WEBVTT - How To Make Sure Your Ex Never Gets Over You 💔 0:00:01.480 --> 0:00:03.520 Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms. 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:09.240 This is the Flex and Frooms catch Up podcast. I'm 0:00:09.280 --> 0:00:12.319 sitting here in the flexing Froom studio and next to 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.120 me is a Dell PC. Have I seen a PC 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:19.120 since high school? No? I haven't. Okay, and this dell 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:22.800 has blood or some other red substance splattered on it. 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:26.200 As you know, I'm living in Squala Mansion. However, when 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:28.680 I come to my place of employment, I want it 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:32.480 to be clean, okay, and it's not. So Yeah, that's 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:33.159 what's happening. 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:36.680 Everyone's like free crying for help and who's gonna say 0:00:36.920 --> 0:00:40.080 She's like, Hello, I'm living in Squaler mansion. It's not 0:00:40.159 --> 0:00:43.400 looking good. Bran need a What do you need babe? 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:44.160 You want to check? 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:48.839 Nah? I want to learn how to spend money on myself. 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:54.120 So yeah, watch this space more anden do to massages day. 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:55.320 I'm gonna get one this week. 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:55.920 Do that. 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:56.880 I'm just too busy. 0:00:58.560 --> 0:00:59.800 Shut up somehow I disagree. 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:02.800 That's one of the podcasts. 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:06.160 Keeter Flex and Fromes Flex and Firms. One of the 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.840 greatest skills you can learn as someone who uses the Internet, 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:13.400 namely social media, namely TikTok is to be discerning. I 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.480 feel like a lot of young people wouldn't think they 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:18.320 have a problem with fake news up until the creation 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.319 of TikTok, because on Facebook, it's really quite easy to 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:24.040 see when an article wasn't reputable or when the source 0:01:24.080 --> 0:01:26.440 wasn't reputable when it was opinion piece versus an actual, 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:30.400 you know, actual news story. But on TikTok, there's something 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:33.160 about the way that people speak with so much authority 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:36.600 and certainty and things they've never experienced, or when they 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:40.720 frame their personal experience as gold standards, flex and from 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:43.119 show exactly where you find yourself up and to think, wait, 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:47.720 do I think that? Or is this right? In comes 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:51.120 this TikTok creator called Dan Henchel, who has this amazing 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:55.600 ability to, I guess, give us the most manipulative but 0:01:55.760 --> 0:02:01.280 somehow helpful dating advice. I recommend everybody follow him now 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:05.840 before we listen to what he has to say. Peah, 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:07.200 play the tape, DJs. 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:09.079 This is how I make sure my exes never get 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:11.440 over me. At the beginning of every relationship, I buy 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:14.080 a big pack of birthday candles. Every time we share 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:17.000 a happy moment together, I secretly blow one out. It's 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:20.120 birthday candles. Blowing out birthday candles is a distinct smell 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:23.120 that everyone recognizes. By conditioning them to associate this smell 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:25.920 with our relationship every birthday they celebrate in the future, 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.040 when they blow out the candles, they'll think about me. 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:37.200 That is powerful magnetic perspective manipulation technique that could possibly 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:38.320 be used in the CIA. 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:40.200 This is the kind of manipulation. I want to see 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:43.160 none of that everyday good morning texts? You know you 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:46.359 know what they say when you're trying to instill some 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:49.840 good behavior into someone, No, when you're trying to instill 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:53.000 behavior into someone that you want, or when you're trying 0:02:53.040 --> 0:02:55.280 to form an attachment with someone in an early stage 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:57.560 where the relationship is quite tumultuous and you don't know 0:02:57.560 --> 0:03:00.120 how they feel. You need to create a habit and 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.359 then break it. So let's say you get into the 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.920 habit of always talking six pm every day, do that 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:08.240 consistently for four days, and then don't reach out for 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:12.520 five days. WHOA, They'll be yearning for you. They'll be like, 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:15.440 what happened? Did I do something wrong? I'm really missing them? 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.000 And when you come back in, you start the habit 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:22.360 again like nothing changed. That is low level manipulation. This 0:03:22.560 --> 0:03:24.200 stuff incredible. 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:28.519 This is what we need to be working towards as women. 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.120 In the world, as women in STEM, as women in 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.600 STEM and media. This is the level of manipulation we 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:36.240 need to get to because we've been bamboozled for too long. 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:40.560 We need to start making sure these things work for us, 0:03:40.560 --> 0:03:43.520 not against us. So clinical trial, we're gonna see birthday 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:48.320 Kendles salt out nationwide and for good reason. If anybody 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:50.680 tries it, let me know I'm not above it for 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:53.800 science and then for the plot neither. 0:03:53.800 --> 0:04:00.640 Thru meno through me boo, mummy, let smile. Listening to 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:04.320 flex and rooms, I'm kata Flexi. I'm now going to 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:06.120 tell you how to deal with the know it all. 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:09.920 We all have no it alls in our life and 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:11.560 it's really important to know how to deal with them, 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:12.560 isn't that right, Brookie? 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.000 Yeah you ah. 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:18.400 I'm getting bullied in the studio anyway. You told us 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:20.560 what was your technique the other day about saying you're right? 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:24.520 So when somebody tells you something that you already know, 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:29.760 a fact, a new story, instead of saying I know 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:33.279 it is polite and customary to say you're right. That 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.480 did happen. You're right, I did see that. You're right, 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:37.320 that was such a good party. You're right. I love 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:42.400 that restaurant. I know, though it is factually correct, is impolite? 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.200 I love this. It's a little tiny loophole that you 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:48.039 just put in the back pocket of conversation. I've taken 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:50.680 a one step further, obviously and consulted Wiki House the 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:54.560 one up. You're right, You're right, and I'm going to 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:55.880 tell you how to deal with the know it all. 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:57.640 This is super important. We've got no it alls all 0:04:57.680 --> 0:04:59.880 over offices all over Australia and they need to be 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:03.760 dealt with appropriately, preferably not using HR because HR is 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:06.600 not real and they have the company's best interest at heart. 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:09.600 Just remember that. Okay, here are a few techniques when 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:12.320 you're dealing with a nod all. Number one, try to 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:15.600 be understanding. You have to empathize because whether or not 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:18.960 it's a personality disorder, the need for recess, you've admiration 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:22.480 or arrogance, nod ales have issues that have to be addressed. 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:29.920 So you just need to empathize with nodles. Okay, avoid 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:32.280 the impulsive fight or flight response because you need to 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:37.520 understand that differences between people will always exist. Also, the 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:40.040 route to all understanding is respect, so you need to 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.080 show them respect when perhaps they're not showing it to you, 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:45.360 which is obviously difficult. Number two, you must think first 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:48.160 before responding, so as you know, we maybe want to 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:50.440 say I know, I know, so you can think. You 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:53.160 can deploy or your right straight away, or you can 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:55.200 just take a seat and have a think. It's okay 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:57.880 if people think you move slowly, except it because it's 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:03.719 better than aggravating situation. Typically, taking time to think about 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:06.800 the situation might even in greet might even increase your 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:09.760 confidence in dealing with somebody who is a know it all. 0:06:10.360 --> 0:06:13.320 So when you think prevents saying stupid things that destroy friendships, 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:17.080 start fights, or create awkward situations, it does nothing to 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.400 solve your issues with a know it all. And also 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:22.000 being thoughtful gets you more respect. It's like people who 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:25.920 don't talk much actually come across smarter and cooler. Yeah, 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:30.280 I can't relate, and number three lead by example. 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:33.080 They should have started with that one. 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:39.040 Loops. See, don't be afraid to say I don't know 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.640 around and know it all? Well, what's happening with my voice? 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:43.599 Can you hear that yeah, you know when you sometimes 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:47.000 eat chocolate and then it like changes your vocal cords. 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.359 What's going on? 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:49.960 And I'm gonna keep it because I think it sounds cool. 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:51.760 It's sounding slimmy. 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:56.200 Is that have some water, babe? I will say, saying 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:59.520 I don't know. You can also build trust by demonstrating openness, vulnerability, 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:01.800 and honesty. However, I disagree with that point. I think 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:05.080 you should not say I don't know around and all. 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:06.000 That feels like a trap. 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:07.920 I got to just hit them with a bit of 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:09.320 kindness and respect. 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:11.560 I will say. One thing that doesn't get brought up 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:13.720 a lot when you're dealing with someone that you don't 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:16.960 want to deal with is just not having the conversation. 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:21.120 I used to feel, as someone who encouraged conversation from 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:23.280 people a lot, that I should give everybody a fair go. 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.360 And what I found is that it usually lives. It 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:30.120 usually leaves them feeling really understood and me feeling really activated. 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:33.280 You know, so sometimes you just see the hidden with 0:07:33.320 --> 0:07:35.480 a oh, that's really awesome, and then leave. 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:38.880 I love learning more things about you to know when 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:41.360 you're doing it to me, which is never because you. 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:43.440 Have no I have a lot of patience for you. 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:46.160 But it's a good thing to have because you see 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:48.680 in action, like you've obviously seen me in situations where 0:07:48.720 --> 0:07:52.040 I'm dealing with someone that I am an acquaintance with 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:53.440 and I don't want to talk to you, I'm always 0:07:53.480 --> 0:07:55.680 really polite and fully extroverted, and then I leave. And 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:58.040 then on the adverse, when we're dealing with someone who 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:03.400 has a prickly personality, if I'm not being my most 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:06.360 esteemed self, I will take the bait and be an animal. 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.120 Well it's not hot. 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:10.520 I'm glad that you can. 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.440 Have got to learn to walk away sometimes. 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:14.360 I don't think I've ever seen you go full tropo. 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:16.000 It's not in your wheelhouse. 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:17.640 I don't go full tropo, but I can hurt a 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:21.080 feeling with very little effort. And that's the issue, because 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:22.640 for me, I'm like, I haven't even gotten to my 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:26.000 point yet, and I'm seeing the eyes of water, which 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:27.160 I don't want. I don't want that. 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:28.720 Why are some people so good at that? 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:30.680 Crying on command? 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:36.040 No, making others feel the need to cry No, I don't. 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:40.280 We'll come back to it. This is flex and frooms. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:43.360 We are physically in front of each other right now, 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:45.360 it's such a pleasure. And if I lift my arms 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:48.120 above my head like so arms are above, you will 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:50.959 set on my left arm there is a bandage. 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:54.000 Not even a bandage, a bloody bandage with bruising and 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:57.160 mottled skin on your bicep. 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:59.120 On my bicep, so on the inside of my arm. 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.600 I recently had a procedure yesterday which involved getting my 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:05.320 implanon out. Do you know what an implanent on is? FLEXI, 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.680 please let me know. An implanon is a small plastic device. 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:12.240 I would say it's three centimeters long and about yay thick, 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:14.800 so very very tiny, almost looks like a vain thing. 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:17.600 Like a baby little rod, a little rod. Yeah. 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:19.800 What they do is they put the rod inside of 0:09:19.840 --> 0:09:25.400 your arm and it slowly releases progesterone. Progesterone is a 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:30.040 hormone that people who ovulate get alongside estrogen, and it 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.720 helps you. How do you say, like line the uterus 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.920 or do something like that. And I am at the 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.360 age now where I thought, I've had three implan ons, right, 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:39.840 and you have to get them every three years. So 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:41.680 I've been on this thing for many many. 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:44.160 Early ado I was an all coming up to a decade. 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:48.800 Literally, whoa, and sorry if you don't like talking about blood. 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:50.320 Who cares babies is about you? 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:53.320 I haven't had my period in about seven years or 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:55.719 something yet, like I, it can stop your period in 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:59.840 some women. And so I got it out because I 0:09:59.880 --> 0:10:02.400 just want to see is my body bodying? What's gonna happen? 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:04.960 And I was having all of these conversations with my friends, 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:06.959 like I went to the doctor obviously to talk about it, 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:10.839 because she was the person who took it out. And 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:15.840 I don't know, hand on heart a single person besides 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:21.240 someone in our team here at KITA. Why sorry, I 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:23.760 didn't because Brookie is going to jump in and say 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:26.000 that your own contraception. 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:26.920 No I'm not. 0:10:27.200 --> 0:10:29.600 I thought you said you take the pill supposed to, 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:33.480 but she doesn't remember exactly. So there's only half of 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:35.640 a person. Because let's say Brookie takes it half a time. 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:37.880 Let's be real, we don't take it anymore. 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:40.680 Yeah, bo, he's not taking the conception. I don't know 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:45.319 a single person in my life that takes contraception. M 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:47.960 I don't know a single person with the ROD. I 0:10:47.960 --> 0:10:49.800 don't know anyone who takes the pill. I feel like 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:51.920 that's bottom of the barrel. I don't know anyone in 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:54.240 the mini pill. No, I will say that with my chest, 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:55.760 it's the bottom of the barrel. In terms of like 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:57.920 what people deem, you know, people who don't want to 0:10:57.920 --> 0:11:00.400 take your interception, I usually find that the big pill 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:02.680 is the one that like has scarred them more turned 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:05.880 them off. So I want to discuss why is it 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:09.480 that everyone is going off contraception. I say everyone broadly, 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:12.960 everyone that I know, Miss Frimiani. So because I've been 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:15.040 on this rod for so many years, I have found 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:18.679 it amazing. So in terms of my journey towards contraception, 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:20.559 I'm just gonna could you pass down a bottle please? 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:22.080 Yeah. 0:11:22.480 --> 0:11:24.199 Oftentimes on the Flex and Froom show, I need to 0:11:24.280 --> 0:11:27.000 check that the mouth is not mouthing too hard. I 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:29.600 see my bottle, the Kleiner Strata water bottle keeping us. 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:35.240 I see for hours. It's amazing. So I started off 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:41.320 probably sixteen or seventeen on the pill. Okay, that's like, 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:43.280 I feel like you're encouraged to go on it. The 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.080 doctors had gone it. Maybe I think it was to 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:45.839 do with my skin. 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:49.240 Yes, So when you when we had a brief conversation, 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:52.040 we shouldn't do this, but for me and I talk, okay, okay, 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:56.920 so put us in jail together, preferably this cells, you know, 0:11:57.040 --> 0:12:02.520 the cells we can annoy everyone. When Freeman asked me 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:05.120 if I'd used any kind of contraception, I said no, 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:08.400 And I said I wasn't surprised that she had, because 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:11.840 when I was growing up, it was very Caucasian law 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:15.160 to be sixteen and on the pill for skin. Yes, 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.920 sixteen on the pill for skin. That was the law. 0:12:18.920 --> 0:12:22.400 And I always thought it strange that for me it 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:25.720 was the habitual thing, like what is it about the 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:28.320 pill that was going to help you more than eating 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:31.120 differently or a skincare routine or whatever it might have been. 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.560 It seemed like such an extreme thing to do at 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.480 that age, but it was like a a it happened. 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:39.920 It was a trend, and I in my adulthood I thought, 0:12:39.920 --> 0:12:44.480 perhaps it just is maybe an awareness or not even awareness. 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:47.840 But you know how parents always think that you're more 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.920 promiscuous than you are, or they think the worst case scenario. 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.440 Parent's like I don't want a pregnant tink daughter. I 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:58.520 always think it's that wrapped up in a skin concern 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:03.160 situation because realistically there are other solutions. Maybe I'm being 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:03.480 a hater. 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:06.400 Well, I will say there is some elements of truth 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:09.000 in what you're saying. I was always very open with 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:13.880 my parents about my activity. I'm obviously not in graphic detail, 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:14.680 but like I. 0:13:14.800 --> 0:13:19.120 Was a pretty good show. So I met this guy. 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:24.680 Like there was never any like shame or secrecy around 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:27.480 that kind of stuff. So mine really was for my skin, 0:13:27.840 --> 0:13:30.320 but it ended up didn't work, like made my migraines 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:33.640 worse because it obviously like wow, it changes your hormones 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:37.400 vy Obby, the istrojen levels were wilding, and so I 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:39.840 did end up going on row accutane, which we also 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:42.760 spoke about earlier. Is that really even more harsh than 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:44.880 being on the pill? I think it technically is if 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:47.320 we're going from a pharmaceutical lens, like you can't go 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:50.079 in the sun. My lips at the U twel formal 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:56.240 chapped to pieces to pieces actually like corners lacks the 0:13:56.320 --> 0:14:03.800 joker corners of the mouth. It was really hard. So yeah, 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:05.880 I think so. As you know, I've been listening to 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:09.920 Human Lab podcast. Someone messaged me after I posted about him, 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:11.680 saying that they listened to him to go to sleep 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:13.880 and it's a great way to go to sleep because 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:17.000 he very much like keeps a solid tone, has quite 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:20.360 a nice voice, authoritative kind of voice, almost, which I 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:23.040 feel like sometimes if I'm listening to podcasts and people 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:25.920 are having a conversation, I'm imagining what I would say back, 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:28.120 which I even do for our own podcast, because obviously 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:33.000 I dissociate when I'm in the studio. And he interviewed 0:14:33.120 --> 0:14:35.640 this doctor. I'm actually going to get her name, because 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:39.000 I keep saying I don't actually name her, and that's 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:39.800 not giving. 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:42.000 Free press is necessary in this instance. 0:14:41.920 --> 0:14:50.240 Humanman lab fertility. So he was speaking to an American 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:54.840 woman called doctor Sarah Gottfried, Sarah Gottfried, Saira, and she 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:57.840 was dispelling all of these myths around the pill. She 0:14:57.880 --> 0:15:00.440 was quite flex mummy pilled. Actually, she was saying, yeah, 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:03.000 like a lot of women, I just put on the 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.120 pill at this really young age for all of these 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:09.600 reasons that aren't necessarily helpful because the pill has all 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:10.720 these other side effects, the. 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:13.560 Cure is not fitting the symptoms facts. 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:15.880 And I can't remember exactly what she said, but I 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:20.400 recommend going human lab Sarah Sarah Gottfried, and I don't 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:23.640 want to like make this a little well, I could 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:27.880 be could be totally wrong. I actually remember, but like 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:29.480 I don't want to give the wrong men in medical device. 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:30.960 I know a lot of people out here might assume 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:34.720 that I'm a doctor, given my and general way of speaking. 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:37.920 Down disposition. It gives how do you say. 0:15:38.320 --> 0:15:43.560 Highly educated ten years of hex down the drain. I'm 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:47.160 pretty sure she was saying that it was. 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:50.680 And if you can't paraphrase, want hear more about your experience? Yeah, 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:51.720 I want to hear about you. I want to hear 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:52.680 about paraphrase. 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.720 I paraphrase like exactly what she didn't say. That's why 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.000 I'm worried. I'm not worried about I want to hear it. 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:00.280 Then tell me more about your experience. I want here 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:02.680 about the pain levels, getting it invested, getting it out, Like. 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:04.840 Oh yeah, so this like actual trigger warning for this 0:16:04.880 --> 0:16:07.560 beer because it's gross. So when you get implanent on 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:12.640 taking what for this? Like sorry, general, you never use 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:19.560 a life trigger warning like blood procedure, insertion of objects, 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:23.120 foreign objects. So to get the implent in, they put 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:24.760 you on a bed in the doctor, they put local 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:28.760 anesthetic into your upper arm. Mine is on my left arm, 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:30.960 and I think they put it in the non dominant arm. 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:33.040 Then they put it they get the little rod and 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:36.320 they poke cut a skin and then poke it in. 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:38.720 Fuck only knows how they do it. I don't understand 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:40.280 Brookie is squealing. 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:41.400 Shouting you like a piece of meat, because I guess 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:42.760 it's how you do it. If I wanted to like 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:46.920 tuck some garlic and some rosemary into it's just like that. 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.160 It is though. Yeah, so you kind of have to, like, 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:53.920 as I said, I don't want to continue saying dissociating 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:55.720 because I'm using it in jest, but you kind of 0:16:55.720 --> 0:16:57.240 have to like project somewhere else. 0:16:57.360 --> 0:16:58.640 Yeah, is busy your mind? 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.640 Yeah, and then like obviously I've had it in and 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:03.800 out three times, so then when you get it out 0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:06.480 for the first time, it was so again, No, I'm 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:08.119 not even gonna say traumatic, but it was definitely an 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:10.400 interesting you'd say it if it was now. I wasn't traumatic. 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:15.000 It affectively you physically negatively. 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:18.359 For five minutes. Yes, okay, it can be very like 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:21.280 your skin encapsulates around it and form scar tissue. And 0:17:21.320 --> 0:17:23.880 so to get it out, there was some yanking involved. 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:25.959 There was some like foot on the bed pulling? 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:28.560 Did she did? She grunt as she was doing it. 0:17:28.640 --> 0:17:31.120 There was just like so you can't feel anything because 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:32.520 you're under anesthetic. 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:33.240 Sound labor intensive. 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:39.040 Yeah, there was like so like wrap it up there, 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:43.639 She's literally like leg up on the bed like yanking. Anyway, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.160 So this time I got it out. I'm currently not 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:46.919 on contraception. 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:48.400 Guys, So do you feel differently? 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:51.359 Well, I got it out yesterday. Oh yeah, but like 0:17:51.400 --> 0:17:56.760 so just waiting differently? Do I feel differently already? I 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:59.400 feel really excited. I'm in this stage of my life 0:17:59.440 --> 0:18:04.000 around like I trust myself and I trust my body, 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:06.080 and it's taken me a little while to like I've 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:09.320 gone astray in past times, like listening to my body 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:12.080 for certain things, and so this is like a part 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.639 of me, you know, getting a period. I feel like 0:18:14.720 --> 0:18:16.000 you get older and you're like, oh, this is actually 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:18.800 an indication of health. It's not this annoying thing like fuck, 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:20.320 I don't know how to use a tampon. It's like 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:22.800 I'm gonna have to go in. Do I even remember 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:24.199 how to use a tampon? I don't think. So I'm 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:25.679 kind of scared, like am I going to be a 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:27.640 moon cup? Girly, I'm gonna have to give it the show, 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:31.800 give it a go, so watch this space. I'm not 0:18:31.800 --> 0:18:35.360 sure I'll go fully down the period discussion route right now. 0:18:35.400 --> 0:18:38.800 Obviously it's quite a new subject for me, but I'm 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:42.400 just excited to be I want to use that cycle calculator. Lap. 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:46.119 You gotta just to be in on the beach flap 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:48.600 error now, flap errand laidy. 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:51.640 I just want to get involved. But yeah, you really, 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:53.040 you really do get me on the flop and say 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:55.160 ear I want I want to feel things. Who knows 0:18:55.200 --> 0:18:56.800 I might be off it for six months and think 0:18:56.840 --> 0:18:58.320 fuck this, I want to go back to not having 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:01.480 a period and having like regular levels. But I thought, 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:03.640 fuck it up, sis, let's try something new. 0:19:04.840 --> 0:19:05.560 Do it for the plot. 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:09.720 You're listening to Flex and Firms Kit. 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:12.760 The more time you spend on the internet, the more 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:15.720 proficient you should become at not taking de bait. It's 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:18.440 getting really boring to me to see the same batch 0:19:18.480 --> 0:19:21.680 of people riled up about the same things. And I'm 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:27.000 not talking, obviously discussing grotesque social humanitarian issues. I'm not 0:19:27.040 --> 0:19:30.040 saying that. I'm saying every now and then somebody would 0:19:30.040 --> 0:19:35.560 come on the Internet and say women need to, Australians 0:19:35.680 --> 0:19:39.880 need to, and everyone's like, and they get themselves riled up, 0:19:40.800 --> 0:19:45.840 your hair and they get themselves riled up and frustrated 0:19:45.880 --> 0:19:49.320 to no end, and it gets really annoying to see 0:19:49.400 --> 0:19:54.119 because the way that algorithms work is the more you 0:19:54.200 --> 0:19:57.320 engage with the content, the more the content it'll show you. 0:19:58.640 --> 0:20:02.160 When things arrive on your feed, you don't always consent 0:20:02.240 --> 0:20:04.960