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<v Speaker 2>to respect Scott Morrison being the Donald Trump, well no,

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<v Speaker 2>but like Scott Morrison being the Prime Minister, just because

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<v Speaker 2>he's the Prime Minister, does that mean that somebody needs

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<v Speaker 2>to respect him as a person if they don't believe

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<v Speaker 2>in the policies and the way that he's behaved or

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<v Speaker 2>the things that he's implemented whilst he's been in government.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think the interesting thing about this as well

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<v Speaker 2>is is if we can cast her mind back to

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<v Speaker 2>January twenty twenty when the bushfires happened and there was

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<v Speaker 2>a live stream of Scott Morrison. This is after he

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<v Speaker 2>took a holiday whilst Australia was on fire. There is

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<v Speaker 2>a live stream of him going and greeting with the

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<v Speaker 2>fire brigade who were working and at the front line

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<v Speaker 2>of the bushfires, and he reached out to shake the

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<v Speaker 2>hand of one of the firefighters and one of the

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<v Speaker 2>firefighters completely refused to shake his hand to the point

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<v Speaker 2>where Scott Morrison grapp would and he continued to try

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<v Speaker 2>and shake his hand, and.

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<v Speaker 1>My solfwod thing you've ever seen, the most fucking awkward

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<v Speaker 1>thing you have ever seen.

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<v Speaker 2>No publication and nobody said anything negative about that firefighter.

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<v Speaker 2>Nobody turned around and said how petulant or petty of

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<v Speaker 2>him to not shake Scott Morrison's hand, and that they

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<v Speaker 2>should treat Scott Morrison with respect. If anything, everybody was

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<v Speaker 2>like commending the firefighter for making a very public statement

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<v Speaker 2>around something that at the time everyone was angry about.

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<v Speaker 2>Why is the opinion of mainstream media different when it

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<v Speaker 2>comes to something like sexual assault.

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<v Speaker 1>The hypocrisy really in Parliament of the way that men

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<v Speaker 1>and women are treated, or men and women are treated

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<v Speaker 1>in the public eye is sickening. It does not take

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<v Speaker 1>a very deep dive. It takes one Google search for

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<v Speaker 1>you to have a look at the way that women

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<v Speaker 1>are treated in Parliament.

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<v Speaker 2>There is one amazing photo as well, which we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to put up in our social media for anybody who

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<v Speaker 2>thinks it was shared in the Facebook group. But for

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<v Speaker 2>anyone who thinks that maybe the way Grace behave is

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<v Speaker 2>petulant and they want to draw a comparison here, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't have a leg to stand on.

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<v Speaker 2>There is an incredible photo of Scott Morrison can completely

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<v Speaker 2>turning his back on Tanya Plibosec during her doing a

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<v Speaker 2>speech and the absolute lack of respect in this photo

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<v Speaker 2>is astounding. So I just want to put these up

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<v Speaker 2>in our instagrams like a slide by slide for anybody

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<v Speaker 2>who's sitting there going, oh, she shouldn't have done that.

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<v Speaker 1>And you guys know, Laura and I are not overly

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<v Speaker 1>political people. We never speak about politics on this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>We never have And the only reason that we're discussing

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<v Speaker 1>this today is because it really really rubbed us the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong way. We obviously do have a platform and we

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<v Speaker 1>do support women, and this was something that just didn't

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<v Speaker 1>sit right with us. And seen some of the comments,

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<v Speaker 1>especially on the project last night, from people like Peter

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<v Speaker 1>van on Selen, the article that he wrote, it just

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<v Speaker 1>really really rubbed us the wrong way.

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<v Speaker 2>So we did want to talk about it. Well, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>we don't talk about politics, but we talk about misogyny.

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<v Speaker 2>We talk about internalized misogyny, which is where a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of the views are coming from, and we talk about

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<v Speaker 2>sexual assault and advocating for women. For anybody who has

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<v Speaker 2>read the articles, the articles that have been written by

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<v Speaker 2>men who were telling Grace Tame how she should or

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<v Speaker 2>shouldn't behave, calling it childish or saying that it's undone

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<v Speaker 2>the amazing work that she has done while she's been

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<v Speaker 2>Australian of the Year really undermines who she is as

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<v Speaker 2>a person and it really undermines what she has been

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<v Speaker 2>through by telling her how she should or shouldn't behave.

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<v Speaker 1>Please, if you get a hot second, have a Google

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<v Speaker 1>of what went down on the project, because it was

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely annihilation, fucking take down fire and it was so great.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do want it was a takedown between Carrie

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<v Speaker 1>Bickmore and political reporter Amy Remikuz, who was a guest

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<v Speaker 1>she had like zoomed into the project and Peter Van Onsellen.

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<v Speaker 1>Now it was brilliant to watch. I thoroughly enjoyed it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a bit uncomfortable, but I can't stress enough

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<v Speaker 1>how on these women's team that I was and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yes, like fucking get a girl. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>take him down. I do want to just wrap this

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with this grab from political reporter Amy Remikus, who

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<v Speaker 1>is also a survivor of sexual assault.

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<v Speaker 3>You were attempted to a police a woman who lost

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<v Speaker 3>all agency as a child, where she was groomed and

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<v Speaker 3>told how to behave, and she has since come out

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<v Speaker 3>and made her entire adulthood about not behaving in the

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<v Speaker 3>way that other people think that she should.

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<v Speaker 4>That she's going to be true to herself.

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<v Speaker 3>And because of the politics of civility, you wrote a

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<v Speaker 3>column in the National masth heead slamming her for that.

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<v Speaker 3>You said she shouldn't have gone.

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<v Speaker 4>She has every right to be there, She has every

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<v Speaker 4>right to show her feelings, and if she doesn't want

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<v Speaker 4>to be part of a politically staged photo op, she

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<v Speaker 4>doesn't have to smile to make other people feel better

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<v Speaker 4>and not hurt their.

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<v Speaker 1>Feelings anyway, Team, there is just such a bigger, deeper

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<v Speaker 1>conversation to be had around this topic. It's not for

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<v Speaker 1>a Thursday Ask guncut, but we just felt like we

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't let this day go path without talking about what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, and we have been sitting on a conversation around

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<v Speaker 2>the way women are portrayed in media and the way

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<v Speaker 2>that the conversation around women has had when it comes

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<v Speaker 2>to headlines when it comes to paparazzi photos.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like the time is almost calm.

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<v Speaker 2>But anyway, let's get into our ar ask uncut questions.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, guys, A question number one? How does it work

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<v Speaker 1>if you move in with your boyfriend and his friends,

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<v Speaker 1>but then you break up in the middle of your lease?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you split the rent if I were to

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<v Speaker 1>move out? Do all housemates take on a little extra

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<v Speaker 1>rent so that my boyfriend doesn't have to pay double?

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<v Speaker 1>Or do I have to keep paying even if I

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<v Speaker 1>move out? This is such a good question.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if she's wanting to break up with her

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend who she currently lives with, or she's just forward

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<v Speaker 2>thinking and they're going to move in together and take

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<v Speaker 2>on this like, you know, year long lease, and she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>what the fuck do I do?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it's almost like a hypothetical because she's like, how

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<v Speaker 1>does it work if you move in with your boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>and his friends but then you break up in the middle.

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<v Speaker 1>She hasn't said she's done it, but I think she has,

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<v Speaker 1>or she's about to break up with him. Okay, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not a gray area, and it is a gray area.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's not a grey area in that if

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<v Speaker 2>you're the one who wants to break your lease, you

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<v Speaker 2>have to pay for all the breaking the lease stuff, right,

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<v Speaker 2>But if they want to stay in the house, So

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<v Speaker 2>if you say to your boyfriend, hey, I'm I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be with you anymore, circumstances have changed, sayanas

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it is, see later.

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<v Speaker 1>Ba wyoahala, see later, lover.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to be the one to leave and

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<v Speaker 2>you give him that notice and he chooses to stay there,

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<v Speaker 2>then that's kind of on him to figure out how

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<v Speaker 2>to do it. However, if you tell him that you

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<v Speaker 2>need to leave and then there's the situation where they

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<v Speaker 2>are not able to pay rent, then I think that

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<v Speaker 2>you mostly have to contribute to the breaking of the

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<v Speaker 2>lease fees. Like that's like the big one. The only

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<v Speaker 2>thing that I think you do have to do is

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<v Speaker 2>you have to give them some notice. Like you can't

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<v Speaker 2>just be like I'm leaving, I don't love you anymore

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<v Speaker 2>and then stop paying rent.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you can say I'm leaving I don't love you,

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<v Speaker 1>but you still have to pay rent for like three weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's twenty one days. There is never a

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<v Speaker 1>time I want to reiterate this. There's never a time

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<v Speaker 1>or a situation where you have to stay in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>There is always an out. If you don't want it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter because you signed it on a line on

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<v Speaker 1>a lease for twelve months, that doesn't matter. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>morally have to do the right thing by a partner, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and unless if it's an amical breakup, unless there's something

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<v Speaker 1>horrific that has gone down. But if you've just decided

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<v Speaker 1>you've fall down of love and the relationship's not right,

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<v Speaker 1>which it sounds like is exactly what has happened with

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<v Speaker 1>this girl, then yes, this is what I suggest you do.

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<v Speaker 1>I suggest you break up with your partner. You say,

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't think it's working anymore. I'm not happy here,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not comfortable. I love that you're giving her the

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<v Speaker 1>breakup tips as well. I am not just the rental tips.

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<v Speaker 1>I suggest you say it it's not you, it's me.

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<v Speaker 1>See him down. No, So you do the nice thing

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<v Speaker 1>and always, if you can, always do it amicably, like

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<v Speaker 1>I just can't stress that enough. If the situation allows

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<v Speaker 1>for an amical breakup, tell him that you're not happy

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<v Speaker 1>and you're gonna leave. But I would also suggest making

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<v Speaker 1>sure you've got somewhere to go before you do that,

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<v Speaker 1>just in case shit hits the fan. You say, look,

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<v Speaker 1>the normal term is twenty one days three weeks, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna give you that much notice, and I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>pay rent until then. Even if I'm not here. You

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<v Speaker 1>can either move out if you can't afford it. You've

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<v Speaker 1>got plenty of time to find somewhere else if he

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<v Speaker 1>actually wants to move out, meaning that the two of

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<v Speaker 1>you are breaking the lease. The responsibility for the lease

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<v Speaker 1>payment break is yours. You have started that, you have

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<v Speaker 1>instigated that situation, so I would think that that is

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<v Speaker 1>on you.

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<v Speaker 2>The only thing that's like not actually technically correct in

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<v Speaker 2>that information is the twenty one days only applies if

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<v Speaker 2>you're outside your lease terms. So if you're on a

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<v Speaker 2>year lease, if you signed a year lease with someone contractually,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to pay a year's worth of lease or

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<v Speaker 2>you pay a fee, which is a breaking your lease fee.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm pretty sure if you're a real estate agent

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<v Speaker 2>you can come at me if I get this wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>But I've done this with the next boyfriend, so I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like it might still be correct. You have to

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<v Speaker 2>pay all the advertising fees until they get the place

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<v Speaker 2>relisted and they get it refilled, which hopefully you live

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<v Speaker 2>in Sydney, it'll be filled in five days, and you

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<v Speaker 2>pay breaking the lease fee. Then you pay for the

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<v Speaker 2>advertising costs, and it might end up being like two

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<v Speaker 2>months worth of rent or something, but it's an additional

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<v Speaker 2>amount of money. What I can say, though, is is

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<v Speaker 2>not up to the other housemates to throw in more

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<v Speaker 2>money to compensate for your leaving. Absolutely, I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>not up to the housemates to pay for more money.

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<v Speaker 2>But also you're not responsible for what they decide. If

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<v Speaker 2>you say I'm leaving, I'm willing to pay for the

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<v Speaker 2>breaking the lease, I'm willing to pay for the X

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<v Speaker 2>amount of weeks up front, then it's on them. If

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<v Speaker 2>the three of them that are left in the house

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<v Speaker 2>can't afford the rent without you and they all have

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<v Speaker 2>to move, then you pay the break the lease and

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<v Speaker 2>they all have to move. Yes, it's fucking annoying, and

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<v Speaker 2>that it's very they might be really angry at you.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever, Okay, you never gonna see hm again.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's totally not your responsibility, and especially if your

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<v Speaker 2>partner wants to stay there, it's not your responsibility to

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<v Speaker 2>continue to pay for the next, you know, a year

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<v Speaker 2>and a half just because he wants to live in

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<v Speaker 2>the house with his mates. Like, it's a really unfortunate situation.

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<v Speaker 2>It is going to affect a lot of people. But

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<v Speaker 2>there are definitely ways to manage a mitigator breakup. And

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<v Speaker 2>I think especially when you're living with your partner's friends.

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<v Speaker 2>And on top of that what brit said, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's like the most important thing is, like, never

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<v Speaker 2>stay in a relationship that you're unhappy with just because

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<v Speaker 2>you're worried about how you're going to figure out the financials,

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<v Speaker 2>so you to figure out the way that it's going

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<v Speaker 2>to work, Like it's really important to either put some

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<v Speaker 2>savings away or to get yourself sorted before you make

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<v Speaker 2>that decision, so that you're not feeling like you're completely

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<v Speaker 2>destitute or you don't have anywhere to move to, or

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<v Speaker 2>you're trying to pay two rents.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think we cover that? I feel like we

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<v Speaker 1>did get out. Have you ever lived with an ex

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<v Speaker 1>and his friends? No, I've never really lived in a

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<v Speaker 1>group house. When I lived with my ex, I just

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<v Speaker 1>lived with him and I bought a house together. We

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<v Speaker 1>lived there another ex was just he and I overseas. Yeah, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I've never actually lived in a group environment. I wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>like it for me personally. I don't want to be

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<v Speaker 1>in these environments where there's so many people come in

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<v Speaker 1>and going all the time. I like my private place

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<v Speaker 1>with my partner to be my private place.

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<v Speaker 2>My first boyfriend, who I was with for six years,

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<v Speaker 2>we always lived in like group share houses with him,

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<v Speaker 2>But then I had a very similar situation to this

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<v Speaker 2>where we had left our group house. We'd moved in together,

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<v Speaker 2>and we moved into a one bedroom with a tiny

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<v Speaker 2>little like separate study. I guess it was we just

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<v Speaker 2>signed the lease when three weeks after we signed the lease,

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<v Speaker 2>he decided he didn't want to be with me anymore,

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<v Speaker 2>so that I was left with the entire house and

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<v Speaker 2>had to break the lease and everything.

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<v Speaker 1>And but that that goes against everything. We just said

0:21:12.160 --> 0:21:14.040
<v Speaker 1>that she's you're responsibility, That's what I'm saying.

0:21:14.080 --> 0:21:16.280
<v Speaker 2>The responsibility was on me to try and figure it

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<v Speaker 2>out because I was the one left in the house.

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<v Speaker 2>He still paid and contributed to it, but not for

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<v Speaker 2>an entire year. He paid and contributed to it for

0:21:22.680 --> 0:21:25.200
<v Speaker 2>a short period of time, which gave me enough time

0:21:25.280 --> 0:21:27.840
<v Speaker 2>to figure out my next move. But you can't expect

0:21:27.880 --> 0:21:29.920
<v Speaker 2>someone to pay for an entire year if they're not

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<v Speaker 2>living in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely not. Okay, let's get into question number two. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Question number two is a really funny one. We've never

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<v Speaker 1>had a question like this before.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi. There.

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<v Speaker 1>I recently went inside a good friend's house after a

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<v Speaker 1>day out rather than stay for a quick cuppa or

0:21:45.800 --> 0:21:49.560
<v Speaker 1>a beverage before going home. I had to decline and

0:21:49.680 --> 0:21:52.840
<v Speaker 1>make an excuse because her house smelled as though twenty

0:21:53.000 --> 0:21:56.359
<v Speaker 1>elephants had been urinating throughout it for a very long time.

0:21:57.000 --> 0:22:01.159
<v Speaker 1>Jesus Christ, I know. So we walked in. The house stunk.

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<v Speaker 1>She said nothing. The last time I went there it

0:22:04.200 --> 0:22:06.680
<v Speaker 1>did not smell at all. It was just pretty normal.

0:22:06.880 --> 0:22:10.280
<v Speaker 1>The stench was gag worthy. My question is do I

0:22:10.440 --> 0:22:13.080
<v Speaker 1>say to my friend, what the fuck? Why does your

0:22:13.119 --> 0:22:15.879
<v Speaker 1>house wreak of piss? And just be straight up? I

0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:17.920
<v Speaker 1>don't want to go back inside there ever? Again, that

0:22:18.119 --> 0:22:20.879
<v Speaker 1>is how bad it smelled. I just don't understand, so

0:22:21.240 --> 0:22:24.240
<v Speaker 1>do I say something? I did notice that she had

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<v Speaker 1>birds in a cage inside. I'm not even sure if

0:22:27.400 --> 0:22:28.920
<v Speaker 1>they were there the last time I went there, but

0:22:29.080 --> 0:22:33.280
<v Speaker 1>maybe it's the birds. I'm absolutely repulsed. Can I tell

0:22:33.359 --> 0:22:35.600
<v Speaker 1>my friend that her house absolutely stinks to the point

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<v Speaker 1>that no one wants to come over, or do I

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<v Speaker 1>just not go back and pretend it didn't happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, it's absolutely the birds. It's one hundred

0:22:41.280 --> 0:22:43.320
<v Speaker 2>percent of gotta be the birds. Yeah, your friend's not

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<v Speaker 2>just pissing in the corner.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the birds. I think you can't tell her now. No,

0:22:47.359 --> 0:22:48.600
<v Speaker 1>you had to tell her when you were there.

0:22:48.960 --> 0:22:51.720
<v Speaker 2>You had to when teller, I feel like it's when

0:22:51.760 --> 0:22:53.400
<v Speaker 2>you walk into the house, You're like, whoa, you really

0:22:53.440 --> 0:22:56.120
<v Speaker 2>need to change the paper in the bird's cage or whatever.

0:22:56.560 --> 0:22:58.239
<v Speaker 2>I used to have a cat, and I like, if

0:22:58.280 --> 0:23:00.359
<v Speaker 2>you didn't clean the kitty litter out frequently enough, it

0:23:00.400 --> 0:23:02.760
<v Speaker 2>would stink. My friends would always tell me. They'd be like,

0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:04.440
<v Speaker 2>you need to clean that kitty litter, and I was like, yeah,

0:23:04.440 --> 0:23:06.400
<v Speaker 2>I do. I'm fucking lazy and I shouldn't have a cat.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, tell her. And the reason I say tell

0:23:08.320 --> 0:23:10.720
<v Speaker 1>her is because your first line of this question was

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<v Speaker 1>I recently went inside a good friend's house. If she's

0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:16.320
<v Speaker 1>a good friend like Laura, if I walked inside your

0:23:16.440 --> 0:23:19.680
<v Speaker 1>house and it's stunk of shit, of piers. I feel

0:23:19.720 --> 0:23:21.680
<v Speaker 1>like you have walked inside my house and it's stunk

0:23:21.760 --> 0:23:25.040
<v Speaker 1>of shit before, Like I would keep both in nappies.

0:23:25.119 --> 0:23:27.359
<v Speaker 1>You don't have to be true, but I mean, I

0:23:27.400 --> 0:23:30.399
<v Speaker 1>guess because we're good friends, i'd be like, whoa the

0:23:30.680 --> 0:23:33.440
<v Speaker 1>fuck is that? Spell like saying die in here. I

0:23:33.520 --> 0:23:35.200
<v Speaker 1>think he can say that. Then I think he could

0:23:35.200 --> 0:23:36.719
<v Speaker 1>walk over to the bird cage and be like, oh

0:23:36.760 --> 0:23:38.920
<v Speaker 1>my gosh, girl, it's the birds. You need to change

0:23:39.000 --> 0:23:41.320
<v Speaker 1>that paper. I think you just say that, but you

0:23:41.359 --> 0:23:42.679
<v Speaker 1>don't have to say I'm never coming over to your

0:23:42.680 --> 0:23:45.440
<v Speaker 1>house again. If it smells like this, maybe she's like

0:23:45.640 --> 0:23:47.600
<v Speaker 1>really used to the smell because she lives in at

0:23:47.600 --> 0:23:49.679
<v Speaker 1>twenty four seven, and she doesn't actually know that it's

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<v Speaker 1>that bad.

0:23:50.440 --> 0:23:52.720
<v Speaker 2>That's so bad, though, imagine if you just lived in

0:23:52.800 --> 0:23:55.000
<v Speaker 2>the stench of bird you ryan, and you didn't even know.

0:23:55.400 --> 0:23:58.080
<v Speaker 1>Well, evidently she's that's what she's doing. Maybe she had

0:23:58.160 --> 0:24:00.040
<v Speaker 1>COVID and she lost her smell and taste. Maybe she

0:24:00.080 --> 0:24:01.119
<v Speaker 1>doesn't know how bad it is.

0:24:01.400 --> 0:24:03.800
<v Speaker 2>With the numbers that are happening right now, it's very

0:24:03.840 --> 0:24:05.600
<v Speaker 2>fucking possible. But also I think On top of this,

0:24:05.680 --> 0:24:07.359
<v Speaker 2>if you've been to her house before and it doesn't

0:24:07.400 --> 0:24:10.480
<v Speaker 2>normally smell like that, it's not as big a deal.

0:24:11.000 --> 0:24:13.400
<v Speaker 1>I think, don't rule out ever going there again.

0:24:13.560 --> 0:24:16.680
<v Speaker 2>Maybe she shun't. Yeah, like, go there again and see

0:24:17.000 --> 0:24:19.320
<v Speaker 2>and if it is just as bad, be like, well, babe,

0:24:19.400 --> 0:24:21.359
<v Speaker 2>something really smells in this house. I don't know if

0:24:21.400 --> 0:24:23.320
<v Speaker 2>you can smell it. Let's figure out what it is

0:24:23.720 --> 0:24:25.800
<v Speaker 2>and do it as though you're helping her out. But

0:24:26.119 --> 0:24:27.879
<v Speaker 2>to me, it just sounds like she's, you know, a

0:24:27.920 --> 0:24:30.639
<v Speaker 2>little bit lazy when it comes to cleaning up the birdcage.

0:24:30.680 --> 0:24:32.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, or maybe walk in and just be like, well,

0:24:32.440 --> 0:24:34.120
<v Speaker 1>you need to open a window, get some fresh air

0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.920
<v Speaker 1>in there, or just like send her an anonymous gift

0:24:36.960 --> 0:24:39.159
<v Speaker 1>of like incense or a diffuser or something just like

0:24:39.280 --> 0:24:40.280
<v Speaker 1>knock and run at the door.

0:24:40.400 --> 0:24:42.560
<v Speaker 2>Maybe the less passive aggressive ones. I mean, I just

0:24:42.600 --> 0:24:44.280
<v Speaker 2>think like with all these sorts of things, things that

0:24:44.320 --> 0:24:46.840
<v Speaker 2>are uncomfortable, usually it makes us more uncomfortable than it

0:24:46.840 --> 0:24:48.760
<v Speaker 2>makes the other person. Like if you've got shit in

0:24:48.800 --> 0:24:51.240
<v Speaker 2>your teeth, I would rather than someone tell me that

0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:54.080
<v Speaker 2>they've got stuff in my teeth. Anyone would any strangers,

0:24:54.280 --> 0:24:57.080
<v Speaker 2>anyone would rather be told than to have someone stand

0:24:57.160 --> 0:24:59.040
<v Speaker 2>there and stare at them and just like not tell

0:24:59.080 --> 0:25:01.280
<v Speaker 2>them one hundred per The worst thing, you know, when

0:25:01.280 --> 0:25:03.680
<v Speaker 2>you've been talking to somebody and you walk home, You

0:25:03.800 --> 0:25:05.359
<v Speaker 2>walk in, look in the mirror and you're like, what

0:25:05.480 --> 0:25:06.840
<v Speaker 2>the fuck, I've got something on my face, I've got

0:25:06.880 --> 0:25:08.280
<v Speaker 2>burp in my face, I got something in my teeth.

0:25:08.280 --> 0:25:11.879
<v Speaker 1>Why how embarrassing. You would much rather someone said to

0:25:11.920 --> 0:25:13.320
<v Speaker 1>you in the middle of a conversation or you've just

0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:14.959
<v Speaker 1>got something there and you're like, oh, thanks, and then

0:25:15.000 --> 0:25:17.639
<v Speaker 1>you continue the conversation, and that's not embarrassing. That is

0:25:17.840 --> 0:25:21.200
<v Speaker 1>not awkward. It's more awkward to ignore the fact. Go home,

0:25:21.240 --> 0:25:21.560
<v Speaker 1>and then you.

0:25:21.680 --> 0:25:23.760
<v Speaker 2>Realize sometimes like when people have things in their teeth

0:25:23.760 --> 0:25:25.359
<v Speaker 2>though I just don't like I notice it and I

0:25:25.440 --> 0:25:27.119
<v Speaker 2>clock it, but I like, I don't care about it,

0:25:27.240 --> 0:25:28.520
<v Speaker 2>Like I don't care that they have something caught in

0:25:28.520 --> 0:25:29.440
<v Speaker 2>their teeth, so I don't.

0:25:29.240 --> 0:25:30.200
<v Speaker 1>Tell them, so I forget.

0:25:30.320 --> 0:25:32.080
<v Speaker 2>And then they're like, dude, you've just been talking to

0:25:32.119 --> 0:25:33.040
<v Speaker 2>me and I had this in my teeth, and I

0:25:33.119 --> 0:25:35.400
<v Speaker 2>was like, yeah, I know. I just genuinely didn't care. Sorry,

0:25:35.520 --> 0:25:36.840
<v Speaker 2>like I'm and I don't mean.

0:25:36.800 --> 0:25:38.360
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't care as in like, well, now I'm

0:25:38.400 --> 0:25:39.080
<v Speaker 1>never gonna trust you.

0:25:39.200 --> 0:25:42.080
<v Speaker 2>I just mean, like it factors so far down on

0:25:42.160 --> 0:25:43.840
<v Speaker 2>the things that I think is like a worry, like

0:25:43.920 --> 0:25:45.720
<v Speaker 2>I noticed it, but like I was like, oh, it's fine.

0:25:45.720 --> 0:25:48.399
<v Speaker 1>It's just if I had a whole piece of kale

0:25:48.480 --> 0:25:50.320
<v Speaker 1>hanging out of my front teeth, I would expect you

0:25:50.359 --> 0:25:52.240
<v Speaker 1>to do I expect you don't. Okay.

0:25:52.280 --> 0:25:54.280
<v Speaker 2>But here's the other question, all right, And I think

0:25:54.320 --> 0:25:56.760
<v Speaker 2>that this might be like a good comparison for this question.

0:25:57.560 --> 0:26:01.800
<v Speaker 2>If your friend, your good friend had bad bo, would

0:26:01.840 --> 0:26:02.360
<v Speaker 2>you tell them?

0:26:03.040 --> 0:26:04.240
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I haven't told you yet.

0:26:04.640 --> 0:26:06.240
<v Speaker 2>Usually I'm not that walks in here and I'm like,

0:26:06.480 --> 0:26:09.359
<v Speaker 2>I have VEO, where's your jodorant?

0:26:09.400 --> 0:26:10.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you know where it is? I was like,

0:26:11.000 --> 0:26:13.159
<v Speaker 1>just gon't get but would you tell them? Like if

0:26:13.200 --> 0:26:14.960
<v Speaker 1>you came to my house and you had bad BO?

0:26:15.320 --> 0:26:16.800
<v Speaker 1>I think I would tell you. Yeah, And I think

0:26:16.840 --> 0:26:20.240
<v Speaker 1>that's fine. Chances that I probably know, I'd probably like, yeah,

0:26:20.280 --> 0:26:22.200
<v Speaker 1>I remember a run. I think it's different if it's

0:26:22.200 --> 0:26:22.720
<v Speaker 1>a stranger.

0:26:22.720 --> 0:26:24.520
<v Speaker 2>I think there's some things when it comes to personal

0:26:24.600 --> 0:26:27.879
<v Speaker 2>hygiene and whatnot, like it's not your responsibility to impart

0:26:27.960 --> 0:26:30.160
<v Speaker 2>that knowledge on someone who you don't have a close

0:26:30.240 --> 0:26:32.520
<v Speaker 2>connection with or friendship with. But if it's a friend,

0:26:32.640 --> 0:26:35.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't think there should be the apprehension to say, like, oh, hey, Haun,

0:26:35.960 --> 0:26:37.080
<v Speaker 2>you should put on some deodorant.

0:26:37.119 --> 0:26:38.960
<v Speaker 1>I would know. I wouldn't say it if it was

0:26:39.320 --> 0:26:41.320
<v Speaker 1>once off. If like, if you just came in and

0:26:41.400 --> 0:26:44.000
<v Speaker 1>you smell that day, I'd be like, really bad, It

0:26:44.080 --> 0:26:45.959
<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter. I'd be actually had a tough day. I'll

0:26:46.040 --> 0:26:49.159
<v Speaker 1>let us, I'll let her fly. But if it was

0:26:49.240 --> 0:26:51.560
<v Speaker 1>actually a thing that was affecting your life and your

0:26:51.560 --> 0:26:53.280
<v Speaker 1>personal hygiene, if every time I was around you you

0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:55.480
<v Speaker 1>stunk and you didn't know, I would say something. I'd

0:26:55.520 --> 0:26:57.880
<v Speaker 1>be like you, like, FYI you probably need to change

0:26:57.920 --> 0:26:59.760
<v Speaker 1>your genderant because you know that's also a thing. You know,

0:26:59.880 --> 0:27:02.320
<v Speaker 1>like you get used to a type of Jyoda and

0:27:02.359 --> 0:27:03.560
<v Speaker 1>then all of a sudden you feel like it doesn't

0:27:03.560 --> 0:27:05.399
<v Speaker 1>work anymore and you've got to change brands. Oh you

0:27:05.440 --> 0:27:07.080
<v Speaker 1>got to go from a roll onto a spray. Like

0:27:07.160 --> 0:27:09.600
<v Speaker 1>it's always the natural ones that get you. You think

0:27:09.640 --> 0:27:13.520
<v Speaker 1>that there work. I don't he need some maliminium in

0:27:13.600 --> 0:27:16.640
<v Speaker 1>your skin. You need to clog that sit in a botox.

0:27:16.640 --> 0:27:19.840
<v Speaker 1>You're under arm let's get into the next question. Okay,

0:27:19.920 --> 0:27:22.600
<v Speaker 1>question number three, this one, I feel like, Laura, you

0:27:22.680 --> 0:27:24.440
<v Speaker 1>are going and coming home. It's going to be pretty

0:27:24.640 --> 0:27:29.159
<v Speaker 1>easy to answer. Girls, How do I say I love you?

0:27:29.640 --> 0:27:31.639
<v Speaker 1>I have been with my partner over a year now

0:27:31.720 --> 0:27:34.000
<v Speaker 1>and we've never said I love you, And trust me,

0:27:34.240 --> 0:27:36.680
<v Speaker 1>I do love him. I think he whispered it during

0:27:36.840 --> 0:27:39.960
<v Speaker 1>sex ones, but with my with my poor hearing, I

0:27:40.160 --> 0:27:42.400
<v Speaker 1>questioned it and I was like, what did you to say?

0:27:43.200 --> 0:27:46.760
<v Speaker 1>But he didn't answer, does I love you during sex

0:27:46.920 --> 0:27:49.520
<v Speaker 1>count I can't even be sure it happened. I feel

0:27:49.560 --> 0:27:51.639
<v Speaker 1>like we've waited so long to say it, and now

0:27:51.720 --> 0:27:55.080
<v Speaker 1>it's just too awkward. I'm introverted, so I can't just

0:27:55.200 --> 0:27:59.720
<v Speaker 1>blurt it out. Oh bless, it's fucking hard. I remember

0:27:59.720 --> 0:28:01.399
<v Speaker 1>the first I ever told someone I love them. I

0:28:01.440 --> 0:28:02.520
<v Speaker 1>was like, I love you? How told you?

0:28:03.160 --> 0:28:03.520
<v Speaker 2>I old you?

0:28:03.680 --> 0:28:06.639
<v Speaker 1>Think of my twenties. I remember when one of my

0:28:06.680 --> 0:28:09.399
<v Speaker 1>boyfriends said I love you really. It was probably like

0:28:09.600 --> 0:28:11.720
<v Speaker 1>five weeks in and I didn't love him. I remember

0:28:11.800 --> 0:28:15.080
<v Speaker 1>with it. I remember, like I remember vividly, was standing

0:28:15.119 --> 0:28:16.719
<v Speaker 1>out the front of my house. He was driving back

0:28:16.760 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 1>to Sydney. Did you say it back? He said? All right,

0:28:19.920 --> 0:28:21.399
<v Speaker 1>well I'll let you know when I get back. And

0:28:21.480 --> 0:28:23.880
<v Speaker 1>I said, okay, drive safe and he said I love

0:28:23.960 --> 0:28:28.320
<v Speaker 1>you and I said thank you. It's like you're on

0:28:28.359 --> 0:28:30.359
<v Speaker 1>the Bachelor all over again. I was like thank you.

0:28:30.560 --> 0:28:32.200
<v Speaker 1>And then it was like I just wanted to sink

0:28:32.240 --> 0:28:34.120
<v Speaker 1>into the ground and I was like, well, safe, drive

0:28:34.280 --> 0:28:37.119
<v Speaker 1>and just like ran inside because I was put on

0:28:37.200 --> 0:28:39.000
<v Speaker 1>the spot and I didn't feel it. But having said that,

0:28:39.880 --> 0:28:42.600
<v Speaker 1>Jordan told me he loved me probably the same amount

0:28:42.600 --> 0:28:45.200
<v Speaker 1>of time in probably only four or five weeks, and

0:28:45.600 --> 0:28:48.120
<v Speaker 1>I reciprocated it because I was in a different place

0:28:48.160 --> 0:28:50.480
<v Speaker 1>and I felt it. I really feel for you to

0:28:50.560 --> 0:28:52.120
<v Speaker 1>have been a year deep with your partner that you

0:28:52.200 --> 0:28:53.800
<v Speaker 1>love and you feel like you can't say it, but

0:28:53.920 --> 0:28:57.360
<v Speaker 1>I can guarantee you if you say it, he's gonna

0:28:57.360 --> 0:28:59.040
<v Speaker 1>say it back. Like you were together for a year,

0:28:59.040 --> 0:29:01.520
<v Speaker 1>you think he's already and you love him. For me,

0:29:02.240 --> 0:29:03.920
<v Speaker 1>when I'm in love, I want to shout it from

0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:05.800
<v Speaker 1>the rooftops and I want to tell my partner. I

0:29:06.120 --> 0:29:07.880
<v Speaker 1>so she wants to shout it on a podcast, But

0:29:08.040 --> 0:29:10.400
<v Speaker 1>I would say it. Once I'm at that point and

0:29:10.440 --> 0:29:12.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying I love you, I would say it twenty

0:29:12.520 --> 0:29:15.120
<v Speaker 1>times a day, and I don't want it to lose meaning.

0:29:15.200 --> 0:29:17.400
<v Speaker 1>But i'd be like, hey, just going for a walk,

0:29:17.400 --> 0:29:18.880
<v Speaker 1>I'll be back, see and love you. Like I would

0:29:18.920 --> 0:29:20.840
<v Speaker 1>just throw it, and at the start it's obviously way

0:29:20.920 --> 0:29:23.280
<v Speaker 1>more meaningful. You have your moment, and I think for

0:29:23.400 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 1>you you're a year deep. Maybe next time after you

0:29:26.560 --> 0:29:28.560
<v Speaker 1>have sex, if you don't want to blurt it out,

0:29:28.600 --> 0:29:30.560
<v Speaker 1>which is what you've said, maybe when you're having your

0:29:30.560 --> 0:29:33.480
<v Speaker 1>moment in bed or you're having a cuddle, you could

0:29:33.680 --> 0:29:37.000
<v Speaker 1>just say something like there's something I wanted to tell

0:29:37.000 --> 0:29:38.280
<v Speaker 1>you for a long time. He's going to know what

0:29:38.360 --> 0:29:40.880
<v Speaker 1>it is. You can ease into the conversation. Do you

0:29:40.960 --> 0:29:42.719
<v Speaker 1>think it should be a sex thing? Though? I think

0:29:42.760 --> 0:29:43.800
<v Speaker 1>that makes it easn to be.

0:29:44.080 --> 0:29:46.040
<v Speaker 2>I feel like saying I love you for the first

0:29:46.120 --> 0:29:49.760
<v Speaker 2>time during sex, like it's powerful one hundred percent. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like it's so intimate and intense. But for an introvert,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it's too intense.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you don't do midpump but like pump up sex

0:29:57.640 --> 0:30:01.280
<v Speaker 1>love you come in love you whilst you're staring in

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<v Speaker 1>the eyes. But even like the staring in their eyes

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<v Speaker 1>and the whispering of like I love you. No, it's

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<v Speaker 1>the after where you're just in bed, hanging out and

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<v Speaker 1>cuddling and you're having that moment the endorphins are high,

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<v Speaker 1>like the love is high, the feelings are high, you're close,

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<v Speaker 1>it's intimate. I think that's when you say it. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's when you'd be more comfortable. You're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be stuck in the dishwasher and be like, hey babe,

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<v Speaker 1>pass me that play. Love you well? Do you have

0:30:20.400 --> 0:30:22.840
<v Speaker 1>a better moment? One hundred percent? It's a better moment,

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<v Speaker 1>do you Okay? Is it weird?

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<v Speaker 2>Just like if you're sitting on the couch having a

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<v Speaker 2>cuddle or something, being more like, there's something I've been

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about and I've wanted to say it to you

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<v Speaker 2>for a long time, but I feel like we kind

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<v Speaker 2>of missed the moment a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, see you just said literally word for what I said.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think the better point to do it is

0:30:41.000 --> 0:30:43.080
<v Speaker 1>when the endorphins are high and you're cuddling after sex

0:30:43.120 --> 0:30:45.280
<v Speaker 1>than when you're on the lounge like that's what I think.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that that for me is the moment where

0:30:47.600 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 1>you're like, you do feel that connection, You've just had

0:30:50.520 --> 0:30:53.240
<v Speaker 1>a really close, intimate moment, but it's not happening anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>You chill, everyone's relax. I just think it's a really

0:30:56.400 --> 0:30:58.680
<v Speaker 1>nice vibe, and for an introvert, I feel like that's

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<v Speaker 1>when it's going to be easier.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I mean, Okay, you feel like we've

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<v Speaker 2>not given you any advice on this. We take actually

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<v Speaker 2>also take Bing's advice because I've not said I love

0:31:07.800 --> 0:31:09.400
<v Speaker 2>you for the first time for a long time, and

0:31:09.480 --> 0:31:11.040
<v Speaker 2>when I did say it to Matt, it was after

0:31:11.120 --> 0:31:13.520
<v Speaker 2>you said it to me on The Bachelor, on the show.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that sometimes we can get in our heads

0:31:15.520 --> 0:31:17.560
<v Speaker 2>about saying I love you, and we can build it

0:31:17.720 --> 0:31:21.000
<v Speaker 2>up to be a really frightening thing, and I think

0:31:21.320 --> 0:31:24.080
<v Speaker 2>sometimes step away from what those words are. They're very meaningful,

0:31:24.320 --> 0:31:27.320
<v Speaker 2>they're very important. But if your feelings are already there,

0:31:27.480 --> 0:31:29.800
<v Speaker 2>if you guys, have already made those commitments in all

0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:32.000
<v Speaker 2>your actions and in all the other ways that you

0:31:32.160 --> 0:31:35.200
<v Speaker 2>express that you love each other, I think that the

0:31:35.400 --> 0:31:36.800
<v Speaker 2>more that you put it off and the more that

0:31:36.840 --> 0:31:39.040
<v Speaker 2>you stress about it, the harder it's going to be.

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<v Speaker 2>The first time you say it's going to be the

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<v Speaker 2>most awkward and the most like exhilarating and then it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to get easier and easier.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's a beautiful thing. If you feel it, say it.

0:31:48.280 --> 0:31:51.720
<v Speaker 1>But it is like love is a beauty, it is such.

0:31:51.800 --> 0:31:54.120
<v Speaker 1>It's the love is the best feeling in like the

0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:57.080
<v Speaker 1>entire world. And I can't imagine what it's like for

0:31:57.160 --> 0:32:00.680
<v Speaker 1>you to have felt that bursting from you for a year. Yeah, okay,

0:32:00.720 --> 0:32:02.840
<v Speaker 1>and I feel like you can express it. Does she

0:32:02.960 --> 0:32:05.360
<v Speaker 1>make eye contact at the time? I mean, you don't

0:32:05.600 --> 0:32:07.240
<v Speaker 1>have to if you're an introvert, and that's hard. The

0:32:07.320 --> 0:32:09.200
<v Speaker 1>other thing you can do is write him a love

0:32:09.280 --> 0:32:11.440
<v Speaker 1>note if you want, but give it to him probably

0:32:11.520 --> 0:32:13.719
<v Speaker 1>when you're still there to talk about because he can

0:32:13.800 --> 0:32:16.040
<v Speaker 1>read it. Maybe he can put it down on paper.

0:32:16.120 --> 0:32:17.400
<v Speaker 1>He can read it, and he'll look up at you

0:32:17.480 --> 0:32:19.840
<v Speaker 1>and he'll say something like, oh my gosh, really, and

0:32:19.920 --> 0:32:21.520
<v Speaker 1>then it takes the stress away. But there are so

0:32:21.640 --> 0:32:22.400
<v Speaker 1>many different ways.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you ever send it in a text message first

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<v Speaker 2>and be like that, this is like never break up

0:32:28.160 --> 0:32:29.720
<v Speaker 2>with someone, never tell them I love you. Would you

0:32:29.840 --> 0:32:32.120
<v Speaker 2>send a text message first? Or ever be like, Hey,

0:32:32.280 --> 0:32:33.920
<v Speaker 2>I've been thinking about this for a while and I've

0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:35.000
<v Speaker 2>found it really hard to say it.

0:32:35.120 --> 0:32:37.080
<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to send it to you. I really

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<v Speaker 1>love you. I mean technically, the first time Jordan and

0:32:41.080 --> 0:32:43.840
<v Speaker 1>I had said it to each other was when I

0:32:44.040 --> 0:32:47.480
<v Speaker 1>had told my really really good friend, my best friend,

0:32:47.560 --> 0:32:49.800
<v Speaker 1>I had messaged him and said, he was like, how

0:32:49.920 --> 0:32:51.600
<v Speaker 1>is everything going? And I messaged him and I said,

0:32:52.240 --> 0:32:55.080
<v Speaker 1>I love him, like I'm in love with him. Jordan

0:32:55.200 --> 0:32:57.840
<v Speaker 1>saw that text and that is what opened our conversation.

0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:00.040
<v Speaker 1>He saw the text of me saying that I I

0:33:00.120 --> 0:33:02.120
<v Speaker 1>was in love with him, and then that opened the conversation.

0:33:02.280 --> 0:33:05.360
<v Speaker 1>But technically he said it first. From that, I would

0:33:05.440 --> 0:33:08.320
<v Speaker 1>not advise texting your partner of a year saying you

0:33:08.400 --> 0:33:10.320
<v Speaker 1>love him for the first time. I think you guys

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:12.600
<v Speaker 1>are passed that. I think that it's a beautiful thing,

0:33:12.680 --> 0:33:15.120
<v Speaker 1>and I think you're overthinking it now. Like Laura said,

0:33:15.160 --> 0:33:17.760
<v Speaker 1>you've waited a year the anticipation and something gonna get worse.

0:33:17.800 --> 0:33:19.560
<v Speaker 1>Do not wait another year, Like you need to pull

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<v Speaker 1>that trigger totally.

0:33:21.040 --> 0:33:23.160
<v Speaker 2>And I think you'll be so surprised, like he'll say

0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:25.440
<v Speaker 2>it back and you'll have a beautiful moment and then

0:33:25.440 --> 0:33:26.960
<v Speaker 2>you say it all the time, and then you'll have

0:33:27.040 --> 0:33:28.880
<v Speaker 2>sex again if you had just had sex, or maybe

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:29.480
<v Speaker 2>you'll have it again.

0:33:29.640 --> 0:33:30.200
<v Speaker 1>For the first time.

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<v Speaker 2>Who fucking knows, but it's gonna be great. I do

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<v Speaker 2>empathize with this though, because I do know and understand

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<v Speaker 2>how nerve wracking it is the first time you say it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think it's nerve racking because you're scared that

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<v Speaker 2>they're not going to say it back.

0:33:41.920 --> 0:33:43.920
<v Speaker 1>That's where the nerves come from. The nerves come from

0:33:43.960 --> 0:33:45.880
<v Speaker 1>in the early days when you're like, what if they're

0:33:45.960 --> 0:33:48.280
<v Speaker 1>not there yet? But God, you know he's there, Like

0:33:48.400 --> 0:33:50.360
<v Speaker 1>he is there for you so that you've got nothing

0:33:50.400 --> 0:33:53.320
<v Speaker 1>to worry about all the trigger. But also tell us

0:33:53.360 --> 0:33:55.800
<v Speaker 1>how that all went as well. Tell us if you

0:33:55.840 --> 0:33:56.920
<v Speaker 1>did at the end of sex or if you did

0:33:56.920 --> 0:33:59.440
<v Speaker 1>it on the lounge. We want to know who's worked better. Anyway, guys,

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